TELL ALL: PART 2

We're back, sisterhood, with PART 2 of the TELL ALL, the middle sister edition! And since I, the middle sister, typed this description, I get to spoil that this is the best episode yet. Gotta love the privileges of being in charge of uploading all this stuff. Anyway, enjoy <3

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SPEAKER_03 0:03

Welcome back to Three Ps on a Pod, where qualified or not, we're gonna talk about it. This is part two of our tell all. These are the things that I have.

SPEAKER_01 0:13

Period, period, part two.

SPEAKER_03 0:14

Yes. Um so I started at this school in fifth grade. Um actually I had to repeat fifth grade in order to here she is.

SPEAKER_02 0:24

She had to get held back.

SPEAKER_03 0:26

No way. Do not spread rumors on the cast. Tell everybody you know.

SPEAKER_02 0:32

Dominique Buford was held back in the fifth grade. Tell everybody you know.

SPEAKER_03 0:36

Um still not aware. I and I'm not. I fully passed my first year fifth grade. But the thing about it is um the year Brianna joined in sixth grade, they really only take one or two people. Like, but in fifth grade, they take like 30, like a whole chunk of people join in fifth grade, because that's the beginning of middle school at our school. And so they told our parents, they were like, Okay, so she can either try to get into sixth grade, which you know, her chances are slim, or you know, her chance will be really high if you just have a repeat fifth grade. And without consulting me at all, they're like, Yeah. We're gonna have a repeat. Yeah. So that's so funny.

SPEAKER_00 1:20

No, right, so I did respect. Tragic though, tragic, tragic.

SPEAKER_03 1:23

How can you consulting me at all? No, I was not. They just like sat me down one day. Like, yeah, so you're starting to get away.

SPEAKER_02 1:29

So you're doing this again.

SPEAKER_03 1:30

That's a crazy thing to hear. Hey, bud. Actually, I was like, oh, you remember this year? And then I think it also do with my age, too. Like, I was one of the youngest people because I was October birthday. Um, and so I also there was like a cutoff at age. Anyway, so whatever. Ended up being fine, found my best friends, you know, um, which I wouldn't have found if I didn't repeat. So whatever. There was some that really makes you think really makes you think. So, anyways, so a part of like a a big part of my journey at work bleep that bleep that bleep that just bleep it, just bleep it, just bleep it.

SPEAKER_01 2:11

That'd be so funny.

unknown 2:13

Just bleep it, just bleep it.

SPEAKER_03 2:15

So uh yeah, I'm gonna have to bleep that. But anyway, big journey- a big part of my journey at the school um was surrounding my hair.

SPEAKER_01 2:24

Yes.

SPEAKER_03 2:24

I have a lot of hair stories. I went, you know, I was yeah, so let's I guess I could start. Well, the the less interesting one is that like I wore two-strand twist for a long time. So from like seventh grade to 10th grade, just to like let my hair grow. Just let it grow and relax.

SPEAKER_01 2:44

They grew a lot.

SPEAKER_03 2:45

Your hair grew a lot. Um, so you know, when I first started wearing them, I looked like a little boy. I remember ever I remember that whole breakdown I had at Grandy's house. I remember Uncle Mark was there and he was like, You look pretty. Oh my god, I look like a little boy. Anyways, and so, but in like class and stuff, you know, because if you obviously like if you take the strand, the twist, and like pull it, it'll bounce back up, you know, because it's just the way it is.

SPEAKER_02 3:18

That's like physics, bro.

SPEAKER_03 3:19

That's right, that's that's physics, plus testing. Physics of black hair. Let's talk about that. And so people would literally just be, you know, I'd be in class trying to take notes, you know, trying to trying to be studious, trying to be studious, trying to get into college, whatever, and people would just be behind me boinging my hair. And when I say I specifically use the word boinging because they'd be also in my ear saying boing, boing, boing. No, like multiple people sick, they're so sick, and the teacher saying nothing. I'm like over here, you know, it it's probably because I said it's help, help!

SPEAKER_02 3:54

Boing, boing. What where are the teachers? What are the teachers doing? Where are the adults, bro?

