The Double Standard Diaries

This episode dives headfirst into one of society’s most uncomfortable conversations: the double standards surrounding men’s and women’s bodies. From expectations, insecurities, and attraction to social media, body image, and cultural norms, we explore why the same physical traits can be viewed completely differently depending on who’s wearing them. 

As always, the conversation gets real, funny, uncomfortable, and thought-provoking. No scripts. No filters. Just three perspectives trying to make sense of the world we live in.

Plus all of our usual Wholesome Menace chaos, laughs, and signature segments.

Transcript

SPEAKER_05 0:17

Hello and welcome to the wholesome menace podcast. I'm your host, Chris Marie. This is your host, Steph, and this is your host Risa Leon.

SPEAKER_04 0:26

Hey y'all.

SPEAKER_06 0:27

Yay. Welcome back. Welcome back to the Thunderdome.

SPEAKER_00 0:32

Clocked into work today.

SPEAKER_06 0:35

Finally, haven't been here in weeks. I know.

SPEAKER_00 0:37

I haven't been here forever, guys.

SPEAKER_06 0:38

For real. Gotta stop this shit. Yeah, for sure. Everything in life has got to go ahead. We've been so busy.

SPEAKER_00 0:47

Yeah. Life has been life, but you know, we're here for the good vibes. Yeah. Always. As Lady Crystal likes to say, we are staying wholesome, but not forgetting to be menaces.

SPEAKER_06 0:58

I'm menacing all over town every day. Whenever I can.

SPEAKER_05 1:02

But also being very wholesome.

SPEAKER_00 1:04

Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 1:06

I was wholesome in the woods today.

SPEAKER_00 1:09

Yeah, I wanted to like whip it out and take a leak, but I just waited till I got home.

SPEAKER_06 1:13

Very wholesome. Very wholesome. Very wholesome of the house. What did we just talk about, Reesa? Damn.

SPEAKER_05 1:21

If I had a dick. Or was that me?

SPEAKER_06 1:25

It was venue and Liana. How people can just pee like guys can just whip it out and pee wherever. I mean, obviously, not in the middle of the road, heavy traffic, nothing like that, but you guys are lucky.

SPEAKER_00 1:38

Honestly, I don't know why.

SPEAKER_06 1:40

Low-hanging fruit. I'm just like, yo. Your shit is loaded. I mean, some of y'all know. Alright, this is getting out of here. Here we go with the bullshit.

SPEAKER_00 1:53

I don't know. Speaking of which, ladies, let's get into some attitude and gratitude.

SPEAKER_04 1:59

Let's do that. Damn it.

SPEAKER_00 2:02

Speaking of bullshit, let's get to some attitude and gratitude.

SPEAKER_07 2:14

Thank you.

SPEAKER_00 2:20

Ladies, I have one question for attitude and gratitude today. What is, or guess, what do you appreciate about the person sitting next to you?

SPEAKER_04 2:34

Both of you guys? Well, yeah, you get to say something about both of us. I do.

SPEAKER_01 2:39

Go ahead.

SPEAKER_06 2:40

Rita. So I just appreciate you. Like there's that's a lot to get into. That's my baby sister. Even though she acts like the big sister most of the time.

SPEAKER_00 2:57

Not the little one.

SPEAKER_06 2:58

Right. And you're just so great. And you're my closest, bestest friend. And yeah, that's super sweet.

SPEAKER_05 3:09

I love your bed. I gotta have you.

SPEAKER_06 3:11

I need you. Yeah. You know, we got into a little tiffy the other morning. We both were annoyed. And Stefan witnessed it. I'm like, I'm sorry, I'm sorry. Go ahead and do it. My bad. I couldn't buy my shoe. I had my outfit already. I had to be to work. I was running late, and it was my own fault. So I did apologize for being a dipshit. And I hung up on her. She did. It was great. But I was like, had my own shit going on at home with the kids. I was super annoyed. I was like, I don't want to hear that shit. Gotcha. I apologize though, because that was rude. That's fine. I called like kind of rude. I was like, key. Yeah, she did. What's my hiccups? But it's fine. You know, I don't know. I just love you. I love our relationship. I love how it doesn't matter. We argue. We don't even argue like that, but when we do, we bounce right back. It's like, all right. Moving on. Next. Right. And for Mr. Benoit, you have just been like a breath of fresh air in my life. Like you're just a genuine person. You've been you since day one. Nothing gets you down. That's motivating for the attitude I try to have daily. You're just a great person, a great man, a great dad. Yeah. You're a gem. And you know how I feel about keeping gems close to me. When you find good people, you just have to latch on to them. And I in in our case, it isn't a bad in a bad way. We all contribute to each other in very many ways. And you're my family. And I love you. And I feel like I've known you forever. And people ask, like, how long? I'm like, yo, I've only known this dude like three, three years. Yeah. Maybe. Crazy. Wrong. You know. So I'm just very grateful for you guys. You make me happy. I call you guys every day, every morning, every night. Any tea I need to spill, it's going to you guys. Any advice I need. We just. I think we all just do it to each other. Yeah, honestly. For sure. In the work we do together, it's yeah, amazing. For sure. The way we bounce off of each other with this. It's just great. I love you guys. I'm grateful. Yeah, I'm sorry. I'm just I just, I just, I just love you.

SPEAKER_04 5:41

I do. I love you guys badly. I love you too, girl.

SPEAKER_00 5:46

Lady Reesa.

SPEAKER_02 5:50

I appreciate Crystal for her humor. Um her honesty. Facts. Unbiased opinions and and you know, like advice at times. Because I don't need somebody just telling me what I need to hear, you know, because I know I'd be wrong sometimes.

SPEAKER_06 6:12

So it's nice to have that. Uh, because I don't have any friends. Like you guys are you don't need none. You don't need none.

SPEAKER_04 6:23

But um I appreciate her cooking. No funny shit, bro.

SPEAKER_00 6:33

That lady is a beast.

SPEAKER_06 6:34

And just like like all the differences that we share, you know what I mean? Like, with her being so outdoorsy and knowing how to do all those things, and you know, if I needed to learn, she could teach me those things and shit like that. Like, I just think that that's so dope.

SPEAKER_02 6:53

I love that she does it, I love that she knows how to do it, and like just her as a person, just being protective and just real and being a good aunt and a good friend to me, and shit like that. Like for sure. Appreciate that.

SPEAKER_00 7:14

Yeah, really good. Yeah, I accepted all those things.

SPEAKER_06 7:18

If I had to say for you, then it would be just like obviously, since I known you, you've been a great friend, like you're a great guy. I love being able to talk to you about shit and getting your honest opinion as a man and and your perspective on things.

SPEAKER_02 7:35

I think that's dope.

SPEAKER_04 7:38

And I just appreciate you as a person, you know, and and I appreciate your cooking as well. Yes. You can do it out.

SPEAKER_06 7:48

We all can cook though, because bro, we tag teamed that meal last night. It was amazing. Yeah, we did, we did. So Brown's shot, I was so proud of myself. I was like, it was like my first time making it, and I was like, oh my god, this is fire. Yeah, that sounds good. I still can't cook right, so you'll get there. It's fine.

SPEAKER_00 8:08

First thing I'll say is that we have something that money can't buy. It's yeah. Loyalty to infinity. Yeah. You know, you can't purchase that. You know, you have to cultivate it, and we have that. And I wrote down specific two things for one of one for each of you. I said that Risa is unyieldingly generous. Your generosity is is inspiring. Like you give selflessly.

SPEAKER_01 8:40

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 8:41

And we need that. I receive that. I think I want to be like that. You know what I mean? Without reservation. Not that you are reckless with it, but you'll you give, and that's really important.

SPEAKER_06 8:55

And you have your reservations where you need to. Yeah. And that's beautiful. You're not just a be discerning.

SPEAKER_02 9:02

Yeah. I've had some experiences, and I am someone who prides myself on learning lessons.

SPEAKER_00 9:10

So yeah. And I said Crystal is a fierce protector.

SPEAKER_06 9:14

Yeah, for sure.

SPEAKER_00 9:17

Not that people are just unsafe out here, but you your presence alone is enough to keep the evil at bay. Why? Not because you're evil yourself, but you have a presence about you and how you care about your other pe the people in your life. Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 9:37

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 9:38

You show up. Like that is without a doubt. If something's going wrong, I'm calling Crystal.

SPEAKER_01 9:43

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 9:44

When I was going through some shit last year, I said, This is what's happening. I'm on my way.

SPEAKER_06 9:50

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 9:51

Like she came here immediately.

SPEAKER_06 9:53

Like ASAP. Just left there. Yeah, just and went right back.

SPEAKER_00 9:57

And and even that's just if I needed the menacing side. When I need the wholesome side of Crystal, she shows up, right? She shows up for my kids. So I just I love you guys so much. I love you forever. I love you forever. And I appreciate your person.

SPEAKER_01 10:14

Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, that's the thing.

SPEAKER_06 10:17

You're who you guys are as people. I'm proud of. I'm proud to have you guys in my life. And it's just great. Yeah. I'm fucking crying. I hate you. Oh, I'm really crying. Because I love you guys so bad. Yeah. Like. For sure.

