How you actually call in your dream business (and don’t let your old patterns sabotage you)

 You can't build your dream business from the energy you're trying to escape

What if the way you're currently building your business is actually keeping you from creating the business you say you want?

You can't build a business rooted in freedom, ease, fun, and flow while constantly operating from pressure, urgency, overwork, and the belief that you just need to push a little harder now so you can finally have the life you want later.

You might be able to create results that way.

But can you create your dream business?

In this episode of The Aligned Business Show, I explore why the actions you take to build your business need to be in alignment with the experience you actually want to create.

Because if you want a business that feels spacious, but your marketing makes you miserable...

If you want ease, but you keep creating offers you don't actually love because you think they'll sell...

If you want freedom, but your entire business depends on you working harder, longer, and constantly doing more...

There may be a disconnect between the business you're trying to create and the energy from which you're trying to create it.

And this is where your old patterns can quietly sabotage the new reality you're trying to build.

The part of you that says:

"Just push a little harder now."

"Just do this one thing you don't want to do."

"Just take on this client."

"Just keep working until you've earned the right to slow down."

But the business you want cannot be built by constantly postponing the way you want to feel.

In this episode, we explore:

• Why you can't build a business of freedom from a constant state of pressure
• The difference between taking aligned action and repeating old patterns
• How your current offers, marketing, and ways of working may be out of alignment with the business you actually want
• Why “doing more now so you can have more later” can keep you trapped in the very cycle you're trying to escape
• What it means to embody the energy and experience of your desired business now
• How ideas, opportunities, people, circumstances, and tangible next steps begin to emerge when you create space for them
• Why aligned action isn't about doing nothing—it's about allowing the right actions to become visible

This isn't about pretending you've already arrived.

It's about consciously choosing, wherever possible, to make decisions from the energy of the business and life you're actually calling in.

Not because you need to perform the right actions to get your dream business.

But because the way you want to feel matters now.

And when you stop forcing your way toward a future that requires you to become someone else, you may finally start seeing the ideas, opportunities, and actions that can actually lead you there.

If you're building a business that looks successful from the outside but feels increasingly disconnected from the life you actually want, this episode is for you.

Because you can't build your dream business from the energy you're trying to escape.

 #AlignedBusiness #DreamBusiness #Entrepreneurship #BusinessMindset #OnlineBusiness #BusinessGrowth 

