Ep 8: Am I The Asshole?

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SPEAKER_02 0:00

Hi everyone, welcome back to Triple Take.

SPEAKER_03 0:03

I'm Denisa. I'm Minnie. I'm Momsa. And this is episode. What episode are we even on now? I don't know. I don't know. But welcome back everyone. Let's go.

SPEAKER_02 0:19

As you can see from the title, we are going to be doing live updates and also um got some fun questions for you guys today from Reddit. Yay! You actually love like watching these type of videos, don't you? Yeah, I love watching Smash. Yeah. So it'd be fun to like hear your opinions.

SPEAKER_03 0:40

So wait, so we're we're we're doing it Am I the Asshole today?

SPEAKER_02 0:44

Funny fact, like I don't know if we ever spoke about our fast fast recording before we even like had this set up for our podcast. We actually tried recording it in another location. So we had Wait, I think we've gotten into this lore before.

SPEAKER_03 1:00

Like we filmed a couple of I think it was like two or three and it almost be at like 2 a.m. Oh, it was so bad. I think like one time it was like we started at like midnight and we were trying to film like two episodes in one night, and it was really late. And like I think even our setup was really uncomfortable and stuff, and then I'll never forget.

SPEAKER_01 1:21

Like, there's just everything that could go wrong went wrong.

SPEAKER_03 1:24

Like we we just I guess we didn't even think about it in the long run. Like, we're sick, we're gonna be sitting there filming for like an hour every time, and it was like the seat was uncomfortable. I remember being just like upright like this, like the whole hour, fidgeting, yeah, and everything was just very disorganized.

SPEAKER_01 1:40

So the lighting it was so orange. Oh my god, I feel like we should release that as like a special, yeah. Or maybe I'll put a screenshot.

SPEAKER_03 1:51

Patreon! Patreon it's not open yet, yeah. It's not even that exists, unless anyone's interested.

SPEAKER_02 1:58

Yeah, you know, we we've actually been talking about how we well, it's mostly me. Like, actually, we can discuss it a little bit now. What do you think about that? I've been wanting to like post like other videos on our channel, and I really want I my favorite to be fair, yours as well. Like, our favourite type of food content content is food. Yeah. Um, who's your you favourite YouTuber?

SPEAKER_03 2:19

Mine is Harrison Webb. Oh, shout out, shout out Harrison Webb.

SPEAKER_02 2:23

But he's probably like your favourite YouTuber, no?

SPEAKER_03 2:25

Actually, no. No, I have so many, but um I like watching his.

SPEAKER_00 2:30

It's Remy.

SPEAKER_01 2:30

Yeah, I was gonna say Remy.

SPEAKER_00 2:31

Oh, yeah. I have too many. No, I have too many.

SPEAKER_03 2:35

No, no, no, go on. I like Jolly, I like Harrison Webb, I like Remy, Alicia, but that's just because you like their podcast, isn't it? No, no, but like I like Devlonch and Sophia and Chincia.

SPEAKER_02 2:47

Oh yes, that's true, that's true. Um I love I love watching like Jolly. I love watching, you know, I'm actually such a hater, but I do like watching um Cal Freeze. She like hates and then she watches everyone. No, but you see, I was actually discussing it this with Kevin yesterday. So you know how what I really appreciate about Jolly and I appreciate about um Harrison is they'll be like, oh, this is like not off my street, but maybe someone with this palette would like it, or you know, I the flavors like that.

SPEAKER_03 3:20

Like they're just describing how it is, so like someone watching could be like, oh, that's like I would like that.

SPEAKER_02 3:25

You can tell they're like proper foodie because the way they describe it, and they're very respectful. And obviously, you don't have to be respectful of like content. The whole point is that you should be honest, but um, I feel like with Freezy sometimes it's like, oh, I don't like I don't like cheese, and this burger has cheese, so then yeah, it's a it's a shit burger, you know?

SPEAKER_03 3:45

Oh yeah, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 3:46

Yeah, and then you know why Diash brought this up? Apparently, there's this food blogger on um TikTok, and apparently he's recently been cancelled because he's loads of restaurants have been calling him out. I don't know if you guys know of him. He's he's why he wears glasses, I think. And loads of restaurants have now come out saying like he basically like messaged them to invite him to come to their like restaurants. Oh my god so he like he asks for like oh can I come and like do a thingy, but as a food reviewer Wait, what?

SPEAKER_03 4:19

So he what are they cancelling him on? Because I feel like that's very standard to be like hey, I'm coming.

SPEAKER_02 4:24

Let me find the name because um apparently it's like right now it's pretty bad for him. But I don't know. I think people get cancelled with loads of things that's not even cancelable sometimes. So oh, eating with Todd, maybe eating with Todd. I think it's the first one that came out.

SPEAKER_00 4:40

I don't really watch a lot of food content anyways.

SPEAKER_02 4:43

But I know I really want to go in that direction, so uh maybe watch this space. We're gonna we're gonna eat Chick-fil-A guys. We haven't tried it.

SPEAKER_00 4:49

On Patreon, yeah, or on YouTube. Or maybe on YouTube. I don't think we can do Patreon.

