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Ep 12: Attending a Lifestyle House Party
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We share what lifestyle house parties really look like, from small apartments to packed mansions, and why they can be the easiest way to meet people while traveling. We break down party types, how to find events on SDC and SLS, and the simple etiquette that keeps everything fun, safe, and drama-free.
• Why house parties fit lifestyle travel and weekend plans
• What house parties are and how sizes change the vibe
• Common formats like DTF nights, bi women parties, single men invites and celebration events
• How to find listings on SDC and SLS and what “private invite” really means
• Reading the room, consent basics and leaving early without guilt
• Being a great guest: introductions, cleanup, parking rules and bringing a bottle
• Our favorite party stories plus what made a few nights total duds
• Mailbag answer on what to bring: cooler, go bag, lingerie and a go-home outfit
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SPEAKER_00This podcast is intended for adult audiences over the age of 18. The podcast includes adult language, situations, sexually explicit material, listeners, please be advised.
RV Life And Summer Route Changes
SPEAKER_01Welcome to Next Door Splane, a podcast about lifestyle travel and events, hosted by veteran lifestyle couples, Cora and Max. In each episode, we hope to entertain, educate, and provide information based on our own personal experiences. The views, thoughts, and ideas expressed are solely our own and not to be taken as professional advice. All right, welcome to this episode. Today we are talking about attending house parties, a very popular thing in the lifestyle.
SPEAKER_00One of our favorite things to do on the weekends, of course. Yes.
SPEAKER_01On the weekends. Before we get to talking about that, let's talk a little bit about what's going on in our current world. We are recording this March 2026 in the middle of the month.
SPEAKER_00And we're still here in our RV, as you can see. We're sitting here in our living room. We're still in Florida and we're getting ready. We're so close. We're so close to getting on the road. We are actually going to take off in April and uh start heading out to those neighborhoods near you guys.
SPEAKER_01That's right. And we've had a little bit of a change of our summer plans. We did plan to go to Europe this summer, but with some changes as well, life changes happen, some curveballs thrown our way. That has been postponed to another year. So it won't be happening this year. But that frees up a lot of time for this summer for other travels in the state. So we will be staying on the east side of the United States, the east coast, like kind of Midwest, kind of Missouri, all the way over to Virginia and then South Georgia, and then we'll hit Florida and then a little, maybe even go up into Pennsylvania. We'll see where our travels are going to be. Who knows?
SPEAKER_00It's wherever the wind takes us.
SPEAKER_01Exactly. And speaking of that, we need a little help. What kind of places should we go to on the East Coast? So if you have a spot that you think we should go to, check out this summer, send us a message on any of our socials. You can DM us or you can send an email to nextdoorswing.com.
Why House Parties Matter For Travel
SPEAKER_00Absolutely. And you might be asking yourself, why are we talking about house parties when this is a travel lifestyle type of podcast? Well, if you guys are going somewhere and you want to take in some events, some of the best ways to get out there and meet people are actually to look on STC or SLS and find one of those house parties that you might want to attend to dip your toes in. Now I'll tell you straight up up front, just because you go to a house party does not mean you have to do anything. And a lot of people believe that once we go to that to a house party that it's you know it everybody's getting naked and the old fishbowl type uh house party back in the 70s. Definitely not. Not so much. That's not we're we're not in the 70s anymore.
SPEAKER_01Yeah. I mean there are fishbowl parties.
SPEAKER_00There are fishbowl parties. Yep. I'm sure you'll find them.
SPEAKER_01Uh but not all house parties are like that. So that's what we're talking about today. And this is that's why we're talking about it. Is it's a big event in the lifestyle. A lot of lifestylers like house parties.
SPEAKER_00Yep. So right after this break, we'll get into the meat and gritty of uh house style party lifestyle house parties in and around the area.
SPEAKER_01All right, we'll be right back.
SPEAKER_00All right, we're back, and we're all ready to get into this episode about lifestyle house parties. Yep. So, what would a house party typically look like, Miss Cora?
SPEAKER_01It's exactly what it sounds like. It is a party at someone's house.
SPEAKER_00Hey, there you go. Check the box, we got that one covered.
SPEAKER_01And, you know, I I'd like to also preface this that houses can be small or large. We've been to house parties that were one bedroom, one bath apartments, you know, in some places. And we've been to house parties that are six or eight bedrooms with six or eight bathrooms, multiple kitchens, you know, mansion style homes. We've been to house parties um all the all the ranges.
SPEAKER_00There are let me also throw this caveat out there. The reason why we're bringing this up, this whole episode up about the house parties is we have been uh lifestyle now for 12 years. You guys all know that as our subscribers and dedicated to watching us, that we also uh you know, we hosted house parties, we've gone to a lot of house parties, we've hosted meet and greets, very successful meet and greets in and around the Tampa area. And some of you guys might have actually been to a few of them. Uh, but we feel as if we wanted to pass this information on because again, it's important that if you guys are traveling and you're looking to do something a little risque, uh, those for those people that are just getting into the lifestyle or those that have thought about getting into it, maybe this might be something that might make you comfortable in doing that house parties are a thing to do, and they are everywhere. Like I we said earlier, yeah, you can find them on SLS and SDC, the two websites, the big website, Cassidy, any of those websites, they're out there. So don't think though that once you go there you have to do anything and that it's gonna be a free-for-all and all that other stuff. They all come with their own etiquette. Yeah, and uh and like Miss Cora said, we've gone to some that are just in a little bit of you know apartments, apartments, yeah. To everything like into great big mansions, right?