Transcript

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You can't build your business, your dream business in hustle mode. That's what we're going to talk about today. And I'm so fucking excited about this episode because this is everything. I want you to forget every manifestation conversation you ever had. I want you to forget every business success conversation you ever listened to. And I want you to listen to this fully and awarely. Because, yes, of course, you can build a dream business in hustle mode if your dream business is a hustle business. It's a business where you absolutely fucking love to work 20 hours a day, where you love to lock yourself in a room and have no interaction with the outside world, where you love saying no to friends and family and birthdays and vacations and everything, where you are fully focused on doing the things you think you need to do in order to have the success you think you will have when you hustle. If you dream about that business, if that would be your absolute biggest, oh my God, yes, I could not imagine a better reality, then you can absolutely create a dream business in a hustle mode. But if you don't dream about that, and if you dream about the business of freedom, where it feels amazing to wake up, where you are opening your eyes in the morning and you can't wait to get started on the day. Not to crush the to-do list, not so you can feel like you accomplished something, not to have a million tasks, you can just say, I nailed it, I did it, yes, now I feel closer to success, but actually feel, enjoy the things you do, then you need to do something different. And your subconscious mind and your patterns are so fucking tricky that they will sneak in there. So even if you try to create your dream business where you have ultimate freedom, where you can do whatever the fuck you want, where you can work the hours you want, the with the clients you want, with the subjects, the matters, the deals, the whatever you want. Make the money you want, travel the world if you want, if you want that business, your subconscious mind and patterns related to the hustle, because we all have them, will come in in the most sneak way and make you think that you are working on this new thing and you are doing something great in relation to this new business you are building when you are self-sabotaging in the most sophisticated way. So I have so much to say about this because it's so close to my heart. I see so many brilliant, capable, talented, amazing women who have their own business, entrepreneurs who have made it, quote unquote, who have built the successful business, who are making the money, who are on people's lips, people know who they are. I see so many of them pause. Like, hit the break just for a moment. Because they don't actually feel that the success they have acquired feels the way they imagined it would. Why? Because they have built the business in the wrong energy. And this is where manifestation comes in. This is where frequency enters the conversation because it is everything. But there are so many people who get it wrong. Let me give you an example. You want to have a business where you wake up and you feel excited about your day, where what you offer is something you are so freaking passionate about, where you can set the price point that makes you hot. And you want clients to come and match for that offer who feels amazing to work with. If that is your dream, then you need to create offers that match that dream. That means nothing about your offers can be different from that energy, from that feeling. Because if it is, it does not belong in that business or that reality. Makes sense, right? Let us go deeper. That means it's not just about what you offer and that you feel excited about that. It's the entire package of delivery that you have to feel matches that vibration of your dream. It's the entire package of that offer and the deliverables that has to match that desire and that dream. That means you cannot put more or less one-on-one into that package than you actually feel really, really good about. That means you can't set a duration on it that is shorter or longer than what feels fucking amazing. That also means you can't put services in it. That doesn't match the vibration of the reality you want to call in. They have to align. What you offer have to be a direct match to the frequency and the vibration of the reality you want to call in, of the business you want to build, of how you want that life to feel. Let us go further because maybe you can start to see that your sneaky little mind can already come and sabotage just a little bit here. Just, I mean, maybe it would be worth more. If I if I really charge this, then I think I have to add more one-on-one, or I think I have to make the journey longer, or I think I need to include XYZ. Marketing. Do you think in your dream life, in your dream reality, where your dream business exists and where you feel amazing, in love with life, waking up every day excited to do whatever you have to do that day, to experience whatever is on your schedule? Do you think in that reality marketing that offer that feels so sweet? Do you think the marketing feels boring? Do you think the marketing feels like a chore? Do you think the marketing feels like, oh god, I have to do this? Do you think anything you create in that energy, any post you come up with, any challenge you create in that, oh, I have to do something, energy is gonna work for the offer that you feel really passionate about that makes you hot. And for the life that you want to build of freedom and overflow and abundance. No, it doesn't. But that means in every place, in every situation, in any area, in any part of any task where the energy of what you are doing, of things you have to be doing right now does not match the frequency and energy and vibration of what you desire in any place, teen tiny, you are already off. Because you can't tell me that the life you dream of with the business that has overflow, that has clients screaming your name, that has a wait list, that is producing results that you can't even fathom, that are giving you a revenue that you are even scared to say that number right now. You cannot tell me that that business in any way is connected to heavy marketing, or to offers you don't love, or to any step on the way that does not match that. You can't you can't tell me because it doesn't exist. This is why so many people go for what they want and they try to build new things in the old energy. And they may implement a few new things, but the underlying belief and the patterns and the coding and the expectations are still what drives their actions and their actions create their reality. So it's not just about changing your mindset about the things you're doing, it's about allowing yourself to see are the things I'm doing actually a match to what I desire. And that doesn't mean you have to work harder, that doesn't mean you have to put in more hours, that