Dust Settles. I don't...

This episode got uncomfortable in the best way possible as we unpacked the idea of settling in relationships, friendships, careers, and life overall. Is compromise maturity… or are some people slowly abandoning themselves just to avoid being alone? 

 As always, the Menaces brought the laughs, the tension, the hot takes, and the usual chaos through our favorite segments — but the main topic? Yeah… this one might hit home.

Sometimes dust settles.

Sometimes people do too.

The question is… should you?

Transcript

SPEAKER_02 0:19

Hello and welcome to the wholesome menace podcast. I'm your host, Chris Marie. We have Stefan and Risa with us.

SPEAKER_09 0:27

Yay! Yay! What's going on, folks?

SPEAKER_06 0:31

Hey y'all. I feel like it's been a minute.

SPEAKER_09 0:33

It has been a minute.

SPEAKER_06 0:34

I feel like it really has. This is like my first time.

SPEAKER_09 0:38

Listen, guys, we are constantly working at this pod, but when we have to take breaks to edit and to do different things or life is in the way, yeah. Like it's separation anxiety for me.

SPEAKER_03 0:52

Yeah. Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 0:52

Need to be here with you girls.

SPEAKER_02 0:54

Definitely. It's just, I'm like, what do we do?

SPEAKER_03 0:58

What do we do?

SPEAKER_02 0:58

Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 0:59

Just gotta get back into it.

SPEAKER_09 1:00

Here's the cool thing from y'all's perspective, you see an episode every week.

SPEAKER_01 1:06

Right. Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 1:07

Right? Because niggas is working. Right. But sometimes when the schedule doesn't align, we have to adjust, and it feels weird getting back in the chair. But we I want to go back in chair.

SPEAKER_05 1:18

I can't wait to get back in chair.

SPEAKER_09 1:19

Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 1:20

Yeah. Like we only were off for like a week. It felt like way more. It did. It felt like two weeks, honestly.

SPEAKER_09 1:26

But I guess is that cool for when you have your own business?

SPEAKER_05 1:29

I guess it's amazing. As long as you're doing the thing. You're showing up, yeah, for sure. Which we do everything's being done on time. Yeah. I mean, think of for the ones that we did previously do so that we still stay ahead. Yeah. But yeah, it's no easy task. Love it, but I enjoy it the most. Yeah. So fire.

SPEAKER_09 1:53

That being said, let's get into some attitude and gratitude.

SPEAKER_00 1:59

Okay. This shit, I'm gonna blow getting a thing that don't help me grow. Bake three, big six, shice get home.

SPEAKER_09 2:12

Ladies, for attitude and gratitude today, I wanted to talk about just how we are individually becoming better versions of ourselves. So the question I had is what are you doing to hone yourself? Like what practices are you putting into your life to hone yourself? We use the generic ones, go to the gym, you know, eat healthier, those types of ones, but I feel like all of us across the board are doing all those same things.

SPEAKER_08 2:44

Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 2:45

A variation of those things. Yeah, it doesn't make you a great person. Right. My question to you is what are you doing specifically to like hone or sharpen or trim off or be better? What is what is it that you're doing?

SPEAKER_05 3:04

Actively working out my mental and how I deal with like every situation. Like trying to deal with it in a light, positive kind of way, regardless of how shitty it is. So that I just don't feel shitty. I don't know. I'm just like really just training my mental in a lot of different situations. I don't really have anything else that I'm really working on personally besides that. I mean, the financial stuff, that's another thing that like everybody's doing, right? Or needs to do. But the way I react to situations, people, all that, that's the thing that I'm honing in. Just trying to have a good mental and be patient, working on my patience.

SPEAKER_09 3:56

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 3:56

For sure. Sweet. And getting tattoos.

SPEAKER_09 3:58

And getting tattoos, which is fire. That's you building out the avatar.

SPEAKER_05 4:03

Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 4:03

You know what I mean? So super dope. Therapeutic.

SPEAKER_06 4:08

I really just kind of make sure that I'm taking time for myself. That's a big deal for me because I like spending time alone. And I like being able to just like sit down and focus on something that I want to do. So I make sure that I get that free time for myself so that I can do those things.

SPEAKER_05 4:33

And also literally like talking to you guys every day, coming on here and discussing the topics that we all bring up helps me kind of just be able to reflect and take a look at some flaws that I might have or things that I may need to work on as an individual. So then I can like really be like, okay, you do this. Let's see how we can switch that up. Um so that's really it. Like me taking time for myself so that my mind is clear and I stay in a positive space, and then like I said, talking to you guys.

SPEAKER_09 5:20

Yeah. For me, I have realized that my reading is not up to par.

SPEAKER_06 5:29

Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 5:30

What I qualify like an intellectual person's reading, I don't feel like for me it's up to par. So one, I've been the app on my phone tells me like a different word every day.

SPEAKER_06 5:43

Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 5:44

So I'm constantly being pushed with different words. That way I can at least if I'm not reading a book or or you know going through books regularly like I used to, I'm still getting different types of like diction in my life. Also, since Q's been on the show, I've been take taking the supplements that come that he uh develops. And when I tell you, like I feel like I'm on 10. Yeah. But not in an anxious way. Like everything's on.

SPEAKER_05 6:20

Nice. And I'm alert. Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 6:22

Right?

SPEAKER_05 6:23

You're here. You're present.

SPEAKER_09 6:25

Present. So realizing, hey, that's an area you need to hone yourself in in your wellness, right? Even with the training. Like even with the supplements I've been taking, I can see that I can push harder in a workout. You know, I have more energy to do that. I have the desire to work out, you know. And so just finding those areas that I know I might be lack, lacking in, and finding ways to supplement that void. So again, I do I have the margin to read a book? I would love to. I have them in my book bag and my day goes by and I don't even open it, right? I make the time I make the book available, but sometimes the time isn't there for me. So my substitute for that is the way that I'm trying to hone myself is putting that vocabulary at so at least I see it. And sometimes I'll go on there and I'm like, damn, I didn't know that. You know, there's plenty of words I I'm introduced to.

SPEAKER_06 7:28

Or you've heard them and you're kind of like, I don't really like for sure know what that means. I have an idea.

SPEAKER_09 7:34

But yes.

SPEAKER_06 7:35

So I love that.

SPEAKER_09 7:38

I think we all should do that to a degree. Even another one, like getting licenses and other types of disciplines. I just realized the fishing license that we have gives us an opportunity to go hone another skill that we have.

SPEAKER_06 7:50

Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 7:51

You know what I mean? Getting permits and things like that give you a g puts you in a different space. You're more valuable as a person because you are now able to enter those rooms.

SPEAKER_06 8:01

Yeah, that's so cool.

SPEAKER_09 8:02

That's how I'm trying to better myself. Yeah. Piece by piece finding that I'm finding success in those areas. So anyway, that's how I had for attitude and gratitude.

SPEAKER_08 8:15

That's cool. Okay.

SPEAKER_09 8:16

Yeah. Hope you guys are intentional about what you're doing to better yourself.

SPEAKER_08 8:21

Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 8:23

You don't gotta work out, you get to work out. You know what I mean? It's a skill you can develop.

SPEAKER_05 8:30

And just, you know, saying all that, I just had a thought, and I actually put it in my notes before, like, we're given this little life, and there's so many things you can learn and learn to do. Yeah. So many guys, like fishing, hunting, and outside of that, freaking knitting, uh, painting. There's so many things you can learn, skills you can learn, useful things, therapeutic things. Just go out and try stuff. Yeah. You never know. You might be great at something you never thought you'd be great at.

SPEAKER_09 9:08

Precisely. Cooking. It's a simple one, bro.

SPEAKER_06 9:12

Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 9:12

Especially with where our world is. You can develop a skill to make whole nutritious, you know, macronutrient dense food.

SPEAKER_05 9:24

Food first of all as well.

SPEAKER_09 9:26

That tastes phenomenal if you know how to do it.

SPEAKER_05 9:30

Yeah. Just gotta try. Gotta try it somewhere. Sorry, I'm so tired. Wake up. I know. Now, on to your favorite game.

