Red, Green, or Beige Flags - #013

In this chatty episode, we're going through a list of everyday habits, quirks, and situations and deciding...are they red flags, green flags, or just...beige?

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Transcript

SPEAKER_02 0:22

Um, so hi. We're back. We're back with another happy. I gotta take these headphones off. Okay, so in the studio, there is headphones. We've never used them because it's the most jarring thing. I have them on right now, and I feel like I'm in outer space. It is the most jarring thing hearing yourself played back, but in real time. You know how you like play back a video and you're like, whoa, is that what I sound like? That was giving me an out of body experience. Yeah, I don't feel like I'm in my body, but I'm gonna try to keep them on as for a for aesthetics. For aesthetic purposes. I look like a bug. Wait, hold on, let me look at my reflection.

SPEAKER_00 1:04

Yeah, that's redonkia.

SPEAKER_01 1:07

Well, it's Friday.

SPEAKER_00 1:09

We're back.

SPEAKER_01 1:10

How are we back with another banger?

SPEAKER_02 1:12

I hope you're doing well. We're doing pretty swell. As well. As well, too.

SPEAKER_00 1:19

Anyways, today it's already on our bowl.

SPEAKER_02 1:25

Today is a good day.

unknown 1:28

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 1:28

What do we what we talk about, Liz?

SPEAKER_02 1:31

Well, we got a little heavy, not heavy. It wasn't heavy. Last week we were very serious. So we're gonna bring it back and we're gonna talk about. Is it a well, I don't know. It's working title. Red flag, green flag, or beige flag. Yeah, we're gonna flag them.

SPEAKER_00 1:50

We're gonna run through a list and we're gonna say if we think no why flagoma.

SPEAKER_02 1:59

I don't know.

SPEAKER_01 2:00

These headphones are throwing me off. I love it though.

SPEAKER_02 2:03

I kind of like them. I don't know what I was saying. Yeah, we're talking about the flags, the colors, and we're going through a list of things, characteristics, traits, habits, and we're gonna say, do we think that's a red flag, a green flag, or a beige flag? Beige flag being neutral, neutral. So, well the first off, yeah. First and foremost, I feel like I haven't recorded here. Yeah, me neither. Second. What's been up, my guy? I'll tell you what's been up in just a second when I find my notepad here. Well, I'll tell you, I on the way here, I got two Jeep waves.

SPEAKER_01 2:47

That is so special. Yeah, it was very sweet.

SPEAKER_02 2:50

I love my community.

SPEAKER_01 2:52

That is cute as heck.

SPEAKER_02 2:54

You wave back. I just laughed each time. It's such a joy. It just tickles. It does, because it's so crazy dumb. Yeah. But now they have me brainwash and I will start like waving at other jeeps. Oh, it's sick, but I love it.

SPEAKER_00 3:11

That's cute though, that you got some waves.

SPEAKER_02 3:15

I don't get anything in my Cherokee. We have a Cherokee? A grand Cherokee, yeah. Oh. You had me caught off guard for a second. It's like, do I? Yeah, I do. Yes. Um, what update me? What's what's been going on? That was one of them, unfortunately. I don't have too much time on.

SPEAKER_01 3:38

Yours had like 10 minutes to go.

SPEAKER_02 3:41

We haven't like done a podcast for a week. I've just been laying pretty low. The other day or yesterday, excuse me. I was driving to your house and I saw something that was just quintessential Florida, but in the worst possible way. It was weird. It was a Cybertruck pulling an airboat, but there was a man in the driver's seat of the airboat on the highway. I'm like, wait, what? And no driver in the driver. Cyber truck. Yeah. I didn't even look, but that's a first. He's driving the boat, not the truck. He's in space. I, you know, I'm not gonna slander a cyber truck because I don't know who listens to this podcast. But I just think they're not necessary. It looks like one of those big like industrial ice ice makers that you see at a restaurant. It's ugly. I don't know who needs to hear that. I know that they're cool. I know.

unknown 4:59

But they're not cute.

SPEAKER_02 5:01

I don't know. At least they're not paying for these gas prices right now. True that. So got us there.

SPEAKER_00 5:10

I oh my gosh, it's my first update on my list, and I'm wearing them right now. I thrifted a bright pair, bright pink pair of sambas.

SPEAKER_02 5:20

Yeah. I was at Marshall's for like 30 minutes in the shoe section because I saw a pair, I don't know if they're sambas, but they're the Spezielle. That's what these are. Um I don't know. I don't know. That's how you say that. And I had the guy said, Do you have any of these? Because it was there was one pair left, but it was not in my size. I was like, Do you have any of these in this size? It's like, I'll help you look, but what we have out here is what we have. Yeah, it's not a shoes. So I had well, I didn't know if they have stuff in the back. They might see if you have my size in the back, please. So he helped me look too. And couldn't find them. That was a good one. Were they like Let me see? Let me see. They had like green on them. Ooh, oh yeah, those ones are very pretty. Yeah. Yeah. They're I think your size. Oh. You didn't want to pick those up? No. Hmm. That sucks. Yeah, well, I'm very happy about these.

SPEAKER_01 6:27

I don't know if they're I don't think they're sambas. I don't really know how the shoe world works.

SPEAKER_02 6:33

Does it say sambas? They don't say sambas. It says it says sambas. It says something along the lines of Samsonite. That was a dumb and dumber reference, and it's not even a reference. Yeah. It's just the word Samsonite.

SPEAKER_01 6:50

That's the reference. But it's like I just there was that wasn't that funny. Okay, that says the word Spezzel. S-P-E-Z-I-A-L. Spezzle.

