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After decades as an educator, counselor, and leader, I’ve been on teams that drained every bit of energy out of me. Micromanagement was the norm, communication was unclear, collaboration felt forced, and trust was missing. What I learned is that real progress comes from understanding how people work, leading by example, helping everyone use their gifts, and creating clarity so the team can thrive in the workplace.
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- How do I work with team members who seem “difficult” or "complicated"?
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- How do I leverage everyone’s strengths so we thrive together?
- Can I lead with emotional intelligence and model the way?
- How do I create a team culture where people feel seen, heard, and valued?
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Teamwork Made Easier | Developing Healthy Team Cultures Through Leadership, Emotional Intelligence, Collaboration, and Communication
10 | De-escalation Strategies for Leaders: Enhancing Communication and Team Culture in Difficult Conversations
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Can you recall a specific moment when you noticed a conversation at work begin to escalate?
In today's episode, we explore vital de-escalation strategies every leader needs to manage difficult conversations effectively, enhancing team culture and communication in the workplace.
When tensions rise and conversations escalate, it can disrupt teamwork and damage workplace culture. Drawing from diverse experiences in schools, retail, casinos, and the online world, I share practical tips rooted in emotional intelligence to help leaders foster collaboration and understanding during tough dialogues.
You'll learn actionable techniques such as mindful tone control, active listening, and using open-ended questions to defuse conflicts and build a healthier team environment. Whether you’re leading a well-established team or just stepping into leadership, this episode offers valuable insights to improve your communication skills and strengthen your team's development and cohesion.
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Hey my friend, you probably already know this, but strong healthy teams don't just happen by accident. They're built when we as leaders actually invest in our people, understand our own strengths and blind spots, and are intentional about creating a healthy team culture. Hi, I'm Robin Kent, and welcome to Teamwork Made Easier. In this podcast, we'll explore how people are wired and how to leverage our strengths, navigate those frustrations, and build that trust so teams can collaborate more effectively. Because one thing I know is this when people are understood and supported, they don't just perform better, they start to love what they do and who they work with. So grab your coffee, lean in, and let's make teamwork easier starting today. Hey my friend, welcome back to Teamwork Made Easier. This is where I help leaders and future leaders figure out how to make sure everybody gets along and you as a leader actually enjoy who you're working with and who you're hiring to have on your team. So today, what I want to talk about is that the moment a conversation starts to escalate. Did a picture of something pop in your head when I said that? The moment a conversation starts escalating, and you're like, oh crud, wait a second, what just happened here? And you usually can tell this whether it is by body language or by the tone of voice, the the eye contact of them like staring through your soul, uh, different things like that. The conversation speeds up, it's back and forth, and you're just like, whoa, I was not expecting this. Or sometimes you might be like mid-conversation, go, well, I kind of did expect this because I knew this topic was going to be hard to deal with. Hey, I have been there, I've totally been there. I mean, working in the school system, in retail, in the casinos, in, you know, online space, I have dealt with those conversations that you're like, whoa, wait a second. I did not intend that to go in that direction. Or you walk into a conversation and you're going, okay, this is not going to be easy. I need to be mindful of how this conversation goes and making sure it does not start to escalate. Because I'm sure, as you know, if your conversation starts to escalate, then your production starts to decrease. The production, the productivity of the conversation starts to diminish and go away, and you usually are not as productive. And it's usually not a good thing on either people's side. So I want you to stop and think, maybe the last time that you were in that situation, and think about what you did and how could you have done something differently? Because even though your intent may have not been to frustrate them, to irritate them, to create this escalation, but at the same time, you have to be thoughtful about what was the impact of what you said or what you did. So your intent was not to create chaos and frustration, but what did the actual impact create on that individual in front of you or individuals in front of you? So I know, you know, our human flesh, many a times we want to defend ourselves or we want to interrupt. We want to prove our point because we get defensive. It's like this wall comes up. It's just, it's just human flesh, natural nature that things just go, whoa, wait a second. Okay, I feel darts being thrown at me, or I feel like gunfire might be about to happen. So I'm gonna put this wall up of defense. And when you get to that state, then that is where typically the conversation really escalates because it's two people that are escalating, two people that are throwing darts back and forth, you might say, with their words, with their actions, with their thoughts. And it's just not a comfortable situation. It is not good. It is not good at all. And so I want you to start thinking now, how can I approach that differently next time? The next time I feel