Pass The Mic

In this episode of The Bond, we’re playing “Pass the Mic!” My mom and I take turns asking each other questions, sharing stories, and learning a little more about each other along the way. It’s real, fun, and full of those mother-daughter moments that make our bond even stronger.

Transcript

SPEAKER_01 2:56

Welcome to The Bond Beyond, a mother-daughter podcast where real conversations, real love, and real life means. I'm Rashida. I'm Cast Day.

SPEAKER_00 3:05

Here we talk about the Bond that goes beyond generations, beyond expectations, and beyond words.

SPEAKER_01 3:14

Today's episode is called Pass the Mic, where I ask my mom a series of questions. She'll ask me a series of questions, we'll answer, bounce off of those questions, and just have a deep and meaningful conversation.

SPEAKER_00 3:27

I love that. So who's gonna go first? Who's answering the first question? And we're going back and forth, like I ask, you ask, you ask, I ask. Okay, who's going first?

SPEAKER_01 3:35

Um, I will go first. What is something you intentionally did as a parent?

SPEAKER_00 3:42

Oh, that's a good one. What is something I did intentionally as a parent? Not raise you like my mother raised me. Uh, I love her. God rest her soul. Um, but yes, I did not want to raise the three of you like I was raised. I was an only child. I have no siblings, it was just my mother and I. And I felt as though the restrictions and things she had on me, I did things I shouldn't have done. Things I still regret to this day, unfortunately. I wanted to have a bond with you all. I wanted us to have a mother-daughter, mother-son relationship, but also have a little bit of a friendship when you guys were growing up, so that you could come to me.

SPEAKER_02 4:28

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 4:29

So that you could trust me, so that you could talk to me, so that you could share with me. Okay. I could not do and have those conversations with my mother. A lot of things were forbidden, a lot of things weren't talked about, some things I learned from the streets, which I shouldn't have. Some things I learned from the people who I thought were friends at the time that I shouldn't have. So I wanted to do it differently. And I'm glad that I did. You guys turned out amazingly.

SPEAKER_01 4:57

Oh, thank you.

SPEAKER_00 4:58

You're welcome, you're welcome. The other two, hopefully, they hear this. Um, and I think I have a great bond with all of my children, which I'm very grateful for and very fortunate to have, because not everybody has that connection with their children. So I wanted it to be different for us to be able to laugh, cry together, be real together, for us to be able to have those uncomfortable conversations. Um, and because that was one thing that I missed growing up. I could not have those uncomfortable conversations, they were just, it was not happening. And for us to be able to do things together, and for you guys wanting to do things with me, I'd never have to force you as adults.

SPEAKER_01 5:39

No, we like to go.

SPEAKER_00 5:40

Yes, to do those things with me. So that was a good question.

SPEAKER_01 5:43

Thanks for asking that. No problem. And then the tie on with that question, yes. What is something you're still learning about motherhood?

SPEAKER_00 5:51

Oh gosh. Wow. Okay, so obviously, from the time you give birth to you bring them home, or if you're listening and you've adopted, it's all the same, to the time that they are yours, guess what? You're always mine. Yes, you'll move on and grow your own families, have your own relationships, but it's still a revolving door. We're still learning, we're still adapting and everything because my relationship unfortunately has ended with my mother since she has passed. So I don't, I'm not revolving with her anymore and learning different things in that way. But with you all, I am. So I think like it, you're always learning from it. But side note, yeah, I love to be alone, and I I will never ever kick my children out, but I can't wait till I'm an empty nester. So we're all still learning because for me personally, I have two at home and I have one that's not. So learning to have that one away and still be able to have that connection with them, talk to them, FaceTime them, meet them for a meal or something, versus the people who don't have that anymore, who are sad to be empty nesters. I want to feel that sadness. I want to know what that's like for those people who don't have relationships with their children. I'm gonna pray for that person if I know who they are. Because I feel like we all need to have those relationships and be able to be in the room with our mothers, our fathers, our children. So it's a it's a learning thing each and every day.

SPEAKER_01 7:36

Yeah, I would, I don't know how I would feel if I didn't have a close relationship with you.

SPEAKER_00 7:41

It would be different.

SPEAKER_01 7:42

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 7:42

Only because we know what we have now. So I think that would definitely be different. And I always, the hard part now as adults, you were the only one that went off to college, and that's okay. Everybody has a different journey.