SPEAKER_09 9:43

Let's do it.

SPEAKER_05 9:52

Who's ready?

SPEAKER_09 9:53

Let me get that.

SPEAKER_05 9:54

I don't think I'm ready. I'm off my game today, guys.

SPEAKER_09 10:00

Get your head in the game.

SPEAKER_05 10:04

Okay. Well, let's hit you with a good tune first. Maybe get your going.

SPEAKER_09 10:11

Hearts in the song.

SPEAKER_06 10:15

Is that Troy Bolton? Yes.

SPEAKER_09 10:19

We had to get each other right. Lock in. Thank you. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 10:22

That's awesome. Appreciate you. Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 10:25

I love how we can get a couple of Disney Channel Johns on here.

SPEAKER_05 10:33

I was actually going to look, but I said that's gonna be too easy for me. And look for just having I have no idea what you guys are talking about. Of course. Okay. Shut up. She hates musicals. Hate them.

SPEAKER_06 10:52

Kissing you. Total.

SPEAKER_07 10:55

Yay. Wait a minute.

SPEAKER_06 11:03

I like that song.

SPEAKER_09 11:06

Stay. Oh yes.

SPEAKER_05 11:13

Good job. Thank you. Good job.

SPEAKER_03 11:17

Keep playing again. I love that song. Can you play it again, please?

SPEAKER_09 11:35

Definitely gives early two thousands.

SPEAKER_05 11:38

It's a good song. Late nineteen nineties. Good job, Ruby Sah. Set me up you. Okay. Now free movie quote. Let's go.

SPEAKER_00 11:54

Is to see a hero fail, fall, die cry, in spite of everything you've done for them.

SPEAKER_05 12:02

That sounds like the Green Goblin. That's my guy, if it is.

SPEAKER_01 12:08

From Spider-Man.

SPEAKER_09 12:13

OG guy. What's his name?

SPEAKER_07 12:17

Yay! Got it.

SPEAKER_05 12:22

William Defoe. Yes. Yes, yes, yes.

SPEAKER_09 12:27

One of my favorite gifts. You're good, girl.

SPEAKER_05 12:32

She's that was good.

SPEAKER_09 12:33

We'll get you over here down playing you and you snap.

SPEAKER_05 12:36

Right. I'm tired today. I love his voice. Me too. I'm just kidding. He's just a bomb ass. William Defoe.

SPEAKER_03 12:45

All right. Good one.

SPEAKER_05 12:46

Thank you. Next two.

SPEAKER_03 12:48

Ready, sucker. Give it to me.

unknown 12:51

Okay.

SPEAKER_05 13:06

Oh. I know that.

SPEAKER_06 13:14

Yeah. Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 13:17

Don't care where you bow. Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait.

SPEAKER_01 13:25

Who sings that? Is that Donnell Jones? I don't know.

SPEAKER_09 13:33

Don't know? Question?

SPEAKER_01 13:35

I'm sorry, they don't know.

SPEAKER_09 13:37

Yeah. They don't know. That's what it is. Yay. Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 13:43

You guys both got that. I'll give it a yeah, yeah. By John B. Dumbass. John B. No, I did not say Donald Jones. That's embarrassing. She said that's Don L. Jones. I'm like. Golly. Good thing I knew the name of the song. I like that song.

SPEAKER_09 13:58

Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 13:59

I knew it was your song.

SPEAKER_09 14:00

We both knew it though.

SPEAKER_05 14:02

Yeah, we did. We're good. Yeah. We both knew her though. These are good. Yeah, they are good. They're good because that Spider-Man will know that Spider-Man was really good. If I didn't know his voice like that, I wouldn't have said.

SPEAKER_09 14:17

Listen, you didn't even need two or three. You just I like the first. Yeah. Impressive.

SPEAKER_05 14:24

Thanks.

SPEAKER_02 14:25

All right.

SPEAKER_05 14:25

Next movie.

SPEAKER_01 14:31

I don't know.

SPEAKER_05 14:42

I hate those chaotic ones.

SPEAKER_06 14:45

I don't know. What the heck are you doing? Wait again? Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 15:00

Who the fuck is that? I'm not talking about it.

SPEAKER_09 15:03

What the heck are you doing? What the fuck is that?

SPEAKER_01 15:07

I have no idea.

SPEAKER_05 15:08

I'm gonna probably fuck. I can't talk today. I'm gonna pour you over. A third time. Jesus Christ.

SPEAKER_01 15:26

Napoleon Dynamite?

SPEAKER_03 15:36

Hey. That's what I'm talking about.

SPEAKER_09 15:39

I can see it.

SPEAKER_05 15:42

Even when he was like, what are you doing? Yeah, but that's literally that's Napoleon Dynamo. I couldn't place the voice at first. And I'm like, wait a second. Yeah. That curly crap. Funny as hell. And the headband.

SPEAKER_09 15:57

Good one.

SPEAKER_05 15:58

All right.

SPEAKER_09 15:59

Really good one.

SPEAKER_05 16:00

Yeah, that was really good. Huh?

SPEAKER_09 16:02

We ain't got no bonus ones?

SPEAKER_05 16:03

No, not today. Sorry, brother. Maybe next time.

SPEAKER_09 16:06

Mom comes. We got six of them. Six of them. Yeah. Q came. We got six of them. That's mom.

SPEAKER_05 16:13

Q was a special guest. He was nervous, so I wanted to make it fun.

SPEAKER_09 16:18

Shut up, nickel. We ain't feeding us around here, guys.

SPEAKER_05 16:23

Yo, he's devastated right now. All right. I'll give you one more song. One more. You better get it.

SPEAKER_09 16:32

Fuck, you're right. Yeah, just shut the fuck up, Stefan. Shut up. Shut up.

SPEAKER_05 16:36

Here we go. Shut your mouth, boy.

SPEAKER_01 16:50

Jagged edge. What's the song called? Let's get married. No. Fuck.

unknown 16:58

Idiot.

SPEAKER_09 16:59

Fuck.

unknown 17:09

Fuck.

SPEAKER_06 17:10

There's so many good ones.

SPEAKER_08 17:17

Fuck. Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 17:22

Oh yeah.

SPEAKER_09 17:23

You got niggas.

SPEAKER_05 17:25

What is that?

SPEAKER_09 17:26

I don't know it.

SPEAKER_05 17:28

Save it to the mic.

SPEAKER_08 17:45

Okay, that was too much.

SPEAKER_06 17:50

That's hilarious. Oh, I can't believe I can't think of what that is right now.

SPEAKER_05 17:53

I'll play it one more time because we were laughing on the last one. Okay. You guys still suck. No.

SPEAKER_01 18:00

Not me.

SPEAKER_08 18:01

Not me.

SPEAKER_01 18:12

Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. Let's see. Everything clear.

SPEAKER_09 18:21

Meet me out the Ow.

SPEAKER_05 18:28

That's what you're saying. Pause. Just shut up. Let me have that. Just let me have it. He said the shit twice. Twice. Would have done that. I'm sorry. Walk right out of heaven.

SPEAKER_09 18:41

Walked right out of heaven.

SPEAKER_05 18:43

Yeah, that's a good one. I dragged it. Such a beautiful song.

SPEAKER_09 18:46

I love it. I've listened to that song recently, too.

SPEAKER_05 18:51

No, you haven't. You listened to Let's Get Married. And what's crazy is No, I haven't, actually.

SPEAKER_09 18:57

I haven't. It was that one. Fuck. Stefan sucks. No. Don't even look at me.

SPEAKER_01 19:10

Mail it in, suck it.

SPEAKER_09 19:12

Don't even look at me, nigga.

SPEAKER_05 19:14

No. Hilarious. We gotta snatch that motherfucker. Yeah, we're gonna have to run them pockets.

SPEAKER_09 19:21

I don't know. Does that mean? I mean, I was raised Haitian American, so I don't know.

SPEAKER_03 19:27

Walk right out of head. So you don't know RB songs?

SPEAKER_09 19:30

I know I know plethora, but too many to count.

