The Crocs Stay On And So Does YouTube

We laugh through the chaos of real mom life, from spilled drinks and group chats to the way a phone call can feel like an emergency. We trade honest confessions about toddlers, babies, screen time, and the pressure to do everything “right,” then land on the same truth: do what you need to do to get through the day.

Transcript

Closet Hang And Spilled Drinks

SPEAKER_00 0:22

Welcome to Momish Bitches. Get ready to enjoy this weekly yap session live from Katie's closet, where she spilled all of our drinks so far on this beautiful Easter Sunday. We are out. Four drinks down now.

SPEAKER_02 0:37

One of Adam's, two of two of Katie's, one of Gabby's. One of Gabby's. But who's keeping track?

SPEAKER_00 0:43

We're restarting from champagne to paper. Who's keeping track?

SPEAKER_03 0:45

It was none of mine, so you're starting good. I'm just a little sad that you guys chose me as your friend because I'm sad for your carpet. I'm more just like upset that I am who I am at this point. It's fine. It's fine. It's fine.

SPEAKER_00 1:01

It's kind of like a whole It honestly makes everything happier because it's like whoop, whoops. Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 1:07

Onto my gate again. And it's not because I'm drunk. And that's the the the like better. It would honestly be better if it was because I was not sober. It's like I do it just as much, if not more, when I'm sober.

SPEAKER_00 1:21

What about spilled milk?

SPEAKER_03 1:23

I don't spill milk.

SPEAKER_00 1:24

Okay.

SPEAKER_03 1:26

Do you ever drop an egg on the floor and you're like, no, it's most it's just beverages. Okay. And it's usually alcohol, which like people tend to get more upset about when you spill.

SPEAKER_02 1:34

Gabby's the Yeah, that is true. What am I? Gabby is the crafty one of us all. And so she was talking about like, oh, you know, I should make us cups or whatever.

SPEAKER_00 1:44

Because, you know, ironically, we all end up. Not make the closet. But I'm gonna make like with a drink.

SPEAKER_02 1:50

Personalized cup. So personalized. I want it to be the dazzled. Okay, okay. It's making me nervous that right now Katie's got a beer right next to all the technology that we need.

SPEAKER_03 2:02

I should probably move that. I'm not gonna lie. These are really we're bringing points. These are valid points. I'm a little like I'm sensitive about it, but like these are all valid things.

SPEAKER_02 2:13

It's just about we are just picking on you. No, it's fine. We like it about it. It's fine. Okay, so I I have a question that I thought about, which I feel like all our answers will obviously differ.

Are You A Caller Or Texter

SPEAKER_02 2:24

Are you a call or a text?

SPEAKER_03 2:26

Oh, I'm a hundred percent a text person.

SPEAKER_00 2:28

I think I am too. She says, I don't want to know. I don't want to bother. I don't know. I feel like I'm bothering people if I call. Unless it's something like I have like there's a problem. I need to call you.

SPEAKER_03 2:37

If you call me, I know it's an emergency.

SPEAKER_00 2:40

Unless it's me.

SPEAKER_03 2:41

See, you don't call me. Oh, you give me a couple drinks.

SPEAKER_00 2:44

I'm like FaceTime me if Taylor's been drinking. If you FaceTime Taylor's pregnant. Yeah.

unknown 2:50

Oh no.

SPEAKER_03 2:51

Or I went pregnant. Yes. If not necessarily well, for me, if I've if I get a FaceTime from Taylor, I know that she's drunk. Or, but if I get a phone call, I feel like it's an emergency. The only times you've ever called me, it's been like important.

SPEAKER_00 3:06

Yeah, like I mean something like when you FaceTime, you're like, hey, I'm like, bitch you pregnant. Yeah. Exactly. But the one time I was like laughing because I was like, I know it's coming, we're all pregnant, and Taylor's just adding a little bit. I know it's like I remember. That's a crazy story.

SPEAKER_03 3:26

When you FaceTime me, I was like not expecting that. And you just like all I saw was the like positive test and I was like story.

SPEAKER_02 3:33

What?

SPEAKER_00 3:34

Hearing him with an eight-month-old. I know that was that was funny because Adam said to Dylan, Dylan, don't like, is Taylor gonna get pregnant next? And you guys were like, we're like, hell no. LOL.

SPEAKER_02 3:45

Side note, we're sitting here with an eight-month-old. So that's why it was like hell no.

SPEAKER_01 3:50

That was great. Hell no. That was.

SPEAKER_02 3:54

I would say overall I'm a caller, especially now having kids, I feel like I am, because I sit and I can answer text, but the minute my attention goes somewhere else, I'm like, okay, my text will go unread. Or if the text is too long, I'm like, well, I just I do I find it hard to sit and like catch up on all my text messages. Oh, for sure. So if I need something quick, or if it's something where it's like I have a lot of information and like let me just call you. Yeah. I would rather this could take days. Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 4:24

I am like much more of a texture just because I I don't know what it is. Like I would rather text just because I don't like to like socialize. And like in the unless I'm in person, I don't like to like I don't know. I just don't like to talk to you.

