Are We Idolizing Marriage? - #012

Marriage is a beautiful gift, but is it quietly taking God's place in our hearts? In this episode, we're having an honest conversation about how anting a good thing can sometimes become an idol!

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SPEAKER_00 0:00

Is that recording? Hello? Hi. How are you guys happiest of Fridays to you? And we'll see you next week. No, I'm just kidding. We are excited to be back. We're here. We're ready to chat.

SPEAKER_01 0:36

What are we talking about? So today we're talking about marriage. Are we idolizing it?

SPEAKER_00 0:44

Yeah. I already know my answer. Yeah. Not a laughing matter, but it's serious though, isn't it? Yeah. So today's podcast is about that. Like idolizing marriage. And that can, I feel like you can idolize marriage like in my position where you're waiting for it, or like within marriage. But before we get into all that, we'll kind of give you a few updates. We have just been going and going and going. We have so many updates for you guys. Going and going and just blowing smoke along the way. Going. Anyways, what do you have any fun updates? What you been doing? Do you have any? So I think. Okay, my biggest one is I listed my house on Zillow. Oh yeah. Yeah. Uh I actually got like four text messages today, like, oh my gosh, where are you moving to? Did you buy a new house? I'm like, no.

SPEAKER_01 1:47

We're just selling stuff.

SPEAKER_00 1:48

Yeah, I'm just trying to sell some stuff. Me and Lyssa got, I was tickled because this past weekend, like I I don't even know how to like say this, but we uh we were just like selling, like I had my depop and I was like, can you help me take pictures so I can like sell all these clothes? And she helped me update some pictures. So I was like posting listings on there. And then also I what's that word? Oh, here I go again. As soon as I get behind the mic, all vocabulary gone. I reopened my Etsy shop, which it's been open for a little bit, but I reopened it and I was like fixing some listings on there, so I'm excited about that, and I'm gonna be adding some on there. So stay tuned. Follow me on Instagram, amber and stone underscore.

SPEAKER_01 2:42

But and then we were laughing because I went as far as posting my home everything this weekend. Nothing is safe.

SPEAKER_00 2:51

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 2:52

I So you have no plans to move. Like you don't have I have nowhere to go.

SPEAKER_00 2:56

Yeah. Yeah. So if I do sell it, which I'm hopeful for, I will probably just move into one of my parents' rental homes or with them, honestly. That's preferred. I'm trying to go back to mama's house. But yeah, that's my biggest thing. So if anyone knows anyone who would like a 954 square foot condo, two beds, two baths, swimming pool.

SPEAKER_01 3:25

Fully updated. It is very nicely updated.

SPEAKER_00 3:28

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 3:29

Turnkey, if you will.

SPEAKER_00 3:31

Turnkey. Yeah, let me know. Hit me up. I'll send you the link. Come view my home. Photos are Alyssa Riddle photos. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 3:41

Anyways, did you think we'll do anything?

SPEAKER_00 3:44

Did you think on your update?

SPEAKER_01 3:46

No. Well, that's my update as well. My update is I'm selling my sister's home. I took pictures of my sister's house. So I'm now a real estate photographer. If any companies want to hire me, I'm just trying to get work anywhere I can.

SPEAKER_00 4:05

Pilates tomorrow.

SPEAKER_01 4:07

Oh yeah.

SPEAKER_00 4:11

Are you ready? I don't think so. I haven't worked out in a little bit. So I'm hoping this will get me back in the mindset because I've been craving it again. I say every week, it I'm so frou-frou. Like, I'm getting back into working out. And then I don't. And then I talk about it more. And it's the same conversation every time. But I'm hoping the Pilates class will get me get my mind right. I just love being in a class setting with girls. And I think it's it's just fun. And then you go and get a little coffee afterwards. Oh, we're going in the evening.

SPEAKER_01 4:48

Oh wow. I forgot about that. We can get dinner though. We can get that pasta we were talking about last week. Oh yeah. That would be good.

SPEAKER_00 4:57

And babysitting our cousin's kids. Before. Oh. So I'll be in Winterhaven. But I think we're eating before the Pilates class. You are with Pilates? Yeah, I think we're having T1 flats.

SPEAKER_02 5:14

Wow.