SPEAKER_01So and there are also different sizes of house parties, too. A small house party might be two or three couples. We've been to those. A large house party might be over a hundred people in a house, and it can be very crowded, depending on the size of the house, though. Some of those houses are very large.
Party Types And How Vibes Differ
SPEAKER_00And I'd also like to take this time too and say there are different style of parties when it comes to house parties as well. There's the traditional, uh like the I like to call down dirty by 9 30, your DTF parties, that everybody kind of gets a whiff at the know that, hey, when we show up, there is going to be playing ball. That still does not mean though that you have to participate, that you have to be in to want to uh and in with a couple and then go down that route. Right. Everybody that goes into a house party, you'll always hear this no means no, or no is a complete answer. You still have that option of saying no if you don't want to get involved in anything.
SPEAKER_01Right. So speaking of types of parties, so you mentioned like a DTF, that is down to fuck. That means everybody there is kind of expecting to play. The the host invited certain couples with everyone knowing the chemistry is there for everyone to play. But there are also different styles as well. There are by girls parties we went to before, where it's um couples that come, but all of the women are by and they want to explore and have fun on that spectrum. There are also single men parties.
SPEAKER_00Well, I'll also say out there for the by parties, the by uh wive parties, uh guys don't think it's just you're just gonna be going there and watching your wives play. No, no, no. The men will get involved. Trust me.
SPEAKER_01When they're invited.
SPEAKER_00When they're invited. And and trust me, when the women get worked up, that's a great party to be at. That's probably some of my favorite parties, actually, is whenever we go to a bye party, by girls party. Yeah. And uh the girls get worked up.
SPEAKER_01Yep. And other popular ones are single guy parties or BBC parties. This is where it is a home and they purposely invite couples and single men or BBC men to the party because that's what the couples like at that party, and they want to add a third. And it's an easy way to add a third with the hard work taken out. Like the men usually there are already vetted by the host. Um, this most of them are hand selected by the host because the host is not going to invite people to their home that they wouldn't trust or that have some reason uh to be concerned with. And so that I do enjoy going to those kind of parties because the men are vetted usually by the host, um the husband of the host couple.
SPEAKER_00Yeah, and it those are a lot of fun. Those parties are a lot of fun. And we've been to several of those here around the Tampa area. Right.
SPEAKER_01Another tradition for house parties is celebrating something. Like New Year's Eve parties are very popular for a house party. A lot of people don't want to drive on New Year's Eve, and so they have a house party where people can um spend the night often or you know, go to go home at you know, four or five in the morning whenever most of the traffic has died down. Also, birthday parties are popular and uh and all kinds of um summer parties. You'll see like barbecues, fourth of July parties, that's popular for house parties.
SPEAKER_00And there's just parties where you just want to celebrate, hey, it's a Saturday and let's have a good time. And we've been to many of those as well where our friends have all said, hey, who has a big house? And uh because it's been a while to have a house party, right? It's time to have uh have a good time. So we just throw together a group of people and we go have find somebody's house and have a house party so there are all kinds and styles of house parties, is the bottom line.
SPEAKER_01Most lifestyle couples of our friends prefer a house party over almost any other event.
SPEAKER_00Um one, they're cheap.
SPEAKER_01They're cheap. You don't have to go out and spend a bunch of money on a club, on alcohol, you bring your own bottle, you know, I mean, that kind of thing. Also, house parties, um, usually there's snacks of some sort. Usually people mingle around the kitchen or mingle in the living room.
SPEAKER_00Everybody tends to gravitate towards the kitchen. I don't know why, but everybody seems to hang out in the kitchen.
SPEAKER_01Right. Bedrooms are usually set up for play. Um, sometimes there's group play areas set up as well. So if there is, I mean, sometimes right in the middle of the living room. Um, we've been to parties where there's three um blow-up beds right in the middle of the living room. And that was our house. Well, that was at the biggirl party as well, right in the middle of the living room. And then they also had bedrooms set up. We've also been to other house parties where they have like a rec room or a TV room upstairs, and that space is dedicated, um, like with multiple beds on the floor, some couches, things like that. Um, usually a very sexy, sexy vibe.
SPEAKER_00It's always a great vibe.
SPEAKER_01Right. Um, also, um, not all house parties are the same, like you've already mentioned. Some are DTF, some are sexy vanilla pool parties. A lot of those tend to be where no play goes on. It's just a Sunday afternoon, and let's get together and celebrate, you know, somebody's birthday or 4th of July.
