Dating Life for a Flight Attendant, Does it exist?

Dating at 35,000 feet isn’t all romance. Joshua, Michelle, and Darion unpack the real highs, lows, and red flags of love as a flight attendant—where distance, trust, and timing mean everything.

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SPEAKER_00 0:00

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SPEAKER_01 0:29

Hey, hey, y'all. Good morning, good afternoon, good evening to whoever's out there from wherever part of the world you're in. Welcome back to Jumpseat Chronicles.

SPEAKER_00 0:41

Welcome back, y'all.

SPEAKER_01 0:42

What's going on? Miss y'all. Of course.

SPEAKER_00 0:44

Miss G2.

SPEAKER_03 0:45

Always glad to be with my two faves.

SPEAKER_01 0:49

Um, today we're opening the flight deck door for those of us who want to join us in the sky. So we got going to introduce our host, of course. Who we got rid of.

SPEAKER_00 0:58

Josh. I'm still Michelle.

SPEAKER_01 1:02

These lips, girls. These lips is giving, mama. The lips is giving. Okay, you might make me want to jump tea, girl. Delicious tea. And I'm Darien, of course. What's going on, y'all? How y'all doing?

SPEAKER_03 1:14

How's your week been? Everything is great. I have no complaints. Summer is upon us. And you know, I'm enjoying every bit of it. And being in Chicago this time around, it's just wonderful.

SPEAKER_01 1:30

In Chicago, summers are unmatched. I mean say, and I'm not just saying that because I'm from Chicago, but I am. But it's the best summer. That's the best time to be in Chicago. It's always something going on. The weather is something going on. It's a festival every day. Yeah. It's a food festival. The food. It's plenty of places to go. The water, the lake.

SPEAKER_03 1:46

A list the other day. Um, and it was talking about how New York's number one, Chicago's number two. I think I can't remember who was number three, and then four was New Orleans. I'm sorry. Even though that's a great list, New York would never be number one for the next one. Never. No. New Yorkers even have even admitted Chicago's above them, but we're not gonna go there. Like, I think Atlanta's food scene is even better than New York's. Uh, but Chicago's always gonna go down as number one. I don't feel nobody say. Sorry. So not up for debate.

SPEAKER_00 2:13

Well, I mean, y'all know I'm gonna shout out my hometown Detroit. Detroit! You know, I can't wait to go back home and eat my way through the city. I already know. So next time y'all see me, if I come, if I come back and I'm looking a little thicker around the face.

SPEAKER_03 2:30

You know you be on that Peloton. I ain't even trying to hear.

SPEAKER_00 2:33

Listen, I I already said I'm gonna be on that Peloton, but if I come up, come back and I'm a little thicker round the cheeks, y'all know I've been eating. Y'all know I've been home eating. But I mean, I love our food. Yeah, you know, and I think it's something about that midwestern life, that midwestern food. I don't know if it's because, you know, what we put in if you know a lot of our people, you know, migrated from the south and they took some of that southern north and you know, they turned it and made it into their own. But I love a good Chicago summer, I love a good Detroit summer summer. You know, I think we both have you know a lot of similarities in what we do for the summer. It's just something about just being up there in the summer. It's not too hot, it's not too cold. We it's just it the temperature is just right, and it's just it's so much fun throughout the summer. So, you know, I mean, I'm coming to visit you, you know. You know, I already said it, you know, have my bedroom ready.

SPEAKER_03 3:20

So you're gonna get on on the water, absolutely. I I'm I'm ready for a yacht expensive.

SPEAKER_01 3:25

Yeah, and it's so easy, it's so easy to get on the boat, get on the boat out there. Like I tell people all the time, all you gotta do is look it up, and then you can rent a boat for four hours and go down that lake and just have a good time.

SPEAKER_00 3:33

Don't threaten me with a good time.

SPEAKER_01 3:34

Not jumping in the boat.

SPEAKER_03 3:35

Let's let's be let's be clear. No, not jumping in the water, like y'all can have that. Um not gonna do that.

SPEAKER_00 3:42

No, no, no. We're gonna be on the boat.

SPEAKER_01 3:43

On the boat, not in the water, and in the water, going for the aesthetic, not for the water that part. Aesthetic in the photo act. But yeah, I'm really excited for the summer. There's a lot coming up. Looking forward to Jill's got concert. I cannot wait. That's my girl. Every time I see her, it's a moment, an experience. And Jilly from Philly. That is my baby. I love her music, so it's gonna be the time.

SPEAKER_03 4:06

All right, but um and Philly's food sing. You're gonna enjoy her. Oh, it's amazing.

SPEAKER_01 4:11

Yeah, absolutely. That's number two for me.

