The Lost Episode

This episode almost never saw the light of day.

It’s a little glitchy—but the conversation? Too real to keep hidden.

We sat on this one for a while… but some conversations don’t wait for perfect conditions. So instead of pulling the plug—we pulled the trigger.

This episode is packed with laughs, raw moments, and thought-provoking questions that hit deeper than expected.

 Heads up: If you’re here for visuals, this one leans more into the audio experience—but trust us, it still delivers.

Sometimes the imperfect ones hit the hardest.

Transcript

SPEAKER_06 0:24

We're good. And we're recording.

unknown 0:30

Okay. Wonder if you need a notice.

SPEAKER_04 0:45

Just wanna be okay.

SPEAKER_03 0:53

I'm your host, Chris Marie. We got Steph, we got Risa. What's up? What's going on with you guys? Anything cool lately?

SPEAKER_06 1:03

Glad to be back at work.

SPEAKER_03 1:04

Yeah, same.

SPEAKER_06 1:05

Yeah, actually, really, really excited to be back at work.

SPEAKER_03 1:08

Me too.

SPEAKER_06 1:09

Not that we didn't have purpose before, but niggas are super motivated.

SPEAKER_03 1:13

Yeah, we got things going on.

SPEAKER_06 1:15

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 1:15

So got things going on. We'll let you guys know soon. There's things in the works for the whole summer after. For sure. And it's exciting.

SPEAKER_01 1:22

I'm always happy to be here. This is my only work right now. So nice. Yeah. When I can come, it's definitely a good time. A grand very meaningful for me.

SPEAKER_06 1:34

Love that. Yeah. That's fire. But oh, this week's been pretty good to have a little no issues. I can't really complain. I always I always have a good day.

SPEAKER_03 1:41

So yeah, that's true, you do. Good for you.

SPEAKER_06 1:43

How about you, ladies? Good week.

SPEAKER_03 1:46

Oh, I've been a little sick, so I've missed work pretty much the whole week. Can't say I'm really complaining about that.

SPEAKER_02 1:53

It's been good to rest a little bit.

SPEAKER_04 1:57

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 1:58

Um, so I think I caught it like a little stomach bug or something, guys. But I'm okay now. Um, of course I made it here.

SPEAKER_04 2:03

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 2:04

Always forever. Yeah. This is my number one, two after my kids. Yeah. Um yeah. So the week's been pretty, it's been pretty smooth though.

SPEAKER_06 2:14

Sweet. Sweet, sweet, sweet. How about you later yourself?

SPEAKER_01 2:19

Um, it's been pretty good, I suppose. I had school. Um the whole class failed dark was the other day. Yeah. Teacher must have been proud. Yeah. Wicked. Gotcha. But yeah. Just a day in the life.

SPEAKER_06 2:40

Yeah, sweet. Yeah. Sweet. I like it. I feel like that's um a really great way to jump into some attitude and gratitude. Yes, for sure. Uh this one's kind of like it got me by the heart strings.

SPEAKER_03 2:58

I was gonna say the balls. I thought he was too. I was gonna get you by the balls. Alright, sorry, heart strings, heart strings, heart strings.

SPEAKER_06 3:03

Heart strings, not balls today, guys. Fucking hell. Okay, my bad.

SPEAKER_05 3:07

Let's get it.

unknown 3:10

I'm gonna not blow.

SPEAKER_04 3:15

Sh the ho.

SPEAKER_03 3:20

I kept it cute on that one.

SPEAKER_00 3:21

Yeah, you do.

SPEAKER_06 3:22

We appreciate that. That's fire. Real calm. Ladies, I don't know if you uh uh saw on the news uh Eric Dane passed away yesterday.

SPEAKER_03 3:30

I did see that.

SPEAKER_06 3:31

Yeah. Super.

SPEAKER_03 3:34

I do not know that.

SPEAKER_06 3:36

Eric Dane is best known for his uh role in playing Dr. Mark Sloan in the American medical drama Grey's Anatomy.

SPEAKER_04 3:47

Yeah. Very handsome man.

SPEAKER_06 3:49

Super handsome. They called him Dr. McDreer McDreamy. Super just handsome white man. Yes.

SPEAKER_03 3:55

Then I gotta look up. Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 3:57

Um just passed away. He was diagnosed with ALS, I think, last year, yeah before last year. I'm sorry. So just somebody who was super, super healthy and just deterioration.

SPEAKER_00 4:07

So really sad.

SPEAKER_06 4:08

So uh before he passed away, he did a Netflix interview, um, talking to his daughters and giving him giving them his last words, right? And I I listened to it and I literally was stuck.

SPEAKER_01 4:23

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 4:24

So I want to read what he said verbatim, and then I have two questions that I want to ask you ladies about kind of that space that he was in. Okay. Alright.

SPEAKER_03 4:34

Sorry, I want to apologize for the dinging, but I have to read my message for my baby.

SPEAKER_04 4:38

Go for it.

SPEAKER_03 4:39

Um, she just said, We love you too response, and then she's like, I hope you do well on your podcast. Sorry if you're filming, love you.

SPEAKER_02 4:46

Like I love my babies.

SPEAKER_03 4:50

Girl, you know we film.

SPEAKER_05 4:51

We just on the film.

SPEAKER_02 4:53

That's fire. Okay, sorry, continue.

SPEAKER_06 4:58

He says, I want to tell you four things I've learned from this disease, and I hope you don't just listen to me. I hope you hear me. First, live now, right now in the present. It's hard, but I've learned to do that. For years, I've wandered off mentally, lost in my head for long chunks of time, wallowing and worrying in self-pity and shame and doubt. I replayed decisions, sucking guessed to myself. I should have done this, I never should have done that, no more. That's end quote. My question to you today, ladies, when all is said and done, what message would you leave behind as you enter the long good night?

SPEAKER_03 5:54

Like if it was happening now. Or whatever.

SPEAKER_06 6:00

His message is to live now.

SPEAKER_03 6:03

And his message is to live now because he has this disease that he's been living with, so he has like a significant reason. So that's why I'm saying, is it now like oh like something happened or just you're dying? Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 6:16

Not even that. His point, the point I think that I gathered from him was that you're here now.

SPEAKER_00 6:22

Right.

SPEAKER_06 6:23

You're here right now, right?

SPEAKER_00 6:25

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 6:25

So, and he wants his girls to know to live right now, be present.

SPEAKER_00 6:29

Right.

SPEAKER_06 6:30

Because you can spend your days as an adult in here.

unknown 6:35

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 6:35

And then you're two or three weeks, sometimes months ahead of time, because you know shit's coming up, you're doing X, Y, Z, right? But what would you want your kid to know and understand and feel? What would you leave behind? What was the question I said? Um what message would you want to leave behind specifically to your children and people who who you care about when you do go, right? What's that you're living for now that you want them to know and live by? This is somebody who got diagnosed something last year and now he's Yeah, he's gone.

SPEAKER_01 7:09

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 7:11

I would want my kids to not be selfish, but live for themselves. Do you know what makes you happy. Yeah. Do what feels good to you in your heart, even if other people are telling you you should go against it.

SPEAKER_06 7:33

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 7:34

I love that.

SPEAKER_06 7:35

That's deep.

SPEAKER_03 7:36

You know.

SPEAKER_06 7:37

I like that a lot. What about you later yourself?

SPEAKER_01 7:42

Well. Actually, it's crazy because I think about this a lot. You know what I mean? Like just not being here for my kids. I've never really thought about like what to say. Like, I know what I want for them. You know? It's just I guess I would tell them to get to know each other and love each other, take care of each other. Yeah. Because really nobody's gonna take care of your kids like you will. For sure. So it's like if I'm gone, I would like for them to all have pieces of me and bring that together.

SPEAKER_04 8:26

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 8:27

And take care of each other without me because I'm very close to my kids. Okay. And I think they'd be devastated if I wasn't here.

SPEAKER_06 8:40

The whole entire planet.

SPEAKER_03 8:43

So, and then obviously, mean living with heart disease and constantly going on heart failure, like this is a very scary but real thought for me.

SPEAKER_06 8:52

For sure. I I get it. So, um your perspective is very unique.

SPEAKER_01 8:59

Yeah. Yeah. So yeah, I I would for sure just want them to be close and take care of each other.

SPEAKER_06 9:06

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 9:07

And then find all those pieces of me within each other. I fucking love that. That's fucking dope.

SPEAKER_06 9:13

Listen up, children. Sorry, I shouldn't have cursed.

SPEAKER_03 9:16

That's alright.

SPEAKER_01 9:17

They've heard me say far worse.

SPEAKER_06 9:21

That is awesome. I it's funny that you said that because I wrote something down that I would want to tell my sons. I wrote two things down. I said, I would tell my sons to chase the source of all things. I said, God. I put Proverbs 3 verse 5, um, which says, Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways, acknowledge him, and he will make your path straight. I feel if I could tell anybody that on the planet, again. Yeah, run with that. Um, I would tell them to love each other very fiercely because this life is barely worth living without love. That's what I'll tell them. Wellington Weston. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 10:02

Right.

SPEAKER_06 10:03

This is what I got for you, bro. Um you got something.

SPEAKER_03 10:09

I started fuck. I'm not gonna cry, you're crying. No, I'm not, I'm not. Um, you know, the kids are touchy.

SPEAKER_06 10:22

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 10:22

Yeah. I started a journal. I have leather journals.

SPEAKER_06 10:25

Fire.

SPEAKER_03 10:26

And I wanna I started writing in each one. One for Gia, one for Zoe.

SPEAKER_06 10:31

Fire.

SPEAKER_03 10:31

And I I need to um, I need to find time, even if it's an hour a day. Not even if it doesn't have to be an hour, but minutes in a day to write in both of them.

SPEAKER_06 10:43

That's fire.

SPEAKER_03 10:44

And just do that because if anything ever happened, I think about it too. You know, when you're a parent, you think about it. Yeah. A lot. Yeah. And if anything ever happened to me when I'm gone, I want them to know how I feel about them, why I've done all the things I did, why they were mad at me about something they were mad at me about, and just being able to talk to them through something that they can keep uh close to them, yeah, and with them. I feel like it's important.

SPEAKER_06 11:10

Big time. I feel like a lot of parents never get there with their children.