SPEAKER_03 19:34

Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 19:34

But there's plenty that I don't. At least know the words.

SPEAKER_05 19:39

I got it pretty much. I was singing the right words. He wasn't using it.

SPEAKER_03 19:47

Say the song, nigga.

SPEAKER_09 19:49

Thank you for obliging love.

SPEAKER_06 19:52

You're sweet, sweet girl. Yeah, those kids. I'll take my half point to go.

SPEAKER_09 19:58

Just go. Thank you. Do I get negative points for getting it wrong twice?

SPEAKER_05 20:04

Oh, we might have to start giving him negative points, and then he gotta start building them back up. All right, my bad. You cool. You be getting it sometimes. You good, you good. Actually.

SPEAKER_08 20:31

We all are Delusion Olympics.

SPEAKER_06 20:42

Welcome to the Delusion Olympics.

SPEAKER_09 20:45

Right at home, Stefan.

SPEAKER_06 20:49

Right at home.

SPEAKER_05 20:50

Let's see. First one, you think providing financially replaces emotional presence?

SPEAKER_09 20:57

The Lulu.

SPEAKER_05 21:00

Yes. Delusion.

SPEAKER_01 21:02

Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 21:05

I think I think uh popped in my head.

SPEAKER_09 21:08

A wise man knows that he has to cater to both of those things that the woman needs. That's a lot though.

SPEAKER_06 21:19

Yeah, for sure.

SPEAKER_05 21:21

But if you're you're gonna either jump in both feet or you ain't because if you're not gonna do it all the way, why do it? It's it can be done.

SPEAKER_03 21:33

Yeah. So I agree.

SPEAKER_05 21:37

Anyhow. Sorry, let me pause for a second. Why do you think empty promises with no consistency builds trust? Because you're delusional?

SPEAKER_09 21:52

Absolutely.

SPEAKER_02 21:53

You're delusional.

SPEAKER_09 21:57

Empty promises and no. Consistency.

SPEAKER_05 22:03

Why would I trust ya? Crazy. But there's nothing to trust. You're not showing me anything. Except that you're in because you can talk. Yes. You got a mouth and words coming out. I had to say this to somebody recently. And they mean nothing. Like you keep talking about you want to do this, you want to go on this date and do that.

SPEAKER_01 22:22

But you're not even following through with the one thing that you said. You're not even setting up a plan to go on a date in and following through. So I'm like, all you do is chat. I'm not interested in that.

SPEAKER_09 22:37

Let him know.

SPEAKER_01 22:38

So I didn't.

SPEAKER_05 22:40

And then being butted up for nothing but air.

SPEAKER_06 22:45

Yeah. He got a little annoyed and said, Well, we don't have to talk anymore. Bah. Say less.

SPEAKER_09 22:55

You're out of here, Buckhoe.

SPEAKER_05 22:57

Never replied. There's nothing else to talk about. There's nothing else to say. Okay. Fuck her. You can love someone and still leave them. I don't think that's delusional. I think that's for sure a thing. Delusional. It's a very hard thing to do. Yeah. Sometimes it needs to be done.

SPEAKER_09 23:23

Yeah, I think it needs to be done sometimes. Yeah. But that's a heart issue.

SPEAKER_05 23:28

Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 23:29

Does that make you delusional though?

SPEAKER_05 23:31

No, absolutely not. It makes you aware. I think it makes you kind of strong, honestly, if you're able to walk away from somebody that you that's a big one. Yeah, I did that. And I was like, well shit, actually. I was in the process of leaving him, but he left first. And while it was like heartbreaking, it was also like because I was getting nothing out of that relationship but dead enddoors and heartache.

SPEAKER_06 24:03

So yeah.

SPEAKER_05 24:04

Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 24:06

Heartbreak sucks.

SPEAKER_06 24:08

Yeah, it does. I know too. I know too.

SPEAKER_09 24:17

Good.

SPEAKER_06 24:19

Well, that's all I have for the delusion Olympics.

SPEAKER_09 24:22

Nice.

SPEAKER_05 24:23

Delusions are lifestyle choices, people.

SPEAKER_02 24:27

What will it be?

SPEAKER_09 24:28

What will it be? Alright. So we're gonna get into the main topic today, ladies. I have a question. Do you have to settle to make things last?

SPEAKER_05 24:48

I would hope not. I mean, I wouldn't do that. Fuck. I think maybe that is some people's reality, though.

SPEAKER_09 25:01

Unpack that for me. What do you mean?

SPEAKER_05 25:03

I think someone may and this is not to say like that they don't love a person, but there might be certain things about that person that they wish they could change and they can't, and they never will. And because they love said person and want to stay in that situation with whoever their partner may be, they just accept those things just to kind of keep the peace and stay comfortable where they are. To me, that's settling.

SPEAKER_09 25:39

Yeah. I agree. I think all of us to a degree do that. Or at least they settle.

SPEAKER_03 25:46

Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 25:48

All of us. I mean, the way I see it, not no one's gonna have every single thing that you claim that you want that's gonna make it the person for you.

SPEAKER_06 25:58

Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 25:59

That person that you're with may actually get on your nerves sometimes. Right.

SPEAKER_05 26:04

That's to be expected. That is to be expected.

SPEAKER_06 26:07

But I'm saying, like, say you're someone who likes a guy with who's blessed.

SPEAKER_01 26:19

A big dick. Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 26:21

Yeah. You like that. Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 26:24

Yeah. But now this guy is not, but he takes care of you. And he's rich or whatever you want to say. So now you're comfortable, you're being taken care of, all your needs are met, except that one. But you stay.

SPEAKER_09 26:42

You're settling.

SPEAKER_01 26:44

You're settling.

SPEAKER_09 26:46

You said you you'd rather not settle.

SPEAKER_01 26:48

I'm not settling.

SPEAKER_09 26:51

So if he has those things when his penis is not big enough, you're out of there.

SPEAKER_05 26:59

We're not gonna be in a relationship to begin with. For me to have to get out of there.

SPEAKER_09 27:07

I feel you. What about you? You said you don't want to admit saying that.

SPEAKER_05 27:13

What that I'm settling? Well, because we were having this conversation and it got really deep, so that's why you need to keep looking at me smiling.

SPEAKER_09 27:20

So uh let me hear your your taste on that.

SPEAKER_05 27:27

So I said I'm not settling either.

SPEAKER_02 27:31

But then we were talking about how, you know, I feel like the guy that I'm currently being is like perfect for me.

SPEAKER_05 27:44

Like he's not perfect, but he is for me.

SPEAKER_08 27:48

Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 27:48

So to me, I'm not settling. Like he may not have like, like you said, nobody's gonna have be your actual dream person that you're thinking of, I think, right? And then so Stephanie's like, so yourself he's he's perfect for you, but that's not your dream like person. And I'm like, but fuck. But you don't even really know yet if that's your dream person, you're still getting to know him.

SPEAKER_09 28:23

But that's the point. You have to say yes to these things as you're getting to know this person, even in that space. Yeah, she's like, fuck that. I'm not even there with your brother.

SPEAKER_01 28:32

Yeah, I'm not even getting to know you. I'm out of there.

SPEAKER_09 28:36

No, let me ask you something. Let's say the person is it's flopped. The situation is flopped. He is well endowed.

SPEAKER_06 28:43

Yeah. But broke ass.

SPEAKER_09 28:46

You don't know. He's flexing, like he got bred.

SPEAKER_06 28:49

Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 28:50

And he's actually probably has good temperament. He's a good, he has good character, but he's probably living above his means. You can't tell that just as just getting to know him, obviously, you know, other things about him.

SPEAKER_01 29:08

I don't know anything about anyone. Let's be clear.

SPEAKER_09 29:13

Let's see his point, you know.

SPEAKER_05 29:15

But you would have to go on a couple dates with him and see find out. Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 29:24

And in that space, you find out he's not he doesn't have the other things. At that point, you just cut it off.

SPEAKER_01 29:31

I mean I'm not gonna say yeah. Yes, right.