SPEAKER_00 10:36

I love you too. Yeah. Forever.

SPEAKER_01 10:42

Keep rolling.

SPEAKER_00 10:44

That was my little attitude and gratitude. That was good. That was great. The people sitting next to you in the car while you listen to the pod or on YouTube when you're watching, turn around and say what you're appreciative of them for. Let them know. Let them know.

SPEAKER_02 11:01

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 11:02

Give them the roses while they're alive. Yes. And not while they're laying in a casket, you know.

SPEAKER_06 11:07

Right.

SPEAKER_00 11:07

So.

SPEAKER_06 11:08

Yeah, I started kissing mom a lot more and hugging her. And you know, because you know she's we she admitted that she's not super affectionate, but again, with the maybe she's cheating with much affection. Right.

SPEAKER_04 11:21

That's what I'm saying.

SPEAKER_06 11:22

Like she needs that. And I know she loves it. Yeah. Yeah, she's just so she's like, thank you.

SPEAKER_01 11:31

Thank you for the kids. Thank you for the house.

SPEAKER_06 11:33

Thank you for the kids. Thank you for the hub.

SPEAKER_01 11:37

Yeah. Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 11:40

Definitely been trying to do that a lot more. Yeah, you have. So. Can we get on to the laughs? Would you rather? Would you rather?

SPEAKER_03 11:54

Let's get some whipped for us. I go crazy.

SPEAKER_04 12:01

I'd rather get this shit over with immediately.

SPEAKER_06 12:05

That's hilarious.

SPEAKER_00 12:07

That is great.

SPEAKER_05 12:09

Well, let's get a little name that tune, name that quote.

SPEAKER_06 12:14

Little tear by.

SPEAKER_02 12:16

Yeah, let's laugh now. Okay, good. You do good. You do, you'll do good.

SPEAKER_06 12:24

That was amazing. That was tolerant. Yes. Moving on. Like, Negro, give me a break. All right. So. What I got for you today. Y'all want a quote or a tune first? You're running the show. Come on, I like what you hear. Do a quote first. Okay.

SPEAKER_00 12:46

Do a quote, song, song, quote.

SPEAKER_06 12:49

Okay. We can do that. All right. Here we go. First quote. No. That was a good guess. That was a great guess. I'm not I'm not helping you guys.

SPEAKER_02 13:24

That college movie.

SPEAKER_04 13:30

That fucking scream. And he'd be like, in my boy blue. Old school?

SPEAKER_00 13:46

This is like this is the third one, right? It is. One more time. Get ready. Oh my god. Nigga, that's one of my hands, bro. Yeah, for sure. Oh. Who the fuck?

SPEAKER_04 14:05

Is it the one with him and cheating Tatum?

SPEAKER_00 14:07

Is it General 21 Jump Street? Fuck no. I said super bad.

SPEAKER_02 14:14

You did say super bad. The fuck else is that nigga? And that's funny.

SPEAKER_00 14:19

Pineapple Express? No. Fuck.

SPEAKER_06 14:22

Damn, we didn't get it. That would be accepted. Yes.

SPEAKER_01 14:30

I'm like, you're gonna get it. You're gonna get it.

SPEAKER_00 14:33

First off, that movie was hilarious.

SPEAKER_06 14:36

Yo, first of all, that's when when I'd be like, I'm hungry and thirsty. The dude was like, I wanted a shrimp Slurpee. He was like, Why would you do that, man? Because I was hungry and thirsty. Disgusting. We gotta watch that. That is a classic. Except it is funny as hell. It's hilarious.

SPEAKER_00 14:53

First off, that's what they need to do with schools in general.

SPEAKER_06 14:57

Yeah, for real. That would be fire. Could you imagine?

SPEAKER_00 15:00

Yes, I think kids would want to be a little bit more than a little bit more.

SPEAKER_06 15:02

Maybe a little chaotic as to like within reason. Yeah, well, there have to be structure and because he he realized that. Right. Like he needed to make a whole curriculum, but the way that movie is fire, bro. It is. It is. I loved it. Yeah, that was good. That was a good one. Yeah, right. I was working hard, y'all. Yeah, I love accepting. Okay. Now let's get a tune. Not gonna get that. It's a classic, baby. Damn how, brother? Cause it ain't no fucking slow jam. Well, kinda is.

SPEAKER_02 16:07

Fucking me up. I know, I know.

SPEAKER_06 16:14

I'm trying to be trying to play it safe.

SPEAKER_02 16:16

Yeah, I know it.

SPEAKER_00 16:26

I've heard this song before. I just like fuck, bro.

SPEAKER_04 16:29

Is that like some Ashanti shit?

SPEAKER_02 16:34

It's not. Well, I know it's not raining on me. No. No, it's not.

SPEAKER_00 16:43

I didn't expect you to say that. No, fuck, I can't get it. What is that?

SPEAKER_06 16:50

That would be Going in Circles by Crima.

SPEAKER_04 16:53

Man, that's fire.

SPEAKER_06 16:55

Yes. Damn, Risa.

SPEAKER_03 16:57

Look at me looking at you. Like, because instrumental.

SPEAKER_06 17:01

She was gonna get it.

SPEAKER_00 17:03

Oh, definitely heard that song.

SPEAKER_06 17:05

That song is so fire. I love it.

SPEAKER_04 17:08

Put that on my playlist. Put that on my playlist.

SPEAKER_06 17:12

All right. Classic.

SPEAKER_04 17:14

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 17:15

Hit you with another tune. Embarrassing me today.

SPEAKER_00 17:19

I'm not doing great today, though. Whoa. It's okay. That's part for the course.

SPEAKER_05 17:25

I mean, that's nothing new.

SPEAKER_06 17:28

But regular day on the pod, isn't it? My bad, damn.

SPEAKER_02 17:35

I'm always saying about that, but I mean it. Oh my God.

SPEAKER_06 17:38

Okay. Next. Another tune.

SPEAKER_02 17:48

I know that.

SPEAKER_00 17:58

I know it. I don't know the word, the title.

SPEAKER_06 18:12

I'm so proud of myself today. I gotta say. I gotta say. She's doing good.

SPEAKER_02 18:21

Fucking the silver.

SPEAKER_06 18:24

Real hard.

SPEAKER_02 18:25

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 18:28

I know as soon as you say the title, I'm gonna know.

SPEAKER_06 18:30

Was that the third time? That was the third time. Ain't I played actually play it for the third time? I mean, I can't wait for you guys to tell me when to play it. Who is that? Brian McKnight? No. Beauty by Drew Hill. Oh man.

SPEAKER_05 18:54

Classic. You guys super suck today.

SPEAKER_06 18:58

Yeah, we do, Stefan. What the fuck? I love this video though, too. Yeah. I'm like, I'm I was worried.

SPEAKER_02 19:08

And now I'm just like, I couldn't get it.

SPEAKER_01 19:16

That's my shit.

SPEAKER_00 19:18

It's sad because it's sad because I was just talking to somebody today, and that was like the song we played back to back to back.

SPEAKER_02 19:26

So Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 19:28

Fuck, bro.

SPEAKER_06 19:29

Gotcha, nigga. Alright. Last quote of the night.

unknown 19:39

Are you hungry?

SPEAKER_01 19:45

Maybe you should go into the kitchen and get yourself something to eat.

SPEAKER_02 19:48

That's that Medea movie. Say it.

SPEAKER_00 19:53

Yes.

SPEAKER_06 19:55

Wait.

SPEAKER_00 19:56

Yo, she was fucked up though. No, she was not.

SPEAKER_06 19:59

Fuck that nigga. Yeah, she fucked that nigga. Played. Played? Nigga.

SPEAKER_00 20:06

Played as a under, but she was fucking that food up in front of me.

SPEAKER_06 20:12

Yeah. I would have, nigga. I would have did the same shit and gave him a couple crumbs. You hungry? You hungry. I would have been chewing in front of his face like this.

SPEAKER_00 20:23

No, he was doing most.

SPEAKER_06 20:25

Yeah, he did the most. He did the most. Yeah. He treated her like pure shit. Then got shitted on by the bitch. She left her for. Thank God. Good for him. Karma's great. For sure. Who alright? I'm being salty about it. Over here in my back. But yeah. I did great. You guys suck this round.

SPEAKER_00 20:44

Yeah, for sure. Do we both get that point? She knew the movie.

SPEAKER_06 20:48

Yeah. Yeah, I'll give it to I'll give it to both of you because that was a hard round on you guys. Damn, I did Yeah, you did.

SPEAKER_00 20:56

Yeah, the intro to that Drew Hill song really got me.

SPEAKER_06 21:02

That wasn't even that is the intro. Yeah. And it cuts off right. You know I be right before you. Because if that other, I think yeah, I would have got it.

SPEAKER_05 21:13

I had to cut that out. I'm so punished. A nigga is proud.

SPEAKER_06 21:18

It's a good game, guys. Good for you. Wow, you guys are real low energy right now.

SPEAKER_00 21:24

I can't wait for Thanksgiving because we're popping them off. Thing is, you play this. You have us play the game. Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 21:30

Right.

