How to Survive a Girls Trip

A Girls trip can be the ultimate friendship test. In this episode, Alyse dishes on her recent trip to Sedona and shares tips on how to decide who to go on a girls trip with, what red flags to watch out for, and how to make it home still friends.

Plus, Alyse shares her summer bucket list and her plans for a "Sugar Ray Summer"—a season of nostalgia, rest, and a little bit of partying.

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Hi guys, welcome back to another episode of Go Get Hers. I know I said I was gonna take a one-week hiatus and it's two, but I'm back. And you know what? I think I underestimated how long it takes to like rejuvenate and to get back into a routine after you get back from vacation because I also booked the week that I got back like out. Like I had a Girls Who Collab event. I had some friends over for um like happy hour. Like I did too much to still be trying to get my groove back and become a functioning member of society. So before I knew it, it was Sunday, Monday, Tuesday again. And I was like, I literally do not have the bandwidth for this. So I am just going to take a moment and give myself another break. It'll be back the week after. So and it feels good, honestly. Like I think I need to get back into my momentum and like my routine and cadence. The thing about me is that if I am not like on routine, routine, routine, routine, I can easily fall off. Like it's hard for me to get back on it. That's why I think why I'm so like type A and chaotic sometimes. Like, and by chaotic, I mean just like I stick to my routine because if I know if I fall off, I'm gonna fall off. Like I can easily fall off. Like discipline is I feel like discipline for me only works when I'm consistent. You know, like in my mind, I know I have to be doing something and know I want to be doing something, but it's the routine and the habit that keeps my discipline up. So I feel the same way when like it comes to content. Like I need to film it and I need to edit it right away. If it stays in my um camera roll for too long, I got now a whole bunch of other stuff in my camera role and I kind of forget about it. Like, kind of the same way I'm a dating, and that I've explained to my friends too with men. If their foot's not on my neck, I'm I'm not gonna be paying attention to you. Like, I need consistency. When you fall off of the consistency and you create a space or a there's a lack of habit, I'm gonna forget you exist and I'm gonna lose interest. And again, it doesn't just apply to men, it applies to so many other things. But, anyways, I am back. Summer is here, well, almost officially. It is freaking middle of June. We're halfway through June, which is insane. And I just can't believe it. Chicago is steady hot. We're a little colder this week, but we're steady hot. And I don't know, like, life's kind of cool. Like, I don't know. I mean, it's cool in that I wish I could afford a vacation all the time. Like, literally, as soon as I came back, I was like, how can I go on another vacation? Like, what does a girl have to do to make like $5,000 tomorrow so I can like stay on vacation for a week or like for like a while? Or it made me too think about all the vacations or like kind of what I want to do next summer. And this is also the problem with me. I can't stay like in the moment for some reason. Like now, all of a sudden I'm worried about the fall because I'm like, oh my God, the fall's coming, then it's gonna be winter again. And then we just got this weather. Like I'm trying to live in the moment, but I'm also having like an internal panic attack. Also, too, Abercrombie on their website had fall preview closed. I said, Okay, I I can't do this. This is already already making me anxious. But yeah, the thing about getting back from vacation is that you are like, I wish I could do this more often, but it is so draining and daunting to even go on vacation. You know, just like the parts leading up to it, like getting your nails done, your hair, um, you know, like the wardrobe, like all that, which you don't have to do all that. I'm high maintenance, so I do. But like the hair for me is a lot with like the clip and extensions, like the washing of them, the putting them back in, you know, the timing of it. So my hair is like in optimal condition to be curled, an X, Y, Z, the nails, like all that is a timing too. Like, I just feel like I end up spending so much money prior to going that then I get back and I'm like, why did I spend that money? Like, what was it on and what was it for? So, anyways, but I do feel like the trip was amazing. I went to Sedona. Sedona's in Arizona, if you don't know. Um, it's like two hours outside of Phoenix. Um, so you fly into Phoenix, you drive two hours, and we stayed at this resort called Enchantment, and it was truly just the best time. I went with my best