SPEAKER_00 4:41

I think also like I don't know. Too much pressure. A metal I don't want to like box myself into the millennial way, but like growing up, like texting was like the big thing. Yeah. Like, oh my god, I gotta phone, I gotta text everyone. And I think that's I'm just so conditioned to it, and I wanna be a caller.

SPEAKER_03 4:57

Uh yeah. Okay. You would call me, so I'm offended.

SPEAKER_00 5:00

I called you maybe she's called. I remember once about Santa and she wasn't doing well. Did I miss the call? No, you answered. Oh, that's right. I was like, I need to call you. I'm concerned. Oh yeah. Oh yeah. See, that's that warrants a phone call. Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_03 5:14

100%. Like if that's what I'm saying. People only call me when it's important. And that's probably rooted in some type of childhood trauma where I'm like, I feel like it's an emergency when people call me. I don't know why.

SPEAKER_02 5:24

Well no, I think it's because we all know. Yes, we trust you and 80's not a caller. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 5:29

So if I'm gonna call her, like I'm not just gonna call you to be like, so I had a friend that used to just like FaceTime and call me just like randomly, and I'd answer, like, oh my god, are you okay? And they just wanted to like eat like chit-chat, and I'm like, I don't know, I gotta do stuff to do. I don't have that.

SPEAKER_02 5:50

My mom lived in Canada, so after I had Charlie, like she that's yeah, but that that's your big like got to keep in touch with Charlie face to face. Like Ashley, she lived across the entire country in Washington. So like we kept up with each other in FaceTime, and I felt like when we saw each other, it wasn't like wow, I haven't seen you in four months. Yeah, it was like oh we talked and we kept up on FaceTime.

SPEAKER_03 6:13

So I saw your face. Like and you saw Charlie. My family's local, but like you know, Gil's sisters are in Connecticut and his best friend's in Massachusetts, so like we FaceTime them, you know, he every so often, and or like we call and talk to them. But like when it comes to like my friends that I see on a regular basis, I feel like I'm just gonna come over. I'm either just gonna come over.

Friend Group Proximity And House Decisions

SPEAKER_03 6:36

She skipped the phone call. Not even a time. Let's just say this is how close we are, Taylor straight up texted our group. We have a friend group chat, it's called Vape Sluts, by the way. It's a great one. Dylan's the biggest vape slut, and then Adam's a close second. But yeah, shout out to my their husbands. But we Taylor straight up said, We're looking at a house in the area that we live, and if you guys don't are you guys planning to move in this area, otherwise we're not gonna buy this house. That's how close the friends are. Yeah, she was like, Are you guys gonna be in a place where you're gonna be able to like drive here? And I was like, Well, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 7:18

Timeline of you guys moving out this way.

SPEAKER_03 7:20

Yeah, so it now impacts our whole house buying decision. Yes, and like um we're not this at all. Folks, this is what you aspire to have.

SPEAKER_02 7:27

Well, now my house, Katie, you're what five minutes Gabby's 15, not even 20 from mine. So it is cool, it's pretty beautiful things.

SPEAKER_03 7:36

So, like, whenever I'm like, I want to just pop it. What you doing?

SPEAKER_00 7:42

I want to buy dominoes tonight.

SPEAKER_03 7:44

Yeah, it's just like you know, you just want to sit down on the couch. We have we have each other within a very short distance. So it's it's beautiful.

Mom Confession Crocs In Bed

SPEAKER_03 7:52

But anywho, so next segment mom confession of the week for myself.

SPEAKER_02 7:57

Oh, yeah, so yes, yes, yes, yes. So Charlie turned to two weeks ago, one week ago, two weeks ago, and Gabby and Adam got her a pair of Crocs. She has slept in those Crocs for three days straight. And when I say three days straight, it's like legit like she slept overnight and woke up and them again.

SPEAKER_00 8:21

Yes.

SPEAKER_02 8:22

Yeah, like three days straight. She wore a crocs outside, inside, in her bed, but not in her bed. No. Three days. So great gift.

SPEAKER_03 8:29

You know, and that's like one of those things where it's like pick your battle, choose your battle, dude. Because honestly, fighting with a two to three, four-year-old is honestly worse than fighting with a grown man. Like, you know, it's like it's just so exhausting trying to argue. Because it just doesn't make sense. Yeah, it doesn't make sense. They have no ability to rationalize their their anger and their frustration, where there's just like, no, I'm not doing that. And I just want to be like, I just want to be like, no, I know what's best for you. And they're like, I don't care. You should not sleep in these cracks. Your feet are gonna get sweaty and smelly. And you know what I mean? There's holes in the mouth.

