The Beauty Of The Break

In today’s fast-paced world, many of us wear masks, pretending to be fine while we silently struggle. As Elizabeth Everett pointed out, just because you can function amidst chaos doesn’t mean you've healed. In this post, we’ll explore the journey from pain to purpose, uncovering how to embrace your breaking point as an invitation for transformation.
Pain is often seen as a failure, but what if it’s actually a process leading to growth? Elizabeth emphasizes that our breaking points can signal God’s invitation to heal. This shift in perspective allows us to redefine pain as a necessary step on the path to healing.
We’ve been conditioned to present a perfect facade, masking our struggles behind smiles and achievements. Elizabeth shares her experience of thriving in her corporate career while her personal life fell apart. The pressure to perform can lead to hiding our true selves, reinforcing the belief that pain equates to failure.
Pain should not be viewed as punishment; instead, it can be an opportunity for growth and renewal. Elizabeth references 2 Corinthians 12:9, which reminds us that God’s grace is sufficient in our weakness. Embracing our struggles invites God to meet us in our pain, leading to profound healing and purpose.
Healing is not a quick fix; it’s a journey that requires patience and surrender. Elizabeth discusses the importance of peeling back layers of trauma and pain, allowing God to reshape us in the process.
One of the biggest hurdles in healing is the desire to control our circumstances. Elizabeth encourages readers to surrender to God, reminding us that we cannot heal on our own. Trusting God with our burdens allows us to find peace and liberation from the pressures of performance.
Healing is rarely a solo journey. Elizabeth stresses the importance of community and accountability in the healing process. Surrounding yourself with supportive individuals who can challenge and uplift you is crucial for growth. As Proverbs 11:14 states, plans fail for lack of counsel, but many advisors bring success.
Our experiences of pain are not without purpose. Elizabeth shares how every struggle can be transformed into a source of strength and inspiration.
When we embrace our vulnerabilities and share our stories, we create connections that foster healing. Elizabeth emphasizes that our trials can become a source of comfort for others, as God uses our experiences to help those around us. 
Through the healing process, we discover our true identity beyond our past. Elizabeth reminds us that we are not defined by our struggles but by how we respond to them. This realization is liberating, allowing us to step into a life filled with purpose and fulfillment.
As we navigate the complexities of healing, it’s essential to remember that our pain can lead us to a greater purpose. By embracing our breaking points and surrendering to God, we open ourselves up to transformation and renewal. 
If you’re ready to embark on this journey, consider reaching out to a supportive community or mentor who can guide you through the process. Remember, you are not alone in your struggles, and there is hop

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Hey friends, hey family. Listen, I don't know who needs to hear this today, but just because you've learned how to function in the midst of the chaos, in the midst of your pain, honey, it does not, I repeat, not mean you've actually healed. There was a season in my life where I looked fine. I showed up, I smiled, I performed, and guess what? No one knew that internally I was breaking to pieces. I was broken. I was striving in my own strength. And why was that? Why did no one notice? Thought they were my friends, I thought they were my family. Because my body, my mind, it kept performing. And that is exactly what you're doing today. Because man looks at the outward appearance. So what we're showing isn't really what's happening on the inside. We're showing how a trauma response looks. We're showing what our body is accustomed to working in, that fight or flight, that performance. Today, we're gonna bring it to light. Because I can guarantee some of you in here, you've mastered the looking whole, the looking perfect, the looking put together, but you are silently falling apart. Are you happy with that or are you ready to change it? Are you ready to break that off today in the name of Jesus? If you are, then saddle up and let's get going. Because here's the shift. What if your breaking point? Honey, that's your invitation from God. It is not, I repeat, not the end. Because the scripture says, My grace is sufficient for you, and for my power is made perfect in your weakness, according to 2 Corinthians 12, 9. So maybe the place that you've been trying to hide is actually the place where God is trying to meet you. He's meeting you in the middle of the pain. He's going to give you purpose. I'm Elizabeth Everett, and this is Grace in the Breaking. Listen, I can tell you that we're human, and there was a time in my life at the pinnacle of my corporate career when my family was falling apart, my marriage was falling apart, my child was acting out like everything was falling apart. But on the outside, I looked healthy, I looked happy, I