friends from high school, and I just too like as much as I was like, I feel like I felt a lot of things when I got back. First thing I felt was like, damn, I need another vacation. Like, that was great. I want another vacation. Second thing I felt was just like, I am just healed. Like, I can just feel like I can just take on the summer and conquer the summer and conquer the world, honestly, because I just so feel so rejuvenated and so um like happy and refreshed because it truly was just such a relaxing and fun vacation. Um, and I think it was by design because of who I was going with and to like Sedona is like a vortex and it's supposed to have like all these healing energies and stuff. I do wish I would have done more healing things, and by that, like I wish I would have gotten like a tarot card reading or like an energy reading. But I think at the same time, like for me as a type A girl, like I actually really don't need that in my life because if it doesn't come true, then I'm gonna also spiral. Like, I think I need less things to spiral, spiral about or like fixate on it whether or not they come true, you know, is more so what I mean by spiraling. But yeah, mostly I just felt so rejuvenated and just so um like just fulfilled. Like my best friends from high school, I've touched on it, talked about it, that I mean, I've known them since I was like 14. And they just know me so well. We all know each other so well, we get along together so well, we don't take anything personally, everything's a joke. Like they're you know, like just those friends are just like you don't feel like you have to be on all the time. You don't feel like you have to constantly be talking. You can kind of beat a dead horse, but not really. Like you can talk about hard things. Like, I feel like we got into some pretty deep conversations about stuff without feeling like judgment. Like, like if I'm asking a question about something, like it's not coming from judgment, it's something, it's coming from something that's like, I want to be here for you and like a moral uh means of support. And to the thing about us is that we're not like text each other all the time to keep up with our lives type people, like we'll spill our heart out in person that, you know, have been brooding for years or might be new, but like it hasn't been a point of contention because we haven't all been together all the time. And then like one of my friends just moved back to Michigan from California. So, you know, her hearing her perspective of getting back into school and and you know, going back to a job that she had before she moved to California and uh living by herself and dating, like all those things is like very exciting though. Like I just think we're just so uh cool, accomplished, yet different girls that it just for what I'm proud, you know, these are my best friends. And and two, again, I just they're just those people that just like you leave, you leave from them and you just feel fulfilled. You feel, you feel full, like you don't feel depleted. Like I feel like you you know there's those people that you hang out with and you feel like it's a job interview because they can't hold a conversation, they just keep asking you questions, and I feel just like depleted after I'm with them, and I my mind I'm just like I just I honestly never want to be with this person again. Or I need like 10 business days to like garner up the energy to be with them. This is the total opposite. So it was just it was so fun. We chilled by the pool, we, you know, the weather was perfect, um, we just giggled and laughed about everything. It was really funny. We made like this, I made this whole playlist together for us to like listen to music. And instead of us listening to music, like when we drive back from places, we would like all the like it would be silent, and we would just start singing songs off of a cappella, like off like throwback songs off the top of our head instead of listening to the playlist, which I think is just like very funny and silly and just indicative of like our friendship. So if you want a beautiful, expensive, um fun getaway, though, that is very mixed of relaxation and hiking. Cause I think Sedona, like one of my other friends, she's more outdoorsy, more sporty, more energetic. I'm more of like a chill by the pool on vacation person. One of my other friends is indifferent. The other one, too, she's like more like chill. She'll do like a mix of both. Um, and so I feel like we did it, we were able to do a good balance of hiking in the morning and just like chilling, also too, with the time difference. Um, they're two hours behind. So you feel like you can conquer the day. Like we woke up at 4 a.m. every single day, but then went to bed at nine, but like did everything we could think of to do too. Like everything at the resort opened at 6 a.m. You know, we