SPEAKER_02 7:55

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 7:56

I obviously didn't make you pay and do things because you're learning, you're getting educated, your little job you had was for your gas and what you needed. Yeah. So I'm trying to be kind to the other two to follow that path I gave you so it's somewhat fair and somewhat kind to them. For example, paying cell phone bill, yeah, paying car insurance, and everyone does it differently. And I'm not knocking anybody else who does it somewhere else, but you got a four-year break trying to give the other ones four-year breaks on doing things, paying things, and being responsible for certain things. So makes sense. It's always a learning curve. But thank you for asking.

SPEAKER_01 8:35

No problem. Never knew that. I'm glad I asked that question.

SPEAKER_00 8:38

Yeah, that's a good question. That was I like that one. Hopefully, you guys enjoyed it too. All right, passing the mic. It's my turn. What's your definition of a friend?

SPEAKER_01 8:50

Ooh. That's a good question because I feel like I only have a small group of friends.

SPEAKER_02 8:59

Okay.

SPEAKER_01 8:59

So I feel like a friend to me is someone that I can call, hang out with, share how I'm feeling about a certain situation, and give me advice on it. Okay. And just like always being able to check in on each other on both ends and like also celebrate each other's birthdays, stuff like that.

SPEAKER_00 9:18

You love birthdays.

SPEAKER_01 9:18

Yes, I do love birthdays. Well, I guess too, like my love language is accessor. Okay. So I just love love and like giving back to people. Okay. Like my friendships are value. I only have truly one best friend. And like I call her my best friend because we can literally not speak to each other for months, and I still know where we stand with each other.

SPEAKER_00 9:47

That's a good thing.

SPEAKER_01 9:48

And like we celebrate each other's birthdays, we talk, we FaceTime, text, stuff like that. But not every day, but like we always catch up from where we left off. We go to breakfast together. Sometimes we get our nails done, and just like we'll go.

SPEAKER_00 10:03

Well, sometimes you end up at the same nail salon. You don't even know you have appointments exactly because you'll come home and she was there.

SPEAKER_01 10:09

Yep. That was fun. Just randomly bumping into your best friend. Didn't know you had the same time appointment at the same salon. So it's just, I just value friendship too because you can pick your friends.

SPEAKER_00 10:20

That is correct. Can't pick your family, but you can pick your friends.

SPEAKER_01 10:24

Yes.

SPEAKER_00 10:24

So you say you have the one best friend. Do you have and you said you have a small group? So is there like, do you all hang out together? Is there a group or people you hang out with separately?

SPEAKER_01 10:34

We hang so she has like friends on her side, and then I have friends on my side, and we're like, we can come together with our friends. Like I remember one birthday party, I had all my college friends, and then she came, so they all got along. Like we can mix our friends.

SPEAKER_00 10:50

That's a good thing.

SPEAKER_01 10:51

Yes, because not every group you can mix your friends.

SPEAKER_00 10:54

Yes. Yeah. Sometimes you have to keep friends separate.

SPEAKER_01 10:56

Yes.

SPEAKER_00 10:57

And that's the thing, too. If that happens, then you have to look at it. Is it A or is it B? You got to figure out who that person is where you got to keep people separate because you enjoy the company, but putting the company together can be a lot. So your definition of a friend is someone who you can connect with, reach out to, you know, share good, bad, or indifferent, and things like that. Have you ever had a disagreement with a friend and been able to get over that, or did you lose that friendship?

SPEAKER_01 11:28

Lost the friendship.

SPEAKER_00 11:29

Lost the friendship. Gotcha. And how did that make you feel?

SPEAKER_01 11:33

Sad. I still miss that friendship. Okay. But I don't know if it will ever be restored. Okay. Because also it's type of thing I don't know what I did wrong either.

SPEAKER_00 11:43

Oh, okay.

SPEAKER_01 11:44

Like, because like I went off to college and never heard from them.

SPEAKER_00 11:47

Understood.

SPEAKER_01 11:48

Or like people would only reach out as soon as I got my license to drive places. Oh, let's go to movies tasks. Let's go here, go there. I'm like, okay. And that wasn't a friend. That wasn't a friend because other than that, like if we weren't going to a sweet 16 together, people slept over my house if we were. So like it was just like um like I was convenient at the time. And two, I had most friends while I was in school.

SPEAKER_00 12:12

In school.