SPEAKER_05 29:38

Yes, you know, you like a nigga and be like, yeah. Which is a scratch. I gotta have you.

SPEAKER_02 29:47

I gotta have you.

SPEAKER_05 29:51

That's not gonna guarantee us getting into a relationship either, though. Like certain things I can't take seriously about because you're not gonna be that provider for me.

SPEAKER_09 30:01

I see. Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 30:02

That I have to have.

SPEAKER_09 30:06

Non-negotiables. Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 30:08

Like the twerking.

SPEAKER_09 30:14

Ah stupid. Say what I said. She should know how, whether she chooses to use it on me is her choice.

SPEAKER_05 30:26

She should know how. It's the she should know how.

SPEAKER_09 30:29

I would think she would. Anyway, booties move anyway, so it's not doesn't whatever.

SPEAKER_05 30:35

So you don't settle.

SPEAKER_09 30:37

And she can't work. Can I be honest? Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 30:40

What the fuck? I mean, what the heck?

SPEAKER_09 30:44

There are things in my marriage that I didn't think were up to par. Yeah. I'm sure my ex can say the same about me, but in that space, would you say that I was settling for those things? Yes.

SPEAKER_03 30:57

Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 30:58

For the sake of my covenant, for the sake of my union with this person, there are things that I was willing to say yes to to protect that union.

SPEAKER_05 31:07

I think a lot of people do it honestly. Like every day.

SPEAKER_02 31:11

I've done it. I have done it. And that's why I don't want to do it now. I want to get too as close to everything that I want as I can get.

SPEAKER_09 31:20

Yeah. I was telling her the other day, I posted something on my TikTok. I said, No, I forget, but we've something along the line along the lines of we judge each other before instead of loving each other.

SPEAKER_06 31:34

Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 31:36

We essentially we think the pros don't outweigh the cons. And because we're judging the person from that perspective, instead of loving them from that perspective, that's what breaks up.

SPEAKER_08 31:50

Yeah, yeah, that's good.

SPEAKER_09 31:52

For sure. You know, and I think a lot of people are doing that.

SPEAKER_05 31:56

I feel like that's pretty much why I think a big part of why my life's relationship ended. Because other than that, like, like that was my guy. Like, I'm like, you don't have married this nigga, you know what I mean? Like provided fucking me good, like loved me, you know what I mean? Like cooks, cleans, loves the kids, Thanksgiving gives, you know, like all these things.

SPEAKER_09 32:22

And then there were just obviously like within the relationship on both sides.

SPEAKER_05 32:29

Just couldn't work through those.

SPEAKER_09 32:31

Yeah. Do you feel like you're settling?

SPEAKER_01 32:35

I don't feel like I was settling in that situation, though.

SPEAKER_06 32:41

I feel like he's pissed me off a lot and like first of the book.

SPEAKER_09 32:46

Yeah. I didn't. That's part of the thing. That's normal. Yeah, for sure.

SPEAKER_05 32:49

If you're not pissing each other off, that shit is not real.

SPEAKER_09 32:52

Let's be calling the relationship. Like, yeah. You're supposed to the person closest to you is gonna piss you off the most.

SPEAKER_01 33:00

For sure. Spending all that time together. Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 33:03

Yeah. Yeah. I I have learned that you should not judge one another. You should love one another.

SPEAKER_08 33:11

For sure.

SPEAKER_09 33:12

Hopefully that'll keep you through. I'm assuming that love is still worth it. You know?

SPEAKER_02 33:17

It is.

SPEAKER_09 33:18

I think so.

SPEAKER_02 33:19

I think so. I know it is. It's gotta be.

SPEAKER_09 33:22

And if you believe that, loving them is gonna push you past some of those things that you might call. And to be honest, some of the things that we have as pop cons are fixable shit. Nigga could go to the gym.

SPEAKER_05 33:37

Yeah. You know what I'm saying? So, yes.

SPEAKER_09 33:40

And Turkey would give you a set of teeth now, bro.

SPEAKER_05 33:43

Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 33:44

Man.

SPEAKER_05 33:44

Yeah. There is a lot of things that are fixable. And I'm okay with that. Like a lot of people are with people for convenience, though. That's the thing. That's why they're be they're being judgmental. They're not loving the person. They're loving what the person does for them, how the person makes them feel.

SPEAKER_02 34:04

And if I'm fucking with you, is being I need because I like your personality. I love your laugh. I love the way you just grab things like the littlest things.

SPEAKER_05 34:15

I'm paying attention to you because I'm that into you.

SPEAKER_09 34:18

Love.

SPEAKER_05 34:19

Love.

SPEAKER_09 34:20

Infatuation, all that mixed together. So somewhere along the line that stops, and we start judging them because they start fucking up.

SPEAKER_02 34:29

But open your mouth.

SPEAKER_09 34:32

Yeah, communicate.

SPEAKER_05 34:34

You know what I'm saying? So tell the person.

SPEAKER_03 34:39

God damn.

SPEAKER_05 34:39

Tell the person when they're fucking up. Or if you're feeling like something's off. Freaking talk, people. What the heck? Even like just on our way here, we had conversations about like, you know, when you get into it with your partner, and maybe they don't want to respond right then and there in that moment.

SPEAKER_08 35:01

Give them some space.

SPEAKER_01 35:03

Tension is high, and you know, people are angry. Sometimes it's best to just kind of like separate, calm down, and then talk. But like don't come and like force me to try and have this conversation with you right now.

SPEAKER_05 35:19

Like kind of angry with each other. Yeah. It's just not gonna be a good situation, I don't think.

unknown 35:26

No.

SPEAKER_09 35:27

Do you feel like they need a time frame from you when that happens?

SPEAKER_05 35:35

Like, give me an hour or so? Yeah. Might not even need that whole hour, but just give me so much time. But like, let me go cool down for a minute. Like, you go ahead and go that way, and I'm gonna go this way, and I'll come find you when I'm ready to talk. Because like this going back and forth and nobody's hearing each other because we're trying to over talk.

SPEAKER_09 36:01

That's real.

SPEAKER_01 36:02

And just doesn't make for a healthy conversation.

SPEAKER_09 36:06

That's real. I get quiet when shit's going down, so me too. Even when I am angry.

SPEAKER_06 36:13

Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 36:14

So more so when I'm angry.

SPEAKER_09 36:17

Yeah. So I get that. Yeah. I don't want to talk. I get that for sure.

SPEAKER_02 36:24

And then you might say shit you don't mean, or shit's gonna come out the wrong way because I'm annoyed. Like, let's just cap it.

SPEAKER_05 36:32

And now that's another issue because we're misunderstanding each other. That's true. So like we're not gonna go to bed without talking about it, but I need a fucking minute.

SPEAKER_09 36:42

Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 36:43

Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 36:44

Some heated arguments. Gotta get out of the room.

SPEAKER_05 36:47

Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 36:48

Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 36:49

Could be best.

SPEAKER_09 36:50

But that's real. It's real life.

SPEAKER_05 36:52

And communicate that. Listen, I'm not trying to walk away from you or be disrespectful, but I need a minute because the space that I'm in right now is not a good one, and I'm trying to put that on you. Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 37:04

For me being told that as a man, there's some like, damn, she's not happy with me. That doesn't make me feel good. Yeah. Right. I want her to be pleased and comfortable and feel safe in my presence, right? So for her to tell me something like that is for sure gonna fuck with me if I love you. So but that's real, because you need the space to go collect your thoughts, regulate your emotions before you come back. So God forbid you say something out of pocket because you're tight.

SPEAKER_05 37:39

So yeah. Damn, I had like one more. I know we're trying to get well, because I was watching Rap About a podcast and they were kind of talking about something kind of similar. But Fad was saying, like, if like a female's mad, how do you know when to like jump in there and like because you know sometimes they could just want to grab you up and a woman wants that sometimes, but he's like, it's like don't just like do I do it?

SPEAKER_06 38:02

Do I not? That's just real, bro.

SPEAKER_05 38:05

And that is so real because you guys don't know. And it's a bad car. Yeah, I would rather you grab me up, kiss me up, and try to make it better. And if I don't want that right now, I'll tell you. Try not to get offended, just give me some space.

