Healing Through Helping: How Helping Others Can Transform Your Life

In this episode, we explore the beautiful truth that helping others often becomes the very thing that helps you. Through two powerful story parallels, we look at what happens when someone chooses self‑sacrifice for someone they love, rediscovers their sense of purpose, and finds themselves healed in the process.

We also dive into the journey of someone who begins life feeling out of place — raised in an environment where they don’t quite fit, shaped by people who think and act differently. When disruption hits and everything familiar is shaken, they’re forced to relocate, adapt, and grow. Along the way, they meet others who look like them, yet they hold onto the values that shaped them. Their compassion becomes leadership, guiding others toward safety and hope… and in return, they find the very thing their heart has been searching for.

This episode is a reminder that:

• Serving others can reconnect you to your purpose
• Your difference is often your assignment
• Disruption can be divine redirection
• Leading others to their “promise land” often leads you to your own
• And every act of kindness plants a seed that eventually returns to you

If you’ve ever wondered why helping others feels so fulfilling — or how your own purpose might be tied to the people you’re called to serve — this conversation will speak to you deeply.

Transcript

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Hey girl, welcome back to the More Than Enough podcast. I am your host, Alexandra, and on this podcast, we encourage, empower, and enable you to transform your life to be the woman you need to be from the inside out. I'm very excited about this week's episode. The title for this one is actually going to be How Helping Others Helps You Out More Than You Know. So, for context, I wanted to mention that I recently saw two movies that were related but not related. So I randomly thought about the other one after I saw one. So the prefaces of the most recent movie that I saw was the storyline of an astronaut gentleman that had a family and he had a daughter that was sick. And in order to provide medical help for her, he had to go on like this spaceship mission uh mission to a different um planet. And so the whole preface of that movie was that he was sacrificing everything, he was sacrificing the time that he might have had with his daughter while she was sick to go and get you know money to be able to help her during the journey. And during that time while he was gone, that he missed the actual time of being with his daughter, she actually passed away. And um, during that time, also for the father, he crash-landed on some planet or whatnot, and he thought he was exiled, he was all alone, but it turned out there was another survivor that was a young lady that was about the same age as his daughter, and that young lady ended up being his sense of hope and reason to keep going on to find a way off the island because before then he was just accepting his fate just to pass away on the island. He didn't really have too much hope to try to survive or get back to earth because you know he knew his daughter had died. So, with that, I wanted to relate the context of like sometimes in life we can feel like we are sacrificing everybody, see excuse me, sacrificing everything for somebody that maybe you love, maybe it's a family member that you care dearly about, and maybe you're sacrificing your time away from that family member to be able to support them or help them or whatnot, and it's a battle for you, right? Or maybe you have a family member that you didn't get to spend a whole lot of time with, and maybe recently or in the past couple years it passed away, and you battle with that because you think, oh man, I could have spent more time with that person. So the prefaces of the movie was he battled with that a little bit, but the young girl that he came to, you know, rescue and help throughout the movie actually ended up helping him too, because there was times where he wanted to give up, but she was the motivation to keep going, keep rescuing her. Um, because the preface was that there was like some type of uh what do you call it, like a capsule that would transport them back to the planet that they're originally from, and that was your sense of hope. So there was a moment in the movie where the young lady was actually in the capsule, and she was about to, uh, or excuse me, both of them are about to head back to Earth, but like this dinosaur came and took the gentleman out of the capsule, and he was telling the young lady just to go, you know, launch the ship, forget about him. And she sacr she sacrificed her own escape to come back and help him, which um I thought was a beautiful analogy. So it also shows that sometimes in life, whenever you feel like things are falling apart, nobody's there to help you, maybe it's an unlike unlikely source that you didn't see coming comes and helps you in some type of fashion. Um, it's a beautiful thing, and that kind of reminded me of this other movie that I remember watching as a kid. Um, it was called like a dinosaur movie. So it was like, I think it was more like animated but kind of real life