SPEAKER_01 12:12

In high school. Because we were with each other every day. We saw each other every day. So we had a connection because that was a community we built being in school every day. Yes. But now that I'm outside of that community, I have one best friend and like friends from college, friends from work. And then I'm also getting friends from like being friends with other people I coach with and stuff like that.

SPEAKER_00 12:37

Understand. So when you were growing up, what did I tell you and your brothers?

SPEAKER_01 12:41

Everyone's not your friend.

SPEAKER_00 12:43

Because you guys would be like at the park, or we'd be so Mama made a friend! That's not your friend. Yep.

unknown 12:49

Yep.

SPEAKER_00 12:50

You guys would be literal. Like elementary school, and I'm just breaking your heart. It's not your friend. I was just like, it's just someone you met.

SPEAKER_01 12:56

Yeah, it's just someone you met.

SPEAKER_00 12:58

What are the the three categories?

SPEAKER_01 12:59

You say a coworker, an associate, a friend.

SPEAKER_00 13:05

Why you when you were little though, I would say a friend, a classmate, or an associate. That's what I would say. But no, that's fine. But it stuck with you. Uh-huh. And now you all know the difference. Yes. So it's that way.

SPEAKER_01 13:19

Oh, I met a friend today. I'm like, what's their name? Oh, I don't know. Yeah. Oh, so that's not your friend.

SPEAKER_00 13:24

Yeah, not your friend.

SPEAKER_01 13:25

Because it we're still people that I hang out with, it's still my age, they're still learning that some people still think everyone's everybody's their friend, and everybody's not your friend.

SPEAKER_00 13:34

They're just not. Okay. Anything else to add or to share with what the definition of a friend looks like to you?

SPEAKER_01 13:42

You know who your true friends are if you don't have to be in the same community as them. Because I feel like if you're not in the same community, then they're like, oh, there's no reason to speak to that person anymore.

SPEAKER_00 13:52

Understood.

SPEAKER_01 13:53

But like if they truly were your friend, you would hear from them. Oh yeah.

SPEAKER_00 13:56

No matter what.

SPEAKER_01 13:57

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 13:58

Yeah. Checking in on you. How are you doing? It's been a while. Yes. And too, we all have our different lives and we're very busy. So you can't be offended if you don't talk to that person each and every day or whatever. If they're a true friend, they understand.

SPEAKER_01 14:11

Yes.

SPEAKER_00 14:11

Because everybody's different with lives. People are married, have kids, their job is very demanding, or they could be going through something personal, whatever the case may be.

SPEAKER_01 14:19

And also, too, my best friend understands my busyness.

SPEAKER_00 14:23

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 14:24

Like if I like we plan time to hang out, we collaborate on our calendars. Yeah. Because some people get offended, oh, you're oh, you're so busy. Like they make it a problem. Yes. When actually, if they truly cared about how successful you're doing or whatever you're working towards, they give you that space. And like, oh, actually, let's put a date aside to go get dinner, go to the movie, stuff like that. Then they truly care because some people are like, oh, or they just make excuses. They're like, oh, let's hang out. Okay.

SPEAKER_02 14:59

Okay.

SPEAKER_01 14:59

And then it goes silent. Like you want to hang out, so you put the date together.

SPEAKER_00 15:04

Yeah. That I gave them. So yeah. Yeah, like I understand.

SPEAKER_01 15:13

Like when you actually put the time aside to put like to think about people and be thoughtful and put dates together, then some people don't answer. So it's like you say it, but do you actually mean it?

SPEAKER_00 15:24

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 15:25

Like your words hold value.

SPEAKER_00 15:27

Yeah. So no, I love that. Yes. That was a deep dive into the friendship. And I agree with you. I do. I agree. That's awesome.

SPEAKER_01 15:34

Okay, my next question for you, Mom. Okay. What is your favorite thing to do with your children, by yourself, or anyone?

SPEAKER_00 15:44

My favorite things to do. Yes. People probably think I'm crazy, but I enjoy volunteering. And I really do. I don't, it doesn't bother me. It brings me joy in so many different ways. My job is very big about volunteering and giving back, which I one of the things I love about my job. Um, so stepping into that was great. Oh, I have to put together an event where we have to volunteer? Sign me up! Who's coming? So, volunteering by myself or with my family or my friends, I do love because I I always pull people in with the things I'm doing. That's one of my favorite things. This is always a hard question for me. If I had a lot of money, I would travel more. But I enjoy traveling because traveling is fun, it's an experience, you get to see things. Um, but our what our travel looks like, I love traveling to the poconos with our whole entire family, even the dog, so which is fun. Um I enjoy the beach also. So I love going to the beach, whether it's with just you and I doing, you know, girls' beach, whether it's just with my husband and I, with us having our time. I've even done the beach with just the boys before, my two sons. So that's been fun. So it's easier to stay local to do the things with family because things cost money. Yeah. And it's 2026 and things are expensive. Um, and so I enjoy that. Some other my favorite things: going to the movies, eating good food.