SPEAKER_02 7:08

Mama, can you find my spezzle shoes? Mommy, I want to wear my special shoes. I can't even say it. I'm a little delirious today as you guys probably have a raging headache and I can't even speak. Yeah. I was talking to my friends about the podcast. We went to dinner the other night. And one of my friends, she's like, you know, I realized something about you. She's like, I forgot how she worded it. And forgive me if I'm saying it not how you said it. But she's like, you can't talk. I was like, you're very correct. I she meaning like my brain just works so much faster than my mouth, and I stay stuttering. Me too, but I don't know why. I'm slow to speak and slow to make sense. But that makes any sense. Okay. So do you have any just going through my list of updates? That was uh my air by the way, but all road things. Yeah. Okay. So we did end up going to that Pilates class that we talked about last time. I felt like I got hit by a train. I feel like I got hit by a train in my lower body. Like I could I was shuffling. Like it hurts so bad. Like it wasn't our quads, it wasn't our hamstrings. It was my hip joints. Yeah, like the pelvis bones, hip joints, whatever that is called there. Like I was literally shuffling my feet because I couldn't lift my leg. Mind you, I had to play a golf tournament the next day. Hopefully, you weren't like super, super sore the next day. Because I feel like I get sore on the second day. Yeah, that's one of your you get the stresses the second day. Yeah. Or actually, yeah, I had the golf tournament the second day. Yeah. And then I almost started crying towards the end. So like you work out, and then the next day you're like, okay. And then the next day is when it all hits.

unknown 9:13

Yeah. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 9:14

So the Pilates was really fun. I'm sorry. Why did I say that? It was fun being able to hang excruciating. But it was excruciating. I got a Charlie horse. But I do love a class like that. Me too. It just there's something about it. Something about it. You just feel like you're in the big city. Sure. And it's just like being in a group, it pushes you. You have to do it, or else you're gonna look like a dumbo. Yeah. Uh well, I was in the back of the class. Did quit on something. No. I was literally in the back of the class, so I don't even feel that way. She had me struggling. Yeah. And usually I'm pretty competitive with things and try to do it the harder way, just because I'm a brat like that. And she's like, if you need to drop your weights, drop. I said, bye. Yeah. Put the things away.

SPEAKER_00 10:06

Drop them down.

SPEAKER_02 10:08

But it was fun. Highly recommend. These are all like the most boring things. My well, this isn't boring. This is adorable. So my nephew or my cousin son slash kind of my nephew. In our hearts. Nephew in my heart. He can now say my name. It's so sweet. And I just can't wait to have kids because like I know, like, when they say like mama, like that has to be such a good feeling.

SPEAKER_00 10:41

Because when he's saying my name, I'm like, you love me.

SPEAKER_02 10:47

You know me. Yeah. They don't say.

SPEAKER_00 10:53

No, mine's just hub. Anyways. Yeah, so he shouted when he sees me. Okay. My next update is my AC got fixed in my car. I'm back in business. It's such a blessing. You can't stop your girl.

SPEAKER_02 11:20

And it's very nice. It's you probably don't realize how how good you have it until it's gone. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 11:26

When I was less fortunate, I it was a struggle, but I'm fortunate again. So blessings on blessings.

SPEAKER_02 11:35

Hand building class. Guys, get ready for the pottery. Pottery's back. Pottery's back. For me though, because it doesn't work with my schedule. Oh, shoot. I signed up and then I saw the times. I emailed them. Hey, I just signed up. I actually can't make it.

SPEAKER_01 11:52

So sorry to waste your time.

SPEAKER_00 11:54

Yeah, I signed up for a pottery class again. It's not the wheel, it's the hand building. I'm very excited.

SPEAKER_02 12:03

I feel like I will have so many other things that I can make besides a cup or a bowl, you know? Yeah, I guess that's true. I do, I sent you this cup. I want to. I saw it was really cute. Adorable. So I'm just gonna have a bunch of cups because I can't go to hand building.

SPEAKER_00 12:22

Last update is I gave my friend her baby shower gifts that I made, and I loved every minute of it. I hope she loved them. I think she did. She told me that she liked them. But that was so much fun.

SPEAKER_01 12:38

Like having a little baby to make stuff for. It was so sweet.

SPEAKER_02 12:43

So yeah, her shower was this past weekend. We also celebrated another friend getting married. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 12:49

So that was fun. We've had a busy, busy, busy shower heavy weekend, but it was fun.

SPEAKER_02 12:57

Anyways, well, should we get into it? Shall we? Let's do it. Do you want to go first? Can't apologize without saying, I'm sorry you feel that way. Ew. I already know that's a real red flag. Yeah, that's a doyoi. But that's just but that's also me. I'm just kidding.

unknown 13:20

No.

SPEAKER_02 13:21

I just feel like don't put it on the other person. It was you know, I'm sorry you feel I don't feel that way, Bucko. You made me. Or I guess I do feel that way. I do be feeling something. You made me feel that way. No, I I mean in some cases, I do feel like sometimes people can take things wrong, maybe.

SPEAKER_00 13:42

Cause it's like, I don't know, it's tough because like if I say something and I absolutely just like did not mean it in any kind of way, it's like, oh, I am so sorry you took it that way.

SPEAKER_02 13:53

But like if they're meaning it like to be gaslighting or something, just I thought I don't really know what gaslighting means. Yeah, we do. Kind of kind of. I don't know if that applies with that. I don't either. Okay. I'm just using buzzwords that I hear on the internet.

SPEAKER_00 14:06

That's all my vocabulary is, except when it comes time to use the buzzword, I can't remember it.

SPEAKER_02 14:10

So this one's just a silly one, but orders water with lemon everywhere. I I mean it's a beige flag, but like why is anybody ordering water with lemon? You're squeezing that in there and you think it tastes good? It doesn't taste good. Like if you put some sugar in there or something after maybe Do you do water with lemon? No. I know some people most of my friends do it. I'm like, uh, what? Who?

unknown 14:41

No.

SPEAKER_02 14:41

I think it's fine. It doesn't bother me, but I'm just curious. Some of these restaurants, their water does taste like toilet. It yeah. I wasn't gonna use it. Sorry for my French toile. Yeah, it does. So maybe in that case, depending on the restaurant, maybe do a little squeeze of some lemon, but but I feel like it makes the water taste worse. Yeah, it is like bitter.

SPEAKER_00 15:08

And like, can I just have a water water with lemon? No, just just water. No water, just a tap, honey. Water hold the lemon.

SPEAKER_02 15:18

Do you actually have grapefruit? No, water with orange, please. Thanks. Yeah. Okay, sir. Oh my gosh, this is so bad. I don't want to say this one because I I don't know.

