You've Outgrown That Version of You

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You've Outgrown That Version of You 

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Hey family, welcome back to Carolyn Cares, where we talk about compassion, community, and commerce in real life in a way that's honest, grounded, and necessary. If you've been looking for a space where you can grow, reflect, and feel understood, you're in the right place. Go ahead and follow, like and share this channel with someone who needs it. And if you want to go deeper, we now have exclusive content through memberships and partnerships where we have more personal conversations, guided sessions, and real-time support. Now, my friends, today is a hot topic, and our discussion, our level of discussion today is you've outgrown that version of yourself. Growth feels uncomfortable because it requires letting go. So again, our episode is you've outgrown that version of you. Let me correct that. You've outgrown that version of you. What does outgrowth look like? Let's focus on it. We're talking about a different mindset, less tolerance, and new standards. So focusing on a different mindset, you're not where you used to be. You know, if if you have worked on yourself, if you have developed yourself over the last coming months or maybe a few years, you're you're in a different mindset, you're in a different head space right now. So outgrowth for you looks like a different mindset. Also, there is less tolerance. You don't have as much patience for foolery. I call it foolery. So you're not putting up with a lot of stuff that you would typically put up with in the past. You have less tolerance for it. You can see you can see the fakeness right away. So you're like, okay, I'm not putting up with this, I'm not tolerating this at all. And then also you have new standards. You have new standards that you have you have written down or you have in your in your mind that you're not going to that you're upholding at this point in your life. So certain things at one point maybe in your younger years you didn't have any standards, or maybe you had standards, but you didn't uphold them. This time you have new standards and you're upholding those standards. So again, outgrowth looks like a different mindset, you're in a different headspace, you have less tolerance for all kinds of foolishness, foolery, and you have new standards. Why is it hard? Why is it hard for people to understand that you've outgrown that version of you? Because people expect the old you. You know, when you're around family, especially family, and they remember you in your younger years, or they remember you at a period of time when you know you were in a different headspace, they expect that old version of you. Some people they don't want to see you outgrow that old version of you, they like you being in that old version of you because some people look at it as a form of uh superiority, you know, they feel like they're higher than you, they feel like they can talk to you any kind of way, mishandle you, talk down to you, demean you. So people expect the old you, and it's hard when you've outgrown that version of you. And also, why is it hard because you feel guilty? You may feel guilty for demonstrating and displaying the new version of yourself. You may feel guilty. Why do you feel guilty? It could be various reasons why you may feel guilty, but yeah, you may uh feel guilty because now people are seeing another side of you, another facet of you. And I say this all the all the time. There are different facets of people's personality. There's different facets. You have you have, you know, you have different facets to your personality. People should not expect to see the old you in every situation, in every circumstance. There are different facets to human beings, period. So when you sh when you're showing a different side of you, or you're showing a new and improved side of you, some people can't handle it because they like the old raggedy, ratchet version of you, you know, to put it mildly, they like that raggedy version of you because, again, they can display a level of superiority over you when they see that, and they could talk to you in any kind of way when they see that. What is the shift? So the shift is outgrowing people doesn't make you wrong, it makes you aware. When you outgrow people, it doesn't make you wrong, it makes you aware. You are aware of your circumstances, you are aware of your environment. So when you're fully aware, now you can act accordingly. You don't have to tolerate certain things, you don't have to feel guilty about you know displaying a new mindset or or show uh showcasing a different side of you that maybe people didn't realize was there, or maybe it was dormant for a long time, it's never been activated, and now you've activated this different side of you. So outgrowing people doesn't make you wrong, it just makes you aware. What's the homework? Because you know I love giving homework. The homework is, and again, I will keep keep continue to emphasize this in my previous um episodes. I've always stressed the importance of getting journals because journals is just a it is a uh a pathway of your life, it is a it is a a written account of your life over the years, your thoughts, your feelings, your experiences. So getting an inexpensive journal or journals, set of journals that you can find at any major retail outlet, you can get an inexpensive set of journals, and a lot of the journals that are being being sold in stores, they're beautiful, beautiful journals. We have some journals that are open book journals where you have either blank pages or you have lined pages, pages with lines in them. You have journals where you have it's a zipper closing. You can close the journal if you want it to be, you know, private, you know, just you don't want people's eyes to be reading, picking up your journal, reading certain things in your journal. So there are multiple journals that you can pick up from major retail stores. So I I