Long Poops, Lawn Mowing & Dad Feelings

Father’s Day felt like the perfect excuse to hand the microphones to the dads in our lives, and they did not hold back. We sit down with Adam, Dylan, and Gil for a raw, funny, and unexpectedly emotional talk about modern fatherhood, starting with the exact moment each of them realized, “Oh, I’m actually going to be a dad.” It’s the kind of parenting conversation that sounds like your group chat, but hits like real life when the jokes fade for a second.

We get into the dad version of mom guilt: staying late at work when you know you could be home, sleeping in when your partner is already up, even asking permission to take a shower because you hate feeling like you’re tapping out. From there we talk about what we hope our kids remember most: being present, being steady, and being the parent they can come to whether they’re proud of themselves or scared to admit they messed up. If you care about millennial dads, hands-on parenting, and building a family culture where kids feel safe, this one lands.

Then we go deeper on girl dad vs boy dad expectations and what it means to raise resilient kids without teaching them to bury everything. We talk toughness, vulnerability, and why “the days are long but the years are short” isn’t just a quote, it’s a warning not to blink. You’ll also hear the real stuff couples deal with after kids: pet peeves, morning stress, household habits, and the tiny fights that aren’t about the kids, but definitely affect the home.

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Transcript

Father’s Day Setup And Introductions

SPEAKER_06 0:20

Hi guys, welcome to Momish, your weekly yap session. I'm Gabby.

SPEAKER_04 0:23

I'm Katie. I'm Taylor.

SPEAKER_06 0:25

And this one is a special episode. For Father's Day, we thought it would be a great idea to include the men who complete our lives, the dads that our babies see as heroes. Welcome to Mommish, Adam, Dylan, and Gil.

SPEAKER_01 0:35

Yay! Great to be here.

SPEAKER_05 0:39

Alright, so before we begin, I would like to thank our husbands for volunteering to be here.

SPEAKER_06 0:44

Although they didn't volunteer. Yep. We also like to remind them that anything they say can and will be used against them in future arguments. This is the same place.

SPEAKER_05 0:54

Now let's get into it, guys. So let's welcome our baby daddies. Guys, introduce yourselves.

SPEAKER_02 1:00

Hi, I'm Dylan. I'm 96 years old. I'm an astronaut for NASA. I'm on crew 1696, and I am the father of Taylor and I's kids. There's five of them. Nicholas. Alright, I'm just joking. I'm Dylan, Taylor's husband. My kids are Charlie and Isla. I am an avid outdoorsman. So when I'm not working, hang out with my kids, you can find me in the mountains somewhere.

SPEAKER_05 1:22

With Taylor yelling at behind us.

SPEAKER_02 1:24

With my oldest Charlie. She's an adventurer, too.

SPEAKER_05 1:27

Taylor and Isla will be back at the Hesie hanging out. Yep. Eating problem to do.

SPEAKER_01 1:32

Hey guys, I'm Gil. She can refer to me as Dragon. I am 36. I am Katie's husband. And a father of two children, Noah and Crew.

SPEAKER_00 1:42

Our angels.

SPEAKER_01 1:43

My hobbies include spending a lot of time with Adam and Dylan.

SPEAKER_05 1:48

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 1:48

Shooting at stuff.

SPEAKER_05 1:50

Not people.

SPEAKER_01 1:51

Nope. No people.

SPEAKER_05 1:52

Just random people. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 1:53

Playing golf, being outside, beach, anything.

SPEAKER_05 1:56

Talking about grass.

SPEAKER_01 1:57

That's right. Talking about grass.

SPEAKER_05 1:59

Gil's gadgets.

SPEAKER_01 2:00

Oh, I gotta talk about stuff in there real quick, actually.

SPEAKER_05 2:03

All right. I was like, now that you mentioned it, real quick before Adam goes.

SPEAKER_01 2:06

Actually, we probably should start this thing off with the differences between fescue and Bermuda. Yeah, yeah. Which is how they're reacting to the drought.

SPEAKER_02 2:12

You got fescue now. But real quick before Adam goes, Gil, did you just say my habbies include? Yeah, I'm trying to play that one back. Trying out new accents.

SPEAKER_00 2:20

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 2:21

This was the place because I have a bigger audience. I'm Adam and sheesh, I don't know where to start about myself.

SPEAKER_04 2:27

How about married to Gabby?

SPEAKER_03 2:29

I'm I'm married to Gabby, for sure. That was you know I was gonna end it all. I have a beautiful son named Bowie. I like to do stuff. I don't know what I exactly I do, but I'm always doing something.

SPEAKER_05 2:38

He fixes shit and ignores my text.

SPEAKER_04 2:40

My name's Adam, and I like to fix stuff.

SPEAKER_02 2:42

He puts in sync he makes rooms cold. Yeah, I do that kind of thing. I appreciate you for that. Yeah, no problem.

SPEAKER_05 2:48

We're gonna just kind of like jump on into it. Jump on into it. But Adam, I wanted to tell you something that made me think of. Noah the other day was in Gil's car and Gil's AC sucks. And she was asking Gil, like, why is the car so hot? And he was like, Oh, well, my AC is like not working so well. And she goes, hmm, well, you better call Uncle Adam. No way.

SPEAKER_02 3:08

She knows what I do. Yeah. No, she just doesn't let you fix everything.

SPEAKER_04 3:14

Yeah. Was it specific to the air conditioning? Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 3:17

She's like, you know what? Broken, must call Adam. She got an H track thing.

Finding Out You’re A Dad

SPEAKER_03 3:21

Yeah.

SPEAKER_04 3:21

Question we have for you. What were your first thoughts when you found out you're gonna be a dad?

SPEAKER_05 3:26

Immediate reaction, not the one you want us to hear.

SPEAKER_03 3:28

Thank God I can finally sleep, you know.

SPEAKER_05 3:30

What?

SPEAKER_03 3:31

What? It was a lot of long nights.

SPEAKER_06 3:33

Like you're having sex all night. We had sex every fucking day. Well, okay.

SPEAKER_03 3:41

Did you guys have a try for a long time? No, it was like four days.

SPEAKER_05 3:44

I was like, let's go. But those four days.

SPEAKER_03 3:47

Fuck fascinating.

SPEAKER_05 3:48

My basil my basil body temperature is at peak right now. Get get naked, Adam.

unknown 3:53

He was like, all right.

SPEAKER_05 3:55

He was like, why don't we just can we just sleep?

unknown 3:58

No.

SPEAKER_03 3:58

Can we just sleep? Can we talk about our feelings or something?

SPEAKER_02 4:02

I'll have to come back to the immediate thoughts after I found out I was gonna be a dad, but I know my first thoughts right before I found out. I was I just got into Carl's apartment. Shout out to Carl, one of my friends. Taylor was already there. We were going to see a concert in Charlotte. I walked in and Taylor said, Dylan, come here and pulled me into the bathroom. And so I thought she was trying to have a quickie in Carl's apartment. And so I went in the bathroom. And so I was like already like half torque slash full torque. Because I thought we were about to have a quickie. Wow. You were just I was ready to go. This is so romantic. And so uh the next words out of Taylor's mouth were she shut the door and she said, Look at this, and she showed me uh a dipstick, whatever you call them. And a pregnancy test? Pregnancy test, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 4:44

What was the oil level on the face?

SPEAKER_02 4:46

This is full, baby. Taylor, your oil's low. And uh so yeah, I'll have to come back to my immediate thoughts. Just the typical ones, like nervous, scared, happy, couldn't believe how fast it was. Like we decided we were gonna try to have kids, and then it was within like a week later. She showed me that test.

SPEAKER_04 5:02

So it definitely wasn't. Yeah, I got into it. Not how the menstrual cycle works. It was pretty good, yeah.

SPEAKER_05 5:09

Month, couple days, same things. The little glimpse inside of a male brain, their perception of time is just fucking reticular.

SPEAKER_06 5:14

Oh, you definitely thought, Adam, that if we had sex the night before a wedding, I'd be pregnant on our wedding.

SPEAKER_03 5:20

Yeah, you wouldn't.

SPEAKER_05 5:21

I was like, it doesn't work that way. You can't drink at your wedding if you're sexy before or get away from it. Adam, how long did it take you to find out that women had more than one hole?

SPEAKER_02 5:30

Well, you guys have more than one hole to pee out of? Right now.

SPEAKER_05 5:33

Well, I meant like what time is it right now?

SPEAKER_01 5:37

A little bit of it's like an initial shock, but it starts settling in, and I just was kind of envisioning what they would look like, who they would be, and I just knew that there was kind of a magical journey ahead, and I was started to get more and more excited as time went on.

SPEAKER_05 5:53

Hmm. So the non-reader's digest version, was there anything like not?

SPEAKER_01 5:59

That's how I really oh well. I thought we were gonna bone when you called me in the bathroom, you know, like Dylan said.

SPEAKER_05 6:03

Well, he was had to call me down.

SPEAKER_02 6:06

I had reason to believe that we were going to.

SPEAKER_04 6:08

Gil is nothing like Carl's bathroom, you know? Yeah. So he sets the moon.

SPEAKER_06 6:12

You come out in the bathroom, Carl's making pancakes. Okay, no matter what.

SPEAKER_01 6:16

I already had a feeling going into it because when I was washing dishes, there's a little sour cream on the plate, and you started drug heaving. Before you actually told me, I was kind of ready for it. I knew it was.