were able to hike up and down, get and be done by seven, and it took like two hours. Like we were able to do a lot, and I really appreciate honestly going to the West Coast because of that reason. Um, that you don't feel like you're wasting or you're losing time, really like you're losing a day. Like, I do feel like we we went from Friday to Monday, and I really do feel like we have like three or four full days versus like you know, check-ins at four, so then we have to leave at this time, and then we're two hours ahead or whatever. So, yeah, if you're looking for an idea for your next destination, Sedona is beautiful, gorgeous, amazing. This is my second time there. I would like to go every five years. I would like to go more often. I just love Arizona. Like Arizona to me is like my retirement place. I love that state, the weather with my whole heart. I will say the only con about coming back is that I feel like I fucked up the weather in my mind of what my expectations are for weather. So by that I mean like Arizona's dry heat. And by dry heat, I mean like there's no humidity. And humidity is what makes you sweat. So in Chicago, when it's 85 degrees and you're like, oh, it's so muggy out, so blah, blah, blah, blah, and you're like sweating, sweating bullets, it's because the humidity is high. Because we have a high humidity. When you go to Arizona, like 95, no humidity could feel better than 75 with the humidity here, just because you're not sweating, just because you can go into the shade and it's cold, just because too, the high and the low, the difference between the high and the low in Arizona is like 30 degrees, so it gets so it's chilly in the morning and then it gets hot and then it cools down at night. And so you get like that duality all throughout the day. Versus like in Chicago, sometimes when the sun goes down, if the humidity is still high, it still feels like the sun is up. Do you know what I mean? And so now that to me, Arizona is like real weather, I call it real weather because it's what the weather I think should feel like. There's no humidity. So now I'm like, now that I know what real weather should feel like, coming here, I'm like, this is some bullshit, especially because this past week has been crazy, which it was supposed to rain, and then it didn't, and then the humidity just builds up, and then um it gets all muggy, and it's just it's been unbearable this past week in Chicago. So I just feel like it fucked up my expectation for the summer, and I'm like trying to get acclimated to the humidity. But on that note, I just think in general, like girls' trips are healing and are just a time to rejuvenate and are really good for the soul. Like, I think I think I underestimate girls' trips too. For my friend group from high school, I feel like we usually have just go gone to visit each other, which is now like we both we make like more money, so we're able to like actually have nice vacations instead of just going to visit each other. We can actually like experience new things with one another. And I think we came to the idea when I went with one of my friends to on the day trip to New York, because when we talked about that, like we should we should explore more places, you know, now that we're older. Um, and she does a lot of solo traveling, which is fucking awesome. But yeah, so that's how we kind of like came up with it and then got the ball rolling and it was great. And then one of my friends bachelorette is next week, I mean next week, next year. So we have another trip in the making, obviously. But I do think there is a semi-negative connotation with girls' trips, also, that like not every friendship survives a girl's trip. Honestly, probably most friendships don't survive girls' trips, and you kind of have to know who you're with and who you're traveling with in order to survive a girl's trip. Because the idea is that when you go to Miami, and this is like I've never had a girl's trip to Miami, but what I've seen from what I've seen on TikTok is that people make jokes about when you go to Miami, that's a true true test of your friendship with your friends, or your yeah, your friendship with your girlfriends. And maybe it's because, you know, the clubs and the drinking and the and and the prices and X, Y, and Z, like I that's just my guess of why that is. But it did make me think I'm like, what is the best recipe to survive? Or or what are the tips and tricks to survive your next girl's trip? And when trying to establish whether or not you should go on a girl's trip with someone or or not, like if you're like, ooh, I kind of want to go on a trip, but like, who am I supposed to invite? How am I supposed to know if we're gonna get along? How am I supposed to know that the trip is gonna be great and there's gonna be little little to no drama? Like, how can I make sure that those things I