SPEAKER_01 17:16

Always, yeah. Yes.

SPEAKER_00 17:18

I'm like eating good food, finding new restaurants. I'm not gonna say what the restaurant is, but put a plug in there that there is this amazing restaurant in Wayne. If you get this, you know our email address. You can email me and I'll tell you. But they have some good food. Um, excuse me. So, eating, movies, volunteering, um, of course, all those things. Uh bingo, believe it or not, it's one of my favorite things. Um, whether I'm winning cash or a bag or I don't know, swag of some sort doesn't really bother me. The one bingo event that I truly love to do are the ones I give back to the community in some way, shape, or form. So those are the ones I truly love to do. But local restaurants have bingo, the trivia nights are fun. Um movies at home or movies out, I know I've said that. I don't know. I'm not a I cook because I need to eat. It's not a favorite thing to do. But my family's favorite dishes of mine are the ones that have no recipe. That she just winks. Makeup on my own. They're always the best. Um, so yeah. And yeah, I don't know. Loving all my people is my favorite thing. Yeah, I don't know. I'm really easy to please. I will say birthdays, yet again, I love celebrating myself on my birthday, but all the other days, I focus on other people and do things for other people. I can care less if I get a Christmas present, but if you don't get me something on my birthday, I'm mad. And I'm very easy to please because I love cards.

SPEAKER_01 18:56

Cards, cards, get her a card, guy. She'll love you forever.

SPEAKER_00 18:59

Love cards. And to the card companies that are out there in the world that are listening to this podcast, you need to make it more affordable for me to download my cards into a book to keep forever. Because I looked into that and it's very expensive. So sad how expensive it is. But yeah, I guess I answered your question. Yes.

SPEAKER_01 19:21

Can you tell me your favorite things?

SPEAKER_00 19:23

Okay. The beach. Oh, tea.

SPEAKER_01 19:25

Volunteering.

SPEAKER_00 19:26

Tea?

SPEAKER_01 19:27

Yes.

SPEAKER_00 19:27

That's a favorite thing.

SPEAKER_01 19:29

I love tea.

SPEAKER_00 19:30

Yes, enjoy tea, especially it's cold where we live.

SPEAKER_01 19:33

Yes.

SPEAKER_00 19:34

Right now, so tea is that?

SPEAKER_01 19:36

Bingo.

SPEAKER_00 19:37

Bingo. Okay. Volunteering. That's another thing I want to do. So yeah, I guess. Okay.

SPEAKER_01 19:44

Do a lot of favorite things.

SPEAKER_00 19:45

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 19:45

It's good.

SPEAKER_00 19:46

When when when you're asked, that's kind of hard. Yeah. Then when you do it, you're like, yes. Alrighty. I've asked you one question. Here we go. Um, if you won the lottery, could be any amount, any amount, what would you do with it and why?

SPEAKER_01 20:03

That's a really good question.

SPEAKER_00 20:05

Lottery, money, money, money. Invested in a home. I want to buy a house, but then like I also want to invest because like in like so you want to be a homeowner of several locations so you can rent them out. That's the investing part of it. Yes. One you'll live in, multiples you'll rent out. Okay, so we're paying off debt, we're buying some properties. Okay.

SPEAKER_01 20:32

And then I would give to a charity. All right. A charity like that has helped. Well, like two, I like to volunteer. So ones that I've volunteered at so far that I know that what they're doing and their purpose is amazing.

SPEAKER_00 20:48

Okay.

SPEAKER_01 20:49

Um, and then with the extra money I would put into my savings, and then if people wouldn't, like my family members, if they needed financial assistance, I would help them with anything. Bills, car payments, stuff like that.

SPEAKER_00 21:03

Okay, I love that. Okay. So we're paying off debt, we're we're purchasing homes, one to live in, others to invest in. And then some of your favorite charities that you volunteered at before, you would help them and guide them. Okay, like no vacations, we're not going shopping, there's no splurge in there. Because I'm being real. If I'm winning money and it's like it's a big one, we're talking Powerball for 30 days sitting in there. I love that. So, because are you investing in stocks and bonds too, or are you just investing in properties?

