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Ep. 13: Host A Lifestyle House Party
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We share our real-world blueprint for hosting a lifestyle house party that feels safe, sexy, and easy instead of crowded or messy. We walk through guest list control, smart planning, home setup, and our mailbag answer on why some parties ask for a “donation”.
• Defining what a lifestyle house party can be, including home and hotel suite options
• Choosing who to invite, why friends of friends work, and how we vet strangers on SDC and SLS
• Picking a date early and avoiding conflicts with other local lifestyle events
• Controlling the guest list and headcount so the vibe stays right
• Setting expectations with clear guidelines, reminders, and optional themes
• Avoiding Airbnb and VRBO risks, including cameras and legal trouble
• Planning parking, bathrooms, valuables, closed rooms, and pet containment
• Separating food and bar areas so guests don’t bottleneck in the kitchen
• Creating dedicated play space plus our bedding layering method
• Stocking the right supplies: towels, wipes, condoms, toothbrushes, mints, mouthwash, and lots of ice
• Answering where “donation” money goes and why hosts use that wording
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SPEAKER_00This podcast is intended for adult audiences over the age of 18. The podcast includes adult language, situations, sexually explicit material, listeners, please be advised.
SPEAKER_01Welcome to Next Door Splane, a podcast about lifestyle travel and events, hosted by veteran lifestyle couples, Cora and Matt. In each episode, we hope to entertain, educate, and provide information based on our own personal experiences. The views, thoughts, and ideas expressed are solely our own and not to be taken as professional advice. Welcome to this episode. Today we are talking about throwing your own house party.
SPEAKER_00Yeah, who has ever thought about doing that, right?
SPEAKER_01Many, many people have. We have as well. So we wanted to bring you some information about throwing a house party.
SPEAKER_00Absolutely. Now, we have thrown many house parties in our lifestyle career, and we just wanted to pass those on to you guys. And uh what uh you might be asking, how does this tie into lifestyle travel and what this podcast is about? Well, just in case if you're out there and you want to throw for people to want to come visit and want to come and join in, and you can throw this on SDC, SLS, any one of those sites, and have people from all around the area. So it's kind of tying into the travel piece that way. And also you can look at it as an event.
SPEAKER_01It is definitely an event.
SPEAKER_00Definitely an event.
Florida Plans And Listener Outreach
SPEAKER_01Um, yeah, definitely an event. So this ties in that way. Before we talk fully about throwing your own lifestyle house party, in our world right now, we are still in Florida. We are recording this mid-March. Yep. We are still in Florida planning our um route this summer. Um, we are this month and next month hitting up a couple events here in Florida. Absolutely. We're going to Secrets soon.
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SPEAKER_01I'm glad you mentioned that mailbag question because we have a good mailbag question today. So wait all the way to the end because that's where the mailbag question is.
SPEAKER_00Absolutely. So, right after this, we're gonna get started with our episode on how to host a house party.
SPEAKER_01All right, be right back.
SPEAKER_00Okay, we're back and we're about to talk to you guys about how to host a house party. House party. A lifestyle house party. Not a vanilla house house party, but this is going to be a lifestyle house party. Right.
SPEAKER_01All right, so the first is what? What is a a house party in the lifestyle?
SPEAKER_00Well, it's basically where you open up your house or somebody else's. You might be, you know, conjoining with a couple and uh hosting together, you know, location. It could be even in a hotel. We've been uh we've done a couple where they had a big hotel suite and uh they invite a few friends over and considered it a house party. And uh so it doesn't take the different forms of asked, you know, whatever way you want to do it.
Building The Guest List Safely
SPEAKER_01Exactly. All right, who who are you going to invite to your house party?
SPEAKER_00Or actually who goes to the lifestyle parties at our house parties, everybody. Everyone and uh it's very popular. Who you gotta invite? Well, that's probably the most important part about throwing or hosting a house party. I agree. Is you want to make sure you rack and stack that guest list of people that one want to match the vibe and what you're trying to create at your house party, and the also those ones you know are they good guests that you don't want to have, you know, the ruin the event and uh in case of something going on.
SPEAKER_01Right. So for the who, I would say it could be friends or it could be strangers or a combination of both. The combination is actually what I like the best. Yeah. And so what I mean by a combination of both is a lot of people will ask a couple to come, and that couple will come, and then they will ask that couple to bring another couple with you that maybe not everyone knows.