factor all those things into whether or not I take the trip? And I guess my first like thought is obviously number one, choose wisely. I have a very strong sense of uh like gauge on on on people and how I know people are gonna show up and react. And by that I mean like I just I just have a sixth sense, and I've come to the conclusion that like sometimes I I'm just gonna have to start telling people, I actually really don't have all the data. I just know in my gut. And that's and I so I can't do any further explaining, and that's just gonna have to be a sus sufficient answer because I know myself and I know that I'm usually right when it comes to stuff like this. But um, and by into like one of those things I actually got tested or that got verified lately was like sometimes people be like, Do you still follow spreads from high school? I'm like, no, because I knew they were gonna be fucking annoying on social media because they're annoying in real life. Like, I know they're gonna be one of those people that like has like a caterpillar for a Instagram story, and then most of them are like them singing in the car or something. Like, I'm not gonna follow those people, and I don't want to keep up with those people after after high school, you know? But yeah, number one, choose wisely. Choose who you know you're gonna get along with, choose who you know is gonna demo you the money, choose who you know um is not always looking for some drama, choose who you know has effective communication skills, choose who you know um is just like pleasant to be around. Choose who you know is considerate. The girl that gets blackout drunk every single time you're with her and can never hold her own. Maybe you shouldn't go on a trip with her. Because if she can't drink at home where she has to get herself home, do you want to be responsible for her for her on vacation? Probably not. Like if I'm paying money on vacation, it's gonna be, it's gonna irritate me more that you can't hold your alcohol and then you're throwing up and throwing up in our shared bathroom every single night, and then we have to have someone to come clean. You know what I mean? Like, that's something to keep in keep in mind. That girl that ghosted your Vemo request for an Uber, so like $10 for days, probably not the girl you want to go on a trip with or try to organize sending large amounts of money for. You know, maybe have her put her card down for the big stuff and you Vemo her, but not the other way around, other way around. You get what I mean? Like, you don't want to be chasing people for for money that aren't communicating with you. Like if someone's like, hey, look, I like can I I know we have like this due date, can I have an extension and I'll give it to you by this, or can I give you half? Like, if they're communicating with you, I think that's absolutely fine. Like for me, it's like the more I know, communication is key. But again, if she, if this is a girl historically, you have to keep sending reminders, keep texting, be like, hey girl, can you set my demo request? I don't know why you would trust her to book her flight on time, to pay her lump sum of the hotel, and then even trust that she's even going because what if she drops out and then changes the amount for everyone else and it's too late to find someone else? You know what I mean? Like you don't want to be in those predicaments leading up to where the excitement of the trip is now gone. Cause that's the thing, too. We had zero drama, zero anything going up to the trip. Like, you know, someone paid for the hotel. We all booked our flights right away on the same day. Um, like all our times aligned. Um, one person did the did the car. You know, like we were able to coordinate in a in a way that we knew like we're all locked in. You know, we were like, can we give like can I put keep put me on a payment plan for like these four months, whatever, I'll pay you like in lumps? Cool, great, thanks for letting me know. Like, that's perfect, you know? Because also, too, like we don't have to pay until we actually get there. You know what I mean? So that worked really, really well. Um, also don't go on vacation with someone you have lingering animosity with. Like, do you think that's gonna like work out better on vacation? No, it's probably gonna make it come out more because you're around each other more. There's more things you get annoyed about um with one another. Like the girl that's a hater, you shouldn't be on vacation with her. The girl that, you know, talks behind your back all the time, you shouldn't be on vacation with her because she's she hates you. So, what makes you think that when she sees you having a good time, she's not gonna start shit with you? You know what I mean? Um, and then also honestly too, like someone that you have drastic lifestyle differences then probably isn't someone you