Honesty: An Explanation

How do we explain why showing up matters? Arya focuses on a different definition of honesty and how it brings the value of showing up for those that are our Ohana. 

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Transcript

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Good morning. Good afternoon. Good evening. And welcome back to Ma. Thank you for joining us today. So I'd like to dive into the the topic for today. And it's um gonna have a little bit of Ohana in it. I know I've done that a few times, but I'm still on the beautiful beaches of Waikiki, and way in the back is um Diamond Head, and um this place obviously reminds me of what and why Ohana is so important, and also I love being here and I love the people and it uh just brings back some really good memories. So the topic today is honesty and explanation, and that's because since I've been here, um I've started to notice um something. As I've gotten older, honesty means something uh different than it did when I was much younger. When I was younger, honesty meant that you told the truth about something, but sometimes it was hard to tell that truth and it became a burden. And for me now, honesty is actually allowing others to understand the why. Yesterday, uh one of my children didn't want to join in a family activity, and sometimes parents can say, Well, you have to do it no matter what, it just is. And that is one way to handle it, and if that works for your family, then that works. But it didn't work for me because when I grew up, I grew up around people who didn't always think about uh the people around them. I I don't believe it was intentional. I think sometimes it simply just wasn't understood the impact that they had when they weren't there. And when you're the person left waiting, you remember maybe that's why Ohana means so much to me. As having Ohana being a part of a family and having them realize that it means showing up for each other no matter what. And that's why honesty as an explanation, while it might be the hardest part of Ahana, is also the greatest gift we could give to our children, our spouse, our family, our friends, and the world. What I'm trying to say is if we have an an honest way that we do things, what about explaining why we do it? Especially in a situation when it comes to children, because they respond to that, they respond to an adult talking to them and taking the time to talk to them, and that led me to realize that that's the hardest part of Ohana, because in Ohana, no one gets left behind or forgotten, but that also means that you are there for your ohana all the time, and sometimes that could be meaning you're sitting through an activity that you would rather be at home, but you still go because that's your ohana, and I think that's beautiful. I think it's beautiful watching it amongst people, I think it's beautiful seeing it with children, and so we do things together because of ohana and love, and that comes from us being honest in a way where honesty is an explanation, and that can involve our ohana as well, and so as as I normally do, I would like to leave you with the question what does honesty mean to you and in the definition that it means to you, is it a burden or can it be a positive? This podcast has been produced by Sentinel Studios.