SPEAKER_00 21:31

When the tables are turned.

SPEAKER_06 21:32

I can't wait. I want the tables turned. Turn them on me. Yeah. You know, I'm pretty good. So Reese is great with the music, with the movies. I might be good with the music. Yeah. We should do. Should we do that? Like scramble up our rounds, our segments one time. We should. We for sure should.

SPEAKER_04 21:52

Yeah. I like it. I like it this dude.

SPEAKER_05 21:55

All right. Now it's time for I never want that to end.

SPEAKER_06 22:16

I know. It's so fun. That's why I've got to do my little haze sometimes afterwards.

SPEAKER_04 22:23

Well, I'm gonna switch this up a little bit today. Both of my segments are gonna be about me since I'm feeling a little selfish lately. Good for you.

SPEAKER_06 22:34

Okay. Thank you. We love selfishness. Yeah. It's necessary.

SPEAKER_02 22:38

It's not bad. So these are my delusions. Okay. I love it.

SPEAKER_06 22:46

A man who takes his time in the produce section picking his fruit and veggies is a husband.

SPEAKER_05 22:53

Hmm. Looking at the right ones, making sure we eat good. I like it.

SPEAKER_02 22:57

Yeah, for sure.

SPEAKER_00 22:58

Yeah, I like it.

SPEAKER_02 22:59

We had this conversation the other day. You enjoy the finer things in life, and I like that just take your time with my baby. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 23:08

Take your time with my baby.

SPEAKER_06 23:11

Yes.

SPEAKER_00 23:12

That's good.

SPEAKER_02 23:13

Quality.

SPEAKER_06 23:14

Over quantity. Agreed. For sure.

SPEAKER_02 23:18

That is one of my delusions. Next one.

unknown 23:22

I don't think it's delusional.

SPEAKER_06 23:24

Being alone is better than being in the wrong relationship.

SPEAKER_00 23:27

For show. That's not delusional.

SPEAKER_06 23:29

Not delusional.

SPEAKER_00 23:30

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 23:32

Yeah. I think. I think it's not completely delusional. I just have gotten to this point where I am just like completely like uninterested in anything.

SPEAKER_02 23:48

Anyone don't want to be bothered really at this point. Don't even want to give anyone a chance. Like shit. Like I'm disgusted.

SPEAKER_06 23:56

Happens.

SPEAKER_00 23:58

So why do you feel like you're disgusted?

SPEAKER_06 24:03

I think a lot of it comes from social media. Honestly. Because I mean, I think it would be different if I like really met someone organically and like like really maybe was interested.

SPEAKER_02 24:17

But because a lot of that lustful attention comes from social media.

SPEAKER_01 24:24

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 24:25

And and like the things that men are like saying or just like the constant like I have somebody in my inbox sent me about I think like a hundred and seventeen messages, never even opened one.

SPEAKER_02 24:42

Fucking psycho. And then like even like certain comments and shit people leave under my pictures and shit like that. And like a lot of the stuff that I post on social media, like I'm fully clothed. You know what I'm saying? Like so it's not like I'm on there twerking or doing no wild crazy shit or wearing some wild crazy shit for like I I keep it pretty respectful.

SPEAKER_06 25:19

So it's like when I get like those that feedback is like it's just like gross. Yeah. Well, it is what it is. Buckle up, buddy. Because it's not gonna stop.

SPEAKER_04 25:32

Yeah, I know.

SPEAKER_00 25:33

It's a lot of low-hanging fruit.

SPEAKER_04 25:34

Yeah, for sure.

SPEAKER_06 25:36

I'm not talking about the dicks. Yeah, right. Actual people. Crab apples. Mm-hmm. Yeah. And then, like, what is it about some of you niggas that makes you think that I'd even be interested in you?

SPEAKER_02 25:50

And I really want to like genuinely know so that I can change that about myself.

SPEAKER_00 25:56

You are not the problem.

SPEAKER_06 25:58

Please tell me so I can tell.

SPEAKER_00 26:00

You're not the problem.

SPEAKER_06 26:01

You're not. And you have to understand this is the internet, bro. This is a space for people to say whatever they want, how they want. He that person who said whatever will probably never say that shit in your face if they met you in person.

SPEAKER_00 26:15

I don't know. I think that this might be polarizing. A lot of women are going for that.

SPEAKER_02 26:22

Yeah, that's they're going for those.

SPEAKER_00 26:24

Well, looking at you makes my dick jump.

SPEAKER_02 26:26

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 26:27

Yeah. The lusty type of vibe.

SPEAKER_06 26:30

I'm going for that.

SPEAKER_00 26:31

I'm going. She might be.

SPEAKER_01 26:36

She might be.

SPEAKER_00 26:39

But a lot of women are going for that. And so there is, and a lot of men lack ingenuity and creativity when it comes to approaching women. So it's what you're saying. A lot of that, you know.

SPEAKER_06 26:51

Yeah, your pigs. On the dating, at the dating app earlier, this dude messaged me and he's like, I don't know how to do this first message and shit. So you believe in aliens or what?

SPEAKER_05 27:02

I'm like, that's cool. That's good.

SPEAKER_06 27:06

Guys, just fucking start a conversation. Be witty. Be funny. Like I I recently started shooting my shot, guys.

SPEAKER_00 27:15

Yeah.

SPEAKER_04 27:16

Oh wow. I started doing it.

SPEAKER_00 27:18

Congratulations. Good for you. Thank you. How's that going?

SPEAKER_06 27:22

It's going. The dating pool is still the dating pool. It is. And I think it's not, it's going. Yeah. I I am going for like more of what I want instead of just waiting for people to match me. And from my understanding, because I asked Stefan, I'm like, does that seem slutty if I shoot my shot first? Because like I'm a lady. I'd rather a man approach me, but big picture. This is 2026. Things are weird out here. I think guys don't really know how a lot of women are giving up, giving it up, and shit like that. And like I'm a good woman. I'm a great woman. Like I and I know there's great guys out there, you know, on the app, off the app, whatever. So I'm just trying to be proactive and open-minded. Yeah. Yeah. I love that. Thanks. All right. Sorry. That's fine. I used to be okay with giving access before building trust.

unknown 28:31

Damn.

SPEAKER_06 28:32

That's good. That was very delusional of me.

SPEAKER_02 28:36

And I have had my feelings hurt plenty of times.

SPEAKER_06 28:39

I still do. Because of it. And I don't do. I mean, shit, nobody has access at this point. But definitely a lesson. Yeah. For sure.

SPEAKER_00 28:49

I received that.

SPEAKER_06 28:50

Yeah. I think I'm more accessible because I'm just putting myself out there. Yeah. It's different. You want to. He's been over. You know what I'm saying? Like you're in a space where you are ready for that.

SPEAKER_02 29:00

Like you want to do it. And I just, I thought I was. I tried it. Not interested. Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 29:05

Yeah. And that is so okay. I'm happy that you even try. And now you know, like, you just need a minute. And sometimes you just need a fucking minute. And that's for men and women. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 29:18

So I have a bonus delusion for you guys, but this is I love bonuses. This is man-based. So you can give me your opinion on this.

SPEAKER_06 29:27

Yay. Men. This is for men. Thinking commitment means losing freedom instead of choosing partnership.

SPEAKER_00 29:39

That's deep.

SPEAKER_06 29:40

Yeah. I would say I think a lot of men look at it that way. Losing freedom.

SPEAKER_00 29:46

Yeah, I can agree with that. I think a lot of men do think about that from that perspective. I think it's more so not realizing that there is a different level of freedom inside of partnership.

SPEAKER_02 30:01

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 30:02

Especially if the person wants to do it like reciprocity reciprocates. Wants to reciprocate that energy towards you. So and that doesn't really happen, you know. Yeah. It's the men providing or giving, and then eventually she gets she wants more, or it's not enough.

SPEAKER_04 30:24

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 30:24

And so he kind of loses.

SPEAKER_04 30:26

Or people are like very kind of controlling.

SPEAKER_00 30:30

Men or women.

SPEAKER_02 30:31

No, like either way. Yeah. But like sometimes women too.

SPEAKER_04 30:34

Like, oh, where are you going? Who you going with? Can you connect home? And you know what I'm saying? Like, let that that man was a person before y'all got into a relationship.

SPEAKER_06 30:43

Like, if he wants to go out with his friends, let him do them. I want to miss you. Please go out with your friends. I'm begging you.

SPEAKER_04 30:50

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 30:51

Like we if like, especially if we live together, like I'm gonna see you. I know that when you get back, we're about to sit here and watch our show together or cook dinner together, or do whatever. Like, please like you guys are separate people coming together. When you come together, you're still two different entities. People, and and that's why when people talk about changing in relationships, like, yeah, there's some shit you change from being a single person to then joining a union with somebody. But stop trying to change who a person is. We talked about this because didn't you isn't that why you chose that person because of how they like about them? Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 31:39

And if you didn't like that, he has fantasy football every Tuesday, that's so fucking you should have said that from the job.

SPEAKER_04 31:47

From the beginning, or don't deal with that person. Period.

SPEAKER_06 31:51

I mean, I'd rather you be doing that.