SPEAKER_03 11:15

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 11:15

Especially when they enter adulthood.

SPEAKER_03 11:17

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 11:17

They just forget that you you kind of need that other piece of it as an a kid growing up to an adult. You don't talk about the bills, you don't talk about the this and the that.

SPEAKER_03 11:27

Right.

SPEAKER_06 11:27

You know what I mean? So, or why this was happening, why we lived here. We don't they don't know that.

SPEAKER_03 11:33

Yeah, we forget a lot of times that our parents were like young.

SPEAKER_02 11:42

Not people. But they were their own people. They are their own people.

SPEAKER_06 11:51

Living their life trying to figure that shit out. It's good and bad. Big time with their own parents.

SPEAKER_03 11:57

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 11:58

Yeah, for sure.

SPEAKER_03 11:59

So I actually do think about that type of shit.

SPEAKER_06 12:02

Yeah. So you gotta give them grace. I think that's where I forgave my dad because I realized that he I think it was just doing that shit the best he could. Yeah. Yeah. You know, definitely. And I can't fault him for as a man for doing the best he could with what he got.

SPEAKER_03 12:16

Yeah, yeah. And like our mom lost her mom at a young age. Yeah, so young. Like when you think about it, she was 20 years old. Like, I literally couldn't even imagine right now.

SPEAKER_06 12:28

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 12:28

At 36, like, no way.

SPEAKER_06 12:31

Definitely. I this is a touchy subject.

SPEAKER_03 12:34

Yeah, we might have to make this a main. Yeah. Yeah, because we could we could uh we it could be uh uh parents or people too. We talked about that. We talked about something like that. Okay, okay.

SPEAKER_02 12:48

Mind your business, guys. You don't know our topics. You don't know about our topics.

SPEAKER_06 12:51

I got one more question for you guys. Okay. What are you doing now for yourself and for others?

SPEAKER_03 13:03

Well, for myself, I really have been doing my best to be in a space of just positivity and optimism because I've been struggling a lot, and a lot of it just has to do with how I'm feeling um physically, you know. So um, because I really do struggle and and yes, I push through it, but I don't think that's always the best thing for me. It's not always the healthiest thing. I just do it because I look at like what other choice do I have? You know, like these kids gotta eat, these kids gotta get to school, these kids gotta get picked up.

SPEAKER_01 13:48

Like my world literally revolves around being a mom. Being a mom, yes. And and I'm not complaining. I love it.

SPEAKER_03 13:57

I love that I'm even in a space right now to be able to give that to them, her kids and mine. You know, it just um gets to a point where sometimes I feel like I don't have that time anymore just for me.

SPEAKER_01 14:13

Yeah, like to just sit with myself and decompress and like really just take care of myself. Um, because I don't I just don't have the things that I need to to be able to do that right now, and I know it's gonna change. So that's where like the positivity and the optimism come in for me. Um, and what was the other part of the question? I'm sorry. That's what I'm doing for me. What are you doing for us for others? Oh, for others?

SPEAKER_06 14:43

You do for others really.

SPEAKER_03 14:45

Well, I just think pretty much told you. Yeah, taking care of them. Take care of my kids while I work. That's something huge.

SPEAKER_06 14:51

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 14:52

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 14:52

Not just not. She takes care of my kids so I can work and do everything. It's not no, but yeah, it comes like full circle when when you think about it. Like she's able to do what she needs to do, and and the kids are safe, they're taken care of, and yeah. And I get to throw money at everybody as well. I love it. I love it. Um, I feel like what am I doing for myself? Right now, what I feel like I'm doing for myself mostly is this podcast.

SPEAKER_01 15:30

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 15:31

I feel like this is something that I am super focused on. It means more to me than I can really put into words. And it's fulfilling me in ways that are new, and in some ways that I've been waiting for. So it I'm still processing that we're doing this. And what I'm doing for other people, if I'm keeping it in pod terror uh territory, I feel like hopefully I'm making people laugh, hopefully I'm giving people insight, us collectively, you know. Yeah. Um that's what I feel. That's fine. That's what I'm doing right now. I feel like I feel like I'm supplying you, you people, you good people, you good menaces with laughs and things. I was gonna say I'm supplying you, motherfucker. You know, I'm like fucking Samuel Jackson. That must have been my my daddy in another life. But yeah, that's how I feel. I feel like I'm doing things that are great for a community that we might not know yet. Right. And that's slowly growing every day, and I love that.

SPEAKER_06 16:46

Big time. Sweet. You I am focusing on my physical body.

SPEAKER_01 16:53

I love that.

SPEAKER_06 16:54

Um the more time I spend on eating the right things um or eating within my caloric intake, um, the more time I spend walking, I'm healing my body, which makes me better. I feel better.

SPEAKER_04 17:16

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 17:16

If I feel better, I look better, and if I look better, I am I'm acting. I walk the park, walk the walk, as it were.

SPEAKER_01 17:25

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 17:25

Um, and how you do one thing is how you do everything, so that's gonna translate in all the other areas of my life.

SPEAKER_01 17:32

So Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 17:35

I've been eating like a pig before we started the pod. I had popcorn, I had candy, I had Chinese, that was Reese's, I had juice, I had It's okay. I'm sorry, it's it's that time of the month. I told you guys it was coming. Run the play. You guys are gonna know my cycle with me. Sorry, I just had to. You were just talking about such healthy eating. I'm like, I gotta get back.

SPEAKER_02 17:59

I've got to take back together.

SPEAKER_03 18:01

That's why I'm going hiking in the blizzard tomorrow morning. I'm gonna go ahead and fight it.

SPEAKER_06 18:05

It feels good, but don't get me wrong, like I just spent probably like four or five months where I just didn't care about my diet. Yeah, and I feel different as I've been taking like the habits that I need to take.

SPEAKER_03 18:17

Yes.

SPEAKER_06 18:18

Feel very different. I feel lighter. Yes. Yep, actually lighter. Yeah, because yeah, ladies, that's all I have for attitude and gratitude.

SPEAKER_03 18:28

That was great. Hope that was kind of self-aware. Yeah, for sure. Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 18:33

Live for now, guys. Not that you shouldn't prepare for the future, but be present.

SPEAKER_03 18:38

Right. Yeah. You know, that's something I'm gonna do. It's very easy to not. Yeah, it is. You know, I think uh stay present with the emotions and always, I miss you guys, I miss my girl. Yeah. But also, um, I don't know, staying in tune. For sure. Staying in tune. Just working through the all right now. Let's get off the heavy and get ready for. Oh god, wait. For me to whoop some ass.

SPEAKER_01 19:05

Oh let her do it to your brother. This might be name that tune, name that quote.

SPEAKER_03 19:19

Let's get it. All right. I need to get buzzers for you guys. That'd be fun. That'd be funny.

SPEAKER_01 19:30

That would be funny and fun.

SPEAKER_03 19:32

All right. I think I will go with a movie first. Do you know the movie or not?

SPEAKER_01 19:58

No, it's not. I know it. It's not that, but they're on the same table.

SPEAKER_03 20:03

I don't need an explanation. We just need a movie to wait.

SPEAKER_01 20:06

Give me a second, give me a second. You have no clue.

SPEAKER_07 20:20

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 20:22

Yeah. Damn, Stefan. Fuck me, bro. That was a great one. I'm sorry. I can't I've been dying.

SPEAKER_06 20:34

I would never seen that movie.

SPEAKER_03 20:35

Yeah. I'm not surprised. You know, like we need a movie. We need a movie day.

unknown 20:39

I do.

SPEAKER_03 20:40

The three of us need a movie. For sure. Yeah, we're gonna have to do that.

SPEAKER_06 20:44

Very embarrassed. You should be.

SPEAKER_03 20:47

Don't be. It's like, nah, don't be. That's a little well, Quentin Tarantino.

SPEAKER_06 20:51

I do like Quentin Tarantino movies.

SPEAKER_03 20:52

Yeah. This was like different though. I kind of like Planet Terror. Yeah. So too.

SPEAKER_01 20:58

Yeah, I'd love them, but you gotta see them. Yeah, you definitely have to see them.

SPEAKER_06 21:15

That's Meg the Stallion.

SPEAKER_01 21:18

I don't think so. I don't know any make the stallions, but I don't know any make the stallions. Yeah, like songs.

SPEAKER_03 21:30

I could be wrong, but I don't think that's what that is.

SPEAKER_02 21:44

That was your third time.

SPEAKER_03 21:46

No, just kidding. I'm like, what is it? Ah, that's hilarious. You don't know? I don't know what. All right, uh, you got one more time. Would you like me to play one more time? Please.

SPEAKER_01 22:06

I know, I know I'm no clue. Tell us.

SPEAKER_03 22:13

You guys don't even want the timer?

SPEAKER_01 22:15

Okay, give us the timer.

SPEAKER_03 22:17

Shit. I don't know it. Alright, you guys don't know it, so I'll just give you this.

SPEAKER_05 22:25

That would be the biggest, the largest.

SPEAKER_06 22:30

Oh, big X, the fucking big.

SPEAKER_03 22:32

I should get a lifeline. If I would have called Baris, he would have known. You guys just trying to pull out all the stuff. Yeah. And have her that's a good idea. What is that game show they do that on? You can you get one call, How to Make a Millionaire? Correct. Yeah, well, this ain't that.

SPEAKER_06 22:45

They're the ones that have that 60-second timer I was talking about.

SPEAKER_03 22:48

This nigga won't be able to do that. 60 60 seconds. He's already killed anything.

SPEAKER_06 22:54

For the shit he don't know.

SPEAKER_03 22:55

Crazy. Just somewhere clear. You'll get a 10-second timer. And that's all you get.

SPEAKER_06 23:04

Insanity. Um, and now I hear I can't get the song out of my head now that I heard.

SPEAKER_05 23:11

The biggest, the largest.

unknown 23:14

Damn.

SPEAKER_03 23:15

Oh, it got me. Big X applaud. I don't know any of this new stuff. My bad gang. I don't know any of this new stuff. It's ridiculous.

SPEAKER_04 23:22

My bad gang.

SPEAKER_03 23:23

So that was a song. So now we need a quote, huh? Mm-hmm. Sorry, that's one of my all-time favorites. King of New York, Christopher Walkin. He's a class. I just ah, Christopher Walker. It's a classic wisdom.