SPEAKER_00That's not saying that you know that you know tops might be coming off and stuff like that. It might be a top list, but the biggest thing though is if you do look for those parties, you do find them out there on the different sites, on Facebook, wherever.
SPEAKER_01Or through your friends.
SPEAKER_00You'll you'll be able to you'll be able to figure it out real quick which way the vibe is going. So the biggest thing is read the room and read the room and read the room. You're gonna find out which way the party is going. And and and whether or not you want to take part, that's completely up to you, still.
SPEAKER_01Usually the host sets the tone for that as well.
SPEAKER_00And so Yeah, if you find the host coming around to all the men at 9:30 and taking their belts, then we're getting ready to have some fun.
SPEAKER_01That's exactly right. And that has happened at a house party, uh, a couple house parties that we've been to. The host actually will go around and she'll start start with the men's belt, and then after that, she goes around and takes the men's shirts, and then after that, the women, you know, she takes the women's.
SPEAKER_00And the funny thing, this was actually at a by girl party. So you're the by girl and getting all the guys naked.
Who Goes And Where They Happen
SPEAKER_01I was like, okay, but there has to be a party starter. And at that one, the host was definitely party starter. Okay, let's talk about the who. Who goes to house parties?
SPEAKER_00Everybody.
SPEAKER_01All spectrums of the lifestyle.
SPEAKER_00If you're a swinger in the LS world, you've probably been to well, so I mean by the LS world, yeah, I would probably say you've been to a house party by one point.
SPEAKER_01Or want to go, or should want to go to a house.
SPEAKER_00Or definitely want to go.
SPEAKER_01Exactly. Because remember, at these parties, vanilla on the vanilla side, the curious uh right couples, they can go to a house party too and get, you know, worked up in the vibe and and see how everything is um working. And the nice thing about a house party is you're not locked in. If you're not comfortable with something, you just pick up your stuff and you say, you know, have a great night. Thanks for inviting me, and you just leave. Or if things just aren't going your way, or not not your way, but but what you envision, right? Or if you're not comfortable, you just get your things and leave. It's not like you're on a you know boat and can't get off the boat and uh, you know, you just you just leave. Um so yes, lifestylers of all the spectrum, also all the ages of lifestylers as well. We'll see young lifestylers having you know parties older, and then we see a lot of mixed crowds as well. Usually house parties are with friend groups. So usually it's private invite by some groups of people that you meet, and then they, you know, go to one one couple's house. However, many are on the sites, like you've already mentioned SLS, SDC, Cassidy, the different, the different sites. Uh, we tend to like those parties because we like to travel. And so, you know, we like to go two or three hours away and go to a party that maybe we don't know anyone at. Those are fun as well.
SPEAKER_00Those are good that's really good for us to actually then work on our communication and be able to communicate in real time what we want to have happen when when things are getting ready to go down. Right. Uh that way they're when it we know the when we're feeling like we want to make it happen, we can make it happen. Right, right.
SPEAKER_01All right, so where? Where are these house parties at?
SPEAKER_00Everywhere.
SPEAKER_01Everywhere.
SPEAKER_00I mean everywhere. I would love to say they're in every city, but obviously we don't know that. We're not professionals, but I would say that if you want a house party, uh you can look for them out there again on the SDCs, or you could host one yourself.
SPEAKER_01Actually, we have looked in all the cities that we go to and we find them in all major cities that we go to. Yeah, major cities, right? Like, you know, you're you're going to hubs, and we have found them on those on the sites. So they're in all major cities that we've found. All right, when? When do usually house parties happen?
When They Run And How To Find
SPEAKER_00Typically, the traditional house party in the LS world, you're talking Friday, Saturday night. Now, we tend to do uh obviously looking at doing stuff on Friday and Saturday night, but that's not to say, like you mentioned, there's some on Sunday afternoons. We know, as a matter of fact, there's a gentleman just south of us that he hosts twice a month a house party for a small group of people, and it's only on Sunday. Well, actually, I think they moved it to Saturday now. But it used to be on Sunday afternoons. It's just what worked for them. And uh you'll see you'll find them out there. Right. But Friday, it's basically the weekend, or especially long weekends, holidays, you'll find those house parties. So how?
SPEAKER_01How how how how well the how, like we've mentioned several times, the websites out there is to look for the party, party posting, party listing. You are much better at this. So explain how, if we were going to a new city, how you would go about finding a house party and like going, like how does that even work?
SPEAKER_00It's it's pretty simple. Once you get on SDC, you get your profile set up on the left-hand side. Either you're on your uh on the app that's on your phone or if you're on the computer, you can go down the left-hand side and usually it says parties up there, and you can click on the parties and they'll give you a whole list either by calendar or by just a list, and then you can go up on the right-hand side and refine your search. And you can actually change the city that you're you're whether you're in or you're traveling to, whatever, and look uh within a specific range of how many miles from that city. So it makes it pretty easy to find out what's going on in a city that you're going to. Now that's basically on STC. On SLS, it's pretty much the same thing. You can go to events and at the end of the events or hot dates, I'm sorry, and at the uh end of the hot dates, it usually has all the events that are located at, and then you can go up in the top and also change the city or wherever you want to search. And then like date range and date range too that you're looking for, and then uh be able to find those things. Yep.
