Dating Apps, Dead Conversations & A $3 Tea

Ever been on a date so awkward it felt like a live episode of Big Bang Theory? This week, Julie and her neurodivergent son Jeff are back and spilling ALL the tea — literally. Jeff breaks down his most recent dating app disaster, including a first date with a biomedical engineer, a $3 cup of tea, an hour and a half of painfully pulled conversation, and the most awkward goodbye handshake you'll ever hear about. Plus, Mom and Jeff dive deep into the wild world of dating apps — the ghosting, the one-word answers, the dopamine chasers, and why 1,500 men slid into his friend's DMs in less than 24 hours. If you're single, have ever BEEN single, or just love laughing at the beautiful disaster that is modern dating — this one's for you.

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Transcript

SPEAKER_00 0:00

Hello everybody and welcome to Laughing Through the Uncomfortable with Julie. My oldest son. All right. Well, uh sorry, my voice is probably a little hoarse. I'm getting over something. But uh we are here, which is exciting. And we want to talk about the update, Jeff. How did the date go with the engineer?

SPEAKER_02 0:28

It was super awkward. Super awkward. It was like an episode of Big Bang Theory.

unknown 0:33

Well, what do you mean episode?

SPEAKER_02 0:34

It's like it's just like an episode of just like two like interesting characters meeting for the first time, and it's just like it's straight up like an episode from the Big Bang Theory.

SPEAKER_00 0:45

Well, did you know that she was an engineer before the date?

SPEAKER_02 0:47

Uh yes, I did. It was on her profile and stuff like that. So the whole story is with this, just whole like synopsis here, because I know you're wanting to ask me about it. Basically, oh, I have questions. I'm an initial reading. So here's the just here's a synopsis and a summary. I was I had serious dating fatigue right now. I was tired of texting, I was tired of everything, and she met she basically liked my picture. Girls can match you, send you hearts, whatever, and then you can actually like them back. So the girl actually was attracted to me. So I'm like, you know what? Let's give her a chance. Let's do it. I'm like, all right. We matched immediately.

SPEAKER_00 1:24

Wait, the picture on your profile on your so she liked my picture. I know, but is it the one with the the your nephews? Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 1:30

Yeah. There's some like there's no icks with uncle and baby vibes. It's just it's like girls want to see you with children because because you're like, that's a total green fly. Like, oh my god, he likes children. I'm like, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 1:43

As long as they're not yours, right?

SPEAKER_02 1:45

I would really like my own children sometimes.

SPEAKER_00 1:47

No, but with these dating apps, I mean, what on your profile does it say?

SPEAKER_02 1:51

Specific. I literally have on my profile, but so here's the thing. She matched up with me, perfect. So I said, I'm like, hey, I am a very bad texture. I just want to meet up for coffee. Let's do it. I know this great place, a town next to me. Let's do it. And she said, Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 2:08

Oh, so you went to coffee. You didn't go to dinner or anything, it was just coffee. Coffee. Okay.

SPEAKER_02 2:12

We're both professional people. We're gonna meet up with coffee. But the thing is, she had tea and I had coffee. My survey has had coffee, and I was up all night. And luckily, I did some studying right after I got home. But yeah. So basically, I was dating fatigue. I didn't want to date. I did not want to text her all the time. I just like, hey, I'm a bad texture. Can we just meet up for coffee? I was very like point to the point, man with the plan, stuff like that. And she totally was okay with that. Perfect. So we're the day of the date.

SPEAKER_00 2:43

Okay.

SPEAKER_02 2:44

So And I'm so glad you called me on that day before I went to the date. I was hesitating. I don't know why, but I really glad you call me three hours before.

SPEAKER_00 2:55

Oh yeah. But well, I didn't realize you're going on the date though.

SPEAKER_02 2:58

I know what I told you.

SPEAKER_00 2:59

Yeah, my guy was telling me, so you work in fashion and she's an engineer, right? So when did it feel like you two were from different worlds?

SPEAKER_02 3:07

I mean, from the moment you guys said hi or yeah, life immediately. Like she was again, it was awkward, right? I literally it was super awkward.