SPEAKER_05 6:27

You were like, Are you pregnant or something?

SPEAKER_01 6:29

You love sour cream. Yeah. Everything.

SPEAKER_05 6:30

So not anymore.

unknown 6:32

Not everything.

SPEAKER_05 6:33

But yeah, it was one night you were cooking or something, and then or we were cleaning the dishes, but I was I saw the sour cream and was like, oh, that's so disgusting. And then he's like, You pregnant or something? And I was like, No? It's like that, like when the camera zooms in on you and you're just like, oh fucking. So I just like walked away like really fast and like went upstairs, and then I was like hysterical, and he was having to calm me down because I was just like, I don't, I don't know. Because Gil and I are really irresponsible. We use plan B as a form of birth control. Yeah, y'all fuck around and find out. That's literally what we said. We said fertile myrtles. Yeah, well, I didn't know at the time I was a fertile myrtle. I said, risk it, fuck around and find out. Like, and we fucked around and risk it for the Noah Biscuit. Yeah, so we fucked around and then we found out. And our name is Noah. Can I ask you about this? Was this question just for the men? Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 7:24

Okay. I was wondering why Katie was answering it.

SPEAKER_03 7:26

Yeah. Before my wife inter inter interrupts me. I didn't answer. I thought he did. I didn't answer. I'm pretty sure he did, but okay, Adam's gotta say something. No, no, I guess I no. No, you're right. I did. I did say uh think I would say. Yeah, you said you can't wait to sleep. Yeah, yeah. So do you have something? I just thought, you know, Gabby's terrible at telling, like holding a secret for more than like four minutes. So she basically she's like, I'm pretty much, you know, like pregnant, kind of. And then it was just like kind of, not for real. Not all the way, just a little bit. Closely.

SPEAKER_06 7:59

So excited.

SPEAKER_03 8:00

And then she like made this whole box and gave it to me, and I was like, love this box, great moment. Kind of knew two or three days ago.

SPEAKER_01 8:08

I was like, made it official.

SPEAKER_02 8:10

Gabby says, how did she basically tell you? How did she yeah, how did she let you know? Gave me like a box? No, no, no, like before that. You said you already home.

SPEAKER_06 8:22

It was a little faint.

SPEAKER_02 8:23

Oh, so you literally said I might be pregnant. Oh, okay.

SPEAKER_06 8:26

I found out like later. Yeah. Because I was into now.

SPEAKER_05 8:30

Just a little nauseous. Yeah, I it yeah, it did not hit it.

SPEAKER_02 8:35

You guys I remember when you found out that Katie was pregnant, you guys went to uh Oh, we went to Mexico.

SPEAKER_04 8:39

Oh yeah, she knew immediately. Ordered a diet cope. I'm like, we're we're at a Mexican restaurant. And you're an alcohol.

SPEAKER_05 8:46

So even before because she was like one of the first people I told, and even before I told her, she immediately knew. She goes, Yeah, you're busy. Like she, yeah, she like clocked it real quick. Oh, yeah.

SPEAKER_04 8:59

Like Gabby actually shows up to a bonfire with a Stanley of water, and I'm like, really, you're that thirsty. I was like, I'm just really thirsty. Lies.

SPEAKER_05 9:10

Yeah, I am really bad at keeping a secret as well. So I told Taylor pretty much immediately.

SPEAKER_04 9:14

Yeah, when I found out I was pregnant with Isla, I'm pretty sure I called you like.

SPEAKER_05 9:17

Oh, you were like, you FaceTimed me, and all I saw was you with tears in your eyes, and then you just held up the stick, and I was like, oh fuck.

SPEAKER_02 9:26

Funny story about when she found out she was pregnant with Isla. I was sitting on the couch and we were we were fucking around and finding out. Like we we weren't surprised when we found out, but you're not we were not by any means planning on having the second child at that time. And I'm sitting on the couch, Taylor was upstairs, taking a shower, doing something.

SPEAKER_05 9:42

Obviously, taking a pregnancy test.

SPEAKER_02 9:43

I didn't know she was taking a pregnancy test, but she I just hear her like running across the upstairs. I hear her feet, and I just by the way she was running, I knew what she was about to say. That's low and she yells, she goes, Dylan, and I I knew it. I knew what she was about to say was she was pregnant, and sure enough, she was.

SPEAKER_05 10:00

That's when you know somebody by the by their footsteps.

SPEAKER_02 10:03

Yep, I knew she was pregnant by her footsteps. If I heard him again tomorrow, I would know.

SPEAKER_01 10:08

Another story. Oh gosh. You won't about that. We were Dylan, Adam, and I were at the shooting range, actually, and we had just found out that we're having crew, and I was like, she was Taylor was the th Taylor and Dylan were the third one to have their kid at the same second kid at the same time. And I was like, Dylan, imagine if you had another baby too with us. And Dylan's like, oh god, Taylor would kick my ass, dude. There's no way.

SPEAKER_05 10:37

Yep. Yeah, I kind of manifested that one a little bit. I uh I did a rain dance at the post-malone concert. I was like, this is so much fun.

SPEAKER_02 10:50

Stars.

SPEAKER_05 10:51

Yep.

SPEAKER_04 10:52

My yeah, the astrology queen. All right, next.

Dad Guilt And Self Pressure

SPEAKER_04 10:56

We talk a lot about mom guilt day-to-day. What do you think, like the dad version of what we say is mom guilt? Like, what's the thing?

SPEAKER_03 11:05

Can you give us a breakdown on like what you think of?

SPEAKER_04 11:07

Uh like mom guilt. Like not surprised at all. Just going to take a like long shower. You have this thought in the back of your head where you're like, Do you know what you're doing?

SPEAKER_02 11:16

Yeah, I can phantom prize all time. There's a lot of them, but the first one that comes to mind is when I have to work late, I'm in tech sales, and so I have a pretty flexible schedule. I kind of make my own schedule. I'm able to start work either early and end late, or start work early, end early, start late, work late. And so I'm often on the road home from the office by three o'clock, the latest sometimes. And so if I have to do a normal day of work and stay to the office until five, I I feel like I'm doing something wrong. And I know I'm not because working until five o'clock is normal.

SPEAKER_05 11:49

But I think those days when I'm when I do a normal day.

SPEAKER_01 11:54

Yeah, I feel guilty. One of my biggest ones is if Katie wakes up before me.

SPEAKER_05 12:00

Oh, yeah. I do always feel so bad about myself.

SPEAKER_01 12:05

I just feel like it's my responsibility to wake up first, get the kids up. I don't know why. Well, just because of your nursing schedule, I want you to get every minute of sleep that you can. And if you have worked recently and you're up before me, I just feel like a bag of dicks.

SPEAKER_05 12:23

Yeah, yesterday he woke up later and came downstairs and was just like immediately had like all these different things lined up to like tell me. And I was like, why are you beating yourself up, dude? Like, just the day's over. Yeah. He was like, Yeah, and you use I'm so sorry. I was like, it's fine. Like, that's just why, like, I'm well, okay. Well, at least I know that you guys have it maybe fine for you, but it's not a little better.

SPEAKER_04 12:48

What the like mom guilt is, though. It's not always a rational thing. Like, it's not a reason that you should actually feel guilty. It's like guilt that you're putting on yourself.

SPEAKER_05 12:56

Yeah, it's like taking a shower all the time. I'm like, hey, are you cool if I take a shower? And you're like, why the fuck do you ask me to bathe?

SPEAKER_03 13:02

Every single time.

SPEAKER_05 13:03

I'm like, I don't have body odor. Guilt guilt help.

SPEAKER_03 13:06

I don't care, babe.

SPEAKER_01 13:06

I feel so guilty when I take 30-minute poops.

SPEAKER_05 13:10

Oh my god.

SPEAKER_01 13:11

I still do it today. I still do it and I'll never stop, but I feel a little bit of guilt.

SPEAKER_05 13:15

Well, that's a segue. So why does it? Adam didn't get to go. Okay. Well, I was just gonna ask a question, but all right, thanks for cutting me off. Go ahead.

SPEAKER_03 13:23

I'm sorry, I just wanted Adam to get a chance to go. He was going to, but it's fine. Go ahead. Oh, yeah, I was gonna talk over you. I'm trying my best not to talk over Katie Red. She's talking. I'm looking at her like, oh wait, this kid's gonna be.

SPEAKER_05 13:34

I forgot to get the talking stick. I did think. Oh, we yeah, we need a talking stick. But anyway, Adam, go ahead. Princess.

SPEAKER_03 13:40

So I'm sorry, Katie. Destroy her. We're good. My biggest one is when I'm at work and there's any downtime whatsoever. I'm like, I could be with my son right now.

unknown 13:52

No.

SPEAKER_03 13:52

I can be doing anything.

SPEAKER_05 13:53

That's so sweet.

SPEAKER_03 13:55

And I'm here.

SPEAKER_05 13:56

Staring me. That's very sweet, Adam.

SPEAKER_03 13:58

Or doing something that's not worth it when I could be with him. And I'm like, why am I doing what I'm doing right now when I could be working, you know, with him.

SPEAKER_05 14:05

Yeah. Well, hopefully one of you guys will become a stripper so we can all stop working.