SPEAKER_00 5:14

Yeah, but I'm just to me. It it just happened today. And I'm babysitting. I'm watching the boys. But so I don't know if I'll be hungry after the class. I don't know. Well, yeah, I'll just go by myself. Okay.

SPEAKER_01 5:31

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 5:32

No, so we're excited about our Pilates class tomorrow. Did you think of any yet?

SPEAKER_01 5:38

Um we had a nice weekend at home. Or you were at my house. Yeah. We just were outside gardening all day. Um take the term gardening loosely. Well, yes. I clipped my mom's bushes. Yeah. And she got pretty mad at me, I would say. But you know how I told you, like, oh, I already told you this.

SPEAKER_03 5:59

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 6:00

But I was clipping the bushes with the clippers. My hand is so it's swollen actually. Is it like and it's bruised. It's sore and bruised just from clipping bushes with a simple hedge trimmer.

SPEAKER_00 6:13

Yeah. I don't even know what it is. Yeah, I know that feeling. Like right here. Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. That was fun though, just being outside. And it inspired me to start a garden. That's also why I wanted to list my house this weekend. So I can sell it and then I can have enough money to then purchase a cute home with a yard. So but mom did give me a clipping of her rosemary. It had roots on it. So I repotted it. And I have that in my house. So I'm excited. Very nice. You give me the little clipping of your little green thing. A pothos. It's like a pathos. Pothos. Pothos golden or something.

SPEAKER_01 6:58

I think the name is. I do have like 14 of those little plants that I've propagated.

SPEAKER_00 7:06

So if anybody wants one, yeah, you do have a lot. I went to a yard sale in our neighbor or in our old neighborhood, bought a couple things there. I only spent a dollar and 25 cents. And you got one of the things was William Sonoma. Yeah, I bought like this little set of Easter, like what do you what do you call it? Like a butter or like a cheese spreader. I don't know what kind of knife that is. Yeah, like a cheese knife, and they're Easter themed, and they're from William Sonoma, and I got them for a dollar. Brand new. And then I got a little like bucket, like a woven bucket basket bag for 25 cents. It's a little chewed up on the handle, but it's okay. And then I got you a little ornament. Oh yeah. 25 cents. 25 cent. And then lastly, I baked the prettiest cake. It was, it tasted just fine. I rated it a six out of 10, but I made a recipe. Oh, that could be an update. That's so mediocre. But I have been trying, I've been bringing my recipe booked. I thrifted a half-baked harvest recipe book and I've been taking it to work and just like planning out my recipes kind of for the week. I only picked two because I don't want to commit. I'm gonna have groceries go to waste. But wait, that might have already been an update last week. I don't know. But, anyways, I had all of these oranges left over from this one recipe because I only needed one orange, but Aldi's makes you, or Aldi makes you buy like the whole bag. So I had a whole bag of oranges and I made an orange citrus olive oil cake. And it was really good. It was or no, it looked really good. And it tasted fine. It was a six out of ten. It was good. There's nothing wrong.

SPEAKER_01 8:58

There's nothing wrong with it, but it wasn't one of those things that you're gonna be like, you have to make that orange cake. Yeah. I knew if it's not chocolate, it's just fine.

SPEAKER_00 9:08

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 9:08

No average, no disrespect to your skills. Your skills were 10 out of 10. Baby, I candied oranges that night.

SPEAKER_00 9:18

Like there's some skill required there.

SPEAKER_01 9:21

I'm saying it's 10 out of 10 on your behalf. It's just the nature of the dessert. If it's not chocolate, then it's never gonna be a 10 out of a 10. Unless there's cinnamon rolls.

SPEAKER_00 9:33

Just the compla the composition of the composition of the way that the flavors bounce off. Flavor profile, if you will. Anyways, enough of that. Should we just get into it? Let's dive on in. Let's get into it. Okay. So, okay, getting into it now.

SPEAKER_01 9:53

So now that we're getting into it, what do you think about marriage? Do you think that you're idolizing it and why? Okay. Short answer. Yes.