SPEAKER_02 9:07

No, well, actually, funny enough, but I think I'm in sports mode.

SPEAKER_03 9:10

I just want to know.

SPEAKER_02 9:10

Yeah, what if four four wheel drive?

SPEAKER_03 9:12

Are we in are we in four-wheel drive?

SPEAKER_02 9:13

I yeah, I think she did. But funny enough, I was out of town and last night I look at her camera and she's sleeping, and I'm like, oh, we've progressed to our our snow boots. Oh even in the house. And I'm like, it must have been cold last night because we are now sleeping in snow boots. Yeah, that's funny. But now I'm like, at what point do I have to put this to an end? Because like she can't be like 18 thinking like, no, we you sleep in shoes.

SPEAKER_03 9:41

It will get bored. I think she'll figure it out before then. They figure it out. We hope like Noah has been she just turned four, like a couple weeks before Charlie turned two, and she's been very much into the like I'm dressing myself, and the out I'm just trying to be like very positive and be like, oh my god, you look so beautiful. And some of the outfits are insane. Like, for example, I bought her the cutest Easter outfit today. It was this like cute little like seersucker blue dress and like a sweater with it, and like white sandals, and she comes out in the blue dress on backwards. Oh, that's a statement. And black pants that are like flare bottoms. Okay. Her hair's like not brushed, and she's like absolutely not fucking brushing my hair. I don't care what you say. And I was like, I had and then um ug boots. Oh wow that are not even like Ug boots, they're like the like Walmart brand Ugg boots that are like busted as fuck.

SPEAKER_02 10:41

She's like, these are.

SPEAKER_03 10:46

Like, I'm ready. And I'm like, no, you ain't gonna have to turn around.

SPEAKER_02 10:50

No, like of all days, if you're just like really pretty and like I'm just wondering. Not that she's not pretty, no, like if there's one day that we could just all be coordinating, yeah.

SPEAKER_03 10:59

And I was just like, I'm not trying to like trend to like make you fit into a certain box, but like today. So I had to do the this is my mom, unproud mom confession where I said, You cannot come to the Easter egg hunt today, unless you change. And she's like, Oh fine, and I just like it was a flashback into my life where I have 100% you that that ex those exact words I've said to my own mother, and so I just want to say that it comes full circle, Angela, and I hear you and I see you. Just so you know.

Wiggly Babies And Milestone Anxiety

SPEAKER_00 11:35

I don't think I have a mom confession, but I think I'm really struggling. A mom struggle is Bowie so active. Oh my god, that kid is so dang.

SPEAKER_03 11:46

I have not I know he's making me feel like my child is behind.

SPEAKER_00 11:50

No, he's just needs about to start running.

SPEAKER_03 11:54

He's like you need to crawl, you need to walk, freeze full speed. He went from horn to like, I am going to use guy diapers.

SPEAKER_00 12:02

It's gonna be like four minute miles slash on the 200 men's relay. Who's the really guy? Usain bolt. I can't I can't change his diaper. He literally I looked over to you guys and we have to strap him down. It's like a two-man job. It's it's really hard. And like he you put him on the changing table, he turns over on his stomach and he's ready to go. I'm like, are you a wrestler?

SPEAKER_02 12:31

He is the reason that there is that seatbelt. Yes. Oh no, it makes sense.

SPEAKER_03 12:35

I have to strap him in. He's the one that you just like straight, you just give up on the changing table. It's like the floor.

SPEAKER_00 12:40

Oh, it's been the floor, it's been the play pen. Yeah. Fuck the diaper cream at this point if there's a rash because there's no time. If there's shit, oh, you better pray. He's strapped in. He's going straight for the balls. Straight wild for the balls. Yeah, he's a mover.

SPEAKER_03 12:57

I don't know if if anyone I wish I know it's gonna get better, but like I wish I could relate because my kids are very much like their father, and they're just like, Oh my god. I'll move when it's when it's when it's time. I'm just like concerned.

SPEAKER_00 13:10

He's about to fly off the table.

SPEAKER_02 13:12

He'd be like, You guys come to me. I don't know how they do this at daycare. And it's honestly funny because Crew is the oldest, and then it's Bowie, and then Isla. They're all I mean Bowie and Hyla are eight months.

SPEAKER_01 13:22

Yep, and then Crew nine months. Yeah, Crew, but Crew is Crew's kind of the He's my He's my old one. He's like he's an old guy. We're playing over here. He's like, You guys come to me. Bring your bottle.