SPEAKER_03 3:59

Where are the adults? And it was like seventh grade, so I've been there like going on three years or whatever, but still, like, I wasn't confident enough to be like to turn around and be like, stop, you know? Yeah, that's that's never been my personality, you know. Um, obviously now.

SPEAKER_01 4:15

Well, but honestly, I mean I can relate to that too. Honestly, like, yes, I am okay with confrontation, that's why I'm a trial attorney today. But I think again, when you grow up in that environment, like I was not like that in middle school for sure. Like, because I had other you know, comments being made. And when you constantly you're like one of a couple black girls, it's hard to feel confident and comfortable standing up for yourself when you're like 10, 11. Um, so I definitely can relate to that because it's yeah, I was just taking it.

SPEAKER_03 4:46

I was like, man, I hate this, and I just had to keep taking notes while somebody boys I'm like, Why are you trying to lock in?

SPEAKER_02 4:53

Like God forbid you try to do your classwork, right?

SPEAKER_03 4:59

So that was one of them. And then um the second one, I was wearing braids. I think this was it was still in middle school, so like first or second year of middle school. And obviously they had the idea that because the uh braid hair was not my own physical out of you know, out of my scalp hair, that if they yanked it, it wouldn't hurt. Oh. That's right. And what they said that to my face. They're like, does it hurt if I pull your hair since it's not yours? Again, uh yeah, okay. And I was like, well, yes. No, it doesn't dust. And I remember this one girl, so I just got my hair. And you know, I was you know I'm tender headed, y'all. If you don't know me, I'm tender headed.

SPEAKER_01 5:54

I'm gonna just really quick. Every time Domini got her hair braided growing up, when I tell you, we we would she would get back from the braid-in lady, and her head would be so like stuck out and stiff, and she would just go upstairs and go to sleep.

SPEAKER_02 6:06

No, actually, she would not she does not want to be bothered at all. You'd be like, Like, we got dinner coming. And she's like, shut up.

SPEAKER_01 6:14

Like, you just go in her room, like, oh, in our room at the time, and lay down and go to sleep. I remember I missed like somebody's like, Yes, graduation. I missed No, you missed, yes. You missed one of our close family friends' graduation who's like ding.

SPEAKER_03 6:30

I was like, I can't, I can't, I have to go lay down.

SPEAKER_01 6:36

So that's so that just tells you, like, that's you know, if Dominique had fresh braids, that's how she was reacting, okay? Right.

SPEAKER_03 6:43

So I came with fresh braids, you know, it's probably like it's probably I probably got it done on Saturday, so it probably was the Monday following. So it's been about two days. And this one girl was yanking my hair, of course, because she thought it didn't hurt. And I was like, and I and this was the one time I remember standing up for myself in middle school, because there were many times I did not, but this was one time I do remember, I was like, because I was fed up because I think all day she had just been yanking my hair thinking it was funny. And I it was like towards the end of the day, and I was like, if you yank my hair again, I'm gonna hit you. I know that's right. I know that's right. Look at her. That's funny. I like I you know, like if Dominique is standing up for herself.

SPEAKER_01 7:24

Dominique is saying that, especially at that age, oh you can't do it. That's how you know it's bad. Actually, that girl she was in danger, okay?

SPEAKER_03 7:31

No, like actually, that was something serious. It would take a lot for me to stand up for myself at that time. And I think I did hit her. I don't like I remember she thought I was joking, and I didn't take care. I was so tired, like my head was hurting, like she had been yanking my hair all day. And I was like, if you yank my hair again, I'm going to hit you. Exactly. And um, yeah, so that was the second story, and then the third story is more funny than anything. Um, but it just goes to show how little the the school, the administrators, the other students knew about our culture and our hair and just like the small things, you know. Um, so at one of the dances this story is so tragic to me. At one of the dances um that we had, there was a braid in the middle of the dance floor. And mind you, like up to that point, like it was, you know, people would be jumping up and down mosh pit, you know, it'd be crazy mosh pit, and and the head of upper school. Again, this is the white school.

SPEAKER_02 8:36

Ooh.