SPEAKER_00 4:13

So you're gonna see her in Philly?

SPEAKER_01 4:15

Yes. I've always wanted to see her in hometown, I've never seen her in our hometown. I don't think that's gonna be crazy. And I know you're not gonna have no pictures because uh she does no phone policy this time, which I love because it's like being the moment. Yes, enjoy this, being transit to the moment she's she's uh creating for us and just have a good time. Yeah, everything gonna have to be recorded. So I actually appreciate her doing that.

SPEAKER_00 4:34

I love that.

SPEAKER_03 4:35

And even speaking of that, then we go. Um, sometimes when I've recorded things because I've not been in the moment, the only memory I have is whatever I recorded. Yeah. And I can't even like I'm like you see it, but it's like it still doesn't spark something in your memory to be like, oh, I experienced that because you focusing on holding the camera than actually being present. So I love that. I love that.

SPEAKER_01 5:01

Gotta be in the moment, y'all. Mm-hmm. So to kick off what we came here to talk to you all about, um, people are always asking us, how do you date when you're never home? So this this this episode will be about the day in the life of dating a flight attendant.

SPEAKER_03 5:17

I agree. Uh, because we did touch on the stereotype, but this part we can really give insight from our experience.

SPEAKER_01 5:26

In reality. Because the truth is, being a flight attendant, it it can make love complicated. It can because you're on the go often. You're you're not always home for the moments when they need you sometimes, but it's also still possible to have a very fruitful, strong relationship.

SPEAKER_00 5:46

Absolutely. So, you know, people have, I know we talked on it, I think in episode one, you know, how people have this I idealized, you know, version of what they think dating a flight attendant is. They think it's, you know, we're you know, we're off to these exotic fun places, you know. We jump out of a uniform and jump into some cool clothes, and then next thing you know, we're off. We're eating, we're, you know, snapping photos, we're, you know, on a beach somewhere, kicking it, and when in reality it it looks more like I'm out of that uniform, I'm in the shower, I'm washing off makeup, I'm ordering something, and I'm in PJs and I'm in a bed. You've just worked 12 hours. You trying to text whoever you are dating or talking to in the moment to just say, babe, I made it. No, I'm I'm tired. Can can I give you 15 minutes of my time? You calling a check on the dog or looking at the camera at the cat, you talking to your family, you trying to give somebody 15 minutes of your time because you gotta go to bed, you've got to be up in 12 hours or 11 hours, you know. You're thinking about the missed holiday or the missed anniversary or the missed birthday and trying to remember, oh, whose birthday is it today?

SPEAKER_04 7:01

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 7:02

Oh, was I supposed to call? Did I miss that appointment? You know, that's the reality of it, you know, versus the fantasy or the idea. And not all of us have tender or hinge or whatever date nap is out there right now. We're not all sitting in our hotel room swiping as soon as we land. You know, some are.

SPEAKER_03 7:20

So let's so let's let's do this. Let's get into like this because we're going to speak from our perspective. Yes. And I'm about to throw a wrench in the fire.

SPEAKER_00 7:31

Throw it, Josh.

SPEAKER_03 7:33

Are you all would you consider yourselves monogamous? Or are you a person that can date around, have multiple people, you're not trying to be locked down. What is your perspective on that? And even if you do have one specific person, are you open to being open?

SPEAKER_01 7:54

So for me, I personally, over the years, the older I get, the more I realize I can only handle one other personality. It's a lot trying to juggle. My friends, they believe in don't uh don't put all your eggs in one basket. No, my egg, all 18 or 12 of my eggs are gonna be in that one basket because I don't have the time, patience, or mental capacity anymore to juggle multiple people while dating. Um, I have to learn multiple different personalities, what your favorite things are, what your weaknesses are, what what triggers you. I need to focus on one person, and that way I can truly understand who you are, get to truly know you, become in tune with you, and try to create something. Yeah, and if that don't work, then I can date another person. But I personally cannot date multiple people. And as far as in a relationship, closed, because that open thing for for for moi.

SPEAKER_03 8:44

It don't work, it's yeah, uh-uh. What about you, Michelle? So for me, before you go dive in that, because I just want the people, you're gonna have to clarify because the people be wanting you out in out in the internet world, them little comments, yes, God, they be wanting you. You just got the red lip on the okay. You got the red lip, got the show like last when you had the arms out, you got the whole, like, come on. Okay, we need to do a Valentine's Day episode. Baby.

SPEAKER_00 9:12

We should have. We should have, right? But that moment has passed. Yes, yes, yes. Um, so for the internet world, I need one person. I'm already enough by myself. I can't handle 18 other people. So I need one person, one soul. I I don't have the, like Darien said, I don't have the mental capacity to handle more than one person. I beating No, I don't. That's just enough. I can only date one person at a time. And and I know, you know, you get that whole, well, you need to date around and date multiple people. I already, my, my schedule is already very limited because I I hold a lot of titles, we'll just say. And with everything that I have to do in life, the last thing I need to worry about is who is calling me right now.