doesn't mean you have to do anything in an energy that feels ugh, because all of that does not equal the energy of your dream. Now please hear me out. I am not saying that every part of the journey of creating the new will be flowful and fun and easy, and oh my god, this is amazing, because you have to challenge every part of you that does not believe that that reality can exist, that are questioning whether or not you could actually have that without hard work, without obstacles, without setbacks, without hustle. Every part of you that comes up with actions, with thoughts, and with feelings that does not match your dream life or your dream business. You have to face them and you have to figure out if you want to believe those voices and those parts more than the parts that knows. Of course, there is a way where you can market your business in a way that feels fun. Of course, there is a way where you can offer only things that you are fucking excited about. Of course, there is a way where people can find you in unfucking predictable ways, where you don't have to figure everything out, where you don't have to micromanage every move, where you don't have to scrutinize every post to see where it went wrong or if it did what it was supposed to do, or if it attracted the people it was supposed to attract. Of course, there is a reality where you can wake up and somebody just found you, or you can bump into a person on the street, or you can go to a coffee shop and you start chatting up a person, or you can be in the supermarket and suddenly you're reaching for the same bottle of champagne as somebody else, and you start talking and people find you. Any part of you that is more rooted in and connected to the belief that things have to be hard, it has to take a certain amount of time, you have to do a certain amount of things before you can. You have to face them and you have to heal them and you have to get them on board with whatever matches the reality you are trying to create. And that is not easy work. In fact, the inner work is the hard work. Most people would happily take a fucking long to-do list with a million things on it that they can do over real inner work because it's easier to focus on something outside of us than to face what is inside of us. Now you may find yourself thinking, well, fuck. I don't know what to do then. I know what I want, I know my dream reality, I know my dream business, I even know what I want to offer, but I have no clue how to find the people. I have no clue how to market it. I have no clue how to actually make that happen because the things I'm doing now, or the things I've been taught, or the things that have worked up until now, there is no way, if I have to be honest, that they match that reality. So, what do you do? Here is the most genius thing about how this works. You don't, you don't do, you don't do anything from the confused energy, you don't do anything from lack of clarity, you don't do anything in the I think I have to find a new way, so let me just try this because why not? I have to do something. You don't do, you be. That means in that reality, you want to call in in your dream life, with your dream business, doing what you love, waking up every day in love with life, getting to serve with what feels so meaningful to you. Do you think there are things you do in that life that you could already do that has nothing to do with your business? By the way, please do not limit yourself to one aspect of your life when you try to call in something. Do you think there are some things that would exist on the same frequency of that business of that life? Oh, I think there is. And anything goes. Anything that allows you to feel, really feel, not just imagine, really feel that feeling that you would wake up to and with every single day in that life. Anything that puts you in that state will align you with that path. And when you are aligned with that path, actions will start to show themselves. You will get an idea that feels fucking crazy. And you know what? That's a good thing. That is a good thing. If you feel delusional, 90% of the time, you are on track. I know it's completely opposite to what we have learned, and people will fear for you. They will. Everyone that is limited in their mindset, everyone that needs to control the outcome, everyone that thinks they need to know all the steps before they can even dream of anything, or take the first one, will think you are fucking crazy and they will feel for you. That is a good thing. So your job when you don't know how to call in that business, how to call in that life is to fucking marinate in that feeling that is that life as much as possible. And it doesn't matter how you do it. If taking a long walk in nature puts you in that feeling of freedom and ease and flow and opportunities, then you fucking take a long walk. And you allow yourself to feel those feelings on that long walk. You are not taking the walk, expecting for miracles to happen, waiting for the next idea to drop into your head. You are not looking forward, searching forward, because that is the part of being non-attached. That is so hard for most people. You can't do the thing: the walk, the sex, the ocean dip, the yummy coffee, the dancing, the music, just to get something. You do it because it feels the way it would feel in your dream life. You do it because it matches the frequency and the vibration of the thing you are calling in and you are manifesting more of. So if you're just taking the long walk, because you know normally a long walk in nature, smelling the flowers, feeling the wind, listening to the birds, puts you in a state of bliss. And you know in your dream life you will be in a state of bliss most of the time. You can't take that walk, not experiencing those feelings and expect it to lead to something. You may get an idea, you may not. You may be led to another thing that you love, you may be led to something else that feels like a waste of time for your logical mind waiting for you to come up with a tangible step it can take that seems like you are moving in the right direction, but you may not come up with a logical, tangible step. You may come up with another delusional, crazy thing that you should do right now that makes absolutely no sense. Your job is to do it. Put yourself in the state of feeling the way you would feel in your dream life. Doing what you love, serving in a way that feels amazing. And the more you do it, the more you bask in that feeling. Not only will you call in that reality quicker, you will also be led step by step by step to things you can do that would help, that would benefit, that would lead to things, to places, to situations, to people, to opportunities that you could not have thought of, even if you tried really, really, really hard. You cannot create what you want in a different frequency than the frequency, the desire you have exist in. You can't. So every time there is a separation, you are off track. I'm not saying