SPEAKER_03 8:36

Yeah. They don't dance, they mosh.

SPEAKER_02 8:39

It's okay, I'd be moshing too.

SPEAKER_03 8:42

Like, um, and so the head of upper school at the time, he was really mad about all the like the all the moshing because people were getting injured, people were getting shoved, like, and he was rightfully upset.

SPEAKER_02 8:54

Yeah, because if you got your if you got your feet stepped on, just know you wouldn't be able to walk for two.

SPEAKER_03 8:58

Oh, yeah, you were in a boot, you had your ankle broke, somebody had like had to go to the hospital to get there.

SPEAKER_01 9:03

Like, yeah, it was actually serious business.

SPEAKER_03 9:05

Like, it really was. Um, and so he was mad that whole night because he like he was threatening to end the dance early because people were just acting crazy. So it was towards the end of the dance, and that's why you were able to see most of the like a lot of the dance floor, and there was a single braid just like sitting on the floor. He sees it and he's like, This is why we need a band washing. Somebody got their hair ripped out.

SPEAKER_02 9:31

Somebody got their hair ripped out. Imagine, bro. Imagine. Imagine that's your braid. My heart.

SPEAKER_01 9:40

I know that braid just like fell out. Like it just fell out.

SPEAKER_03 9:44

Like it was looking like it was like we've all been there.

SPEAKER_01 9:46

We've all had a braid slip out.

SPEAKER_03 9:48

We've all been there. And and so the the president at the time, she was like, she had to like sit him down and be like, no, it like it wasn't.

SPEAKER_01 9:59

No, baby. Yeah, it's fine. No, no, no. And she said, take a walk with me. Give me the braid.

SPEAKER_03 10:03

Come on, let me let me talk to you about book heroes. Take a walk with me. Take a walk with me. Step into my office. Like, you know, he was rightfully in the thought had happened. It was funny. That's just a funny story of like, and he was he was my homeroom teacher or whatever, my advisor. So I, you know, I thought it was him just being, you know, like honestly, knowing him, that sounds about right. Yeah, but he was mad. He was like, somebody got their hair ripped out. That's so funny. And we were like, nah, nah, nah.

SPEAKER_01 10:33

That's funny.

SPEAKER_03 10:34

Um, but yeah, so that was actually in high school, and then another high school story, it has nothing to do with hair. There was this girl, so we it was one everybody be scared. Yeah, it was one of the our school's like merch. We had, you know, our merch store, and they were selling this white jacket. It was like uh like a raincoat type of jacket, and on somebody's Snapchat story, the girl, one of the girls had put the hood up of the white jacket and put on her Snapchat story, it's like I'm in the KKK, right? Perfect, right, right, okay, girl, right?

SPEAKER_01 11:10

Yeah, perfect, yeah, exactly, because that should be your first thoughts, and then you should say it online.

SPEAKER_02 11:17

It's like I'm in the KKK. My whole thing about that is that she must have really been sitting on that, you know what I mean? Like, she must have really been thinking about the KKK for a while.

SPEAKER_03 11:26

Why were they on your mind? She wants to join, okay? And so, you know, of course, all the black students at our school at the high school particular were up in arms. We were like, this is not okay. Like, you cannot just be joking about this and hee hee and ha ha. And of course, it's a social media, you know, so we see how we get treated when we post stuff about social media. We're like, oh, they don't get her, right? You're hold debacle because this is I was in sophomore, isn't it? Yeah, exactly. Yeah, so this was we were like, okay, now it's time for our turn to snitch and you know, see what happens. You know, and this was serious. You you joke about the cake. Right, no, but that's okay I sorry what so we were like, yeah, like like she about to get suspended. We don't know what happened, but she graduated, and I don't think she got suspended or nothing. I think what happened was in the end, the girl who ended up reporting her, she got an apology letter written to her, and that's it. Oh, just we don't know, like we don't like we've got to be. Was that a black student? Yeah, the girl who reported her, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 12:37

But I fear if you like make something like that on like out in the open, like your apology needs to be in the same, or at least you need to apologize to all of the black students. Right.