I would highly recommend getting a journal. Without a journal, it's really impossible to get certain things done through through this channel because I'm asking that you I'm asking that you reflect, I'm asking that you jot down, I'm asking that you observe, you note not only what's going on in your life, but also the reactions and responses of others. So back to the homework. So for this for this homework, for this particular episode, I want you to identify one outdated pattern. What is one pattern that you used to demonstrate that you no longer demonstrate? Maybe it's tardiness, maybe it is, maybe it's it's uh, you know, you have a sense of humor, but you don't know when to cut it off. You know how you get around certain people and they joke all the time. I mean, just constant joking. Sometimes it can be very irksome when someone does that. And I believe that when someone is all constantly, you know, in a joking mood, no matter how serious the situation is, there's there's always a something serious behind it. So you can't fool me when I get around people that are joking constantly, you know, in serious, life-threatening, you know, situations. I mean, just constantly joking. I really do think that there's something behind that, you know, the reason why they they continue to joke. So again, you're gonna identify one at one outdated pattern that you have held on to. You're gonna write it down, and then you're gonna replace it intentionally. Replace it. So again, if you're known as being the jokester of the family, then show the different side of you being serious, show that side of of your of displaying a side of seriousness. And I don't mean to the point that you know that you can't joke around. I'm not saying that, but if you're constantly joking all the time, people won't take you serious, and when you are serious, they'll laugh at you like I stopped playing because they always you've always been known as a jokester, so it's it's different when they see a serious side to you and they can't get past it. So identify one outdated pattern that you are currently either you have demonstrated or displayed, you know, currently or in the past, and then you're going to replace it intentionally. So if you're if you're typically known as a talker and you just talk, talk, talk, and you don't listen, you're not good, you're not a good listener, you love talking, but you're you don't like listening, then replace that with listening. Replace it with better listening skills. So rather than you leading a conversation, you're gonna let somebody else lead the conversation. You're gonna be quiet, you're going to demonstrate listening as opposed to talking. There are some people in our wonderful world who love talking, they love hearing themselves talk, but they don't like to listen to other people, they don't like to get other people's perspective because they think that only their perspective is the most important. They don't care about anybody else's, you know, when anybody else feels or thinks, they're only concerned about themselves, which is not good. So again, identify one outdated pattern that you are currently, you know, doing at this point and replace it intentionally. And then let me say this, and then I want you to replace it intentionally and just jot down, jot down your your experiences as a result of it. Not not just your experience, but the responses of others, and you don't have to tell people what you're doing, just do it. Whatever that pattern, outdated pattern that you have demonstrated over the years, just replace it and be quiet about it and just note what others are saying about it, you know, how people notice the difference or the change in you. So, in closing, I wanted to mention that growth requires release. You have to release yourself to be who you're who you have always desired to be. You know, whether it's a better friend, a better, a better spouse, a better sibling, a better, you know, worker, you know, co-worker, you know, whatever situation that you have a desire to to do better in, a better entrepreneur, a better mother, a better father, you know, it requires release. Growth requires release, a release of the old mindset, a release of the old habits, a release of the old patterns, and you have to get out of the typecast. You've been typecast, you know, in acting, there are certain actors that have played certain roles over the years that when they try to when they try to audition for another role, they have been typecast in the typecast in a in a previous role. Let's say, for example, if you have a a gentleman who is he normally plays mob figures, you know, he plays figures in the you know, mafia, you know, he plays the you know, the tough, you know, uh a typical Italian, you know, mafia figure type. And this time he wants to he wants to audition for a romantic comedy. You know, he wants to be known as this very sweet, charming, you know, older man. And people can't get past that that very hard criminal mindset because he's been typecast. You have to, I'm saying all of this to say you have to get out of that typecast that people have placed you in, that mold where people think you can't go beyond this. This is how you always do life. You've always been a jokester, you've always been super serious, you can't change, you can't pivot. Get out of that mindset, break that mold that people have placed you in once and for all, and you have to determine that. You can't allow somebody else to determine that because they are not you. You have to break that mold, you have to set a new pattern, you have to break the mindset so that people will stop seeing the old version of you, and they will, because you've outgrown that version of you, and they'll embrace the new version, they'll embrace the new and improved you. So that's all I have, guys. I want to say thank you for listening to this episode. I pray that these episodes have been of help and support. And again, like, follow, and subscribe and share it with someone who really needs this. So until next time, thank you. Bye bye.