SPEAKER_00 15:34

I feel like I know too many people. Oh my gosh.

SPEAKER_02 15:37

Okay. This one says still active on Snapchat in 2026.

SPEAKER_00 15:41

Youch.

SPEAKER_02 15:43

I mean, it depends on what you're using it for. A lot of my friends still have it, or I don't have a lot of friends, but my friends do have it, some of them. And I think it's fine if you're talking to your friends, but if you're like trying to talk to a potential, what do you call that? Prospect, I think that's a potential suitor, you mean? Do not contact me through Snapchat. I don't have it anymore, actually. Yeah. I still have my account, but because I have all my pictures, but I haven't been on there in about two years. I don't know how to even get in, but I agree. I feel like going on there, looking at your memories, and even like because for a long time, like I had a and they still probably have it, but they're I have a group message which is like my close friends, and we just like send pictures of like the kids and stuff like that. I love that.

SPEAKER_00 16:42

I'm looking at this as when you are trying to talk to somebody and I'm gonna put this out there.

SPEAKER_02 16:52

If you still have streaks with people, break them. I'm sorry, you're gonna have to stop that. You're gonna have to break those streaks, break the chains, break those. Break those chains, mama. Yeah. No, if it's a streak with your friend, whatever. But if it's like a streak from like some random guy or something, like you know how like you just have like and then you feel obligated to send it back. I wonder how many people still have streaks with just like it like like imagine them being married and like they still have a streak going with Joe Schmo. Streaks, such a weird culture, yeah. And like remember best friends on Snapchat? Is that what it was called? I would start. Yeah, it used to make me move.

SPEAKER_00 17:39

Your turn. Hold on.

SPEAKER_02 17:49

Love small talk with strangers. I think that's a green flag. Yeah. Because I probably won't be doing it. I think it's a green flag. I think it is so sweet. I can see if some people would call it a beige flag because it can probably get annoying, but take up some time. Like you're trying to like make your way through like whatever. I got distracted because I started singing making your way downtown. Gosh, my brain. No, but I can see how it could be a beige flag, but I think it's a green flag. Yeah, okay. It's sweet. You can talk to people. Super green flag. Love to see it. So yeah, seriously though. Hopefully, my husband does that because I don't. I'm probably somebody's red flag because I don't do that.

SPEAKER_00 18:46

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 18:46

I mean, I will if I feel led, but I rarely feel led.

SPEAKER_00 18:50

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 18:51

To do that. I am medium at that. I can do it sometimes, but most times I'm like Like I can if I have to, but like I don't always I don't usually want to. Like, why do you say to a hey yo? Hey, what's up? Where are you going? Somebody, I think I told you this the other day. Whenever I was sitting in the waiting room in the vet, somebody they looked at me and like, what are you in for? Have you always wanted to use that line? Yeah, were you waiting? It's like uh not gonna get into it. Okay, so my next one is like double texts and like text. So instead, or actually double texts meaning how do I want to say this? I actually don't know what this means. Is it double text like you text someone, they don't answer you, you double text them like hey, hello, or is it like sending like multiple in a row? Those are different things, double texting as in you don't answer and then they're like hello? Yeah, it says double text out of my phone. Immediately. So I would say that one. Immediately, yeah. So it's like if they don't immediately get an answer, they're double texting. Oh heavens, no. I think that's a red flag. It's giving insecure. If you're like texting and you send another message, like because some people text in separate messages. That's me. I don't think that's a a red flag. I don't have if you're texting being like, why are you answering me? That's yucky vibes.

SPEAKER_00 20:31

That's what I do to you.

SPEAKER_02 20:33

You don't? I'm like, hello? Where are you? Why aren't you answering? Sorry, true. Sometimes I do that because I have certain anxieties about certain things. Yeah. But I do double text. I just can't get all my thoughts together initially, and then they just keep coming. Yeah, I do that too. But I'm if I'm like texting somebody and they don't answer me, and I say, Hey, did you get my message? You should probably shoot me. I will that's crazy.

SPEAKER_00 21:10

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 21:11

I would never do that.

SPEAKER_00 21:13

Hey, just following up on this. Did you get it? Are you okay? Or no? I see that you have your read receipts on.

unknown 21:21

What are you doing?

SPEAKER_02 21:22

No, I'd soon you you wouldn't speak to me again if that were the case.

SPEAKER_01 21:31

Is that my turn? Yeah, that's why I was saying um for so long.

SPEAKER_00 21:34

I can't remember.

SPEAKER_02 21:35

Hmm. This is an obvious obvious one, is obviously one. But they cuss a lot. That's a burnt red flag. Fire red. That's fire engine red. It's giving no relationship with the Lord. Sorry. It's giving you being mean. Understand, you know, slipping up every so often we're humans. But if you're just like recreationally drawing bombs, nah. Gross. We don't condone recreational slippage of the F bomb. F bomb. Hate to see it. B bomb. The D bomb.

SPEAKER_01 22:25

I don't know any more bombs.

SPEAKER_02 22:28

The A-bomb. Those are bad guys. Don't do it. Yeah. I think it's a very red flag. For me. Yeah. It's a red flag for me. Every each man his own, whatever that's saying is. Each man is his own, you know? You're not your brother's keeper, you know. Um, okay. Falls asleep during movies every time. Oh heavens. I don't know what to answer because I don't really know what I do. It's not a red flag, but it's like it's a little bit more than a beige flag. It's probably like a yellow flag because that's that's annoying. It's like I'm if I'm like sitting down to watch a movie with someone, it's usually like a planned thing. We're not just like, unless it's like you or something, like we're not just like sitting down and watching a movie. Like it's like, oh, hey, do you want to watch a movie together? Let's have a movie night. Like that's hangout time. Like I mean, unless it's like midnight or something, I get it. Yeah. But even like whenever you stay the night and we're watching a show and I'm like, look over to say something and you're sleeping, I just feel like an idiot. I know. It makes you feel so dumpy, like smiling at the TV. You look over and you're like, huh? Oh, shoot. Oh, you're I'll just turn this off then. Yeah. And then go to bed immediately. Is it me? Um, I think so. Yeah. Doesn't drink coffee. Oh, it's not a red flag. You need to be judgmental. But it's a beige flag. This is all us. Yeah, this is all like our opinions, okay? I think it's a beige flag. Yeah. It's a beige flag because I like to drink coffee. I love to go to different coffee shops, and it just kind of kills the vibe whenever they're like, I'll get a lemonade. Yeah. I'll just get a water. No, come on, let's vibrant.