SPEAKER_00Now, how does this work and why does it work? It works really great for us because from our experience about hosting events, not just house parties, but events around the Tampa area. All of our events have been done just this way where we tell people about it, put it out on Facebook, and let them bring friends of friends to the party. Now, how does this work? Well, they're not gonna bring nobody's gonna bring somebody that's gonna be a direct reflection of them, right? So nobody's gonna bring a douchebag to a house party or to your party or to any party. They're gonna make sure that that person's vetted already for you before they come to the party because anything they do there, the other couple, is gonna be a direct reflection upon them.
SPEAKER_01Who they came with.
SPEAKER_00Who they came with. So that is already in itself a great uh thing about opening up to friends of friends.
SPEAKER_01Right, exactly. And so another way to do it is actually just invite strangers, and you would do this by putting it on one of the sites, SLS or SDC, and then vetting it, vetting people through their profile. And um, that's one all the profiles um have um what do they call that where people leave a review or not a review, validation? Validation, and so people leave validations, and so the host might be able to look at all those valid validations and decide.
SPEAKER_00I I will throw up a red flag to that though, that you have to be careful because sometimes people feel as if for if they're doing a validation for another couple that they don't want to hurt feelings and don't want us, so they'll just say, so read between the lines sometimes in those validations and stuff like that on SDC, because again, you're opening up your house to people coming into your house. So you can go ahead and put it on SDC and SLS and open up to the world and just have it an open event, which I wouldn't recommend, especially for your first time, but you could. Uh, we've actually done events where we've opened it up to SDC members, and it was ended up being a great time. It was much crowded, uh, very crowded. However, uh, you can do that. I would say probably for the first time though, you want to keep it small and keep it to people you know and people you would trust to be in your house. And it might also be a good time too, if you're gonna do your first house event, uh, to make sure though you have like almost like a team uh kind of helping you out. Because it could be overwhelming.
Best Days And Smart Locations
SPEAKER_01Yeah, some friends helping out would be great as well. All right, so also um when when are house parties?
SPEAKER_00Well, typically they're on the weekend, uh, like we talked about in our other episodes about you know going to house parties. Typically, house parties are on the weekends, Friday, Saturday night, maybe Sunday, Sunday or Saturday afternoons also.
SPEAKER_01Saturday afternoon, Sunday pool parties are quite popular. Um, another time is holidays. So, like New Year's, you know, how it doesn't always fall on the weekends, so that sometimes is you know on a on a weeknight. Yep. Yep, holidays. Okay, and then where? Obviously.
SPEAKER_00Obviously, in your home.
SPEAKER_01Your home.
SPEAKER_00Doesn't have to be yours, it could be someone else's. Now, uh, we've heard people throw out the idea of doing Airbnb or VRBOs. I would highly recommend against that. It's uh one, it's unless you really trust the people that you're well, no, but it's not necessarily that, but because a lot of the VRBOs and stuff like that now have uh cameras and stuff inside the house, and they are they to protect themselves, they don't want house parties there. And you could very easily get yourself into a legal battle with that. So I would say absolutely not VRBOs, or it's just too too risky. Uh what I would do is just you know, invite your you know, friends over to your place, or hey, um, find a friend that has a big, beautiful house with a big pool and uh talk to them about maybe throwing a house party and again teaming up with a couple three couples to throw it.
SPEAKER_01Right. Well, and then you also mentioned hotel suites.
SPEAKER_00We have done that before where there was like a birthday party and but also just know you might get a knock on the door at four o'clock in the morning because your wife's being a little loud because she's moisterous.
SPEAKER_01Sorry.
SPEAKER_00Hey, I I'm not not mad at it. It was fucking great. Um it happens, so just know that those things might just occur.
SPEAKER_01Yeah, that happened.
SPEAKER_00Yep.
Pick A Date People Can Make
SPEAKER_01All right. Uh, and then now we get to the how. Now, this is the long part because we wanted to bring you an episode that talks about how to have your own house party. So this portion is long. To how is the first things first, I think you have to think about a date. Setting the date is very important. And you want to give people plenty of time in advance because lifestyle people, folks, we are busy and we have things out on the calendar, especially family people. You know, they might have, you know, their their kids or their vacations or whatever it is, work things, whatever it is going along. And you want to also de-conflict with other major events in your area so you don't have two or three things going on. So you're not competing, you know, obviously.