looking dinosaurs. And the story was that this uh dinosaur egg originally um I think it fell out of the nest originally, and the egg itself ended up into the nest of like this monkey or some type of, I don't know if it's a monkey, but um, some type of monkey type of species of animals that adopted the dinosaur and helped him to grow up and thrive and things like that. However, um something catastrophic happened that destroyed their sense of home life, and they actually had to move, didn't know where they were going, and then they ended up meeting um other dinosaurs that look just like the baby dinosaur, and that was his first time ever encountering dinosaurs that look like him. So that was such an interesting movie as well. Because that dinosaur was originally the adoptee of the family of monkeys, and then it flipped a switch to where the monkeys were now a part of this uncharted territory where they were traveling with other dinosaurs, and um the dinosaur main character was protecting them and covering them and things like that, and it was just such a beautiful story because not only did he help his original family, but he also ended up helping, you know, his dinosaur clan during their journey to like this paradise or protected land that they were looking for. Um, so it was nice to see that aspect being taught on the Disney level. So the main preface with that movie, why I thought it was a good correlation, was that it was just so interesting that some of us might feel like maybe we're not first chosen, maybe we are thrown aside, cast aside, and then we start our lives in an environment that wouldn't seem to be something that meshes well with us originally, if that makes sense, and then we grow accustomed to that life, and then something happens in our life that disrupts disrupts us, excuse me, and we're forced to move on and meet new people, get involved in a new way of life and things like that, new mindset, things like that. And at first it's so scary, and we are resistant to change. But the good story, the good thing about that story is once he adapted and learned how to adjust to the new clan, but still keeping true to his identity and not compromising him being a dinosaur, not compromising his morals, his integrity, his sense of family and oneness, he was able to again save not only his original monkey family, but also save the dinosaur clan as a whole. So, with that, I wanted to correlate how there was a commonality in a theme of how you could start off with hope, then you could have a loss, and then you focus on helping somebody else. And in that helping somebody else, you kind of find a sense of purpose, a sense of being, and then that person thing or whatnot turns around and helps you, and then you're both able to move forward in a healthy and great way in life. So that's kind of how helping others helps yourself, and in a tangible example, um, I would say it's just good to check your motives of why you're helping others. Firstly, make sure you're helping others first and not just out to get things for yourself, because whenever your motives are something like fame, you know, you want to be recognized, you want people to speak highly of you and look at you like, oh, you did this, or maybe it's for financial reasons to where you could be compensated, that type of push or motivation is not gonna last. And I'm speaking from personal experience professionally because when I started my career in real estate, it was originally about the income I could make and things like that. But once I changed my mindset to actually helping other people get into homes from that place, and honestly just having that be the end goal and keeping in the front forefront of my mind how happy they would be, how much in a better situation they'll be too. Because a lot of people I help, you know, are in bad, not bad, I won't say that. I would say they're in difficult maybe situations um of like renting or just living places they would care not to live and things like that. Um, it's such a blessing to be able to help them in that capacity because a lot of people don't realize, but with real estate, you're helping people during a very hard transition in their life. Like a lot of these people might be going through something personally, whether it be like marriages, divorce, um, widows, whatever the case may be, and you're there to advocate and help them transition into a new sense of their life through home ownership. So um, once I changed my mindset to that of helping others, it's just like these two movies I mentioned. It was like I helped them. They in turn helped me knowingly or unknowingly, and then we both got in the end a great, a greater reward than we ever could have imagined. So this week I just want to implore you and encourage you to make sure you think about how you are helping somebody else in this week, next week, this month, whatever the case may be, helping them from a genuine place, not just to gain something in return, but genuinely just helping them however you can help them. Um, and you'll be rewarded beyond your wildest dreams. So, thank you so much for tuning in. I hope that you are having a wonderful day wherever you are, and I look forward to serving you in the next video.