should go on vacation with either. Like if you know, if you're friends with someone who's like more, like a little bit more lazy, you know, likes to sleep in all day. If you're very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very active, and this person's very, very, very, very, very, very lazy, and there's not an option for either of you guys to do both, probably is not gonna line up to you to where you guys are gonna have fun. Choosing wisely, choosing who is gonna be pleasant on vacation is the most important. Again, I think we probably could have done better with being more active. But this was thing two at the resort we're saying now there were so many things to do that it almost like was overwhelming to a degree that's like, all right, I'll just chill. You know, like uh I'll just chill. Because then too is like, do I want to take an hour to do this? Like, there was an archery class. I was like, I low key would do archery, but I'm like, do I actually want to take an hour to do that and pay $100 to do that? I don't know, you know? So um, yeah, I think having similar lifestyles that like you wake up early, or even not even wake up early, but be okay with waking up early. Like one of my friends, she she she'll sleep in if she has to, but again, we woke up at four o'clock and she was like, Why are you guys talking at 7 a.m.? We're like, actually it's 4 37 and we're about to get up and walk around. You common, you know, and she could have been like, Yeah, I'm going to sleep. So, like, you know, when she was sleepy, we're like, Okay, we'll go on the patio, whatever. But um, but just like drastic lifestyles that like if people are very serious about it, I don't know, it might not work. Um, the second thing is that respect people's autonomy and don't think take things too personally. I think people get on vacation and it everything doesn't align or everyone doesn't do the one do the same thing at the same time all the time. People take it personally and they have like have a bad time. Or like, if I just want to chill and read my book for a minute, let's let me chill and read my book for a minute. If we're decompressing, we're in our roads before we go to dinner, let me do that. Like, we don't have to be talking. Like, there needs to be some silent time. You know what I mean? And I think too, like everyone is different and and either they live alone, live with someone, whatever. Some people get overstimulated by speaking or being around people for too long, or especially to like what I was saying. If you if you're not that close of friends, you don't feel comfortable with them, you do feel like you're performing to a degree that you're not 100% comfortable. So you might get overstimulated and might crash out or crash energy-wise faster than you would with someone that you don't feel that um that way with. So sometimes people need alone time. The third one, I think the major one, communication, obviously. So budgets, deadlines, payments. I think before you decide where to go, ask everyone is this, you know, divide it up, is this how much you're willing to pay um for said room, for all things included, for X, Y, and Z, set deadlines for when things are supposed to be paid. I wouldn't go on vacation with someone unless everything is paid prior to that's coming out of my car, like coming off my thing immediately. You know what I mean? Like for the room, the payment needs to be up front. Like the the vast the vast part of the payment needs to be up front. And there needs to be deadlines too, just to ensure that those these people are going. Like everyone's in different financial situations, but again, it's one of those things where when you're counting on, when you discuss the budgets and you discuss how much discuss how much everything is, and it's dependent on every single person going. When that person then drops out, that then drives the price of for so everyone else. And if it's already booked, and then you like can't find another place to book or another place in the price range, that kind of like fucks up everyone else. So setting deadlines, so establishing budgets, a verbal confirmation when you say you can pay it or say you can afford it, then you can afford it. And then deadlines too, um, you know, setting deadlines to make sure that people are actually interested and able to go. If people haven't paid, and this is just me being a skeptic, they're less likely to actually go, you know, when like when their money isn't tied. To it's like a workout class, you know. When you already paid, you're more likely to go. That is especially too with vacation when it's like hundreds of dollars, you know. Again, this isn't my story. I've everything with us went over really seamlessly, too. We had like one FaceTime to talk about like what if we wanted to do any excursions, which we didn't. I mean, we could have, but I