Stay Yo SSA In the Friendzone

Why do women friend zone good men? 🤔

Your fellow Menaces are back in the studio with more laughs, more debates, and another conversation guaranteed to get people talking.

This week we're tackling one of the biggest questions in modern dating and relationships:

Why do women disqualify their guy friends as romantic partners?

If a man is kind, loyal, emotionally available, financially responsible, respectful, and checks every box on paper, why does he still end up in the friend zone?

We explore questions like:

• Can romantic attraction grow over time?
• Do women overlook "good guys" because there's no chemistry?
• Are men misunderstanding what creates attraction?
• Is the friend zone real, or is it simply a lack of romantic interest?
• What role do physical attraction, timing, confidence, and emotional connection play in dating?

Join us as we dive into the psychology of attraction, dating expectations, relationship dynamics, double standards, and our own personal experiences. Whether you've been friend-zoned, have friend-zoned someone else, or simply want to understand modern relationships, this episode will challenge your perspective.

 Question of the Day: Can someone become attractive over time, or is romantic chemistry decided from the very beginning?

Leave your thoughts in the comments—we're reading them all.

 Real conversations. Honest debates. Plenty of laughs.

Transcript

SPEAKER_03 0:19

Hello, and welcome to the wholesome menace podcast. Your host Chris Marie, Steph, Steph and Lisa. Hey y'all.

SPEAKER_01 0:28

Man, it's been a while since we've been at the longest while welcome back to the student. Thank you.

SPEAKER_07 0:34

Yeah. Thanks for having me. Thanks for inviting me up.

SPEAKER_01 0:37

Always. You're welcome. I'm glad you made the drip. Thanks. Fucking trip.

SPEAKER_05 0:42

Yeah. It was the longest.

SPEAKER_01 0:43

Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 0:44

Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 0:45

But you're here now. Yeah, I'm here.

SPEAKER_01 0:47

Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 0:48

Lucky for you guys. Lucky for you.

SPEAKER_01 0:52

Nigga, we got shit to say today.

SPEAKER_07 0:55

I've been having shit to say for weeks. Not me. This nigga just always chill. Smooth sail. Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 1:04

You know I love a soft life.

SPEAKER_07 1:06

Cool as a cucumber.

SPEAKER_01 1:08

Great. That is funny as though. Well, ladies, let's not waste no time. Let's get into some attitude and gratitude.

SPEAKER_06 1:14

Hey. This kid, I'm in my flow. Big fan shadow. Let go.

SPEAKER_01 1:28

Ladies, I don't have much today for attitude and gratitude, but I've been thinking a lot about this thought that I had in my mind when I was 15 years old. And it was that I want to live a life that matters. And I've been thinking about what I do for work and what I do in my adult life.

SPEAKER_09 1:46

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 1:46

And I can't honestly say that the things that I do on a daily basis, as it relates to my job, truly matter to me.

SPEAKER_08 1:54

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 1:55

I find that it's meaningless if anything. Yeah. Oh. And it's that maybe that might be a little bit more good to start. I'm just getting grounded. No, that's real. No, no. How many other girls are that way?

SPEAKER_06 2:09

Yeah. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 2:10

I feel like a lot of people would think about that. And secondly, the problem is we push our what we find valuable. We use the outside world to find value. What my career is, what kind of house I have, what kind of car I drive. Right. And at the end of the day, what I find that kind of brings me center or brings me inside is literally thinking inwardly.

SPEAKER_08 2:39

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 2:39

Instead of outward. I don't think about the bills. I don't think about the fact that I can barely afford groceries or any other things that really get to me. I think about me internally, the person who lives inside his body.

SPEAKER_08 2:54

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 2:54

And I realize that that is intrinsically valued. I was thinking about the little boy who died. His life literally mattered.

SPEAKER_08 3:03

Right.

SPEAKER_01 3:04

Little baby boy. Hasn't done anything significant in the world. But he matters. And so for me, I was thinking about the question I had is what do you what matters to you guys? What actually matters?

SPEAKER_05 3:22

For me, it's like just seeing people doing well, being treated well.

SPEAKER_02 3:32

And so, you know, I'll give you guys an example.

SPEAKER_07 3:36

You know, I recently had to go with a friend of the family to get her father taken out of a nursing facility, a recab facility, because he was not being cared for.

SPEAKER_05 3:53

So, you know, between me and Crystal, we have been showering him for years, and you know, I'm a nurse, so like if he had any wounds we're taking care of it, or whatever, like just anything that they need and need him to be looked at. I usually go check him out. And if anything, I'll be like, listen, take him to the doctor so he's gonna be seen, or he needs to go to ER, things like that.

SPEAKER_02 4:16

So I just know obviously, even just in my experience, people get depressed there, they don't get cared for properly.

SPEAKER_05 4:24

They're always short staffed in places like that.

SPEAKER_07 4:27

Yeah, he wasn't being cared for properly.

SPEAKER_02 4:29

Like so many people's family members aren't in those situations, and I just said, listen, I feel like he'd thrive if he was at home, and I think that's where he needs to be.

SPEAKER_05 4:41

Even if at one whatever point he passes away, at least let him do it at home.

SPEAKER_09 4:46

Yeah, I agree.

SPEAKER_07 4:47

And so we did bring him home.

SPEAKER_02 4:52

Like if you would have seen the way his bottom looked when we brought him home, it was terrible.

SPEAKER_07 4:58

So I've been me and his daughter, yeah, it's yeah, and and he's doing so well. And he's healing, and you know, he's happy. Just went on vacation with his family, so things like that matter to me. Yeah, and I love to be able to use my skills to help people thrive and do better, and that gives you purpose.

SPEAKER_01 5:22

Yeah, that gives you drive. In fact, I mean, in that moment that we're talking about, I remember you kind of being the brolic with like the muscle in the situation, right? Yeah, and the other parties are a little timid to even interact, but you're like, we're doing this.

SPEAKER_05 5:40

Yes, it's happening, yeah. Right now, today.

SPEAKER_01 5:43

Yeah, I love that.

SPEAKER_05 5:44

Yeah, that's good.

SPEAKER_00 5:46

Are you stressful or anything?

SPEAKER_07 5:48

What matters to me actually just peace, happiness, laughing, shit like that. I hate stress. Yeah, so what matters to me, being happy, being at peace, laughing, seeing my people happy and at peace. And fuck, am I gonna cry? Yes. Fuck. She's always crying. I just know that we've been we've been struggling, let's be real, with a lot. I just broke down to you earlier how nigga going through it right now. Like, and I'm like, all these bills and this shit, like the shit's not even real, bro. Like, every day we're living, and that's the shit we're like living for, it feels like. And I refuse to let that be my life. Like, do I need my car? Yes. Do I need a house? Do I need yes? I need all that, but I don't want to be fucking miserable. Yeah. Trying to maintain all this shit. You know, it's a little rough, but we still like keep going every day. So being able to see you guys still laugh and smile. Me too, you know, we just make the best of everything. Yeah, no matter how hard it is. And guys, it's fucking hard right now. For sure. For real. So yeah, and the pop, yeah, I've realized that since we weren't recording, I've been fucking miserable. Yeah. I have. So, yeah, seeing my family happy and at peace, that's a goal that I'm working towards. Yeah. So that even in like real rough times, we're not down and out. Because I'm a little down and out. That's why I just went and walked for three and a half miles, had to. So I could decompress. Yeah. That's good.