SPEAKER_03 12:49

We've got a personally written no.

SPEAKER_01 12:54

That's it. What about me? Like I That's so bad. We're like, oh, that's it. And I'm assuming, like, did the teachers like did they say anything about it to like I'm sure they didn't.

SPEAKER_03 13:06

I mean, we asked that we asked um my advisor, and all and he was like, Well, obviously we can't disclose like a a student's personal punishment.

SPEAKER_01 13:16

Well, no, no, not even like a punishment, but I'm like, I'm saying like acknowledging to like the black students, like, hey, like I know that this probably really hurt you. I know they didn't do that. No, right. Why would they literally why would they do that? That's what I'm saying. Like, I know they didn't. I know they didn't do that.

SPEAKER_02 13:31

Of course they didn't.

SPEAKER_01 13:33

They would they would never do that. Like, where's your no-tap apology actually?

SPEAKER_03 13:38

Right. I'd actually like to see a no-tap apology, yeah. But I'm like, why even joke about something like and she purposely that's the thing, she purposely went and made the hood pointy at the top because you would have to be deliberately. She just went and pulled it from the back. That's literally not even the design.

SPEAKER_02 14:00

Why would why would she do that?

SPEAKER_03 14:04

Like, what? She said, You know what? This is this is good news. She said, Yeah, take my photo real quick and then put it on your Snapchat story. And I think put it on her Snapchat story, was like, oh, but I wasn't the one who did it. Like it, it wasn't on the girl who was wearing the hood, it wasn't on her Snapchat. But who typed the message out there?

SPEAKER_01 14:24

Right, uh, right. Let's have that conversation.

SPEAKER_03 14:25

So we were, yeah, we don't know if it's not. Wait, y'all, we need to open this case back up.

SPEAKER_01 14:30

Let's talk about it. Like, actually, okay.

SPEAKER_03 14:34

We need to open this case back up because I think we missed somebody. Look, I know everyone involved, so I still remember who was involved.

SPEAKER_02 14:43

We will be con we need to open, we need to open this case back up.

SPEAKER_03 14:47

Yeah, we'll be opening an investigation because we think we missed the suspect. Yeah, so that was just another one of those, like, oh, and then back to middle school. I should have put this before, but back to middle school, this iconic, so sixth grade history class. Um, we had our Civil War, um, our Civil War, whatever. Um Well, this would have been before that.

SPEAKER_01 15:18

Are you waiting?

SPEAKER_03 15:20

Oh, wait, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 15:21

No, this would have been before. But we can talk, okay, but well, okay.

SPEAKER_02 15:24

Bro, the Civil War was to end the slavery.

SPEAKER_03 15:28

What did you think it was during the Civil War? No, but I don't know.

SPEAKER_02 15:32

It was before that because it was like the colonies. That's how they brought them to the colonies.

SPEAKER_01 15:37

But I will say, okay, let's briefly talk about the Civil War unit though, really quick. Because I think that was really funny because during the unit, again, we all went through this because the same teacher.

SPEAKER_02 15:45

Personally, I was in the South. They did, they put you in the Wait. They put you in the South?

SPEAKER_01 15:51

I think so. Okay, let's and then we can get to the original story. So maybe I was the I don't remember. Just get the So they so we had a Civil War unit in sixth grade American history, and it was like some activity that we kept the whole uh unit where we had to be broken up each class, or you were either part of the union. Well, I don't even think we said it was just South, North and South, but obviously it's the Union and the Confederacy, right? But I don't think we yeah, but so big Confederacy. But so every at least all my year, I know Dominique's year, like all the they he purposely put like all the black students in the North, like which granted, yeah, you know? Yeah, yeah, yeah. That'd be crazy.

SPEAKER_02 16:35

I want to say okay, maybe I was in the north then.

SPEAKER_03 16:37

I would be shocked. I was Ulysses S. Grant. Okay, period.

SPEAKER_02 16:40

I was the head of the time. Our Civil War unit was interrupted by COVID. Because one as soon as we as soon as we like pulled our characters, we went online. It was like the day after.