SPEAKER_01And and if you want to go to a party and you see one listed on there, then what do you do at that point?
SPEAKER_00There's usually once you click on it and you find you'll find all the information out about the party, and then what typically happens now there's two different kinds of parties in that realm. One is just uh it's a private invite, meaning, yeah, you can click on it, then the person's gonna take a look at your profile and you know kind of vet you, and then allow you to join the group at that point, or it's just open to everybody and that you just hit in and you're automatically uh into the group and then you're automatically at the party. Now, I will say a lot of those parties though, because obviously they're not giving out their address to everybody, you might have to wait to like a day or two before the party to where they send it out on everybody on a group chat or something along that lines on either one of the sites. So they'll do that, they'll send it out the information of where you're gonna where the house is at, what to do. Now, I will say, this is probably important too. Please make sure you follow the guidelines of whatever the host is you know putting out there that goes from parking because you're obviously you're going to somebody's neighborhood, and there's probably gonna be about 20 or 30 cars showing up, so you can't just park on the grass and then neighbors or wherever. So follow, there's usually a parking general rules for parking, but they'll the host will give out, and uh just make sure to follow those. Make sure to always bring something. Um, and we'll talk about those here in just the tips as well. But uh big thing is just to follow whatever the host guidelines are for those parties. Yeah, good.
Why Go And How To Leave
SPEAKER_01Um, all right, why? Why attend house parties?
SPEAKER_00I think it's a great way to meet new people and be in an environment which it it sounds contradictory, but uh I I think it's a great environment to meet new people with no pressure to do anything. Because you could literally say yep, no, or whatever, and you can read the vibe. And if the vibe is starting to go to oh crap, everybody's getting naked, you can easily slide out slide out.
SPEAKER_01And we've done that before several times. And if that happens, if you want to tell the host, hey, thanks for having me, we're gonna, you know, jet out. You don't have to make it a big announcement. You can kind of do a little Irish dip. Everyone does it. St.
SPEAKER_00Patty's Day is coming up, right? So uh you can do an Irish dip and be okay.
SPEAKER_01You know, you could even leave and then just text the host, hey, we had a great time, we had to step out, we had to leave a little early. You do not have to give a reason. Nope. Don't make up something. Don't don't lie. Don't lie. Um, don't be like, you know, my daughter's sick or something. You don't have to do that. Just just leave. Thank you for coming. Or, you know, thank the guests for inviting you. Nope. And then and then just leave if you're not feeling it. It's okay. We've done that several times. And sometimes it's just that maybe I'm not feeling well. And but again, or maybe we just don't like the vibe of the people there, or you know, I don't know. It could be anything. But you can't do it.
SPEAKER_00Remember, it doesn't matter between you and your spouse what you guys want to partake in.
SPEAKER_01Right, right. Another part of the why that I like house parties is sometimes I like just to sit down on the couch and have a conversation with people and not have blaring music in the background where I can't, you know, understand what they're saying. It's a time really to get to know people better. I think we get to know people the best in house party environments as far as conversation and connection and chemistry.
SPEAKER_00Yeah, and then maybe go fuck. Yeah, we'll see. That happens too. That happens too.
Guest Etiquette And Safety Basics
SPEAKER_01All right. Now, just the tips.
SPEAKER_00My favorite part of the show, just the tips. It's not a game. This is just the tip.
SPEAKER_01Just the tips.
SPEAKER_00Just the tips. All right, what are your some your biggest tips?
SPEAKER_01My well, uh, my biggest one is uh to be a good guest, to be a great guest, because if you have a good time, you want to be invited back, right? And so be a good guest, um, clean up after yourself, introduce yourself to the host when you first get there. Especially, you know, if it's somebody's home, it's a stranger's home that you're walking into, they don't know you, you don't know them. Um introduce yourself. And if you uh do know the host and you've already introduced yourself, there are probably going to be other people at the party that you do not know. Go introduce yourself and walk up to them, say hi, my name is, you know, nice to meet you, and then talk to them. It's not the host's job to introduce you to everyone else at the party. The host is busy.
SPEAKER_00Now, one of my pet peeves, and I'm gonna jump in and say this right now, is whenever I we hear, because we hear this a lot because we host a lot of parties, we do a lot of different uh group activities around here as well. When people come out and say, Well, there it's very clickish, it's very clickish. Well, yeah, when you're going to a house party, especially it's gonna be clickish because most times it's it's a group of people that already know each other already. So it's not a click, that is just simple fact that they are comfortable with those people they're talking to. It's really up to you guys out there to reach out and say hi. And all this takes and walking up and say, Hey, how you doing? I am how you doing, good to meet you. That's it. And then you're already established a rapport. So put yourself out there a little bit and be a little courageous and uh get out there and meet people.