SPEAKER_01 8:05

For me, I'm constantly thinking about the type of person that I am meant to be. And while I want to be successful and have a you know a reach in the world and have impact and all those things, I was telling you guys this a couple episodes ago, and I want to be more loving, more joyful, more peaceful, efficient, more kind, more good, more generous. I want that to be the posture of my heart.

SPEAKER_08 8:36

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 8:37

And not stressed, depressed, anxious because of looking outwardly. You know what I mean? Yep. And we live in a world right now where it's harder to do things like get groceries.

SPEAKER_07 8:49

Yeah. Get gas. Get gas. Right. To get to work, to buy groceries. Right.

SPEAKER_01 8:54

So if you stress on those things, you're bound. I've always it's almost certain. It's like gonna get worse. Correct. And so even in the midst of the world being what it is, I choose to look inwardly and say, okay, Stefan, in light of that, I need to be more loving, more joyful, more people, more picture, more kind, yeah.

SPEAKER_08 9:14

Right.

SPEAKER_01 9:15

And that for me is looking like that matters, even if the circumstance doesn't shift.

SPEAKER_02 9:20

And then kind of just have it in your mind like I'm really holding this shit down though. Yeah. It's hard, but I'm still doing it. Yeah. I'm still getting up every day doing what I need to do.

SPEAKER_07 9:32

I'm still taking care of these babies, still going to work, I'm still maintaining these bills, even though it's hard, you know? Because you're able-bodied, which is a blessing to be able to go out and do these things.

SPEAKER_01 9:48

Yeah. So I'm also looking for farming children. That gives me a modicum of purpose for some reason.

unknown 9:59

I don't know.

SPEAKER_07 10:00

It's something you want to learn.

SPEAKER_01 10:02

Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 10:03

Because you can apply that to your everyday life.

SPEAKER_01 10:06

I told a friend that the other day, and she called me crazy.

SPEAKER_07 10:09

It's not crazy. She's just not in.

SPEAKER_01 10:11

I might be crazy.

SPEAKER_07 10:13

It's not crazy. That's very what's going on.

SPEAKER_01 10:16

Yeah. It's useful. Very. And animals don't talk back. They might try to bummer it. At least I can yoke a nigga up at that point. Right. And I'll get arrested for. That part. Lose your job.

SPEAKER_05 10:41

But it's okay.

SPEAKER_01 10:42

Anyway, ladies, that's all I have for attitude and gratitude. Guys choose to live a life that matters.

SPEAKER_02 10:48

Living your gratitude. But you can still have an attitude. We're not judging.

SPEAKER_07 10:55

Sometimes I am. I always have an attitude. But you're quote.

SPEAKER_03 11:01

Me too. Ooh. Well, let's get to the next segment. It's running. Name that tooth. Name the quote. Gotta get that stuff on.

SPEAKER_07 11:20

I didn't know you were going for it. But the one. Off key. Name that too. Name the quote. Alright. Alright. We'll hit you with a quote first. Oh man.

SPEAKER_05 11:37

That feels so out of place.

SPEAKER_08 11:51

Is that Casper? No. Secret garden?

SPEAKER_06 12:04

That's green.

SPEAKER_07 12:09

Yo, you're really good, Arisa. Thank you.

SPEAKER_06 12:13

That's really good. That's Alan. Yes.

SPEAKER_01 12:15

Absolutely. Let's see what's up. I like the new Jamangies. They're cool. They're hilarious. But that's a classic. Classic.

SPEAKER_07 12:26

Brother. I super new ones are because sometimes I don't even want to watch the new movies because I know it's not the old shit. Mm-mm. You can imagine someone trying to remake King of New York. Goodbye. Writing a letter, doing a protest. Don't even do that. That's a classic. Yeah, don't do this.

SPEAKER_01 12:48

Yeah, damn. That was good. I tried so many.

SPEAKER_07 12:54

I'm like, wait, wait. Okay. Nice. Thanks. Okay. You guys still ain't getting no prizes? Song. No prize. Okay. Oh, I know that. That's a good song. That's a great song.

SPEAKER_05 13:17

That's a fucking oldie, but not that.

SPEAKER_08 13:20

But that's a good one.

SPEAKER_07 13:34

I'll give you a hint. Only one nigga's on it.

SPEAKER_01 13:49

Oh man. I'd be stuck at this game.

SPEAKER_07 13:52

Alright.

SPEAKER_03 13:54

Studio by School Boy Cube.

SPEAKER_07 13:57

Never had that. I do like some of his music. I don't know a lot of them. That's probably like one of those. Isn't it crazy how we know I never went to not gonna have or anything? Schoolboy Q. Yeah, that's fire. He's like, was he with the never mind. There's a bunch of them. Anyway. Now. All right. So this isn't uh actual. Oh, let me give you the next tune first. I know. I really couldn't. Yeah, that's what I'm saying. And I've been trying to listen to Larisa, because I know I'm gonna put these songs on here, but one minute, can you turn that off?

SPEAKER_02 15:10

I'll be like, mm-mm. I don't like that. That's dope though. Sapphire. I know I don't know it.

SPEAKER_03 15:17

My friends are degenerates, but I'm never changed.

SPEAKER_02 15:24

She's putting shit on here now. She knows we don't, though.

SPEAKER_03 15:27

That's a day to remember.

SPEAKER_01 15:28

Day to remember, there it is. I wanted to say day to remember. I just don't know all the words.

SPEAKER_07 15:32

You still would have had to say the song.

SPEAKER_01 15:33

Here we go.

SPEAKER_07 15:35

So I only got one. All right. One more. You ready? Ready. Born, baby. My rats.

SPEAKER_06 15:59

I literally played each thing that I had by accident.

SPEAKER_07 16:02

Oh my god. That's why I closed the laptop. I was screaming. I didn't hear that. Yeah, she was really in air bugging.

SPEAKER_02 16:07

You want to play it again? Love the rubber ads. Yeah, the rubber ads is always done. I used to play the game on PlayStation? Yeah. PlayStation.

SPEAKER_07 16:17

Who's your favorite one? Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 16:22

I fuck with Tommy.

SPEAKER_05 16:24

Yeah, that's my guy. I like the twins too, Phil and Will. Phil and Will.

SPEAKER_07 16:28

Yes. I like all of them except for Angelica. She's a bet. Chucky's a cutie with a little scary self.

SPEAKER_01 16:37

Did you guys see the conspiracy that Chucky was actually ahead of?

SPEAKER_07 16:41

No.

SPEAKER_01 16:42

No.

SPEAKER_07 16:43

Throughout the show?

SPEAKER_00 16:44

Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 16:45

What about his parents?

SPEAKER_01 16:49

Just offending the kid's imagination.

SPEAKER_07 16:52

That's weird. I'm gonna have to know. I'm gonna have to look that up. Don't ruin my childhood.

SPEAKER_02 16:58

Yeah, what the hellie?

unknown 16:59

Okay.

SPEAKER_02 17:04

Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 17:05

Alright. Good job, Reese on that Jamanji cat. Thanks. I like that. Thanks.

SPEAKER_01 17:13

That was awesome. That was good. Thank you. Both of them are Burbright because Yeah, I love Rugbite.

SPEAKER_07 17:19

Yeah, that's a class.

SPEAKER_00 17:21

Love it. Very good.

SPEAKER_03 17:23

Alright. Now it's time to bring Stefan home.