SPEAKER_03 4:54

Um but yeah, we have been like thinking about that. We even during Christmas time, we even filmed a TikTok video too of us trying what is it called again? Tim War's Tim Hortons Christmas menu, and it was actually banging.

SPEAKER_00 5:08

It was so good. It was really good. I didn't want to record, I just want to eat it.

SPEAKER_03 5:11

Yeah, we were like no, we were actually like salivating over the Why did what happened to it?

SPEAKER_02 5:15

No, Nan never ends in it. No, that's my problem. Like, I actually hate myself for it. I think it's my habit. No, I have like no time management. I hate myself. No, it was like, do you remember it was New Year's and I was like, oh, the Tim Hortons video?

SPEAKER_03 5:26

Yeah, because obviously, because we filmed like a Christmas version because it was the menu for like the Christmas stuff. It's it's hard to post it when it's already like springtime now. Because obviously, like the whole point is to keep it like relevant. But anyway, uh maybe we can we can upload it.

SPEAKER_00 5:43

Wait what wait till next Christmas and we'll post it.

SPEAKER_03 5:46

Oh no, we should do comparing last year's to this year's and it's all the same.

SPEAKER_00 5:49

Oh my gosh, and we can yeah, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_03 5:52

Yeah, yeah. So anyway, so as we've said multiple times, we wanted to upload like different content on this channel as well, other than just episodes. So we because we already find it difficult to film episodes because everyone has really different schedules here anyway. But um, yeah, those kind of videos is something that you can expect to see in the future because we're all foodies as well, and we love to eat and try new things. So genuinely just an excuse for us to just eat.

SPEAKER_00 6:21

Yeah, I just I just want to eat, I just want to eat.

SPEAKER_03 6:23

Um, okay, so how's everyone been doing? Any updates about life?

SPEAKER_02 6:28

Your fringe is shorter.

SPEAKER_03 6:30

Is it? It's not. Why is it so funny? It was shorter last time. In the last episode, probably.

SPEAKER_00 6:37

Oh my god, is that what you cut it recently?

SPEAKER_03 6:39

I feel like I've been wanting to.

SPEAKER_02 6:40

I feel like the way you've kept it up, even like your hair looks great right now. Like the layers are so good. I just did my layers today as well, guys.

SPEAKER_03 6:47

Like my my front layers, and then I even cut because I wear extensions, I even cut some of my extensions to blend in better with the front pieces because sometimes it just looks like you're gonna come up. Sometimes it just looks like I've stuck them all, and then there's like my my hair is there. But it looks great, but thank you.

SPEAKER_02 7:05

It also looks so shiny and like healthy, and I think if you're a gal, you know, you know, like it's such a struggle, it looks so healthy now. Thank you. Jenny need thought does it look like a wig at the front? Looks like a wig.

SPEAKER_03 7:19

But that's a compliment. Guys, if you know, I think was it two years ago now that I was blonde?

SPEAKER_00 7:24

Yeah, when you had the highlights.

SPEAKER_03 7:25

No, the blonde, full blonde.

SPEAKER_00 7:27

I know I don't remember. Oh no, that was when you were a bit that was like 2021.

SPEAKER_03 7:31

No, it wasn't.

SPEAKER_00 7:32

Bro, I was not.

SPEAKER_03 7:33

Two years ago.

SPEAKER_00 7:34

It was not 2024.

SPEAKER_03 7:35

I was some in the summer, 2024. Yeah, yeah, summer of 2024.

SPEAKER_02 7:39

That does that feels too like No it wasn't.

SPEAKER_03 7:41

No, I because I wasn't blonde last year.

SPEAKER_02 7:43

It was way. Oh no, it's last 2026 this year. In my head, it's like, oh yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_03 7:47

Yeah, yeah, it's too funny. Guys, I swear to god, talking to these two sometimes, I'm like Honestly.

SPEAKER_00 7:52

But I feel like we can see I don't care about your hair, man.

SPEAKER_03 7:56

That's what anyway, guys.

SPEAKER_01 7:58

What was new with you, um's oh okay. Oh, have you finished already?

SPEAKER_00 8:03

No, let's do that. I don't really have anything to do.

SPEAKER_01 8:06

I didn't say anything.

SPEAKER_00 8:08

What's new with you, man? Because you literally told her about her own fringe.

SPEAKER_03 8:13

So I wasn't even starting. Okay, yeah, what's new with you? I was still telling my story about how when I fried my hair in 2024 and dyed it blonde, and I'm still on my hair growth journey, and I've actually made it quite far, and also because I've cut my fringe, so the front bit looks like because you know it's like regrowing because more the more you cut it, the more it comes healthy. Absolutely. So, yeah, I'm very happy with my progress at the minute.

SPEAKER_02 8:36

It just looks so shiny today, though. Like, genuinely. I wish you guys could see the back as well. I did wash it. You should do one of them videos. I think it would help someone out there because bleach damage.

SPEAKER_03 8:47

I think yeah, but I don't know what I do. I genuinely just chop all my hair off, and that's what you have to do. It's insane, yeah. So I will not be touching that bleach box for another like couple of years.

SPEAKER_02 8:57

Oh guys, the temptation is so real. Like every time I'm like, I want to go blonde, I want to go blonde.

SPEAKER_03 9:01

I think you could do a nice like copper moment.