SPEAKER_02 14:10

No, this podcast needs to blow up so we can all stop working. So you you listeners, start spreading the word, please, because Adam Gill and I want to stop working and go shoot guns and ride dirt bikes and go do what we want to do. We need these, and that too. Yeah, we need these women.

SPEAKER_06 14:25

We want to do our extracurricular hobbies.

SPEAKER_02 14:27

Yeah, happies. We want to do our habbies.

SPEAKER_01 14:30

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 14:30

We're gonna bring we're gonna bring the kids with us when they get old enough. Yeah, yeah. Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 14:34

Yeah. That you're pro to the film or it's like when my dad used to bring me to Lowe's every single day.

SPEAKER_04 14:39

Oh my god, every Saturday. It's like, how many times could one person go to Lowe's? It was so annoying.

SPEAKER_03 14:46

I went there twice today.

SPEAKER_06 14:47

Meanwhile, we've brought Bowie to Home Depot in Lowe's a lot. I don't want to say every day, but we brought him to a Home Depot like every weekend when he was a newborn. Oh, yeah.

SPEAKER_04 14:54

I'm like, this is gonna be your second light aisle to bring your baby on the light.

SPEAKER_02 14:57

Oh, I've seen that in the fans too. Yeah. Have you guys seen a Home Depot on a Saturday morning? They do like a kids' play for toddlers and stuff. Hundreds of kids are there. It blew my mind when I saw it one day. No one's like, I'm gonna join real quick. Yeah, let me build this birdhouse, please.

SPEAKER_05 15:11

Like 30, you actually have a kid. Give me that bird.

SPEAKER_03 15:15

Sounds exciting, but also like my own personal health. Yeah. I'm building it

Bathroom Humor And Oversharing

SPEAKER_03 15:19

for her.

SPEAKER_05 15:19

So back to what I was saying that was a really good question that Gil brought up is why is it that it takes? I know all of you do it, but I don't know if Gil's takes the longest shits of any person I've ever met. No, no, no, no, no. It's a like I've seen the red ring around your ass from how long you sit on the toilet.

SPEAKER_04 15:41

Yeah. No, raise of hands. How many of y'all have hemorrhoids? Because it's probably from how long you sit on the phone.

SPEAKER_02 15:48

I thought I had hemorrhoids until I recently found out I have celiac's disease.

SPEAKER_05 15:52

It's not confirmed.

SPEAKER_02 15:53

You eat gluten all the time.

SPEAKER_05 15:55

No, this is like four-day.

SPEAKER_02 15:56

I just got blood work done and found out.

SPEAKER_06 15:57

Oh fuck.

SPEAKER_02 15:58

Okay. Say a prayer.

SPEAKER_06 16:00

You're gonna be fine. I have to ask a question kind of related to Katie's motion-is like a couple episodes ago. Do you guys also stare at your buttholes and know what it looks like? Taylor doesn't.

SPEAKER_02 16:13

I I used to, I had a like a running bit for a while when I was in college. I would take videos of myself pooping. Oh like my like my butthole. How radical? So I would hold the camera under like under my legs and fill myself pooping. Why am I surprised? Why are you admitting that this? Oh, it looked crazy. It looked crazy. Very similar to like that. Very similar, but same same but different.

SPEAKER_00 16:39

What the fuck?

SPEAKER_02 16:40

So I am very familiar with what mine looked like. It's been years since I looked at it. Please don't do this anymore. Yeah. No, I haven't done it in a long time. I would send pictures of my poop to close friends, but this bit was like my actual butthole as I poop. It was crazy.

SPEAKER_05 16:58

Why am I not surprised by it?

SPEAKER_02 16:59

I had like a group chat of all my friends.

SPEAKER_05 17:02

So all of your friends have seen your asshole?

SPEAKER_02 17:04

Not all of them, but a lot of them.

SPEAKER_05 17:05

Select a few.

SPEAKER_02 17:06

Specifically my college across team. They all saw it a lot.

SPEAKER_05 17:08

Do you guys feel like slighted at all that you haven't seen Dylan's asshole?

SPEAKER_03 17:11

I've seen Gil's asshole, but I've not seen Dylan's.

SPEAKER_02 17:13

No, I've never showed these fellows my butthole. I haven't looked at my own in a while.

SPEAKER_06 17:17

I knew this would be a great question. Great question, Gaddy. Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 17:21

Mine's a mystery to the world. No one's seen my butthole.

SPEAKER_01 17:24

For the record, listeners, that was in international waters.

SPEAKER_02 17:28

No, but it actually was. It was on a cruise. It really was. It was Adam's bachelor party. Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_04 17:33

So I guess that means it doesn't count.

SPEAKER_02 17:35

No. No.

SPEAKER_04 17:36

We go on bachelorette trips and like drink a lot of wine and like wear white.

SPEAKER_02 17:40

Take your IEDs out of each other. Oh, yeah.

SPEAKER_04 17:42

That was on a family beach trip.

SPEAKER_05 17:43

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 17:43

But they call some PTSD up in here for me.

SPEAKER_05 17:45

Why got the batches one time? Yeah. Gabby said she was going to take it out the week before your wedding. I said, bitch, you're going to be bleeding after. So I think you should probably take it out now. I'm an I'm I can do it. I said, okay, let me walk you through that. Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 17:59

I'm like, what's your cop? That's true.

SPEAKER_05 18:02

Yep. So there we go.

SPEAKER_06 18:04

Great memory.

SPEAKER_05 18:05

Don't get mad that I've that I've also got inside of your wife. My fingers. Anyway.

SPEAKER_02 18:13

Not your cock.

SPEAKER_05 18:14

Adam gets it's big and black.

SPEAKER_03 18:19

No, it's purple. We've seen it.

SPEAKER_05 18:21

Okay. That one.

SPEAKER_03 18:24

We're families listening.

SPEAKER_05 18:25

I hope you're not going to be able to do that.

SPEAKER_01 18:26

That was a lightsaber bumble.

SPEAKER_05 18:28

Yeah, I told Adam one time to go grab something out of my nightstand one time, and he just comes downstairs and he goes, Don't ever fucking tell me to open your nightstand ever again. You have a lightsaber in there.

SPEAKER_03 18:41

Next to a Glock.

SPEAKER_05 18:43

Yeah, I have my gun and my dilto. The essentials.

SPEAKER_02 18:49

It would have been great if he came downstairs with it.

SPEAKER_06 18:51

I just want to say, as much as Adam is like the biggest jokester, you are also like, what's the word? He gets protective of you. I guess me. Yeah.

SPEAKER_04 19:01

I guess

What Kids Remember About You

SPEAKER_04 19:02

it's me. What is something you hope your children will remember about you?

SPEAKER_02 19:05

Remember like that. I never cared about what other people thought. And I just was myself, and it doesn't matter if that was weird, annoying or snaps for grace.

SPEAKER_04 19:13

Snaps for grace. Adam?

SPEAKER_03 19:15

That I was always there.

SPEAKER_05 19:17

Oh my god, Adam, you're gonna make me cry.

SPEAKER_03 19:19

No. That's definitely something that I I want to be there.

SPEAKER_05 19:23

Yeah. Yeah. That's yeah, no, that's a really amazing thing because we've all grown up in an era where the dads were more outside of the home and or more absent. And that's not necessarily saying that they weren't a good parent, but at that, you know, when we were kids, it was dad provides, mom stays home, whatever. So I think that's a beautiful thing about being a millennial dad is that you guys are you work full time, you bust your ass, and then you also make sure you're you're so present. You make sure your kids know who you are, and they, you know, you often you will answer the phone if they ever need to be taken home from school sick or whatever. So it's a it's a really cool thing.

SPEAKER_04 20:03

Just to go off that, like kind of on a different tangent. That's like such a cool thing about this front group, though. Like obviously they're such strong parents for each kid, but then they also have such strong like aunts and uncles in a sense. Oh, yeah. So it's really cool.

SPEAKER_05 20:19

All of my kids, well, I only have two of them, I don't want to say all, but they call each and every one of you Uncle Dylan, Uncle Adam, Auntie Gabby, Auntie Taylor, Nicole, and Girl Carl. Shout out. Yeah, I think that we're very lucky that we have such a solid friend group that we all live very close to each other. And some might call us codependent, but I would think that we are there. I think people are jealous that we have such a tight group of friends. And my kids, I'm not I'm not gonna put them on blasts on the air, Adam, but we can talk about any other. People say that McKenzie. But this was so I think that yeah, my kids love all of you guys. And Noah asks pretty much every day if she can come to Charlie's house. Not your home, just Charlie's. Charlie owns the house. But yeah, I think they would, you know, any day would call you and when they can use a phone to be able to come over, or you know, if they are in trouble, they're probably gonna call their cool aunts and uncles instead of mom and dad to come pick them up when they're drunk for the first time.

SPEAKER_06 21:18

I will say, as an only child, I don't have obviously brothers and sisters. So, like this is like my family unit, you know. So an aunt and uncle for Bowie on my side, obviously we have it for Adam's side. So being like having aunts and uncles means a lot for me, probably more than Bowie will realize. Yeah, we'll make sure we'll make sure he'll realize it eventually.

SPEAKER_04 21:38

Yeah, but it'll circle back. Yeah, for sure. For sure. No, definitely something I'm like so grateful for.

SPEAKER_05 21:44

Love you guys. What was the question again? I forgot.

SPEAKER_01 21:47

Well, your kids will remember you. Oh, yeah, sorry.