SPEAKER_07 17:48

Because everyone should know how to twerk.

SPEAKER_05 17:52

Welcome to the Delusion Olympics. Especially their dicks. A little bit.

SPEAKER_02 18:02

Alright, we're gonna get right into it and then I have a little vocabulary word for y'all at the end. Okay. If I don't annoy you, I don't really like you. Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 18:17

I mean, that's not really delusional for me. That's how I feel like.

SPEAKER_01 18:22

Well, I feel that way. It's not delusional. How do I get on my nerves? I can see that. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 18:28

Yeah. Don't get on my nerves. Stop inboxing me. I saw the first message. Check your pics. I know what I'm doing.

SPEAKER_09 18:38

We're out of here.

SPEAKER_07 18:39

Yes. You're delusional. Yeah. The other person's delusional. Fucking do you. For keep on messaging me. Yes. 146 times. Some nigga sent me a thumbs up three times in three days. I said, nigga, why the fuck you keep sending me that thumb? Stop doing that stupid shit. Like, stop with the bullshit. Yeah, no, for real. Like, stop. And I hate that thumb. Somebody in my inbox said, I need to be spanked. Can you help me?

SPEAKER_05 19:13

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 19:18

There's also a girl in there flirting with me too, trying to take me out. And she's very cute, but I'm not into girls. Baby on it too. Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 19:28

She's very, very cute. See. I'm not interested though.

SPEAKER_08 19:33

You know what be pissing me off too?

SPEAKER_07 19:38

Sidebar, okay? Yeah, I love sidebars. I could be like, yo, I know my husband is like a brown-skinned nigga. Big. Tall, handsome.

SPEAKER_08 19:48

And nigga light-skinned.

SPEAKER_07 19:49

But these light-skinned niggas be kind of mean like Choco. Oh, I hate them. I hate them. Anyway. White-skinned niggas be happy in a chocolate. Town feel about the wax.

SPEAKER_01 20:04

That's just the way.

SPEAKER_07 20:06

It's like because I don't want that. I don't know. Well, fuck. Maybe I need to not want a white husband because then he'll just come. I love you guys. I love, I love you. Girl, I seen a flying. I'm sorry. I seen a fine sheriff. I was ready to talk like nigga to phone you over next. Girl should have struggled. Yeah, I'm over here sharking. I mean, relax. Yeah. The goal is to do well, not to convince other people you're doing well. Right, loser.

SPEAKER_02 20:46

You're not a loser, but hear your priorities in order.

SPEAKER_01 20:50

The Joneses really don't give up a bunch.

SPEAKER_05 20:53

Yeah. Yeah. Right. Yeah, for sure.

SPEAKER_07 20:59

Alright, let's get into this word I got for y'all. Right. It's called the delusion chip. Oh my god. Stefan's like, that's not a real word. Yeah. That's okay. Listen.

SPEAKER_02 21:14

It's a popular dating trend where someone persuades themselves they're in a committed, highly intimate relationship while the other party sees the dynamic as casual or non-existent. Oops.

SPEAKER_01 21:29

That's fucking we are not together. You're not my girl, you're not my man.

SPEAKER_02 21:38

Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 21:40

Yeah. That's why I need to have them talks and them understandings. But also, some people, the pe the person who feels like it's not a thing is the one who needs to have the talk and wow.

SPEAKER_02 21:57

Yeah, some people do like string people along, which Isn't cool. Yeah. But if they're not and you're still in that space, like, oh, we go together. You know what I'm saying? Like, don't get like, don't get me wrong. Like, I've had situationships and fucking with a nigga, and I'd be like, oh, you know, we go together now. Yeah, but I'm fucking around. Like, get out of there.

SPEAKER_09 22:19

Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 22:20

That's pathetic.

SPEAKER_01 22:21

I think of like the parkers or two or half men or that that one girl. It's like locked in. Yeah, yep. Wicked. They don't want you better.

SPEAKER_07 22:32

Yikes.

SPEAKER_01 22:33

That's crazy. Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 22:35

I ain't locked in till I'm locked in. Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 22:39

Lucky ho.

SPEAKER_08 22:40

That's all I have for Delusion Olympics, y'all.

SPEAKER_01 22:43

Very, very nice. I like your little vocab. Yeah. I like that.

SPEAKER_08 22:49

I gotcha. I need more words.

SPEAKER_01 22:54

Alright, ladies, let's jump into the main topic. I love that. So wholesome. Alright, ladies. So I had a question. If the best relationships start as friends, why do so many friends just stay friends? Or a better one. Why do women disqualify their male friends for relationships?

SPEAKER_04 23:26

I don't know that you're my friend.

SPEAKER_01 23:28

Why?

SPEAKER_04 23:30

Look at you like that.

SPEAKER_07 23:33

Okay, why? Alright, to deep it, you, Q, Kevin, family. I love you guys dearly. Like I feel like if it went, it's not, it's not the same. Being in a relationship, sleeping with someone, like that shit changes shit. Yeah, it does. Because the emotions get involved.

SPEAKER_02 24:01

I have expectations of you, you of me, you know, finances get involved, like a lot of shit.

SPEAKER_07 24:11

And I don't want to be in that space with you guys ever. I feel like when you're in a relationship with somebody, I I mean, I guess you can go back to being friends, but it's never gonna be the same friendship.

SPEAKER_01 24:26

Like I don't know if you were ever friends with that person.

SPEAKER_07 24:30

If it doesn't work if the relationship doesn't work, that's not true.

SPEAKER_02 24:38

Yeah, I don't think so. I don't think that's true. Me either. Because there could be so many different reasons why. If you just gave me a few things, finances.

SPEAKER_01 24:48

She gave you those.

SPEAKER_07 24:50

Oh she did. Hey tween!

SPEAKER_01 24:57

All those things are things that your friend should be able to go through. How can that person not qualify to be your lover or your romantic partner? What what's the difference between them translating into the romantic side of things?

SPEAKER_02 25:23

Because I don't have to deal with your I don't have to sleep with you, I don't have to live with you, I don't have to explain myself to you in certain ways, you know what I'm saying? Like there are things that come with being in a relationship, and now these are flaws that I might have, and or that friend may have, and you don't like that stuff about me. So now we try to get into a relationship, and you're pretty much having to deal with these things that I come with, and that's not working for you, and now we can't get along or move past certain things, and it don't work out, and then there's always the opposite way, it always could work out. So I guess it just depends.

SPEAKER_01 26:19

I think eight out of ten women, I can say that probably confidently don't get into relationships with their friends, and it's not that the friend is not loyal or trusting or assistant or any other things. Yeah, he's all those things, but they disqualify him because he's different. Even though he's good with money, he's good looking, all the things that you claim that you want in a relationship, yeah. So because you labeled him as your friend, you can't go there with him. But to your point, don't you want your relationship partner to be those things for you? And to be the person you talk to about those things? Of course. So do you not see them as your friend in the beginning?

SPEAKER_07 27:07

Oh, like when you're dating someone?

SPEAKER_02 27:12

I don't like nobody.

SPEAKER_07 27:13

Well, for me, the difference between that is like when I'm dating. Well, I know me personally, I'm dating intentionally. Like, I'm fucking pushing 40 years old, bro. Like, you don't know what you want, then we don't need to be talking because I know exactly what I want, you know. So in the dating world, like, yeah, I want to build that friendship, like that comes with that. And yeah, I do want to do that with my person, but I feel like my friends, like, that shit is already established. It's like we built this relationship that I don't want to tarnish in any way. And again, like I don't look at you guys like that. I look at you like my family, my my brothers, my you know, well, cute on let me go on my brother. I don't give a fuck say what I say, but shit like that.