SPEAKER_02 9:05

It's so fun that you're actually saying this because every time I'm like, I want to go light, these two are like nothing.

SPEAKER_03 9:10

No, because you told us it does suit you a lot, but you did tell us not to let you do that. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 9:15

I don't your light hair is a bit crazy.

SPEAKER_03 9:17

But the roots are always just like such a problem.

SPEAKER_02 9:20

Like when, especially on like light brown hair or like copper hair, when you see the black roots, it's just like you just can see on like on video, and if you are listening, um sai actually has some highlights here, yeah. And there's always like I feel like we kind of rotate between there's always one person that's blonde between us three. Yeah, maybe. No, but then it's always like you the main. No, when you brown one time.

SPEAKER_00 9:49

Yeah, that was in like 2020.

SPEAKER_02 9:50

Oh, I did not love that.

SPEAKER_01 9:51

Yeah, I didn't I did not want to tell you, but I did not love that.

SPEAKER_00 9:54

I was looking at old photos, but oh actually, because I got my phone replaced. Oh yeah. Because I had I had some crazy phone issues, my like I had really bad battery health, I had like a white line on my screen, my back was cracked, my camera's broken, and I finally just replaced it. I got Nano's thing, old phone. Oh yes, that's good. We replaced it, we replaced the battery. Yep. Oh, and sorry, and then because the i my old iCloud photos synced to that phone. Oh yeah, and those photos are all from like 2019, 2020, and it was just all like chopped cheese photos with me, and I was just like, oh my god. And there was some with that brown, that little brown tint, and I was like, oh.

SPEAKER_02 10:35

Miss, I've got a question for you actually that reminded me. Um let's say you're talking to this guy and you really like him. He's a 10 mints, and but you haven't met him yet, but you just really like the vibe. But you meet him in person and he has bleached hair that's gone wrong, so it's almost like that ginger. That ginger copper colour.

SPEAKER_03 10:54

But that hasn't gone wrong though, because that's he's just on his first bleach.

unknown 10:58

Oh.

SPEAKER_02 10:59

No, he's gonna keep it like that. Oh you know when okay, the reason I'm asking this, yeah, that had a moment, you know when in COVID She just wanted to soft launch this story.

SPEAKER_01 11:11

It's like my man has ginger hair.

SPEAKER_02 11:13

You know when COVID everyone was just like doing up things. Um, I think his auntie was dying her hair, she bleaching her hair, and then obviously, you know when you have like spare? Yeah, anyone's like, that's what you did with me and mama had brown hair. Yeah, basically, but I did like the whole thing. Wait, that was literally what you did as well. Yeah. In six form. When I had my brown. You were so brave for that. You are brave. You were so brave for that.

SPEAKER_00 11:36

I liked it in fair. I liked it. Yeah, at the time.

SPEAKER_01 11:38

It was of the times. Come on.

SPEAKER_00 11:40

No. It's like where my hair right now, it looks it's like it's a nice combo.

SPEAKER_01 11:42

It's like, where is it when they got it's in Brazil? All the boys go to Brazil. And then they get Ganacho.

SPEAKER_00 11:48

They get no, no, they get the bleach tips. Yeah. But it looks like they do a good job though. They do a good job. Um I tried to do that.

SPEAKER_02 11:55

That's what you wanted. And then you wanted to dye it pink. But your hair was too long. Is it blue that you wanted to dye it?

SPEAKER_00 12:00

No, I was talking about go through this.

SPEAKER_03 12:01

No. I hate that as well. I won't get it. Like, let's leave the e-boy vibes back in 2020.

SPEAKER_02 12:07

You would have really suited the e-boy vibe. I wish you kind of. Well, you're young. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 12:16

I used to dress like that back in the day, like 2020. I always used to have like a white shirt, a white shirt, and then my vest on. You know that sweater vest that had the thing on it? I'll send you a photo, you can post it. Because I posted it on Instagram.

SPEAKER_03 12:27

He's like, I look good there. No, literally, because I wanted to post the one of you posing with that shirt on.

SPEAKER_00 12:32

What shirt?

SPEAKER_03 12:32

You know the one over there? Which you showed me the other day. The trench has already made a feature. You mean like this? No. Oh my god. The one with the mask and the shirt, the oversized shirt.

SPEAKER_00 12:43

That's not soft boy, bro. That's it. It is soft boy. Bro, that photo I oh, it's so bad.

SPEAKER_02 12:49

And you want to do it.

SPEAKER_03 12:50

Yeah, did you say what's up with you?

SPEAKER_02 12:51

I've actually got a really exciting update. So this is a bit nerdy. Let me just ha let me just know that for a bit.

SPEAKER_01 13:02

What is that? That should be our new thing, though. That's quite funny. Let's see you do it.

SPEAKER_00 13:10

You want to do a summer banana run? You wanna do a summer brother?

SPEAKER_01 13:12

Later on, you're judging up. That was the best one. That was the best one too. Oh no, you mug some bad. I thought the little thing as well. Touch it up then. Touch it off.

SPEAKER_02 13:30

Um I'm just gonna nerd out for a little bit. Basically, in the UK, if you're not a non-UK Mind if I nerd out.