SPEAKER_04 21:52

He's ready to go.

SPEAKER_01 21:52

I was not thinking about it. Adam took mine, so I had to think of something else. You can say the same answer if you can.

SPEAKER_04 22:00

I think that was for me older.

SPEAKER_01 22:01

Yeah, obviously that's really important to me. But I think as I think back to my childhood and and my parents were great, but depending on what I did, I would go to a different parent because of how I thought they would react. And I want my kids to know obviously aside of being able to go to their mother, I want them to know that whether they fail or succeed, they can come to me. Because I I always thought, like, oh, I did this, my dad would love that, or oh, I fucked up. I better let my mom know so she can ease my dad into, you know, whatever the case may be. But I just want them to know that they can come to me with anything, failures or succeeding.

SPEAKER_06 22:38

Oh, that's beautiful.

SPEAKER_01 22:39

Thank you.

SPEAKER_06 22:40

Great answer, yeah. I would also like that as my answer too.

SPEAKER_02 22:43

Can I adjust the camera so Gilbert is in the frame?

SPEAKER_01 22:45

Gilbuck.

SPEAKER_02 22:46

Okay. Never mind. Never mind.

SPEAKER_06 22:48

You don't want to be in the camera?

SPEAKER_01 22:49

I'm in the camera when I lean in and talk about the back of my head.

SPEAKER_06 22:52

The back of your head is ridiculous. The back of your head is ridiculous.

SPEAKER_02 22:56

Excuse me.

SPEAKER_04 22:57

Can I have your number?

SPEAKER_02 22:58

Can I have the digits that if entered telephonically would connect me to you?

SPEAKER_01 23:01

We'll just do Big Daddy for the rest of the show.

SPEAKER_04 23:04

And you, Adam.

SPEAKER_01 23:05

Oh my god. Next question.

SPEAKER_04 23:07

All right. Next question, gentlemen.

The Best Parts Of Fatherhood

SPEAKER_04 23:09

What is the best thing about being a dad so far?

SPEAKER_03 23:12

I didn't realize how fun it would be. It is so much fun watching him smile, watching him.

SPEAKER_05 23:18

Adam with the fucking emotions, I was like.

SPEAKER_03 23:22

The biggest thing is I didn't think I didn't know kids wouldn't react to you in a different way. Like say you come home and you're sad, you're mad, you're whatever. They're gonna act the same way. They don't know you know how to react to that.

SPEAKER_00 23:35

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 23:36

And that's definitely like something that I didn't think of. I thought they would always, you know, understand basic human emotions from other people. That's something I had to learn.

SPEAKER_04 23:44

Kind of nice though. But because it kind of brings you back where you're like, okay, I'm not that upset, or I'm not that sad.

SPEAKER_05 23:50

Mm-hmm. And it also it can it will cheer you up. Like when you're feeling sh like upset or shitty about something at work and you're just like, you know, fuming on the way home, and then you come home and it's like all that's lifted when you see their face. And that's something that's if you don't have kids, you don't realize, like, I mean, when I see my dogs, when well, cupcake can't see me, but when the other ones see me, they they I used to get so excited, but it's like, and I used to say, like, oh, I love my dogs as much as kids.

SPEAKER_03 24:18

But like when you s when your kids see you and they just get so fucking excited when it just walking into daycare today, little man put his hands up randomly as fast as he can, like crawl run thing, whatever he's got going on.

SPEAKER_05 24:31

All the like heat is fast. Oh my god, that kid does, and it was fast. Yeah, Gabby and I went to the pool yesterday. Gabby brought a float, and then I brought a life jacket. Gabby and I like were fully prepared thinking our gear was gonna be great for our kids. And then Bowie's immediately trying to climb out of his float, and Cruz just laying there like a freaking frozen statue in the in the life jacket. So I was like, Gabby, do you want to trade? Because Bowie's gonna like flop no trade trade devices, trade, yeah, like lifesaver, like child protective flotation devices. Gabby, uh yeah, we traded everything because Bowie was gonna Bowie was trying to swim. He was trying to drown and like he was gonna fully chart learn how to swim, and crew fucking loved that float. We bought one, it came today. Oh, you got one? He loves it. He was like kicking his legs and shit.

SPEAKER_03 25:24

Didn't she have one?

SPEAKER_05 25:24

Like just oh yeah, I don't know what happened to her.

SPEAKER_04 25:26

And I I think I have it. Oh, there you go. I'm not bringing two kids to a pool by myself. Nothing sounds worse in my whole life.

SPEAKER_03 25:33

Well, well, noah's more. Right, you went my toe and Noah's more, you know. I'm not gonna jump out.

SPEAKER_05 25:39

Taylor has said that many times. She's like, there's nothing that I want to do less than like last summer. I was just like, come to the pool. And she's like, I'm not fucking bringing Charlie while I'm nine months pregnant to the pool. This sounds terrible.

SPEAKER_04 25:50

And this girl's like trying to send it off the deep, and then my whale ass is trying to get up and chase it.

SPEAKER_05 25:55

Yeah. I could I wanted to help you, but I was also nine months pregnant.

SPEAKER_04 26:00

Yeah, you guys were more pregnant. Yeah, I was.

SPEAKER_02 26:02

You go that way, I'll go to the same corner.

SPEAKER_04 26:04

She's still outspeeding.

SPEAKER_06 26:07

Charlie couldn't swim, but she would still outspeed. Okay.

SPEAKER_05 26:15

Oh, I think. My belly was pretty large. She'll be so big. So big big. Oh my god, that bitch. I hope she fucking best thing about being a dad.

SPEAKER_02 26:26

Yeah, my answer is kind of what Katie said. Like, they're just like they're a level setter. Like I had a bad day recently, and I was really upset and like couldn't get myself to snap back out or out of it. And Taylor said, Here, grab Isla. And I picked Isla up and she smiled and she like kicked her legs and then and I grabbed my beard, and immediately, like, it just it didn't just make me smile, like my heart rate went down, my like nerves were settled, and it just made me like everything else melted away. And I was just like, This is the greatest thing ever. And so, yeah, the best thing about being a dad, like not the best thing, but one of the top things, one of the many good things is just like you always have something to level set, it'll make everything else go away, and you can immediately enjoy something so thoroughly and so fully. So that's I don't know if it's the best thing because there's so many great things. Like what Adam said is just is is true as well. So I don't know if I can ever figure out what the best thing is, but that's definitely up there.

SPEAKER_00 27:26

Oh you like hearing these. I do too.

SPEAKER_05 27:29

It's nice to like be able to like, you know, talk to you guys on this level and kind of hear the emotional things that because usually you guys are just like insulting me and or making fun of me. So it's nice to hear the side of you. Wait, didn't he already go?

SPEAKER_01 27:44

No. No. I gotta skip both of these questions. Oh fuck, sorry.

SPEAKER_04 27:48

I really thought go would be uh Chatty Kathy on here. I know.

SPEAKER_01 27:51

I'm just I don't wanna I don't want to jam up the mic, you know. I don't want to keep people talking about it. He doesn't want to steal the show. It's Sagittarius. I'm a guest, yeah. I'm a guest here. I'm a guest. Obviously, what what you two guys said is is huge, and those are really special things. I I'd have to say that someone thinking of you as a hero, as their hero, is just one of the best feelings. I when I go pick up Noah from daycare, she the yard is really big, and she they call her and she runs from the back. And it's like that. Have you ever seen those videos of like when you get to heaven, someone's waiting for you, and they have the dog like sprinting across the field. It's like she just comes running from the back with this huge smile on her face. Like she's so excited to see me. And no one does that for me. My dogs don't do it either.

SPEAKER_05 28:42

Well, cupcake doesn't know you're there. Yeah. But you know, she would if she could see you.

SPEAKER_01 28:47

My wife comes towards me if I've taken the garbage out, done the dishes, made dinner, but she That is absolutely not fucking true. My daughter and son unconditionally see me as their hero, and I hope it stays that way forever.

SPEAKER_04 29:01

I love it.

SPEAKER_01 29:02

Beautiful.

SPEAKER_04 29:03

Beautiful answer, gentlemen.

Girl Dad Boy Dad And Expectations

SPEAKER_04 29:05

We all have feeling. So, Dylan, obviously you are just the girl dad. Girl dad versus boy dad. Which is interesting because you're girl dad, boy dad, fitty fitty. Oh my god, it's like all different.

SPEAKER_00 29:21

It calls DJ Fitty Fitty.

SPEAKER_05 29:23

Do you want a boy, Dylan? Or are you like kind of like whatever happens, happens? Obviously, that's the only choice you get.