SPEAKER_00And that's really becomes a big deal in a place like Tampa, here in Tampa, because there's so many groups and so many clubs and so many. So you really have to watch what's going on and where everybody's going. Because again, you don't want to be that one person to, you know, kind of throw off the rhythm everybody else say, Hey, no, we're thinking about going here or wherever. You want to just kind of be courteous of what's going on and uh and make sure you're planning ahead.
Control Numbers And Set The Tone
SPEAKER_01Right. Another thing with that is I would say if you have specific couples that you want to invite, reach out to them beforehand and say, hey, we're thinking about doing this party then. And if it's the two or three couples that you really want at your house party, and then you set it for that day, if they're the only ones that can come, then great, that's fine. And then you have a small house party with two or three, four couples, and that that's fine too. And then you can add more in as you go. Yeah, and as you go. All right. And then I would say set the guest list. This is where you come across and talk about the importance of the guest list. This is a big deal.
SPEAKER_00Probably more importantly, if you're gonna be the ones hosting the party, make sure you control the guest list. Make sure you have control of who's coming. We uh early on, we actually uh gave up control of the guest list at one of our house parties. It ended up being a complete flop, nobody had a good time, and it was it wasn't it was a dud. It was a dud. It was a dud.
SPEAKER_01It was nearly it was yeah, and that's because the the guest list um wasn't scrutinized enough. I think I think that's what happened.
SPEAKER_00Well, yeah, and there was controversy between a couple different couples drama and just wasn't great. This wasn't good, and we just and it wasn't anything that we could have done about it.
SPEAKER_01Right. Yeah, it was a kind of a bummer on our end. Um next I want to talk about the number of people you have that you're inviting to this party. Um, think about the number that your house can hold. We have been to house parties where there's not enough room to walk through a living room. It is like you might as well be at the club because it's shoulder to shoulder. It's not a really great time when there's too many people. Um and then the there's not enough room for play spaces, there's not enough room for mingling area, it gets really loud, it kind of draws away from the house party vibe. I also want to say don't feel like you have to invite everyone. You don't.
SPEAKER_00You can't have all you can't possibly have all your friends there. So if someone's friends you know might get feelings might get hurt, that's okay. Explain to them, hey, listen, we couldn't invite everybody.
SPEAKER_01The house is only big enough. Right, exactly. Um, and that's okay. Don't feel bad about that. Also, think about the vibe you want at this party. Think about the guest list and what kind of vibe the people are on the guest list and what kind of vibe you want. Are they party people? Are they, you know, certain kinds of people mesh well together?
SPEAKER_00Is this a DTF party? Is this a Sunday fun day pool party with maybe topless? I mean, you've got to think of what kind of vibe you're trying to push and make sure though that your description of the party when you're pushing out the invite kind of fits along with it. You don't want to have a this is a Sunday fun day party, and then all of a sudden you're like getting, you know, panties in a wad because nobody's playing on whatever's going on at the party. So you want to make sure you're also playing to the crowd in which you're inviting, that you are you you're not crossing wires.
SPEAKER_01Well, I think that just goes to say the host sets the tone.
SPEAKER_00Right.
Invites Themes Reminders And Rules
SPEAKER_01The host sets the tone. Yep. And and that it is and think about that, what kind of tone you want your party to your party, so you can do what the hell you want. Exactly, exactly. All right, as far as disseminating the information, a lot of people will do private Facebook events for a house party. And this is a great way for um guests to see who all is coming, but it's also a really good way for the host to disseminate information.
SPEAKER_00But that only works, that only works if you have a couple's lifestyle page that is completely separate from your vanilla pages. Vanilla pages. And when I say vanilla pages, that means your real world or outside world type pages, and you're only sending it to couples that are on or have a lifestyle couple page. Because what you do not want to do is cross streams and then get other people's involved with you know what's going on, like parents involved, like why, you know, all this stuff coming across, all that kind of stuff that could come out of it.
SPEAKER_01Yeah, usually if it's a private event, um, it's locked down to only those people that are invited, but you never want to take a chance. That's why we do all of that on our couples uh Facebook page. Um, but anyway, you could also do this by text. We have had parties that we've gone to that the the host specifically invites only by text because it might only be six couples that are coming. I love those parties, and so it's very private, and then it's just kind of a copy and paste situation to the texts. Um, but you want to be clear and concise about guidelines in your home. Um, everything from and you want to give good reminders before the party. So if you set a party a month from now and you give them all the guidelines today for a month from now, they're not going to remember.