SPEAKER_01 13:36

Actually, actually, you know what's really interesting?

SPEAKER_02 13:41

We actually have non-UK like listeners. How fun is that? Oh yeah.

SPEAKER_00 13:45

Oh yeah, shut up. Shut up.

SPEAKER_02 13:46

Actually, can you start can you guys like start commenting like where you're from? Like I would actually love to know.

SPEAKER_01 13:52

Guys, please.

SPEAKER_02 13:53

Please, somebody comment.

SPEAKER_01 13:55

Um, please comment.

SPEAKER_03 14:01

I think I'll actually give an applause.

SPEAKER_00 14:02

Yeah, I can tell.

SPEAKER_03 14:04

That sound effect did something to me. No, let's not. It's losing its spot.

SPEAKER_00 14:11

We had a zombie. Just for special moments.

SPEAKER_03 14:15

No, because that one episode I kept using it. It was really loud.

SPEAKER_01 14:18

No, no, no, yeah, no, no, no. Okay, go.

SPEAKER_02 14:20

Um, so in the UK there is something called the National Scientist Programme. Oh, yeah. Is it? Yeah, STP. Yeah, scientist training program. So essentially, if you have a degree, you're eligible, most likely a science science degree, and then you can basically um qualify to go on this training program, but it's known as being a very, very tough program to get on to, guys. I actually exaggerated the number. I had I didn't know, apparently it's only over like four, three or four K every day. That's still a lot, yeah. That's a lot, bro. I thought it was 11. That sounds ridiculous. But last year, like more than like 3.5 people 3.5k people applied, and uh this year it's the first year I decided to do it, and I'm not going to say which training program I've gone for because I'm quite like big on NASA.

SPEAKER_03 15:08

Okay, so I don't want more competition.

SPEAKER_02 15:12

But this year, like it's a very tough program to get onto, and I managed to be and it was a very tough like stages we had to go through. So after you do your initial application, then you get long listed, which essentially means that you pass like the first stage, and then you had to do like a test, like a situational judgment test to show that you were like up for it, like you had the right qualities to essentially become like a clinical scientist in the UK. And then somehow I passed that as well. Well done. And then I managed to get shortlisted, and for the shortlisting stage, it was quite tricky because then they're looking at your application more deeply, whether you actually have the um all the necessary like qualifications to even like go for like this higher training. And uh somehow I also managed to get shortlisted, so now I'm on the stage where I will be in interviewed, and it's a national interview, so um you then have to uh put your preferences in the UK where you like are happy to work, and you actually have no choice in where you get to go, it just depends on how well now I do in the interview. And honestly, I just wasn't expecting much, like this might not even have the outcome that I want, but it's just really like it's been yeah, it's still such an achievement because I think um somehow you do sometimes you do tend to like start believing like doubting yourself, especially when you are um so like lost in like the applying process. So just a fun like little update for me.

SPEAKER_03 16:41

And congratulations, congratulations, especially given the climate of applying and jobs and stuff at the minute. Yeah, so well done.

SPEAKER_02 16:51

Moving on to the next segment. Obviously, this is going to be the main part of our episode today. Yes, yes, yes. That's taken so long to get here. So we're all gonna do two Am I the Assholes, okay? So this is trending this week.

SPEAKER_00 17:07

Yes, you are the asshole. How about that?

SPEAKER_02 17:11

How about that?

SPEAKER_00 17:12

What if I've like listened to this already on smush? Oh no, but you can still have your own opinion. No, I I don't think that I have though. That's okay. Let's go.

SPEAKER_02 17:19

No, but this is trending this week. I've made sure to like get the ones that are proper like up this week, yeah. Juicy, juicy. Alright, ready? Yeah, go on. Fast bomb. Am I the asshole for telling my wife forget it and going out by myself for my birthday instead of going to her fancy dinner reservation? Let us sit, let us sit. Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 17:42

Wait, hold on.

SPEAKER_02 17:43

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 17:46

So wait, he went out on his own?

SPEAKER_02 17:48

Yeah. So I think maybe he didn't want to go to a fancy dinner, maybe he wanted to do something cozy, but she like didn't think about him and probably booked like a fancy dinner reservation. Right, right, right. Yeah. So first initial thoughts before we do the um his like explanation. What are we thinking?

SPEAKER_03 18:05

But it's her birthday.

SPEAKER_02 18:07

No, it's his birthday. Oh, it's his birthday. Yeah, it's his birthday.

SPEAKER_03 18:09

Oh no, I I think she should have she should have considered what he wanted.

SPEAKER_02 18:14

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 18:14

I think I need to hear the story.