that a conversation may turn not so good, how can I get ready for it? Or if it does happen, I had no clue it was coming, how can I handle it? Because one thing I know in dealing with, you know, us working on our behavior and our reactions for decades is that if we develop a plan and we have the mindset ready to go before that situation comes, then we're going to manage it so much better. We're going to work through that challenge so much better. So I want you to start thinking now, whether it was maybe the last time you had something and you walked away from the escalated conversation, you're like, man, I probably shouldn't have said that. Or, man, I shouldn't have probably raised my voice because that was not good and that was not helpful to the situation. So I want you to think about maybe you as an individual, uh, what you could have done different. But let's say you've never been in that situation yet. And so I want you to think about watching your tone. I mean, I'm sure I don't know if you were like me, but as a teenager, I definitely heard from my mom, watch your tone with me. So we might say that to kids, and we might think about that with kid teenagers and kids, but that's also with us grown-ups. We have to be mindful of our tone. It's not just the words that we're saying, it's the way we are saying it. And I guess I've said it so many times when my kids were growing up. They're young adults now, 26 and 28. And my son, who is 28, he reminded me uh a few years back. He was like, Well, mom, you always said it's not what you say, it's how you say it. And I was like, You're so right, right? But sometimes it's hard to remember that in the middle of the craziness, in the middle of the uncomfortable, in the middle of the tension. So I want you to start coming up with a plan. So here are my two things that you could start implementing to make sure that that conversation is not continually escalating and that you actually get somewhere with it. All right. So the first thing is slow down for a moment. Like seriously, don't be ready to spit out words as soon as they stop talking. All right. Like slow down, take a deep breath, just breathe in and hear what they have to say. Hear what they have to say, listen to what they have to say. Not listen so that you can be ready to have your rebuttal ready, but listen, like, what are they really trying to say? What are they really frustrated about? How can I maybe truly hear and listen to what they have to say and maybe take care of the situation and manage it from there? So that's number one is slow down and pause, maybe even ask a question instead of yelling at them, or instead of being ready to defend yourself. You could say, Can you tell me more about what that is that you're so frustrated about right now? Or tell me how did you get to this state? You can ask those open-ended questions so that you can get some more information and lean in with curiosity. And number two, focus on understanding, focus on understanding what is going on. Like when you ask those questions of curiosity, lean in and try and understand maybe what got them so upset. Was it you? Was it somebody else on the team? Was it maybe an action that actually happened that they were left out of? What was it that really got them so frustrated? Like when you're slowing down, when you're breathing, make sure to stop and listen before you start trying to solve the problem. All right. It's so much easier when you're truly solving the problem that they're really having, but you have to slow down and figure that out. So I want you to take time this week and figure out what's going to work for you in some possible situations that might be coming up or you know, that might could happen down the road. Like what fits your personality, what fits who you are, and how you can be the solution to not the solution to de-escalate the situation. Because when you're able to do that, I have seen time after time after time, if you are intentionally trying to de-escalate the situation, then the situation actually de-escalates. I've seen it with kids, I've seen it with grown-ups, I've seen it with other team members, I've seen it time and time again that when one person slows down and starts to try and make sense and think reasonable, then the other person will too. So, all right, my friend, I hope that was helpful. And again, uh I do this with teams all the time. I am working with teams and individuals and leaders and helping them navigate situations just like this. Like, what do I do with this? Like, I'm I'm a leader and I've earned this title and all these kind of things, but I don't know how to deal with this personality. Like it's somebody I've never dealt with before. What do I do? What do I say? Reach out, talk to me. Let's talk and see what I can help you accomplish so that you can continue on the path that you have in front of you, but loving what you do and who you work with. So I'm here for you. Reach out to me. Again, contact information is down below this podcast. I would love to hear from you. All right, my friend, have a wonderful day and I'll be talking to you again really soon. Hey, my friend, thanks so much for spending this time with me on Teamwork Made Easier. My hope is that today's conversation helped you see yourself, your team, or your leadership just a little more clearly. If you want to take this a step further, I'd love for you to grab my How You Are Wired to Work productivity tool. It's a simple, practical way to understand how you naturally work best, what gives you energy, and what might be quietly draining you. So you can work with more clarity, less frustration, and a whole lot more ease. Go to RobinKent.com slash tool. That's RobinKent.com slash tool. You can find the link down in the show notes. Because when you understand how you're wired and how the people around you are wired, it changes the way you lead, the way you collaborate, and the way your team shows up. All right? Thanks again for being here. 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