SPEAKER_00 31:54

I have a question.

SPEAKER_03 31:54

Have something to do.

SPEAKER_00 31:55

Let me make it a little more spicy. Let's say your man he's well off, he's doing his thing, his bills are paid. You guys are together now, but prior to you getting together, he would go to the strip club with his boys, he would go to the casino where they are. Actually, there are women there. Obviously, the strip club is there for that purpose. Yeah. And he still wants to do that inside the union. Do you feel like that's a space that he needs to give up?

SPEAKER_06 32:28

Gambling and pussy? For sure.

SPEAKER_00 32:33

We just said we don't want any addicts. We just said.

SPEAKER_06 32:36

No. I feel like if somebody goes to the casino, like my ex used to go to the casino, but he wasn't like gambling or shit like that.

SPEAKER_02 32:45

Just for a good time. Yeah, like it's just like something to do. He's not like I'm gonna go to the club ass nigga. You know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_06 32:52

Yeah. Like he would go to the casino with his friends and chill, have a drink or two, or whatever the case may be.

SPEAKER_02 32:59

And I've never had a problem with that.

SPEAKER_06 33:02

Yeah. What about the strip club? What about the strip club? I'm not sure. I don't think. I mean, I if you were with someone that liked, we're not talking about him. Like if you were with someone that liked that.

SPEAKER_04 33:16

I don't think that I would like it. Like, why do you feel like you got maybe once in a while, but like this go is like a lot.

SPEAKER_06 33:26

I was gonna say that. Maybe once in a while, if your friend, you know, if I trust, like the thing is you have to trust the person. Agreed. So, but you don't why do you if that's something that you have to go let loose and do the strip club all the time? That there's a problem there, Bucco. Come watch this house, b uh ass down. Like, why are you doing that? And but the casino, that's kind of different. I don't think I would mind that too much, as long as we're not losing everything.

SPEAKER_02 33:54

Right, not betting the house.

SPEAKER_06 33:56

Yeah, strip club, that is a little that's where you draw the line. Yeah, because you were down. I I said I was down. Okay, so somebody going to a strip club does not have anything to do with changing their personality. However, if that is that's an addiction. Like, even me right now, like I when I get into a relationship, like whoever I get into a relationship with, like, I don't want this person to be, like, my person is not gonna be somebody who smokes weed every day all day. It's not gonna be somebody who's like a heavy drinker or yeah, someone who like lives at McDonald's or you know, shit like that.

SPEAKER_02 34:37

You know what I'm saying? Like, I'm not interested in that because and it's like mainly because I don't do those things, so it's like yeah, I want to have things in common with you, like I want to be able to do those things that I like too.

SPEAKER_06 34:54

So yeah, yeah, that's how I feel.

SPEAKER_04 34:58

That's good, but yeah, that's all I have for the delusion Olympics.

SPEAKER_06 35:02

That was awesome.

SPEAKER_00 35:03

Thank you. You're not as delusional as you think.

SPEAKER_06 35:06

No, for real. Thanks. Yeah, I hope not. Just a text.

SPEAKER_00 35:11

Yeah, just a little bit. Is that a compliment or like a subtle? Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 35:17

You're not as delusional as you may think. Actually.

SPEAKER_02 35:23

That is funny. That is funny.

SPEAKER_00 35:27

All right, ladies, let's get into some main topic talk. Alright, I have some questions. Today, I want to talk about why we have double standards between men's body parts and women's body parts. Let me just be blunt. Please. I whip my shit out just to take a piss. But we're at the Walmart parking lot. That's disgusting. I'm getting shitted on.

SPEAKER_02 36:11

You're a pig.

SPEAKER_00 36:12

You're a pig. Absolutely.

SPEAKER_01 36:16

Oh. You know?

SPEAKER_00 36:18

Dirty dog. Have to be. Yeah. There's no other recourse. Not the urination.

SPEAKER_03 36:23

Right.

unknown 36:24

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 36:25

But might as well be taking a shit. You're disgusting. Put it away. Right?

SPEAKER_04 36:30

Ew, put your dick away. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 36:32

A girl flashes her titties in Cancun. Everybody's cheering her on.

SPEAKER_06 36:40

Well, that's a vacation at some party, nigga.

SPEAKER_00 36:43

Okay, she did it at Target. Everybody's cheering her.

SPEAKER_06 36:47

I don't think everybody be cheering her on. I think if I'm with my kids. I think if I'm with my kids and you're in the Target parking lot flashing your tits, even if I wasn't with my kids, other people go there with their kids. I'd probably come over and punch you right in your tits. Cover them up.

SPEAKER_02 37:02

That's intense. You're going to do it.

SPEAKER_06 37:03

This is a family place. Yeah. She's going to jail too, though. Yeah. In decency. So I don't think there's any difference. I mean, the reactions, there is. The reactions would be different because I ain't gonna hold you whipping some titties out and whipping the dick out. Sadly, it would be a difference. But I'd punch them in both. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 37:23

But then men get to walk around with their shirts off and we don't.

SPEAKER_06 37:26

I can't walk around with my titties out. Right.

SPEAKER_00 37:30

Why?

SPEAKER_06 37:32

You tell me.

SPEAKER_00 37:33

I'm asked to I'm asking you.

SPEAKER_06 37:34

It's a man's world, isn't it?

SPEAKER_00 37:37

It would literally be nothing without a woman. That's so society definitely judges men and women differently for sure. Yeah. Like you just said, women are not really allowed to be topless.

SPEAKER_04 37:55

Right.

SPEAKER_00 37:56

Even at the beach. You know, where that's arguably the most okay place to do that, right? Yeah. You can't do that.

SPEAKER_06 38:06

That's a lot.

SPEAKER_00 38:07

Women are judged on different things. Beauty, weight, their curves, their skin, whether they're aging or not.

SPEAKER_01 38:15

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 38:16

Men are judged on their height, their size, their muscles, whether they have hair or not. Beard, full beard, their dick size.

SPEAKER_06 38:27

I mean, I got about four scoops of hair.

SPEAKER_02 38:35

No, it's not just ya.

SPEAKER_05 38:37

It's not just y'all. I'm bald right with ya.

SPEAKER_00 38:40

Do you feel like men and women experience the same amount of same can't even talk? Same amount of like body pressure. No. No.

SPEAKER_06 38:49

Women get more women for sure do. Than men. I mean, this is the biggest that I've been. I actually like it because that ass.

SPEAKER_05 38:58

I'm heavy. It's heavy.

SPEAKER_04 39:02

But I could lose some weight.

SPEAKER_02 39:09

I could take it back a few notches.

SPEAKER_06 39:11

Like first week. You look great though.

SPEAKER_02 39:14

Thank you. But I I'm enjoying it. Well, I got it. Yeah, that's cool. I'm a I'm a mother of three. Like 36 years old.

SPEAKER_06 39:24

Not when I do worry about my weight, it's more so because of my heart. Yeah. But it's not like you're some beached whale out here.

SPEAKER_02 39:33

Yeah, yeah, yeah. I know. I just be like, all right, bitch. Put the coffee cake back.

SPEAKER_05 39:40

It's badass, baby.

SPEAKER_00 39:42

At the same time, so there's been like a especially recently, a body positivity kind of movement happening, especially in like with women. Yeah. There's an entire space where women can be every shape, size, color, you know, whatever the case may be, and not be judged or any of those things. So the question I have is is society protecting women or over sexualizing women? Like for instance, you just said, you know, but at the same time, your reasons for that is because it looks nice, right?

SPEAKER_03 40:20

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 40:21

Right? Most it looks nice. Just objectively. So is the body positivity that women have is it protecting them or is it just kind of relabeling, just sexualizing their bodies because it looks nice. The breasts look nice because they're fuller, or whatever the case might be, or they're curvier.

SPEAKER_06 40:47

I don't know. I think it depends on how you take it. I think it depends on how you take it. It depends on how you love yourself, it depends on how you look at outside opinions, if you give a fuck about them. You know, I know I'm a chubby bitch. I don't care. Niggas love me. But also for men, like I think about this is I'm probably gonna piss some people off with this, but I don't, I will, I love dad bots, I love a big man, I don't mind even even fat nigga, I don't mind it. However, it it comes to a cap because I know if I'm trying to like we're having sex or whatever, it's not gonna be how it could be if your fucking stomach wasn't in the way of the stuff. I'm sorry, let's just be honest. Like, you can't even stammer to your full potential because your fucking stomach's in the way. Your dick is in the street. And I'm not trying to be a dick about this because I'm sure it's some fat niggas that gets it in. Congratulations. But that is a thing for real. That's the same with me. If I was bigger or you know, nigga, I ain't gonna be able to slap this puss on the other way.

SPEAKER_05 42:03

I want to, baby.

SPEAKER_00 42:05

Yeah, I'm trying.

SPEAKER_05 42:06

My legs are about to brush my stomach in the way. I don't wanna do that.

SPEAKER_02 42:10

That is funny. I don't wanna do that. It's like fucking hilarious.