SPEAKER_01 21:40

I would say um stocks. I would invest in some stocks.

SPEAKER_00 21:46

Okay.

SPEAKER_01 21:47

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 21:47

Okay. Are we going shopping at any favorite stores? Are we traveling? All my favorite stores are gone. Okay, understood.

SPEAKER_01 21:56

Like, would I like to shop at are gone?

SPEAKER_00 21:58

So you'll be shopping online. Then, yes, shopping online, and then from shopping online, you've gotten some clothes. Now are you traveling? Yes. Okay, all right. So to recap it, we've won the lottery in TAS today is paying off debt, living our best life, living debt-free. Then we're buying a home. And oh, I already know you want land on that home. Yes, yes. Yes. Because the business that you own, you would the land will be helpful. Yes, it will be. Okay. So we are paying off debt, we're buying our home. Once we buy our home, we're gonna get some investment properties. So that that rent comes in, that's residual income.

SPEAKER_02 22:38

Yes.

SPEAKER_00 22:38

Love that. All right. Then we're helping out a charity, local places and everything that you have and all that stuff. And with those local places, you're donating time, money, and effort.

SPEAKER_01 22:49

Yes.

SPEAKER_00 22:49

Then we're shopping online, getting some clothes, yep, shoes, some skincare products. Yes. All the things.

SPEAKER_01 22:57

Skin care products.

SPEAKER_00 22:58

Yes, yeah. There we go. We're talking about the things we love. Here's the thing. I love that you're being fruitful, as we would call it. To spend your money wisely, but why not just sprinkle on a little fun?

SPEAKER_01 23:08

Yeah, I have a hard time doing that.

SPEAKER_00 23:10

Yes, sprinkle on a little fun. And then traveling somewhere somehow.

SPEAKER_01 23:14

Yes. Okay.

SPEAKER_00 23:15

Alrighty.

SPEAKER_01 23:16

Traveling, being fun.

SPEAKER_00 23:17

Okay. Alright. If you won the lottery, that's what would happen. I love that. You're laughing at yourself? Yep. Because that was a hard question.

SPEAKER_01 23:26

That was a hard question because when you have money, I'm like, uh, when you have a lot of it. It's like I would do smart things with it. Yeah. And then I guess shop and stuff. Yeah. I don't really need any more clothes. Yeah. My next question for you, Mom. Okay. What is our funniest memory together?

SPEAKER_00 23:52

Okay. Kalahari. Kalahari. I don't what year was that? I don't know. Because everyone was still in school, I feel like.

SPEAKER_01 24:01

I feel like it was 2015.

SPEAKER_00 24:04

Now I'm gonna want to look back at pitch place only because that's where we were. So it is an indoor family water park in the Poconos. That's where the location that we go to. Obviously, people can go to other areas because it's everywhere in the world. And we're leaving. And we come out of the bathroom. My husband, well, he wasn't my husband at the time. He's your boyfriend. My boyfriend. Husband now. He was out in the lobby area, and the boys were out in the lobby area, my two sons. And I think Tasse was already out. I'm coming out of the bathroom. We both see this person who is dressed very comically to us. Because one, we're in the poconos. So, like, you're not coming from France. Nope. You're not coming from Russia to come there. So we know this person is just not from this country because of the way that they're dressed. We look at the person, we look at each other, we lose it. We lose it because the way that it's a water park. Why are your swim trunks all the way up to your chest? If you're a boy, and we can see that, and I know it's 2026, but obviously the way this person was dressed identified as male.