think our hike was our excursion. But yeah, if I had to pick three, choose wisely, respect autonomy, and be considerate, and communication. Now that summer though is officially here, I feel like we need to discuss a bucket list, no, of things that we want to get into this summer, achieve this summer. Um, just the overall vibes of the summer. I actually saw a TikTok that said it's a Sugar Ray summer, and I couldn't agree more. If you're younger than me, you don't know who Sugar Ray is, go watch your nearest cheaper by the dozen movie, okay? Um I think both of them are on Disney Plus. But Sugar Ray is just like super nostalgic. Like it's just Nancy Myers. Like, I just want a or feel like the vibes of the summer are synonymous to 2016. But I add an extra layer of nostalgia onto it where it's very quintessential Midwest, lake house, flannels, dinner parties, bonfires, like boats. Like I know that's just like at least it's every summer, but like no, like a quintessential to me, like a quintessential, like Michigan, old-fashioned, like chill summer. Like to me, summer is seafood, orange wine, waking up early, going to bed late, early dinners, light dinners as well, like heavier lunches, maxi dresses, mini skirts, like tube tops, casual drinks, grilling for literally every meal. Me personally, I have been on the grill. Okay. I've been on the grill four times in the past two weeks at my apartment building. I've haven't grilled this much, especially by myself, in a long time. I'm really enjoying it. Like to me, those are just a couple staples of summer, sugar ray-esque, you know? What would actually make it even better if I like had any plan to go to a cabin this year for the summer, but I don't. But maybe that could still come to fruition. You never know. But yeah, I literally actually this weekend rode in a convertible, and I haven't done that. I don't even know if I've ever been in convertible, actually. And if I have, it's when I was like really, really young. Well, no, the last time I was in a convertible was my brother and sister-in-law's, ex-sister-in-law's wedding in the Keys, and I rolled down from wherever we landed in. We rented a car, rented a convertible, rented a Mustang, and we drove down to the Keys. And that was actually really cool. I remember being so hungover when I was there and almost missed my flight because my high school closed, and we had our like last big hurrah, like their last game, and then everyone went out, and et cetera, et cetera, et cetera. Also, too, like I remember my dresser fell on me. My dresser, and I and when I tell you my dresser, like literally the dresser that I have now in my apartment fell on me when I was trying to get something out of it, and my I was like screaming for my mom to come help me get it up. Like, that's how disoriented I was. Very crazy situation. But, anyways, that was the last time I've been in a convertible. That was when I was like 23, 24, and it was just so just so freeing, so summer. Like we dove a convertible, went to um a bar, played darts, and had chicken Caesar wraps and beer. Like that was that's just so summer to me. Oh, it was the best day, anyways. But yeah, sugar ray summer. So that is my I'm coining that for my certain summer. Everyone, figure out your vibe. But a couple things though, for the bucket list, for the girls, for the for the gals, for whoever, if you have the ability to do any of these things. I feel like I'm mostly talking Chicago, but I also am talking like Michigan or Midwest S things. Okay, my first one for me is Chicago specific, but I've never been to Annette's, which is like a ice cream gelato place, I guess, in Chicago. And it's like a walk-up window type of thing, and it's in Lincoln Park, and I've never been, ever in my life have I ever been, and I've lived here for almost 10 years. And I just it's just coming to my attention that they have carrot cake ice cream. So if anyone, one person would have ever told me that, I would have been gone. I would have pulled up there today, matter of fact. So yeah, um, I'm gonna have to get that expeditiously. So that's number one on my bucket list. Number two on my bucket list is a 4 a.m. night. I kind of already did that already, but you have to have at least one in the summer. At least one. Like 4 a.m. nights are so fun, especially when they're like a not planned 4 a.m. night. When you plan for 4 a.m. night, you're never gonna stay out to 4 a.m. And I just feel like bopping around to a whole bunch of places is just so it's so fun. So I already kind of did that, but I'm still leaving one for the summer. And with that one, also comes watch the sunrise. I feel like I get up pretty early. And sometimes when I if I get up before this, now the sunrise is like like five something. Um, it's not frequent, but I also did my 1-4 a.m. night, also watch watch the sunrise. If you know, you know. Um, but