SPEAKER_06 42:19

You know, I don't, I don't body shame. I'm not like that. I don't look for a dude with a fucking only fucking with dudes with six packs, and I don't I don't like buff ass niggas. I don't. I'd rather a dead body like you're too strong. I don't like buff ass G.I. Joe ass niggas. But anyway, oh my I'm just I don't I don't really have a real huge preference right now. I'm a grown-ass woman. I'm just looking for a grown-ass man. Just not somewhere where your health is in jeopardy.

SPEAKER_00 42:54

I think I think women's insecurities are a more sensitive topic. Yeah, for sure. And men's insecurities are often taken as a joke. A bald headed motherfucker.

SPEAKER_01 43:13

Right? No, yes, I like a bald nigga.

SPEAKER_00 43:19

Like you, but like honestly.

SPEAKER_06 43:22

I like bald and ball. There's a bald nigga that I dealt with and loved him down. It depends. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 43:29

Yeah. Or not like bald. Your dick is too small. Look at that little shit.

SPEAKER_02 43:35

I'm not saying shit like that's rude. You know what I'm saying? Like, I'm not gonna fuck with you, but I'm not about to be you could disrespecting you, and but people don't like really talk to me like that for me to have to get out of pocket.

SPEAKER_00 43:49

Yeah, that makes sense. So that makes sense for sure. I don't know. I think that's a real thing that men are dealing with right now.

SPEAKER_06 43:58

Especially that if they can't control it.

SPEAKER_00 44:00

That's like uh you can control how fat you are though.

SPEAKER_06 44:04

You can control that. Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 44:07

Go to the gym.

SPEAKER_06 44:08

I'm gonna keep a vegan. I'm gonna keep eating.

SPEAKER_00 44:10

Me too.

SPEAKER_06 44:11

But me too, but we're doing those things.

SPEAKER_00 44:14

Yeah, for sure. Last question. Which is worse? Being constantly judged or having your insecurities laughed at.

SPEAKER_06 44:30

Probably having your insecurities. That is worse. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 44:34

Some people are very like sensitive. Mm-hmm. Not that girl, but not to say I don't have insecurities or whatever the case may be, but like I don't give like all that judging shit.

SPEAKER_06 44:46

I don't give a fuck. I'm judging you too. You know what I'm saying? So like that shit don't bother me. Sorry about that. Yeah, yeah, for sure judging.

SPEAKER_02 44:54

But that shit don't bother me. Like, I'm not a sensitive ass bitch. Yeah. But um, but you shouldn't be laughing at people's insecurities. That's not bullish at all.

SPEAKER_00 45:06

Yeah. I think of like top model.

SPEAKER_02 45:09

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 45:09

You know, the documentary just dropped. And when like before we had social media, that was probably one of the biggest things that portrayed the beauty standard for women, right? We don't have a male top model. I think maybe now we do, but mostly that's where the women got what was quote unquote ideal. Right. Right? Now it's on Instagram, Facebook, whatever your case, TikTok. And that's where we're seeing the ideal all these build a bitch bodies. Situations.

SPEAKER_06 45:43

Niggas is getting fake abs too.

SPEAKER_00 45:46

Right. Actually. GLPs, all that shit. If social media disappeared tomorrow, do you think the double standard would go away?

SPEAKER_06 45:56

No. No. It's there. It's out there. It's always been there for sure. Before computers, I'm sure. Yeah, I do feel like it's a few.

SPEAKER_02 46:06

Shit was just more in your face now, but it's never been like it's non-existence.

SPEAKER_00 46:13

I feel like a lot of the issues we have today, we didn't have them a hundred years ago in terms of beauty, weight.

SPEAKER_02 46:23

We didn't have look at all the hormones that are in the food and shit. You know what I'm saying? Like fucking up people's men have more estrogen in their body, women have more testosterone in their bodies because of this shit.

SPEAKER_06 46:36

And that's why these niggas out here be acting like bitches.

SPEAKER_02 46:45

Even with women, hyper independent or whatever you want to call it, but obviously tired of niggas not acting like or not even acting. I don't want you to act, I want you to be that man.

SPEAKER_06 46:56

Yeah. Agreed. That's good. So women can be just women. Yeah.

SPEAKER_04 47:06

Grow your own food.

SPEAKER_00 47:08

Yeah.

SPEAKER_04 47:09

Stop eating our processed meat and shit.

SPEAKER_00 47:11

Agreed. Shop at the butcher. We gotta buy a cow. We're gonna do that.

SPEAKER_06 47:18

I want a mini cow so Liana can come over and see it. A mini horse. Nice. Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 47:26

She wants an ass. A baby ass.

SPEAKER_01 47:31

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 47:32

That's good. Well, ladies, that's all I had for our main topic. I don't know if it's gonna shift. I doubt it will. But the reality is it's kind of there. Yeah. Put your dicks away, guys. I don't know what to tell you.

SPEAKER_06 47:45

Put your dicks away. Yeah. I don't know. Well. That was a good topic, sir. It was a good topic.

SPEAKER_00 47:57

Let us know. Very funny. Why double standards exist? Leave us some comments.

SPEAKER_06 48:04

Yeah. Yeah. I would really like to know people's opinions on that stuff. For sure. Leave us some comments, god damn it. Nah.

SPEAKER_01 48:14

Alright, so is it time to get into come curl your ass and hazy?

SPEAKER_00 48:30

Here we go.

SPEAKER_05 48:32

Alright. Nylove. Chill.

SPEAKER_06 48:39

We're not making out. That's what we're not gonna do. You'll get down. We're trying to work.

SPEAKER_03 48:45

Alright, chill out.

unknown 48:46

Chill out.

SPEAKER_06 48:47

Okay, here we go. Picking an A.

SPEAKER_01 48:53

It's the hot seat.

SPEAKER_06 48:54

It's the hot seat. Welcome to the hot seat. And we got Steph for the one.

SPEAKER_00 49:03

Hopefully this isn't hostile.

SPEAKER_06 49:06

Take over. It's not. It's not. Not this time. I'd never do that again because you ruined the last. Question.

SPEAKER_01 49:18

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 49:19

Have you ever seen a girl with a really hairy ass?

SPEAKER_01 49:24

No.

SPEAKER_06 49:26

Never seen a really hairy ass. You want him to see a really hairy ass. No, I'm just saying it because somebody told me they saw a girl with a really hairy ass before it freaked out. Who told you that? I'm not gonna tell you.

SPEAKER_00 49:35

Who told me? Even the quote, like hairiest person I'll tell you, but after the show. It was just like light. My hair obviously has a lot more right now, but it was lighter, way lighter than this. Yeah. Almost like peach fuzz. But that's it. No, like the hairiest I've seen some lobby. Yeah, he said her hair was her ass was pretty hairy.

SPEAKER_04 49:53

Like her whole ass? Oh wow, okay. Sometimes it'd be like that.

SPEAKER_06 49:58

Some people are hairy, like a bear. Alright. Nila! Get out. Goodbye. See? You don't know how to do it. I try to cuddle. Try to love you. Get out. I pulled you off the aisle, so good.

SPEAKER_07 50:17

Okay.

SPEAKER_05 50:19

Okay.

SPEAKER_06 50:22

Our next question is foresa. Oh. How do you feel? Like, how do you really feel about giving money to homeless people on the side of the highway?

SPEAKER_02 50:38

I don't do it. I have. Yeah. But I need that shit too.

SPEAKER_05 50:49

I need that shit too, Nika.

SPEAKER_00 50:51

I usually be giving them like bottled water or something. Yeah, me too.

SPEAKER_04 50:55

But you know what's so crazy? One day it was somebody outside and they're like, oh, I'm hungry, hungry, blah, blah, blah.

SPEAKER_06 51:00

So I'm like, all right, I go inside. Whole Foods. Go get them something to eat. They were getting ready to close. So all they had was like the hot bar and shit was closed.

SPEAKER_02 51:08

And I'm getting them like a sandwich and a bottle of water.

SPEAKER_06 51:11

Don't you know this motherfucker said you said you couldn't give me something hot? I don't want this shit. Yeah. Fuck you, buddy. I would've I would have ate that shit in his face.

SPEAKER_04 51:20

I cut that shit and put it in the garbage.

SPEAKER_06 51:23

I would have ate it. Now you can go get it out. No, I didn't want that shit. I know, but even if I didn't want it, even if I didn't like it. That's what I'm saying. The point is you're a dick. So that's the nasty taste in my mouth. I say, you motherfuckers.

SPEAKER_00 51:35

Here's what I know about panhandling. Most of the most of the people that I know who do that are not in necessar not necessarily in need of food or drink or a place to live. They usually have those things. That's what they do because they don't want to go or they can't work.

SPEAKER_02 51:58

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 51:58

Mm-hmm. Due to some sort of mental illness or something like that.

SPEAKER_02 52:02

Yeah. Well, then you need to go somewhere and find some resources that's gonna accommodate your situation.

SPEAKER_00 52:10

And largely they have those things. They just again there are anomalies. People are some people are actually experiencing homelessness.

SPEAKER_02 52:17

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 52:18

But by and large, it's you have a place to go home. There's probably food there, and you're out here. This is your income, of course. So which is a little upsetting for me, so that's why I try to meet the need in a different type of way.