SPEAKER_02 18:16

Ready? This has been an ongoing issue and it came to a head yesterday. My wife is a planner. It is extremely hard for her to just go with the flow. If we are going to do something, she needs all the details. Pretty like me basically. Um, and now he's also confirmed that she does have OCD, um, and that's why she's such a planner. A while ago, she asked what I want to do for my birthday. I've been so burnt out from work, so I told her I just want to go to a chain restaurant or like a Nando's or something. We're taking like UK consideration on my day, just a chill night out. I don't want to get dressed up or anything. She asked where and what time. I told her I'll just pick day off what I'm feeling. Maybe I want Olive Garden or maybe I want to get Chinese takeout. This is so American. Many times I don't want to plan anything and just go with the day. Really, I just want to go eat what I was feeling on that day. You know, we can relate. This week she asked what time, and I told her when we both get home, so like 5 to 6, we can go out. She was frustrated that I was giving her an answer about where to eat when I told her multiple times what I'm feeling that day. She asked, We need to we need to make reservations, and I told her no multiple times. We're gonna do a walk-in on the Wednesday to a chain restaurant. She asked if I want anything fancy and I told her no, just a simple night. And yesterday was the birthday, and yesterday was the issue. On that day, I wanted Olive Garden. I go home, get then get some breadsticks and chill the rest of the night. I get home around five o'clock after work and my wife is all dressed up. I asked why. And she said, Oh, I made reservations for the fancy sushi place in the city. She said it was a surprise, and we need to leave in about 20 minutes. Nothing has sounded so unappealing to me in my life. I told her I want to go to Olive Garden. So then we got into an argument how to spend how she spent all this effort to get a reservation. I told her I don't want any of this. In the end, he left and he went to Olive Garden all by himself.

SPEAKER_03 20:30

Do you know what it is though?

SPEAKER_02 20:31

We've got to put ourselves in his position, guys.

SPEAKER_03 20:33

You know when you're like craving a certain food, like I want like I want like chicken tenders, that type of food. Because that's like that's the vibe he wants.

SPEAKER_02 20:42

It was your birthday.

SPEAKER_03 20:43

No, but like I'm just saying, like, if you're craving a certain type of food and someone's like sushi and you're like, no, that's not gonna hit. Like, you know, it's like you've like you're not like that's not gonna be like and I don't want to spend money on something I don't want to you know, even if you were like, Oh, I'm gonna offer to pay for this dinner or whatever, it's like you're not taking the birthday person into consideration.

SPEAKER_02 21:06

Yeah. Let's take your example. So it was recently Minnie's birthday. Yeah, everybody say happy but later birthday to Minnie in the comments. Um and then you made it clear, like, oh, I want it quite chill, and you had a theme for yourself this year. Like you said you wanted um what was it, like nostalgia, like old school.

SPEAKER_03 21:23

Old school, like party vibes with like sandwiches and crisps.

SPEAKER_02 21:27

Let's say that's what you're thinking, and then I go, Oh yeah, Minnie, get ready. And then I'm like, we're going to oh the Ivy's a good one because that would annoy her.

SPEAKER_03 21:38

The Ivy.

SPEAKER_02 21:39

I'm like Minnie, get dressed up, we're going to the Ivy.

SPEAKER_03 21:42

Why does I feel like the Ivy is like just a like a a rebranded spoons?

SPEAKER_02 21:48

Yeah, she is. But the food bags. Oh, Ivy.

SPEAKER_00 21:50

I love spoons right now.

SPEAKER_02 21:52

Oh no, like what if what if you're like, oh, I want to go spoons, and I'm like, Minnie, get ready. I've made a reservation. Sticks and sushi. No, I Okay, that would be a little bit more.

SPEAKER_00 22:00

Sushimoto.

SPEAKER_02 22:02

I'd be like, what the fuck? You know what?

SPEAKER_03 22:04

I'm not even like a massive sushi fan.

SPEAKER_00 22:06

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 22:07

That's what you're right. Like, and out of everything, sushi's such a you really have to be in the mood for it.

SPEAKER_00 22:12

No, I think I could use sushi anytime.

SPEAKER_03 22:15

Right, but that's like someone who might actually have to do it.

SPEAKER_00 22:17

Yeah, but if this if there's I think in this situation.

SPEAKER_02 22:19

No, but think about if you wanted Kevsi for your birthday. Like, because you know you love me.

SPEAKER_00 22:22

No, I'm not I'm not I'm not like I'm not saying he's I'm saying in this situation that she was the author.

SPEAKER_03 22:28

Yeah, I agree. I feel like she didn't think about him and the fact that he'd already mentioned.

SPEAKER_00 22:34

Yeah, if he's already said that he doesn't want to, yeah, exactly.

SPEAKER_02 22:37

What if though like he just she just wanted him to make uh she just wanted to do it? Doesn't matter because he already said hired at work, babe. Like, let's do something, like get out, and like our people expensive dinner.

SPEAKER_03 22:49

I feel like that would have been fine if like he was like super like busy at work and hadn't ever mentioned like his birthday or like forgotten about making plans for it. Yeah and she just took it upon herself. But I think she did take it upon herself but disregarded everything he said before. Exactly. So yeah, I am a she is the arsehole in this situation.

SPEAKER_02 23:10

Yeah, lovely. I feel like we can never do any of these guys because we never yes, you're the asshole. No, but we always have the same opinion too, don't we? I mean it's just a given though. I feel like it's quite an obvious one. Yeah. Okay. This one I just thought was really funny.

SPEAKER_00 23:27

What's the verdict then?

SPEAKER_02 23:28

No, not the A-ho.

SPEAKER_00 23:30

Okay, nice. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 23:30

Oh yeah. And lot everybody in the comments was like, your wife just wanted to go out, and like she's just throwing a tantrum because she didn't get like her way. N T A. N T A.