SPEAKER_02 29:28

I used to want a boy, and I still do, but I'm not as dead set on needing a boy. And I even thought that after I had Charlie. And then I was like, I hope the next one's a boy, really, just so I didn't, because I we know we wanted three. And so I was like, if number two is a boy, then there's not going to be any like hoping for number three. Yeah. Then we found out we were having Isla and we we have Isla, and now I've realized like I don't really care. It would be awesome to have a boy just so I know the differences. The main reason I wanted a boy is like all the typical things like you want an adventurer, you want someone to do boy stuff with. But I already know, like Charlie, just she'll try anything, and she's brave enough to try anything. And so if I can get her into one of my hobbies and she would do those with me, that's that's really all I wanted is someone to do hobbies with. And that's that's what I thought about when I wanted a boy, was I have so I have someone to do the things that I enjoy with. But just having someone to do things with, whether or not it's my hobby or their hobby, will bring me all the joy and happiness that I wanted anyway. So, yes, I would like to have a boy, but it's not, I don't feel that way as much as I used to. I know I'll have fun with Isla and Charlie and whatever our others are, no matter what, if they're a boy or a girl. Charlie's brave as can be, and so I know she's gonna try all my adventure stuff with me. I have a I have a pretty good feeling she's gonna really enjoy the. I already know she loves being outside. Like you guys all know. She wants to be outside. And that's all I care about is I want someone to do outside stuff with me. So, yes, I would like to have a boy, it would be great.

SPEAKER_04 30:54

So not cut in the grass.

SPEAKER_02 30:56

What do you mean we're not cutting the grass?

SPEAKER_04 30:57

Charlie Island I.

SPEAKER_02 30:59

Oh, no, that's that's fine. You guys don't need to cut the grass.

SPEAKER_05 31:02

Charlie will probably want to cut the grass.

SPEAKER_02 31:03

If she wants to cut the grass, she can, but I won't make her. That was a chore at my house that everyone did, no matter boy or girl. But it wasn't like my dad made her. I think she just enjoys it. It's her time. Yeah, you know, yeah.

SPEAKER_05 31:13

Yeah, yeah, yeah. I'm okay. Never mowed the grass in my life.

SPEAKER_01 31:17

I keep seeing these funny videos where moms with little kids mow the grass for the first time, and they've like unlocked this incredible thing. Like, why haven't I been doing that? Yeah, it's like I get three hours to sit on a mower. What the fuck? Three hours. Just wait. Whatever size lawn they have, an hour, two hours, three hours, you know, whatever the case may be, with your headphones on, sun tanning, no one can bother you. All you can hear is the mower. And they're like, My husband's been stealing this thing the whole time. Or on top of it. He can be inside with screaming toddlers while I'm out here just vibing for two hours.

SPEAKER_02 31:52

Yeah, the hard yeah, the hard weed whack. Taylor tried it because of the same thing you just said. Yeah, and she did it for about 30 minutes, and she's like, Okay, I'm bored. Taylor's patience, she has the patience of a gnat. Like, she has zero patience, not even zero, less than zero, whatever that is. And she she made it about 30 minutes because she's like, wait a minute, you get you get you get two hours of quietness, podcast time, relaxing, and she's like, I want to try it. And so she did, and she was all set. But I I thought I thought for sure I was gonna lose that chore. When she said she wanted to do it, I'm like, she's gonna see how great this is, and I'm gonna lose this chore because it is that. It's nice. Back to the first question, the dad guilt. That's one of the things, too, mowing the lawn. And so that's why that's why when you guys come over and see my house and I have a jungle in my backyard, it's because I don't I feel guilty going on.

SPEAKER_05 32:40

He should hire Ricardo, he rocks.

SPEAKER_06 32:43

He does.

SPEAKER_03 32:43

Shut up. I I definitely feel that guilt as well.

SPEAKER_06 32:45

But he wouldn't ever let me mow the grass because I'd probably fuck it up.

SPEAKER_03 32:48

No, he could add the grass.

SPEAKER_04 32:49

No, I feel like it's hard because the things that I've we take the traditional roles, just that's like kind of how it's happened.

SPEAKER_02 32:58

Except I mop and I vacuum.

SPEAKER_04 33:00

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 33:01

That's a millennial dad. But yeah, guilt doesn't do all the cookings, though. We're changing the game.

SPEAKER_04 33:06

But I can do that with them around.

SPEAKER_01 33:09

Yeah.

SPEAKER_04 33:10

And then obviously they can't be around on a mower.

SPEAKER_02 33:13

I don't think we're far away from Charlie sitting on my lap while we mow. Maybe she's not gonna do it for the whole two and a half hours, but she'll do the backyard or the front yard. I don't think that's why.

SPEAKER_05 33:21

I've seen so many. I know the horror. Yeah, my a friend of mine kid got ran over by a riding lawn mower and lost her like sorry.

SPEAKER_02 33:29

Grandma got run over by a reindeer.

unknown 33:31

No.

SPEAKER_04 33:32

Didn't you go to school with somebody that they called Potato Foot? Because he lost all these. Potato Foot? Because it was run over by a question for the gentleman.

SPEAKER_03 33:44

Before you go, did we finish what we were just talking about?

SPEAKER_04 33:46

Everybody does. This is you guys really keep us on sketch.

SPEAKER_02 33:51

What we want our kids to remember about us been a moment.

SPEAKER_04 33:53

Nope, that was like four questions because we were talking about girl dads. Oh, no.

SPEAKER_00 33:57

No, no, no.

SPEAKER_05 33:57

Yeah, we have to see. Oh, you're right. It got all fucked up when Dylan stood up for pizza.

SPEAKER_03 34:02

I'll answer next. I want 85 boys. I got work to be done. Keep them coming. You have work to be done. Boys are for Warren, girls are for Torin. I I honestly thought about this a million times. I could not care if it is a girl or a boy. I would love another boy, and I would love it. Like I thought about it a million times.

SPEAKER_05 34:22

I think I have to see Adam as a girl that. That's what I was gonna say. I feel like a girl for Adam would I feel like it would just work. It would rock your world, but I think in the best way. Yeah. Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 34:31

Or so attached to that kid as is. Did if this this is a girl, man.

SPEAKER_02 34:37

I think he is gonna be in his anxiety level. Yes, his anxiety level is gonna go through the roof. His like protectiveness is gonna go through the roof.

SPEAKER_04 34:46

Oh yeah.

SPEAKER_02 34:47

For sure.

SPEAKER_05 34:47

He's gonna fucking have like mom. Like, let me just like going out with my friends. They're just short. Yeah. They're to my knees.

SPEAKER_06 35:02

Like, hold on, let me get the scissors, I'll cut it.

SPEAKER_01 35:04

Or change it, or change religion. Put your mother's turban on to get back to the house.

SPEAKER_05 35:10

He's gonna be like, absolutely not, go fucking change. Return to Islam. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 35:15

Having one of each has been awesome. I you know that it kind of completes things there. But I I have to say, I love having a boy so much, but I feel like having a boy didn't change me a lot in the way that I needed to learn to understand. Obviously, when you're in love with your partner, you try and learn as much as you can about them. But having a little girl stops. Having a little girl, I I had to learn to slow down and be patient and deal with you know constant changes in emotions. And constantly you had to learn.

SPEAKER_05 35:58

I'm sorry, Adam.

SPEAKER_01 36:00

It's different. Let me let me just explain. It's it's different from your spouse. It's you're learning about I thought you'd be a veteran. You're learning about a woman's soul from the ground up. And oh, that's a really good thing. They treat, you know, they they teach you patience.

SPEAKER_05 36:17

So deep. Where is this at? Well, we're gonna like. Let them go, let them cook, let them go. Let them cook.

SPEAKER_00 36:23

I'm sorry.

SPEAKER_01 36:26

No, I was just saying you they teach you about a woman's soul from the ground up, and you get to see kind of a range of emotions, and you learn kindness and patience, and it's it just really changes a guy because you just it's something you never understood growing up. You know, you're you're taught to be hard and you're prepared by your father in different ways that the world's gonna is kind of unforgivable on a man. You know, it's just a the the things you have to go through, you have to go through with toughness and and bury it down. But when it comes to being a good father to a girl, you have to change all of that and relearn and you have to become soft. And it's just uh it's it's quite an experience. So I, you know, having a boy, you know, I already have the emotions of, yeah, I have to teach him to be tough and you know, but but kind and respectful to people and yada yada. But with with having a girl, you have to change everything that you kind of once thought was the way to approach the world. So it's definitely an eye-opener, more of an eye-opener having a girl than a boy, I thought, in my opinion. But I'm so thankful to have both because it feels like it makes me a more well-rounded father.

Raising Tough Kids Without Shame

SPEAKER_04 37:40

Now, Gil, now now that you have a boy, do you feel like you'll raise him that same way of like you have to answer everything and toughness and like kind of how you just said that?

SPEAKER_01 37:51

It's a good question. I think yes and no would be my answer. I think that as a man, you kind of learn growing up and I this may upset some people, but you have to learn that the world doesn't really care about your feelings. So something only men listening to this can understand is the world doesn't care how you feel about things. So there is a certain level of toughness that you have to have as a man, and just learning how to get through things and be the backbone for your family and be strong no matter what. If you're the kind of husband that just turns into a puddle of tears at any time something gets tough, you're probably not gonna have a strong family unit and have your kids respect you as their hero and the backbone of the family and things like that. So uh to answer your question, Taylor, yes, I think there's a huge aspect of it that you have to train them how to be tough. And but I think there's it's not all tough love. I think you can teach them that it's okay to be kindness, it's okay to ask for help, and having humility is not weakness. I think that's a generational change from that. So I think it's just like a little bit of tweaking, but there's some things that just have always worked, and some things that need to be changed in the way boys are raised in the future.