SPEAKER_04 9:57

Yep.

SPEAKER_00 9:57

So I can only do one at a time. I don't do open anything but a door. So it has to be closed.

SPEAKER_01 10:06

Amen. And there's no judgments to people that are open. Get your life, have fun. If it works for you, it works. Congratulations.

SPEAKER_00 10:13

Yeah, I'm not judging anybody. If that is your life choice, girl, do it. Boy, do it. I love it. I love to hear about all the tea from everybody else's life. Girl, give it to me. I'm gonna sit and listen with zero judgment. But for me, that does not work because I need to have my focus linearly focused on one person. Tunnel vision. Now, if anybody wants anything else, hit my inbox. Ask me. I'll I'll give, but not in this format.

SPEAKER_03 10:40

So I just want the people to know are you saying your DMs are open?

SPEAKER_00 10:44

The DMs are open. Yeah, respectfully. You better be respectful. Hold on now. Hello. I'm telling you.

SPEAKER_01 10:51

You get big brothers over here that long play about this one. Hold on, we can't. You can't tell me.

SPEAKER_00 10:57

Oh, I can't say. I'll say this. All right. They like to fight.

SPEAKER_03 11:02

We come the midwitch.

SPEAKER_00 11:06

Okay. So um and I have those outside of the internet that like to fight too.

SPEAKER_03 11:10

That part. That part. But um I because I've already shared enough about my little relationship in past episodes, but um It's cute, yeah. Dating itself, I learned early on I can only have handle one person at a time. Because I did do the trying to and when we say date, like even communicating with multiple people.

SPEAKER_01 11:37

It can be draining.

SPEAKER_03 11:38

It oh over low. Because I when I was on Tinder, it was like sometimes trying to keep up with okay, how many times have I had the same conversation? Or how many times have I, you know, and then on top of working, like because people that you are interested in want to, and I have had to let people that do cross the line and we get serious, know that if I say I'm working, I'm not going to be texting you consistently throughout my day because I'm dealing with bing, bing, and and the poking and and the questions, and I'm dealing with all of that, and that's already overlow on my social battery.

SPEAKER_00 12:23

Um and now you and now you want me to sit there and cy.

SPEAKER_03 12:27

Like one of the things that used to like irk me was the the nuance of like little conversations that don't need to be had. Yeah. Like I get the oh hey, babe, just checking in. How are you? I can respond to that. And I say, you know, I'm good. How are you? We're good. Okay. Well, what did you eat for lunch? Okay, okay, okay. Hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on. That's just me. That's just me. That's just me. Everybody different.

SPEAKER_01 12:57

So but did you have cheese on the end?

SPEAKER_03 13:00

Was it good? And I know I know, you know, especially during that early dating phase, you trying to ask those questions and kindle that. Wait till I'm home, I'm off. But while I'm working, that and and the reason why I say that is because we really don't get breaks. Yes, they might in airlines, they might have time tried, you know, to try to set aside international. I know they have even sleep breaks and stuff like that. But for those of us that work like the domestic flights and such, um, we don't have like a lunch break where I can just sit there and dedicate time to talking to you or watch a movie or or do whatever, play chess, whatever the case may be. I because in the midst of me doing certain things or even texting, I got somebody coming up asking me a question. Is can is the bathroom or the laboratory is it free? Uh you know, can I get another drink? So that consistent overload doesn't present time for me to be okay with hearing what did you have for lunch? You know, what type of drawers you got on? I don't know. Like I'm just saying, like even sneaking up, like wait till I get to the hotel, we can have that conversation. But in the middle of my work day, yeah, that's just that's a little difficult. Those those little nuanced questions is what I'm referring to. Um and as far as open or closed, I am a closed person. Um, the one thing I will say, the older I've gotten in my dating experience, um I understand why certain people do certain things. Um, I know what works for me. And because I'm not gonna give too much. I didn't had some experiences, but what I will say is I'm a jealous type. And if I made you mine, hey, like I don't even want the talk of nothing. Yeah, you know, because even when I hear other couples that, you know, I have friends and stuff like that that they're in situations like that, um in open situations, and they say communication is key. I get that, it is key, but I'm not going to want to hear that you just had this good old time with this other person.

SPEAKER_01 15:27

Yes, and I wasn't going to want you to meet me.

SPEAKER_00 15:31

It sets something in me where I'm like, Yeah. I don't like that. No. I don't there's nothing about that.