SPEAKER_00 23:40

N T A O P N T A.

SPEAKER_03 23:42

O P N T A.

SPEAKER_02 23:43

Guys, this one just made me laugh. Like, I was just when I initially read the title, I was like, what? Okay. Am I the asshole for asking a woman at work to stop being so weird about taking a caramel?

SPEAKER_00 24:01

Like the the sweet.

SPEAKER_03 24:03

Like the sweet, yeah. Yeah, this is so American. Like caramel? Yeah. Oh my god, can you stop taking my caramel?

SPEAKER_02 24:10

So I think like, you know at work when someone brings like sweets and stuff.

SPEAKER_00 24:12

Oh, wait, so imagine you no, wait, wait, hold on, hold on. No, wait. If you have your own bowl of sweets and someone comes over and reaches in my bowl, I'm like, I'm a gay or grubby hands off.

SPEAKER_03 24:20

Like, why you my snack drawer?

SPEAKER_00 24:22

Exactly. This reminds you of another story, actually. Where um this guy was like Americans are just crazy. This person was like grabbing from this person's like thing, and they thought it was for everyone, right? It was but it was actually just this girl's personal thing, and he was like, Oh, there's no there's no blue ones, get some blue ones this this time. It was like it was like a comedian set, it was it was this comedian's joke. I remember seeing it, he was like, Oh, get some blue ones, and eventually HR was like, You need to stop harassing this girl.

SPEAKER_03 24:49

And he was like, What do you just want to just talk about? She was like, I've had enough, I need to report this guy.

SPEAKER_00 24:54

She reminded me of her.

SPEAKER_03 24:56

Okay, read the story. Okay, initial thoughts.

SPEAKER_00 24:59

I said my thoughts.

SPEAKER_03 25:01

I think like, damn, that's an awkward one. But it's like, can you stop eating my food? No, that's valid though.

SPEAKER_02 25:10

Like, can you stop? That's my funnily enough, like, okay, we haven't had the story yet, but the other day I was in the staff room and um I was on the phone to my fiance, and we were saying, you know, when you like take or you bring bring food, and then I never like to put anything in the fridge because sometimes in the past where I've worked, there has been like incidences where there's always like a poster outside on the fridge, like everyone only eat your food. Like, please refrain from taking and eating a little bit.

SPEAKER_03 25:38

Well, why are we having to tell grown adults this?

SPEAKER_00 25:40

Like, it looks so good.

SPEAKER_03 25:42

I'm gonna eat that and so imagine like you're going through like the shelves, like, what's everyone got for lunch today?

SPEAKER_00 25:47

No, because I to be honest, like, imagine imagine someone brought like pizza and you're like, maybe I can trade my pasta for this.

SPEAKER_03 25:53

Absolutely fucking not. And like, also, if you're gonna do that, you l you have to be like we've talked about like can we do a swap seas? Nah, imagine it's won't be like taking stuff out.

SPEAKER_00 26:03

If that happened to me, I'd be angry as well. Because imagine you're looking forward to like pizza just going.

SPEAKER_03 26:07

I'd walk into I'd be like, who has touched my.

SPEAKER_00 26:10

Let me split a breath because I know what pizza it was.

SPEAKER_02 26:12

Oh, but I are you doing this face to face or are you gonna write an email?

SPEAKER_03 26:15

Yeah, 100%.

SPEAKER_00 26:16

I'm doing both. I'm doing both. I'm telling HR and I'm going around.

SPEAKER_03 26:19

I don't think like the email is like it has to be like a because then it they know that you can't. You mean business. You mean business. You're CCing the manager, CCing senior management team.

SPEAKER_02 26:30

No, but you you you would just look like such a No, you wouldn't.

SPEAKER_00 26:34

It's my pizza. I don't give a damn. I don't give a damn. It's my pizza.

SPEAKER_02 26:37

I was really looking forward to my spaghetti bottomies.

SPEAKER_03 26:40

You have to put a note on them, but like, do not eat.

SPEAKER_02 26:42

Yeah, that's just kind of crazy. Like, how do you not already? It always sends me when I see it. But you know, sometimes like other people from other departments will go to um like you know, like you know how the use situation is in NHS, like not everybody, not every uh water unit sometimes even has a stuff from so you do have to share. So yeah.

SPEAKER_00 27:01

Just go around in the fridge and just eat other people's food.

SPEAKER_02 27:03

Also, the filming yeah, I'm just like imagine you see like a really nice box, but you I don't actually know what's in it, and you're like, okay, I'm gonna take this, and then you actually like steal it, but then turns out like you open it and it's actually like a salad. Oh my god, that's caramel.

SPEAKER_03 27:17

No, because you should never take someone else's.

SPEAKER_00 27:19

Yeah, what is this story? Just tell the rest of it. Yeah, just read the story.

SPEAKER_02 27:22

Okay, ready guys. I like to have snacks in my office, and I enjoy having something for people to take when they come in for a visit. I have a container of chocolate caramel. Our puppy also doesn't like it when people are weird about taking a caramel. Okay.

SPEAKER_00 27:42

So this is changing my views.

SPEAKER_03 27:44

I have a container of it's for everyone. Yeah, I've just I've just had a thought as well. I have a container.