SPEAKER_05 39:16

And I think it I mean, obviously I'm a woman, but I I think at least for me, it shows more manly and more it shows more strength when you're able to be vulnerable and open up and show your kids that or show your son at least, like being emotional isn't a weakness. Having being able to be open and communicate with your spouse and with your kids, those are not negatives. You know, I being a girl in a family with the boys and girls, it was my dad, he was much harder on my brother in a lot of ways. And you know, so now like as adults, like we're much closer to my dad than my brother is, and I think that, you know, I think it's important to make sure your kids know that you can be emotional with all of them and fight the gender.

SPEAKER_01 40:02

It's like I'm gonna teach you how to be tough, but I will also be your safe place, you know.

SPEAKER_04 40:07

No, that's a good way to put it. All right, now we're gonna give the guys a chance to kind of give it back a little bit.

Couples Game And Friendly Roasts

SPEAKER_04 40:14

We all know that we uh complain.

SPEAKER_05 40:16

Oh, we know hit it from the back.

SPEAKER_04 40:18

Around mid fire.

SPEAKER_06 40:20

All right. Be ready, Rainys. Let us know who's should we have an order going? Most likely to order something online at 11 p.m.

SPEAKER_02 40:28

Katie.

SPEAKER_06 40:29

I was gonna say the same thing.

SPEAKER_01 40:32

Katie every day.

SPEAKER_03 40:34

Every time I come over your house, I'm like stepping over Amazon boxes. Like, obviously, I have to go welcome.

SPEAKER_05 40:38

Anywhere else.

SPEAKER_03 40:39

Oh, I usually step on them.

SPEAKER_05 40:41

Oh my god. I don't like going to like stores, so I buy most of my shit on Amazon. Okay.

SPEAKER_06 40:47

Okay. Who is most likely to say I'm fine when she's not?

SPEAKER_03 40:51

Taylor. I would say yeah. I guess every woman would say in general. Yeah. So all of us, you know. All right. We get to hear that a lot.

SPEAKER_01 40:59

The female response.

SPEAKER_05 41:01

Well, yeah, I I'm really guilty of that. I'll say it. I like if I'm pissed off and don't want to talk about it. In rebuttal to that though, Katie, you wear your feelings on your face.

SPEAKER_04 41:10

Yeah, you could say you're fine.

SPEAKER_02 41:11

Someone call that a resting bitch face. So do you though. I when you I I know when if you say you're fine, I know like it's so obvious if you're not. I'm like, okay, well, let's cut the bullshit. Let's cut the bullshit. Like, let's just get back. Let's just let's just talk about it.

SPEAKER_05 41:25

If I'm pissed, you know.

SPEAKER_02 41:26

Oh, yeah.

SPEAKER_05 41:27

I can change the fucking energy.

SPEAKER_02 41:30

Big old see you next Tuesday.

SPEAKER_05 41:34

I know. I just like I don't know why that is, though. I don't try to do it. I try to avoid that. You're a strong personality.

SPEAKER_03 41:40

Just call it being a bitch.

SPEAKER_02 41:42

I'm just gonna say that's that's another way of saying you're a Gil, you have any?

SPEAKER_05 41:46

Because Dylan called me a C U and T Jesus.

SPEAKER_02 41:50

No, I didn't. What does that mean?

SPEAKER_05 41:51

You just called me a C next Tuesday.

SPEAKER_02 41:53

I'm coming over to babysit Bowie next Tuesday, and so I was talking to him. I said, I'll see you next Tuesday, buddy.

SPEAKER_05 41:59

I'll see you next Tuesday. Okay. Well, all right, and Adam called me a bitch. So, Gil, you got anything about me?

SPEAKER_06 42:06

You guys are right. Okay. This one's Katie said, and moving on. Who's mostly to forget why she walked into a room?

SPEAKER_01 42:16

Katie.

SPEAKER_06 42:18

I'm gonna have to agree with that one.

SPEAKER_01 42:20

Who's most likely to knock something over when she walks in? Katie.

SPEAKER_05 42:24

Katie.

SPEAKER_03 42:24

Oh, yeah. I'm surprised. I'm like, thankfully we're up here, and if she knocks all these beers over, I won't care. I'm like, oh no problem.

SPEAKER_05 42:30

I was like, well, then why don't we hang out here more? Because this is a safe space for me to spill shit.

SPEAKER_02 42:34

Yeah, that's very who's most likely to end up with their meal on their shirt? Taylor. Taylor.

SPEAKER_05 42:38

Taylor. I love that about her. We need to bring a backup shirt whenever we go places because she's a bib. Babe bibs.

SPEAKER_02 42:47

Babe bibs. Yo, that's a good idea for some merch. Momish babe bibs. Sponsored by Taylor.

SPEAKER_06 42:54

There you go. Is it what we're doing?

SPEAKER_02 42:57

Yeah, it's an adult bib.

SPEAKER_06 42:58

Yeah. Oh Lord. Whose? I feel like this is all Gary. Oh god. I mean, who's most likely to make a target run and spend over a hundred dollars?

SPEAKER_03 43:08

Katie. Girls.

SPEAKER_06 43:10

Oh. You kept it low though.

SPEAKER_02 43:12

I just Taylor's only diapers? Taylor feels guilty about shopping. She's like, I want to buy this shirt, and I've been, it's in my cart forever, and I feel like I want to buy it. And I'm like, Taylor, I just spent $500 on dirt bike parts yesterday. Your shirt cost $30. Buy the shirt.

SPEAKER_05 43:30

$500 on dirt bikes parts. It's been a while.

SPEAKER_02 43:33

Since I have kids, I don't think crazy. Why would you do that? I don't make those orders. Wait, Mount Adam has $3,000 worth of RC cars in his gonna be like.

SPEAKER_05 43:41

I was gonna ask, are you still into that?

SPEAKER_02 43:43

We're good. I sold a lot of them.

SPEAKER_05 43:46

Oh my god.

SPEAKER_02 43:48

Bill's got a gun collection that costs $100 altogether.

SPEAKER_05 43:56

Just call them what they're what they are. They're fucking toys. They're remote.

SPEAKER_03 44:03

I was going through a midlife crisis, guys. No, it was a really cool one. Well, I like it.

SPEAKER_05 44:09

Are you planning to die at C?

SPEAKER_01 44:10

Could have bought a Miata, so count your blessing.

SPEAKER_03 44:12

I've got a hilarious story. I bought a jet ski at the age of like 20, and I felt like I was going through it.

SPEAKER_02 44:16

I know like the the goal right now is to roast the girls, and we can get back to that because it's super easy. But a really funny story, side story about Adam's RC car hobby. It's fun to make it fun and easy to make fun of for sure. But as a boy, like every kid loved RC cars as a kid. And like when you're a kid, you want like you want the really expensive cool ones that you can't afford because you don't have money and your parents won't buy them. So Adam did what we all want to do or wish we could do is spend the money on the really cool ones that like go super fire time climb on the streets. Exactly.

SPEAKER_03 44:45

The entire time I was like, I can't wait to spend this money on him or to have these nice ones or cooler ones. Yeah, but then you played with them more than he would.

SPEAKER_04 44:54

Well, no, he's or you sold them.

SPEAKER_02 44:56

Yeah, that's the story. Sorry. Anyway, we Adam bought these really cool, expensive RC cars. They're super fun. We get to our beach trip last year, and immediately I was like, Adam, let's go play with the RC cars. So we go out into the driveway of or on Carolina Beach.

SPEAKER_04 45:09

And some women are worried that their men are out there cheating.

SPEAKER_02 45:12

No cars are not moving. We're out in the driveway. And Adam's Adam's current Adam's driving his like really fast RC car in the street, and we're in the middle of talking about how expensive it was. And I was like, and I was like, dude, Taylor would have my balls if I spent that much money on an RC car. And as I'm saying this, Adam drives it out into the street, and a car's coming, and he has minutes to make a move to get his RC car out of the road. And so he's trying to drive it out of the way, and of course, drives it directly under the wheels of a Jeep Wrangler. This is seconds after him telling me the price point, which is crazy. And I watch a Jeep Wrangler running over both wheels exploding. He pulled the car off of the street, and then as the car was coming, reversed right under the wheels. There's a hard time last thing.

SPEAKER_01 45:57

If you remember, though, he was on the sidewalk in safety as the Jeep approached. He could have taken his fingers off the controller, didn't put it back in the street, and then it got run out. That was the better part.

SPEAKER_03 46:11

Some things would have been really cool, some things don't end really cool, and that didn't end really well.

SPEAKER_04 46:15

I would just, I would like to say that we just opened the floor for you to roast us, and instead you guys are roasting each other. And it has to be a lot of people.

SPEAKER_02 46:26

Because we know if we roast you guys, we're gonna go home and it's gonna be like honor car rides. We drive home. Do you really think that about me?

SPEAKER_01 46:32

Like are you kidding?

SPEAKER_06 46:34

Oh my god, this is a safe space. Do you talk?

Pet Peeves And Home Life Friction

SPEAKER_06 46:38

Do you have like a pet peeve that I know this is gonna cause an argument? But yeah, what is your pet peeve for us?

SPEAKER_02 46:44

Taylor's patience. Taylor's patience. Taylor's patience. Yeah. None. And she doesn't ever wash anything before she puts in the dishwasher, which I understand dishwasher is to clean something. But Taylor will strike. Taylor will take a bowl of pasta, half eaten, and throw it in the dishwasher and then be like, why is our dishwasher making so much noise? Well, because it has more food than our garbage has in it.

SPEAKER_05 47:04

If I could wash the dish, then what's the point of the dishwasher?