SPEAKER_03 15:38

I because my mind instantly goes to compete.

SPEAKER_00 15:41

I don't share my toys.

SPEAKER_03 15:42

Like, I gotta win up the last one.

SPEAKER_00 15:44

I don't share my toys. This is mine. Now, when I'm done with you, if I'm done with you, then you can go out there and play.

SPEAKER_03 15:52

I feel like you and your earth the kit right now. Like the way you just said that, you was like, I don't share my toy. I feel like if you put a purr at the end of that, like hello, you wouldn't.

SPEAKER_00 16:02

Yeah, I I just don't. Like if I'm if I'm with you and you are like you said, if you're mine, yeah, you're mine until I'm done.

SPEAKER_02 16:10

This episode you giving it.

SPEAKER_00 16:14

Until I'm done. But if like if if I like if we're together, yeah, and you have said, okay, we're together, okay, then we're together. Don't play with me. And just know if you if if we're done, the way I can completely act like you do not exist to me, you can't come back a couple weeks later and be like, I had a second thought.

SPEAKER_01 16:34

Or have a third one and leave my lens.

SPEAKER_00 16:36

I don't I don't I don't know who who you are. The way I you never have to tell me that you know, have to, oh well, I I thought, oh, I'm so sorry. I don't know who you are anymore. Yeah, like there's no at this, you know, at this juncture, there is no back and forth. There's no revolving door. Revolving door has never existed in my life, even when I was younger, still trying to figure things out. And I think with this job, it has really made me really see the people, and we see relationships all the time. Like we're watching the people cheat, we watching the relationships happen and you know, happen. We've seen engagements, weddings, we've seen people go, and I've watched relationships like completely fall apart on the plane. Because you again, week a you can't travel with everybody. I've watched that happen too. We didn't seen people happy on the way back and can't stand each other on the way back because it's like ooh, oh yeah, those marriage covers up I or relationships. We didn't watch it happen, you know. So it's like, okay, I'm watching what I don't want to see happen, you know, in my relationship. Like, okay, make sure, you know, you hey, careful who you travel with and careful with who you give your benefits to.

SPEAKER_01 17:40

Hello, somebody.

SPEAKER_00 17:40

Because you can give your benefits to everybody.

SPEAKER_01 17:42

Because some people be trying to date you just for that reason, unfortunately.

SPEAKER_03 17:47

My best friend. Um, so after I got divorced uh in 2021, I instantly put my best friend on. And anytime I would get like get ready to date somebody, and we she was like, mm-mm. Until I know they're around for a good while, they're not getting these benefits and they're not giving up my spot to somebody that's only gonna last a couple of months. We need to know for the car that you see it's up in the stuck. Yes, and she was serious about that for because people are very temporary nowadays.

SPEAKER_00 18:25

Very temporary when they see our job and they go, okay, what benefit can I get from this? And the benefit they're trying to get is the flight benefits.

SPEAKER_01 18:31

Yep. We we we joke on the plane and say, marry me fly free, but we want the people that have the right intentions, and that's just like a part of it. But don't come over here trying to just get a free, you know, we're not doing that.

SPEAKER_03 18:42

And I can say in my dating experience, I have not had a lot of that, which I can appreciate. Those that I did date, whether it was short or long, I would never think that they came to me or started dating me solar solely because, or even I don't even think that was even an avenue or aspect of it, me being a flight attendant.

SPEAKER_01 19:06

In my younger years, I dealt with it. I did because I mean I'm being coming from since 19 years old.

SPEAKER_03 19:11

So even when you were other stuff, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 19:14

Yeah, like you you can imagine the type of people that you run into, especially when you you tell them what you do, and then they eyes light up. It's like, oh, here we go. But to keep moving on, because we we got a short period of time. What it for you all, uh as everyone will always say, communication is extremely important in a relationship. Let's talk about the our strength and weaknesses when it comes to communication. Because without it, we don't have a relationship. There is no dating. And I know for me, I remember you were just talking about the texting thing. I'm one of those people that if I have even 30 seconds, I'm gonna send a text, babe. How's your day going? How are how's just because I want you to know that yeah, I might be gone, but you can because of course we got texting in the air. I want you to know that I'm still accessible and I'm still thinking about you and that I'm still considering you, but I can't sit there and text you all. We're not doing that. But I will take a moment out of my time after we do drink service or you know, on a red eye ones, everybody sleep to converse with you because I want you to know that even though I am away, I'm still present. Because you can be present from 20 200 miles away. Right. And it's all about making time to communicate with that person to make sure their day is going good, make sure that they they did you eat today? Now I love that let me know you care about me. When you ask me, did you eat today? Yes, I agree. That to me lets you know you actually care about my health, my and my well-being. I love stuff like that. But I'm big, I'm a big texter, I'm a big when we get a little time in between uh a flight, FaceTime, how's it how's your day going? You good? Even if it's for a few minutes, just to let you know I care and I'm never, I always tell people, I'm never too busy for you. I reassure them because in this field, sometimes it can look like, well, dang, I ain't heard from you all day. Maybe I'm in the air. But if I got a little time, you will hear from me.