SPEAKER_00 10:05

I'm so embarrassed to admit it. Literally so embarrassed. But I found this article and I was reading it. And me and Demi were talking about this because I sent it to her as well. But it's like, you think you're okay. You think you're good. And you're like, you know, I I trust, I trust. And then I was so incredibly humbled by that article. And I'm like, I'm idolizing marriage. What was it saying? I wrote down some of the notes. But I hit all of the points. So I'm gonna be doing some reflection this next week. And you know what? I'm full send diving in. I'm locking in.

SPEAKER_01 10:57

On like what do you mean? How are you gonna dive in on not wanting to be married? Self-love.

SPEAKER_00 11:05

Yes, making a declaration now. No, I just mean like I feel like I just want to dive headfirst into what God has for me and finding my identity in Him.

SPEAKER_01 11:17

I see.

SPEAKER_00 11:18

And like dedicating, well, I should have been doing this. And like I've been trying, but then like you just get caught up in seeing what everyone else is doing, and you just get caught up in it. But okay. Do you feel like you're idolizing marriage?

SPEAKER_01 11:34

Yes. I like yeah. Short answer, yeah. It's like, oh, I'm I'm still single, I still have to work towards this thing. This is the achievement that I'm working towards the goal. And I think it should be a goal, but not like the end all be all.

SPEAKER_00 11:57

I feel like it's a good thing and it's a blessing, but it shouldn't be like a purpose or a goal in life. I feel like, and don't get me wrong, like I, yeah, it's a it's a it's been a goal of mine too. But like I was listening to this podcast, and this lady was like, it's a good thing, it's a good desire to be married, but it like it shouldn't be just like this end-all goal once I get married. Doo doo doo, life's easy now, and like I'm happy, and because that's not the case.

SPEAKER_01 12:34

Yeah, you're not gonna be like a whole new human being once you're married.

SPEAKER_00 12:36

I feel like that's what I think. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 12:38

In my head for you.

SPEAKER_00 12:43

Ooh, clean in the house, she has dinner together, she's married, making sourdough every day. Talk to any married person. I guarantee they're gonna say, like, hun. It's harder than being single. Yeah, it probably is. Like, actually, I've never even like wanted to think of that perspective. But in a lot of ways, it probably is very much so harder than being single. Because like, it's just us. I can do whatever I want.

SPEAKER_01 13:16

Literally whenever I want. And I don't have to, oh, let me ask my husband if I can afford to do this trip. I don't I I should be asking myself, but I don't. Actually, we should be asking ourselves a hundred percent. No, but like you don't, I I don't know. There's there's uh obviously pros and cons to being single and being married.

SPEAKER_00 13:41

Yeah. But like one of the points, or not points, it's not really, it's just a point I'm making that I wrote down, but it's basically what I was just saying is God is the creator of marriage, so automatically like it makes it good. Like he created marriage, it's good. Everything he creates is good. And so sometimes I like get mad at myself, like if I because it's like you know deep down, kind of like that you have made it an idol and that you want it like a little bit too much, and so I get upset with myself. I'm like, oh, like why do you want this so much? But I have to give myself a little bit of grace because it it's a good thing, it's not like I'm desiring to go out and I don't even know, whatever, something crazy. He designed it, Adam and Eve. Hello. I haven't said that in a while. No, but we were created, and I got this from the article that I read, but we were created for intimacy and oneness, like first with the Lord, and then ultimately, like, or not ultimately, but like then with ultimately with a godly spouse. So I just need to give myself a little bit of grace there because I do get angry. It's just an ongoing vicious, vicious cycle in my mind.

SPEAKER_01 15:14

Why we idolize it so much though is seeing it so much via social media, um via people around us as well. Living in a small town where people get married young, you naturally feel oh, they're ahead. I'm behind because they got married 10 years ago and we're the same age.

SPEAKER_00 15:38

Like happy 10 year anniversary. That's crazy.

SPEAKER_01 15:42

And happy, yeah, and like obviously in the church, like it's very celebrated to like marriage is celebrated, finding a godly spouse, like it's a good thing, but sometimes maybe it's too celebrated.

SPEAKER_00 16:01

I yeah, I kind of agree with you, like I feel like hot take, there's not like I feel like there's like one sermon every so often. Not talking about like this church in general, but I'm just like saying, like I feel like there's all of these things like surrounding like the family and like the husband's role and like the wife's role and like being married and like all of these things like with marriage and surrounding marriage. But like we get like hardly anything for the single folk, and so I do kind of agree with you there.