SPEAKER_03 13:33

I'm good. This is where it's at. This is the space. And he's starting to like sh doing the like, what do they call it in Bluey, bum shuffle. He does the bum shuffle, but he's just he's fine with where he's at. And he's in I I'm not gonna rush him. And I know there's a whole episode of Bluey, which we're talking about. It's the baby race, where it's like you kind of have that, and I'm kind of shifting it a little bit, but like it's that instinctual, like, oh my god, my it's my child behind kind of thing, where like you get anxious that like my kid is the oldest of the three, and I do get that anxiety that I'm like, is he okay? Is he in is he you know, gonna be do me eating all his milestones?

SPEAKER_02 14:13

I was worried about that, or at least maybe not worried, but like it definitely was a thought that crossed my mind when we all found out we were pregnant within a month of each other. I was like, I hope we're not competitive. Not competitive, but like comparing find ourselves comparing like your baby, my baby, like whatever. Especially because like in the beginning, it's like okay crawling, it's an hour walking.

SPEAKER_03 14:36

It's hard like not in a way. It's like a natural thing. Because you're like, oh, like I was walking, I was crawling, Bowie's like doing things, he's running fucking six minute miles, you know, and my crews over here just like sub. And like I I get ex anxious about it, but I know like it's fine, and they're I mean, obviously.

SPEAKER_00 14:57

But like Bowie doesn't have teeth. He just he's gumming it. He's gumming it. It's cute. Like each kid is like they're on their own.

SPEAKER_03 15:05

They are on their own journey and their own timeline, and that's something that like with if it was like my first baby, and I think like it helps, maybe not, like I'm just kind of like speaking from my own perspective. Maybe it helps for you to like have friends that have other babies and being like, okay, like there's not like I feel like if it was for me and like it was my first baby, and I had you know two friends that were having their first babies, I would feel like super anxious if like my kid wasn't meeting those milestones.

SPEAKER_02 15:39

Yeah, so that there's a lot of people.

SPEAKER_03 15:40

And I feel like I don't think she has the time either to like worry about it as much. And Gil and I have noticed recently because we both have been like, oh fuck, are we doing enough stuff with crew to like make sure he's like meeting these milestones? So like we've been trying to like do more, but like we just we're so busy, and we've got you know, a four-year-old that requires a ton a ton of time and attention, and so I think that you know, at least for for you, maybe it might be a little more comforting to have friends that have to, you know, have kids that like were like okay, they're fine. And you know what I mean? And maybe I'm I'm normal.

SPEAKER_00 16:16

And Adam, like also has said too, which put it into his perspective, he's like, I didn't ever met a person that doesn't know how to walk. And I'm like, I mean, you know what I mean. That's like fair, a healthy person. I have no if you take your nurse brain out of it and you think that's gonna be in Adam's brain, yeah. No, that's a very that's a perspective, he's like, Oh, I know people that walk all the time. Like, everyone figures it out.

SPEAKER_02 16:42

And I'm like, okay, do they they do well that's the thing when they're this age, everything is down to like the the week, the week, the month, the month. And it's like such a like finite thing, and it's I think not really.

SPEAKER_03 16:55

That's like for us, well, like at least for me as a nurse, and that kind of like it brings back that anxiety where you're like, Okay, are we are we dealing with some kind of like you know, obviously we're not there, and I am so blessed to have two very healthy babies, and I know you guys feel the same way, you have healthy babies, but like when you you get inside your head and you get anxious and you're like, oh my god, like are they are they gonna be like delayed a little bit? Microanalyze everything because you just know too much, yeah. You know how the sausage is made and it's not great, and it's how did you you know what I mean? Like, you know how the sausage is made, which makes you not want to eat sausage, yeah. Where you're like, I know about the oh well.

SPEAKER_00 17:38

Yeah, it's like we're I'm not I think we just know too much and it's it just scares me.

SPEAKER_03 17:44

It's just about things that like a nor you know, a non-healthcare person wouldn't even know about to like to be worried about. And so for me, like I just get worried, like, oh, is he is he gonna like you know meet these milestones and or and so it just makes me nervous. But anyway, my point is sometimes my kids lazy and you just be like rolling around.

SPEAKER_02 18:07

I wonder how much of it, like what we see now as them like as babies, how much of it is gonna play into their personality when they're older. You know, like is Bowie just gonna be like fast-paced everything, like go, go, go. I honestly feel interesting to see.

SPEAKER_00 18:24

I see Bowie's personal personality sometimes. I'm like he him and Dylan are like the same person. Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 18:29

Sometimes but I've also heard the the there's been like I gotta put all the fireworks away. I've heard the the like oh like crazy baby easy toddler and vice versa. Uh-huh. Which like no such an easy baby, and she was like, she never cried, she never, you know, we could put her down and just like do whatever, and she's just like happy over here. And crew is pissed. You think as soon as you like, if I put him down, if I just want to take a shit, I have to put him in front of me at the toilet. It's like I must be able to watch him.