SPEAKER_00 27:50

Wait, sorry. You know how funny it would be if you have a container for everyone, it's just one guy just keeps taking from me. You're like, you've emptied my whole container, bro. Chill out.

SPEAKER_03 27:59

If you love the chocolate clairs so much, go buy them. It's one a day, bro.

SPEAKER_00 28:02

You like go into your just like, oh, have you done that email? Oh like, have you done that project?

SPEAKER_03 28:10

Oh it's going by your desk every time.

SPEAKER_02 28:12

Yeah, no, but checking in on you. When there's free food, guys, people got crazy. Like the other day, um, one of my colleagues, I'm kind of I'm being like, I'm eating intuitively, but I'm kind of minding like what I eat. So I was um telling my colleague, and then she comes over and she's like, Oh, Tanisa, like you need to go to the staff room, there's free food, like it's the donuts are going quick. What? She was like, I was gonna bring you one, but I know that we talked about like you know losing weight and like being fit. And I was like, no, no, it's okay. And she was like, No, like if you want to get one, you need to go quick. People are gone. Yeah, they're gone. That's valid. Going, going, gone. Yeah, okay, but guys, this story is actually going not gonna go in the direction you think. Okay, ready? So this person likes to have a container of chocolate caramel fins open for anyone to take. The problem is that when many of the other women in my office take one, they do this whole song and dance. Ooh, I shouldn't. Oh, it's so bad. Ooh, but I love chocolate. Oh, it's so naughty.

SPEAKER_03 29:14

I can imagine it, I can actually picture it. Go on there and I'll have one. Yeah. Ooh, should I?

SPEAKER_01 29:34

Oh, you're tempting me. Oh, I shouldn't should I? Carolyn, come over, look at this. Okay.

SPEAKER_02 29:45

Okay. Stuff like this just annoys the crap out of me. Wow.

SPEAKER_01 29:50

Take a candy or don't, but don't force me to participate in whatever weird so self-deprecating things you're doing, especially calling it naughty, like you're scolding a child.

SPEAKER_02 30:00

I always just smile blankly and they will look at me like I'm supposed to give them permission. I finally had it yesterday when one of the women stood in my doorway and pointed and was like, ooh, I love those caramels, they're so good.

SPEAKER_01 30:13

But I shouldn't. You're so bad for having these. Ooh!

SPEAKER_04 30:19

Oh my god!

SPEAKER_03 30:21

Oh the caramel! Oh my god, you got your caramels in again! My favourite! But I shouldn't, should I? No, should I? No, come on then.

SPEAKER_00 30:32

Give me the green light.

SPEAKER_02 30:34

I said, Can you stop doing that? It's making me uncomfortable. She pretended to not know what I was talking about. I said, Are you okay? You come in here and you act like you need my permission to eat a piece of candy. You keep calling it naughty like you're a little kid. It's super weird behaviour and makes me feel uncomfortable, so please stop. Get some discipline. She gives me a weird look and she said I was just being silly and never mind. She left. I found out later that she said I ripped her head off and warned one of the other women who's always doing all of that. Ooh, I'm so bad. Crap to avoid getting candy from me unless she wants to be scolded. I'm not going to stop having my candy out because there are some people who can do it without the whole song and dance. But am I really the asshole for just asking her to stop doing that? Ooh, I'm so bad. Ooh, crap.

SPEAKER_03 31:27

To be fair. I told you the story was like when I read it, I was like, What? That's really funny. Like, but I can't imagine it. And like, you know, it's like you're like doing your work and then someone keeps coming past, and they're like they're do the same thing every single time they come past you. Then then I think I I can see why it's built up to that point where he's like had to like be like blatantly be like, don't do that anymore.

SPEAKER_02 31:52

It's obviously gotten to the point though where he's like, okay, I'm gonna take it, take it, take it.

SPEAKER_03 31:56

It's exploding. What he needs to do is completely take the bowl away. Because like if you don't have to self-discipline, and every time you walk past, you're like acting like, oh, I shouldn't do this, didn't you? But then you take one anyway. Yeah. Girl, you're not getting anymore.

SPEAKER_00 32:10

I think you just put a sign next to the bowl, be like, just take one quietly and leave.

SPEAKER_03 32:14

Just take one and enjoy it.

SPEAKER_02 32:16

Oh just doesn't even have to be next to him. I'll just put in the staff room.

SPEAKER_03 32:20

But I will say some people really don't have any tact when it comes to speaking to people and like telling them about certain things. Yeah. Like he could have just been like, oh, like you always say like it's naughty, it's not naughty, like just treat yourself, um, and they're here to for everyone to enjoy. Like, you don't have to say that. But but like snapping might have like you know, maybe made him look like the bad guy.

SPEAKER_00 32:41

But I I I do think it's like if if they if they keep doing that, it's just a repetitive thing, you're like, yeah, exactly. But I think in this scenario, I would say she's the arsehole for going around and being like, Oh, he rubbed my head off, and he told you not to go in there, not to have it, unless you want to get showered at as well. Um, I wouldn't say he's the arsehole, but I would say he could have phrased it better.