looked whole. I mean, I was married. I had um kids that were shining in sports. I didn't talk about the kid that was having issues. I didn't talk about my marital problems. I didn't talk about the alcohol abuse at home. I didn't talk about the drug abuse at home. You know what I did? I worked harder. I stayed out working longer and I turned every bit of pain that I was hiding, that I was masking instead of confronting it, instead of bringing it to the surface to have communication or to even try to heal it. I thrust myself into work. I thrust myself into performance. Why? Because it's tied to validation, it's tied to keeping things hidden so that the enemy could work on me more. I didn't realize it at the time, but now I do, and I'm bringing that light to you so that you don't have to walk in that darkness anymore. Because we've been taught to see the pain. We've been taught to see that as failure. That is a lie of the enemy. Pain is not a failure, it hurts. Something must be wrong. Been taught that too, huh? If it's breaking, it must be over. But what if that pain you're feeling? Listen, what if it is not punishment? But it is the process. Have you ever stopped to consider fat? I mean, let's ponder. The pain isn't punishment, it's a process. Because in the midst of it, we're peeling back layers of that onion slowly but surely to reveal a healed version. Because let's face it, life is accumulated over time. So every bit of unhealed or autonomic response from our body or automatic response from our mouth and the way our brain thinks in response to pain or the response to trauma, okay, it's accumulated. We've just kept like wrapping it with a bandage over time. So it takes time to peel those layers off. But if you give God the opportunity, He will heal you. Consider what the word says. It's pure joy whenever you face trials because the testing produces perseverance. James 1, verses 2 through 4. That means the breaking is actually building something. And when we see the picture in Jeremiah at the potter's house, like clay in the hand of the potter, so are you in my hand, says the Lord, according to Jeremiah 18, 6. I want you to stop a minute and really feel if you know what that means. Do you know what it means when the clay is marred? The potter doesn't throw it away. God doesn't cast us away. He gives it to us as an invitation. He has us in his hand and he's reworking us, reshaping us, reforming us. He's taking off these pieces that aren't meant to go with us. He's stopping the performance. He's reworking us. You know, it's easy for us to feel like God has discarded us in this moment of reshaping because it hurts. And we go back to, well, I'm feeling pain, so this is it. It's over. There's no redemption from that. You need to silence those thoughts. You need to cake them captive immediately. The devil is a liar. You need to tell him to get behind you in the name of Jesus. Come on now. You've got power and authority, and it's time for you to realize who you are. You are a child of God. You are not suppressed. You are empowered in authority by the power of the Holy Spirit that lives inside of you. So God didn't discard you, He's reshaping you. And here's the truth: most people don't want to accept surrender, it feels like losing until you realize who you're surrendering to. Because when you start to trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your ununderstanding, in all your ways, submit to him, and he will make your crooked path straight, according to Proverbs 3, verses 5 through 6. You're gonna get a peace. What are you waiting on? Surrender is not giving up. You need to get that out of your head. You need to kick that lie back to hell where it belongs in the name of Jesus. Surrender, it's giving in to the only one who can actually restore you. Hmm. I want you to ponder on that. You can't restore you, your husband can't restore you, your sister can't restore you, your parents can't restore you. You can't do anything on your own. Everything is God-based. So the sooner that you realize that He is your provider, He is the alpha and the mega, the beginning and the end, the quicker you're gonna get healed. The quicker you're gonna walk in freedom, the quicker you're gonna quit walking around with a mask on trying to perform so that you can truly and finally be at peace, rest into your body and walk in the abundance that God gave you. Stop that striving. I mean, let's just talk about it. Are you exhausted? Listen, you're not exhausted because life is heavy. You're exhausted because you're carrying things that God never asked you to carry. You're wearing mantles that you weren't biblically meant to carry. So, what mantles are you carrying today? Are you trying to be the man, the woman, the parent, the everything? You got a husband and you're not even submitting to him. You're not submitting to God, you're not submitting to your husband, you're trying to wear all these mantles and you are dying inside. You keep performing over and over and over to keep masking the pain that you're feeling. God didn't ask you to do that. He didn't ask you to do that at all. You've been trying to earn healing, you've been trying to earn peace, you've been trying to earn identity. And scripture, you