SPEAKER_04 28:10

You guys are a family to me that I just would never want to taint those relationships in any way.

SPEAKER_07 28:17

And I feel like if you do end being in a relationship and it doesn't work, things could go bad. Yeah, and then what? I know how I am, nigga. I'll never talk to you again if I don't want to, and I don't want that.

SPEAKER_01 28:32

So it's in the name of protecting that friendship, is what you're saying. Yeah, and I don't feel that way.

SPEAKER_07 28:38

Yeah, I see.

SPEAKER_01 28:39

I don't I feel like from a man's perspective, I mean you guys know I say this all the time. But we want that. We want you to, and that's this that safe space comes from us being friends. So I should be able to bring it to you as my friend and as my partner, and you should be able to receive it in that same space as friends. Like I talked to you, I bring magic to your attention. Probably shit that I probably shouldn't, but uh you're my friend, so I'm you too, dude. Right? So we talk, yeah.

SPEAKER_07 29:09

But I would never want to lose that.

SPEAKER_01 29:12

How could you not how could you how why would you lose that in the village?

SPEAKER_07 29:16

Because nigga, I could fuck around and fuck with you, fuck with you, fuck with Kevin. I'm like, I really don't fuck with this nigga like that because I'm not in that space of wanting to date any of you niggas. Right. I love you dearly.

SPEAKER_02 29:31

I might fuck we'd be friends, then I fuck with you. I'm like, oh like every time after we cook dinner, you leave the food on the stove instead of cleaning it up and washing the dishes.

SPEAKER_01 29:40

But I'm your friend, so I know that you're gonna like that. And therefore, after dinner is made, I'm gonna put a dishes.

SPEAKER_02 29:45

But if that's something you do and that's like your habit, then it's like that's something that you do. You know what I'm saying? So like there's just certain things, yeah. Bitch, I know you do. So I'm just saying, like, and that's why I would never date you.

SPEAKER_07 30:06

Oh, I hate doing dishes, nigga. I'll do everything but the dishes.

SPEAKER_01 30:12

I think doing dishes. I think men and women see that differently. And and then I here's my perspective on the matter. I think a lot of times a lot of great partners are overlooked because of protecting the friendship. I don't want to go there with the for some hypothetical thing that might never happen.

SPEAKER_06 30:28

Oh wow.

SPEAKER_01 30:29

But not to not to put it on you, but that way. I don't know if it's uh attraction first type of thing or like you said, I don't see you that way. I'm not I'm not sure what the thing most likely is about that. That's why I was asking that question.

SPEAKER_07 30:48

Don't see yeah, I don't see me being in a relationship with you niggas. I see us doing this forever. Yeah, me like, and I know it sounds like it's kind of like double-edged sword because yeah, you can do that, but me, I'm just speaking for myself. I am not in any space, way, like no sh, I don't want to fuck with you niggas like that ever. It will that is just embedded, like you guys are who you are to me, and that's what it's gonna be. And on top of, you know, I'm Dayton Watts. So, nah, but for real, even if I had like uh crazy, no, but for real, even if I had a white boy as a friend, and that's just how I see him, that's just what that would be. So I was just being a dick saying that, but yeah, I just for my own female psyche, I appreciate you guys in so many ways for so many different things. I know how I am, I'm a bitch, and I just know I couldn't be in a relationship with none of you niggas. You're you are a fucking great guy, awesome. My mom even tried to ask me, Well, why don't you date Stefan? No, I don't want to do that. Relax. You just don't want to see a nigga single no more. Please make me happy. I'm chilling. The first time I'm gonna be able to do a miserable ass nigga in my house. Taking aback. She's like, I just don't want you to be alone. Yeah, you know, that's when I wasn't dating anybody, you know, for like eight years. I moved to my sleep. Yeah. And she's like, I just don't want you to be alone. And I'm like, Mom, I'm chilling.

SPEAKER_06 32:36

I'm the happiest idea. It's great.

SPEAKER_07 32:39

And I get what she's saying because in big picture, I feel like I'm a great woman. I know I can love a man to the moon and the stars. That's not the issue. Bitch been through some shit, had to heal, did that, and now it's just sifting through these fuck niggas. Do I look tired? I am tired, so I don't care if I look I'm still in my hiking clothes.

SPEAKER_01 33:04

Can I ask you a question? When you meet somebody and you say we're gonna take things slow, is that you saying we're gonna be friends first? Or is there a romantic element in there that you're willing to allow that person into before you guys germinate a relationship?

SPEAKER_07 33:25

I'm tired of doing that shit. Taking shit slow? I mean, I can't say that, but these niggas be my bad. Answer the questions.

SPEAKER_08 33:35

I ain't dating nobody.

SPEAKER_07 33:39

Okay. So here's where I'm just having mixed feelings about that. Like I said, I'm dating intentionally. I'm not saying, oh, first date, let's go get hitched. That's not what I'm saying. That's what I'm looking for. I feel like if we're clicking and things are going well and we're having a good time, like, why wouldn't we explore that more? I mean, let's have a conversation about it. Okay, can I talk about the last date that I went on? Shut up, nigga. You ain't dating, mind your business. So we went on a date, it was great, had a good time, told you guys about that, and we went on a date, another date the night after. Had another, it was fun. But after that, he kind of like I told you he said, Oh, I know you're gonna ghost me and in like a month or some weird shit like that. So you're speaking negativity over this union. And why are you being so insecure? Yeah, what are you what are you gonna do? What do you do that's gonna make me want to ghost you? Right. That besides that, and that's bitches. I'm gonna ghost the nigga for sure. I don't know. I have and now I don't even like you. Bro, wicked. That's real. So I was just telling them like I wouldn't ghost you if I didn't want to talk to you anymore.

SPEAKER_04 35:03

I'm gonna tell you. Like, that's crazy. So that made me a little uneasy because of course now I'm in my head, like, what's up with this nigga?

SPEAKER_07 35:10

So the next day and the day after, he was like being kind of distant, and I'm like, yo, we good, whatever.

SPEAKER_04 35:20

So we were barely talking, and I'm like, here we go.

SPEAKER_07 35:23

I'm not gonna chase you, I'm not gonna do that. You know, I had a great time. I know you had a great time. Literally told me it was the best date that you ever been on. You know what I mean? So I don't know what happened, huh? Blessed. The best date, the best, he's literally like we were laughing the whole time. I've been listening to the fucking blast, actually. Like, I know I'm not the problem. Right. Sometimes you can't I can't be, but I'm not. But anyway, no, so we had a blast, and then basically now I don't even talk to him. I blocked all kinds of shit because I'm like, it was weird. Like, I felt like our dates were like kind of pointless because that's annoying. Yeah, what the fuck? Yeah, so I'm here trying to make real connections, yes. So it's so fucking hard, it's frustrating. I deleted my dating profile again. I'm over it for a while. Cause what the fuck was that? You know, yeah, and not like I'm like, oh my god, I know he's my husband. It wasn't that, but like you guys know me. You know, I'm super open. You know, I don't know. I feel like I done ran off the rails with that, but basically, the dating shit is rough for any fucking that's all I really had.