SPEAKER_00 24:33

Let's get a latte.

SPEAKER_02 24:36

Don't be shy. Try one. Try one. It's fun. What do you think? Oh my gosh. This next one, it says, I don't drink water. Oh, I just forget to drink water. You're an infant. Guys, you have to drink water. That's a red flag. I think it's a red flag, like to say, water is nasty. Water is just gross. I can't drink water. Yes, you can. Your your body is made to drink water. It's not made to drink the diet or the coke I have every day. Yeah. Guys, drink more water, she says, as she has a Coke a day. I cut back.

SPEAKER_00 25:26

I didn't have one today.

SPEAKER_02 25:28

You drink a Coke every day for real? No. Only five days a week when I'm at work.

SPEAKER_00 25:33

No, not that much. But a lot of days a week, maybe five.

unknown 25:42

No.

SPEAKER_02 25:43

But you do drink water. Yes. If you're only drinking Coke, I wash it down with water. Yeah. Two of these, what is this? 32. 32. 64. So like six. Maybe like I think I drink, I definitely drink one a day and then like half of another one. I definitely don't drink two. Katie, on the other hand, at work, should be throwing them back. I don't know how she drinks that much water. Shout out, Katie. That's why her skin is so nice. Her skin. Katie, I did tell Elizabeth how nice your skin was. Like, Katie has the nicest skin. It's so glowy. And I was like, you know, it's probably because all the water she drinks. So, like this past week I have been trying to drink more water. So if you hear gulping throughout this episode, I'm so, so sorry. Go ahead. Someone who's into astrology. That's a red flag for me. Yeah, that's honestly would make me a little bit scared. Like, I know I'm not into it, but like I know I'm a Scorpio, you're at Virgo. What goes beyond that? I don't know. That's all I know is that November is Scorpio. But if you're like truly into it and like, oh sorry, I act like that. It's because Mercury is in retrograde and I'm a Taurus. I don't even. My star sign, or no, that is the sun sign. My rising. Yeah. My moon sign. My moon sign and my rising sun signs. I I don't know. I just know my birthday. In that I'm a child of God.

SPEAKER_00 27:26

Okay, so my next one is wakes up at 5 a.m.

SPEAKER_02 27:36

for fun. I think that's a green flag. Shows discipline. Ooh. I think it's good. I mean, could it get annoying for me? Of course. But I think it's good when anyone has some discipline to wake up at 5 a.m. I wish I could. I so wish I could. I did. Those two weeks, remember? I talked about it too many times on it. I think I'm gonna wake up early tomorrow. For why? I don't know. Just to be better. Get to work early, leave early. So I did actually I'm not gonna say that. Okay. I slept through my workout class this morning. Again? Liz! My alarm didn't go off. But I'm I don't want her to listen and be like, okay, well, you're a brat.

unknown 28:33

Oh.

SPEAKER_00 28:35

Maybe she doesn't listen.

SPEAKER_02 28:38

Well, it's a no, it I woke up ticked off because I'm like, dang it. My alarm, legit. I watched it. It goes off, but it doesn't make any sounds. And I don't have any kind of internal thing that's gonna wake me up.

SPEAKER_00 28:54

Does it is it that you know scenario where it goes off for like an hour and then when you wake up, it's not making a sound at that point.

SPEAKER_02 29:04

Who's to know? Who's really to know? But all all I know is I woke up banned me because somebody called me. And yeah, I saw that it was like 8 45. I was like, cool, it just ended right on time. So he uh sends voice messages instead of texting. Honestly, I don't know. I think beige. Yeah. Because I don't personally send voice messages, but I know you do. But I don't send them to you, which is weird. No, you have before, and I just replied normally. Yeah, I was like, yo, we ain't we ain't exchanging, we ain't doing this. Okay, not it. I don't know. Maybe I'll start.

unknown 30:01

Never mind.

SPEAKER_02 30:02

Send one to me, I'll try it. Okay, I just feel insecure about it.

SPEAKER_01 30:06

It disappears in two minutes, and it's me.

SPEAKER_02 30:10

No, we just FaceTime, but it feels awkward. Like if you sent me a voice message, I would just FaceTime you because I just want to like talk to you. I'll be trying to respond to you. I feel like it is a uh I think it could be a green flag, but for me personally, it's like neutral. Yeah, I'm we're making up flag colors. It's like in between beige and it's kind of like a a copper chartreuse. I uh yeah, maybe a chartreuse because I feel what are you talking about? This episode will be titled Roy G. Biv Flags. I actually am feeling indigo on this. Yeah, I feel that too.

SPEAKER_00 31:01

No, so so do you remember on that hinge? That you remember that one ab hinge that don't work. That one. Uh, there was a guy, he was cute too. The one that got away, the one that never responded to me.

SPEAKER_02 31:19

He sent me a voice memo. Oh scared the pants off me. I was like, huh? People are doing this on hinge right off the bat. But then I was like, But it was it was a good sign though. Yeah, I was like, hey, he's confident in who he is. He uh he was a Christian guy, which I loved, and it just came off as like confident that he knew who he was, knew what he wanted. By golly, he knew he didn't want me. I so I was like, you know what? The hey, I'll send one back. No response, unmatched. Yeah, what unmatched, unmatched two days later, but still unmatched me. You know what? Maybe he met somebody. You never really know.

SPEAKER_00 32:01

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 32:03

Maybe. Yeah. That one hurt. Whatever. That one hurt because I was like, You didn't even think he was that cute.

SPEAKER_00 32:10

I didn't at first, but then he grew on me.