know what, it calls that out directly. After beginning by the Spirit, you are now trying to be perfected by the flesh. Galatians 3, 3. So, in other words, why are you working for something that was already given to you? God freely gives that his love, that agape love is freely given. Once you get the revelation of how much he loves you, no matter what, then you realize like the freedom, the possibilities, the abundance, the glory, the going from glory to glory. There is no more pain. There is no more striving. There is peace from here on out, but it's your decision, folks. You can hold on to it or you can let it go. You know what? You have free will and you get to make that decision. But you need to think about this. Is this bringing revelation? This is bringing the darkness inside of you, the darkness inside of me to light, so that we can discuss it. There's a difference between walking with God, holding his hand, or working for him. For those who are led by the Spirit of God are the children of God. Romans 8, 14. Children of God, we are led, not driven, we're not striving. So let me ask you, have you been striving? Have you been so focused and driven on a task at hand or something you're trying to grasp a hold of instead of surrendering it to God and walking with him, partnering with him? What are you carrying right this moment that is not yours to carry? What burden have you put upon your shoulders? Listen, if you let him, you grow, you search after him, the yoke will break, but you gotta give it over to him. Because the word says, cast all your cares on the Lord, he will sustain you according to Psalms 55, 22. Let me ask you this. What has he not sustained in your life? What is telling you that you have to maintain control of this? What is telling you you are not enough? What is telling you to keep performing? I want you to make a list right now, the top five things that pop into your head that you're trying to control and sustain that you're not meant to. Then I want you to write five things that are putting stress on your heart and your mind and your body and your soul every single day. And then I want you to take a lighter to that piece of paper and burn it up as you give it to God. Tell the enemy he's a liar and keep on moving because you're not supposed to be managing this stuff. Not juggle them, release it all in the name of Jesus. Because here's where it gets real, friends. You cannot heal a heart when you're still hiding it. So you confess your sins to one another and pray for one another that you may be healed, according to James 5.16. Listen, I've stayed hidden, I've stayed isolated before. I kept all of my pain wrapped up inside and let performance nearly take me out, ruin my marriage, ruin my kids because I was so focused driven to keep from bringing the darkness to the light to be healed and to surrender it at his feet. Because I just want you to remember it will not heal if you can't surrender it. We live in a culture that loves surface-level solutions. Listen, we're human. We like those quick fixes. We like the motivation. We like another prophetic word. We like the hype. We like the surface healing that never breaks the deep cycles. Because again, we don't want to go through the crushing. We don't want to go through the pressing. We just want automatic response. We want everything to be okay right then, right there in our way, in our timing. That is not how it works. You've tried everything else. So what's holding you back from laying it down at the feet of Jesus? What is holding you back from actually surrendering it? Because again, where are you right now? You're in discomfort, you're in pain, you're in flight or flight, you're striving. You are tired. You are exhausted. Mentally, you're you're experiencing depression, you're having anxiety. Those are not from the Father. Those are things that you've put on your shoulders because of what you're carrying that you weren't meant to carry. So lay it down. Lay it down in the name of Jesus. Again, man looks at the outward appearance, but God looks at the heart. He's not after behavior modification in us. He is after the transformation, the renewing of our mind. We have to make the conscious choice to chase him. He's not going to run after us. He's always with us. He wants our surrender, our yes. Some of what you're battling didn't start with you. Started with patterns you learned as a child or as a teenager or through life. It started with repetitive cycles and survival responses that you came up with in order to make it. But hear me clearly: just because it ran in your family doesn't mean it gets to run through you. For me, the darkness ran in my family till it ran into me, and I stood up and said, No more Satan. I am taking back everything the enemy stole from my family. And this is your invitation to do that today as well. You have to stand up, you have to rise up in the authority, and you have to start taking a stand against every generational mishap, every generational curse, every autonomic trauma response that you have developed as a defense mechanism. You have to break that off and quit performing. Let him really see your heart because he already sees it anyway. So why are you so afraid to be you? He