SPEAKER_01 36:45

I guess for you guys watching this, leave it in the comments. Should you date your guy friends?

SPEAKER_07 36:52

No, we know how she stands, and that shit works for some people who get married, you know what I'm saying? Like, I've seen it. I seen there's a couple that I follow. I think they were best friends. It's uh a black lady and a white guy, I forgot their name. I'll have to come back to that. But yeah, and I guess they were best friends and they ended up marrying each other and shit. They're fucking hilarious, just like this goofy ass white dude, and their kids are gorgeous, but yeah, so I'm sure it does happen. I just know me personally, that's not ever gonna happen for a baby.

SPEAKER_01 37:30

That's all I have for my main topic.

SPEAKER_08 37:35

Interesting, yeah.

SPEAKER_07 37:40

All right, now who's ready? Guess you're ready for sure. I'm ready for hot seat. God damn.

SPEAKER_09 37:51

No chances.

SPEAKER_07 37:53

All right, what do we have for hot say today? Okay, well shit. It's so it's kind of crazy that Reesa brought up what that guy wants you to do. Spank him. Fuck.

SPEAKER_05 38:15

He was boy.

SPEAKER_07 38:17

Yeah, fetishes. That's my hot sleep question. Weird fetishes that people have wanted you to do.

SPEAKER_02 38:26

Oh, somebody wanted me to spank him. He's a stranger. I don't know him. I didn't do it, guys. I never even opened it or replied. I could see it through the thing in my inbox.

SPEAKER_01 38:36

I think you women are classy. I've never been getting the fetish request.

SPEAKER_07 38:40

You've never gotten one.

SPEAKER_01 38:42

No one nervous to do this. And it was like some weird shit.

SPEAKER_07 38:46

Yeah. I've been tied up before. Fuck yeah. Yeah. You've been tied up before, you hated it.

SPEAKER_01 38:55

I wasn't oh no, it felt uncomfortable not being able to move, but it was cool.

SPEAKER_07 39:00

Yeah. You didn't even tie me up. Anyway, so mine told you about heaven. This it was on the fucking bait and chest, so whatever. You can't even take that shit seriously. He asked me if I would sit on his face until he like couldn't breathe, type shit. Like, wanted me to smother him with my ass. Full seal. And then that was perfect. And then yeah, he knows he's showing out.

SPEAKER_01 39:38

Full seal. Say it on his face.

SPEAKER_07 39:41

Yeah. And then I approve. Never mind. We'll keep it at his face. It was like suffocating you. I don't know that I want to do that. Yeah.

SPEAKER_04 39:56

Dick. That's what he said it would do. Oh wow. He wants to not be able to escape. I said I don't think my ass is that big.

SPEAKER_07 40:08

Yo. Oh gosh. Alright. How do you guys feel about dry humping? I used to do it as a teen. Me and my friend don't.

SPEAKER_05 40:24

Oh, fuck no.

SPEAKER_01 40:26

What the fuck? So I got asked to dry hump once.

SPEAKER_07 40:29

Oh somebody asked you?

SPEAKER_02 40:30

I mean, like if bitches are wheelchair. I mean, like as a teenager, I don't know how to fuck. So we just kissing and making hell and rubbing on each other.

SPEAKER_07 40:39

Rubbing my cut on your jeans. Oh. What the fuck? No.

SPEAKER_01 40:44

Imagine my shit like where you're gonna burst out of my pants. What are we doing? I wouldn't be cool just not fucking school.

SPEAKER_07 40:59

Yeah, like let's do nothing. If a nigga tries to dry hump me, I'm slapping you right in the dick. Nigga, pull that shit out or move around. Better not be little. That. Maybe that's why. Never mind. What are you saying? Yeah, it's funny. I said I don't like girls. Oh my god. That's all I got for Hot Peter. Yeah. Oh, that's hilarious.

SPEAKER_01 41:42

It's funny as hell.

SPEAKER_07 41:48

Oh, that's so good. All right, moving right along. Yeah. Would you rather? I mean, I guess so. Would you rather dry hump or get it home?

SPEAKER_05 42:10

Yeah, I couldn't go ahead and answer that. Fuck it. Yeah, it's lit.

SPEAKER_07 42:17

Or not. Or not. Yeah. Imagine a I just want to dry hump. Oh, why? What? No. Would you rather get the fuck out of my house? I didn't do that. That was aggressive. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 42:34

Gentlemen. Just kidding.

SPEAKER_07 42:39

I'll hurry this fine.

SPEAKER_02 42:45

Like, dude, let me let me put my hand on a titty or something. Like, no way.

SPEAKER_07 42:50

You're just rubbing that flat ass all over my body. Like. It doesn't matter. Yo, you're hilarious. Let me show you how it's done.

SPEAKER_02 43:08

Take this off. Should have ripped them shit off. The fuck? And I'm gonna take this off. Bitch said, Do you wanna I don't that's weird. You're a weird, weird girl. And you're big age. Alright, let's get it, please.

SPEAKER_07 43:26

Fuck.

SPEAKER_02 43:26

I'm sorry. These are just some questions I have for you. I was like a little tired of would you rather?

SPEAKER_07 43:32

So I'm like, I'm gonna ask them some questions. Bring it on. Multiple choice. Oh, I love multiple choice. Your partner falls asleep with their phone face down. Are you A thinking nothing of it? B asking why they always do that. C, waiting until they fall asleep to find out. Ugh. A for me, like nigga. My phone probably gonna die before I fall asleep. I don't think I give a fuck. Yeah. I don't think I'm watching that. Yeah, that. Like you're getting in this phone down. I put my phone phase down sometimes.

SPEAKER_05 44:11

If somebody's messaging me, like I don't want that shit. I usually turn my brightness all the way down too, and I put my shit on sleep.

SPEAKER_07 44:19

It'd be out of sleep by like 6 38. But checking on his phone. Yeah, I'm not doing that.

SPEAKER_01 44:25

There was one time that I did go through my ex phone. Yeah. It was only after she was asking specific questions. And I was like, This bitch is cheating. You're a whore. And I found what I found.

SPEAKER_07 44:37

So yeah.

SPEAKER_01 44:38

Other than that, I don't feel the phone.

SPEAKER_07 44:40

Yeah, right, right. I went through Duck's phone twice, smashed it the second time. And we weren't even together. Nice. But damn. I'm sorry. I'm sorry, Duck. I love you. But I gotta tell this. I was going through it and he was like just saying shit. He was just saying shit that pissed me off. Like that wasn't very true. And then I seen he had like threesons with some girls in there, which I don't even know why that bothered me because I didn't even want to sleep with him. But you know, things happen and I smashed his phone. I I regret that a little bit. I went off the rails. Yeah, you did. You sure did. I love you. I love you. I love you, Doug. I love you. I love you, Daily. Oh my goodness. We're gonna we should talk about that. So you're gonna be like, nah, I'm good. Like, you're good. Anyway, sorry for telling you business, don't sue me.

SPEAKER_02 45:36

If our business says they're just a friend, are you a taking their word for it? B asking a few questions, C, doing a little social media research.

SPEAKER_07 45:50

I ain't looking for nobody on social media because I don't want to be popping up in your people you may know. But I might ask a couple questions. I might too. Did ya but I best believe I got friends too? Study. Yeah. We not mean that. Don't say it like that.