SPEAKER_02 25:22

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 25:23

And they have their swim trunks up all the way up. I don't know what that just sounded like, and I'm sorry. All the way up to their chest. We lost it. We were laughing so much. We were crying so loud. We're crying, our stomach hurts, and my boyfriend at the time, which is now my husband, my two sons, they're looking at us like we'd have lost our minds. Lost our God-loving minds. Lost our minds. And it went on probably for about it felt like forever. Probably good five ten minutes, it felt like it was long. Because we stopped looking at each other, and then we would look at each other again and lose it again. But that that trip that we went to, it was the best trip by far. We've been there several times, but the best trip by far because we did an escape the room there too. And I'm cracking up laughing because nobody, nobody, nobody was doing the right thing. The boyfriend was getting frustrated. The older son was just like, I don't know, this is what it is. The younger son thought he knew all the things to it, so which was hilarious. And Tasse Day's sitting down, I'm sitting down, we're just laughing. She gets up at one point to help them get out of the room. It was just, it was just a fun trip overall. And funny thing is, we ran into people that were there that we didn't know that were gonna be there. But it was hilarious, the whole trip. So that's one of like the best memories of just Tasse and I laughing, but like there's more just, I don't know, um, I can't think of the word, but just more other memories that we have with traveling together. She's come to work trips with me before. Um, we recently did a girl's trip to Nashville, Tennessee. We've been to Las Vegas, Nevada together. Um, so there's been things that we have just done with just the two of us. She's come to Atlantic City with me on work trips. So there's things that we have done together that have brought great memories that we can last forever. But to me, that was just the funniest.

SPEAKER_02 27:30

Yes.

SPEAKER_00 27:30

And that will be something that I'll always remember. That I don't I would love to go and like experience that again, but I know it won't happen. But yeah, that was just one of the best. One of the best. Did I answer that question right? Yes. One of the best.

SPEAKER_01 27:48

As soon as I wrote that question, I thought of that.

SPEAKER_00 27:50

One of the best. One of one of the best. Alrighty. What's your biggest challenge being gluten-free? If y'all didn't know, now you know.

SPEAKER_01 28:00

I would say like food in general. Because I'm a foodie. I love food. Like before I became gluten-free, like I would eat pasta, pizzas, like coogies all the time, stuff like that. And then when I found out I was gluten-free because of health reasons, then I was like, oh man, like I can't enjoy those things anymore. And so, like, when we go out to eat and stuff like that, all I could really have was salad. Like salad? I'm like, I'm forced to just eat salad. Like, you have to be in a mood for salad. Like, salad's just not something that I could just enjoy every day. But once like I got the hang of it and found like specific pastas I like, different breads I like, because now 2026, there's so many different options that I could eat and enjoy, and I just get so excited every time I find something I really enjoy.

SPEAKER_00 28:58

I feel like the when it first started for you, it was really, really hard. It was stressful. Yes, because one, it wasn't that big in our area, and two, what was available you didn't care for. And like you said, the restaurant options were limited. Yes, very, very limited. To just salad, pretty much. Yeah. Or can I have a burger without the bun?

SPEAKER_01 29:21

Yes.

SPEAKER_00 29:21

Yes.

SPEAKER_01 29:22

So then people didn't have the lettuce.

SPEAKER_00 29:24

Yeah, because they have shredded lettuce, not chopped.

SPEAKER_01 29:27

Oh, can I have a lettuce wrap instead? And they're like, we don't chop our lettuce. I mean, we shred our lettuce. We only have shredded lettuce. I'm like, okay. How now in 2026? I am loving it. It is the best thing. Like it's such a best thing that people don't even know half the time they are eating gluten-free stuff until you say, Oh, that's gluten-free. They're like, oh.

SPEAKER_00 29:52

Yeah, we have a secret from the youngest one about something gluten-free.

SPEAKER_01 29:56

But we're gonna keep that secret. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 29:58

So one day he's enjoying something that is gluten-free and he doesn't know it. So yeah. But once we tell him, it'll be nasty. Yep. But he's enjoying it. So yeah.

SPEAKER_01 30:09

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 30:10

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 30:11

Yep. Because I could now I can have anything I want. Cheesesteak, if I want pizza, pasta, all of it.

SPEAKER_00 30:19

More restaurants. If anybody owns or works in a restaurant, please have gluten-free options. You'll make more money. People just do it to do it. Because some is a preference, some is allergies, some is health reasons, whatever. But I feel like if restaurants have more of those options, you'll have more business. Because when you go there, they have pizza, they have cheesesteaks. But do you have rolls? No, we don't have gluten-free rolls. So, like you can go out there and buy those things now. Spend the extra money, even if you're charging an upcharge. Two or three dollars restaurants should all be on the same page. Yes. Um, the pasta has gotten better at some Italian restaurants.

SPEAKER_02 30:57

Yes, it has.

SPEAKER_00 30:58

Um, and local bakeries too. Oh, there's a bakery in an area that she loves. Um, we'll definitely share those things via email too. Um, that she's found. And when we go, she stocks up because it's not around the corner, of course. So that one needs to expand. If it expanded, they would do really, really good. Really good. Alrighty. Oh, I asked you.