SPEAKER_01 23:54

That's dope.

SPEAKER_03 23:55

He is a dope guy.

SPEAKER_01 23:57

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 23:59

Oh, baby boy. Sucks. Baby boy. She's smoking you again. I gotta think of some shit. You know what? It's alright. I got you.

SPEAKER_06 24:11

Earlier today, guys. If I played peekaboo. I played peekaboo by Lil Yachty. Shout out to Lil Boat. And they called me a YN.

SPEAKER_02 24:23

He did. I'm like, we don't know that song. Oh, he knows it because he's a YN.

SPEAKER_06 24:27

That's why. They said absolutely. That's what they said.

SPEAKER_03 24:33

Listen to Lil Yadde.

SPEAKER_06 24:35

I do be listening.

SPEAKER_03 24:36

Little Yachtte.

SPEAKER_06 24:37

Shout out to Lil Boat. That's my dog. He's a good rapper. He was saying some shit.

SPEAKER_03 24:42

Called him Lil Boat. Little Yachte. Alright. One more. One more. Give it to me.

SPEAKER_02 25:20

Oh God.

SPEAKER_03 25:23

Shout out to you, Reese. Fuck it. I don't care who gets it now. It's just funny watching someone obliterate the other at this moment. Fuck me, bro. Obliterate. Y'all know what the fuck I mean.

SPEAKER_01 25:38

Oh, man. Hey, huh? I just knew you was gonna get that last one.

SPEAKER_06 25:42

Can I tell you what I thought the song was?

SPEAKER_01 25:44

Please. Oh shit.

SPEAKER_06 25:45

DJ, won't you play this girl love song?

SPEAKER_03 25:51

I wish you would have said it.

SPEAKER_06 25:53

I wish he would have kept it. Play that shit out. Play that shit. Play that shit. Tell me, play that shit, nigga.

SPEAKER_03 25:59

DJ what?

SPEAKER_06 26:00

Play that song, which you just played.

SPEAKER_03 26:02

Just the beat that I played.

SPEAKER_06 26:04

Just the beat.

SPEAKER_03 26:06

First of all, relax. Just the beat.

SPEAKER_06 26:09

Just drop the beat.

SPEAKER_05 26:09

DJ G. Play it.

SPEAKER_04 26:11

Drop the beat. Play it.

SPEAKER_02 26:25

Well, rain on me and take on me. I will never forget. I will never forget when you said that stupid shit.

SPEAKER_06 26:39

Doodle garbage.

SPEAKER_02 26:41

Yo, that was hilarious. Well, this round of name that tune. Name that quote goes to Reaston Win.

SPEAKER_06 26:50

It's a competitive sport. I am not doing well. I am not doing well. It's like 0 for 2 right now. Back to back. She's fucking crushed it.

SPEAKER_03 27:00

Niggas is stressed. Is it just two? He's hoyting.

SPEAKER_06 27:04

Back to back.

SPEAKER_03 27:05

That baby hoyting. Baby boy.

SPEAKER_06 27:08

Tomorrow might be a three-peat. We see. We'll see.

SPEAKER_03 27:10

We'll see. You might be. You might be. Baby boy is hoit. Optimism.

SPEAKER_06 27:16

There's there might be a slight. You guys are sisters. Therefore, you guys, I know you guys watch it.

SPEAKER_03 27:22

Now he's pulling the fucking sister card. I knew this would happen. I knew this would happen. Just remember. Okay. Just remember. He pulled it.

SPEAKER_06 27:31

I just know that.

SPEAKER_03 27:32

I don't mean wanting her to get. You know what?

SPEAKER_06 27:34

I know you don't want to.

SPEAKER_03 27:35

Remember that we're sisters.

SPEAKER_06 27:36

I know that.

SPEAKER_03 27:37

I remember we're sisters. Yeah. Anyway. Yeah, he's biased.

SPEAKER_06 27:44

I'm not biased. I love you guys and Robert King.

SPEAKER_03 27:46

You know what I you know what I actually think he knows?

SPEAKER_06 27:49

I'm not.

SPEAKER_03 27:51

Delusional. Delunio. Deluna. Welcome to the delusional episode. We might need to let Stefano fit. Here we go.

SPEAKER_04 28:05

Here we go.

unknown 28:08

Alright.

SPEAKER_01 28:09

Delusions.

SPEAKER_06 28:11

This is my favorite one. I like this one a lot.

SPEAKER_03 28:13

Alright. Are delusions. I'm on your ass after her segment. I ain't gonna be rude. A lifestyle choice?

SPEAKER_01 28:22

Let's see. You're not stuck. You're comfortable.

SPEAKER_06 28:28

You're delusional.

SPEAKER_03 28:31

I don't know who needs to hear this, but that's a good one. Yeah. That's a real general.

SPEAKER_01 28:37

Respectfully.

SPEAKER_06 28:38

You're delusional.

SPEAKER_01 28:41

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 28:42

Too comfortable.

SPEAKER_03 28:45

I shouldn't never get too comfortable. Too comfortable for my comfort.

SPEAKER_06 28:49

And what would all right, so boom. When you're doing things, things come to you.

SPEAKER_01 28:57

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 28:58

If you're not doing shit, things typically don't come to you.

SPEAKER_00 29:03

Right.

SPEAKER_06 29:05

We're evidence of that.

SPEAKER_03 29:06

You need movement.

SPEAKER_06 29:07

You know what I mean? You gotta create some type of momentum for yourself.

SPEAKER_03 29:10

Yeah, yeah, for sure. So but some people are literally comfortable where they're at. Yeah. With nothing. I'll be comfortable on my hundred acres, on my house. I mean, in my house, with your guys' houses surrounding it, 20 acres that way, 20 acres that way. Don't call before you come. Yeah, shit like golf cart over there to you. Yeah. We can do it.

SPEAKER_06 29:39

20 acres, bro.

SPEAKER_03 29:40

Oh, we're sisters, so you can come whenever you want. This nigga gotta call.

SPEAKER_01 29:49

Wow. All right, you ready for the next one? Yeah, I'm ready for it. You say you're healing, but keep returning to what hurts you.

SPEAKER_00 30:06

Scary.

SPEAKER_06 30:08

I think you're delusional.

SPEAKER_03 30:12

Very delusional. That is very toxic. It is.

SPEAKER_06 30:17

You're crazy.

SPEAKER_03 30:18

Yeah. Why would you just stop doing that? Don't do that.

SPEAKER_06 30:21

And masochistic.

SPEAKER_03 30:23

If you don't regret it already, you're gonna regret it. A little? A little bit.

SPEAKER_06 30:30

Trauma response.

SPEAKER_03 30:31

Yeah. All of that. Stockholm? Depending on the situation. On the person. Just either way, though, all of that collectively not healthy? Toxic? That sounds horrible. Delusional. Leave it alone. Yeah. They don't love you, love yourself.

SPEAKER_01 30:50

Last one. You're not too real. You're just unfiltered and sometimes careless.

SPEAKER_03 31:04

Okay, and the hell. It's like, nah, that's for real. That's about me.

SPEAKER_01 31:14

I'm gonna take my hat off.

SPEAKER_06 31:15

Oh yeah, you're delusional.

SPEAKER_01 31:17

Shoes and fitting. Yeah. He's fitting a little good.

SPEAKER_02 31:23

I'm a real ass bitch. I'm real.

SPEAKER_03 31:29

I hate when people walk around saying that shit. I'm real. I'm a real ass nigga. If you're real, we gon' feel it, sucker. Right. And you are. That is hilarious.

SPEAKER_06 31:40

Real lips in the game, kid.

SPEAKER_03 31:43

That's all I have for the delusion olympics. I like it. Thanks for the shots. I like it a lot. You're welcome. That was good. Now it's time for our main topic, I believe.

SPEAKER_06 31:57

Sure is.

SPEAKER_03 31:59

Or am I jumping the gun? Gotti! Gotti.

SPEAKER_06 32:05

You don't have to do me every time I did it once. Um I have a question.

SPEAKER_03 32:15

You always do.

SPEAKER_06 32:16

I always do. Are other people responsible for your triggers?

SPEAKER_01 32:22

Hells yeah. I don't let me think about this. I don't have to think about it. No, other people aren't responsible.

SPEAKER_06 32:35

They're not. I like that. Um triggers are a wound. It's like a bruise that you get. And if somebody touches it, does that make them is it their fault that you have a bruise?

SPEAKER_03 32:49

You see if they don't touch it.

SPEAKER_06 32:51

Is it is it their fault that they touched it, or is it just indicative that you are in need of healing? And maybe safeguarding yourself. So that you don't because typically when somebody says that triggered me or you triggered me to do this, their behavior on the other side of the triggering is not appropriate, you know, or it's not nice or whatever the case might be.

SPEAKER_03 33:17

Right. Mind over matter, self-control.

SPEAKER_06 33:20

Yeah, I feel like sometimes people like think that being triggered it means that you're being disrespectful, but those aren't the same things.

SPEAKER_03 33:28

Right. No, it's I it's being triggered is a feeling. What comes after that is what comes after that. You're you feel triggered, meaning something someone did or said or something that happened is what triggered you. That was the trigger.

SPEAKER_06 33:44

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 33:45

However, my I feel like you are in control of how you let those things affect you.

SPEAKER_06 33:52

100%.

SPEAKER_03 33:53

And which brings the mind over matter into play and whatever else I said, I'm sorry. Are we tired? A little bit. Um, but um, yeah, I I just that's I just feel like you are in control of your trigger points. Train yourself not to be triggered by the shit that triggers you. That's easier said than done for sure.

SPEAKER_06 34:21

But yeah, your triggers, I mean your trauma explains who you are, explains why you might do what you do. But it that's still not an excuse for your behavior in light of that, right?

SPEAKER_01 34:33

Yeah, because seek the help you need to must. You must fix that.

SPEAKER_06 34:38

It's your responsibility to manage your own behavior.

SPEAKER_00 34:43

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 34:43

Even though the trauma is valid.

SPEAKER_00 34:45

Yeah, for sure.

SPEAKER_06 34:47

You know, somebody might say, I've been cheated on before, but that doesn't necessarily mean that you are that now I have to accept you being overly jealous or you know, controlling or any of the other things that may be associated with somebody getting triggered.