SPEAKER_03 16:51

We didn't even pull characters, so he assigned us. And he was like, he's like, you're the president of the north. And I was like, period.

SPEAKER_01 16:59

But yeah, so he definitely put all the all the black students were in the north. We did have some of the right of the other half half of the class, they was in the Confederacy. I said, I know actually a lot of y'all during this time would be in the Confederacy. Let's wake that up, okay? A lot of for a lot of y'all, this is appropriate.

unknown 17:20

Appropriate.

SPEAKER_02 17:20

It was really like a live action roleplay of the Civil War. No, literally.

SPEAKER_03 17:24

It really was it was so um so before that we had the what was it called? Like the unit on like the columns.

SPEAKER_02 17:33

The like transatlantic slave trade, something like that. Okay, but that was not the whole focus of the unit.

SPEAKER_03 17:38

It was mostly.

SPEAKER_02 17:39

Yeah, but that was like the mic, that was the mini unit inside the unit.

SPEAKER_03 17:43

Okay, okay, yeah. I guess. But anyway, so at one point, you know, we're talking about the slave trade, and he was like, Okay, so for this, all you like he pushed the desk, and we're like, what's going on? You know, he pushed the desk back um to the edges of the the corners of the of the room, and he's like, I want everyone to lay down really close together.

SPEAKER_02 18:04

He like let like laid us all. No, he like he did it for y'all, he drew lines, like he put like the little like duct tape, like the blue duct tape for us, and he put like the little lines on the carpet. Maybe there were lines, but he was like, go get your spot.

SPEAKER_03 18:18

Yeah, we all had to lay down really close together, and then he was like, This is like if you were on a slave ship.

SPEAKER_02 18:26

For us, he played us a video.

SPEAKER_01 18:27

It was like, I think it was a movie change Yeah, we played he had he had roots in the background playing while we were laying on the ground for yeah, we were on the ground watching, like in this position, watching roots, like the scene where they're coming um on like where they're on the slave ship, right?

SPEAKER_02 18:44

Yeah, I just really wish in the moment when we had did this my sixth grade year, I realized the severity of the moment because I was so excited. I was like, because I really enjoyed history class, and so I was like, guys, I'm so excited to get on a slave ship to really experience so what the heck is wrong with you, bro.

SPEAKER_03 19:03

To really put myself. I just remember other students looking at like like it was me and another black girl, and they were just looking at us like this your culture.

SPEAKER_01 19:12

People like looking at you with like the saddest eyes.

SPEAKER_03 19:15

Like, I'm sorry. Wow, so funny.

SPEAKER_02 19:20

Bro, yeah, I remember that entire unit I swear, people would come up to me and be like, bro, I'm sorry. Like, I'm so sorry.

SPEAKER_03 19:28

I'm like, what is happening right now? Like, why am I laying on this ground cosplaying?

SPEAKER_01 19:34

Wait, can I Okay, so also during that unit, so really because I'm not anyway, there was a student, a white student, who had the same last name as us, and it's a kind of like you know, a unique-ish last name. And I remember telling her, I was like, we probably have the same last name because um your family probably owned my family back in the day.

SPEAKER_02 19:55

That's a crazy thing to say to somebody, I can't lie. What a crazy, right?

SPEAKER_03 20:00

Like, I'm sorry. What do you say to that? No, what do you say to that? Like my condolences, and I was like, Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 20:10

Side note, but I thought that was a good one.

SPEAKER_03 20:11

That poor girl. Right. Um, right. My final story is back, you know, going back to the student diversity board that we mentioned in episode eight uh during Brianna's part. Um, just funny tidbit. Obviously, that board was for, you know, usually people of color. I don't know. Like that's why the white traditional the white queer girl. Right, right. Like some sort of, you know, it was underrepresented. Blacks in the gays. Underrepresented identity. Somehow during our senior year, um, and my best friend at the time was on the the board as like vice president, and we were just talking about this actually. And they like because the freshman get joined the board like mid-year, and so there was a freshman who would apply um who was quite conservative and very wealthy. When we an abhorrent amount of wealthy.

SPEAKER_01 21:23

Again, we're not gonna mention obviously this person's last name, but just know if we did, you would know.