SPEAKER_00 19:00

I will see. Maybe it's a boy cute. Do you think it's a boy thing? Because Bowie's like that too. If I put him in the playpen now, he's like, Where are you? Where and I'm like, literally in the kitchen. He's like, you know, I can climb out of it. Yeah, right. And like he doesn't want to be alone. I'm out of here. He needs to see me at all times.

SPEAKER_03 19:19

Yeah, crew is just like, I just want you to know that I'm pissed about how where I'm at right now. Like you were in, you were nodding within my eyesight, and I'm pissed.

SPEAKER_02 19:26

Oh yeah, like also I know you're gonna pick me up.

SPEAKER_03 19:29

But he's not so crying. They're just annoyed. Yeah, it's not the it's not a cry. Which is like this would be better. It's the like me! And it's not like a large cry. It's like they just like squeal. And I don't really get the whole like you being a boy and the I mean no judgment, but like, why are you squealing more than my girl? You know what I mean? He squeals a lot, he's very vocal.

SPEAKER_00 19:55

I want you know when I have a girl. I know and everybody's always gonna be like, probably gonna have three boys.

SPEAKER_03 20:00

I wanna be like, the fuck he's not. He is the loudest child. Gil and I both are like when people are like, he's the quietest.

SPEAKER_00 20:06

They're different when they're like in their environment versus like in every you know, like he's in a group sexual. A squealer.

SPEAKER_03 20:13

Uh boy's a squealer. But anyway, yeah, I feel like Noah was such an easy baby, but she's definitely like a challenging toddler. I mean, she's four now, so I guess that's what preschool age? I don't know what the fuck they call the like the milestone. But she's four. She's still be toddler. She's 25 weeks. Yeah, she's yeah, she's 48 months. That's four.

SPEAKER_02 20:36

Done's mom said one time to me that like Dylan was such a chill baby. Like they used to call him the crack baby. Yeah. They could just put him in the crack of the couch and he would just chill, watch the environment.

SPEAKER_01 20:48

So that makes me feel like what she said.

SPEAKER_02 20:53

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 20:54

And he was on the move.

SPEAKER_02 20:55

Yeah. And he's been on the move ever since.

SPEAKER_03 20:57

He literally looked out the window and Taylor's like, what the fuck is he doing? And he's picking up ladybugs outside of the city. He's throwing fireworks. Yeah, there's definitely a bug. Yeah, Dylan blew that finger fireworks. Dylan blew his one of his remaining fingers off last 4th of July. So I'm excited for this 4th of July. It's Clare's birthday. Let's have no. And it's the anniversary of Dylan blowing off his other finger.

SPEAKER_00 21:20

So we're gonna go get fireworks. I'm like, please don't get any fireworks.

SPEAKER_03 21:24

Yeah, like none of the very nervous. None of the ones that are illegal in North Carolina. But of course, Adam and Gill, they drive. No, they don't do anything like that. They go they cross state lines so they can bring back fireworks that are not legal in this state.

SPEAKER_02 21:39

You know what I was thinking the other day though, about like our kids growing up, how shit out of luck they are because we are tech savvy parents.

Tech Savvy Parents And Tracking Kids

SPEAKER_02 21:49

I think about that. Not that our parents weren't, but just that they didn't have that. Oh, they didn't have the option. Like the right, if I could microchip my kids, I would.

SPEAKER_03 21:58

Hundred percent. Like I like think about there's so many memes that I send one of my friends that like I grew up with that we just did all sorts of like outlandish shit that my mother would gas and she's not dramatic but she would gasp. And the this is the shit that I got away with because there was no there was no Y360, there was nothing. Right. And now like if I was a teenager, how do they get away with it? I don't think they do.

SPEAKER_00 22:32

How would you think they end up getting more like they out you know like they figure it out?

SPEAKER_03 22:37

I mean you can turn off your location, but you best believe like I'll know it. I will find out that your location is off and figure out find you.

SPEAKER_02 22:46

When I bought my new car, there's like a feature on it that you can set a pin to even be able to like have the turn it on. Oh I love that. So like if I like turned that feature on, I would have to like they would have to put a pin in to take the car, to even be able to turn it on.

SPEAKER_00 23:03

Because there was a kid, there's been a couple kids when I was in middle school, there was this one kid, you know, 13, 14 years old who drove his mom's car to the front of the middle school building. Yeah. But why? Just because they thought it was I mean because we were in middle school, so he drove it to middle school.

SPEAKER_02 23:22

Oh wow. Is that really like during the exam?

SPEAKER_00 23:25

I guess it was back in the day.

SPEAKER_03 23:26

Right before that's what we started, but yeah, my mom, I swear, I swear to this day, she's clairvoyant. Because anytime so my mom was like, I have an older brother who had questionable decision-making skills to this day, still does, but I felt like I Meredith, especially my sister, she's the youngest, she like had zero opportunity to do anything because my mom was like, I've been around this time.