SPEAKER_00 35:04

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 35:05

You know, you're out in public and your your boyfriend is charismatic, and so he's working the crowd.

SPEAKER_01 35:11

Right.

SPEAKER_06 35:11

But you're insecure because you think he's flirting with everyone. Right.

SPEAKER_03 35:18

How many times has I actually big girl panties on bitch? I'll live alone.

SPEAKER_06 35:22

You know?

SPEAKER_03 35:23

Damn. That was harsh.

SPEAKER_06 35:24

Is is accountability the same as blame?

SPEAKER_03 35:27

Get that together. Huh?

SPEAKER_06 35:28

Do you feel like accountability is the same as blame?

SPEAKER_03 35:31

No. Hell no.

SPEAKER_06 35:33

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 35:34

You can blame anything on anyone and have no leg to stand on. You know, you're just saying anything. And accountability is something I feel like is a personal thing that you have to do. Like nobody can take accountability. Well, people can take accountability for other people. Take accountability for your shit.

SPEAKER_06 35:54

Yeah. I well, a reason why you say that is because when somebody's triggered, they are blaming somebody else for that feeling.

SPEAKER_03 36:03

That's the easy thing to do. Exactly. And that's where that work needs to come in for you to go fix what might be bothering you. Therapy or girl, whatever the case may be. And realize I am allowing this thing, person, situation to control me. And yeah. Yeah. I'm allowing it. And I feel like once you start thinking like that, you're like, shit, I'm doing this to myself.

SPEAKER_06 36:33

Yeah, you you hold yourself accountable, and that sustains you long term rather than you said that to me, and that that messed up what I was thinking, or you messed up my mood.

SPEAKER_03 36:45

So every time someone says that thing to you, you're gonna mess get your thoughts messed up, or you're gonna get triggered emotionally. So material to do is train yourself, then I guess to not be fucking triggered by those things.

SPEAKER_06 37:01

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 37:02

I'm getting annoyed.

SPEAKER_06 37:03

We live in a world triggered. We live in a world of perpetual offense. Everybody's offended by everything.

SPEAKER_03 37:08

It's disgusting. Well, there's nobody has a backbone. I can't take shit on the chin and just like everything is not about you. Mm-hmm. Like a period.

SPEAKER_06 37:21

Yeah. And people are sensitive. We get that.

SPEAKER_03 37:24

But people are insecure. People are miserable. People are people are old. People are sensitive. Yeah, they really are.

SPEAKER_06 37:34

And they disguise those things as triggers.

SPEAKER_03 37:38

Yeah, and so just know that a lot of those people that are like that has nothing to do with you. It's everything to do with them and their bullshit that they're not dealing with. For sure. Oh, I can go on for days about this.

SPEAKER_06 37:51

Yeah. I just realized even just that in my workspace, sometimes people will say, Yeah, I'm just I'm just a little triggered into de escalator.

SPEAKER_03 37:58

I need to look how can the same thing be.

SPEAKER_06 38:03

But it's a response.

SPEAKER_03 38:04

Right.

SPEAKER_06 38:05

And I get that. But you're responsible for how you behave even if you get triggered.

SPEAKER_01 38:10

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 38:11

So exactly. I don't know. The adulting, when you I obviously everyone is wants to be lighthearted, but when when you're adulting, especially out here in this world, like people don't realize that how you behave around other people is important, right? You can fuck up somebody's whole mood.

SPEAKER_03 38:31

Yeah. And get punched.

SPEAKER_06 38:33

If you're fucking with the wrong person. Because you can't regulate.

SPEAKER_01 38:39

Yeah. Yeah. Especially as an adult though. Yeah. Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 38:45

You can fuck up situations for yourself.

unknown 38:49

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 38:51

That reputation is a big thing. You can be known as somebody who's even like at work, somebody somebody might say you're ghetto, you know what I mean? And that that's not necessarily a bad thing per se, because we understand some cultural nuances there. Yeah. But you don't want to be seen as unreasonable or lacking decency or things like that. So that was my main topic today, ladies. I just realized that I've been dealing with a lot of people who are triggered lately now don't understand it because I'm super level mind.

SPEAKER_03 39:25

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 39:26

Don't let a lot of shit get to me.

SPEAKER_03 39:28

So but you also use your brain and you think of other situations. You you're not just like so focused on one thing. You're like, how can I make this better? How can I get through this? Yeah. Opposed to just let me just lash out and express myself in a childish way. For sure. That I think that does have a lot to do with trauma. I think it also is a huge thing to do with lack of emotional control.

SPEAKER_06 40:05

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 40:06

Even at there's people I know 50 plus. Still struggling with no emotional control.

SPEAKER_06 40:12

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 40:13

And it's just that's selfish in a way. I had to think about it like that when I I didn't have emotional control, alright? I'm doing things, but it's not just affecting me. I I couldn't care how it affects me because it made me feel good at the time. But big picture and long term, it's not always a good thing. Big time.

SPEAKER_06 40:33

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 40:34

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 40:35

Work on yourselves, guys. I'm working on myself too.

SPEAKER_03 40:38

Me too. Every day, daily. That should be a thing that people are doing all the time. It's not your it that work is never done. You can always be better, you can always learn more. You can always grow. Yeah. Mm-hmm. Even with, you know, at an elderly age, it never stops. Yeah. So yeah.

SPEAKER_01 41:02

That's all I got. I liked it. Yes. Like the weather we've been having here.

SPEAKER_04 41:17

It's the hot seat.

SPEAKER_03 41:19

Well, I was talking and I meant to ask before Reese we even started today. I was thinking I was just gonna pick some questions today that we all could answer in the hot seat. Okay. Instead of picking the names. Kind of tired of swishing around that bowl. I do kind of like that. I know. I like that too. I can't lie, I'm not gonna lie, I'm being lazy today. Yeah, I know it means you know what? Fuck it. We'll pick the names. I got the bowl right here. Just say you want to answer some questions. Listen, I don't ever mind answering questions. We're gonna go ahead and pick. Tell the truth. I love the truth. So how many guys? Alright. Well, God must I hear Jack as a cheer turn, buddy. This is why I shut the f no, you go ahead and you keep talking to me. You go ahead and you keep on chatting.

SPEAKER_06 42:20

Great.

SPEAKER_03 42:21

Keep on chatting to me.

SPEAKER_06 42:23

Great.

SPEAKER_03 42:24

Alright.

SPEAKER_06 42:27

This is your fault. We're supposed to all answer this question.

SPEAKER_03 42:32

Alright. Are you afraid of abandonment or intimacy?

SPEAKER_06 42:38

Intimacy. You wanna get close.

SPEAKER_01 42:45

Abandonment is easy. I can be by myself. For sure. I'm sorry, that's not my question.

SPEAKER_03 42:50

Are you afraid of abandonment or intimacy? And you said you wouldn't even get close.

SPEAKER_01 42:56

He's afraid of intimacy.

SPEAKER_06 42:58

You want to get close.

SPEAKER_03 42:59

Oh, okay.

SPEAKER_06 43:01

That's a lot. Let's be honest.

SPEAKER_03 43:04

I need a breakdown. Why?

SPEAKER_06 43:06

Um, again, because they see the good and the bad. A lot of people they hide behind the person that they want people to see.

SPEAKER_00 43:14

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 43:15

You know, the what we all put on to go out into the world, and that's not while that is you, I respect you putting that person on. That's not all of you, right? You might have a host of things that you hide from the world that this person now sees. And you see it daily. This happens a lot in marriage. Like you get married, especially if you do it traditionally, you don't live with each other. Now you're together in the house and they see all of it. Right? See all the faults. And that person has to choose to love you in spite of those things. That's a lot because not a lot of people have it in them to give you that.

SPEAKER_01 43:53

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 43:54

They say they want love, but that shit is different when you're giving somebody real intimacy and they can see. Transparently what's going on.

SPEAKER_00 44:03

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 44:03

I'm I'm afraid of that shit because bitches is weird. And they will take that and they won't uplift you. They might tear you down. Niggas are weird. That's a trauma response, Joe.

SPEAKER_04 44:16

Oh well. The first step is admin that brother Benoit.

SPEAKER_03 44:20

Yo. Yeah, listen. That was good. There he is.

SPEAKER_01 44:23

Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_06 44:24

Good question.

SPEAKER_01 44:25

That was a good question.

SPEAKER_03 44:27

Thanks.

SPEAKER_06 44:27

Shutting the fuck up now.

SPEAKER_03 44:33

Shit. It's me. All right. And not laugh. Nothing to say right now. Okay. Um I have this one that I'm sorry. I'm taking me. I have a lot on here, guys, so excuse me. All right. What's a text that you regret sending immediately? Damn. I sent a lot of texts. I don't know that I regret sending them. Actually, I will say one time I sent that text. I think I was probably supposed to be texting you or you or whatever. One time off I told them about himself. I said I'm texting whoever telling them about it. I sent the text to Damn, should I be saying his name? I sent the text to my manager. Yeah, I sent the text to my manager.

SPEAKER_06 45:49

Sick.

SPEAKER_03 45:50

About my manager.

SPEAKER_06 45:51

Fucking awesome.

SPEAKER_03 45:52

Himself. Hilarious. And I was like, I went and looked for him. I was like, oh, that wasn't, that wasn't for you. Like, he just, you know how he is. He ain't say shit.

SPEAKER_06 46:06

He was just hilarious. I love that you told him about himself. I do.

SPEAKER_03 46:10

I usually do.

SPEAKER_06 46:11

Most people don't. I'm a new lead the charge.

SPEAKER_03 46:17

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 46:18

I, you know, I love to lead the rebellion. It's my dream.

SPEAKER_01 46:22

Yeah. I gotta make you uncomfortable now because you're fucking with me.

SPEAKER_02 46:25

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 46:27

I was like, yo, I did not just send him this text about it.

SPEAKER_06 46:31

Yeah, I might have been sick to my stomach if I did some shit like that.

SPEAKER_03 46:34

I probably was like, I had an oh shit moment for about two seconds, and I'm like, bitch, it's done. What are you gonna do? What's he gonna do?

SPEAKER_01 46:41

Oh well.

SPEAKER_03 46:42

Right, report me to HR.

SPEAKER_06 46:46

And didn't.

SPEAKER_01 46:48

Yeah, because he knows he's a fucking weirdo.