SPEAKER_02 52:34

Yeah. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 52:36

Because like you said, I need that shit too.

SPEAKER_02 52:37

Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_00 52:39

Every cent.

SPEAKER_04 52:40

Yeah. I have three kids out of this motherfucker. Right. You out here by yourself, maybe with your dog.

SPEAKER_02 52:46

Like, that's how I feel about it. I ain't doing it. Well, all right.

SPEAKER_06 52:59

All right. Come on now. Steph again. Cause I thought it was about to be me. Wow. Wow. How fucking when you do that shit? It's hilarious. Okay.

SPEAKER_00 53:27

Hot seats.

SPEAKER_06 53:35

Okay. What's the most embarrassing thing that happened during like a sexual encounter? Something that just like completely fucked it up.

SPEAKER_00 53:51

Made me not go through with it. Yeah, like or you're in the middle of it and we're like, yeah, I've done some nasty shit.

SPEAKER_06 53:59

So for me to not want to no, like something that was embarrassing, cool, whatever, nasty, but like what fucked up the whole mood.

SPEAKER_00 54:20

Fucked up the mood, bro. I don't know. I got to see it through.

SPEAKER_03 54:24

I don't this nigga say ain't nothing fucking up. I'm gonna go ahead and do that thing.

SPEAKER_05 54:29

Damn, I can't.

SPEAKER_00 54:30

The only thing I can think of out that's in my mind right now, like to say, but it didn't fuck up the mood is just like throwing up. But it didn't, I was like, just go you vomited?

SPEAKER_06 54:43

I didn't she was sucking on your dick and then she threw out. Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 54:48

She couldn't deep throat it.

SPEAKER_00 54:54

Whatever, you know.

SPEAKER_04 54:55

So So what the fuck does that have to do? Like, bitch. Uh-huh.

SPEAKER_00 55:01

He's serious.

SPEAKER_04 55:02

Say it.

SPEAKER_06 55:03

No.

SPEAKER_00 55:04

Come on. Nigga. Say it. Just say it.

SPEAKER_06 55:08

What does that have to do with what? Because you ate, you can't suck dick. Like I'm just saying, like really threw up. Like fucking relax. First of all. Like you ain't got no other tricks up your sleeve.

SPEAKER_02 55:24

Like that you had to keep doing it that way. Like. Not hard. Yeah. Like. You should be a big embarrassment.

SPEAKER_06 55:35

Oh, but just throw up all your knees.

SPEAKER_00 55:37

It didn't throw me off. I just, you know, we fixed it up, cleaned up, showered, did it again. Happens. Yeah. Okay. That's not embarrassing. Fuck up the mood. Embarrassing, though. I don't know.

SPEAKER_06 55:47

Not embarrassing for you.

SPEAKER_00 55:52

One time somebody walked in while I was having sex. That was interesting.

SPEAKER_05 55:55

Yeah, talk about that.

SPEAKER_00 55:57

Look, I'm like I was uh I had a roommate. Um we had like a really big upstairs like addict that we uh saw you twerking in the pussy. Basically. And you know, we're going at it, and nigga walks upstairs. He looks, sees us fucking going at it. He turns around, he walks downstairs. I'm trying to get her off of me, and she wants to keep going, so it didn't fuck up the mood, but it was a little embarrassing. Yeah. Yeah, that's embarrassing. Yeah.

SPEAKER_04 56:29

Like, damn, bro. Do you knock?

SPEAKER_00 56:32

Right, hear what's going on in here?

SPEAKER_06 56:33

Right.

SPEAKER_00 56:34

I know you do. He just wanted to see. I don't know. That's my dog, though. We don't talk to him yet. Shout out to Matt. Shout out to Matt. That's my nigga.

SPEAKER_05 56:41

Damn, why you wanna put him off the phone? I said he just wanted Matt. You just wanted to see what they were doing.

SPEAKER_02 56:47

Yo. Crazy. I cannot.

SPEAKER_06 56:50

That's all I got today for Hot Seat. Not bad.

SPEAKER_02 56:53

It was good.

SPEAKER_06 56:56

That was good.

SPEAKER_03 56:57

Cool. Really good.

SPEAKER_07 57:00

Great.

SPEAKER_00 57:01

I like it a lot.

SPEAKER_04 57:02

I like it.

SPEAKER_00 57:05

What's the most embarrassing thing that happened to you, Crystal? Same.

SPEAKER_06 57:11

One time I was uh fucking out my boyfriend in a public place. He was sitting on the toilet, and I was on top of him, and the toilet broke. What the fuck? Yeah, while I was riding that day. Gross. Tough. The whole seat. The whole shit shattered. We were going hard.

SPEAKER_00 57:30

Fuck.

SPEAKER_06 57:30

Mm-hmm. That was pretty funny. Toilet water all over your face. No, it wasn't like that. I can't explain it, but it wasn't like that. That motherfucker broke though.

SPEAKER_00 57:42

You guys just get up, walk out.

SPEAKER_06 57:44

For sure. Dell, what are we gonna do? Sit there and wait for maintenance to come clean it up. Nigga, I'm out of there. I'm out of here. Yeah, the fuck. Not my problem.

SPEAKER_00 57:54

You ever seen those out of order with the bag on top?

SPEAKER_06 57:58

They probably did that after. That wasn't really embarrassing. Well, that's what that's what popped in my mind. It was a little embarrassing. I'm like, damn, am I fat?

SPEAKER_05 58:13

Am I a fat back?

SPEAKER_00 58:18

I mean, that's uh valid. Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 58:22

I wasn't that big at that time, but facility.

SPEAKER_02 58:28

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 58:29

Now, alright. How was he? Was he kind of like lean back? What was the situation?

SPEAKER_06 58:35

He was just sitting. We want to be like, it's already we're doing what we're doing. It's just like he was sitting there and it's a really clean place. I mean, bathroom's gross anyway, but yeah, yeah, that happened. Oh my god. Hilarious. I know, whatever. You know she's gonna judge us all the time, nigga.

SPEAKER_05 59:02

Oh my god. You were fecking in a bathroom.

SPEAKER_06 59:05

Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 59:07

And did. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 59:10

I mean, I've done well, I've done it at home, but it doesn't count.

SPEAKER_06 59:15

Okay.

SPEAKER_02 59:16

Doesn't count.

SPEAKER_06 59:17

Doesn't count. It does count. We were hiding from the kids. Okay. We were hiding from people in public. Didn't do a great job because I'm sure after that they came running in there. We was out though. It was a really like pretty secluded place though. Nice. Anyway. Good stuff. Are you ready for Would you rather? Reesa would rather talk about something else because she's disgusted with us. She thinks we're dirtbags. She thinks we're pigs.

SPEAKER_00 59:54

She knows it.

SPEAKER_06 59:57

I'm convinced. Yeah. Yeah, guess so.

SPEAKER_04 1:00:01

Well, let's get into would I rather?

SPEAKER_05 1:00:05

Oh, this she's being real selfish today, guys. Yeah.

SPEAKER_04 1:00:10

Alright. Would I rather be with someone who's overprotective or someone who seems unbothered?

SPEAKER_06 1:00:20

Over-protective. You seem rather unbothered.

SPEAKER_00 1:00:22

I'd rather rather say over-protective.

SPEAKER_06 1:00:25

Yeah. Yeah, over-protective, that for sure.

SPEAKER_00 1:00:27

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 1:00:28

I gotta know you care about me. Well, you're already unbothered, so we can't have two unbothered. We're not shalom motherfuckers together. I need to know you can work. Yeah. But you don't need to know I care.

SPEAKER_00 1:00:40

It's sick out here.

SPEAKER_06 1:00:44

You not here?

SPEAKER_02 1:00:45

You're gonna know.

SPEAKER_06 1:00:45

You're here, right? Right. I showed up, didn't I? Fucking wicked. Would I rather be right in an argument or understood? Right? It's like understood.

SPEAKER_00 1:00:58

I feel like it depends on the moment, but by all my understood.

SPEAKER_02 1:01:03

Yeah, that's really good, actually. For sure want to be understood. If I'm fucking around, then yeah, I gotta be right. Yeah. But like on some real shit, like, I need you to understand what the fuck I'm saying.

SPEAKER_06 1:01:15

Yeah. Like, are you dumb? Are you dumb? Would I rather date someone who has kids or someone who never wanted them? Oh god, you gotta have to have them, baby. Gotta have them.

SPEAKER_00 1:01:28

Yeah, you gotta have kids.

SPEAKER_06 1:01:29

Gotta have them. You might not want anymore, but yeah, I mean, and that's okay. Yeah, I don't think I do either, but yeah. Oh, this is about Risa. Yes.

SPEAKER_01 1:01:41

Relax.

SPEAKER_06 1:01:43

Would I rather be the one who loves harder or the one who is loved harder? Loved harder for sure. Yeah. She wants to be loved harder. Yeah. Then that's gonna make her love you harder. As long as she knows you love her more. Yeah, you got to.

SPEAKER_00 1:02:01

There's never been a situation where you love the person more.

SPEAKER_02 1:02:04

I'm sure there has been. I didn't like it.

SPEAKER_00 1:02:10

Fair.