SPEAKER_03 21:04

And I'm the same, I am the same way in the regard of you're going to hear from me. Absolutely. Now, depending on how much of what we can talk about will always vary. I think the reason why I said the whole what you eat for lunch thing. Yes. But like you said, when I have delays, I'm FaceTiming. If if I know you're free and I'm free and we can talk, I'm FaceTiming, or I'm sending a little more text and having a little more dialogue. But, you know, in the middle of a flight, it's always gonna hit a little different. And I can appreciate the people that I've dated understood.

SPEAKER_01 21:42

That's what it's all about is a person that truly understands. They may not be in your shoes, but they understand your experience and what you go through with your job the same way we would have to do with them.

SPEAKER_03 21:53

And most people that I've dated, the one thing I can say, even with having benefits, I have always taken them on. At least one trip with me. And a work trip at that.

SPEAKER_04 22:04

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 22:05

I need you to see what I'm talking about. I need you to see that. And then when I say a work trip, like I'm I'm doing my role, you see the functionality and stuff like that. You see if I have time to really just stop and just come chit-chat with you, or that you are on a flight that you was barely able to get on because this is full flight. This is what happens. And so that has worked in my favor. Yeah. Um, especially early on in relationships of them seeing the way my life works.

SPEAKER_01 22:39

In real time. What about you, Michelle?

SPEAKER_00 22:41

Well, for me, I am big on communication and communicating with me. It doesn't always have to be texting because I'm not tied to my phone. You know, like that. Like I'm big on like quiet and silence. However, I'm a big, y'all both know me. I'm an AM. I'm a first thing. I'm a 4 a.m. Good morning.

SPEAKER_03 23:00

Yes, you are. God bless you. I've flown trips with this young lady.

SPEAKER_00 23:04

She is. I am a morning person, so you're gonna get a text from me at 4 a.m. when I'm up at 3 50, and you're looking at your phone going, Did this girl go to sleep? Yeah, but I'm gonna let you know first thing in the morning, you are on my mind. I'm gonna see that. I love good morning text. Text, you know, and you may not hear from me until 10 a.m. again, and you're like, but well, well, did she fall in an earth? No, I'm busy until 10. You may get a 10 a.m. Like, oh, you've been up since then? I have. I've been on a plane since then. Why were you up? You know, but if you text me back and it's like, oh, you up too? Okay, why are you, you know, why are you also awake? But if I don't hear from you for the rest of the day, you may not get another good morning text from me. Because ain't nobody, yeah. Cause ain't nobody not unless you unless you are deceased.

SPEAKER_01 23:48

Yeah, exactly.

SPEAKER_00 23:49

But I better get something before 12 noon hit. Because I know you didn't looked at your phone. Nobody is busier than me. I promise. Nobody's busier than me. And both of y'all know how busy I am. And to me, that's important to me because that means you see some value in my communication. If I'm up at 3 a.m., 2 a.m. sometimes, y'all know. And I can find time in my busy day to do this head of mine, do this face of mine, get up, be pressed iron, and be at the airport to greet the people. And I found time in my morning to text you, and you couldn't find space in your morning to text me before noon, and the next text message that comes through has to be from me. It won't be for me.

SPEAKER_01 24:31

I'm a firm believer if they want to, they will.

SPEAKER_00 24:33

Yeah. And I was just about to say that if he wanted to, he would. Have I cut off people for less? Absolutely. I'm very intentional about how I'm moving in this phase of life. So if I've cut you off, or oh, well, I think that's, you know, and I know we may get some people who are very, oh, your your cutoff game is strong. You have no idea. You have no idea. I just I refuse to waste my time on individuals who can't grant me the same grace and space that I give to you. And I'm giving you more time than I would give anybody else. It's too many men out in the world for me to be dealing with one who can't even give back a simple good morning text. Yes. Because I don't even care what you're doing. You better come back with a beep, beep, beep in front of a hospital bed.

SPEAKER_01 25:22

An ICU.

SPEAKER_00 25:23

I just I I I don't have like I don't have the energy to give to excuses from you know people anymore. I just don't have it to give anymore, and and nor should I.

SPEAKER_03 25:34

So another wrench I'm throwing in the fire here. Oh god. Have either of you uh dated as a flight attendant. Absolutely. I have to do that. Yeah, um, for three years.