SPEAKER_02 47:08

Just scrape the plate a little bit. It's not like me.

SPEAKER_05 47:14

Then just put it, yeah, put it in there. They come out fine.

SPEAKER_02 47:16

Put it in there, don't take care of it. Do they?

SPEAKER_05 47:19

But you don't. I'll say Dylan rinse them out like after the fact. Okay. That's when they come out fine. Taylor. I empty the dishwasher every day.

SPEAKER_04 47:26

I load it starting.

SPEAKER_02 47:28

But I have I load it. No, you don't empty it. I also have to fix the dishwasher though when it's broken.

SPEAKER_04 47:34

Well, I mean, it's been broken for two months, so it's it's working.

SPEAKER_02 47:37

I just want to remind you, you said this was a safe space. It is safe space. Exactly. Exactly. It's like shot fire.

SPEAKER_03 47:45

I'm just saying. I'm not disappointed.

SPEAKER_01 47:47

You're wrong.

SPEAKER_02 47:48

You're absolutely wrong.

SPEAKER_03 47:49

I'm fucking wrong.

SPEAKER_01 47:50

I'm entitled to your opinion, but you're wrong, and I hate you.

SPEAKER_05 47:53

What's your biggest? What's your pet peeve about me?

SPEAKER_01 47:55

God, I'm trying to narrow it now. I'm trying to trying to funnel it here into uh into one.

SPEAKER_05 48:03

Okay, what's your top three? Jesus.

SPEAKER_01 48:05

Top ten.

SPEAKER_06 48:06

This is the roast of Katie, actually.

SPEAKER_05 48:07

Yeah. If you guys didn't know.

SPEAKER_01 48:09

One of my biggest pet peeves happened last night where I cooked dinner. I did that shit. I made plates for both of our kids, and you had the nerve to get up off the sofa, walk into the kitchen, and ask me why I didn't serve you also.

SPEAKER_05 48:25

No, I didn't. I was not, I didn't see that you had made food for the kids.

SPEAKER_01 48:29

I'm shopping on Amazon. Like I just made dinner and for us and the kids.

SPEAKER_00 48:33

No, I wasn't even referring to me, but okay.

SPEAKER_02 48:36

You're that or you're she said, she said, she goes, Oh yeah, I did that shit. I did this, and then proceeds to still defend herself.

SPEAKER_05 48:43

No, that's not when you're thought you were referring to me falling asleep on the couch last night.

SPEAKER_01 48:48

No, I don't really care. I know you need your sleep. One of the other ones is your protein shakes. Katie makes a protein shake before she goes to work. He hates it. And then she brings it home the next morning. And I have asked her over and over and over again, just rinse it out real quick. And she leaves it there all day. So one's the last thing I'm gonna do. When I go do the dishes and open it to rinse it, it smells like a dead body.

SPEAKER_05 49:13

No, it doesn't.

SPEAKER_01 49:14

The thing is, do you drink it and then leave it on the room?

SPEAKER_05 49:16

I drink it on the way so it's empty.

SPEAKER_01 49:17

But but but it's overnight.

SPEAKER_05 49:23

It's really not that bad. It's overnight.

SPEAKER_01 49:25

Smelly.

SPEAKER_05 49:26

And I most of the time do it because I don't want to hear his mouth. But sometimes I do, I'm so fucking tired in the morning that if it's not done, if I don't do it, it's because I am literally can barely get to the couch because I'm so tired. But it really doesn't smell that bad. I think you're being a little dramatic. But yes, I do do that shit. It's fine.

SPEAKER_01 49:46

You're not making me feel safe. She's owning up to it.

SPEAKER_05 49:48

I'm owning up to it.

SPEAKER_01 49:50

Owning up to it with a 12-minute defense.

SPEAKER_05 49:52

That was like again, the exaggeration.

SPEAKER_01 49:54

Owning up to it is, yeah, I did that. I'll I'll try to be better. I'm sorry.

SPEAKER_05 49:58

That's owning up to the exaggeration of time. That was like 30 seconds. Just throw the whole thing in there.

SPEAKER_03 50:04

Just don't even open it.

SPEAKER_02 50:05

Just throw it in there. On another note, I did learn about the uh, which we're gonna have to invest in this recently that Bosch makes a dishwasher that actually prefers it to be loaded with a lot of food and it works better.

SPEAKER_03 50:15

It's like, yes, please put shit in glue. Generally, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 50:19

That's that's how logical dishwashers are. This is a Bosch one that markets itself as you don't need to clean your dishes beforehand. It's basically a built-in garbage disposal with the floor.

SPEAKER_04 50:31

That's so crazy.

SPEAKER_02 50:33

Well, I think we need to invest in it if you're gonna put the whole plate of food in there.

SPEAKER_03 50:36

So I just it would need a garbage disposal in it to work. Maybe it does. I don't know if I don't fucking make it. So then it would have to pump like across to your sink.

SPEAKER_05 50:48

Dylan, I feel like it's like it's a fair trade that you bring, you probably like the fact that you guys don't have ants in your bed is probably a miracle because you eat full dinner plates.

SPEAKER_02 50:58

It's not a miracle. I eat all the food. There's no food for the ants to eat.

SPEAKER_05 51:02

No, I found a crumb on the floor and I was like, is this a cheese it? And she goes, Yeah, it's probably Dylan. It's a turf.

SPEAKER_02 51:06

We haven't had cheese in a long time.

SPEAKER_05 51:08

So Dylan.

SPEAKER_02 51:09

No, there's one thing you'll never find in my bed, and it's crumbs because I would lose my mind if the one crumb touched me while I was trying to sleep.

SPEAKER_05 51:16

Yeah. That's that's what I asked me to do.

SPEAKER_02 51:18

I might eat in the bed, but no crumbs are in there.

SPEAKER_05 51:20

Yeah, my favorite memory of Dylan is when we went to the beach for the first time. And Dylan and I are we say a plate and everybody's gone to bed. And we thought Dylan was asleep, gone for like 45 minutes, comes back upstairs in his underwear, and he's just like rummaging around the kitchen, just walks down, like walks the stairs with a giant plate of spaghetti. And we were like, What are you doing? And he's like, I'm about to go to bed. And I'm like, You have spaghetti in your hand. Why don't you eat it here in the kitchen? And he was like, No, I'm gonna eat it. But I'm like, the Taylor, I you were you were a saint because I would fucking lose it if Gil came in the bed and spaghetti.

SPEAKER_02 51:56

No, she only gets mad if it's if it's crunchy food. Like if I bring if I bring a pickle to bed, she's oh man.

SPEAKER_05 52:01

Or the turkey leg that you woke up with beside

Biggest Parent Arguments And Patience

SPEAKER_05 52:05

your bed.

SPEAKER_04 52:05

Oh okay, here's a good question. At like since you became parents, what was like the biggest disagreement or like argument our mornings, getting ready for work?

SPEAKER_05 52:17

You guys argue in the morning?

SPEAKER_03 52:18

Yes, at least four in the morning.

SPEAKER_05 52:21

Gil and Katie don't speak. We don't speak for at least two hours. You can't argue if you don't talk. Yeah. There you go.

SPEAKER_06 52:32

I had to get up at like four or four thirty and trying to get out the house on time.

SPEAKER_03 52:36

If you're waking up at 4 30, arguments are gonna happen no matter what. Like 4 30 in a week.

SPEAKER_05 52:41

Not if you don't speak.

SPEAKER_01 52:42

No one's happy at that hour.

SPEAKER_05 52:44

That's why we don't talk. Because there's nothing nice coming out of it.

SPEAKER_03 52:47

I I agree. I just yeah. I think you wanted your time with it in the morning, but which I understand, but I didn't think it was 100% necessary every day. Wait.

SPEAKER_06 52:56

So this is gonna cause an argument.

SPEAKER_03 52:58

You're right.

unknown 52:59

Uh-oh.

SPEAKER_05 52:59

Okay, next person. Gild, I don't know. What have our biggest arguments been? It's usually over something stupid.

SPEAKER_02 53:06

It's usually not something to do with the kids.

SPEAKER_01 53:07

Yeah, this is specifically for the kids related. We don't argue about kids a lot.

SPEAKER_05 53:12

No, I don't.

SPEAKER_01 53:13

It's usually some dumb shit. Like our last argument was when I made a comment about you not washing your protein shake out.

SPEAKER_05 53:19

Oh, yeah, that's right.

SPEAKER_01 53:21

That was our last fight. Yeah. She's like, I just vacuumed the whole living room and you had the audacity.

SPEAKER_05 53:25

I did say that. And then we just didn't talk about it because we both know it was stupid.

SPEAKER_03 53:29

So we just here's something, here's something I want to talk about is that I feel like me and Gabby both have so much patience for Bowie. And we learn to give each other patience, him patience. But I feel like that sometimes we forget to give each other patience.

SPEAKER_06 53:46

We get stressed out.

SPEAKER_03 53:47

Trying to have patience for him. Well, yeah, you like it.

SPEAKER_01 53:49

And then we take rid of all your bandwidth on him. Yeah. Having patience for Adam is just a learned skill in general.