SPEAKER_03 33:08

100%. I think, yeah, I definitely see why he snapped, but definitely there was another way to there was there was definitely a better way to phrase it and just say it.

SPEAKER_02 33:17

Yeah. So I'm gonna read you the two uh comments that got the most like yeah, votes. What they're both on the opposite side, okay? Okay, so this person thinks they're not the asshole. Might I suggest adding this candy is freely offered and morally neutral. Eating it does not make you a good or bad person. So that's what they think that they should do. So basically just say, like out of sign that yeah, basically like what you said. Add a sign, and then just let everyone know. Listen, you it's for everybody, if you eat it, it's fine. But this person's defending the lady, diet culture, internalized fatophobia, and fear of food. They're basically saying out loud that they feel guilty for eating because that's what they've learned to do. They want the caramel, but they have to let other people know that they know they're being a bad person. I guess I guess a way to like soothe the guilt. Are they older ladies? Try not to judge them too hard. I know it's annoying. Maybe just say you don't like talk like that around you because you think that mindset is damaging and you'd prefer it if they just took them without any um comments.

SPEAKER_03 34:24

Yeah, definitely I think that that is true. Yeah. Because I feel like they're saying it because it's like a a justification to them, because you know at the end of the day they're still they're gonna take the candy anyway. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 34:35

But then it's also like I mean, I still think that she's the arsehole because like she's still taking the candy week in, week out, and saying the same thing over and over and over. Yeah. I'm not saying it's like she should feel like, oh, like her saying that it's it's normal because like that that is a justified reason.

SPEAKER_03 34:53

And I think a lot of people do think that way, like, oh man, it's a bit cheeky, but I'll just have it.

SPEAKER_00 34:57

I'll just have it, you know what I mean?

SPEAKER_03 34:58

But but saying it every time, yeah, exactly, and like and also not being aware that he's not responding every single time he's sat there like just like okay, wait, we need to go.

SPEAKER_00 35:08

This is naughty, I'm gonna take it. And he's just like Susan, you said it seven times. Alright, go on.

SPEAKER_03 35:19

It's just like but yeah, I thought the next time she walks in, he's like, Yes, it's naughty, but just take it. Like I know you want to.

SPEAKER_00 35:27

I think in this scenario she is the asshole.

SPEAKER_03 35:29

Yeah, yeah. I think she just lacks a bit of like self-awareness, unfortunately. But yeah, I do see that as well. Like, it's definitely a way of to justify to herself about like especially with like diet culture on women and stuff, but yeah, um but yeah, I don't think he was the arsehole arsehole in this situation, but I don't think she was either.

SPEAKER_00 35:52

No, I I don't think she's the arse for doing all these things, but I'm saying she's the arse for after being like gossiping behind about Ben's back and being like, oh blah blah blah, you're so rude, blah blah blah. Making it like worse than that. Exactly, exactly.

SPEAKER_02 36:03

Absolutely, and they people didn't think on Reddit that NTA NTA NTA OP NTA I feel like we can never do these guys because we just always have like the same opinions. I don't know. I feel like I would debate.

SPEAKER_00 36:18

Yeah, why would you why would you want me to be like, oh yeah, that guy's the asshole because it's being mean to women? I don't think about that. I love women. Like bro, we don't want you to do that.

SPEAKER_02 36:28

Like But yeah, that's all the two um AITAs I have for today. That was really fun. Um I think we should do these more. Like we should do like all the trending ones of the week. That'd be really funny. Yeah, we'll do one, the the the top one. Should we do like relationship ones as well? I tried to avoid like two relationship one-y, um relationship one-y, but we should we should start doing that. Yeah, let's do it. That's really fun. Yeah, and actually, if you have any real life dilemmas, we've been saying like yes, and you can do it anonymously because there's always a link in our description where you can text us and yeah, we'll never be able to like see your number, so you can actually text us if you have any suggestions, comments, or anything that you want us to like talk about. Yeah, otherwise, we're just gonna have to keep doing the AITAs from uh Reddit. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 37:18

Did we have a game you said?

SPEAKER_02 37:19

No, not today. Oh be like a cozy catch-up. Yes. But we'll definitely be back next week.

SPEAKER_00 37:25

I say we just do a crazy game right now. Ready? Three. Just put your hands like this. Oh my god, is this gonna hurt? No, no, no.

SPEAKER_02 37:31

What are we gonna do?

SPEAKER_00 37:32

Just flip outside or if you're the if you're if you're a thing, you just lose. You just lose, you just lose. Oh, so you're losing. This is gonna decide the loser. Okay. If there's one person that's that's different, you're just loser this episode. Three, two, one. Man is that's one more point to your tally, boy.

SPEAKER_03 37:48

Sorry. Yeah, so because we haven't played a game in a while, that was a good way to add a point. Oh, and that I feel like that signs off this episode. So thank you guys for listening and watching. If you're watching on YouTube, please give us a like and subscribe to this channel. If you are listening on Apple Podcasts or Spotify, give us a five-star review. And you can I think you can actually leave a review. So let us know what you think is working well. Yeah, like, or let's mute or less mic or something like that. Okay. I don't mind.

SPEAKER_00 38:21

Okay, yeah.

SPEAKER_03 38:22

Thank you guys for tuning in, and we will see you next week. Hey