SPEAKER_01 16:46

Not that it's like I don't think anyone's at fault. It no it is a good thing that should be celebrated. I just feel like it's like in today's like I don't know, in today's culture being single can also be celebrated, yeah, in a way.

SPEAKER_00 17:02

I mean it's better to be single as they say, but yeah, I it's I feel like that is a hot topic, but I don't or a hot take, not a hot topic.

SPEAKER_01 17:17

And like saying that singleness is like the waiting season. Yeah. Wait, like a waiting room.

SPEAKER_00 17:25

It does it's not, I mean it is you can get lost in that easy, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 17:30

It's like, oh, I'm in the waiting. It's like, well, actually, this is the time that you're in. Yeah. So like we should just be making the most of each season that we're in. For sure. It's not just a temporary thing.

SPEAKER_00 17:50

Yeah, yeah. So I I'm gonna read this exactly how I like voice memoed it, but I said this might not make sense now that I'm reading it out loud, but it says, Light, like I feel like my life is on pause, not really living in the moment, and everything is a little skewed in life too, because like you're constantly thinking, like this could be the place where I meet my husband, and it just doesn't feel like you're living to the fullest. Like there's always that little thing in the back of your head, we're like, okay.

SPEAKER_01 18:21

I have this thing where you know how people will say, It'll happen when you least expect it. I will be like, I'll have like an event coming up or something, and I won't be thinking about that, and then I'll have like a little tiny thought that's like, wait, what if, what if it's like, ah, it's not gonna happen now because I expect uh dang it, I got it too early.

SPEAKER_00 18:44

Yeah, but it does feel that way, like you are living in like this waiting room and your life doesn't start in limbo. Yeah, I'm very bad about that being completely transparent. Like, it's like, oh, I can't buy this house until I have second income.

SPEAKER_01 19:05

Well, I mean, some things are logistic. Some things are second income would be more than ideal.

SPEAKER_00 19:13

But it's like I oh, for a long time, like before I even bought this condo, I was like, I was living in my parents' rental home. And I was like, well, I don't, I don't want to like move forward and buying a house because like I can't do that by myself. Like, I would I would prefer if I could buy a house with a husband. I'm like, well, hey, he's not here. Yeah, I'm like, and I actually need a place to live. So I can go on and on and on about examples of that specific thing because yes, I'm so bad about that. And I well, I wrote this down too. Says I want to press play and root my identity in him and start doing the things that he needs and wants me to do now and stop being the my own roadblock. Like I feel like I'm my own roadblock. Like I am living like this shallow life because I'm like just like on my tiptoes waiting, like, okay, like I can't do this until this. And then like it also is like this fear. Like, I don't want to go, I don't know, like do this thing because I don't have a husband, or I like I said, I can go on and bad examples, but I feel like I am my own roadblock in those things. And I just want to live the life that God has blessed me with now and just like focus on him and be rooted in him. I feel like to be rooted in him, like be in his word daily, like meditate on it and just like be in prayer daily. And I just want to be like motivated to do that. Like, and I feel like when you are rooted in him, you learn more about his character and his kindness, and then you know, you're not so jaded when you think about like, God, why are you doing this for me? Like I feel like you just learn more about how he works, who he is, and how he might work. And yeah. I agree. Beautiful, beautifully said, beautifully said.

SPEAKER_01 21:29

Thank you. Do you feel like there's anything else that we idolize in life?

SPEAKER_02 21:39

I'm sure like there's so many things. That's a long pause. What is there?

SPEAKER_00 21:50

I I I is it do you have any examples of things you idolize?

SPEAKER_01 21:55

Maybe just like a career. I don't know. Like, I don't know. Like, well, once I figure out what I'm gonna do with my life, then I'll be happy and like where I'm going to be. Yes. Cause like, even now, I'm like, this is just temporary. I'm not gonna stay here forever. I'm gonna go somewhere and do something, and I don't know what.