SPEAKER_00Nor are they gonna scroll back up or go try and look for it. They want the information right before. So it's probably a good idea to send out the last reminder, like the day of the party.
SPEAKER_01Exactly.
SPEAKER_00And just kind of reiterate all the general podcasts. Because they won't read it.
SPEAKER_01They won't they won't read it. Um so set reminders also for your party, set a theme if you want a theme. Um if you want the lit. Down in Durie by 9 30 is always a great theme for me, but that's just if you want to have a um a sexy red dress party, that way all the women know to wear red. Um and then you can also say in the invite that um we'll be getting more comfortable in lingerie at 10 o'clock, so bring us a change of clothes if you feel comfortable too. Because you never want to pressure people to, but you want to give them the option to do to do these things.
SPEAKER_00Exactly.
Parking Privacy Pets Food Bar
SPEAKER_01Um, and that that's pretty typical as far as the changing um thing. So uh let's see. Set reminders, also, like you just said, repeat the guidelines. The day of the party, send the parking directions again. Send uh what they should bring, what they shouldn't bring. Also, think about if you're going to um ask people to bring their own alcohol, bring their own coolers, you need to have a place for that. Also, okay, the day of the party. There's a lot of preparations that go into having a house party. Obviously, getting your home ready is a big one, right? So thinking about parking. What's some of the different parking um scenarios that we've seen at different parties that people do?
SPEAKER_00Well, there's all the all quantities. Just take in consideration that where you're gonna park. If you have 50 people coming, that you know, and you're talking 25 vehicles, you've got to have parking for that. So you've got to take consideration of that. It might be you might have to go ask the neighbors around the neighborhood. Do you mind if you know I'm having get together, whatever? You don't have to be full on about what you're doing. Just saying to get together and hey, we need to have some parking. Do you mind if they park in front of your house? If you live in a cul-de-sac, obviously that has its own issues with the cul-de-sac. We've been to house parties where they actually park cars in the center of the cul-de-sac, and but went around and talked to the neighbors ahead of time. Uh, we've also been to a house party we parked our RV, our big Alice, on the front lawn of a guy's house. Yep. And but you know, we asked, it's not like we just rolled in there and did it. Uh, but if you're hosting, uh it's up to you to figure out parking for the people that are coming. And it's up to you to go to your neighbors and ask those questions too, and you know, make sure everything is you know peaceful around the neighborhood.
SPEAKER_01Exactly. Uh always events, parkings, and parking and bathrooms always tend to be big big ticket items to think about. Another thing is put away any valuables and maybe think about any closed-off rooms that you want. Um, many people will put a sign on, you know, specific bedroom or a garage door, you know, do not enter.
SPEAKER_00Put all the stuff in there.
SPEAKER_01Put the things in there. Um, another thing to think about are your pets. Um, so we had our pets in, you know, one of the bedrooms and had that door close, and we even put a baby gate in front of it or something like that. And I had a sign on the door, do not open. Um, I get, you know, gave the dogs their treats and their busy bones, and they were good, they were good for the night. Uh, think about um food area and alcohol area. Um, try to make those two separate areas because people will congregate around the bar.
SPEAKER_00Yeah, the basic thing is everybody's gonna congregate around the kitchen. Don't know why, but they just do around the kitchen, and they like to hang out in the kitchen. And if you have everything right there in the kitchen, meaning the food and the bar, it's they're going to be there. They're just gonna be there, and they're not gonna be able to separate themselves. So kind of have some distance in different places around the living room or wherever you're gonna, if you have a playroom meaning like a pool room or something like that.
SPEAKER_01Definitely, definitely. Also, also, um, if you have a pool area, think about towels outside and asking people to bring their own towels if you want them to prior, prior to obviously think about seating in the pool area.
SPEAKER_00And more importantly, too, depending on the vibe of which way you want the vibe of the party to go, uh, your neighbors in the backyard. If you have a pool, do you mind people being topless? Have you talked to your or naked or play going on out there around the pool? Have you talked to your neighbors? Uh loud music out by the pool. Because even though there might not be music out there provided by you, somebody could be out there with their phone because they're trying to set the mood. Uh, there's a many different things that could happen outside by the pool area that you're not necessarily out there watching. Uh, so just make sure to take in consideration all those things. And then again, might have to be one of those things where you go talk to the neighbors if you got neighbors that have overlook into your pool area, or you might just be able to put up some white, um, nice, clear, sheer uh we've seen that drapes around, which we've seen many times. Yeah, it looks great anyway.