you can't follow through, I'm not saying you can't do it. I'm just saying it will not lead to what you want, it will lead to an insight, it will lead to a lesson, it will lead to a moment of, oh fuck, I did it again. And that's okay because you're so closer. But the steps you need to take in order to get to where you want to be exist in the same frequency as your destination. So here's the thing you can do right now. Imagine Imagine the life you want. And I don't mean imagine all the little things in it. Imagine it so you can see it vividly. Maybe you can, if you are a really visual person. But if you aren't, imagine what it would feel. And even if you are a very visual person, imagine how it would feel because we attract with our feelings. So you can look at the most pretty thing in the world, but if you feel nothing, there is no point of attraction. You can look at the most average thing in the world, but if it makes your heart sing, you have a very strong point of attraction. You become a magnet. This is the most brilliant piece of this conversation, because that means you do not need anything that you see in that dream life or that dream business in order to put yourself on the frequency of it. Because if you can find the same joy, the same excitement, the same passion, the same feeling of freedom, the same gratitude, the same appreciation that you would feel in that life right now, in simple things, you are unfucking stoppable because that means you do not need external circumstances to allow you to feel a certain way. You do not need the stars to align in order to manifest anything, you can do it 24-7 with anything you have or nothing at all, because it's not about the things, it's not about the circumstances, it's not about anything outside of you. It's only about the internal. How you feel in this moment is what you attract. How you feel in this moment moment to moment to moment, every day is what you attract. So, what most people do is they look at where they want to be and they feel the gap. And the gap is painful. The gap is especially painful because we don't know how to close it, we don't know how to build that fucking bridge to the other side. If we could just see wood or rope or anything, that we could build the bridge to cross this gap, it would be amazing because then we could get going, we could do something. We love doing something because we measure progress in the external world, but progress is created in the internal world, you cannot feel lack or doubt or sadness or unworthiness or anything like that. When you think of your dream, you think of where you want to be, you think of your future, you think of your vision, you think of your desire because none of those feelings matches your desire. It's only the absence of it that makes you feel like that. And when you keep wallowing in those feelings, what do you attract? More lack. More lack, more lack, more. I don't have it yet, more. I don't see the road, more, I don't know the steps, more, I don't know how to get there, more. This sucks so hard because I want to be there. You attract what you feel and you manifest what you feel. So when you think of that reality that you would just want to jump to right now, you have to feel that reality. You can't feel the gap. You can't feel the lack of it. You have to feel how it would be to live it, to wake up, to drink your coffee, to have a morning, to whatever in that reality. And the more you can feel how that would feel, the more you can recognize those feelings when they already occur. And the more you can start doing the things that would place you in that vibration, that would allow you to feel that way. And when you do that, and you are in the vibrational match to the reality you are trying to manifest and attract and create, the more the steps, the ideas, the tangible actions you can take right now will start to present itself. But I promise you, they will most likely not make sense. And there will be a part of you that says, but this doesn't make sense. Like how? How should this lead to? How should this allow me to? How could I? How? How? I don't see it. Like the puzzle pieces don't fit. Because you are creating the wrong puzzle. The pieces fit. You just don't see it yet. So you can't stop doing the things that makes you feel what you would feel in your dream life, having your dream business just because it doesn't make sense to feel that way now. Or just because doing what makes you feel that way now doesn't make sense because it doesn't make you money, or you can't see how it should, or you can't see how it relates to your business, or you can't see how this could be. You can't see what you haven't done yet. You are being initiated into a new version of you with new awareness, with new ways of seeing the world, with new ways of connecting the dots. So no, you can't see it yet, but you will. You will be able to see how that thing that makes no sense was in fact a fucking important step towards your dream. And this is where your current beliefs and your current patterns and your current identity and your current expectations are gonna sabotage you. Because if you get a new idea, if we go back to marketing on how to market this new offer that you are so excited about, and that is for sure a match to the business and the life you are creating and you have in your vision, but you haven't done it before, or you don't actually see other people doing it, or even worse, if somebody says that won't work. People won't take you seriously, they won't understand it, they won't get it. No one will buy if you do this. And then a part of you goes, What if they're right? What if this was just a really crazy idea? What if it's just me hoping that this will work because it feels better than that? Do you know how many people who tried diets who joined a gym because they were told that they needed to exercise in order to lose weight? And the most common place to exercise is a gym. Do you know how many people who've done that who have not lost weight, who have not followed through, who have not, in fact, achieved their goal or their dream? Do you know how many of those people that found a completely illogical way to lose the weight, that for sure felt better than going to the gym every day, dreading what you do? Can you see the frequency of I have to do this in order to get what makes me feel good? I have to market in order to get clients that I really want to serve because then I can make the money that makes me feel good. They do not match. The frequencies do not match. And when they do not match, they cannot create what you desire. Now, the very, very exciting part that should make you go, oh my God, I can't wait to do this, is that you just got the biggest permission slip to do whatever the fuck you want that makes you feel good, that makes you feel happy, that makes you feel giddy, that makes you feel abundant, that makes you feel grateful, that you think is fun and you like it and you're passionate about it, and