SPEAKER_00 22:26

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 22:27

And like certain things. I'm like, well, I don't wanna buy a house here because I don't think I want to be here. And I'm like not doing certain things because I am like living for the next thing. That's not that's kind of how I for certain feel for sure.

SPEAKER_00 22:45

Like you don't want to like that's what I mean by shallow life.

SPEAKER_01 22:49

Yeah, yeah. Let's put down those roots, let's be rooted in him. I'm still not ready to put down any roots though. Here I just mean I was making a joke. Okay.

SPEAKER_00 23:03

Oh, I thought I heard the door. So I wrote down some signs that I was convicted by, like reading this article. These are the signs that she listed, like that kind of show like are you idolizing marriage? And I really had to check myself. So the first one is you want it more than God's pace for you. Ooh, um, maybe yeah. So yeah. Yeah, that's that's yeah, it's so embarrassing saying this out loud. I feel like it, I mean, probably a lot more people feel this way. And it might not be specifically about marriage, it can be about anything that you're idolizing in like wanting and waiting for. And it's easy, like it's easy to get caught up in like wanting that thing more than trusting like God's pace, the timing, what he has for you. I I wrote down this, it's obviously about seasons. We hear this word all the time, but and we also hear the word like refine, but it is very true. Like God uses, let's call it our winter season, our season of like hiddenness, and he uses that to refine us, to grow us, like to allow us to become more rooted in him, maybe to teach us lessons through trials, lessons through the waiting, but he does use our winter season. And oh wait, let me get my other note here. And he can use this winter season to also protect us. Like, who knows what we could be getting ourselves into because we move ahead of his pace. Yeah. Like, I feel like I'm really bad about, like in general, just me, like not necessarily speaking about like big things, but even in the small things, I'm really bad about like what's the word? Sometimes jumping ahead without doing the research, you know, and then I get all messed up because it didn't work the way I thought it was, or I like jump the gun on something. And I feel like I need to take those examples of like the small things and be like, girl, if you take big things into your own hands, like who knows how I can impact my life, or like not that I can like thwart God's plan, but I do feel like you can delay things. But I feel like he uses the winter season to protect us, prepare us, and uh to root us deeper in him and like build our hope in our spring season.

SPEAKER_02 26:14

Okay.

SPEAKER_01 26:16

Is that a word? What are you talking about? I was just saying, like any thoughts? I think that is very good.

SPEAKER_00 26:32

Yeah, I'm encouraged to like just resubmit. Resubmit the timeline. Give it back to him, surrender it, which is very hard. But I am inspired. I'm inspired to do so. And you guys, like, no matter what you're waiting for in life, like this could be a new job, this could be children, this could be a health issue, resubmit that timeline. Next sign. When it becomes a demand and you feel like God owes you something. I feel like I feel like that. Like sometimes I feel like God owes me things because I've done things the correct way. I say that in air quotes. What I think is the correct way, what I think is waiting well. He don't owe me nothing. He does not. And we've talked about this before on the podcast, but marriage is a blessing, marriage is a a gift 1000%. But we're not owed marriage. We're not promised marriage. No, and that is a really tough concept to wrap my head around sometimes. But like when it comes down to it, like I might not end up married. Like, and I have to be okay with that. But that's a tough pill swallow. The next one, oh, do you have any that you want to add? Any like signs?

SPEAKER_01 28:11

I don't know what article you read.

SPEAKER_00 28:13

I was I don't know. So next sign that I feel, well, that according to this article. So your thought life is taken over by this thing, or in our case, marriage. So it's like kind of like we were saying before, like you go somewhere and you're like, could this be the time? Is this it? Am I gonna meet him? What's he gonna look like? Where's he at? Do I need to sit up straight right now? Like, what's happening? And like I was saying also before, like, it skews everything, like your just perception of every day. And then, like, you're not living in the moment, really. Yeah. And it creates unrealistic expectations. Like, I feel like you can create this whole perfect life in your head. And then when it doesn't happen exactly the way you want it, it you're mad and you're bitter towards God. But I mean, that's not just say like wanting something isn't allowed. Like, yeah, you're allowed to dream about it and have a Pinterest board. But I do feel like when it affects like all of your thoughts and takes over your, you know, brain space, then that's where it's like, okay, maybe this is an idol and I'm worshiping this thing. Yeah. And then lastly, is are you questioning God's goodness when it's still not happening? Like, do you immediately become bitter? Like in the article, it was saying, like, you hit a milestone, another birthday, another like New Year's or whatever, and it's like it's still not happening. Like, are you angry with God? Because if you are, then it might be something like, yes, you are allowed to express, you know, your deepest desires and like your wants to the Lord. But it's like when you are mad and then also questioning God's character and his goodness, it's like that's when that's when things get ugly. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 30:26