SPEAKER_01 31:22

Yep. Okay, my next question. If you were in a reality show, oh, that'd be fun. What would it be called?

SPEAKER_00 31:32

If I was in a reality show, what would it be called? The game of life.

SPEAKER_01 31:40

That's a good one.

SPEAKER_00 31:42

Because I started as a single mom. I am married now. Um, my children are grown now, they're adults, so it was it was the game of life. Rolling the dice, driving down the road, sometimes walking down the road, um, going home, sometimes going to other places because there was no home. Like literally the game of life. If I had to share my whole life story, oh, it's a lot. So I would say the game of life, it was a reality show. From the beginning to now, um people would have been crying with me. Um, I definitely would have had an I already do and still do, um, amazing support system. But if it was being taped, I would have a bigger support system.

SPEAKER_02 32:27

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 32:27

And two, so the reality show, the game of life, I wouldn't want to like make any money from it because I wouldn't want to change what I currently have, if that makes sense. Yeah. So yes, record me, follow me, but I want to still go through the struggles I went through, still go through the ups and downs that I went through so I can be where I'm at. Because if it started from the beginning, obviously people make money from that, I would want to leave out that part and just watch me grow. Yeah. So yeah, the game of life. I like that. That's a that's a good one. I'm so sorry about this, everybody with a little cough there. Alrighty. What's on your bucket list? Where do you want to go? Who do you want to see? I know you love concerts. Um, what do you want to accomplish? I don't know. What's on your bucket list? Name at least three things. Three things are on your bucket list.

SPEAKER_01 33:22

Is to open more businesses.

SPEAKER_00 33:26

Make yourself go more crazy. Sounds like a plan. That's great, but that's your bucket list.

SPEAKER_01 33:31

Yeah. Because I always, in the back of my mind, I always wanted to be an entrepreneur. Like my goal was to always be able to support me and not having to like depend on someone else.

SPEAKER_00 33:42

Having a boss. Yes. Having someone to report to. Yeah. So that makes sense. So open more businesses. How many businesses do you currently own right now?

SPEAKER_01 33:50

One.

SPEAKER_00 33:51

One. Legally. One. Yes, one. But aren't you starting another one this spring? Yes. Okay. And you're working on that. So let's put it into fruition. You own two businesses.

SPEAKER_01 34:02

I own two businesses.

SPEAKER_00 34:04

Okay, and you want more. How many more do you want?

SPEAKER_01 34:06

I want one more.

SPEAKER_00 34:08

Just one more. Okay. Love that.

SPEAKER_01 34:09

So three. So you'll have three. Okay.

SPEAKER_00 34:11

I love that. Okay, bucket lists. More businesses.

SPEAKER_01 34:14

Yes.

SPEAKER_00 34:14

Alright.

SPEAKER_01 34:15

And then I guess, like, I want to travel to more places.

SPEAKER_00 34:25

Okay. Do you have certain places that you want to travel to?

SPEAKER_01 34:30

Yes. I want to go to Arizona.

SPEAKER_00 34:32

Okay.

SPEAKER_01 34:33

Because I want to try all their gluten-free options. Okay. Because that literally that's a date is pretty much every restaurant is gluten-free.

SPEAKER_00 34:40

Okay.

SPEAKER_01 34:40

Um. And then I also always wanted to do like somewhere tropical. Like Bora Bora was always on the back of my mind. Nice. Or like also I really want to do Belize or like Indonesia, like one of those. Like just like to and like to be to see another culture. Okay.

SPEAKER_00 35:00

Like in just so back to that lottery money. We're going on these trips.

SPEAKER_01 35:04

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 35:05

Okay. Alright. Glad you got something on your list. Love that. Alright, so open more businesses and travel. And you do have some locations on your bucket list. I love that. Anywhere else in the states, though? You said Arizona. Is there any other?

SPEAKER_01 35:18

Yes. I want to travel all 50 states. Okay. I have a magnet that I've been coloring in. Okay. When I visit certain states. And I've been to six so far.

SPEAKER_00 35:27

Six so far. You've been to one probably multiple times.

SPEAKER_01 35:30

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 35:30

Florida.

SPEAKER_01 35:31

Yes.

SPEAKER_00 35:32

That's the easiest one to get to. Yes. Okay, so Arizona. And then is there another one in the states? I know you want to go to all 50, but Arizona.