SPEAKER_09 38:28

Don't do that. No, I mean, I get it, but attempt to make amends.

SPEAKER_05 38:33

Yeah, yeah. Because a lot of people don't do that, man.

SPEAKER_09 38:37

And then days go by and now we haven't talked in hours.

SPEAKER_05 38:40

That cannot happen.

SPEAKER_02 38:42

I hate that.

SPEAKER_05 38:43

Yeah, now I hate you. Right. Because days, nigga, hours.

SPEAKER_01 38:49

You know, I know you now I know you don't even love me. You don't love me at all. You hate my gut. You don't want to talk to me. You don't want me here. Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 38:58

You want me to go? Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 39:00

Right.

SPEAKER_09 39:03

Well, relationships are crazy, guys. I don't know if I can honestly say that you're not settling. Settling is not a bad thing, is what I'm trying to get at.

SPEAKER_06 39:14

Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 39:14

I don't think it's a bad thing. I think it's a part of life that a lot of us have to go through. You might find that there are things in your partner that you love and cherish that you didn't know you would.

SPEAKER_02 39:29

And I think people think of settling in a bad way.

SPEAKER_05 39:32

Like the word it's not what you guys think is just like, oh, I'm settling for this nigga. I'm settling for this half off.

SPEAKER_09 39:42

And then it brings into thoughts the term, I'm I want to settle down.

SPEAKER_06 39:49

Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 39:49

I'm ready to settle down. So are you saying no to certain things so that you can live the life that you're looking for? And people say that? I don't know.

SPEAKER_05 40:01

Well, a lot of people say that they're looking for certain things, but they don't change the settings or things within themselves to be able to attract those things that they say that they want. Right. Because really, when it comes to settling down and buckling down and being with someone that uh you can be compatible with, have things in common with, it's more than likely gonna be someone you never even thought that you would be with. So your dream person, you don't even know who they are. Because that shit's gonna hit you out of nowhere.

SPEAKER_09 40:39

Right. You don't get to build them. No, just not build a boyfriend, you know. If you could, oh my man on man. Yeah, look at Ken.

SPEAKER_06 40:54

I love Ken. I love Ken. I love Ryan.

SPEAKER_09 40:57

He has a pure heart, but Ken is a lot going on.

SPEAKER_06 41:01

Yeah, he does. Wild boy.

SPEAKER_09 41:03

That's all I have for our main topic today. Yeah. Settle or don't.

SPEAKER_06 41:09

You know, don't settle, guys.

SPEAKER_09 41:13

Come on.

SPEAKER_05 41:14

Settle.

SPEAKER_09 41:14

Don't be settled.

SPEAKER_05 41:17

Settle down, settle down.

SPEAKER_09 41:19

Definitely back.

SPEAKER_05 41:20

Follow me for more dating advice. I've been single for three years. Follow.

SPEAKER_06 41:29

Consistent track record.

SPEAKER_08 41:30

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 41:31

Proven effective. Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 41:34

Poetry stuff. I like it.

SPEAKER_06 41:37

Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 41:38

Mm-hmm. Now it's time for having should have been a rap on site. Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 41:55

Everything lady. That's why I'm single.

SPEAKER_05 41:57

I'm working on my rap career. We're ready for hot seat. We're ready. Give it to me. All right. We got staff and the phrase dirty pillows.

SPEAKER_04 42:47

This is great.

SPEAKER_09 42:48

I hate when people don't wash their pillowcases because it indicates that they have dirty pillows.

SPEAKER_05 43:11

That's not what dirty pillows mean.

SPEAKER_01 43:13

You know what dirty pillows are?

SPEAKER_09 43:15

Oh no.

SPEAKER_05 43:16

Titties.

SPEAKER_09 43:20

Oh, this nigga sucks.

SPEAKER_01 43:22

No, he doesn't.

SPEAKER_09 43:23

Dirty pillows are titties. Mm-hmm. Nice.

SPEAKER_05 43:29

There goes his sentence. He's like, I love that. I love dirty pillows.

SPEAKER_09 43:34

I never thought about it like that. You're a baby. Put me on the game, lady.

SPEAKER_06 43:41

Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 43:45

Okay. Lay down a dog.

SPEAKER_05 43:56

Oh, a question. Okay. You say that sex is the glue to a relationship. Why is that?

SPEAKER_09 44:14

You're gonna hate me because my answer to this is a little like I think it's incredible that humans have the capacity to make more humans.

SPEAKER_06 44:27

Yeah. It's fine.

SPEAKER_09 44:31

Impossible. But yeah, we do it.

SPEAKER_01 44:35

It's impossible.

SPEAKER_09 44:36

Because it's possible. My germ enters a woman's germ and then life. What? I just think that that's crazy. So for me, I look at it a little more metaphysical, spiritual, in the sense where it brings literal life to the planet. You guys are moms, so you well versed in the subject, right? He does that to you, and then you gotta wait, and baby's literally growing inside you. Something I'm never gonna understand.

SPEAKER_05 45:14

Yeah, it's a beautiful experience for me.

SPEAKER_09 45:16

Yeah, I just I know that that is and then that's just what happens, but the actual act is cleaving onto one another in the most intimate way possible.

SPEAKER_06 45:30

We don't just do that with everybody, but people do do that with everybody.

SPEAKER_09 45:35

As we turns out as it turns out, is we're it's a ha it's happening. It's a girls, but that for me is the most intimate thing you can do with another person. Yeah, not just words, your bodies are little literally connected, and that's a glue.

SPEAKER_06 45:57

I'm not trying to make it look like that, but right.

SPEAKER_09 46:03

For lack of a illustration, guys, you guys are cleaving to one another, and that has its own implications with hormones, and it has its own implications with emotions and DNA and all the things, right? So for me, when I say that, it's I really mean that you you bond to one another. In the biblical sense, a lot of times the the soul tie term comes into play where you're giving some of your stuff to the other person. We know that that's happening on a genetic level. Literally, but emotionally, spiritually, from a soul level, especially people who are out here fucking mad mad people, people's energies are clinging to them, you know. Yeah, and then they don't understand why they have these bipolar tendencies and things like that.

SPEAKER_01 46:50

Well, you've been why you're depressed or that nigga's depressed.

SPEAKER_09 46:54

That nigga's broke. That nigga ha has shit going on with his mama, and it gets deeper. So even though it's a fun 50 pumps, like Bernie Max likes to say. So it's deeper for me. I think it's binds us off. Yeah. I know it.

SPEAKER_01 47:14

It was good.

SPEAKER_05 47:16

She's all right. Next, shut up.

SPEAKER_01 47:20

That was real good. Sorry.

SPEAKER_05 47:29

Step again.

SPEAKER_09 47:31

Three P. We learn y'all something, and it's high.

SPEAKER_05 47:36

And the word bigger bean. Like she's a pig.

SPEAKER_09 47:45

I have yet to see a bigger bean mean a bigger bean, but than the one you already saw.

SPEAKER_06 47:52

You said you seen a big thing.

SPEAKER_09 47:54

Oh, now niggas is lying. It wasn't it wasn't like it wasn't looking like no dicks.

SPEAKER_05 48:00

Yeah, you did say that.

SPEAKER_09 48:01

It was just a bigger bean. It was a slightly bigger.

SPEAKER_05 48:04

You have yet to see a bigger bean than the bigger bean you already seen. Dr. Sused out this motherfucker. That was good.

SPEAKER_09 48:12

Okay. And it turns out the bean is way bigger than the actual bean.

SPEAKER_05 48:17

It gets bigger.

SPEAKER_09 48:19

Well, it's not just the bean, the the rest of it.

SPEAKER_05 48:22

You're not coming up here.

SPEAKER_09 48:23

What are you talking about? The scientists mapped the clitoris.

SPEAKER_05 48:28

Oh, it's bigger?

SPEAKER_09 48:29

It's way bigger. The nerves are way way.

SPEAKER_05 48:33

Yeah, there's like a hood on it.