SPEAKER_01 23:52

She was like, I know what's her body.

SPEAKER_03 23:54

I you're not getting away with shit. But my mom, I swear, she anytime I would try to like tell her a lie, and I would she knew. And I and my mom was I was not, she was not the type of mom that I needed to lie to very much, but like there were certain things that you as a teenager, you're like, Oh well, I'm obviously not gonna tell you this. Right. And so when I would go to like do something, she'd be like, and that's not gonna happen. And I'd be like, Oh, blah blah blah. And she'd just be like, nope, I don't believe you. You're like, and she'd shut it down so fast. And I was not, I mean it's probably because I'm a terrible liar, but it was I swear, she just like could see right through, and she always knew. Like, if I was like, Oh, I'm gonna stay at a friend's house and I would plan it ahead of time, but if I ever called her out on a fly, if I was already out, zero no, absolutely zero option. Oh yeah. My mom's like, my dad was like, well, because my mom, and the thing is is like my best friend, Jade, growing up, she my mom knew her mom, so she's like, Oh, well, let me talk to Jade's mom. And I'm like, Well, that's not right. She's actually part of this plan. She's um at a you know, blah blah blah. And she's like, Okay, well that's cool. So you're gonna come home at your curfew, and but there were, you know, obviously there were ways around it. And I had a couple nights where I was like literally like unconscious in a field where it's like bizarre to me, where it's like, do people still do field parties?

SPEAKER_00 25:20

I would have it no, I didn't at growing up. We didn't have field parties. Well, but like we were from like basement. Well you're from like where are you from? I don't know where I'm from. I grew up.

SPEAKER_01 25:31

Like in like Connecticut?

SPEAKER_00 25:32

Um not really. I mean like Jersey. When it became party time, it was like Jersey and then college was in Philly. So mostly Jersey, I guess, was where I like became a little sketchy. Like I was I mean, I was a my dad. I was a decent liar into this. But I was a decent liar. Also, if he is listening to the liar, I'm sorry.

SPEAKER_04 25:54

Yeah, so I'm sorry when we talk about it.

SPEAKER_03 25:59

My dad, I mean my dad was like, I mean, my dad was like he worked night shift a lot, so like unfortunately for him, he was always gone. Like if he was home, gone, but if he was home, that was the you don't go out when dad's home. Um was like, but all my friends would be like, oh your house is so fun because it was like the house that never sleeps. That was the because my parents liked nights. There was no sneaking. So like there was no sneaking in my house. You just had to that was the place that like people were like, we're gonna come hang out because you can stay up late. And because my mom would be like, let's talk in the kitchen until 3 a.m. kind of thing. And that was that was it was a great thing about having it about having parents like that. Also, there was no funny business. It was no there was a funny business. It was like that was the safe place. At my house, it was like that was the safe place. That was the people that like where put people where people wanted to like crash. The place where people wanted to like crash, and stuff. That's kind of so it was like a safe space. It was a safe space, but for me and my siblings, it was like we didn't get smoked. But yeah, my kids, but yeah, my kids. Yeah, no, I definitely tested the boundaries.

SPEAKER_02 27:03

I definitely for sure. But a bad kid. No, not a bad kid at all. No, I didn't find a bad kid. I think my parents' car with my parents' car knock out a couple times. Wow, I would have known. And so, but I think that is, but I think that is because I'm like when you're a teenager, like I've been there done that.

SPEAKER_00 27:24

I would like to know how they test the boundaries. Like I'm so interested to see when they the three or five of them. Five, the five of them get to that age.

SPEAKER_03 27:35

Like we've all already done it, like, and now we have even more technology to I just don't see. I don't foresee. I know that there is a way to there is a way to do it.

SPEAKER_02 27:45

There's always a way. There is a way to do that. I feel like you are a vigilant parent and you are the things that you're evil. Like technology, but like there's safety precautions on technology and like a car and stuff. For a reason nowadays. For a reason nowadays. You use that to keep track of your kids.

SPEAKER_03 28:04

There's really no way. Not in like a stalkery way or like a like a helicopter parent, but I think like now are so things now are so scary. The world's in like more dangerous. There's just I mean, it's just become more dangerous. Yeah, there's just no it's just there's no safety features. There's just not enough safety features. I mean, even just like going on YouTube, like you know, you have to like I was like just realizing like my this is one of the topics that I

Screen Time Reality Check

SPEAKER_03 28:30

want to talk about. One of the topics that I wanted to talk about was like the things that I said I swore I would never do, which was like screen time. Clown face clown face, I'm big clown. So much. My kid watches so much YouTube and so much. Bluey, but all that shit. I've come to realize now. I've come to realize now that even like YouTube kids specifically for children. Like that there are predators on there that are somehow getting past the algorithm. They're able to that and they're able to like bring children through the channel. And it's just like it freaks me out. And I just like I don't even I can't filter it all. I can't filter it all. But also like I also can't handle screen. A child with no screen. As an honest woman. As an honest woman, there is just no way that I can be that. And like I just can't do it all. And like I just don't have the aware. I know I'm confident.