SPEAKER_01 46:08

Not even like that.

SPEAKER_07 46:09

Yeah, but don't be acting weird about my girlfriends. I got a little friend.

SPEAKER_02 46:14

Wait, is it is the is it that type of situation?

SPEAKER_01 46:18

She wasn't saying that. What kind of friend are they?

SPEAKER_02 46:23

This is your partner. You're in a relationship with them, and they're telling you somebody's just a friend. Well shit, somebody told me. But I guess you should know.

SPEAKER_07 46:31

Somebody told me that too. They're friends, correct?

SPEAKER_01 46:34

So I've been married, so again, even on I've been on both sides of that coin.

SPEAKER_07 46:38

Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_01 46:38

Where I was like, oh, they're just a friend, and I was definitely smashing, so before she cheated or after after.

SPEAKER_07 46:46

Okay, so you get a pass.

SPEAKER_01 46:50

But I would be for sure asking some questions.

SPEAKER_02 46:54

Yeah. Gee, now you know I'm busy.

SPEAKER_07 47:01

What's up? Tell you. Okay. We're trying to get through this. I have to work in the morning. Next question. Your ex wants to catch up.

SPEAKER_02 47:13

Are you A declining respectfully? B telling your partner first. C curious enough to hear what they have to say. Well, if I'm in a relationship, what the fuck would you need to be catching up with me for?

SPEAKER_00 47:25

Yeah, I'm going up for I'm telling my personal.

SPEAKER_07 47:34

It's not happening. An ex trying to catch up. Yeah. If I'm not in a relationship, depending on what ex it is. Yeah. Then we could probably catch up. When and where, baby. But yeah, if I'm in a relationship, you definitely gotta fuck off. Yeah. Too little, too late.

SPEAKER_01 47:54

Telling my girlfriend. Like, what the fuck?

SPEAKER_05 47:58

Telling my girlfriend.

SPEAKER_01 48:03

There's nothing for us to talk about.

SPEAKER_07 48:04

Yeah. You wanna talk to my girlfriend? Yeah, for sure.

SPEAKER_02 48:09

And you know what? Like, that was something I loved about my ex because he always used to be like, yeah, well, that nigga, when I'm tired, that nigga still be telling me bad shit. But like, um, he used to tell me everything. Yo, that nigga messy. He's not messy.

SPEAKER_07 48:24

He's just a little gossip. You messy nigga.

SPEAKER_05 48:28

We are messy. Yeah. Yeah, no. Anyway. Yeah, that's all I have for y'all. Very nice. Yeah. Very nice, very good. Yeah, that's a little boring, but everyone do would you rather today? Maybe I'll change that whole segment. Give me some ideas, guys. Y'all don't never fucking talk to us.

SPEAKER_02 48:51

They hate us. It's like y'all don't even fucking. They love us, but they just like talk to us. Are you good?

SPEAKER_07 48:57

Brandon, just tell me. Because you're really the only one that's constant. You're gonna talk to us. Our number two fan. Who's number one? Mom?

SPEAKER_02 49:07

Yeah, you're right. Mom is number one. Mom, I knew that. Thank you.

SPEAKER_01 49:15

All right, let's jump with this some facts that are available.

SPEAKER_03 49:21

I really like this. Suspend suspend.

SPEAKER_01 49:28

Alright. Ready? Women decide within the first few minutes whether a man is relationship with him. The first what?

SPEAKER_07 49:37

Few minutes. That's debatable. That's debatable.

SPEAKER_01 49:42

If there's no sexual attraction at the beginning, the friendship will almost never become attractions.

SPEAKER_07 49:49

Facts. I don't know. Debatable, I guess. It depends on the people. Facts. Shut up, bitch.

SPEAKER_01 49:57

The friend zone is usually about a lack of attraction, not bad type.

SPEAKER_07 50:06

Debatable.

SPEAKER_01 50:08

Okay. Women are more likely to date a stranger that they're attracted to than a friend that they trust.

SPEAKER_07 50:14

Facts.

SPEAKER_01 50:15

Say facts.

SPEAKER_07 50:20

Stranger danger. Stranger. I love stranger danger.

SPEAKER_01 50:25

Craziness. A man can have every quality a woman says she wants and still be rejected because the chemistry isn't there. That's true. Most people confuse emotional comfort with romantic compatibility.

SPEAKER_02 50:43

Facts. Yeah. Be discerning.

SPEAKER_01 50:49

For sure. The healthiest long-term relationships begin with attraction, not friendship.

SPEAKER_07 50:56

Debatable. Debatable.

SPEAKER_01 50:58

Debatable too. People often say they want loyalty, consist and consistency, but they choose excitement first.

SPEAKER_02 51:07

Debatable. Debatable?

SPEAKER_01 51:11

Being too available makes someone less attractive as a romantic partner.

SPEAKER_05 51:16

Facts. Facts. I feel like that's more so like how men feel about women.

SPEAKER_07 51:22

Yeah, I agree. But I'm men. Women, we like I want you to want like I want you to want to see.

SPEAKER_01 51:31

Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 51:32

Yeah, literally. Yeah, I feel like if you feel like you're making yourself too available, that ain't the nigga for you.

SPEAKER_01 51:41

The biggest difference between he's my boyfriend and he's like a brother, it's attraction.

SPEAKER_07 51:46

Debatable. That's debatable, yeah. This thing he's perseverating on this shit. Let's go.

SPEAKER_01 51:56

What do you guys like just question? I need to know. I just want to see how consistent the main topic was to these questions. Yeah. That was the main one. Last one. If your partner wasn't sexually attracted to you at first, the relationship probably would have never happened.

SPEAKER_05 52:18

Debateable?

SPEAKER_01 52:22

Think about how your relationship started.

SPEAKER_07 52:25

Yeah. Well, actually, that's debatable. It's debatable, I think, because when I first met Duck, I was not attracted to Doc.

SPEAKER_02 52:36

Duck also about my daughter's father.

SPEAKER_07 52:39

Like, not that, like, because he's always been handsome and shit. Like that. Yeah. I just didn't look at him like that. Like, and what clicked?

SPEAKER_01 52:47

That's right.

SPEAKER_07 52:49

We got older and I seen this. I said, God. It just like how he carry himself, like, just always the same every time I seen him as like mad cool, mad, sweet, but like it was like one instance, we were around each other, and it was like this situation, and and like I felt safe around him. So I was like, I think I could do that. We didn't get married, Dudes. Yeah, when Duck, when he took his hat off, I didn't love him. And then I was oh juggy bitch. Shut up. Obviously, I spent like 13 years with your stupid ass. So sh but anyway. And then but we were together every single day and night after the day that we met. Yeah. Yeah. Like literally. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 53:54

I like shit.

SPEAKER_07 53:56

Yeah. I loved him bad. Yeah. Honestly. Even when I thought he was ugly. So I didn't think he was ugly.

SPEAKER_01 54:05

I feel like you guys want him to be a little ugly. Like me.

SPEAKER_07 54:09

Not me. No, she loves pretty niggas. I personally don't. I like rugged looking niggas. Smuggler. Smugly. You can be rugged, but no, yeah, just not in the face. You just can't be prettier than me. I cannot. I'm sorry. And nothing against you guys. You guys are beautiful men. But that's just it. I don't want to deal with that. Nigga thinking he's prettier than me. Love me, beautiful black man. Some of these niggas is prettier than me. My drawers might be prettier than me. No, you ain't nigga. I was just playing.