SPEAKER_09 48:34

There's a lot. Your whole pelvic area.

SPEAKER_05 48:38

Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 48:39

There's nerves that are attached to your clitoris.

SPEAKER_05 48:42

Play me like a bodily. Definitely got a anyway, one more.

SPEAKER_09 48:48

Go for it.

SPEAKER_03 48:58

It's you.

SPEAKER_05 49:04

And I don't know. Damn. He ruined this for us. Fuck. Where's the wildest place you ever had sex? Where's the wildest place I've ever?

SPEAKER_09 49:20

The wildest place I've ever had sex. Ooh. Outside of Olive Garden.

SPEAKER_05 49:32

What the fuck? This is before or after the meal. After the meal. This nigga said outside of Olive Garden, brother. That's hilarious. Good for you.

SPEAKER_01 49:46

Yeah. That's funny. It's good though.

SPEAKER_03 49:51

Okay. Oh my god. Damn. Oh my god.

SPEAKER_05 49:59

Yo.

SPEAKER_01 50:00

I don't even like Olive Garden.

SPEAKER_09 50:02

I do like Olive Garden.

SPEAKER_01 50:04

I haven't been there in I like their soup. So many years. I don't like soup at all.

SPEAKER_05 50:10

Unless Tina makes it. Tina, I love your soup. You make good soup. Chicken noodle soup. I like soup. But I'm not a soup girly. Not a soup girly.

SPEAKER_09 50:22

Yeah, I'm down for it.

SPEAKER_00 50:24

I'm down.

SPEAKER_05 50:26

Give me a soup. Sorry, Hasi was rigged. Your name was the only name on the wheel because we were trying to eat you up for being so fucking sexually motivated. But he ruined it. He ruined it, Risa. He did ruin it. That was a really good answer because that was the main one I wanted him to fucking answer like a pig. Philosophical ass. Well, because I feel like kids. And you took it in. And you took it in. And you get these people who are tired of your shit.

SPEAKER_09 51:03

Wow. That's great.

SPEAKER_05 51:06

He ruined it. He ruined our shit. Yeah, he did.

SPEAKER_09 51:09

God forbid a man has his thoughts about sex. I'm not a hoe. I mean, maybe I am. I don't know.

SPEAKER_02 51:18

Fiction. Whatever, nigga.

SPEAKER_05 51:20

Anyway. Would you rather?

SPEAKER_02 51:23

Would you rather move on?

SPEAKER_05 51:27

From Stefan ruining my fucking segment. Yeah, for sure. This is gonna be a little speed round, friends. Love speed rounds. Don't think, just answer it. Alright, shit. Would you rather be single or in a relationship? In a relationship, you asked me. Me too. Trader Joe's or Whole Foods? Whole Foods. Whole Foods. Whole Foods. I've never been to Trader Joe's.

SPEAKER_01 51:51

Love Trader Joe's. Not missing anything. Sunny or rainy days? Rain. Sunny days. It's just a rainy day.

SPEAKER_05 52:01

Can you quickie or foreplay? Foreplay. Fore play. What's the first one you said? Quickie. Foreplay, fuck. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 52:11

Make it last, baby.

SPEAKER_09 52:12

Yes.

SPEAKER_05 52:14

Make it last, baby. Oh yeah. PDA or keep it private. PDA. I'm all over the A. I'm on your ass. Tuning it down. Yeah. Yeah. Mm-hmm. Grab my butt. Resort or cruise ship? Resort. I'm good on that ship ship. And we're all set. Tattoos or piercings. Tattoo! Tattoos for sure. Pow pow pow pow pow all day.

SPEAKER_01 52:45

Yeah. Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 52:47

Okay. That's all I got for you guys today. That was good. That was good. It was Phoebe. Yes. We didn't think. Good job.

SPEAKER_03 52:54

Hit me a honest dances. Oh yeah. Oh yeah. What are we getting into?

SPEAKER_09 53:07

We're gonna play a game again.

SPEAKER_01 53:09

Okay.

SPEAKER_09 53:09

More games. Love it. Facts. We're debatable. Debatable.

SPEAKER_01 53:15

This is almost like would you rather?

SPEAKER_09 53:17

Kinda sort of.

SPEAKER_01 53:17

No, it's not. But it's not.

SPEAKER_09 53:22

Facts are debatable. There's some polarizing thoughts. Alright, ready? Got some statements for you.

SPEAKER_01 53:28

Okay.

SPEAKER_09 53:28

Splitting the bill evenly on the first date is fair. Fuck you.

SPEAKER_02 53:34

I'm not doing it. Facts are debatable.

SPEAKER_05 53:36

Oh, sorry. Debatable.

SPEAKER_02 53:38

Wow.

SPEAKER_05 53:38

Damn, my bad. Niggas say wow. I'm just take me on a date, you're paying. I'll offer to pay the tip just because I'm a fucking lentleman, but. That's not me.

SPEAKER_09 53:50

But I'm just asking a question. If we're out. You're saying wow for the guys who are like this is just me asking what typically happens in the world. Okay. All right. Shut up. Sick. Living together before marriage improves the relationship. Facts are debatable.

SPEAKER_05 54:07

Debatable. Facts.

SPEAKER_09 54:10

It's a shit show. I'm not gonna do it. Yeah, either way.

SPEAKER_05 54:13

I think either way.

SPEAKER_06 54:14

Yes.

SPEAKER_05 54:15

But debatable.

SPEAKER_09 54:17

Okay. You should never go through your partner's phone.

SPEAKER_05 54:21

Facts. Facts. Yeah, mine your business is. It's not your business.

SPEAKER_09 54:25

Please find your business. Long distance relationships rarely work.

SPEAKER_05 54:31

That's debatable. Debatable.

SPEAKER_09 54:35

Your partner should be your best friend.

SPEAKER_05 54:38

Facts.

SPEAKER_09 54:39

Good. Cheating is an automatic breakup.

SPEAKER_05 54:42

That's debatable. Facts. Even if we get back together, I'm breaking up with you right then and there.

SPEAKER_02 54:48

Because you need to feel my fucking absence, Nickel. That's what you wanted to do. That's what you wanted to do. I'm gonna go ahead and move around. Now you can think about it. That's what I'm doing.

SPEAKER_05 54:59

Okay.

SPEAKER_09 54:59

I got two more.

SPEAKER_05 55:00

I'm gonna say for some people. This was like a broad spectrum kind of thing. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I'm out of there. Go ahead.

SPEAKER_09 55:06

Buying Starbucks every day is a waste of money.

SPEAKER_05 55:08

Debatable?

SPEAKER_09 55:10

Debatable.

SPEAKER_05 55:12

That is not true.

SPEAKER_09 55:14

It makes it feel good.

SPEAKER_05 55:19

I need it. Yo.

SPEAKER_09 55:21

Oh girl.

SPEAKER_05 55:22

What the hell was that?

SPEAKER_09 55:23

I hate it. I'm just asking questions. Water actually has a taste. Hello. I can't even talk today. Water actually has a taste. Your water does.

SPEAKER_05 55:33

This shit is Yo. Sorry.

SPEAKER_09 55:37

We're gonna get into that. Okay. I can't wait to talk about that shit.

SPEAKER_05 55:39

Water has a taste. Facts. Yes.

SPEAKER_09 55:43

Last one.

SPEAKER_05 55:43

Facts.

SPEAKER_09 55:44

Moving back in with your moving back in with your parents to save money is smart. Facts. That's all I got today.

SPEAKER_05 55:53

That's good.

SPEAKER_09 55:54

That was really give you some things to think about. This is stuff that's gonna be a good thing. I'm coming home, mama. I'm coming home.

SPEAKER_05 56:00

Staying home. Don't fucking leave me. I won't leave you. I love you.

SPEAKER_09 56:06

Yeah, that's funny.

SPEAKER_05 56:07

Gotta have you.

unknown 56:08

Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 56:09

That's facts undebatable. I love that. Yes.

SPEAKER_06 56:13

Yeah, that's good.

SPEAKER_09 56:14

Give you something to think about.