SPEAKER_03 46:50

That would be a battle that I would win. It was a lot. So on to the next. That wasn't even that bad. I because I don't have any I said what I said. Super text like that I really regret sending. Yeah, if I said it, I meant it when I fucking said it.

SPEAKER_04 47:10

Yeah, same.

SPEAKER_03 47:11

There's that. Look at all three of us getting picked. If love required full vulnerability, would you qualify?

SPEAKER_01 47:29

I would not.

SPEAKER_03 47:34

I'm with something I'm working on. Okay. Why?

SPEAKER_01 47:41

Why am I working on it?

SPEAKER_03 47:42

Break down.

SPEAKER_06 47:43

Why are you afraid to be vulnerable?

SPEAKER_01 47:46

Um I don't even know if it's that I'm afraid. I think at times I just don't know how. Like haven't had that experience to just know what I like. I don't know what that looks like.

SPEAKER_03 48:04

Yeah. Just being completely yourself. Being completely not like, okay. Well, I do, but be yourself with someone, but like just the full comfortability, yeah, full just the whole full package, but what the heck.

SPEAKER_06 48:22

Do you feel like it won't be received if you I don't mind, you know, give it?

SPEAKER_03 48:26

No, I don't think that. I mean, obviously it depends. Like I always say shit's situational. So I guess it depends on who it is you're dealing with.

SPEAKER_01 48:35

But like I literally rem I I was telling you guys I had that conversation um with Travis the other day, and you know, was just thinking back on like things like how our relationship went and and stuff like that and how it ended and things.

SPEAKER_03 48:55

And you know, he was just saying like once pretty much like once we got into a relationship, like some of the things that I used to do, I kind of stopped doing. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 49:11

So um definitely noticed that I lack consistency in some areas, and that is something huge that I feel like going into my next relationship, I would for sure need to have in check so that I'm not pushing someone away.

SPEAKER_06 49:33

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 49:35

Um, because of that.

SPEAKER_06 49:36

It's fire. So I'm gonna take some of that too.

SPEAKER_03 49:42

Well, that was hot seat. I feel like that was not bad.

SPEAKER_06 49:48

It was like mild.

SPEAKER_03 49:50

I'm disgusted. It was very therapeutic, though.

SPEAKER_06 49:52

Yeah, it was good. Okay. This whole episode has been just I'm trying to make you guys uncomfortable.

SPEAKER_03 49:56

I don't know about it. I know you are, but even still, like, that's a truth that I have to admit. Yeah. And I have to like really so so now it's just like me knowing that that's an issue. I I can't show up that way again.

SPEAKER_07 50:13

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 50:14

I love that. There's no excuse because I know. Yeah, you know, so that is growth. Yeah.

SPEAKER_04 50:20

Learning growth, Donald.

SPEAKER_03 50:22

I love that. Alright. Now we're gonna get into Would you rather? Beautiful tune.

SPEAKER_06 50:36

I would rather.

SPEAKER_03 50:37

If I do say so myself. Me too. Did you need me to sing it this time or are you good? Are you good with that? You're good. Okay, cool. Almost as miniature. You wanna sing it? No, I said I'm an artist. I'm trying to keep this thing going. You are.

SPEAKER_01 50:49

You're wonderful.

SPEAKER_03 50:51

Thank you. Can't help herself. Right. I kept it light. Let's go.

SPEAKER_01 51:00

Are you ready?

unknown 51:01

Ready.

SPEAKER_01 51:02

Would you rather be resting or escaping responsibility?

SPEAKER_03 51:13

Resting.

SPEAKER_06 51:15

Resting from it.

SPEAKER_02 51:24

Okay.

SPEAKER_03 51:25

Resting from it?

SPEAKER_01 51:26

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 51:28

Or escaping it. If I can go back to being a kid, I would not. Because being an adult's actually really fun.

SPEAKER_01 51:38

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 51:40

Would I I want adequate rest from my responsibility though.

SPEAKER_03 51:45

Absolutely. My mom still tells me what to do.

SPEAKER_06 51:49

She should. She tells me what to do all the time. Hey, listen.

SPEAKER_01 51:54

Nobody tell me what to do.

SPEAKER_03 51:55

I'm not gonna lie. Sometimes I do want to escape responsibility. I called Risa tonight today and I said, I'm leaving tonight. I'm leaving town. I'm out of this motherfucker. Out of here.

SPEAKER_01 52:06

Out of here. Never coming home.

SPEAKER_06 52:12

I would rather.

SPEAKER_01 52:14

I would rather be resting.

SPEAKER_06 52:16

Absolutely. I'm okay with responsibility.

SPEAKER_01 52:20

Me too. It is what it is. Like this is these are things that I this is the way I've structured my life. Yeah. Keeps me busy.

SPEAKER_06 52:29

What else is there to do?

SPEAKER_01 52:30

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 52:31

Good question.

SPEAKER_03 52:32

There's other things to do.

SPEAKER_01 52:34

Yeah, for sure. I could go see a man about a horse.

SPEAKER_03 52:44

Right. Shit. I need to meet a man about a horse. Where you at? Horse for sale. Damn. All right, moving on.

SPEAKER_01 52:57

I miss that man and his horse.

SPEAKER_03 53:01

Anyway. Would you rather stop talking about a man and his horse? Yes. I would not. Me either.

SPEAKER_01 53:13

For breaks. Okay.

SPEAKER_03 53:19

Admit you're afraid of intimacy or keep blaming the wrong people.

SPEAKER_06 53:26

Fuck me, bro.

SPEAKER_03 53:28

That's for you, because I already sat. You said bring it on. I love intimacy.

SPEAKER_06 53:34

It's beautiful.

SPEAKER_03 53:36

Because I never get it.

SPEAKER_06 53:38

I just know. That's crazy. So boom. So boom. All the songs that I actually do know.

SPEAKER_03 53:43

Yeah. Are love songs.

SPEAKER_06 53:45

You know, Back at One. All that. All that shit is fucking malarky, bro.

SPEAKER_03 53:50

Who called you Jared LeVert? Jared LeVert.

SPEAKER_06 53:54

My assistant manager called me Jared LeVert at work.

SPEAKER_03 53:58

That's hilarious.

SPEAKER_06 54:01

You said you look just like him. And you sing crazy. Yeah, not too much of my friend. He was fired. I ain't gonna lie. He had some tooth. Yo, he got all those dudes. Yo, that was hilarious. I'm serious. Like all these RB songs right now. Cater to you. I fucking love that song. It's bullshit.

SPEAKER_03 54:27

It's not bullshit.

SPEAKER_06 54:28

Whatever, bro. I guess when you're in there and you're actually living in intimacy and you want your man.

SPEAKER_03 54:34

She's such a lover girl. Like you used to be. I don't love these songs.

SPEAKER_06 54:39

Whatever. Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 54:41

Well, I am. She is.

SPEAKER_06 54:44

Former lover girl. No. No.

SPEAKER_03 54:46

It's there. It's there. It's just waiting for my why husband. Right.

SPEAKER_01 54:51

And I am.

SPEAKER_03 54:56

I'm super thoughtful. Super.

SPEAKER_01 55:00

I am. Yes. And I'm like very loving and affectionate and things like that. I like to be taken care of.

SPEAKER_06 55:12

It's not a bad thing.

SPEAKER_03 55:13

She wants them to do all the work. That's not true. I was waiting for her to say something after that's not.

SPEAKER_05 55:24

She didn't say anything.

SPEAKER_03 55:26

Oh, that's it. Period. That's funny. That's not true.

SPEAKER_06 55:30

Take care of me. Yeah. And they will.

SPEAKER_03 55:34

And that's my problem today. Anybody to care of me.

SPEAKER_06 55:40

They're all lusty. We're all there.

SPEAKER_04 55:42

I'm lusty too. Yeah, but like that's it.

SPEAKER_06 55:51

Yeah, you shouldn't lead with that though.

SPEAKER_03 55:53

Oh yeah.

SPEAKER_01 55:53

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 55:54

God damn.

unknown 55:55

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 55:55

It's disgusting. It's very unattractive.

SPEAKER_06 55:58

Agreed.

SPEAKER_03 55:59

Yeah. So I'm disgusting and unattractive. Got it. Because you're are you lusting after that? You're a woman.

SPEAKER_06 56:04

You're a woman. But you don't also don't lead with that. You don't lead with that.

SPEAKER_03 56:08

There is. I ain't gonna hold you. There is one man I'm lusting after. That's nice. Good for you. Who is it? Yo, this is trying to give me Tamma Brennard on the on the pod. Just know there is one man that I'm ready to risk it all for. Well, not risk it all, just my panties. Oh, heavens. Well, he knows who he is. I'm not doing any of that. I don't think he's listening. I don't think he listens to the pod, so it's cool.

SPEAKER_06 56:40

Good for you.

SPEAKER_01 56:41

Thank you.

SPEAKER_03 56:43

Don't let me finish saying what I'm saying about that I'm listening after. If you ain't dropping names, we're good. Girlby. Oh, I'm just kidding. It's like nah. I ain't gonna he look good though. And he's white. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 57:04

Of course.

SPEAKER_06 57:05

Good question.

SPEAKER_01 57:06

It's Black History Month, just so I've remote.

SPEAKER_06 57:10

They were there. Segregation.

SPEAKER_00 57:13

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 57:14

It was there. Well ain't like that no more though. It ain't integration. They should have kept it. I'm trying to bring us together.

SPEAKER_01 57:25

Yeah, for sure. We're not even gonna get it. And we'll get into that off camera.

SPEAKER_03 57:30

Or on camera.

SPEAKER_06 57:32

We could talk about it on camera for sure.

SPEAKER_03 57:33

Yeah, we can.

SPEAKER_06 57:35

They fucked it up when they segregated when they integrated. We should have kept it up. Anyway.

SPEAKER_03 57:39

Yeah, let's go. Keep it at delusions. Don't get delusional about the time frame. We're actually on would you rather? You're delusional. Let's see.

SPEAKER_01 57:47

Would you rather be desired or valued by one? Be desired by many or valued by one.

SPEAKER_06 57:55

That's deep.

SPEAKER_01 57:57

I'd very much so like to be valued by one.

SPEAKER_06 58:00

I agree.

SPEAKER_03 58:04

It's like um both.