SPEAKER_02 21:31

You would be like, damn, so that was that name on that building. You would know.

SPEAKER_03 21:35

Like, you would know that's how that's how wealthy we need.

SPEAKER_02 21:40

You'd be like, oh, I've seen a couple libraries with that name on it.

SPEAKER_01 21:44

Yes, you would know both. You would know that trust.

SPEAKER_03 21:47

And you know, the the woman uh in charge of the board who we've also mentioned, who was just never in our corner.

SPEAKER_01 21:55

Who she's the one who said, This is not black history, this is American History Month.

SPEAKER_03 22:00

Same same lady, same lady. She was like, Well, we really need diversity of thought.

SPEAKER_02 22:07

Wait, that's crazy.

SPEAKER_03 22:09

And so she let her on the board, and three years later, she ended up becoming president of the board.

unknown 22:16

Right.

SPEAKER_03 22:17

And I'm like, only our school that would happen. Literally. This wealthy white Republican becomes student diversity board president. A student diversity board.

SPEAKER_01 22:29

But honestly, again, like just how downhill that board went. Because honestly, when I was there in the years before, and then leading, you know, whatever, that was on like the student diversity board, like, well, we had it had their its own issues too. And one of my good friends from high school um was the president of the board my senior year. And so it had its issues too. But like it really, I think, you know, it had its space where I feel like it was it did sometimes what it needed to do.

SPEAKER_02 22:55

Yeah, they were holding space for it back in the day.

SPEAKER_01 22:57

Right, they were holding space, they were holding space for the lyrics of Defiant Gravity. Um, but Court think about how you, Courtney, y'all talk about fast fashion and like it's crazy.

SPEAKER_02 23:10

Uh what else do we talk about? Like food? Food.

SPEAKER_01 23:14

What about food? Oh, no, not oh, not veganism. Y'all, the vegan fuckers think that they're oppressed. Or I don't know. You're not oppressed. You've heard it here first.

SPEAKER_03 23:28

That is funny.

SPEAKER_02 23:29

Billie Eilish says they are oppressed. She just said that.

SPEAKER_03 23:33

Yeah, Billy Eilish said, you can't love animals and eat meat.

SPEAKER_01 23:36

I said, anyway, me and my cat also I gave my cat a piece of chicken the other day, and we both was enjoying it. So, period.

SPEAKER_03 23:46

Like me chowing down on a burger and petting my dog. Like, come on, Billy. Be so. Yeah. But that was my, you know, stories for part two. Um yeah, I it was a great hair.

SPEAKER_01 24:05

The hair stories, honestly, you had so many. I mean, like, we all had you had several like issues with the stuff. I don't know why, you know, I have a road to your hair.

SPEAKER_03 24:14

I really like when your hair is straight. I don't like it when it's when it's in braid.

SPEAKER_01 24:19

I was like, okay, because we was wondering what you say to that. No, no, we was we actually didn't we didn't ask. And this was someone that you were like good that you were friends with, right?

SPEAKER_03 24:28

Yeah, at the time we were friends in middle school, yeah. And she said that to me, and I was like, oh, ha ha ha ha.

SPEAKER_01 24:34

Like they was really playing literally in your hair.

SPEAKER_03 24:38

Like it was they were literally, literally playing in my hair. It was crazy. But yeah, yeah, but yeah, that wraps up episode uh eight, part two of our tell all. We will finish this up. Yep. Best part for last. Okay. Best part for last. Courtney's more recent, because this, you know, we had more recent and much longer. You know, long-term memory. We had to dig deep. What happened? I was like, I gave them, I gave Brianna homework. I was like, you need to brainstorm. Like, remember, you need to split and think. Yeah, my best friend has no recollection of high school at that school, and she was like, wait, I think I had a fine time. I was like, no, you didn't, you just don't remember anything.

SPEAKER_01 25:28

The brain protects, the brain protects you sometimes, so I know that's why I said I don't remember what happened.

SPEAKER_03 25:36

But yeah, um, so join us for our final part and final episode of season one. And until then, see you later. Bye.