SPEAKER_05 53:55

I mean, I still haven't learned it, and we've been friends for how long? I don't know. I don't know what that's like. Being married to you, Gabby, is you're so strong, Gabby. You're so strong. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 54:07

I would say ours related to the kids, which there's not much. I think the like really the only thing, and it's my fault, is I like I will, if Charlie's misbehaving, or really just Charlie, if Charlie's misbehaving or doing something, and I'm stressed, I'll forget to have like the patience part, and I'll go up and like Taylor, Charlie, put that down. Charlie, you can't have that. Put that down, give it back. And Taylor will be trying to make Charlie listen, and I'll forget the proper thing to do, and I'll just get up and go over there and take it from her. And Taylor's like, that's not how you do things. And I know that. And I usually don't do that, but then she'll like get mad at me, and I'm like, Well, I'm trying to help you. Like, I you were she wasn't listening to you, so I'm trying to help you. And she's like, Yeah, but it's not the right thing to do. So that's really the only thing that I can think of that's kids related.

SPEAKER_04 54:49

Dylan gets cranky. Dylan gets cranky when he it doesn't get sleep. No, but Dylan gets me.

SPEAKER_03 54:56

Yeah, I do. I get snappy.

SPEAKER_04 54:58

Do I get snappy?

SPEAKER_03 55:00

Yeah. You're basically always snappy.

SPEAKER_05 55:03

Why not?

SPEAKER_03 55:03

You live in a snappy state. You get patience. You're not always snappy. I'm just thinking about it, Dylan.

SPEAKER_05 55:09

Thank you, Dylan.

SPEAKER_03 55:10

Sometimes you get soft. Sorry, I thought we were allowed to roast.

SPEAKER_05 55:13

No, it's fine. No, I'm not always snappy.

SPEAKER_01 55:15

I feel like I'm You're not always snappy. We were just kidding. You should have done this. You should have been, I'm not fucking snappy.

SPEAKER_04 55:21

What are these?

SPEAKER_06 55:22

You see Arcade on snapped the show, you know.

SPEAKER_04 55:26

All right, now to end our episode on a hike.

Advice For New Dads

SPEAKER_04 55:29

What is one piece of advice or thing that you would say to a friend or a new dad?

SPEAKER_02 55:35

Embrace it. All of it. It's gonna be the best thing in the world. Yes, it's late nights. Yes, it's harder than anything you'll ever do, but it is like it's not corny to say it, and it's not cliche, or maybe it is, but it's true. Like it is the greatest thing in the world. Like nothing, it's the both the hardest thing you'll ever do and both easiest thing you'll ever do because you love it so much. So just embrace it, go all in. Don't wait for the perfect time. I have friends that are waiting to be in the right time of life. Like we were in a good place when we had kids, but if I had met you years before and we had the relationship we had, I I would give myself that advice. Have your kids because you will, as long as you're not living on the streets, you're gonna find a way. And it's yeah, it is the best thing in the world. So embrace it, do it, go for it, don't wait for the right time because you will you promise you you'll regret every day that you waited once you have kids.

SPEAKER_05 56:29

There's never a perfect time either. There's always gonna be some excuse you can make, yeah, you know, so just do it. Yeah, just have sex, not on the second.

SPEAKER_03 56:39

Yeah, mine would also definitely be don't wait. Don't wait for perfect time. It's don't listen to people. They're gonna tell you, oh, every person I have talked to saying, you know, as soon as we're having a kid, oh, your life's over. No, my life just started. This is the and this is yeah, this might just be a construction site thing, but it's always like, oh, the kids were one. And and I'm like, dude, you fucking suck as a person. Yeah, fuck the fucking I am friends.

SPEAKER_01 57:04

Maybe you're a shitty dad.

SPEAKER_02 57:06

Would say things like that. I'm like, you're just either like a bad parent, you're not meant to be a parent, or or you're not looking at it from the right angle. Yeah. I I have friends that would like complain about like, oh, dude, it's it's so hard. I I never sleep. It's I don't have any free time to do anything. You've you find free time to do things, especially if you have the right partner. But I had another friend on the same note tell me one time, yes, it's hard, yes, there's late nights, yes, there's tough days, but there's nothing better in the world. Like you might have a kid that cries all night long and it might be hard while they're a kid, but that goes away. And at the same time, there's nothing better than the feeling when you go into their room of a crying kid who's hysterical and their world lights up when you walk in the room. And they put their hands up to it. You are the only thing on the planet that is gonna fix them in that state, and it's just so empowering.

SPEAKER_03 57:51

You like I wish I had someone say that to me because not a single person ever said that. It was all that's a little bit more than that. No, no, no, no, no. I want to be very clear. That's besides you two. Just anyone that I dealt with on a day-to-day basis was just pure this year work friends.

Do Dads Need A Dad Community

SPEAKER_04 58:08

I have a question for you guys. This is something I'm just gonna say.

SPEAKER_03 58:10

That's why you guys have never met them. There you go.

SPEAKER_04 58:13

No, it's kind of off the script, but like we obviously started a podcast just to kind of talk through, and but we like obviously like being a mom is a community in itself, and we like lean on each other a lot. And I mean, we started a podcast for that exact reason to just like navigate motherhood. Do you feel like you guys like do the same thing as dads?

SPEAKER_02 58:34

Not in the we don't talk about it in the group chat, but we talk about it in person. Like when we're hanging out, we'll talk about like, oh, Charlie did this, Bowie did this, Noah did this. So yeah, I would say it, I would say in in person we talked about it a lot, not so much in the group chat. Group chat's more like funny jabs, cool stuff, cool videos. But I would say when we're hanging out, like either yeah, shooting like going shooting or sitting outside when we're all hanging out, having beers away from you guys.

SPEAKER_04 58:58

But not just talk about your kids, but like like I remember when I was trying to breastfeed, like I kept calling Katie. I'm like, how do you do this? What do you do? This how do I is this the right thing? Did you guys like do you kind of like lean on each other as dads or no?

SPEAKER_02 59:10

I don't know, not so much. I feel like I feel like we kind of all just sounds cocky as shit, but I feel like we kind of all have like decent instinct and more so like confirm it with one another, if anything, or like it comes up in story and we make note of it. But I yeah, I would say like maybe not leaning on each other, but I don't know, confirming it really, if anything.

SPEAKER_05 59:31

I could say, like, well, I mean, I guess I don't know what it's like to be a dad, but I feel like with being a mom, you know, there's a lot of things that like, you know, that are instinctual for us, but then there's so many things that I feel like need to be talked about more, and that we are you just kind of are left to fend for yourself. So I feel like we we leaned on each other a lot more with that kind of thing, where it's like breastfeeding and pumping and like what did you try? Did you try this? Blah blah blah. So, like, you know, with with dad, I don't know, maybe with dads it's a little different.

SPEAKER_03 1:00:03

I think I think we rely on you guys a lot.

SPEAKER_02 1:00:06

Yeah, that's true. That's that's very true. I think rather than go to each other, we go to you guys. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 1:00:11

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 1:00:11

I I think Gilbert gave good advice to both Adam and I before we had kids. Like, I know he told me multiple things when Taylor was pregnant with Charlie, and then I remember him saying, like, giving Adam multiple bits of advice when Adam was not pregnant when he was expecting to have Bowie. In terms of advice, we rely more on you guys.

SPEAKER_04 1:00:30

Yeah. All right, Gil, what would you tell Ningan? What's your advice? What's your bit?

SPEAKER_01 1:00:34

I would say, you know, and Katie and I talk about this a lot, but the biggest thing is you just have to keep in mind that the days are long, but the years are short. I mean, we're getting ready to celebrate the first birthdays coming up here. Yeah. I mean, Bowie and Crew and Isla are about to turn one. And you know, when you're in the tough you're in the tough parts in the beginning, it's it's the trenches, but uh all I can tell you is is don't blink because it's gonna be over before you know it. And we love the you know, it's from Modern Family when Jay talks about You just talked about when Jay talks about every every phase of life comes and goes, you know, they're they're newborns, and then you have you know toddl that ask these curious questions and learning to talk, and they go from you know, sitting in your arms like a potato to crawling across the floor, and you know, crew and bowie and eyelid now they're you know sprinting in their walkers, banging into walls, and they're all about to start walking, and it's just every every phase of it that day feels long, and there's there's hard nights, there's arguing, but you blink and they're one and then they're two, and Noah's in preschool, and you know, it's I'm gonna see her getting on a bus before I know it. You can't go on a bus? No, but you know you know what I mean. It's just just like Dylan said, just live in that moment because it's it's one of the it's one of the fastest good times I've experienced in my 36 years of life. It just no time flies like watching them grow. So just be present.

Father’s Day Thanks And Closing

SPEAKER_04 1:02:16

Well, with that, we will wrap up.

SPEAKER_02 1:02:19

I thought we were doing we'll be back, guys.

SPEAKER_05 1:02:21

Well, I just thank you so much. Yeah, I want to. And happy Father's Day. I know it may not feel like it sometimes, but we do appreciate all of you, even you, Adam. I appreciate you. Very grateful for the strong men that are in the house. Because we wouldn't be able to do it without you. Not the whole obviously the baby making part, but like the rest of it. We we love to have you and uh we appreciate you, and happy father's day. Happy first Father's Day, Adam.

SPEAKER_01 1:02:49

Thanks. Happy first, buddy.

SPEAKER_04 1:02:52

And just remember, motherhood isn't perfect, neither are we. Laugh, swear, hug your kids, sip your drink, your momish, and that's it.