SPEAKER_02 32:12

I was like, okay, he's kind of cute. He ran Iron Man. That's a red flag. Yeah. That's not good for your health. Okay. Yeah, honestly, guys. My next one is Iron Man races. Is it really? No. Oh. That's a red flag. I think if you do one in your life, that's like amazing, cool. But if you're constantly running Iron Man's, I think maybe you get to dig deeper and like figure out what type of validation you're searching for. This episode is me as I'm signing up for half marathons every year. Yeah. Us screaming it from the rooftops, telling anybody I know. No, it's not a red flag to run Ironman's. I'm just joking. It's a red flag to run. I'm doing a heart for audio listeners only. Okay. So I don't know who went. Me? I don't know. My next one is this one.

SPEAKER_01 33:17

I'm asking for a friend. Deletes Instagram twice a month or more.

SPEAKER_02 33:24

Red flag. Green flag. I don't know if it's a red flag because you are watching. Yeah. Please, God, help me. Because it shows that you are it's for a friend. Oh yeah, yeah. Sorry, sorry. Your friend is trying to be better, but it's giving a little bit red because you keep going back to that one. Yeah, I just needed to ask. She had she wanted me to ask. She was wondering. She's so like. I'll let her know. She's so fickle.

SPEAKER_01 33:59

That's what it's giving. It's giving flake fickle.

SPEAKER_02 34:04

Man. Hmm. This one is like dating specific, I guess. But remember small details, or I guess that's not. Remember small details, but forgets everything. Like, I guess like bigger meanings. Yes. That's green flag. Yeah. Okay. Remembers small details, but forgets everything. So do they not remember the screen? How that was supposed to be written. Remembers like this they remember small things, but they forget like where they're driving to. Yeah. I guess.

SPEAKER_00 34:49

I think like anyone remembering things about you, speci like the small things are the things that can sometimes matter the most. So I do feel like that's a green flag.

SPEAKER_02 35:01

Yeah. But also. But also, if they forget other things like bigger things, could be red. Could be red, like birthdays, anniversaries. Walks really fast for no reason. I'm sorry, but that's a red flag. I feel like all the ones I've done are red flags. Maybe I just have to- I'm not a fast walker. I am. You walk too fast. And then you get mad at me for walking slow. Like you gotta keep up with the pace of traffic. Honey, honey. Dude, we're like you're walking fast in the most places that you don't have to do that. Like where? I don't know. New York. New York City, the airport. When in Rome, baby. Okay, but I don't walk fast and I can't. Unless I'm running.

SPEAKER_00 36:03

I think that's a red flag. That I can't walk with. Not walking fast.

SPEAKER_02 36:08

Sorry. I'm in the back. If you have the ability to maybe just enjoy it where you're at. Stop trying to rush through everything. Stop and smell the roses. As my grandma would say. Whatever. Yeah, I've known a few fast walkers in my life, and I just say, huh? See you later. I saw this video last night. Did you know that Kylie Jenner doesn't use filler words? What? How can one say that? She's never in her life. I'm sure she's used the word but a couple times. But whoops. I saw this video where this girl is training herself to not use filler words.

SPEAKER_00 37:00

And she's doing like these 60-second like challenges where she will talk for 60 seconds without using any likes, that kind of thing. And I want to do that, but I don't think starting right now. Starting right now.

SPEAKER_02 37:18

So my next one is that they are overly competitive or just very competitive. I don't know. All mine are neutral. I don't give a rip. It could be red if they start getting like mean. Yeah. I guess so. And like competitive in an unhealthy way where they're trying to put you down. Yeah. But I'm also pretty competitive with like sports and games. Sports and games and stuff. To the point where I will cry and quit. Red Rover, uh, kickball, darts, foosball. I'm pretty competitive in it all. Yeah, and I don't like whenever I'm not good at something. Yeah, I really board games. I clock out of those pretty quickly, and I really don't give a red. No, no. Don't invite me to a game night if it's a board game. Okay. So these are the rules.

SPEAKER_01 38:28

Don't care. Don't care. I'm not playing. I'm about to tell you in about two seconds.

SPEAKER_02 38:35

You just don't know it yet. Shh. She doesn't know it yet, but I'm about to.

SPEAKER_01 38:41

Yeah, absolutely. I've no, I know what you said. So I had to set up, set off some bug foggers this evening and not in my house, okay?

SPEAKER_02 38:52

I don't have bugs. But I had to read the directions on those. I had to read them like five times because I had such trouble. Like, okay, put the calves down, set it on. I yeah. Yeah. I will. This is gonna expose me because I've done this. But if I'm at a board game thing night and they try to explain the rules, and I don't know, I'll just say that I'm gonna watch the first round, and I'll probably leave after that.

SPEAKER_01 39:24

All right, guys. Well, it's been a night. I had so much fun. Love fun. Hang on.

SPEAKER_02 39:28

Yeah, I'm gonna go. I hate it. I mean, I'll try to do it. I like love card games. Yeah, Kenyland. I don't even know how to play it now. Shoots and ladders. Those were the ones that we had. We didn't have anything more complicated. We had sorry, but we didn't know how to play it, so we never did. Sorry. Get out of town. I thought that was serial. Oh.

SPEAKER_00 39:57

There's a game of life?

SPEAKER_02 39:59

I thought there was.

SPEAKER_00 40:00

I uh I'm just sorry.

SPEAKER_01 40:02

Me just blurting out, I thought that was serial didn't make sense.

SPEAKER_02 40:06

But well, it's not called the game of life. Serial. I think there's a lot of things. I feel like it has the same logo is what in my brain I immediately thought, and then I screamed that. I don't know. Also, Monopoly is basically Chinese. I don't know. All I know is that there's a thimble involved. I just put that little thing on my finger when I was young. It's like I'm not good with okay, actually I am good with my money, like realistically. But like I don't want anyone to think I'm a frivolous spender, but it's like I don't I like to spend money.

SPEAKER_00 40:46

I don't want to go play Monopoly and have to play pretend with money. Like, I don't know. It just seems too much mathy. It's like I already have enough problems like trying to save and spend money in real life.