SPEAKER_00 3:17

Yeah, but she could have been nervous.

SPEAKER_02 3:19

Yeah, I was too nervous too. But the thing is, it's just like it's just it felt it felt like an uphill battle for me because I was asking the questions and I was filling the void. I was trying to ask her questions, and it felt really like a tooth and nail pulling out the questions. Did she ask you questions? Yeah, she did. It's just it felt like she kind of forced herself to ask the questions. But the thing is, it's stuff like that. But when when I got to the coffee place, they waited until 7 o'clock. She didn't show up. Like, okay, it was at 7 o'clock. I went in, I wanted an espresso, and luckily they had a cannoli, so I had a cannoli. But she was right there at the door, right at 7.01, and she's like, Oh, I'm so sorry, I'm late. Parking here is terrible. Like, no worries, this town is terrible with parking. I'm so glad that you were able to come. I'm like, sweet. So I'm like, oh my god. So what time did she show up? 701.

SPEAKER_00 4:11

Oh, so she wasn't late. The date was at 7. Okay, so why okay?

SPEAKER_02 4:15

I I just wanted something to drink and eat. I'll see. I I would because if someone is running late, you have to at least give them 15 to 20 minutes during interview date, doesn't matter. You don't know because I didn't have her number. I was only connected with her on the dating app. So basically, that was my only communication. And a lot of these people text within hours, like five hours, right? And I get it, people are busy. But I waited there, I didn't either have to wait 15 minutes, but she showed up so cool. I bought her, I bought her her drink, right? I'm like, I like I invited you. What's so funny is that every girl that I go on a date with, they expect like a 50-50 treatment, but I'm like, no, I invited you out, I'm paying for you. It wasn't, it was barely nothing. It was like a $3 tea, and I gave the guy a tip, like two bucks tip. It's like five bucks. Like, it's funny. I'm like, uh, okay. I'm like, if this thing is, I'm not, I'm not gonna split that, split this thing 50-50. Even if it's like a $200 stick dinner, I don't care. I'm paying for it immediately. I invited you out. So we sat out outside the table, and that's when it was it was it was cute, right? A little bit, right? I was dressed up, she was dressed up, she just got she just got off work, and I said, like, hey, team life, right? You know, she laughed at that.

SPEAKER_00 5:36

And then what was the next question that you asked her?

SPEAKER_02 5:38

Uh I'm trying to remember.

SPEAKER_00 5:40

What did she ask you?

SPEAKER_02 5:41

She asked me about just simple questions like, oh, what's your family like? What's what what's your job like?

SPEAKER_00 5:46

What did you say that you did for fun?

SPEAKER_02 5:48

Well, I said I like to bowl, I like to go to competitive shopping, I like to just do my creative things, I like to play board games with my family, I like to Wait what's competitive shopping?

SPEAKER_00 6:01

It's basically What's competitive shopping?

SPEAKER_02 6:04

Competitive shopping is basically finding something better at a different place and you return all of your stuff at that place. Basically, if you find something better at a different fan fashion brand, then you then you do a complete return to the other fashion brand.

SPEAKER_00 6:18

Oh, so like you have things at home that you bought.

SPEAKER_02 6:20

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 6:21

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 6:21

And then you have the receipt for.

SPEAKER_00 6:23

Yeah, and tags on and everything's like.

SPEAKER_02 6:24

Tags on, but if I find something better, it's no I I just call it competitive shopping because I always find something better.

SPEAKER_00 6:31

Like better price.

SPEAKER_02 6:32

Better price and better quality. Okay. I don't mind spending a little bit.

SPEAKER_00 6:36

So then you go back to that other store and return it. And then you go to the other store that you found that better stuff and you go buy it, right?

SPEAKER_02 6:42

Straightly tell me, like, oh, while you're returning it, I found a better place. Your stuff's scrap.

SPEAKER_00 6:47

Okay, it doesn't matter. But that I mean, oh my goodness, you must have learned from grandma. Because grandma, growing up, my m my mother, she used she used to buy the apartment store. Oh, yeah, yeah, she did. She worked, yeah, yeah. Emporium capals. It's no longer in business.

SPEAKER_02 7:03

It was based on capital letters.