loves you. Showing love to a thousand generations of those who love me, according to Exodus 26. That means, guess what? The blessing can and will outlive the pattern that you've been repeating in your life. But listen, honey, it requires renewal. Renewal of the mind. I've already said be transformed by the renewing of your mind, Romans 12, too. Not inspired, but transformed. And here's the truth: God doesn't want to comfort you in your cycles. He wants to make it so uncomfortable. He wants to break every piece of that off of you. So if the sun sets you free, you will be free indeed, according to John 8.36. The invitation is literally here. What are you waiting on? I'm tired of hearing the excuses. I believe in you. So get up, get out of your pity party, get out of the bed, surrender it to Jesus. Quit carrying the mantles you weren't meant to carry. Invite Jesus into every part, every transformative moment of every bit of you, and watch the revelation occur. So here's where it's gonna shift. You're gonna activate yourself through the ache with the help of Jesus. Because once you decide to stop running from the prain, once you make a stand and say, I'm not doing this anymore, then you can actually start hearing God in all of it. Because his word says, My sheep hear my voice, I know them and they follow me, according to John 10, 27. Not the noise, not the fear, not the past, but his voice. And this, friends, is where your purpose is born. This is where you move from pain to purpose. Because that very thing that has been breaking you, God is going to use it through you. God comforts us in all of our troubles so that we can comfort those in any trouble. So that means he uses every single thing we go through in life. Every piece has a greater purpose. We have to allow him to use us. We have to give him our yes. Listen, whatever you've gone through, whatever you survived, you didn't survive just own luck. There's no such thing as luck, there's no such thing as coincidence. It's all God. So there is a purpose. So step into it. This means your pain is never ever pointless. It was preparation. So now the question is: I want you to ask yourself, why did this happen? Why did this happen to me? What is God calling me to do with my situation? What is he calling me to do with my story? Because he says, forget the former thing, see, I'm doing a new thing, and now springs force. Do you not perceive it according to Isaiah 43, 18 through 19? So ask him, What is my purpose, Father? Because you were never meant to be destroyed by the breaking. You were meant to be defined by it. Listen, we're hard-pressed on every side, but we're not crushed. Struck down, but not destroyed, according to 2 Corinthians 4, verses 8 through 9. So, friends, when you feel pressed, you're not finished. If you feel stretched, you are not forgotten. If you feel broken, you are not, I repeat, not done. You are being rebuilt. And if you're sitting here thinking, I don't want to hear this, I just want to walk this out, then here's your next step. You need alignment, you need a community, and you need accountability. Listen, everyone needs discipleship. Everyone needs a mentor because friends, they're gonna tell you things that you want to hear that. You know, you need iron sharpens iron. You need someone standing above you that is makes you accountable for your actions, for your thoughts, and sharpens you. This is pivotal. The Bible tells us this. Plans fail for lack of counsel, but many advisors they succeed, according to Proverbs 11. 14 where two or three gather in my name, there I am with them, Matthew 18:20. This is why I built grace in the breaking. This is why there is a community. This is why there's coaching containers. This is why there's a book. There is this is why there is a one-to-one mentorship. Because I'm gonna tell you something. The breaking did not disqualify you, friends. It revealed you. So if this resonates today, I need you to like, follow, share, and give a five-star review. And if you need additional prayer, you need to check out Grace in the Breaking website, put a prayer submission. Let me stand with you. Let me help you hold some accountability to yourself to step forward. Because performance, you don't have to do it anymore. God is willing and waiting on your yes. If you want to do something greater than yourself, I love Happy Horizons Children's Home. 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Thank you so much for spending this time with me today on Grace and the Breaking. If this episode spoke to your heart, please remember to follow, download, and share it with someone who might need a little encouragement right now. You can find us on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and all major podcast platforms. As I close, I want to leave you with this reminder. My grace is sufficient for you. My power is made perfect in weakness. So no matter what season you're walking through, you are not alone. And there is always Grace in the Breaking. For more information, resources, or to connect with me, visit GraceInTheBreaking.com or email me at info at graceinthebreaking.com. Until next time, friends, stay rooted in faith, hold on to hope, and remember that there's grace in breaking.