SPEAKER_02 41:02

I don't need to play a game about it. Yeah. Yeah, I just really don't know what it's about, even Dungeons and Gargoyles? Or is it Dragons? I think that's from Riverdale. No, I'm pretty sure. I'm almost positive that's a real game. I think it's Dungeons and Dragons. Oh. That was that weird crap from Riverdale.

SPEAKER_01 41:32

Dungeons and Gargrows was from a show. So Dungeons and Dragons.

SPEAKER_02 41:38

Yeah. I don't know what that's about either. Is it like like you kind of added it? I think it's something to do with Dungeons and Dragons. Oh, yeah. I don't know. I think Yeah, that makes sense. Also, let's talk about we're so far off the topic. Riverdale, I just have to say before we have to back. Really demonic, and I got scared after the Gargoyle King came about.

SPEAKER_01 42:07

I couldn't even walk outside at night into Gargoyle King.

SPEAKER_02 42:12

I was like, all right, I think I'm gonna have to stop watching this. Like Archie Comics turned into Demon Fest. I'm like, is this Yeah? I was like, I thought I was gonna be kind of like, oh, they're solving a mystery, and then it's gonna be like the Timmy Bopper show. And then I got scared the pinch. What are your thoughts on Mr. Fantastic? Fantasy. Mr. Fantasy. Oh, yeah, Mr. Fantasy. Aussie Mr. Who? I can never remember his name. Yeah, I like him. I think he's funny. He's a good character. Goes on runs without music. I don't think that's a red flag. I think it's a green flag. Yeah. Because it shows that you don't need distractions or constant noise in your ears. You're focused. Oh yeah. I will I listen all the time. I I have I was actually thinking about this today. Remember, I was at work, I went on a walk and I called you. I was like, you shouldn't use that time to reflect. Exactly. I should have just like walked and like prayed or like, you know, thought or just nothing at all. Nope. I had to call you, had to chat with somebody. Sometimes I'll go on walks and I'll be like, oh, I gotta find a podcast to play while I take a walk.

SPEAKER_03 43:39

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 43:40

And then I'm like, why don't I just like think with my own thoughts? Yeah. But usually if I'm running, I gotta play something. Honestly, I do like running and walking without music. I don't do it all the time, but it is refreshing. Yeah, it's like you just get into like the rhythm of the Of the rhythm of your breath, and it you just feel like you're one with nature. Yeah. Maybe I'll do that tomorrow morning when I wake up early. Yeah. Yeah. We will see. We will see about that. Um they use a lot of emojis when texting. Ew. I think that's a red flag in my experience.

SPEAKER_00 44:27

There's nothing like in my experience.

SPEAKER_02 44:32

There's nothing like like there's no facts behind this. Like it doesn't make you a bad person. I use emojis too, but like them. Yeah. I don't use them a ton though. I use a select few. Yeah. But whenever I'm texting, like on the daily, I don't use emojis. Like whenever we send emojis, even if we send the laughing face to each other, I'm like, that's weird. It's like, okay, fake. Yeah.

unknown 45:05

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 45:05

Like when you use exclamation marks when you text me. Like, did you send this to you have the wrong number? Like, what the freak? I don't think it's a red flag per se. You know what's a green flag though? What? It's like making your own emojis and sending those. That's one of my favorite things is to make stickers. Oh, that's what I mean. Not an emoji. There's a couple that I I like to use. What are they? Bodie and the cone? I don't know if he was in a cone. Oh, I swore you had one with Bodhi and a cone. Maybe. And then there's one of you when you had your barrel barrel jeans on. Oh. And your puffer jacket. And it's like from down below.5 or whatever. Should we should we share it on the dock? Absolutely not. That's the most embarrassing picture I've ever seen. Y'all, if you don't know what we're talking about, which you probably do, because I'm late to everything, but you can make your own stickers out of photos. You know, like whenever you're in your photos and you accidentally press on it for too long and it does something weird, if you press on it for a little longer, it will let you create a sticker. And you can use them in your text messages. Don't pull it up. I was just wanting to see if you're just sent it to me. That is rich.

SPEAKER_01 46:30

Bro, that's seriously the worst thing I've ever seen.

SPEAKER_02 46:38

Man, I love making stickers of people of bad pictures of them. I know. I have that. That's my cruel thing. Gabby, if you listen, I don't even know if I've ever sent this to you. But I have some of my face, Gabby's face, for some reason. They're fun. What's your next one, Liz? I think I just went, actually.

SPEAKER_00 47:06

Only listens to one type of music.

SPEAKER_02 47:10

See, okay, mine are actually all negative things. Um mine are like not even in between. Like I just feel like that's another red flag. Yeah, you're close-minded. Yeah, exactly. It's giving doesn't want to travel because America's the best country. It's like you don't want to experience other things because you think, oh, America is a great country. It's the best country. But I still want to go to Italy. We need to like clip the bald eagle like screech to go right there. Okay. Then come!

SPEAKER_00 47:49

USA!

SPEAKER_01 47:56

Just give me we need a soundboard.

SPEAKER_02 48:03

Where do you get a soundboard? I don't know. Amazon. No, but yeah, I think that's a red flag. Kind of. Like a red flag, but like if that was an all actuality and somebody didn't be, okay, cool. Claps when the plane lands. That's a dumb flag. Don't do that. It's dumb, but it's kind of sweet. I know. I feel like if like grandma and granddad were on a plane, like maybe they would clap. I don't think it's it's not dumb. I'm sorry, I shouldn't have called it that. Like it is sweet. It's like grandma, if you're listening to this, I didn't call you dumb. Grandma doesn't clap when the plane lands, probably. She doesn't go on planes, really.

unknown 48:50

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 48:51

I wouldn't know if she clapped on planes. If anyone claps on planes, I think it's kind. I think I did clap on one plane. I'm not gonna lie to you. It was the spirit airline that almost killed me. Speaking of, did you see that they closed forever? Yeah. Bankrupt. I didn't know it was forever, though.

SPEAKER_00 49:10

No more spirit.

SPEAKER_02 49:15

Did you forget where you were for a second? Sorry, I let my true self slip.