SPEAKER_01 35:42

I want to do um Colorado. Okay. I also wanted to do um California. Oh, okay.

SPEAKER_00 35:54

Okay. Alrighty. I like that. You will be in Ohio this summer. We have a trip planned. So you've never been there. It'll be my second time. No. Yeah, second time there. So yeah. Okay. I love that. Hawaii. Yes. I don't know if that's on my bucket list, but I definitely want to experience that, hopefully. You need a lot of time for that one. A lot of time. Alright. Is this my last question?

SPEAKER_01 36:24

Yes. Okay. Okay. Well, I kind of had two, but I'm gonna go to the one. If you could go anywhere in the world, where would you go?

SPEAKER_00 36:36

Oh, that's funny. Okay. We keep kind of asking each other that. Well, mine were different, but yours led up to that. Yes. If I could go anywhere in the world, so in the states, I would love to do Arizona. Um there's not, yeah, Arizona, because I've I've been to California, I've been to Florida, I've been to Ohio, I've been to Nevada, um, I've been to Georgia. I'm trying to think. Like, I'm not a TikToker, so I don't follow a lot of people to go to many places or anything like that. Um, New Jersey and Delaware and Pennsylvania. Woohoo! Um, so yeah, Arizona, only because of the spas, because one of my favorite things is to relax. I can't think of any other in-state places right now.

SPEAKER_01 37:28

Okay.

SPEAKER_00 37:29

But Jamaica is on my list.

SPEAKER_01 37:31

Ooh, yes.

SPEAKER_00 37:32

Bahamas is on my list. Um, St. Martin is on my list. Um, there are some nice resorts deeper in Florida that I wanted to go to. So forgot about that, but just remembered. But yeah. Um, Italy.

SPEAKER_01 37:50

Ooh, yes.

SPEAKER_00 37:51

I would love to do. I would love to do Greece. Yes.

SPEAKER_01 37:54

But you have to say Greece.

SPEAKER_00 37:56

Greece. Yeah, Greece, Spain, um, England. So, yes. So, there's there's a lot of places that takes money. Yes, that takes time because that's not a long weekend trip. I'm good for you know, a Thursday to a Monday. Um, but yeah, they take weeks and things like that. So hopefully. Um, I wouldn't be sad if I never reached those places, but you know, I would love to be able to go to those places. So yeah. Love that. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 38:24

Travel Queens.

SPEAKER_00 38:26

Yeah. So yeah, I'm like trying to think. And it all depends. I don't mind coldness and I don't mind warm. But if it's cold here, I want to go somewhere warm. If it's warm here, I would love to go somewhere cold to feel those differences. I am doing my first cruise this summer. Duh. Um, my cruise is going to um Bermuda.

SPEAKER_01 38:45

Okay.

SPEAKER_00 38:46

So that's fine. Wasn't on my bucket list by any means. I wanted to try a cruise out, and that's what worked. So we'll sing. All right. Your last question.

unknown 38:55

Okay.

SPEAKER_00 38:55

What are you most proud of?

SPEAKER_01 38:57

Ooh. That's okay. I would say I'm most proud of being the first generation of my family to go to college and complete it. I would say that.

SPEAKER_00 39:11

I'm proud of you too for that.

SPEAKER_01 39:13

Um, that's my most proudest one because college is not easy.

SPEAKER_00 39:17

Not built for it.

SPEAKER_01 39:18

Not cheap. Um I would say buying my first car.

SPEAKER_00 39:26

Nice.

SPEAKER_01 39:27

Hopefully soon be buying my own house. Um, but yeah, I feel like college was my most happiest achievement. And then also starting my own business as well. Yes.

SPEAKER_00 39:42

Yeah. Because that's a lot.

SPEAKER_01 39:44

Yes.

SPEAKER_00 39:44

And you you did it.

SPEAKER_01 39:46

Yes.

SPEAKER_00 39:46

You pushed through, you did amazingly. It's a lot. It it's not easy. No. Starting anything and following up with anything or doing anything. So, no, that's awesome. This was fun. Passing the mic and asking questions. We're just gonna ease into our Bomb Beyond podcast because we want you all to get to know us. Yes, uh, we want to have relationships with you guys, um, and also for you to just listen and just be invited. And it feels like you're sitting at the table with us or in the living room with us, or just in the car traveling with us. So we love that. So we want you to know that you were loved, you are valued, and you are never alone. This is the Bond Beyond where connection goes deeper than words.