SPEAKER_01 25:50

And it was great because you have someone who understands what you do in and out. They get it because they do the same thing. Okay. Um, it was great too because they were at an airline with a flexible schedule. So when we could all be off at the same time, we could both we all we could both be off at the same time to be able to make sure we had time to spend quality time together. Also, the great thing about that, well, babe, hey, I got um uh a trip and I'm going to Miami and I'm going here. Just come on a trip with me.

SPEAKER_04 26:20

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 26:20

Or meet me at my overnight so we can go to the beach and go have dinner, da da da. And they had the the not only the flexibility, but the benefits to just hop up and meet me somewhere, which is what made quality time very accessible and tangible because they had the benefits to just say, I'm come with you.

SPEAKER_03 26:36

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 26:36

And also when I'm tired, they understood why. It wasn't a well, you don't have to, I'm exhausted. I just was on a plane dealing with hundreds of people. When I get home, I might not be the most talkative, but they understood it because they are in the industry and they get it. So I am teen dating the industry, might be not the same company, but an industry because they truly understand your life. But also make sure that if you're dating someone that's in the industry, that that's not all y'all talk about. You know what I mean? Because you don't want to get off working and you still talking about work. No, have some time to think about the other things that matter in you all's lives, you know what I mean? And that's my experience was great. Other people, not so much, but I was I had a good experience when I dated a flight attendant.

SPEAKER_03 27:28

Oh God. I'm bringing it all out. You sure are told you wrenching the fire.

SPEAKER_00 27:35

You sure are wrenching the fire. My dating experience of dating a flight attendant was fine. Um would I do it again? Yes. It was good. It was good. I I would do it again. Um and I date in the industry. I'm not opposed to dating other departments as well. I've done that as well. It was the same thing. It was good. I'm not opposed to dating, you know, um with other companies as well. It makes it comfortable. You don't have to do all of the explaining. We have to do an episode one with city codes and where I'm going and the aviation terms and all of that. It's kind of okay, I'm here going here to do this and all this, you know. I can send terms without having to explain the whole thing. It's if I'm delayed or I'm this or there's weather or I'm stuck, and it's like, oh, oh, okay. Well, you get home when you get home. It's not, it's not a well, we had this plan or we had that plan. And and why don't you have this? And it's like, oh, I get it. Well, when you get in at 2 a.m., we can still go have lunch. We can go get burgers. It's not, well, I ain't gonna be up at 2 a.m. waiting on you. What do you mean you're getting in at 2 a.m.? I'll meet you at Waffle House, baby. Let's go. Yeah, it's like, it's like, well, what which which waffle house we want to? Hello. You know, it's not I ain't getting I ain't gonna be up at 2 a.m. What you mean? You getting on and it's like, okay, this is why I'm getting in at 2 a.m. You know, and it's like, okay, well, I gotta be up at four. I can meet you at 2 a.m. I might as well get up a little bit early and we'll go have breakfast. You know, and it's not weird at 2 a.m. while we both sitting here in a uniform at 2 a.m. eating Waffle House. You know, it's not you in pajamas and I'm in a uniform and people looking at both of us like, yeah, what's going on there? Well, you know, you know, what is the why? Yeah. So would I do it again? Yeah, absolutely.

SPEAKER_01 29:19

I like to hear this because what I have a feeling he's about to object to what you about to say.

SPEAKER_03 29:24

I I have never successfully, well, I've I've never been in a relationship with another flight attendant. Have I dated and had a great time with a few? Sure.

SPEAKER_00 29:40

Um I love your choice of words there. Okay.

SPEAKER_03 29:44

All right. And um, the one thing I have, I've I've dated a flight attendant supervisor before. But um that was that. And we were in a relationship, it didn't last too long. Uh, but hey, it taught me um what it taught me because each relationship brings experience. But I will agree, the one thing I would have hoped when dating a flight attendant, and it turned into something more as far as being in a full-blown relationship, it would have brought what you talked about and what you talked about, the the understanding. Um the reason why those didn't work, they just didn't work because they weren't, you know, my person. Your person. But um they were fun nonetheless because I mean, you know, you did have people where you where you overnight at tonight? I'm here. So that was always fun. But the flip side, like I said earlier, all my relationships, even down to my my um my ex-husband when we were married, he was good about coming on overnights with me and other people, but specifically him, the one thing I can't say, he didn't mind jumping on a plane and coming to an overnight. Sometimes that was also a bad thing because we got in some full-blown arguments on somehow. You gotta get on the plane and be I'll never forget being in Fort Lauderdale yelling up and down the yeah, the streets.

SPEAKER_01 31:22

Happened to me too in New Orleans. Oh, yeah.