SPEAKER_03 49:27

With accent.

SPEAKER_02 49:30

Rumble.

SPEAKER_01 49:32

Rumble's tilt skin coming out.

SPEAKER_00 49:36

Bye, bye. What was that being?

unknown 49:41

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 49:42

But good riddance.

SPEAKER_02 49:44

Bye-bye, spirit. Not good riddance. They were affordable.

SPEAKER_01 49:47

Yeah, I know, but they're for some reason. They stunk.

SPEAKER_02 49:50

Yeah, it's like no. I don't know if they stunk. Like they're flying. I didn't like it. It was that one plane ride. Remember where I was like consoling the girl next to me. I had my hands around her. It's like it's okay, it's okay. She's probably like, it's just because we're going through the clouds. Meanwhile, my heart is beating out of my chest.

SPEAKER_00 50:10

I'm like, Katie, get my mama on the phone. I think I think I was with Katie at that time.

SPEAKER_02 50:16

I hated that flight. What was the flight that we went on that almost went down? Going to Rhode Island. Did it really almost go down? Oh, when something dropped or something? Yeah. Or it didn't actually drop. They were dropping the brakes. Or something. They said.

SPEAKER_00 50:33

The brakes were too hot, so they were dropping gears, and it was like Oh, I thought that they said dropping the brakes.

SPEAKER_02 50:41

And I was like, so are we gonna have them when we land? Well, the brakes were hot.

SPEAKER_00 50:46

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 50:47

So they dropped a gear or something to let them cool. Oh, I thought like dropping the fire. Are they gonna catch fires? Whoa, I just took these headphones off and I feel weird. Do you like them? Yeah, I kinda they keep my ears nice and warm. I don't know where we're at with that. I'll maybe do one more each. Okay. Sounds good. What? Are we in a meeting? Sounds perfect. Alright. Okay. So mine is talks on speakerphone in public. I you do you, but I can not be with you if you're on speakerphone in public. No. Makes me nervous. Yeah, I get really nervous. I would say it's a red flag and it's kind of rude. I remember this person in the airport was watching TikTok on. If there was a volume above loud, they were on it. Sometimes I do watch videos out loud, but not too much. But it was like very loud. Like I wasn't even sitting by them. I was standing somewhere off a little bit, and like they were like sitting, waiting for their plane. I'm like, that's really disturbing. What are you doing? Are you okay? Do you want a pair of headphones? Oops, I said I wasn't gonna use filler words. I forgot about that.

SPEAKER_00 52:26

I have a couple more. Okay, go on. Saying, I'm just being honest.

SPEAKER_02 52:33

And then saying something like kinda-ish mean. Can I be honest? The people who say that are that's just their way of being rude to you. Yeah. And they'd cover it up by saying, I'm just being real. I'm just real. You real mean.

SPEAKER_00 52:57

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 52:57

I think you can be honest with people without being mean and saying rude things to them. For show, for show. I mean with kindness. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 53:09

I feel like that's also like what we're supposed to do is like be honest with people and like call people out like if they're doing something that is mean, but I feel like don't hide your like meanness in the name of like honesty, if that makes any kind of sense.

SPEAKER_02 53:33

I feel like a lot of people do that. A lot of people that I'm friends with. I have nice friends, but luckily. But I feel like I feel like I like see people on like social media and stuff. Or like on a TV show or something.

SPEAKER_00 53:54

Like I don't know. I don't care. I love it. Oh, I said I was gonna do another one.

SPEAKER_02 54:06

Well then I'll have one more.

SPEAKER_00 54:08

Okay, you can go.

SPEAKER_02 54:10

Oh wait, maybe I have two more then. Has a thing about textures. They get weird with textures.

SPEAKER_01 54:18

That's not a red flag. It's you.

SPEAKER_02 54:21

Yeah. That's not a red flag. It's not a red flag, but it's giving a little bit baby vibes. Maybe I'm joking. It's just like if my hands are sticky, you can't do it. It will make it. You should see me eating a mango outside. Yucky. I just lean into it. And my hands are covered in. Sometimes they get dirt on them. Ew. Yeah. I just don't think.

SPEAKER_00 54:50

Like if I like rub, like even like right now on my jeans, like if I rub my hand back and forth, like it makes me want to throw up. Remember, I you already know what I'm about to say. The couch.

SPEAKER_02 55:02

It had the nastiest texture. See, I don't get weird about everyday textures, but just the hard hitters, like like rough skin on a microfiber cloth. That doesn't bother me that much. No way. Yeah. That can make sense. Like that's really gross, but like it's not like crazy. One of my worst ones is whenever, like, if you're washing dishes or something and your hands are like squeaky clean and you rub them together and they squeak. Did you used to go like this with your thumb in your mouth, like this?

unknown 55:37

No.

SPEAKER_02 55:38

And then against your teeth, and then your thumb on your thumb and like squeak. Yeah, maybe I did.

SPEAKER_00 55:44

I shouldn't have said that all the time.

SPEAKER_02 55:45

But whenever your fingers squeak when they rub together because they're so like don't have any oils on them. Yeah. That can make me barf. I like it. It's squeaky clean. Yuck. I'll go and put lotion on so they don't squeak. My next one slash last one is being. Okay, I have to while you I'm gonna do one more after this. And then we just keep adding them. But I'm gonna do one more so I can find one positive one. Because I feel like the ones that I've listed slash made up are all I'm just asking for a red flag.

SPEAKER_01 56:18

Like I'm these are just questions that I have.

SPEAKER_02 56:20

And then it's like I just need validation to know that you think it's a red flag, too. No, but being five minutes late everywhere. Amber, we can't talk about this. Our friends are gonna come get us. I'm five minutes late when I'm with you. I'm just kidding. Mind you, we're recording an hour late because you. Because who? It was not my fault. Well, it was you. It was me. It was an hour and like 15 minutes, but there I was at the mercy of something, someone else in their schedule, and it affected me. And yeah, it wasn't my fault. Well, I I don't think it's a red flag, do you think it's right?

SPEAKER_01 57:16

Five minutes is a maker brief.