SPEAKER_00 7:05

Yeah, oh yeah, I don't know. But she was she worked fine joy, doesn't matter. But she used to go and buy like all this stuff, and then she'd go home, try it on, whatever, because the lights and things in the dressing room, I guess she didn't like. And then she would go and go somewhere else and buy other things, and then she would just return the things that she didn't want.

SPEAKER_02 7:25

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 7:26

I mean, that's just all it is, right?

SPEAKER_02 7:28

It's not, it's not impulsive, nothing like that. If you find something better, they have a different logo. It's honestly just logos, better quality, but also like I don't know. Well, you're buying the logo there. Yeah, the stitching is better. If everything is paid to detail, yeah, I'll pay an extra like $100 for it. Yeah, that's the same. Like well, the thing is that's a lot of money. Like a blazer that's like $300. That's a lot of money. Well, yeah, I'm spending my bonus. I'm not spending my actually saving all my money to basically buy something that I want. I'm not gonna spend like constantly.

SPEAKER_00 8:02

Okay.

SPEAKER_02 8:03

Not like I was used to it, but I I I just didn't know a competitive shopping. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 8:07

Okay, so you talked about you were talking about your hobbies and her hobbies.

SPEAKER_02 8:10

Yeah. So she honestly, unfortunately, she doesn't really have much hobbies.

SPEAKER_00 8:14

Well, because she probably works all the time.

SPEAKER_02 8:16

Yeah, she works all the time.

SPEAKER_00 8:18

She literally does not have a life out. So when did you realize, like at one moment, did you realize that your brains worked differently? You obviously were thinking about fashion, you're creative, but she's more engineered, she's more numbers.

SPEAKER_02 8:29

She's more of a sheldon.

SPEAKER_00 8:31

Oh, okay.

SPEAKER_02 8:32

She's a sheldon.

SPEAKER_00 8:32

She's just a you're not an Amy, because you're not a Amy's like a bio, uh the No, I'm more like Penny.

SPEAKER_02 8:43

I don't sleep around. No. But I'm more of like the creative, like extroverted, but also introverted sometimes. But I'm like, yeah, it's just total personality clash.

SPEAKER_00 8:54

But you guys could have you guys were probably so opposite that it probably could have worked.

SPEAKER_02 8:58

Yeah, she kept checking her phone every time I was talking.

SPEAKER_00 9:01

That do you think that could just be habit?

SPEAKER_02 9:03

Probably, but honestly, that's with when someone checks their phone or watch, it's a clear indication that they're bored and they don't want to be there. So I I've dealt with this before.

SPEAKER_00 9:17

So she kept looking at her phone and her watch?

SPEAKER_02 9:19

Her phone.

SPEAKER_00 9:20

Like the time, like she wouldn't. Well, that was did you ask her do you have to be somewhere else?

SPEAKER_02 9:25

I didn't we had to end it. We had to end it.

SPEAKER_00 9:28

How long how long was it? Okay, how long what how when did you guys be there for an hour?

SPEAKER_02 9:34

Okay, that's I think that but that's a thing I do most of the talking and ask the fucking question.

SPEAKER_00 9:39

Okay, but an hour at the coffee shop, that's a lot. That's a long time.

SPEAKER_02 9:44

The thing is, I'd like to get to know someone.

SPEAKER_00 9:46

Okay.

SPEAKER_02 9:46

Like ask them actual deep questions. She even said like really like good questions. I'm like, yeah, can you please piggyback on it, please? Can you please ask me questions? Yeah, can you ask me some questions? Ask some lame ass, like, oh, what's your family about and all that? I'm like, I can tell you, no problem.

SPEAKER_00 10:00

Okay, so when you talked about work though, did she actually understand what you did? Or does she think that no odyssey, no that you just pick out outfits all day? Like, does she does she actually understand what you did?

SPEAKER_02 10:12

No, no, honestly.

SPEAKER_00 10:13

People understand you're not they just want to be nice. You're like a personal shopper. You dress people. Yeah, you're a personal fashion person.

SPEAKER_02 10:19

No, I'm a stylist that works for a fashion brand, works with claims.