SPEAKER_01 29:31

Like monitors, yeah. Yeah, and I think monitors, yeah.

SPEAKER_03 29:34

And I think that there's the place where we're like we will limit her screen time, and we're like, okay, when you start flipping the phone out over me asking you to turn it off, that's when we're like, okay, yeah, we're definitely off. Or when we're like, hey, like you know, we're gonna do this or whatever, and she gets in like she has like a full blood meltdown, and I'm like, all right, yeah, we're done for that. And the thing is that like I feel like making it more of a cap, just in my you know, in my experience with my one child expert. When we don't put a lot of pressure on it, put a lot of pressure on it, I feel like it's less of a an issue. You know, she still plays you know, she still plays her toys you know independently with her toys. And like to go outside. And I think like people that are like screen times like all they do, you know, yeah. Like if that's all they do all day long, that's yeah, I think like make that. Yeah, you're gonna like make it more of like that taboo thing that like obviously kids and teenagers think they're gonna want to do the thing that's kind of the forbidden for like kind of thing. And like for like my parents. For me, like my parents never limited like the CB, which there wasn't like the same thing. It's just like it's just like an unrealistic thing in generation, you know, in this generation to say no screen time because everything that they do now is everything that they do now is school and like school is all the time on the computer. No, I'm not gonna be able to do that. Yeah, so like no, I'm not gonna let her like just watch mindless shit all day. Like we're gonna do things you know when I have the time. But yeah, sometimes I let her watch like video cartoons and she has a good, and I can I'm able to like shower and like uh have you know a morning of peace, and that's fine. And she's living her best life watching her weird Korean life. And that's fine. But however, it's just like however, it's just like we're having a definite moment in the life.

SPEAKER_02 31:31

Which I've definitely like the cars where we car is streaks and traveling, yeah, and on car rides, yeah, Saturday mornings, yeah. Saturday morning, yeah. You just want that leg time.

SPEAKER_03 31:43

Yeah, you just want that like time to be able to like not have to like I mean, I'm not a huge coffee drinker, but like reheating your coffee five of the times. Yeah, and it's like that's one of those things that like we don't appreciate. We don't have more. We don't have to be.

SPEAKER_00 32:01

There's also this really great Instagram uh account. She's a speech language pathologist. She's a speech language pathologist, but she also like posts about screen time the types of screen time that you allow for like age group and like great shows that are like not overstimulating for their brain. Or like the type of screen time that they should have at like a certain age, and obviously everything like give and take. But like when I get to have an interesting resource like when I get to that point. I mean, Bowie is like doesn't need to be at all.

SPEAKER_03 32:35

It doesn't mean it's like it's like interesting different shows to like not gonna lie, like when Crew's just like pissed and I'm trying to like cook or something. I shouldn't even say that. I shouldn't even say that. I do that. I don't I don't know why I said that. That was a lot of great lie. Um but if I'm trying to do something else, you know, like that's just like pressing. Internal baby sensory sensory for us.

SPEAKER_00 32:59

That doesn't work for us. He has he does laughs.

SPEAKER_04 33:02

He does laugh. I mean, whatever works for my kids.

SPEAKER_03 33:09

The dancing fruit is my saving grace sometimes. And you know, whatever works what I want to do. And that's where that's what I want to like emphasize for this podcast is that the I am the hundred percent. I will 100% say that I was a dumb ignorant bitch before I had kids. Like I used to say so much, like I'm never letting my kid do this. And now that I have two kids, I'm gonna do that. And now that I have two kids, I'm like, you know what? You need to do what you need to do to keep your peace.

SPEAKER_02 33:40

Obviously, and that's my time and space for everything. You look for everyone and what you say at one point isn't gonna be valid for the next point.

SPEAKER_03 33:50

I just feel like I put so much pressure on everyone. I just feel like I put so much pressure on myself as a first-time mom to be like, I need to make sure tummy time. X amount of tummy and like this and that. And like, yes, those are things, those are important things, but like just getting by as well. Just getting by as especially as a nurse and a mom. I work night shifts, I'm gonna be able to do it. You know, I work night shift, I'm exhausted. My husband works from home, so when I'm off, he's working, and like we just like the the time we have it's it's it's valuable. And like our paying time, or like you know, when he's working, if I'm the one and I'm like, I'm exhausted, I'm coming off of a night shift, I have a lot slept, and I'm having to watch. You know, I kids, you know, I'm five. Sometimes I'm just five. Oh, yeah. And that's I just want to. Like, I just want you know all the women out there and men to understand like do what you need to do. Do what you need to do to get by each day. To like to get by each day. And like, your kids, you know, the best parent you can be their parents.