SPEAKER_02 56:16

Now it's time.

unknown 56:18

Uh-huh.

SPEAKER_07 56:20

Hold up, bitch.

SPEAKER_04 56:29

My bad. That was a lot. Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 56:32

Talk your shit.

SPEAKER_04 56:32

Talk your shit. Who wants to talk their shit first to die? I do.

SPEAKER_09 56:43

I understood that we were all being trained to enter the professional workspace as children. Now. For me, I'm not sure where the what I understand to be a vast population to not understand what professionalism is. Yeah. Yeah. I thought we were all going to the same, we did the same curriculums, stand in line, raise your hand, all the shit.

SPEAKER_01 57:17

It's about this.

SPEAKER_09 57:18

Come on. It's about that for real.

SPEAKER_01 57:22

For sure.

SPEAKER_05 57:24

What you're being taught at home. Everybody doesn't go to the same school either. But it just is like a lot of that influence comes from your communities. Obviously your home life. Yeah. The people you decide to be friends with. You know, it's just like the people you look up to.

SPEAKER_01 57:49

If you're looking up to the ignorant motherfucker, then might come out like that. Yeah. Yeah. You think that that shit is cool, and that's what you're gonna try to portray yourself as.

SPEAKER_09 58:03

Professionalism is a thing because we go to these jobs and we work for these people.

SPEAKER_06 58:08

Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 58:09

Right. You gotta carry yourself as such in those circles. That's what is expected of you.

SPEAKER_01 58:17

Right.

SPEAKER_09 58:17

If you don't want to act like that, there are other things you can do. Most people say, Well, I need money, so I go to the job, but it's not just about the money though. You kind of have to play the part.

SPEAKER_06 58:31

Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 58:32

Which indicates you need to carry yourself a certain way. Is it called is it called faking? No. Because they still want your personal personality.

SPEAKER_08 58:40

Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 58:41

They still want you. You're still the perfect candidate for the job for your personality.

SPEAKER_05 58:46

They just want you to conduct yourself in a manner that is a personal for a business that you're working for. Yeah. That is not yours. That you're representing.

SPEAKER_09 58:59

Yeah, that's wicked.

SPEAKER_05 59:00

They don't care. It's crazy. They don't. And when there's hardly any consequences, yeah. What is there to care about?

SPEAKER_09 59:10

So then I gotta entertain space around you.

SPEAKER_05 59:14

I'm gonna act like you ain't there unless I absolutely have to act like you're there.

SPEAKER_09 59:19

And that's no dis because you're a human being and you have your cool. I just know that. For me, I'm supposed to walk with this level of poise, decorum, self-respect, all the things.

SPEAKER_01 59:32

Yep.

SPEAKER_09 59:33

Regulated, controlled.

SPEAKER_01 59:36

Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_09 59:37

I'm already black. You know what I mean? So gotta come correct. So that's what I won't talk much about. Sotheist. That gives me the ick.

SPEAKER_06 59:46

Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 59:47

That shit is really disgusting, actually.

SPEAKER_06 59:51

What about you, Chris Murray?

SPEAKER_05 59:55

Hey, you know what? I've been wanting to say this for a while, but we've been talking about so much other shit. If you drive a Jeep, a Wrangler, whatever, and I put my P sign up, motherfucker, put that shit up. It's like if you're not, you ain't gang. You ain't gang. Like, I can't stand that. And I like look at, you know, I follow some Jeep pages, and people are in the comments like, oh, I don't sick, I don't do the sign up to people who have ducts in their car or they just think it's stupid or whatever. Like, just say you're miserable and you don't like fun things.

SPEAKER_06 1:00:34

It's just, but it just is like a thing.

SPEAKER_05 1:00:36

Yeah, it's like Wranglers and I think it's cute. Yeah, it's fun. Yeah. I love the fact that, like, I don't know if everybody knows this who has like a Jeep or whatever. We didn't either. Any kind of Jeep, honestly. But they come with little stamps on them. Yeah. Like usually up by like your windows or anywhere else. Like you kind of search for them. Sandals. Mine has like flip-flops and like the Jeep around it. And then some people have the lizards, some people have the frog. There's a bunch of different things if you look around on your Jeep. You can find them. And also, I just wanted to like give a little history on how like who started the Jeep Wave and like who started the ducking for the Jeeps. So the Jeep Wave, like when I looked it up, the origin story was it said something about like soldiers during World War II when they drove those trucks and they would. I guess I didn't dive too deep into it, but I was more interested in the ducking. So a lady named Allison Parliament, she's from Canada. She started it in 2020 just as like a random act of kindness during COVID. So, like, you know, people were down and out and stuff, and she just started ducking the Jeeps after that. And it just everybody went crazy doing it. So I just thought that that was really cool. She also died like in. I'm sorry, I should have had this together. Well, she started it in 2020, and maybe I'll, you know, I don't want to spend too much time trying to look all this up, but she died, I think, from like some kind of illness in like 2025, maybe. So yeah, but I just thought that was awesome to kind of share. Yeah, right, right. Yeah, that's what I wanted to do. Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 1:02:40

That's such an excellent way of showing love. And now you're remembered because of that.

SPEAKER_05 1:02:47

Yeah. It's so dope. Just like that. And I love ducking people, and I love when I get ducked. I got ducked like three times last weekend. It was great. Nice. So yeah. That's cute. And they're so cute. I love them. They are cute. There's so many ducks. Yeah, but that's just my, you know, don't freaking shame other people for doing the wave and all that. It's a good time. And I I love it. You just feel like you're part of a community. And like when you duck people and they catch you ducking them, it's just such a good time.

SPEAKER_09 1:03:15

Oh, nice.

SPEAKER_05 1:03:15

Yeah. It's like making people's day. So makes my day. Nice. It's cute. Yeah. Well, Louisa. I like that.

SPEAKER_09 1:03:24

Me too.

SPEAKER_05 1:03:25

Mine is I really don't like men who gossip. I don't like anyone who really gossips, honestly, because especially if like you're a friend of mine or were, and I hear you like gossiping about someone else who's supposedly a friend, or whatever the case may be, is just like, if you're doing that to that person, I'm for sure knowing you're doing that to me. And that shit is just fake to me. Yeah, it's disgusting.

SPEAKER_09 1:03:55

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 1:03:57

I don't like it at all.

SPEAKER_05 1:03:59

Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 1:04:00

Specifically for men though. Yeah. Yeah, that's why.

SPEAKER_01 1:04:05

Yeah. Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 1:04:06

It just like kind of gives like insecure or whatever. Like you're in competition or you're immature or whatever the case may be, and I don't like it. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 1:04:18

I like it. Dirt bag. I like it a lot. Yeah. It's a good one. Stop looking at me. I didn't say it. It's your segment. Well, now we're going on to yours.

SPEAKER_03 1:04:34

Yay! Let's tone it down with some health, wealth, and positivity. If I could go to sleep right now, I'm gonna stay up for this.

unknown 1:04:59

Okay.

SPEAKER_06 1:05:01

I hope so. Welcome to Health, Wealth, and Positivity.

SPEAKER_02 1:05:05

Thanks for having us.

SPEAKER_06 1:05:07

Thank you. I'm glad you can make it.

SPEAKER_02 1:05:08

Yes.

SPEAKER_01 1:05:10

I love that you guys show up for me constantly. Yeah, I love showing up.

SPEAKER_06 1:05:18

For our health portion, healing will make you incompatible with your old life.

SPEAKER_05 1:05:24

Hells, yeah. I receive that. Yes. Yeah. Healing is just something that is like so rooted in, I feel like, strength because like you're hurting. Obviously, there's something in you that's hurting from somewhere, and now you have to do this work to get out of that and heal. It doesn't mean that it's not gonna like when you think about it. Still doesn't hurt or whatever, but it's just something that you're not letting keep you down or stop you from living your life or doing things that you need to do or wanna do.

SPEAKER_06 1:06:13

So yeah.

SPEAKER_09 1:06:15

I like it.

SPEAKER_05 1:06:16

Thank you. For a wealth portion. Build something of your own.