SPEAKER_04 58:10

Both of them.

SPEAKER_03 58:14

This ain't that.

SPEAKER_06 58:15

Um yeah, I think I think there are too many of us on the planet to like you will get forgotten.

SPEAKER_00 58:27

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 58:28

There's too many of us. That's it. So to have somebody who pays attention and who wants to be in your space and bear witness to your life is important.

SPEAKER_00 58:39

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 58:40

Otherwise, you what was that movie, Coco? Just your friend that will be empty, you know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_03 58:48

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 58:49

And I would rather not have that.

SPEAKER_03 58:52

Everybody hasn't seen Coco. Go watch it.

SPEAKER_06 58:55

You've seen that shit though. Yeah, for sure. Shout out to Coco.

SPEAKER_01 58:59

Super cute.

SPEAKER_03 59:00

Watch Mandalorian.

SPEAKER_01 59:05

Yeah, I'd rather be valued though. I have been, I know what it feels like. I know what it looks like. I I very much so would like that. And come with a nice, um, strong thick beard. Oh. So I know I can trust you. I know you know how to eat.

SPEAKER_06 59:28

Right.

SPEAKER_03 59:31

Nom nom nom nom nom. I like that.

SPEAKER_06 59:34

Yeah, I'm the food man.

SPEAKER_03 59:38

Can't trust no nigga with no scarce.

SPEAKER_06 59:41

Agreed.

SPEAKER_01 59:42

Butt face.

SPEAKER_06 59:43

To shave it off is crazy. Definitely can't be trusted.

SPEAKER_01 59:48

Yeah. No, no, that's not true, because I know someone who has shaved it and I would piss me off because I like it full, but not my guy anymore, so I can't tell him what to do.

SPEAKER_05 1:00:05

Got it.

SPEAKER_01 1:00:07

But still it's down to business.

unknown 1:00:10

I love that.

SPEAKER_01 1:00:11

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 1:00:13

Shout out to the road eaters out here, bro.

SPEAKER_01 1:00:15

Oh, for real. For real.

SPEAKER_06 1:00:16

The ones that do it like you guys deserve a medal.

SPEAKER_01 1:00:19

For my 36 years of life. I've had two favorites.

unknown 1:00:24

Fuck yeah.

SPEAKER_06 1:00:26

That's good.

SPEAKER_01 1:00:27

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 1:00:31

Any other ones?

SPEAKER_03 1:00:33

That's all you're getting from me today. Try, buddy. That's what you get. How does it feel when you're always trying to pull names out of my hat?

unknown 1:00:41

Not even.

SPEAKER_06 1:00:43

Those were good though.

SPEAKER_03 1:00:45

Thank you.

SPEAKER_06 1:00:46

Really good. Ladies, let's get it.

SPEAKER_03 1:00:48

Shout out to the munches. Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 1:00:50

They eat us.

SPEAKER_03 1:00:54

You guys are cool. Yeah.

unknown 1:00:56

Protect.

SPEAKER_03 1:00:57

Like the world runs. Protect him. Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 1:01:01

For sure. Let's get into some debate club, ladies.

SPEAKER_00 1:01:06

Okay.

SPEAKER_02 1:01:15

It's our new sound for debate club. Woo!

SPEAKER_06 1:01:19

Ladies, I think they are lying to us.

SPEAKER_01 1:01:22

Who?

SPEAKER_06 1:01:23

Them. Be specific.

SPEAKER_03 1:01:27

Who's them? Just give us a hint.

SPEAKER_06 1:01:30

Our audience? Are you guys lying to us? The proverbial people who rule the world. I think they're lying to us. I have a question. It's kind of a nerdy one, but do you think the earth is round or flat? I need your reasons why.

SPEAKER_01 1:01:46

Flat? I would say it's flat. I mean. I don't I just don't understand how it could be round. Maybe flat round?

SPEAKER_03 1:01:59

Gravity. Could I say that?

SPEAKER_01 1:02:02

Flat round.

SPEAKER_06 1:02:03

Explain that.

SPEAKER_03 1:02:04

Like this spherical. Like how the top of this is.

SPEAKER_06 1:02:09

This is what I think it is. A plane.

SPEAKER_03 1:02:11

Yeah. And we're in a dome.

SPEAKER_06 1:02:13

And they're brain covered.

SPEAKER_03 1:02:15

Right.

SPEAKER_06 1:02:16

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 1:02:16

Controlling the weather.

SPEAKER_06 1:02:18

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 1:02:19

Niggas are creating clouds. Yeah. Fucking that.

SPEAKER_06 1:02:23

If we've never been to space, how do we know that the earth is round and not hollow?

SPEAKER_01 1:02:28

I heard space is the ocean.

SPEAKER_06 1:02:32

They're lying to us. They're not telling us the whole truth.

SPEAKER_01 1:02:36

People can't handle the truth.

SPEAKER_06 1:02:38

I know. I think that um we have too many different types of ecosystems here. And there are too many like different anomalies. Did you know that there is a cave in Vietnam that has its own ecosystem?

SPEAKER_03 1:02:57

No. No.

SPEAKER_06 1:02:59

There are it's mist, but they are they look like clouds inside the cave.

SPEAKER_03 1:03:05

Oh wow.

SPEAKER_06 1:03:06

It's humongous.

SPEAKER_03 1:03:08

I would love to see that. And it's not underwater in its clouds.

SPEAKER_06 1:03:11

Outside no.

SPEAKER_03 1:03:12

No. It's inside the cave.

SPEAKER_06 1:03:14

Inside the cave. This gigantic cave in Vietnam. Maybe we can.

SPEAKER_01 1:03:20

So there must be some type of moisture.

SPEAKER_06 1:03:25

It has its own ecosystem. There's forests inside the cave.

SPEAKER_03 1:03:28

Oh my goodness. Like it's whole. Like a whole nother world. Yes.

SPEAKER_06 1:03:31

Yes. And scientists are finding things like We're artists. Right.

SPEAKER_03 1:03:39

Next, we start a band. I'm sorry. I decided to get that out.

SPEAKER_06 1:03:42

Making the band.

SPEAKER_03 1:03:43

No, no, Diddy. No, we're gonna leave that right there.

SPEAKER_06 1:03:47

Diddy is crazy work. Yeah, we're not doing that. Um but you know, there are things like that happening that are all over the planet that indicate that it might not be what they're telling us it is.

SPEAKER_03 1:04:01

It never fucking is. Yeah, I don't sit here. I'm sorry, please.

SPEAKER_06 1:04:05

Most people would think that you're crazy before thinking the earth is flat, though.

SPEAKER_03 1:04:09

Because most people are idiots, and that's fine.

SPEAKER_01 1:04:12

Everybody is damn entitled to their opinions and and you know, some people know actual factual things, and I am not that girl.

unknown 1:04:28

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 1:04:28

Well, what we do know or what we should know is that they're for sure not telling us anything that's solid. If I don't go to a place and see that shit myself with my own two eyes, I don't give a fuck what they don't know. I believe everything I see. I'll take it with a grain and I'll move around.

SPEAKER_06 1:04:44

Yeah. I I know that there are things that, you know, gravity, oxygen, that science attempts to explain. And they do a good job of trying to get us to understand it.

SPEAKER_00 1:04:58

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 1:04:58

But as a whole, the entire thing is being misrepresented.

SPEAKER_03 1:05:03

Manipulated. You know what they count on. People not like you trying to figure it out. They count on the people going with what they're saying and just going with it because it just is what it is. Like a lot of people, I just I can't stand the people that just buy into everything without asking or second guessing.

SPEAKER_06 1:05:26

You and I have been outside in the wilderness in wilderness too much for me to not question what the hell's going on here.

SPEAKER_00 1:05:32

Mm-hmm. Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 1:05:36

And do I think that I would love for there to be tons of planets, Star Wars style. That'd be fucking.

SPEAKER_03 1:05:43

That would be dope. I'm fucking out of here. That would be so great.

SPEAKER_06 1:05:47

I would love that. Right now.

SPEAKER_03 1:05:51

What's that cave looking like? Well, uh, pretty soon it'll probably go to shit because if people are finding out about it and they know Know about it, uh, they'll find a way to ruin it. So good luck with that.

SPEAKER_00 1:06:05

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 1:06:06

Yes, in Vietnam, Hang Dum Sam, I don't know how you pronounce it. It's insane. But yeah, this cave is humongous, and uh it shouldn't exist as far as I'm concerned. You can walk in there and never come out.

SPEAKER_03 1:06:20

Right. Crazy.

SPEAKER_06 1:06:21

You know? And I've never seen a cave that has an entire forest in there than ever.

SPEAKER_03 1:06:26

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 1:06:27

I'm sure more shit like that exists, they're just not telling us.

SPEAKER_03 1:06:30

Yeah, we're just it's not discovered.

SPEAKER_06 1:06:32

Right. Um, and this is from 2000 like early 2000s, late 2000s, late 1990s.

SPEAKER_03 1:06:39

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 1:06:39

Right. So very recent in history where they're finding this thing.

SPEAKER_03 1:06:42

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 1:06:43

Right?

SPEAKER_03 1:06:43

So well, we need to find one. Don't tell anyone about it, move there and just do our off-grid it. Yeah, for sure.

SPEAKER_06 1:06:50

For freaking sure. Ladies, that's the bait club. They're lying to us. Don't believe the hype.

SPEAKER_03 1:06:56

Don't believe the hype.

SPEAKER_06 1:06:59

Think for yourselves.

SPEAKER_03 1:07:00

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 1:07:01

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 1:07:02

Always. Like, please just have your own mind. Stop believing everything that you see.

SPEAKER_06 1:07:08

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 1:07:08

You shouldn't do that.

SPEAKER_06 1:07:10

Big time.

SPEAKER_07 1:07:14

But I never respect the niggas in the street.

SPEAKER_06 1:07:19

I always got the problems right now. Respectfully. No, Jill. What is this nigga?

SPEAKER_03 1:07:27

Anyway, let's talk some shit.

SPEAKER_06 1:07:31

Let's talk your shit, nigga.

SPEAKER_03 1:07:32

Let's talk some shit. What do you guys want to talk some shit about? What's bothering you? What what's what's ticking you these days? Shit.