SPEAKER_01 54:46

That's all I have for facts for the Bayer Balls teams. You guys were like a little bit on the fence with some of those.

SPEAKER_02 54:51

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 54:54

Maybe it's just circumstantial when it comes to that topic.

SPEAKER_05 54:58

Yeah. That was good.

SPEAKER_07 55:01

Okay. Interesting. Now you can. Uh-oh.

SPEAKER_06 55:08

Shut up.

SPEAKER_07 55:10

Alright, talk your shit. I've been waiting for this. Yeah, we want to hear y'all's shit talking first. I'll go first.

SPEAKER_01 55:18

Please. I hate a police officer that trails you just to pull you over. Yeah, I don't like that, boy. Get it over with. I got shit to do. You spin around. I already know. You want me to pull over first?

SPEAKER_07 55:29

Mm-hmm. Yeah, fuck it up.

SPEAKER_01 55:30

Yeah. You did.

SPEAKER_07 55:32

Did I fuck it up? Yeah. Yeah. You're dead. No. Yep. There you go. Right there. Nope. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 55:39

I hate a pop fucking trailer, so if you're gonna if you have intention to pull me over and think about it, turn that shit on immediately.

SPEAKER_07 55:46

You better not do that shit to me. I curse y'all niggas out. And have and will and and and have and don't and will and do it again. I'm telling you, because I like that shit. Because one thing, people, I'm not saying be, you know, what's the word I'm looking for?

SPEAKER_02 56:03

Aggressive and shit.

SPEAKER_07 56:04

Don't you have to be any of that. But don't let these, you know, overaggressive police officers and their badges scare you. You're people, you have rights, know your shit, and fucking stand up to these motherfuckers because they can only do and but and do and say but so much. And I've been in them situations plenty of times, and a bitch left without a ticket and a stressed officer. Don't play with me. Anyway. I gotcha. Yeah, but I don't like that shit either. I will curse you out. Well, it's my turn. Yeah. I like takeout. What?

SPEAKER_05 56:50

You like takeout? Yeah. Yeah. I do.

SPEAKER_02 56:56

I like it a lot. Check the wings and French fries, but I'm really just get it so I can dip my fries in the sauce.

SPEAKER_07 57:04

Nice.

SPEAKER_01 57:05

You put me onto the ash food dip in that sauce. Yeah. Ashwick's gas. Yeah, it's so good. Yeah. You ate that.

SPEAKER_08 57:12

Yeah. I'd be like, yeah, I can have the wings. Let me get the fries. Yeah.

SPEAKER_04 57:21

Talking shit. Well, mine. Okay. Mine is, I guess, a little heavy, but racism. I hate it. I know it exists. I know it's everywhere. Yeah. I hate that shit. Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 57:38

It's so disgusting. Why can't we all just get the fuck along? Personally, I feel like if you're a racist, you're just a stupid, ignorant fuck. And you can throw politics in it to sound smart all you want. You're dumb. And I hate you.

SPEAKER_01 57:57

At the end of the day, you hate another human being.

SPEAKER_07 57:59

Right.

SPEAKER_01 58:00

The way they look.

SPEAKER_07 58:01

Right. And I shouldn't say I hate, because I really try to fight the hate with love, the dark with light. Like you guys, yeah, I talk to you guys about this all the time. That's the shit that I try to do. And I just try to be better than that. You know, I know we make our little jokes and say the things we say. Then we should be able to, you know? Even if a white person was making a joke about, I'm gonna go ahead and laugh because I'm not living in all that shit. I feel like that shit's miserable. You're never gonna be happy, you're always looking for a fucking problem, and you're gonna find the right one that's gonna give it to you. But big picture, I hate racism and Thanos glove.

SPEAKER_04 58:49

I'd get rid of that shit in a heartbeat.

SPEAKER_01 58:52

And mosquitoes.

SPEAKER_04 58:55

Huh?

SPEAKER_01 58:55

Would you Thanos snap racism or just the racists?

SPEAKER_07 58:59

The racists. Oh, maybe racism. Imagine if it was just never a thing. Yeah. That'd be beautiful. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 59:09

I wanted to say something to what you just said. You said you don't want to say hate. I think it's okay to hate evil. Yeah. Love what is better than hate evil at all costs. Yeah. And racism is full of birth. It is. There's nothing good about it at all. Yeah.

unknown 59:25

You know.

SPEAKER_01 59:26

Not even white against black, but if you're black and you've been Pakistani or all of them.

SPEAKER_02 59:33

Like Asians or whatever, Mexicans, yeah. Just like we're all just trying to fucking live.

SPEAKER_01 59:39

I'll even say this for the right reason. The Guinese get a bad rap.

unknown 59:44

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 59:44

They play their music really loud and they own everything in Schenectady. I don't hate them.

SPEAKER_07 59:51

No. I don't hate them.

SPEAKER_01 59:52

They make good food.

unknown 59:53

Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 59:55

And their women are not. Fucking.

SPEAKER_06 1:00:01

They're it's just gonna sound so bad. Everywhere. Like, I need some variety.

SPEAKER_07 1:00:07

But they're like everywhere in Schenectady. Yeah. You know what I'm saying? Like that. They took it over. Yeah. Congrats, guys.

SPEAKER_01 1:00:16

And they're very hands-on. In the same way, not to be racist or stereotypical. In the same way that like someone who's from Mexico was very hands-on. I see that they're in the same way. They work on cars, they build things, houses.

SPEAKER_07 1:00:30

Yeah, it's a lot of yeah, that's what they do. It's it's hard because we're, you know, trying to be respectful, but some stereotypes, some stereotypes, some stereotypes are legit. Yeah, for sure. So, and that's on the white side, the black side, the this, that. You know, I just um seen like a white guy ranting, I forgot why. I think that the dude that's the young kid that's in jail for maybe killing his son, you know, the young white kid and the black kid, were they on a bus or something? Anyway, I think that was the situation. Is dad was on the news just saying a lot of shit that most racist whites say, oh, go to work, several baby daddies, and then do y'all not realize it's white motherfuckers that got the same shit going on.

SPEAKER_03 1:01:21

Worse. You gotta relax.

SPEAKER_07 1:01:24

You know? So that's that's not gonna drag that. But the point is, we all got the same shit going on in whatever race for the most part, especially between which is the main white people and black people. There's people on social services that are white, just like there are black, like you, there's no difference, guys. Fucking relax.

SPEAKER_01 1:01:49

I'll just say this there's only one race in my thing, and it's the human race, the human race. Yeah, I love that. So yeah, I can fuck off with that race.

SPEAKER_07 1:01:58

Yeah, for real. And I check a racist anytime, especially if it's in my face. I don't really try to do that online shit, but yeah. So I'm sorry, that was very long, but I had to talk my shit about that because I legit hate it. Like in my heart and soul, I just I think we're all beautiful in our own ways, we're all funny in our own ways. We all have shit that we could possibly bring to the world together. So clean it up, people. All right, that's it for my talking shit. Shit, do we need a tone down or what? Yeah, yeah, break it down.

SPEAKER_08 1:02:49

Close your eyes. Picture us stretching that hot yoga.

SPEAKER_07 1:03:00

No, I need it this weekend. Hey, I'm like, we're gonna have to do that. Nah, we really need to go for sure. Like we should definitely do it. I need it bad. So, anyway.