Host Energy Makes Or Breaks It
SPEAKER_01Right, right. Another tip uh or another thing to think about is when you're at the party as the host, enjoy yourself because your guests will follow your lead.
SPEAKER_00Absolutely. Get your ass out of the kitchen and go out and enjoy yourself and and do stuff.
SPEAKER_01Yeah, exactly.
SPEAKER_00Be adventurous.
SPEAKER_01Yeah. After the party, be sure to reflect with your partner what was great, what maybe needs some work on, and whether you're gonna do it again and and things like that.
SPEAKER_00Yeah, and that's where I would also say, too, as I mentioned earlier, it might be good to have a little team for your first couple, like maybe a couple other couples, maybe have one take care of, you know, this, that, and whatever, but then at the very end, sit down with them as well and say, hey, what worked for you guys? What didn't work? What can we do better next time? Or screw that, we ain't doing this shit again.
SPEAKER_01Um, it's so fun, we're doing it next weekend.
SPEAKER_00Exactly. Uh, it could be either way, but just make sure to reflect and go back and then try and make things better for next time if you decide to.
SPEAKER_01Right. All right, that was kind of all the how. Last question or last uh category here is why. Why would you host your own house party?
SPEAKER_00Well, I tell you, for us, we love hosting and bringing people together. Yes, we love meeting new people. So that was the big why for us. And people ask us all the time, why would you have 30 people into your house? Well, we just like bring people together. And I I can guarantee you, you as you subscribers out there, there's probably some of you that they're man, we love we have a beautiful house. We'd love having people over. This might be something you could do as well.
SPEAKER_01Well, and and again, it doesn't have to be a huge home, it can be a small home. We've been the mini house parties.
SPEAKER_00And it doesn't have to be a huge endeavor either. It could be as whatever you want to be.
SPEAKER_01Yeah, it can be modest.
SPEAKER_00Just be adventurous.
SPEAKER_01Exactly.
SPEAKER_00That's my word for the day. Adventurous be adventurous.
SPEAKER_01All right. So we have a lot of tips on throwing your own house party. And uh just the tips. And we have gathered these from our own house parties, but also other house parties we've gone to. And when I'm at that house party, I'm like, that's a good idea. Great idea.
SPEAKER_00We're writing that shit down.
Play Space Bedding Layers And Supplies
SPEAKER_01Exactly. All right. So the first tip um, if if you're having a play party and you want it to be a play party, you have to have dedicated play space for a party. There needs to be mattresses, there needs to be air mattresses on the floor, or just regular mattresses on the floor, couches available, a dedicated play space.
SPEAKER_00Yep. And I'll tell you what has worked for us and what we have seen, and not necessarily we have no, we have done it in the last couple of ones that we did, but early on we didn't. Um we actually picked this up from another another house party that we had gone to, and we loved the idea, and we decided to go ahead and do it for us. Is there's nothing wrong with at the beginning of the house party to have a big, you know, have everybody come together and you lay out the guidelines and the rules of the house, what's going down, and just bring everybody up on the same page before you even start the festivities at the night.
SPEAKER_01Yeah. Yeah. Actually, we know a gentleman um who hosts a lot of house parties, and he does that every party. He has everyone come into the center of the kitchen area.
SPEAKER_00But also he he also sets the the premise of saying at 10 o'clock the front door shuts, and nobody's allowed in. So you need to be there by 10 o'clock because we're going over rules at 10 15.
SPEAKER_01That's right.
SPEAKER_00Yeah.
SPEAKER_01And that's very effective. And everyone knows communication, and like we've talked about over and over, communication is vital in the lifestyle. And even at a host, um, as a host in your own home, you feel free to do that as well. So he did that, and it was great. All right. Uh just the tip we have a great bedding tip for you. This is called Layering, a bedding layering. And so a lot of times at house parties, people will come and spend the night, and you have people sleeping in a bed that might be a dedicated play space. What we would recommend for you is to have their bags away, like in a closet or something. That way they don't have all of their things all out because when their things are all out, other guests don't feel like that is a dedicated play space. Right. That's one tip. Another one is layer the bed. So if the bed is a queen size bed and you have it made in queen size sheets, queen size comforter, get a king size mattress pad and bedding. Put the king size over the queen, the mattress pad, which should be waterproof.