SPEAKER_06 1:07:44

I don't have a bad thing to talk my shit about. I have a good thing to talk my shit about.

SPEAKER_03 1:07:48

Okay. Okay. I like that. I know. I'm always making it. I'm always looking for the mess, ain't I?

SPEAKER_06 1:07:53

Yeah. I mean, my bad.

SPEAKER_03 1:07:55

Good Tokyo shit.

SPEAKER_06 1:07:57

Uh, I like this editing shit, bro.

SPEAKER_03 1:08:01

Yeah. You're so good at it. You're amazing at it.

SPEAKER_06 1:08:05

Thank you. I like doing it.

SPEAKER_03 1:08:08

I'm so glad because I'll be sitting here like it's a lot. You're doing already, you're doing already, you need a break. Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 1:08:14

But that shit, it fuels something inside me that, oh, I can make that happen. Or I can edit that shit. Right. And it's gonna come out good. Yeah, exactly.

SPEAKER_03 1:08:25

Um we hope you guys like the editing. And so funny.

SPEAKER_06 1:08:28

Yes, because we spend lots of time laughing over it. It's a like hours editing. It's a blast.

SPEAKER_01 1:08:34

Um but it's fine. It is fun. And I'm like watching the episode with everybody else.

SPEAKER_06 1:08:39

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 1:08:40

I love that.

SPEAKER_06 1:08:41

And that's good because we need that.

SPEAKER_03 1:08:42

Yeah. We need your real reactions. Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 1:08:46

And sometimes you put stuff in there specifically for you to laugh at.

SPEAKER_03 1:08:48

So no, for real.

SPEAKER_02 1:08:50

We can't wait to resurface this.

SPEAKER_06 1:08:52

You know. I I and I I know that I'm I have it's a skill set that I have, and that's where I am glad that I can at least stand in the ring with some of the best ones that are out there, right?

SPEAKER_03 1:09:06

You're yeah, I think and that's not just because we're a team, like obviously if the editing sucked, I'd be like, we'd be like, hold on a second. We gotta find someone immediately. Yeah, for sure. And you we don't need any of everything you guys see, it is by this hand, right? This hand and this hand.

SPEAKER_06 1:09:28

Yeah, all in-house.

SPEAKER_01 1:09:30

I I have nothing to do with the editing.

SPEAKER_03 1:09:32

You do a lot.

SPEAKER_01 1:09:34

Um, I didn't know. Because we give ourselves enough credit. Yeah. I I'm I'm a background lady.

SPEAKER_03 1:09:40

The website's beautiful, so thanks. Yeah, you're welcome.

SPEAKER_06 1:09:42

Phenomenal. Go to wholesome minutes.com.

SPEAKER_03 1:09:44

It's bringing us great things. So I love that. Yeah. It's a blasting. You know, so um, yeah, it's great. Okay. That was an awesome talk. Talking about shit, bro. And I'm very happy that you enjoy it.

SPEAKER_04 1:10:00

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 1:10:00

Because when I tell you guys, I'll be over this dude's shoulder, like, yeah. I'm surprised. That right there.

unknown 1:10:07

No, no, no, no, move that.

SPEAKER_06 1:10:08

Move that there, move that. My guy. I'm surprised she hasn't taken videos of me falling asleep editing because I we breathe the shit. Who says that I didn't?

SPEAKER_02 1:10:16

Oh who says that I don't have it?

SPEAKER_06 1:10:19

Nigga, send that shit. You got it, send it.

unknown 1:10:22

Okay.

SPEAKER_02 1:10:24

Send it.

SPEAKER_06 1:10:25

Don't you guys want to see it?

SPEAKER_02 1:10:27

Okay.

SPEAKER_03 1:10:28

I'ma send it. And I'll let you make that decision. But yeah. So, Risa, what are you talking your shit about? So, I don't like that a lot of times men take kindness for an invitation from women.

SPEAKER_01 1:10:49

And then when it's not received well, we have to worry as women about men getting upset about it, getting offended.

SPEAKER_03 1:11:00

Now we're weird, we're bitches, we're all types of crazy shit because I'm just you said hi to me, I'm saying hi back because I have manners.

SPEAKER_01 1:11:15

And now it's an issue because I'm not interested in carrying on a conversation with you or giving you my phone number or whatever the case may be. So that um that irritates me a lot.

SPEAKER_03 1:11:28

That can be irritating. And if you're a guy and you're doing that, you're just clearly you get no vagina and you don't have gang? Don't be a dick. Yeah, you're a dick. Yeah, no. Not only even if you don't even that could be a thing too, but we don't have gang.

SPEAKER_06 1:11:46

Not that not that she doesn't want to give you, you don't want to give the number. It's not that how you go about it. How you go about it is one thing. Also, I feel like the kind of man who introduced introduced themselves to women, and then immediately after she doesn't give you that response that you're looking for, call her a bitch or you're not pretty anyway, or any of the shit that they want to say. You are you got some shit going on in and that you gotta go deal with, right?

SPEAKER_01 1:12:20

Right, yeah.

SPEAKER_06 1:12:21

Because you're not looking at her one as a person. This is about the conquest for you, and at the end of the day, though there's now there's really not anything for you to talk about. So yeah. I hate that for you. I hate that for all women because damn, you missing out on one, just a very cordial conversation, one you're missing out on just a salutation. It's nice to say hello, we forgot to do that nowadays, right?

SPEAKER_01 1:12:49

Right.

SPEAKER_06 1:12:50

And just because we go there doesn't mean it needs to go farther than that.

SPEAKER_01 1:12:53

Right. Exactly.

SPEAKER_06 1:12:56

Just because you accept the like or the follow on Instagram or t or Facebook doesn't mean that we have to be best friends.

SPEAKER_03 1:13:02

And you'll know when someone wants to for sure take it further. Like if I'm being cold or dry or whatever, might not want to go there with you. Take the hint, Bucko.

SPEAKER_06 1:13:11

Yeah, for sure.

SPEAKER_03 1:13:13

Yeah, that's annoying. Stop being dicks, guys. It's cool, and people can't it's the can't handle rejection thing, too. But get that shit together. Well, my talk your shit today would be um single mom bashing. Hmm. Interesting. Like the sh some of the things that I even just see online. Yeah. It's insane. Like, you know, you know, men saying, oh, don't date a woman with kids, or she got more than one. Like, you know, or men who don't have kids, you know, don't date women with kids. Like, you don't know people's circumstances, you don't know a person. You can't just look at a person and be like, oh, they got kids, leave that train or it's not always that situation. And there's some men that can't have kids.

SPEAKER_01 1:14:04

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 1:14:04

Or even on a woman, on a woman's side, like dating men that that have kids, and maybe a woman can't have kids. That's why they're, you know, in that situation. It's just like people trying to coexist elsewhere, yeah. I also know in my big old mind that people talk and are very uneducated as well. So it's just annoying, and uh, yeah, I'm a little biased and get a little triggered because I'm a single mom. And it's like it does make me think about those things. And so when we talked about like dating younger, shit like that makes me think about that. But I'm courteous enough to like tell you, like, all right, you know, you I got a lot going on. Maybe you should have you know find somebody that doesn't have as much going on, but stop bashing single moms. Some of us are freaking awesome, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 1:14:55

For sure.

SPEAKER_03 1:14:56

I know we are, we're freaking totally awesome. Yeah, you see, I don't look at myself as a single mom, and that's only because, yeah, my kids' dads are in their lives, so it's just like I'm a single woman. Me too. Yeah, um, not a single mom. Their dads are for sure fully present.

SPEAKER_01 1:15:22

Um, take care of pretty much anything I need if I need it, if they need it. And um, I don't I know a lot of people bash and and shit like that, and that's some shit you gotta deal with. You know what I mean? Like if you and and it everything doesn't need to be said either.

SPEAKER_03 1:15:43

If that's like what you don't want to do, then don't do it. Yeah, unless like a single mom is approaching you and you're like, listen, I'm not really interested in dating women with kids or whatever. If people could be that way, what a wonderful place the world would be. Yeah, but you know, people aren't like that. So that was my talking of shit. I I've thought about that a lot for a long time. Just in what, like I said, when I see shit, it's a little triggering because I know some great single mothers and you know, just single women, whatever you want to call it. I'm a single mother and a single woman. I say a single mother, my oldest daughter's father is in her life, not as much as I would love him to be, but I am grateful for what he does. Um, but I'm I'm a single mom, bro. Yeah, like let's be real.

SPEAKER_01 1:16:33

I do yeah, everything everything. Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 1:16:36

Outside of what my you guys helped me. Right. Um, stop bashing single moms. I mean, we're pretty great. We got a lot going on. We deserve love too, and we're open to love and loving.

SPEAKER_01 1:16:50

And you know, my shit situation is just different. Yeah. Al takes the twins every week, every other week, I mean, and then like Key's dad'll pick her. I'll drop her off at school.

SPEAKER_03 1:17:01

He picks her up every day. Yeah. So it's just it's like Yeah. I had another one I wanted to go with, but I think I'll save that for next week. Yeah. It's kind of kind of coincides, but yeah, we'll talk about that next week. I'll save it.

SPEAKER_06 1:17:16

Sweetness.

SPEAKER_03 1:17:17

Yeah, but that was my talk to shit. You know, it'd be fun like just making a whole I like that though, that you brought that up. Because I feel like a lot of people feel that way. Yeah. Because you see it so much. Like, even women with like men too. Yeah. It's like, oh, he has kids, I'm not. You know what I'm saying? Right. And there are some amazing men with kids and and amazing dads, and but whatever, you know, you you miss out.

SPEAKER_06 1:17:46

If um Yeah, I think you uh in relationships, especially romantic ones, you gotta understand that you're dealing with the person.

SPEAKER_01 1:17:57

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 1:17:58

Not the other responsibilities. They could be somebody who works at Target as well. You're gonna say they're not worthy of being dated because they're of their profession.

SPEAKER_00 1:18:07

Right.

SPEAKER_06 1:18:08

No. It's that who they are is what you're getting to know.

SPEAKER_00 1:18:12

Yes.

SPEAKER_06 1:18:13

That might come with children. But if you're there for them, you're learning that that's just a small portion of who they are as an individual.

SPEAKER_03 1:18:22

Right, yeah. So I love kids. A person's circumstances aren't who they are. Right. If you're interested, be interested, get to know the person. For sure. Judging from the outside, then have fun with that. Sounds like a long week.