you want to do this and it makes no fucking sense. But oh my god, you feel alive. You just got the biggest permission slip to do that. Because that matches the frequency of what you desire. That matches the frequency of the life you want to create. You cannot create an illogical, magical, amazing, over-the-top, oh my god, how is this even possible? Life with logical moves. You can't. They do not exist on the same frequency, they're not even part of the same fucking story. So I want to invite you to do something. I want you to look at the business you dream of, and I want you to allow yourself to feel it fully. How would it feel to have that? How would it feel to wake up to the reality where you got to say, this is my life, this is what I get to serve with. This is the amount of money I make, this is the freedom I have. You don't even have to be specific, but if it helps you do that, at least just feel how it would feel to open your eyes to that reality where your dream business was no longer a dream, but you were living it. What would it feel like? Because that is the feeling you are trying to create, and that is whatever you are trying to figure out how to take steps towards, how to come up with actions that can lead to that. But you don't have to figure out the how. It's not your job. You have to know the way it would feel, not how to get there. You have to know where you want to go, not the destination, but the feeling. Because life may surprise you. And the more open you can leave it, especially if you are within human design, we have the specific manifestors and we have the non-specific manifestors. And it's not just manifestors, it's the way we see the world, it's the way we bring about things, it's how we create and co-create with the universe. So either you are really visual, and the visual representation makes you feel a certain way, and that is why they are connected, or you are like me and you basically see nothing, or very, very small fragments, but you feel, oh my God, you feel, but you don't know what would actually make you feel that way. So this is why I started the freedom experiment, where I am allowing myself to focus on I want to create a life full of joy where I wake up and I love my life. I want to do the things that I love doing. That means all the things. That doesn't mean I put 90% of the work into creating the opportunity to have 10% where I can do the things I love. That means I can do my hobbies, I can explore new things, I can have time in my family, I can take time off, I can travel, I can have slow mornings, I can have full days of creativity or just being immerged in something that completely robs me of time and place and everything. Without having to justify it, without having to have earned it, and maybe even for ways where some of the things I'm passionate about that I love doing could also be income streams or, in some way, add to the entire picture of me doing what I love all the time. I don't know what will take me there. I don't know what I will offer or what I will do in that reality. I don't know where I will live. I don't know the specific services, I don't even know the people I will serve. Because the moment I try to zoom in on something tangible, it's from what I can currently see and think logically would be a match to what I desire. So I am allowing for the universe to surprise me. I am allowing for whatever forces bigger than me to show me the way. And as long as I stay in the frequency, as long as I do what I love, as long as I choose to put myself in the state I want to be in before I take any actionable steps, I can be sure of that the steps I take are actually aligned to what I want to create, no matter if I understand them or not. You don't have to do marketing that you feel is boring, you don't have to offer things you are not so freaking passionate about. You don't have to do anything in your business that you don't actually love. You don't but the part of you that thinks you have to is the part you need to start talking to and giving some attention to. Not to listen to what they say, but to figure out why they say it and to decide if that is really true and that's how you want to feel, and that's what you want to expect, and that's the reality you want to create from, or if you want to open up a whole new world with things you didn't think was possible, in fact, is very possible. And not only possible, but inevitable the moment you bring yourself onto the frequency they exist on. Inevitable isn't about God granting you wishes. Inevitable isn't about luck or faith or chance or anything external. Inevitable is you being so connected to what you want to create. Be so on board with how you want to feel and choosing that again and again and again and again, bringing yourself back to that state, to that frequency, to that trajectory, and taking steps and aligned actions from there. You are what makes things inevitable. You are, if you fully understand what we talked about here today. Oh my god, I hope this has blew your entire world open. And you see all areas of your life where you are trying to create something amazing and beautiful in a frequency that does not match. Because you can stop. It won't work. You can get to a goal, but the goal won't feel like you imagined if you don't get there in a way that matches the frequency the goal. I am so excited for you that you listen to this. I am so excited for you that you know so clearly now the simple thing you have to do. I say simple, because you can in a second put yourself in the state you want to be in. Not necessarily when you are like way off, because we have different frequency, like we have different steps on the emotional ladder. So if you are in complete despair and disbelief and you can't even imagine anything, you feel paralyzed or numb, there is a long way to super happy and joyful. So you need to take the steps in the order you are shown the steps in and in the pace that is right for you. So it may be you go from completely numb to angry that you don't have it. That is still better. That is still moving up the emotional ladder. And it may be you are taking yourself from anger to frustration. You are close. You are so close right now because on the other side of frustration is that desire, and you feel it. You feel it now, you feel it how much you want it, you feel how great it would be, you feel if you allow yourself just to tip, you feel the positive side of the lack that you are experiencing that is causing the frustration, the sadness, the doubt, the insecurity, the grief, the anger. You just need to flip it and see what it actually shows you you want. Ugh, I don't want this, but I want that. No, thank you. But hell yes. That's it. That is it, and then you allow yourself to do everything, everything that's possible for you, and hopefully also a few impossible things that puts you on the frequency that your dream and your desire and your goal exists in. That's it. Go do it. It will literally change your life.