SPEAKER_08 1:03:17

Let's get into health, wealth, and positivity. Love it here.

SPEAKER_05 1:03:21

Thank you. Me too. Okay.

SPEAKER_02 1:03:25

Strength training is one of the fastest ways to burn visceral fat. Visceral fat being the dangerous fat that's surrounding your organs. Now you guys know I've been like terrified of lifting like heavy because I'd just be in like so much pain, like my arms hurt and stuff like that. Like, if I fucking try to sit up in the bed, but it is so true.

SPEAKER_05 1:03:53

Like, the workout, the way you feel after lifting is just insane. Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 1:04:07

You should try it. I know when you strengthen your body continues to burn. Yes. After you stop.

SPEAKER_02 1:04:15

Right.

SPEAKER_01 1:04:16

In a way that doesn't happen when you walk or when you run.

SPEAKER_02 1:04:19

Right.

SPEAKER_01 1:04:19

Any other exercise you do.

SPEAKER_02 1:04:21

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 1:04:21

Your muscles are literally on fire. Yeah. Actually.

SPEAKER_07 1:04:25

Yeah, because they're like rebuilding, like you're tearing them apart and they're rebuilding. So this fat in the muscle. Yeah. Um saving money is good, but investing is what builds wealth.

SPEAKER_02 1:04:39

And this is something like for me that is like I really, really would like to be financially literate. Yeah, even at this big age, I feel like I could still learn.

SPEAKER_00 1:04:53

But then be that's the first part.

SPEAKER_05 1:04:56

Yeah, yeah. And be successful in it, for sure.

SPEAKER_01 1:05:03

I was talking to Crystal about this. I wanted to introduce a like a money tops.

SPEAKER_05 1:05:09

Yeah, okay.

SPEAKER_01 1:05:11

Trying to introduce some stocks or ETFs that are not super expensive that we'll get into in things like lemon and stuff like that.

SPEAKER_02 1:05:21

Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 1:05:22

I wish we could get Travis on here because he, like, yeah, I want to get him on here because he like knows how to do that type of shit. Like, he he used to do it and then stopped for a while, and he's gotten back into it recently.

SPEAKER_02 1:05:37

So, yeah, it's just so I feel like there's so much to it, like so much to know, like the language and the acronyms they use and all that type of shit. And you know, my memory is like shit sometimes.

SPEAKER_01 1:05:52

But I think a lot of buy-in happens because people don't know what companies to invest in. Yeah. But honestly. Simple thing, T Mobile, Target, ATMT, the places that you frequent, yeah, own a part of it. Right. That's the biggest piece. Your phone.

SPEAKER_02 1:06:10

You pay thousands of dollars for your phone.

SPEAKER_01 1:06:12

You can have a share.

SPEAKER_02 1:06:13

Yes.

SPEAKER_01 1:06:14

It doesn't have to be thousands of dollars.

SPEAKER_07 1:06:16

I think like maybe you can get three shares for whatever the price of your phone is. So that's crazy.

SPEAKER_02 1:06:23

I don't really know what the share price is right at the moment, but I was watching something recently and they said that so it'd be interesting to have to dive into the yeah.

SPEAKER_01 1:06:36

We'll talk more about that.

SPEAKER_07 1:06:38

That's what's up. I'm not interested in that. I mean, I'll be interested to hear what you have to say, but recently she tried to talk to me about stocks. I'm like, uh-uh. I want nothing to do with that. Is it a numbers thing? Or just too complicated. My brain. Even like the credit situation. I want nothing to do with it. I mean, the credit shit, more obviously, I want to have good credit, but maybe just give me some cash and let me do what I gotta do. Please leave me out of that shit.

SPEAKER_02 1:07:10

It's terrible. Last one. Your thoughts literally shape your nervous system responses. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 1:07:23

Yeah. I've been thinking about that lagging measure thing for a week and a half, like two weeks. We had that backyard.

SPEAKER_05 1:07:33

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 1:07:34

I've been looking around my house. That's a lagging measure of your habits. That's good. I've been thinking about it. It's stuck in my head that I should read about our habits.

SPEAKER_05 1:07:44

You should. Very interesting. Like very. I like it a lot. Turn brighter. Thank you. Well, that's all I have for health, wealth, and positivity. Jim.

SPEAKER_01 1:08:01

Thank you for that.

SPEAKER_05 1:08:02

You're welcome. Yeah. Yeah, lift heavy. Yeah. Do some thrusts.

SPEAKER_07 1:08:14

Oh, that was a health reason. I was trying to figure out if I was gonna do it or not. Uh, go lift some weights, nigga. Where they at? Go ahead. I need to see about 20 reps, whatever that means. Do it. 20 reps is crazy. 20 reps is do it. No, 20 reps ain't crazy. I was gonna make you guys do patty cake, but that was gay.

SPEAKER_01 1:08:43

20 reps of what?

SPEAKER_07 1:08:45

I don't know, nigga. You know, I don't do it. All right, all right. 20 reps of something with them weights. You guys go to YouTube so you can see this shit.

SPEAKER_01 1:08:55

Ready?

SPEAKER_07 1:09:01

20. Yeah, see? Seven. Keep going. Eight. You can do it. Nine, ten, eleven, twelve, thirteen, fourteen, fifteen, sixteen, seventeen, eighteen, platform, nineteen, twenty. No.

SPEAKER_06 1:09:29

Good for you, man.

SPEAKER_09 1:09:30

The fucking little. Damn shit. Um my bad. He's tired now.

SPEAKER_01 1:09:43

I was 60 pounds.

SPEAKER_07 1:09:47

30 pound weights ain't no joke. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 1:09:50

Yeah, you call me a fucking not seen coming with that. Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 1:09:56

I'm a fucking professional in here, guys. I should have done it in the middle, but I didn't know what I want you to do. Go lip some weights, nigga. You wait until the end of the show. Right.

SPEAKER_02 1:10:08

Right.

SPEAKER_07 1:10:10

Menace.

SPEAKER_02 1:10:11

For sure. Right.

SPEAKER_06 1:10:13

That's why we call it the menace.

SPEAKER_02 1:10:15

And I thought about it at the beginning. I'm like, I don't even know where my alarm is. This is. I'm sorry. I have it saved.

SPEAKER_07 1:10:25

Get that shit together. Yeah. Brandon. Yeah, that was good. Yeah. Appreciate that. No problem.

SPEAKER_05 1:10:35

Yeah, it's hilarious. Well, it's definitely nice to be back here.

SPEAKER_07 1:10:41

Yes.

SPEAKER_01 1:10:42

Thanks for having me back.

SPEAKER_07 1:10:43

Are you guys happy to see the set again? Yeah, for sure. I am. I'm so happy. Miss my big fluffy chair.

SPEAKER_01 1:10:51

Seeing you guys here is what I'm most happy about.

SPEAKER_07 1:10:53

And like, yeah, working.

SPEAKER_01 1:10:54

Yeah. Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 1:10:56

This feels right. I've been off. Yeah. Even I love the Backyard against episode me too. This is our space. Yeah. And I love it. And Backyard against was like, we gotta get this shit done and out. Yeah, for real. And the vibe was a little different too. Yeah. It was nice. I love it. I like it. Yeah. But no place like home, baby. Right. Yeah. Yeah. Well, that's all we got for you tonight, guys. Thank you for coming. Like, follow, share, subscribe.

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