SPEAKER_00 10:23

Yeah. So people come in.

SPEAKER_02 10:27

But they can come in, it's schedule an appointment.

SPEAKER_00 10:30

Yeah. And if anybody out there is listening to our podcast, he would be more than happy to be your personal stylist as a side business. Right? I mean, you would you would what happens if, oh, what happens if like a movie star were to like email us on the podcast and go, you know what? I've been looking for a personal stylist. Would you come and work for me part-time in between your regular hours? And you would turn that down. You would say no, the way you're looking at me. Answer me. You would you say yes if say, okay, let's say any of the famous Matthews called you and said, Hey, any of the famous Matthews. Any of the famous Matthews. Matthew McColly, Matthew Broderick, Matthew, all the Matthews from the movie stars.

SPEAKER_01 11:19

Sure, I would.

SPEAKER_00 11:20

Okay, see? So I'm just, hey.

SPEAKER_01 11:22

Oh, like potential.

SPEAKER_00 11:23

But so she didn't know what you did. She understand what you did? And what did she do?

SPEAKER_02 11:31

She basically worked at like basic plants to wear a hazmat suit to protect the product and stuff like that.

SPEAKER_00 11:38

A hazmat suit. Oh, so kind of like a bio like you see in the movies.

SPEAKER_02 11:44

Yeah, the movies. I was kind of an idiot saying, like, what you deal with some like oh my god. Why said that? Like she everybody thinks that. She she giggled a little bit. I'm like, it's not that severe. Like, well, I think your job's really cool. Because the thing is, when I hear So she could have created COVID. Or any other like biohazard type of thing. She could have easily killed me right then. No. She's like, dang.

SPEAKER_00 12:06

She probably like makes medicines and stuff.

SPEAKER_02 12:09

Like she works for a company that makes products.

SPEAKER_00 12:11

Yeah, synthesizes medicines and stuff.

SPEAKER_02 12:13

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 12:14

And then so I have a question for you. So okay, knowing that she's like biomedical engineer, did the did her engineer brain show up at all during the date? Like, was she analyzing everything that you said or did?

SPEAKER_02 12:28

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 12:28

Like what?

SPEAKER_02 12:29

Like she was very vague with her answers. Very like a personality.

SPEAKER_00 12:34

Like very like, if I tell you not to kill you? No, no. I'm top secret.

SPEAKER_02 12:38

Just very vague. Nothing to write all right. I can't, like, no way, explain more.

SPEAKER_00 12:44

And she wouldn't. Vague answer. And did you say that? No way, explain more. Or I'm like, please do tell. Did you say, Oh, I don't really understand? Can you explain? And did she? No. Okay. Okay.

SPEAKER_02 12:57

Well. Like literally, mom. I try my hardest. Give everyone a chance. I felt no connection. No connection. But it lasted an hour. It was attractive. But he was a very attractive person.

SPEAKER_00 13:09

But you said you guys were there an hour.

SPEAKER_02 13:10

An hour and a half. An hour and a half? It was just honestly. I wanted to, I was pushing through. I wanted to get no I wanted to get more know more about her. Okay. Well, and as you were there. But I felt no physical attraction towards her.

SPEAKER_00 13:28

But that's okay though, it hurts. I mean, if you have no physical attraction, that will come. Oh, okay. But then why would you spend an hour and a half then with her?

SPEAKER_02 13:36

I want that's the thing. I like communication. I like to talk.

SPEAKER_00 13:42

So maybe. No.

SPEAKER_02 13:45

I even told her. I'm like, I'm neurodivergent. I don't understand social views.

SPEAKER_00 13:48

And what'd she say to that? Oh, okay. She probably is thinking, so am I. No. Because if she would have wanted to leave, she would have left sooner.

SPEAKER_01 13:58

Yeah, true.

SPEAKER_00 13:59

Right?

SPEAKER_01 14:00

Right? I told I told Logan this.

SPEAKER_00 14:02

What'd you tell Logan?

SPEAKER_01 14:03

At the end of the night, I'll tell you what's the next question.