SPEAKER_06 1:02:11

I don't know how to feel about that.

SPEAKER_00 1:02:14

So why wasn't it great?

SPEAKER_02 1:02:18

Because you're you're not excited enough about me. You know?

SPEAKER_06 1:02:23

Like that's good.

SPEAKER_02 1:02:26

That's it.

SPEAKER_06 1:02:28

Yeah. Fuck him. Fuck him, Risa. Yeah, he's out of here. Would I rather wear jeans or sweatpants? Sweats. Sweaties. What day, baby? Y'all gonna see me in sweats a lot on this motherfucker. Yeah. I thought about putting jeans on today and I said, man, fuck. I almost did to match Stefan, and then I said, Sweats it is. Yeah. I have a black shirt on. Yeah. You look good. Thanks. You look good too.

unknown 1:02:59

Thanks.

SPEAKER_06 1:03:00

You guys look good. You look good. You look good. We look good. That's all I have for would I rather.

SPEAKER_00 1:03:04

Dang. I like what your rathers. I like what you would rather.

SPEAKER_06 1:03:08

I know. I like that too. I like your selfish dates today. Yeah. Do it more. That's good. Ooh, then do one with do one for Stefan and then do one for me.

SPEAKER_05 1:03:20

Okay. That would be so funny. Yeah. I will. I will. That's gonna be good.

SPEAKER_00 1:03:26

Yeah. That's gonna be okay. Can't wait, can't wait. Now it's time. First of all, facts are debatable. I just like playing games. Let's do it.

SPEAKER_06 1:03:40

Let's do it. Did we have a podcast okay?

SPEAKER_00 1:03:43

We uh have a little inkling over that.

SPEAKER_06 1:03:45

You guys, we have not been doing any extra.

SPEAKER_04 1:03:49

Extra what?

SPEAKER_06 1:03:49

We're supposed to do a jam sesh. I know. We're supposed to do a game sesh. I know we're starting guys. We never see each other, and all we do is see each other. Every day. Every day. Damn. Now they're gonna know. We bullshit. No, guys, a lot going on with the radio. And this and that. So we're gonna get that for you guys.

SPEAKER_00 1:04:12

We gotta give people what they want. Yes. What do you guys want? How about we give us some comments? Yeah. Tell us what you want. What do you want to see?

SPEAKER_06 1:04:22

What do you want to hear? Yeah. Tell us what you want. Shit, you guys want us to talk about. Literally. Yeah, topics, whatever. Songs you want to hear. Send them to Crystal specifically. Yeah, send those to me specifically. My Facebook is Chris M. Light with some weird letters. We'll put it up on the screen. And then I'll also share my Instagram, which is Rebel. I think it's a remote. Or you can always like go on the wholesome menace and kind of I a lot of times when I tag, I put everybody in it, and you can kind of search us that way. Okay. Because then that way you can send like delusions you want to hear. Anything. Yeah, guys, send us stuff and we will for sure use it. Like I would rather hear what you guys have to say. Me too. What you want to hear?

SPEAKER_00 1:05:13

Come on now. Just because we keep telling you this, call us.

SPEAKER_06 1:05:17

Call us 813-319-2991. 802-319-91339. Don't even text us. Yeah. Call. Leave a message. The main thing is you're going to leave messages. And you'll be on the show. Yeah. Because we'll play them on the show. So yeah, you guys.

SPEAKER_00 1:05:36

All right.

SPEAKER_04 1:05:37

Go ahead and do that.

SPEAKER_00 1:05:38

Facts are debatable. There's still some facts or debatables. I got a few of them, so we're gonna speed round it.

SPEAKER_04 1:05:43

Okay, nice. I love that.

SPEAKER_00 1:05:46

Women women want body positivity until it's about men. That's debatable. Okay.

SPEAKER_06 1:05:58

Women want body positivity. Positivity until it's about men. Yeah, that's debatable.

SPEAKER_00 1:06:04

Okay. Men are expected to accept natural bodies while women are pressured to enhance theirs.

SPEAKER_06 1:06:13

Debatable.

SPEAKER_00 1:06:14

Okay. Short men and overweight women experience the same dating discrimination.

SPEAKER_06 1:06:21

I would say facts. Debatable. I would say facts. That's debatable. Let me shut up. No shortcase. I'm not doing it.

SPEAKER_00 1:06:34

People say all bodies are beautiful, unless it's a man they don't find attractive.

SPEAKER_06 1:06:42

I'm sorry, but all bodies are not beautiful. Stone Cold facts. They're not. I'm sorry. Fact. And fuck, because I'm I'm body shaving, but let's be fucking people. Like, no, they're not. There's a there's a man looking at me right now. Damn, that bitch is too fat for me. Yeah, but like y'all be in my 600-pound life and y'all be wowing. That, that I don't feel like like about that's not beautiful. That's scary. Yeah, and unhealthy. So you fucks, you fat fucks. Scary because it's so unhealthy.

SPEAKER_00 1:07:24

Like, yeah, visceral fat will kill you.

SPEAKER_06 1:07:26

Yeah, you can't even get up. You have bed sores, you have all types of issues. Like, no. Take care of yourself, people.

SPEAKER_00 1:07:34

Yeah. Good communication matters more than experience. Facts.

unknown 1:07:39

Okay.

SPEAKER_06 1:07:40

Debatable.

SPEAKER_00 1:07:41

Okay.

SPEAKER_06 1:07:42

Because if you don't know shit about shit, what you talking about?

unknown 1:07:45

Heard.

SPEAKER_06 1:07:45

Whether you can communicate good or not.

SPEAKER_00 1:07:47

Matters more than experience.

SPEAKER_06 1:07:50

Yes. You can be experienced at some shit and don't know how to communicate.

SPEAKER_00 1:07:54

Yeah. I think it's it goes both ways, so it's debatable for me. Okay. Sex on the first date is completely fine.

SPEAKER_06 1:08:03

Facts. Facts. We're grown. Let me see what that thing, see what that thing hits up.

SPEAKER_00 1:08:09

Okay. Physical chemistry can make or break a relationship. Facts. Talking openly about fantasies improves relationships. Debatable.

SPEAKER_06 1:08:21

Debatable.

SPEAKER_00 1:08:22

Okay. A bad sex life eventually hurts every relationship.

SPEAKER_06 1:08:27

Debatable. Facts.

SPEAKER_00 1:08:31

Polarizing. Sex education starts at home, not school. Facts. If they wanted to, they would. Facts. Fucking facts. Opposites attract, but similarities last.

SPEAKER_06 1:08:46

Debatable. Debatable.

SPEAKER_00 1:08:48

Okay. Jealousy is normal in relationships.

SPEAKER_06 1:08:53

Facts, I guess. That's a fact for somebody, but. That's a fact.

SPEAKER_00 1:08:56

Yeah, I'm not a jealous guy.

SPEAKER_06 1:08:57

Yeah. I'm not really jealous either, but I I be filming something sometimes, be like, ugh, and then get it right out of it. Some people are just like real, they just really are jealous. Yeah. But like, does that stem from insecurities in some way? Or trauma? That's exactly where it's coming from.

SPEAKER_00 1:09:13

That's good. Okay. People settle in relationships out of fear of being alone. Facts. Facts. Last one. Closure is overrated. Facts. Big facts. Facts. Big, big facts. Big facts. Those were good. There's a few over. Very good.

SPEAKER_06 1:09:31

I know. Like, go back to that. Nah, that was good today. Yeah. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 1:09:39

That's facts or debatables, guys.

SPEAKER_06 1:09:41

I like that.

SPEAKER_00 1:09:41

Facts are debatables. Facts are debatable. Send us your facts.

SPEAKER_06 1:09:46

Yeah.

unknown 1:09:48

Yeah.

SPEAKER_06 1:09:50

Good shit. Great shit. Now it's time to shut up, bitch!

SPEAKER_07 1:09:55

Talking. Talking.

SPEAKER_06 1:09:58

Shut up, bitch. Ooh. What are we talking shit about today, y'all? Well, I'll start. Go for it. I don't like people touching my shit. Gut away. I'll give you guys an example. So Stefan's supposed to be helping me out with something, right? And I told him I wanted to record something. This nigga takes my mic from our place of business. Brings it to the house. And now today I don't have my mic at work and I look unprofessional. All because he touched my shit. Thanks a lot, Steph.

SPEAKER_00 1:10:42

Talking shit. I took full accountability. You guys saw that in the blueprint.

SPEAKER_06 1:10:48

He did, he did. He did. He did good. I appreciate you.

SPEAKER_00 1:10:55

I can't.

SPEAKER_06 1:10:57

So when I bring the mic back, once I bring the mic back, we can record. Yeah. Annoying. Thanks. Me? Me next? Well, what I can't stand is people who drag their feet when they walk, grown ass adults. Grown ass adults. I don't care how little your feet is. I don't care how big the motherfuckers is. Pick them up and walk the right way. I hear shoelaces fucking tight. They were the thing is the person I'm talking about, they're about murder, murder type. Murder a nigga type. Can we say that? Murder? Can we say that? Don't say murder.

SPEAKER_01 1:11:40

Don't say murder.