SPEAKER_01 1:06:23

Podcast. That's right.

SPEAKER_05 1:06:25

You can't budget your way out of a lack of income.

SPEAKER_01 1:06:30

Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 1:06:31

Yes.

SPEAKER_05 1:06:32

Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 1:06:33

And there's a million more way one ways to make money today. Yeah, for sure. Too many.

SPEAKER_05 1:06:39

I quit my job, guys.

SPEAKER_01 1:06:41

Congratulations. Good. Thanks.

SPEAKER_05 1:06:43

One of them.

SPEAKER_09 1:06:44

Just one of them.

SPEAKER_05 1:06:46

Yeah, for sure.

unknown 1:06:48

Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 1:06:51

Positivity. You can be soft and still not be played with. Have discernment. Yeah. At all times.

SPEAKER_09 1:06:59

You're a wholesome menace.

SPEAKER_05 1:07:01

Don't play with you are. And don't let nobody play with you. Hell's not.

SPEAKER_09 1:07:08

I receive that.

SPEAKER_05 1:07:09

Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 1:07:10

I feel like a lot of times for a man to be kind of characterized as soft, that's like a disrespectful, yeah. But what I know is that every gangster, every thug wants his lady to know that you're approachable, you're soft, you are a safe space. You want to be soft with your lady.

SPEAKER_08 1:07:44

Right.

SPEAKER_09 1:07:44

So I know we get into the alpha male, you know, beta simp kind of language in our social media culture, but that's for the YNs. I don't know.

SPEAKER_01 1:07:59

I mean, millennials are even more than a lot of people.

SPEAKER_02 1:08:01

I do too.

SPEAKER_01 1:08:02

I feel like two, uh, they do too, and I'm not interested in it.

SPEAKER_02 1:08:05

Well, because they have YN mindsets. Right. You have you can treat it.

SPEAKER_03 1:08:09

You either are RN or you ain't. Right.

SPEAKER_05 1:08:14

In case you're confused, a real nigga.

SPEAKER_09 1:08:17

Yeah. You can treat your lady like a lady. This is why I treat you ladies the way I do, and I speak to you the way I do, because I really see you as ladies. I believe that. That's so sweet. Ladies of the court, as it will. As it will. And I am a gentleman of the court. We stopped doing that. And that's why niggas is like. Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 1:08:36

Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 1:08:37

Girl Gluckman is down with the bitches and hoes now.

SPEAKER_05 1:08:39

Right. Bill Gluckman. Who's that?

SPEAKER_09 1:08:43

If I didn't get it right. Malibu, Malibu's most wanted. Oh god. Bill Gluckman is B Rad's dad.

SPEAKER_05 1:08:53

I probably watched that shit one a half a time. A half a time. I wouldn't even finish it. Some shit just ain't funny to me. Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 1:09:04

I don't know why I remember that, but I do.

SPEAKER_05 1:09:07

Not me accent. Like it's other don't know if you're shit.

SPEAKER_09 1:09:12

It's Bill Gluck with Fuck's that.

SPEAKER_05 1:09:15

Our wholesome host, Stefan.

SPEAKER_09 1:09:17

Here we go. Hood rat.

SPEAKER_05 1:09:20

We seen Malibu's most wine. That nigga ain't never seen juice. Right. Lord fuck. Yeah. Sugar. You're fucked, buddy. You saw Sugar Hill? Hell no. That might be a little too old for him. I'll let him get a pass on that. Okay. I guess so. Y N. Yann. Okay. You never cease to disappoint me. It was funny. It's okay. It's not okay. It's okay.

SPEAKER_09 1:09:53

It was a funny movie.

SPEAKER_03 1:09:54

Sure. King Kong. Don't say.

SPEAKER_05 1:10:00

Shut your ass up. It wasn't that funny.

SPEAKER_09 1:10:03

I was trying to play with it. I thought it was good.

SPEAKER_05 1:10:06

That's that's great.

SPEAKER_09 1:10:06

We don't care what you though. It wasn't a fucking stellar movie or nothing like that. Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_05 1:10:12

You loved it though.

SPEAKER_09 1:10:13

Hood rat, you know, to be type. For sure. To be. They played it on BNT. B E T.

SPEAKER_05 1:10:20

BNT. He don't even know the black network like that. I don't watch B.E.T. though either, so. I don't watch no fucking TV. That should be funny as hell how they be bleeping out them curse words. Like, that's what I'd say. Right. Oh no. You changing this shit. Fuck them. Alright. He said bitch, not scallywag. Scally. Like, damn. Not even a word closer to you could have said itch. I would have took that. Itch. Crazy. You witch? Yeah. You stitch. All ahead of scallywag. Anyway.

SPEAKER_09 1:11:02

It's a good show.

SPEAKER_03 1:11:03

Yeah. Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 1:11:04

My head hurts.

SPEAKER_03 1:11:06

Oh.

SPEAKER_05 1:11:06

But I got through it. That's why I was so low energy. In case Brandon acts.

SPEAKER_01 1:11:13

Huh? Head out. Your hair out. I said head out.

SPEAKER_09 1:11:16

Oh yeah.

SPEAKER_01 1:11:17

I'm about to head out.

SPEAKER_09 1:11:18

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SPEAKER_09 1:11:33

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SPEAKER_02 1:11:34

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SPEAKER_05 1:11:35

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SPEAKER_09 1:11:42

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SPEAKER_05 1:11:43

We do.

SPEAKER_01 1:11:44

Forever and ever. Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 1:11:46

Come back.

SPEAKER_03 1:11:47

Keep coming back. We'll be here every time. Just want to be okay. Stay wholesome guys, but don't forget to be lettuce.

SPEAKER_06 1:12:02

Look at me like that.

SPEAKER_05 1:12:11

My freshest.

SPEAKER_01 1:12:13

My fresh.

SPEAKER_05 1:12:15

Is it a snack?

SPEAKER_01 1:12:17

No way. No.

SPEAKER_05 1:12:26

What's wrong with you guys?

SPEAKER_09 1:12:28

First off, eagle. You gotta put some respect in his thing. I will. 500.

SPEAKER_06 1:12:37

A little bit. Yeah, then he heard it.

SPEAKER_09 1:12:39

It fucked him up, but he held that down.

SPEAKER_06 1:12:42

Yeah. Is it survivor?

SPEAKER_05 1:12:44

That was his choice to hold that bullshit down.

SPEAKER_09 1:12:46

Like evil. He held that in his hand.

SPEAKER_08 1:12:48

Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 1:12:49

And look at him. Look what it got. Look what it cost him.

SPEAKER_09 1:12:52

I mean, but you gotta put respect. And then the one ring. It's not like he had all any of the other ones that don't do that to you.

SPEAKER_01 1:12:59

I wouldn't want that if you had that one.

SPEAKER_03 1:13:01

Well, like I said.

SPEAKER_09 1:13:02

He just wasn't. I don't know what. But the that's supposed to be the most powerful ring in the world.

SPEAKER_05 1:13:09

I need to watch that again. He did nothing with it. That's like a whole thing.

SPEAKER_09 1:13:13

But they did that to you. So everybody who thinks give me the ring, I'm gonna be this big.

SPEAKER_06 1:13:19

Yeah, you're not.

SPEAKER_09 1:13:20

Oh, he's super damned.

SPEAKER_05 1:13:24

Yeah. He lived a long time. Transformed completely from the person he was. Into that. Over greed. Yeah. Think about that. With the ring.

unknown 1:13:42

Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 1:13:45

Anyway.

SPEAKER_03 1:13:46

What a fool. For sure.

SPEAKER_09 1:13:49

Look what happened to Frodo. He only got it for like a year and change.

SPEAKER_06 1:13:53

Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 1:13:54

Anyway. Don't do it. I love that you guys can go through with me.

SPEAKER_05 1:14:04

Okay. Alright. Can we get the shell started? Yeah, for sure. We've been talking for two and a half minutes. Dang, that's a long time. You're running the shell.

SPEAKER_01 1:14:16

Okay, here we go.