SPEAKER_00 14:05

Oh, I was gonna ask you. Okay. So what's interesting is, you know, fashion is kind of like a creative chaos, right? Like right. But then like her engineer logic is, you know, because it's engineers like really logical the way they think. So did that the two differences with the conversations and work, did that kind of show up with her, you know, with you and with you saying, you know, this and this and being, you know, spontaneous with your questions. She obviously was just like straight narrow, yes, no questions. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 14:40

I don't try to ask, like, what's her hobby? She likes to crochet, likes to knit, stuff like that, or just hang out with friends. Seems like she's just has no sort of she has like she's always in the lab. And like fantastic for her, but I I can't.

SPEAKER_00 14:56

I well, maybe it's be she's always in the lab and she's not really talking to a lot of people socially, and it's hard for her to get into that gear, especially if she's just leaving work, right?

SPEAKER_02 15:06

It means going back way more podcast episodes. I am I am more used to females as friends. I think of longevity, I do not see myself.

SPEAKER_00 15:16

Okay, that's fine though. But then next time, so what lesson did you learn instead of wasting an hour and a half of your time with somebody who's probably really nice, but you knew that you guys were not compatible, you don't have anything in common. So not I not even for friends, right? Because sometimes you can meet the nicest people and then being friends. What did what's the lesson that you learned from this date?

SPEAKER_02 15:39

Cut it short. You know, go with your gut feeling, cut it short, and then just move on.

SPEAKER_00 15:44

Say thank you for the time. It was nice meeting you. Yeah. Well, and that's nice. So afterwards, hang on. Yeah. After that, do you guys rate each other on the dating app or no? Oh, okay, okay. Okay. So what's weird? So you said you know what's weird? What's weird?

SPEAKER_02 16:07

After the other night, she said, like, hey, I had to get to get to work at like eight at 8, 8 a.m. or whatever. I'm like, all right, cool. I'll walk you back to your car and stuff. We had to go to different paths, and my brain just fucking froze that day, that that minute. I lean in for a handshake.

SPEAKER_00 16:23

Well, if you didn't like her, you didn't want to kiss her.

SPEAKER_02 16:25

I didn't want to kiss her. I didn't. But she was waiting there and I leaned in for a handshake, and I'm like, you know what? I said, I'm like, you know what? I'm so sorry. I am socially awkward. Can we can I give you a hug? Yeah. And my brain was like, what are you doing? We purposely gave you a handshake because you did not have an identity with her.

SPEAKER_00 16:46

Okay. So did you guys give her a soft hug and say thank you very much, Celia?

SPEAKER_02 16:50

And then I left and I'm like, and I arose getting myself, idiot.

SPEAKER_00 16:53

No, it's fine. It's just one of our things. We've all been there. I mean, I remember being on I mean, I remember being on an awkward date. I mean, I I must have been like 16 or 17, 16 or something. And I worked at a video store. And for all those people who don't know videos, it's VHS, and he used to look at there and used to put it in and used to play videos on the TV as opposed to streaming it from your Apple box or your Firebox or whatever you guys have. Anyway, someone used to come all the time. He's like 18, 19 years old or whatever, and he asked me out. And I'm like, oh yeah, okay, that sounds great. But I mean, I I'd only known him and I only seen him a few times. One out. Oh my god, it was the most awkward. It was so awkward. I knew within 15 minutes this this is horrible. I I mean, I can't. But I was very polite and I ate lunch, and then we were supposed to go to a movie, and I was like, you know what? I I forgot that I am supposed to work a shift and thank you very much for lunch. And so I left. But I guess the moral of the story is what I learned from that is number one, if you know you're not attracted, if you know it's like a pushed conversation, then I mean that it should be easier, right? I mean, it should be conversation, should be. I mean, at first it's a little awkward, but it's not difficult. And it sounds like this conversation was super difficult, you know, and it doesn't help when somebody's not open. Like she doesn't sound like she was that open to conversation. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 18:29

Right? Okay. People can be open, people can't. I was really, I was like an open book. I was I just was like totally, it was not new to me. I was like, you know what? I want I want to get to know you, so people are not ready. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 18:42

Well, that's what's interesting. So that's what's interesting about the dating app, because you you got her on the dating app, right?