SPEAKER_06 1:11:41

Can we say that word on here? I don't think so. Nigga, we be saying all types of shit. Anyway, I hate when motherfuckers drag their feet. And I feel like this particular person was doing it extra harder because they're in their bag every time they see me. Oh my goodness. Pick them up, bitch. It's like your fucking bitch. Yep. Yep. Yeah, I don't like that shit. Yeah, pick up your fucking feet. Sometimes one of my kids does that. And I'd be like, pick them fucking feet up before I take you off of the ground.

unknown 1:12:16

No, I hate this.

SPEAKER_05 1:12:19

I hate her so bad.

SPEAKER_06 1:12:21

Don't do that. Yeah, pick them fucking feet up. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 1:12:27

I don't like a bragger.

SPEAKER_04 1:12:31

Me either. Nobody likes a bragger.

SPEAKER_00 1:12:33

Don't like a bragger. I'm not saying you shouldn't be proud of what you're doing. You're confident, yeah. But it's one thing to be proud. It's one thing to flex.

SPEAKER_04 1:12:47

Be boastful, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 1:12:48

Yeah. I don't really care for that.

SPEAKER_04 1:12:50

Like, yeah, you you know, I got this. You get the did you get that new bag? Yeah, I got it.

SPEAKER_06 1:12:55

My girl, fuck you in it. You think I would fuck for that bag, huh? Put that shit away, bro. But people like that, you just have to. It's so funny when you just show real life. It's distasteful for me. Yeah, I don't give a shit. It's very tacky, like it is very distasteful. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 1:13:11

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 1:13:12

Like you ain't never had nothing before.

SPEAKER_00 1:13:16

Why do you need all of us to know that?

SPEAKER_04 1:13:18

Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 1:13:19

Fuck off.

SPEAKER_00 1:13:22

It's my talk of the shit.

SPEAKER_02 1:13:25

Yo. That was good.

SPEAKER_05 1:13:31

Fuck you need us to know that for.

SPEAKER_06 1:13:36

Okay.

SPEAKER_00 1:13:37

I had to empty the clip. Yeah. Magazine, sorry, not clip.

SPEAKER_04 1:13:43

That was cool. That was good. That was good.

SPEAKER_00 1:13:46

Yeah.

SPEAKER_04 1:13:46

I liked yours. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 1:13:48

I liked yours too. That's weird.

SPEAKER_01 1:13:52

I'm not touching shit again.

SPEAKER_06 1:13:57

Yeah, that's hilarious. Yeah. I cannot keep doing a shit with you, bro. I can't. Oh, can we please calm it the fuck down?

SPEAKER_01 1:14:09

Yeah.

SPEAKER_04 1:14:22

Moment of silence for my mic. Welcome to Health, Wealth, and Positivity.

SPEAKER_05 1:14:35

Ass kissers.

SPEAKER_04 1:14:37

Sorry.

SPEAKER_06 1:14:37

I'm sorry. Sorry. I just read something on my screen. Golly.

unknown 1:14:44

Fuck. Sorry.

SPEAKER_06 1:14:45

Um. Avoiding hard conversations is a form of self-sabotage.

SPEAKER_00 1:14:51

Yeah, absolutely.

SPEAKER_06 1:14:53

Nasty work.

SPEAKER_00 1:14:55

I used to do that a lot.

SPEAKER_06 1:14:56

You did?

SPEAKER_00 1:14:57

Yeah.

SPEAKER_04 1:14:58

Yeah. I think I did too.

SPEAKER_06 1:14:59

Must be a Libra thing. I just didn't want it.

SPEAKER_02 1:15:01

Now I'm diving in that bitch. I'm ready.

SPEAKER_06 1:15:03

I can't wait.

SPEAKER_00 1:15:04

Well, I always can't wait. Now I can have that conversation with you, calm, cool, and collected. I know you're not ready to have it.

SPEAKER_02 1:15:11

Yeah, you're gonna be losing your shit.

SPEAKER_06 1:15:14

Ah, that's the best.

SPEAKER_00 1:15:15

Sorry. Who's the one who's mad then?

SPEAKER_02 1:15:18

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 1:15:20

So nice.

SPEAKER_02 1:15:21

I've been this has been like happening. This is like my dating situation, like trying. Like the last two guys, I'm like, listen, nah, I'm just not. Yeah. And then they're upset.

SPEAKER_06 1:15:33

But anyway. Growth begins when you speak the truth, set boundaries, and address shit. Yeah.

SPEAKER_04 1:15:41

The conversations you're afraid to have create the peace, clarity, and healing you're looking for.

SPEAKER_06 1:15:47

That is true. That was good, girl.

SPEAKER_04 1:15:49

Thank you.

SPEAKER_00 1:15:50

Gotta get it out.

SPEAKER_06 1:15:51

Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_00 1:15:54

Don't you hate when you remember the conversation and then you have rebuttal.

SPEAKER_06 1:15:59

They have some good shit to say. I should have said that then. Nigga, I'll text it later.

SPEAKER_00 1:16:03

You already like hashed it out, so you can't really spend it. Don't even care.

SPEAKER_06 1:16:06

I'll call back.

SPEAKER_05 1:16:07

And I'm just to say On top of that.

SPEAKER_04 1:16:09

And another thing.

SPEAKER_02 1:16:12

No, I'm good. I'm good. I don't got nothing else to say.

SPEAKER_04 1:16:17

That was our health portion. Wealth. Love feels different when the bills are due.

SPEAKER_02 1:16:28

That's when the love is real. That's real shit, bro.

SPEAKER_06 1:16:31

Partnership, communication, and creating stability side by side becomes a foundation.

SPEAKER_00 1:16:37

Yeah. I received that.

SPEAKER_02 1:16:40

Yeah.

SPEAKER_04 1:16:41

Take care of me, nigga.

SPEAKER_00 1:16:44

Take care of each other.

SPEAKER_04 1:16:45

Yeah. What the fuck is that? Here's what I know.

SPEAKER_00 1:16:50

Here's what I know. You said something that's so deep. A lot of marriages fail. Even though love is supposed to be enough. Love hits different though when that check doesn't come through.

SPEAKER_02 1:17:01

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 1:17:01

Where what's love got to do with it?

SPEAKER_06 1:17:03

But then that's where the communication comes in and that partnership, like right. Yeah. People ain't built for that part. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 1:17:10

For sure.

SPEAKER_06 1:17:11

At one point, I wasn't.

SPEAKER_00 1:17:13

I wasn't either now.

SPEAKER_06 1:17:15

Bitch be balls to the wall. I'll be just ready to be down. Like what we gotta go through, we gonna get through the that I wasn't in a position where I was able to contribute that.

SPEAKER_00 1:17:26

So I wasn't in a position to where my person was willing to go through the adversity.

SPEAKER_02 1:17:33

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 1:17:34

So yeah, it sucks, but then not being able to communicate about it. Yeah, it's like worse leads to the team.

SPEAKER_04 1:17:42

Yes.

SPEAKER_06 1:17:44

Because people don't want to say the things. You need to fucking say them.

SPEAKER_04 1:17:49

Right. Positivity. Some people apologize just enough to keep access. Healing begins when you realize apology without change is just a reset button. Choose yourself over a cycle that keeps hurting you.

SPEAKER_00 1:18:06

I receive that. Fuck your sorry. Big time. Especially if there is no change. Yeah. There's no Do I look dumb to you? You're not genuine about it. You don't have to be a little bit more. Stupid or slow. Yeah. That's good.

SPEAKER_04 1:18:24

Yeah. That's all I have for health, wealth, and positivity today. That was a lot. Holla. It was pretty deep today.

SPEAKER_00 1:18:31

Yeah. And good shit too. Yeah. Yeah, I receive all that. Thank you.

SPEAKER_01 1:18:36

I'm glad you did. Yo.

SPEAKER_06 1:18:45

Somebody take the mic from this. Yeah, for sure. Please. That was good, guys. That was good. We blew through that. What a show. Yeah, we did. I did, I guess. What a show, ladies. Yeah, I had a good time. Me too. Always.

SPEAKER_00 1:19:05

Folks, I love all of you guys. Yes. You make it possible for us to do this. You watch our things. You listen to our pod. Thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you. Everyone who watches, listens, whatever. Like, share, subscribe.

SPEAKER_04 1:19:18

All right. We'll follow us on Facebook. We're almost at 500. Honestly.

SPEAKER_00 1:19:22

And that's so crazy because in January when we had one. You know? And that was like just shy of 500. It's crazy. Yeah. It's awesome. And uh there's more to come, guys. Just lock in. And that's just Facebook.

SPEAKER_06 1:19:43

Whoever's following us on Instagram, subscribed on YouTube, Spotify, Apple, like we appreciate fucking love and appreciate you guys. We can't even express it enough. Like, yeah, it's awesome, and we do this shit for you guys. And for me, nigga. For sure. Yeah. Need this therapy. Yeah. No, we really do. Yeah, it's great.

SPEAKER_05 1:20:08

And it's free. All right. That's all we got today, guys. Stay wholesome. Don't forget to be a menace. I'll miss you. We need you. We gotta have you. See you next time.