SPEAKER_00Uh and you can easily get waterproof splash pads. They sell them on Amazon. You can get them there, you can put them underneath. But the bottom line is layer the bed and put extra layers on top of it so that the other mattress or the mattress doesn't get wet and the other sheets don't get wet.
SPEAKER_01Right. And that way, after at the end of the night, when play is done, that king size whole bedding can come off and the people can actually go to sleep in the queen size area.
SPEAKER_00Very good and not be wet.
SPEAKER_01Right. Some other tips, extra towels. We've learned this the hard way. We kept towels in every bedroom. Uh we kept extra washcloth towels in the bathroom, um, and then extra towels at the pool as well. That was a big one. Um, wipes are also uh a nice touch to have, like uh feminine wipes or just baby style wipes in the bathroom. Um, many people will provide condoms, just extra condoms. If you're going to a house party, you should take your own as well. But many hosts will provide condoms. Um, also a nice touch was we have a lot of hosts that provide toothbrushes, disposable toothbrushes, and toothpastes and mints uh for fresh breath. Also, um, ice seems to be a big one at parties. Make sure you get lots of extra ice.
SPEAKER_00Tons of ice. We gotta have lots of ice.
SPEAKER_01That's a big one. And then also introduce. So do you want to talk about that?
SPEAKER_00Get out of the kitchen and introduce the people that are at your party and make sure, hey, if there's somebody that has a you know interest or you know them and you want to introduce them to other people, get out and actually introduce them and talk to people. And uh get out of the kitchen so many times you get so busy trying to make other shit happen that you're not having fun, and two, that you're just stuck in the kitchen then behind, you know, whatever, and you need to get out and do stuff and uh and help others have fun as well.
SPEAKER_01And we say that because we kind of learn the hard way on that. Like we were we were I was stuck in the kitchen, I thought I had to do all this, and I didn't really have to. Same thing with you.
SPEAKER_00So it just doesn't become fun.
SPEAKER_01Exactly, exactly. All right, I think that's all the tips that we have.
SPEAKER_00Yeah, and if you can hear the noise outside, yeah, we're having one of those Florida thunderstorms coming through this afternoon. So uh we gotta get this thing rolling.
SPEAKER_01All right, when we come back, we have the mailbag question, and it's a good one.
SPEAKER_00Mailbag question of the day.
Donations Mailbag And Wrap Up
SPEAKER_01Come on back. All right, we are back with today's mailbag question, and that question goes right along with house parties. Yes. The question is we saw a house party on one of the sites that required or asked for a donation. Where does that money go? Are people making money off of throwing a house party?
SPEAKER_00No. Well, the bottom line is that it's cost it cost to actually put on a house party, right? I'm sure if you guys have done one in the past, you know. Or if you've been to one, yeah. Yeah, or if you've been to one, it you know, but as you see everything that goes on. So you you know, if people are putting out condoms. Uh, another cool thing to actually put out in the in the bathrooms too that we didn't cover in the tips was mouthwash and uh and toothbrushes uh in there for people to use after they're done playing.
SPEAKER_01Like disposal.
SPEAKER_00So if you're buying all that stuff, of course that's gonna cost money. Uh if you're providing liquor, you're providing food, you're providing it's gonna cost money. Now, the reason why they call it a donation because of the legalities of lifestyle and all this other stuff, is that in most states uh you can't do that kind of stuff uh and promote it, so you they have to ask for donations. So it can't be a business physics, right? Can't physically take money from you, so it has to be a donation that you're just willingly giving up money. And most of them, you know, maybe it's like ten, fifteen dollars, not that big of a deal. And uh it really just covers the cost. And that's really the the down dirty why, you know, they one name it as a donation, and two, why people sometimes ask for money at these house parties.
SPEAKER_01Right. And we've gone to a party uh before, and they throw party every other month, I believe, and they just have a little box at the front. And I always I think I slipped in sometimes. It's 20, sometimes I've put in 40.
SPEAKER_00Sometimes we put it in a card.
SPEAKER_01Yeah, sometimes I put it in a card and just put it in their box. But at that party, they provided tons of wipes, they provided washcloths, they provided all the food. And that's expensive, you guys. So, you know, if someone's asking for a donation, there's usually a reason for it. Now, that can go above and beyond, but um, for most people, it is just the expenses of the party, and it's reasonable.
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