SPEAKER_03 31:24

Never want to repeat that uh again, but those have happened. The one thing I will say, and I uh y'all can answer dating for me, which I'm thankful for my partner now, is security in us and being and and also not even in us, but being secure within themselves. Yes. Um my God, being secure in yourself, no, and I'm me as much as I say is the open thing and being um I'm the jealous type when it comes to that avenue, yes. But I also have the greater mindset that if you want somebody on the other side or somebody else can take you away from me, you want mine no way, go because one thing for certain too for sure, I ain't competing with nobody. With nobody nobody, nobody, I don't have to because the one thing I can say about me, baby, if you leave, there's still somebody else.

SPEAKER_00 32:30

Somebody else somebody else, somebody always somebody else.

SPEAKER_03 32:33

Somebody else lined up. Not saying that I have people just in waiting, but there's so many other people out here that will you that's when you know your self-worth. Yes, you know, you know that at the end of the day, I can still pull. Whether we're successful or not, while we together, we're gonna be successful and do the damn thing.

SPEAKER_01 32:47

But if not, if not, someone else will come along that's gonna value and appreciate.

SPEAKER_00 32:52

There's always somebody else.

SPEAKER_01 32:53

Always, always, but I I'm I'm also very big in a dating world. I love date nights. I love being creative, I like doing things, I'm very spontaneous. How do you all make time for date nights? Or if your person comes to you and say, I just booked something, uh, uh a concert or a date night here this day, and you might be working. So are you big on will you change your schedule around or are you flexible with them? How do you manage making sure you have time to date them?

SPEAKER_00 33:28

I am I for me, I am big on communication. So if you are letting like if we I'm big on communication, let me know. If I've if I've mentioned that I want to go see a certain person, I'm kind of basing my schedule on keeping that around that event clear. Whether you've done it or I've done it.

SPEAKER_04 33:50

So regardless.

SPEAKER_00 33:52

It's gonna happen, whether you do it or whether I do it. Because if I know there's a certain something I'm gonna do, schedule's already cleared around for that particular moment. And if you be like, oh babe, we're going to such and such, schedule's already done. So I'm always for me, and that's just a me thing, I'm always probably a few steps ahead of wherever. Now, if he knows my schedule's already clear and he's like, oh, well, this is open. Plan something for me. I don't want to have to feel like I'm always the one making plans. If I'm always the one making plans, then I might as well be by myself. So plan something for me. You know, I love an initiator. I love an initiator. You know, if I have to do things by myself, then let me be by myself because I already know the best way to make things my way is to do it, do it. And if I have to be the one doing all the things, then why are you here? But I love an initiator. Like initiators are fantastic. And how do I make it manage for my schedule? Just do it. I mean, if we're together, you already got my schedule. You already see you already see my days off. So put something there. If you want to happen, put something there.

SPEAKER_01 35:00

Yeah, I taught, I taught in my past relationship, I taught them how to read my schedule. Yes. So when I send it to you, you know, these are his days off, these are days he's working, this is where he'll be, this is when he has vacation, so that they understand. And I want your schedule too, because you may not be a nine, you may not have a nine or five weekends off. So what way we can make sure that our schedules complement each other so that we're not just seeing each other every few few days out the month.

SPEAKER_03 35:26

I'm different when it comes to that because my schedule changes when I move a trip around, and I don't need somebody in any of my relationships trying to organize and plan that. That's why communication for me is big. And also, um, nine times out of ten, my experience with that is I'm always still gonna get the questions of so where did you say you're going? When you know, when you already have that. So for me, I just learned too in the way in my current situation is I tell, like, you know, the time I'm leaving, you know, the overnights, even if you forget. I'm I'm calling actually when I'm on my overnight. Like we're fully talking. When I land, I'm land, hey, I landed at so-and-so city, meaning whatever the airport code is that I put in. Um, and that's that, and then we go from there, but because reroutes happen and stuff like that, and sometimes it's a lot to explain and a lot to go into. So for me, I just let me tell you when I'm ready to, you know, tell you how it's gotta go.

SPEAKER_01 36:37

So yeah, I I I'm a firm, like I tell people all the time if you make time for me, I'll make time for you. Of course. Yes, you know, of course. I'm a very big on reciprocation, so therefore, yeah, I do this job where I'm going a lot. But when I'm home, I'm home. When you need me, oh, I'll be there. If I gotta if something comes up and I got 24 hours to move stuff around, I will because you're important to me. And this relationship is a priority. And I'll even in the dating stage, I want you to know that I can be there if you need. Just give me time, give me because I want you to know that when things happen, I can be there. Sometimes I won't be able to be there. But uh if if I prioritizing this, then I'll make time right for whatever.