SPEAKER_01Right, right, exactly. Exactly. Uh, another one is uh just the tip bring a bottle for the bar. Um, most of these are drinking uh events and usually we take you know a bottle uh for the bar.
SPEAKER_00We've been to some house parties too, where they actually have a bartender that are serving drinks behind a bar, and it's always nice to just bring a little something something, you know, wine, a bottle of booze. I usually like to bring something that we like to drink. Right. So that way we know it's there. Uh like if we have specific kind of vodka or a specific kind of rum we like to drink, that way they're we know it's there. And uh typically they're gonna have the traditional mixes, so that's that's pretty easy as well.
SPEAKER_01Right. Um, another thing is if they have a bartender, bring tip money for the bartender.
SPEAKER_00Yep.
SPEAKER_01Um, we have been to several parties where they'll hire in a bartender um and to mix your, you know, you bring your own alcohol, you're not paying for anything, but it's nice to tip the bartender as well. Yep. All right. The other one was oh, uh, this was a big one, and you've mentioned it already. Read the room. Read the room. Um, especially when it comes to alcohol consumption um and party favors. Um, that would be extracurricular recreational uh party favors that might be at the party. Um if they're out and being used, same, then then that's usually a red, a green flag, right? Um alcohol, watch your own or your spouse's alcohol intake.
SPEAKER_00No one likes a sloppy, sloppy, sloppy drunk.
SPEAKER_01And it really will kill a vibe at a house party. So make sure you and your partner keep that in check. Um, you know, have fun, obviously, but try and try and keep that reined in.
SPEAKER_00Yeah, and I'll say this one thing too. Kind of leans over to the other side of it if you're thinking about hosting a party. The guest list and who you who's coming. You gotta make sure everybody's vibing. If you're at a house party too and you're reading the room and you can tell everybody's vibing, everybody's connecting, it's gonna be a good night. But if you're noticing that there hey, there's something going on, there's something on a riff, then just listen. We've said it a hundred times before, listen to your gut. Yeah, ladies, listen to your gut and your instinct.
SPEAKER_01Your instinct will tell you for sure. Another thing about reading the room is the play environment and like PDA, right? And so if the host is in the kitchen making out with a single guy that came in, obviously it's probably okay that play is uh uh acceptable everywhere in the house. To include the kitchen. To include the kitchen. Now, some house parties, the kitchen or the living room is like designated not play space because that is like the relaxed place where it's a no-pressure zone, right? And so so activity is happening in bedrooms or wherever they deem it.
SPEAKER_00And typically the hosts will walk you around and kind of show you, especially if they know it's your first time, they're gonna show you around, show you the areas where play can happen, where play isn't gonna happen, where not to go into, not to do this, and most importantly, where the bathrooms are right. Yeah, exactly. And uh those kind of things. So normally the hosts are gonna do a good job and actually make sure that everybody's comfortable and knowing where stuff's gonna go down.
SPEAKER_01Right. Well, and it and if you don't know, ask. Or don't ask the host.
SPEAKER_00Yep.
SPEAKER_01Um the hosts want you to ask questions, they want you to feel comfortable. They wouldn't open their home to you if they want you if they didn't want you to have a good time. So, yeah, ask, ask questions. Um, and then also follow the guidelines. You've already mentioned this um that hosts put out as far as when it comes to parking and what to bring and how long to stay and things like that. Speaking of that, that was that's another tip too: how long to stay. Some house parties are a three-hour event, and when it's over, it's over. Um, the the gentleman south of us who has the Saturday day parties. Four hours. Four hours, four hours. Two to six. He says two to six. He and he's like, I want you out of my house by six o'clock. This is not a lingering party. We've been to other parties where it starts at 10 o'clock in the morning and it doesn't stop until 10 o'clock the next morning. Um, and so again, that is a question for the host. Read the room. Is as many people start trickling out, no when it's time to find your right.
SPEAKER_00Easy to read the room and when it's finishing up.
SPEAKER_01Yeah, exit strategies are important. And then you've already talked about no is no. It is a complete sentence. Just because you're in a house party situation doesn't mean it's a free-for-all, doesn't mean those rules go out the window.
SPEAKER_00And it's also important to hear in the tips to say that uh general etiquette in the lifestyle still exists at house parties. There might be a little bit additional or takeaway from that as well, but usually it's up to the host to allow, you know, the etiquette of you know, no means no, you know, all those different rules and you know, things that kind of go along with the etiquette and the lifestyle still apply at the house parties. Definitely. Uh, but again, the hosts were kind of you know, let you know what those all are. Right.
Favorite Stories Plus Two Duds
SPEAKER_01And if you're not feeling it, or if it's just if if you know maybe it's an early night for you, then just leave. You know, if you can find the host, thank them for inviting you. But if not, send them a message the next day. It's okay to do an Irish dip. Absolutely. Absolutely. All right, I wanted to talk a little bit about our favorite house parties and maybe a dud.
SPEAKER_00I don't know if I could actually narrow it down to, but okay, we got this.