It's I think I brought this up before, but it's like not that I'm questioning that, like he can't do it for me. I've seen him do it for others, he can do it for me. But sometimes it's like, well, I don't know if he will.

SPEAKER_00 30:41

Yeah. And if he does, it's gonna be cruddy. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 30:45

It's not gonna be what I want. And it might not be what I want, but it might be what I need. But I want what I want and what I need to align. So I guess that would be a prayer is to like align my wants with what God wants. And your needs will be happy. What God needs. God don't need nothing. Not for me, at least. He don't want nothing from me.

SPEAKER_00 31:13

Oh my gosh. I wrote this down kind of like talking about like just being mad and bitter. I said, I feel like my mind site, my mindset sometimes thinks that I need a husband in order to do certain things. And we already touched on that. But I said that we can desire something without making a demand. And you can approach God with holy boldness. It doesn't have to be like this demand, but holy boldness and come to him. Like when you are starting to feel that bitterness creep in, I feel like approaching him in prayer, in lament, in holy boldness, making our request known, but still accepting like his plan and his sovereignty. That's when, that's when that kind of happens, is like that's when your your wants and your di desires morph into what he wants. And I keep saying his desires. Well, I guess like his desires for me. Yeah. Also, I forgot to say this when we were talking about like sorry, my neck is so itchy. My my skincare is messing me up. But when we were talking about like the thought, our thought life being taken over, I feel like that, like when your thought life is taken over by that, like when do you have time to like really lean into what God wants you to do? Like, how's he speaking to you if you're constantly just like crying about not being married? And I I said that it takes our focus off of like our spiritual and personal growth. And I already mentioned this, but I feel like I've said that like 10 times. Like I've already mentioned this. But like the refinement comes like in the waiting and in the trials. And I want to shift my perspective. Like instead of focusing on the gap or like the missing or the waiting or everything that I don't have, like in this gap, I want to focus on the gain and like how I'm learning and what the Lord is teaching me in this season and how I'm bringing glory to his name. And like I want to focus on the gain. And even now, like I'm a little insecure too. Like, even saying all of this, it's us just being very honest and a little vulnerable because it's embarrassing saying, like, yeah, like I'm mad that I'm not married. But it's like seeing myself now compared to where I was, like, for example, in college, like I was so insecure back then. And just like I'm not even gonna get into it because I don't even remember, but I just was so focused on finding a spouse, having a boyfriend, getting married, oddly enough, didn't ever have one, but never worked. But I've grown so much, like even just like back then till now, like I have gained like so much knowledge and more confident in who I am in the Lord, and like just waiting on him. And it might not seem like a whole bunch, but I know that I've grown exponentially. No, I think you have too.

SPEAKER_01 34:56

I think, yeah. Maturing and like maturing in your faith also is much needed before. Because like if you were to meet your spouse in college, or if I were to meet my spouse in college, I don't know if that would have worked out.

SPEAKER_00 35:15

I don't know if I'll still be married.

SPEAKER_01 35:17

Yeah, that was no. I was a baby. Yeah. In my infantry.

unknown 35:25

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 35:26

And I really thought, I didn't meet him in high school, but I'm gonna meet my husband in college. Oh, I didn't meet him in college, but I'll meet him somewhere, right?

SPEAKER_00 35:35

Oh, it's a where public's question mark. Yeah. So what do you have to share? I feel like I've been yaperoning.

SPEAKER_01 35:47

I feel like you covered so much, though, and it was all really good. I don't really have much to add. Yeah. Oh, there's this little little note. Marriage can add to your life, but it cannot complete what God can heal.

SPEAKER_00 36:07

That's very true.

SPEAKER_01 36:09

And like, yeah. Marriage is void if you don't have God. Ooh, nah, that's a word.