yeah. Okay, other one, get on a boat. Doesn't matter what boat, small lake, big lake, lake Michigan, torch lake, wherever, get on a boat. A boat is a must this season. Watch the fireworks. I feel like everywhere has everywhere has fireworks. Chicago has fireworks every Wednesday and Saturday at Navy Pierre, which is really, really cool. I would love to do that. I could I could lump that in the boat together, you know, like I did for my birthday last year. Okay, the next one is movie in the park. You know, like um Millennium in Wrigley does like a movie in the park situation. I really want to do that. I don't think I ever did or have. I do really want to do, I think I want to do the Wrigley one. How just like cute? Like I just feel like I just really lean, I just want to lean into like the touristy nostalgic things. I feel like I never know when it's gonna be my last summer in Chicago, you know? And so I try to, I'm trying to romanticize this one a little bit more. I don't know. Okay, go to a baseball game. I mean, anyone can go to a baseball game. I specifically want to go to a Cubs game. Um, I'm actually going to a Cubs game on 4th of July, which if you know me, you know I actually usually don't even celebrate Fourth of July. And there's a for the past couple years, I haven't really celebrated a lot of holidays, period, because of work or girls who collab, just something. And I haven't just really been into it or haven't really made any plans. So this year I'm really excited to actually like celebrate. I also celebrated Memorial Day, which was a change in events. I also celebrated New Year's Eve. I haven't done that in a while. Like, I feel like that's a little interesting tidbit. But yeah, one of my best friends is coming to visit for for the July weekend, and so I'm really excited for that. That'll be really, really fun. And to, you know, get into some trouble with her. Another one that's kind of random is like thrift uh outfit or like thrift some shorts, get some vintage levies. I remember one summer I made literally, I cannot fit into them anymore, and I refuse to get rid of them though. In the off chance, I like maybe one day go on Ozempic and um can fit in them again. But I have these Levi's that I literally made in like eighth grade. No, can't be eighth grade. Maybe eighth grade, maybe tenth grade, maybe tenth grade, but like cut them from shorts, distress them perfectly, put them in the dryer so they like ripped perfectly. They're literally the best looking shorts. You'd be like, you bought those. Nope, made them. And um, so I do want to thrift or try to find a really good pair of vintage Levi shorts. I know it's not that's a weird bucket list item, but it's still, I mean, that's very sugar ray summer, you know? And then the last one for me is to have at least one s'more. Again, this is kind of like a whack bucket list, but it is like have one s'more. Every year I need to have at least one s'more. I would also love to go camping. Me and my friends used to do an annual camping trip, and then obviously we're not doing them this year, but that would have been really, really fun. It would have been the sh would have been the cherry on top for my sugar ray summer. So I would like to maybe figure that out. Maybe I can finesse something. We'll see. I actually really want to go camping for my birthday this year. We'll see. We'll see what's in the work. But I think for me, this summer is just making the best of what we got. Like, there's always something going on, always something to do. You know, things are expensive, things are X, Y, and Z. But like, let's just do what we can with what we have. Like, I just it's also too sometimes like with the podcast and with content and stuff. I feel myself in my mind, I'm like, I'm on summer break. Like, this is my time to decompress. This is my time to rejuvenate. Like, I just want to have fun and be carefree. And like I said, drink orange wine and grill and make light dinners and go to rooftops and have fun nights. Like, I just I want to either be at home and be rejuvenating and just like enjoying my amenities because I do have a pool. Like today, I edited the first half of this podcast by the pool. That was really nice to do. Um, and just like grill and every once in a while dress up and go out for dinner. Like, I just really want like a low-key, yeah, chill like during the week, and then like maybe in the weekends get into something. But anyways, that's just my personal summer bucket list. I actually would like to know yours. So maybe I'll do a little Instagram post and have and I would love for people to comment with their like summer of what what this is the summer of them for, or like what theme they're going for. So I'm very nostalgic. Sugar Ray summer. And yeah, but yeah, thank you guys again for listening. My name is Alyse, and I'll see you guys next week. Bye.