SPEAKER_02 57:18

I don't think it's a red flag. I think if it's like a very time-sensitive thing, I'll make sure that I'm there. But if we're like, oh, come over at eight and we'll watch a movie. I know what friend's coming for us. Probably a couple. But if you invite me over to your house to hang out at a certain time, I think it's okay if I'm like five to ten minutes late. Yeah. Where are we going? The couch. Like going to the dining room. If you have kids and stuff, I understand. I'll probably try to be more respectful, but try to be more respectful.

SPEAKER_01 57:58

Maybe. No.

SPEAKER_02 57:59

If I'm going to like like the big things, like the important things. I feel like we grew up in a family where we were late to everything. So I do feel like a little bit of that has rubbed off on me. But also I am very do you remember how mad I used to get at mom, like when we would be late to school in the mornings?

SPEAKER_00 58:22

Like I hate being late. But then, but yet, like sometimes it's just like that.

SPEAKER_02 58:28

It's like and a lot of times when people ask me to do stuff, it's after work. And I have to I live. That's just defending ourselves. You don't get it. I live so far away, I can't go home and change and come back and be there at seven o'clock. I'm gonna be a little bit late. I have a lot of things going on, okay? I think it's a green flag.

SPEAKER_01 58:54

It's actually a green flag.

SPEAKER_02 58:56

If you're like 30 minutes late, that's disrespectful. That's what happened tonight.

unknown 59:03

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 59:05

I I agree. Five minutes isn't gonna make or break every anything, but it is like when it is aim to be on time, but every so often I'm a little bit late. I do, because I understand, like if you plan something or if it's a reservation or something like that, like okay, let's be on time. Like we're disrespecting like these people's times, their schedules, whatever. But if it's something simple, it's yeah, like I I'll say it again. If it's something that, like, yeah, a lot of working parts to it, yeah, and we have to be there at a certain time, I will. But if we're just hanging out, I probably gonna try to.

SPEAKER_00 59:56

If there's a bomb that needs to be disassembled, let's be on time, okay, before that goes off. Things like that. Important.

SPEAKER_02 1:00:05

But we'll move on. Anyways, I can do a whole podcast about why I'm late and why no one needs to get mad at me because I'm late. I live far away from everyone. Only drinks room temperature water. I think it's a green flag. I drink room temp water. I don't want it to be cold. I like it chilled, but not enough where it's gonna hurt my teeth. I'm very interested in it. And they'll done. I think it's beige. I don't give a single rip. I like both at certain times. Like at night, I like broom temp. I was gonna say, if you say cold at night, it's crazy. And then like any other time of the day, I am I'm a cold water gal. Cold water gal. Ooh. Posts, this is like, how long is this? We're at an hour three, my last one.

SPEAKER_01 1:01:08

Oh my god. Okay, we're gonna wrap.

SPEAKER_02 1:01:09

This is the last one for sure.

SPEAKER_01 1:01:10

This is the last one for sure. Um, if anyone is still listening out there.

SPEAKER_02 1:01:14

No, we're just I'm actually just yeah, I have a whole list here.

unknown 1:01:19

I know.

SPEAKER_02 1:01:22

Oh wait, no, that's another red flag. All right, guys. So that's it. I can't find any that I like. Maybe so ending on that. Oh okay, what about this one? This is like for social media. Post once a year, but it's a photo dump. Fine. I think that's a green flag. That's what I do. You take pictures, you capture the moment, but you don't feel the need to share it all the time. Yeah. And until the end of the year, of course.

SPEAKER_03 1:01:52

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 1:01:52

I'm showing all the cool stuff that I did. Cool trips that I took. I didn't tell you guys about it. Because I'm mysterious and cool. No, I just I don't post because I don't really have I'm not doing anything that's worth sharing. Yeah. I feel like if I had if I that's not the point of social media. If I had more cool stuff and highlight reels, I'd show you guys. But no, I'd show you my mundane life.

SPEAKER_00 1:02:23

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 1:02:24

So I'm just, I don't take any pictures. I just really don't care to share anything mundane. Like, it's just what like okay. It's everyday life, guys. I actually want to see the highlights of other people. I want to see your trip to Greece. Yeah. Share more. I'm trying to pretend like I'm there. I don't want to see you freaking like, I don't know. Mop in your kitchen. Don't care. I saw that if anyone knows who John Christ slash, is it does he pronounce it Christ or Christ? Christ. Christ. I think some of his stuff is funny. But what was you'll have to help me out because you know I can't remember. They say that comparison is a thief of joy. He's like, yeah, my mom used to tell me that when I was young. Finish. Oh, okay. I can't remember. Said, but you're comparing yourself to the wrong people. Yeah. Compare yourself to someone who's doing way worse than you. Then you feel really good. Yeah. He's like, so just be better at comparing. I thought that was so funny. But then he's like, you feel bad about your weight? Don't go to the gym to go to Golden Corral. Like, that is so true. That's so backward. Yeah. It's not right, guys. I know. But I thought it was really funny. Just compare yourself to the right people. And you will feel actually, it's actually wait. What did he say? He's like, it's actually my source of joy. Yeah. Not the peep of joy. Anyways, all right. So I hope you take that little nugget with you. Because it's Friday. Start comparing yourself to others. We had fun chatting. This was a little bit of a long, long episode, but we hope you stuck around. Yeah. We'll see you next week. Follow us, like us, subscribe us. Leave a comment. Subscribe us. Prescribe some stuff to help me. What am I trying to say? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts. Oh my gosh. Yeah, I'm pretty sure we only have like two reviews, guys. And one of them is our mom.

unknown 1:04:39

Oh, that's embarrassing.

SPEAKER_02 1:04:41

So maybe we have three. She's still listening. Thank you, Mommy. Love you. Love you, mom. Um, but yes, if we'll give you a five dollar Starbucks gift. Maybe. You'll you never know. Maybe we will, maybe we won't. You won't know until you do it. So use this sweet little cash out in your DMs.

SPEAKER_00 1:05:03

Okay.

SPEAKER_02 1:05:04

Bye.

SPEAKER_00 1:05:06

See you later.