SPEAKER_00 36:19

And I yeah, I feel like that's what I was kind of like mentioning at the beginning of the podcast. Like, it's not only like you can't you don't only idolize marriage within marriage. Like, you can idolize your husband and like depend on him on things on him for th I cannot talk. You can depend on him for things that only the Lord can give you. And wait, you said something. Can you read that back again?

SPEAKER_01 36:55

Marriage can add to your life, but it cannot complete what God, what only God can heal.

SPEAKER_00 37:00

Yeah, exactly. Like, if you enter a marriage with brokenness, with just insecurities, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 37:09

Your husband's not gonna fix that, it's gonna amplify it, most likely.

SPEAKER_00 37:14

1000%. Like, I just feel like your singleness season is such a time of growth and just becoming close and intimate with the Lord, so you can be close and intimate, like with your husband, but also knowing that he's not your God. Like, he's well, he is your provider in some ways, at least I'm hoping mine is, but like he's not your ultimate provider, like it is the Lord, so yeah.

SPEAKER_01 37:48

Put your faith and trust in God, not not some man.

SPEAKER_00 37:55

Sorry. And I think that's it. Yeah, so I hope you got a little something something from this episode.

SPEAKER_01 38:03

I hope you were encouraged in some form or fashion, whether you're waiting on husband, kids, job, a call from the Lord, anything like that. Yeah, it's all in his time.

SPEAKER_00 38:18

It is all in his time.

SPEAKER_01 38:19

It sounds so cliche, and it sounds like like I'm telling this to myself also. It sounds so easy. Oh, just trust the Lord's timing. Like it sucks, huh? Honestly, but you just got to. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 38:37

I feel like there are highs, there are lows within the waiting season. But I I kind of mentioned this in Bible study. Oh, life update. We are in a Bible study with the cutiest little girls, or I say little what? The cutiest woman, girls, women, friends, love. But I we are reading through the book of Ruth, and this you can apply this to like any book in the Bible, like once you read a story, but Ruth like went through so many awful things. Like there was a famine, I believe, in the time of Ruth and like judges. And like times were hard. And so there was that, then her husband died, then her brother-in-law died, then her father-in-law died, and it was just the the woman left, and then she decided to go back home with Naomi, and she accepted Naomi's God, or God, and the God of Israel, and it's just crazy like how many things happened that had to happen. Like, those things were terrible and they were hard, and there was probably some like bitterness there, and some questioning, and whatever else. But look what ultimately happened, like from her story, like just from where she started, and then where she ended up, like marrying Boaz, and then King David came from her line, and ultimately Jesus Christ. So it's like all of these bad things had to happen. And I'm not saying bad things have to happen to us in order for good things to come, but it's just like all in all, like this story, if you look at it from a bird's eye view, like that's how I want to look at my life.

SPEAKER_01 40:47

Like, how do you say that? He has his hand in everything, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 40:53

Thank you.

SPEAKER_01 40:54

He's interwoven in every situation, everything happens for a reason, nothing is by accident. Or I guess we said that last time.

SPEAKER_02 41:03

Yeah, yeah. Like, I don't know.

SPEAKER_01 41:10

Like he he can turn anything for good.

SPEAKER_00 41:14

Yeah, it just it goes so much deeper than I think. You know, like there's so many tiny little things that are being aligned in my life right now to get me where God ultimately like wants me to be. Not that I'm saying, like, not saying like marriage is the goal, but like I can't wait to sit down one day and like talk about things with my husband and like where he was at this time and like where I was at this time, and like compare notes and diary entries, and like I just feel like it's like a big puzzle piece, like that's ultimately going to fit together and create this beautiful testimony and story. But all that to say, like he is working, he's working, he might be working slow, he might be working silently. You know, like that, you know, I four, like how that's like a running joke. Like is it i4? Like that that joke that's never completed, yeah. Literally, sometimes it feels like that. Um, but he's working, so I I really do hope this encouraged you in some kind of way. Um yeah, thank you for listening. Yep.

SPEAKER_01 42:27

We will chat back with you next Friday.

SPEAKER_00 42:31

We love you guys, and we will talk soon. Bye.