SPEAKER_01Okay. I have two words. I know you do. I know I was trying to have you narrow it down. Okay, I have two.
SPEAKER_00Okay.
SPEAKER_01Okay. My first favorite house party was actually one that we went to that we did not know anyone. We traveled from Tampa to Daytona Beach, and that was um, it was about a three-hour commute for us. So it was, and we we purposely went away for the weekend. Um, we had a hotel Friday and Saturday night, I believe, and then we we wanted to make a weekend of it. We even went to the beach, we went to Daytona, we went downtown, things like that. But we went to this house party. We show up at this house party, and it was a big house.
SPEAKER_00It was huge.
SPEAKER_01It was a very large house.
SPEAKER_00Probably one of the biggest house parties we've ever attended.
SPEAKER_01It was.
SPEAKER_00It was by a great group on the east coast or east coast of Florida. Yeah.
SPEAKER_01And so anyway, we went in, we, you know, said hello to the hosts, we sat our bag down, we mingled, and we kind of ended up in the kitchen because we typically end up in the kitchen. And I'm talking to these um three other ladies in the kitchen.
SPEAKER_00Well, let me let me jump in just for a quick second. I walked over to the you were in the living room, and I walked over to the kitchen to get us a drink. And then when I came back, I noticed you were talking to the girls.
SPEAKER_01So Okay, living room, kitchen. Oh, I was talking, I had had a few drinks, so um, I was I was feeling courageous. So anyway, um, three sexy ladies, and one of the girls said to me, So how do these house parties get started? When do things go down? And I said, Are you ready for things to go down? And she said, Yes. And I went, Well, pretty sure there's an empty room right around the corner. Let's all head that way. And I grabbed one hand of the girl, she grabbed the other hand of the next girl, she grabbed the other hand of the next girl. All four girls going. I led them into a playroom.
SPEAKER_00As I was coming back with the drinks, is when I saw you taking them off into the bedroom.
SPEAKER_01And you were like, Where are we going? I mean, we're going into this room here. And so we get into the bedroom, super sexy chemistry. We were all like very hot. Very we was it was super sexy. All of the girls ended up on the bed, and we're all just playing, having fun.
SPEAKER_00You were diversifying too. We had uh Cuban, a Venezuelan, uh I think German. German and the um an Irish. Irish. We had all of them.
SPEAKER_01We had a div yeah, diverse group. Anyway, I heard um out of my ear uh one guy say to you, to to Warden, when do we get in? When when when do we get in? When do we get in?
SPEAKER_00The girls, all four girls, were in the middle of the bed just having a great time together. And us four guys were kind of getting things logistics situated on the outside around the bed. They're just watching. And one guy comes over and taps me on the shoulder and says, Excuse me, but uh, when will we know to join in? And I'm like, Don't worry, I'm definitely guaranteeing you they'll let you know.
SPEAKER_01Yes, that's what I said, they'll let you know. And so I heard you say that, and I was like, ah, good job. Because that I like. I like having some girl exploration time, especially with other women that are by in the moment and guys not rushing in, like, like fellas, just a little tip. Let the let the girls have their time. Uh, and then at about five minutes later, uh, one girl grabbed one guy, one girl grabbed another guy, put him in, and then it was eight of us uh playing in the bed, so sexy, so super sexy.
SPEAKER_00It was really so fun.
SPEAKER_01Uh and that was the first night we had we had met all of them, very sexy vibe. And then, you know, afterward we got up, we're getting dressed, it was fun. And I asked, um, you know, well, how long have you been in the lifestyle? And two of the girls said, Oh, this is our first party ever.
SPEAKER_00Yeah, brand new, brand new, brand new lifestyle. All three of them, all three couples.
SPEAKER_01At first, I was like, Whoops, sorry. No, because I was the one who led them into the room. But it was so that was awesome. Why that is my favorite party memory, one of my favorite party memories is because when we go away to parties and I'm immersed with people that I don't know, I feel more courageous to make something happen. Like I'm not reserved, I'm more forward. Um, and that night, you know, I was more forward, and you know, in and we walked with the other three ladies. So that was one of my favorites. All right. Uh, do you want to do your favorite or should I do my other one?