SPEAKER_06 1:18:36

And she got kids, that means she's laying it set.

SPEAKER_02 1:18:41

Like, that does not mean it.

SPEAKER_06 1:18:44

Yes, the fuck it does.

SPEAKER_03 1:18:45

It does not mean that. It doesn't mean that. Okay.

SPEAKER_06 1:18:50

She's ready for that. She's gonna call you. Hey, I need this. I'm lying.

SPEAKER_03 1:19:00

Frig, are you looking at me so hard? Go ahead. Go ahead. Go ahead. I did.

SPEAKER_06 1:19:05

I just know that that, I mean, they're busy. You guys are busy single mothers.

SPEAKER_03 1:19:08

Yeah, for sure.

SPEAKER_06 1:19:10

Schedule.

SPEAKER_03 1:19:11

Scheduling the appointments. Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 1:19:14

Immediately.

SPEAKER_03 1:19:15

Drop that off. Somebody drop some off to me.

SPEAKER_06 1:19:17

Right, and you have to drop it off because you know the kids gotta be, yeah, it's a whole situation. And so she's gonna come prepared to lay it down on you, bro.

SPEAKER_03 1:19:24

So that's hilarious.

SPEAKER_06 1:19:25

Don't ever disrespect the single moments like that.

SPEAKER_02 1:19:28

Damn.

SPEAKER_03 1:19:29

I would love to do like a whole episode of just like even for each segment of like parenting things.

SPEAKER_06 1:19:36

Yeah.

unknown 1:19:37

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 1:19:37

Parenting delusions. Yeah. Parenting debates. Main topics. Let's run it. Let's run it. Sounds like a good app. It does. We'll plan for that pretty well. Alright. Wow. Talk your shit. Those are some good shit talking. Yeah. I like shit shitting and shitting talking.

SPEAKER_06 1:19:56

Shitting is crazy.

SPEAKER_03 1:19:59

I mean, everybody should. All right, but we don't need to. Shitis. All right, shit talking. Now let's tone it down. Oh god, let me get my laugh out first. Okay, I'm done. Quiet.

SPEAKER_01 1:20:23

Take a deep breath.

SPEAKER_03 1:20:29

You're not even deep breathing. She's staring at you the whole time. Yeah, you're staring at me. So you Yeah, I'm over here laughing. I'm breathing hard. I'm looking at him. Looking.

SPEAKER_06 1:20:45

Sorry, I was just trying to release tension.

SPEAKER_01 1:20:47

I respect that.

SPEAKER_06 1:20:49

I actually really like this. This is probably my second favorite segment. Is it really? It is.

SPEAKER_03 1:20:54

I love that. You guys love my segments. Yes. I actually hate them, but I don't want her to be upset.

SPEAKER_02 1:21:00

I'm just kidding. I love them. I love all of them.

SPEAKER_03 1:21:05

Damn, I'll be doing it every time, huh? Get the whole little out of them. That's crazy. No, I love your segments. You know I love them. Shit love our whole children.

SPEAKER_06 1:21:16

Change it.

SPEAKER_01 1:21:18

That's right.

SPEAKER_06 1:21:19

I've never forgotten that since you said it, so thank you.

SPEAKER_01 1:21:22

Yeah, say it louder one more time.

SPEAKER_06 1:21:23

A negative nine negative mind will never give a positive life.

SPEAKER_03 1:21:27

That's right. I have the most positive mind here, so you guys can shove it.

SPEAKER_01 1:21:34

Alright, let's see.

SPEAKER_03 1:21:38

Our health quote. The right connection feels calm, not confusing.

SPEAKER_06 1:21:47

I receive that.

SPEAKER_01 1:21:49

Yeah. That's nice.

SPEAKER_06 1:21:52

I'm experiencing that right now.

SPEAKER_01 1:21:54

Yeah. What are you, brother Ben Log?

SPEAKER_06 1:21:57

It's not a confusing situation. There's clarity.

SPEAKER_01 1:22:00

Yeah, and that is beautiful.

SPEAKER_06 1:22:03

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 1:22:04

Like you can breathe.

SPEAKER_06 1:22:05

Actually.

SPEAKER_01 1:22:06

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 1:22:07

That's lovely.

SPEAKER_01 1:22:08

Feels good. Maybe I need to find one because I cannot breathe.

SPEAKER_03 1:22:12

Oh my gosh, bitch. You're saying that for a whole nother reason. Yeah, you are.

SPEAKER_01 1:22:16

Alright, you ready for the next one? Stability creates confidence. Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 1:22:25

Absolutely.

SPEAKER_03 1:22:26

When my bills and shit are fate are paid. Yeah. I feel pretty amazing. I bet. I will I drive around with one hand on the stair and we'll blast my music. I feel great. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 1:22:42

Like I'm paying it.

SPEAKER_03 1:22:45

Yeah. This is adulting. As long as I got a couple dollars left after my shit's paid. Yeah, we have a pretty Starbucks. Got him. I need that. Mandatory. I need at least$300 a week for stars. Crazy. I'm just playing out. Alright, next. Last one. Self-respect changes your standards quietly.

SPEAKER_06 1:23:07

Absolutely.

unknown 1:23:10

Fuck yeah.

SPEAKER_01 1:23:12

Hell yeah.

SPEAKER_06 1:23:13

Absolutely. When I was 27, 28 years old, I I'd been married. About four years ago. Yeah, I was married for like nine years, right, guys. So when I was 27, 28 years old, I started something started to switch in terms of like how I understood my masculinity. And I realized that if you don't respect what you find to be boundaries for yourself, no one else is going to.

SPEAKER_07 1:23:36

Of course not.

SPEAKER_06 1:23:37

Right? And as soon as I started doing that is when, well you never felt like that before.

SPEAKER_01 1:23:44

Yep. Now you act indifferent.

SPEAKER_06 1:23:46

Yeah, you acting different now. What I realized is I didn't have any respect for myself or what I have as expectations.

SPEAKER_00 1:23:55

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 1:23:55

Before, and that's probably because I was happy go lucky in love, and that's understandable. But you know, now we are more shrewd and prudent about those types of things. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Um, because I my standards are very not high, but I know what it is that I would like for myself.

SPEAKER_03 1:24:12

That's great.

SPEAKER_06 1:24:13

I'm not gonna compromise on that.

SPEAKER_03 1:24:15

Good. That's wonderful. And you really and then once you do stand on those things, you see how things fall apart.

SPEAKER_06 1:24:24

Correct. And I know what what what attracts me is what I want.

SPEAKER_01 1:24:29

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 1:24:33

So absolutely, I receive that as well. I love this fucking segment, man.

SPEAKER_03 1:24:38

Yeah. That's so great.

SPEAKER_06 1:24:40

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 1:24:42

Well, that is all I have for health, wealth, and positivity. Positivity warriors! Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 1:24:51

Very nice indeed. I like this little positivity infusion I get weekly.

SPEAKER_01 1:24:55

Yeah, me too. I love it.

SPEAKER_06 1:24:57

Need that shit, bro.

SPEAKER_01 1:24:58

Yeah. I was telling somebody this is like very therapeutic. She said that as well. Like it really, really is. Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 1:25:04

It's like eye-opening, like, to myself and my flaws and the things that I yeah have done wrong in the past that really I I wasn't super conscious of. So it it it is definitely helpful for me in my growth.

SPEAKER_06 1:25:21

For sure. And I hope that you guys can like resonate with what we're going through in our own lives because we're just regular cats, just like you guys.

SPEAKER_03 1:25:28

Yeah. Yeah. And like a lot of the things that we talk about, like we just hope you guys, you know, can relate to that even if we're not going through it. Like we really try to find things to talk about that are super relatable and you know, make us reflect on our own things and you know, account for the things we need to account for and fix what we need to fix uh outside and within ourselves.

SPEAKER_01 1:25:54

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 1:25:54

Um, help you maybe, you know, love a little better, be a little kinder, uh, be a little fiercer where you need to.

SPEAKER_01 1:26:01

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 1:26:02

Just man, do all those things. Take care of yourself, take care of your mental health.

SPEAKER_01 1:26:08

Yeah. Big deal.

SPEAKER_03 1:26:09

Don't have nobody playing in your face. Take care of your physical health, listen to your body, like we always say.

SPEAKER_06 1:26:14

For sure.

SPEAKER_03 1:26:14

And just, you know, do all the things.

SPEAKER_06 1:26:17

And if you guys have like your own topics that you are things that you guys are going through, you guys can call us.

SPEAKER_03 1:26:23

Call us, you call us if there's anything you want to want to talk about. Yeah. Instagram, Facebook, TikTok. You can send us a message and send topics that you want to hear us talk about on here. Yeah, you guys can even text the number. If you're not a big talker, you want to text, you can text that number, 802-319-9133. Yeah. Anytime you guys want, day or night. Or leave us a voice message if you want to be heard on here. Yeah, we'll for sure play your message. Mm-hmm. And it doesn't have to be serious. It's sure.

SPEAKER_06 1:26:56

Is as unserious as it gets, so please.

SPEAKER_02 1:26:59

I refuse to live my life in a serious manner.

SPEAKER_03 1:27:01

Agreed. Yeah. Not a very serious person. But yeah, you guys hit us up.

SPEAKER_06 1:27:07

That's uh what a fucking episode.

SPEAKER_03 1:27:13

Her usual. Yeah. We always do. Yeah, I know. Every time. Do I say that at the end of every episode? Shit, I gotta check that. But um, yeah, guys, we got a lot of great things coming. We can't wait to discuss them with you. So keep watching.

SPEAKER_06 1:27:28

Follow. Like, share, subscribe.

SPEAKER_03 1:27:31

Tell a friend. Tell a friend. Show a friend. Listen with a friend. Yeah. Grab some popcorn, some wine, have a good time. We know, you know, we always do because I always say it. Call us. Bullshit. Yeah, please. Make fun of us. We don't care. We just want to talk to you too. I'm tired of talking to these bozos every time. Lies. I'm just kidding. Vicious lies. That is. They know it's a lie. I can say what I want. They know how I really feel crying. Um, yeah. So you guys hit up the number 802-319-9133. Stay wholesome. But don't forget to be a menace. We're out of here.