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The Different Types of “Sorry” (And Why Some Apologies Mean Nothing)

Taryn & Michela Episode 7

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Welcome back to Boundaries & Banter with your hosts Taryn & Michela.
Today we’re unpacking one tiny word with a massive impact: sorry.

Why is it so hard for people to apologize? What’s the difference between intent vs impact? And how do you know when an apology is real… versus just a way to shut you up?

We break down the different types of “sorry” (including the classics like “I’m sorry you feel that way” and “Sorry, but I didn’t do anything wrong”), why people get defensive, and what a real apology actually requires: accountability, reflection, and changed behavior.

Plus — we read a listener story about a mother-in-law who apologized… and then changed absolutely nothing. If the apology doesn’t come with action, what does it even mean?

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If you’ve ever felt stuck waiting for an apology — this one’s for you.

00:00:00 Intro: Welcome back
00:00:07 Today’s topic: “Sorry”
00:00:24 The different types of “sorry”
00:00:57 “Sorry, but I didn’t do anything wrong”
00:01:39 Intent vs impact (the real issue)
00:01:50 Why it’s so hard to say sorry (ego)
00:02:35 Accountability doesn’t mean guilt
00:02:51 The Whole Foods example (accidents vs harm)
00:04:00 Why people get defensive when confronted
00:05:08 When apologies don’t come with change
00:06:36 Is saying sorry learned? (kids + development)
00:20:19 Listener story: left out by mother-in-law
00:24:24 Would You Rather: apology vs actions
00:28:24 Closing: evolve, communicate, therapy note

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