SPEAKER_00I'll do my favorite. Go ahead. And I this is hard, you know, because there's we've been to a lot of them and we've had a lot of favorites, but this was actually probably most recent. Well, I would say most recent one, but a a recent one, uh, where literally it was a bunch of us decided, hey, we haven't had a house party in a while, and we found somebody's house, a friend of ours. Friends, right? Yeah, and they were like, well, let's host it at our place. And we brought in, I think it was what, 10 couples. And uh it was one of those that everybody was already we knew everybody was gonna be jiving because we've all been around a while. Great chemistry, great chemistry with all of us, and uh, once we got the the beautiful house, beautiful, beautiful house, had it set up with different playrooms and different sides of the house and everything. And uh, we were in the kitchen for about 30-40 minutes, and then all of a sudden the hostess was like, All right, it's time to uh have some fun, everybody, and clothes just are flying. And uh it was I want to say a free-for-all, because that's probably not the polite way of putting it, but it was everyone was in and ready. Oh, there was one bedroom, uh the master bedroom had probably four couples on it playing, and then another bedroom in the back corner, probably had three couples playing, and everybody was taking their time as well, and uh it just ended up being great. And uh that's what I kind of like, and we've been you know, I said we've been doing this now for 12 years, and uh a lot of times we go to these these house parties and we come to find out it's either a sexy vanilla party and we're just we're like in the mood of like no let's make something happen and it's just not gonna happen. We kind of get frustrated with that, but then or we go to a party that we thinking it's going to be a kind of a DTF party, but then it turns into a um well, it's just a party party, and everybody's you know, listening to music and partying, and uh we're kind of frustrated because we kind of like to play. I think maybe you might be more frustrated than uh but it kind of you know, because a lot you go to house sometimes you go to these house parties and the intention is what you'd like to do is have a good time. Now there is, you know, going to a Sunday vanilla party is also fine and dandy and great, and that's what you want to do. Uh but my kind of house party though, I'd like to have at least the the opportunity for play to occur. Yeah. Yeah. Oh, you want to go up with your dud?
SPEAKER_01Well, I have another favorite.
SPEAKER_00Oh. Okay.
SPEAKER_01I have another favorite. You can think about another favorite if you want one too. I think we can have more than one favorite. So this favorite was at a party that I did not play at, but you did play at. And it was so hot. We are in, we went to the party. Um, it was a pool party, it was kind of day and night party. There was probably, I don't know, maybe 30 couples, so about 60 people. It's kind of a medium-sized party. And um, this one lady and her husband, uh, I I knew we didn't know them. Um, they had traveled to this party. We knew almost everyone else there. And this one lady, she, you know, was flirting with you, and I was watching it happen, and which I was completely fine with. It was way going over your head.
SPEAKER_00I had no idea it was going on.
SPEAKER_01Yeah. And and I told you about two hours into the party, I was like, look, this lady is really into you, and I'm pretty sure that she wants to play. And I'm not in a place space, and I'm not really feeling chemistry with her husband. So if you get the opportunity to play with this lady and her husband, I was like, go do it. I'm I'm in. I'm I'm in, right? And that again, that goes to the communication piece. I saw it happening, I knew he didn't see it, but I wanted to state way ahead of time that you had permission. I see it happening. This that was the communication piece. Exactly right on cue, about two hours later. She came over and she was talking to us and she said, Hey, do you um want to go to this bedroom with me and my husband and this other single guy? And and then you looked at me and you were like, Well, do you want to go? And I was like, She's not inviting me, she's inviting you. And yes, you may, and I think that would be hot. And then that's exactly what happened. You went in to the bedroom, you, a single guy, her, and her husband. Her husband more watched, right?
SPEAKER_00Well, yeah, I yeah, her husband sat basically in the corner, and uh, and the the other single guy, he was a good friend of ours as well. And uh, so he and I um satisfied her. Satisfied her to the fullest. And it was hot.
SPEAKER_01And I was out by the pool sitting with uh one of my girlfriends just hanging out chatting, and um, she didn't know, or she did know because I told her, uh, because she asked where you went, and I told her, Oh, he's you know, in in play. And now she's like, Oh, that's cool. And I was like, Yeah. It was kind of funny in the party too. A couple other of our friends walked up and said, Hey, where's uh your husband at? And I was like, Oh, it's not important. And they were like, What? He's playing alone because you know, we usually don't do that. But in that moment, in that vibe, I was 100%, this is hot. My, you know, everything was good, the chemistry was was good with what was happening, and I was loving being outside knowing what was happening inside. It was very hot to me.
SPEAKER_00It was and then on the drive home, on the drive home, this never happened, and uh so you wanted every little detail and you were getting more turned on to the point where you started playing with yourself on the drive home. Yes, that is and orgasmed right there beside me in the passenger seat.
SPEAKER_01As he was telling me detail by detail what what happened.
SPEAKER_00That was pretty hot.
SPEAKER_01It was hot. Okay, so do you have another favorite you want to share?
SPEAKER_00What about okay? Yeah, we could talk all day long about favorites.
SPEAKER_01We have a couple of duds. So my dud is we went to a greedy girl party, they call it, which is a that host was hosting single men at the party. And the idea was I think there was 30 couples and I think there was 30 single men, something like that. It was a lot. The the problem, and the reason this is a dud for me is because it was way too many people. Yeah, we would we were wall to wall just in the kitchen and the living room, walking through the area. There was no, you know, it was so loud because people were talking over each other, but there was no like room to even walk.
SPEAKER_00It was just like even when we walked upstairs and went to check out the playrooms.
SPEAKER_01Because we were gonna look about playing for the city.
SPEAKER_00When we walked upstairs, the playrooms, there was you there was there was no way you could fit another body in any one of those playrooms, the bedrooms which turned to playrooms.
SPEAKER_01Right.
SPEAKER_00There's just way too many people, right?