SPEAKER_02 34:51

If you think you're always gonna do it. What's best for them?

SPEAKER_03 34:56

Yeah, and like the best possible. That's the best possible parent is you. Like you're the you're like your mom and the dad that you're like your kid deserves and needs. So like being there in the way, yeah. Obviously, like we've said before, like your kids smoking crack, you know, whatever. You're smoking crack or whatever. Like, we you know, we can't advocate for that. If you're letting your kids, you know, if you're letting your your kid have a little extra screen time today, it's gonna be f that's okay. They're not gonna be able to get a few. It's gonna be fine, they're not gonna f they're not gonna like you know being behind in the left behind in the third grade because of that extra screen time you had on a Saturday. Anyway, yep. So that's what I wanted to emphasize today. But that's it. That's what I wanted to emphasize today because I put a lot of pressure in the soul. I do, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 35:39

I think I I did in the beginning too, like, especially about the tummy tum. I was like, I don't want to.

SPEAKER_03 35:43

Oh, I was so nervous. I was so nervous about this. I don't know. I was so worried about the helmet, and then my Petritan was like, Yeah, we can news. It was like sick.

SPEAKER_02 35:52

Okay, mine brought it up and it wasn't even brought it up, and it wasn't even a good thing. But it's not for lack of time. My kids have really big heads. What are they gonna do with the helmet if they have a big thing? What are they gonna do with these weavers? You know, obviously babies have such a big heavy head because they have such a big thing. It was getting a little flat. You know, they're like, oh, we'll see. Oh, we'll see, they might need a helmet. Like, that wasn't even on my rate. Like, that wasn't even on my raid.

SPEAKER_03 36:17

First of all, um, are you trying to make my kid be a bullet?

SPEAKER_00 36:22

But also like the helmets, like sometimes do they just need a helmet? Like, it's fine. I know, but like a helmet. But it like freaked me out a lot. They're all fine. I knew a kid with a helmet. They're all fine. I knew a kid with a helmet. No, was it bottom? I don't think helmets. I don't know. Did they have helmets then? I think there's no pictures of kids with helmets. Yeah, I don't know. Adam and Melissa?

SPEAKER_03 36:48

Adam let us know. Adam let us know if you want to helmet.

SPEAKER_00 36:52

Think of a hair that we can't tell how far that curl.

SPEAKER_01 36:56

The curl.

SPEAKER_02 36:58

I feel like those are in the archives that no one's gonna be. I'll bring in the biggest. I think we love you Adam. Uh to kind of tie in what you were saying.

Social Media Pressure And Allergens

SPEAKER_02 37:06

To kind of tie in the street. That's the beauty of social media nowadays that it's great because it's informative and it gives you so many ideas and things to do. But then it puts pressure on you and then scares you. Like, okay, well, this is what everybody else is doing, or what everybody else is saying we need to do or emphasize or not do. And it's just in your face.

SPEAKER_00 37:28

It's very time to give me face about like the allergens. The freaking allergens gave me so anything. The freaking allergens gave me so much anxiety. And I was talking to my parents about this. I was like, Do you remember the first time I had peanut butter? They were like, probably not great. Like till the first grade. And I was like, so why am I freaking out giving my kids freaking peanut butter like five that big of a peanut butter?

SPEAKER_03 37:50

They're like, you should introduce like all of the allerges. And I'm like, I'm like, what? And they're like, and it's like almond buttons. And I'm like, I didn't have almond butter collection. It's gonna be poly. I know I was like, it's gonna be open. I know I was like, did I didn't know almond butter was a thing until like exactly what it is. I'm sure the research now like tells you like to do that, but like buddies like different now different. Things are different now and they're like you know, I don't want to get too bad.

SPEAKER_00 38:25

But you don't have to be anxious, like I'm gonna be able to do it. I honestly didn't think enough about it.

SPEAKER_03 38:28

I honestly didn't think enough about that.

SPEAKER_00 38:31

Yeah, it's a yeah it's or the beauty of being a nurse that like you know too much. Like, oh my god, are they going into anaphlaxis on me at me? Like, no cares. No we cares about it. Yeah, good. He's vibing on this peanut butter with his little non dippers.

SPEAKER_03 38:54

We've definitely been single moms long enough, so we should probably get back to our husband to make sure that my son is not being grass at some point. So we'll see you next week. Hopefully, I'm momish. Thank you for listening, and we'll see you.

SPEAKER_02 39:11

Just remember, motherhood isn't perfect, neither are we. Laugh, swear, hug your kids, sip your drink. You're mommish, and that's enough. Bye for now. Momish.