SPEAKER_03 37:20

So one thing that we do have in the notes that I do want to get to before we end is Dan, this went by so fast. It did. Um, but don't ever make I can't speak for me because I'm good in my situation. We already have had conversations and topics on some of this, but in any relationship, don't ever make me feel guilty about my career choice. Because I have been one time I was in a specific relationship, and they felt some type of way because I was in DR for 24 hours. Jealous. Jealousy comes in. And it's just like I'm trying to, you know, while I'm on my overnight, trying to talk to you like normal and stuff like that, but you can see and and feel it's off, and you feel some type of way because the must be nice.

SPEAKER_01 38:12

You ever get that? Yeah, must be nice. That's when you know why all the old children. Oh, here we go.

SPEAKER_03 38:18

Every every Snapchat or Instagram is I'm in DR. Like, just let me live. Yeah. But I'm still at work.

SPEAKER_00 38:27

Still at work. I'm not sure. I mean, my father got a job that allows me to enjoy this. I'm I'm still it doesn't matter. I'm still at work, but I'm still having a conversation with you. Don't, you know, don't be upset because this is what I chose to do for a career. This is still my career. I'm still at work.

SPEAKER_03 38:43

Because where's that same energy when I'm in in Lubbock? Where or gonna do?

SPEAKER_00 38:49

Or freezing my butt off in Buffalo in the middle of December, and you're at home and you know, you're at home, like, oh, it's nice here. Okay, thank you. I'm freezing my tail off. Can't go anywhere, it snows up to ring, or I'm delayed. Or somewhere just small airport or you're someplace stuck, or you've been working for 16, 18 hours and you slept all day, or you've stranded, you know, or you're stranded and you can't get home, or you're stuck, or you've had a medical, or you've had whatever happen.

SPEAKER_03 39:18

You know, they want to be there and understanding in those situations.

SPEAKER_00 39:22

And it's like, oh, I'm so sorry. Are you really, or are you, you know, secretly behind me going, that's what you get. No, no, it has to be the energy has to be the same when it's good as it is when it's bad. So make sure that you're not with a person who's secretly coveting your lifestyle.

SPEAKER_01 39:37

And you brought up early, being with someone who's secure in themselves and what they're doing. Babe, if you got your things over here in order and you're proud of what you do and you get happy in your life, you're not gonna be jealous of what I got going on. If anything, you're gonna add to it and be like, babe, I'm gonna take some time off so I can come with you in the next one because we can enjoy these things together.

SPEAKER_00 39:54

Yeah, and make sure you enjoy and get some and find out some rates and get the hotel's number because that's where we need to go for our next trip. That's the conversation I want to hear from you. I don't want to hear about, well, uh, I mean, you ain't asked me if I want to go. That's not what I want to hear from my partner. That's not what I want to hear. I want to hear, uh, you where? Okay, so what are you eating? Okay, send me a picture of that, or take a picture of the menu because that's where we want to go. Yeah. Or make sure you, you know, get some information about where you at. So, you know, or he's taking notes, or he's secretly taking notes, not you know, not telling me that he's taking notes because the next trip we're gonna go, that's where we're gonna go. That's what I want to hear. That's what I want to hear from you, or that's what I want to experience from you. You planning a trip, you know, not going, well, where are we going on your benefits? Why don't you buy a ticket? We shouldn't do everything, not saying that I mind, but that expectancy that it should be on your just because of the job. Full fair tickets, you know, you should be able to buy your full-fair ticket. It shouldn't always be, well, where are you taking me?

SPEAKER_01 40:50

Exactly.

SPEAKER_00 40:51

Don't do that as well.

SPEAKER_01 40:52

That's a huge turnoff because if I'm it on the other end, I'm not worried about your benefits. I'm doing this for us, so I'm gonna make sure this is already done. So you know that I'm not doing this for the wrong reasons. Absolutely. You know, optics. I'm going to make sure this is handled and I'm gonna take care of this because I don't need you thinking I need you for anything but to be present in my life.

SPEAKER_00 41:11

Absolutely. I I wouldn't do it to a doctor. I wouldn't be like, well, you know, just because you're a doctor, I'm not gonna stop seeing my doctor and start going to you because I have this that aches or this, that hurts, or this, that does this. I'm not gonna use you for your benefit, just like I would not expect for you to use me for mine. Okay.

SPEAKER_03 41:27

So we're gonna wrap this up, y'all, because we're coming to a close. We might need that for it too, baby. We might before we coming to a close, because Michelle has already laid the foundation. Her DMs are open with respect. Why open is closed? Be respectful, Darien.

SPEAKER_01 41:42

Open and closed.

SPEAKER_03 41:43

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SPEAKER_01 41:49

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SPEAKER_00 42:01

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SPEAKER_03 42:20

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