SPEAKER_01And so that was a dud for us. It was just overcrowded.
SPEAKER_00And it was funny because that same night, if it's the party I'm thinking of, we found ourselves backed into the corner with another couple that we had just met there. And uh the four of us just sat there and talked, became good friends, and uh hung out, and they were like, Yeah, well, we're gonna take off. And we're like, Yeah, we're gonna take off too. Yeah, and just took off.
SPEAKER_01Yeah, and that was one of the ones we just left. We didn't, you know, say goodbye to the host, but the next day we messaged the host and said thank you. So yeah, all right, what was your dud?
SPEAKER_00Well, it falls all on the same lines. This was back when we were in Virginia Beach, and uh it was a a circle of friends that we had been in and out of for a while, and uh we had never gone to one of their house parties, and I think this might have been one of our earliest house parties we ever went to, too. And uh we went to the house party, and it was just one of those vibes at a party that we just weren't comfortable at. And uh I remember the host couple actually came up to both of us at separate different times and said, Well, you know, we're into you guys and we really want to play. And uh I I wasn't into her and you weren't into him, and we were happy was just not there. The chemistry wasn't there, and uh what was funny in that one though was there was a I think there were three other couples that felt the exact same way, and we all kind of gravitated towards a corner in the living room and just sat and chatted and talked all for you know a couple three hours of the night, and then uh you know later on we decided no, we're out of here. And I don't think we ever went back to one of the parties. I don't think so. But it's just you could read the room, and that's why we keep hitting it and telling you guys over and over again if you don't be afraid of going to a house party. It's easy to read the room and easy to say no, easy to get out, and um just enjoy yourself and explore and be a little bit adventurous.
SPEAKER_01Yes, adventurous, yeah. Yeah, we've enjoyed that. All right, that is our episode about going to a house party. When we come back, we have a mailbag question.
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SPEAKER_01All right, we'll be right back. All right, we are back with our mailbag question, and it goes right along with house parties. We got the question: what do you take to a house party? So if you are visiting a house party, if you're going to a house party, what do you take? We always have a bag and we always have a cooler. For you, what do you you always pack the cooler?
SPEAKER_00What's the cooler? Well, I take a cooler, small cooler, mainly because I always make want to make sure we have uh, you know, some mixers that we like because we tend to not uh well we try and stay away from a lot of the carbonated drinks and stuff like that. So we want to make sure we have something that we are going to like to drink. So I usually bring a small cooler. And fellas, you gotta make sure you have your go bag, right? You gotta have your little go bag with your condoms, lube, mask if that's what you're into, or any other whips and chains, whatever you want. Well, no, but uh make sure you have your little go bag with you and ready to go because you don't want to get in a situation of like, hey, let's go and play, and you're like, Oh, damn, I didn't bring right. You want to be prepared. Want to be prepared. So make sure for a house party, especially, that you have your go bag maybe a little cooler. Like we mentioned in the tips, make sure you bring something for the host because you don't want to be a horrible, horrible guest.
SPEAKER_01Right, want to be a good guest.
SPEAKER_00Yeah, want to be a good guest. And um, what else?
SPEAKER_01Um so for me, for ladies, it's often popular at house parties that we arrive in a dress of theme. There's usually it's like, you know, a sexy dress or a you know, like a club dress or something like that. Um and then it's very traditional, and a lot of the house parties we go to that the women change into some lingerie um after a few hours. Not all house parties are like this, but many are. And ask the host ahead of time. And then usually, as that goes right along with read the room, usually the host changes first and then or you know, grab some of the ladies and and change into lingerie. Absolutely. Um so I usually take lingerie and then I take an outfit to wear home with comfortable shoes. Usually I will start, usually I will start in heels at a house party with you know my sexy dress, and then the lingerie, sometimes heels with the lingerie, and then I have a go-home outfit. Um, I have some friends that their go-home outfit are their pajama pants and a t-shirt, and that that's what they're going home with. Or a onesie. Or a onesie. Um, usually, you know, mine's like jeans or comfortable pants, depending on the season, the weather.
SPEAKER_00And we've also hosted house parties where people actually left our house party wrapped up in our sheets off our beds.
SPEAKER_01That that did happen.
SPEAKER_00That did happen. I was like, wait a minute, the neighbors. Out they went.
SPEAKER_01Out they went. Oh, that's something else that we didn't mention on uh earlier is that keep in mind when you go to a house party, you are in a neighborhood. So arrive at the house party decently clothed or at least a trench coat on or a jacket or something.
SPEAKER_00I will say house parties are a lot of fun because this is a again a good opportunity to explore and be a little adventurous. So even do so in your outfit you're gonna wear. Not just going in the door, but you're gonna be in somebody's house and hey, why not crank it up a little bit with some sexy lingerie?
SPEAKER_01Right, right. All right, so that's what's in the bag. Uh a change of clothes, lingerie, some alcohol, and your go bag, of course. Gotta have the go bag. Gotta have the go bag.
SPEAKER_00Gotta have the go back.
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