SPEAKER_02 18:48

Yeah. My uh my nephews are like my wingman right now.

SPEAKER_00 18:53

Right with the pictures. Well, what's interesting is dating apps. This is something that's really cool that so this is something that's cool that you guys have that we didn't have, meaning my age group. Although you don't want to understand No, what I'm saying is what I'm saying is there's there's opportunity for you to meet people in different areas of life that you typically wouldn't meet because uh the dating app, you know, it kind of like pairs you guys together based on common likes and threads, right? Right? Is that how they work?

SPEAKER_01 19:26

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 19:26

Yeah, right? Well, yeah, but you wouldn't in I I guess what it is is you wouldn't have otherwise met her if it wasn't for the dating app, right?

SPEAKER_02 19:34

True, true. I am totally okay just burning $60 by some nice subscription.

SPEAKER_00 19:42

$60 a month?

SPEAKER_02 19:44

$60 a month for the premium shit.

SPEAKER_00 19:46

And what's a premium app? What is it? What does that mean? What what services do you get?

SPEAKER_02 19:51

Basically unlimited life. Unlimited whatever life, super life, super like the pictures and they say it. And I have to then filter out. Yeah, I did this for the like for the past for several years, and honestly, and it's cool, but honestly, like what the fuck?

SPEAKER_00 20:08

What do you mean by that?

SPEAKER_02 20:09

I just stopped. I stopped hating that shit.

SPEAKER_00 20:12

But you only have one now, right?

SPEAKER_02 20:14

I only have one.

SPEAKER_00 20:15

Okay. Were they bad?

SPEAKER_02 20:16

They weren't bad. It's just the the the rotation that I was dealing with just felt unnecessary, and then just people with unless it's expectations.

SPEAKER_00 20:27

So how often do you get paired with somebody? Twice a month?

SPEAKER_02 20:32

Twice a month. Like that's what I believe that my average is. Like when I first started Mo, I I got like 15 likes last year in November. On this one app. On this one app, and it was fucking insane. Just a baby picture alone. Holy shit. But the thing is, they do not talk to you. Most of the time, dating apps, yes, there are generally good women out there that want to meet a man. And that's okay. But there's some women that just want to just get the dopamine level of just having likes. Okay.

SPEAKER_00 21:06

So like the dopamine of them getting likes.

SPEAKER_02 21:08

Yes. As opposed to Actually, the thing is, there are a small pool of men that are good looking. Okay. If you see a picture, I'm a good seven.

unknown 21:20

Okay.

SPEAKER_02 21:21

I'm a good seventh. Right? Even my work best, even my best friend agrees that I'm a fucking seven, huh?

SPEAKER_00 21:27

I would think that you're more than a seven. But I'm your mother. I know, I know.

SPEAKER_02 21:31

But I'm more like data and shit and stuff and what I can bring to the table. Well, there are way more attractive men on these things, and women rather good than them, but they actually have more pool to play with. What's interesting is that what I've dealt with the last couple of years, even my female friends say it too. And they rather have someone who is having money, a good credit score. I said. This before at the Brother Podcast, it sucked. It really sucks. There are genuine people that I need I need to get through this shit sandwich and get to the real diamonds. Trust me, though. Good women out there that want to meet genuine men, but honestly, it is so tough.

SPEAKER_00 22:20

Yeah, I've heard that it, but here's the thing. I mean, I've heard that the dating the dating nowadays is difficult to be dating out there.

SPEAKER_01 22:27

I'm gonna give you an example.

SPEAKER_00 22:29

Okay, wait, I have a quick hang on. Yeah, yeah. Okay, go ahead. Go ahead, go ahead.

SPEAKER_02 22:33

Okay. I convinced my three friends, differing different age, different ages, different body types, too. Are they boys or girls? Okay. I have a few guy friends, and I have more female friends.

SPEAKER_00 22:46

Okay. So you you had three of your female friends.

SPEAKER_02 22:49

Yes.

SPEAKER_00 22:50

And then we'll and so what they do? What did you do?

SPEAKER_02 22:53

I convinced them, okay. I want to show you the struggle of what I'm I want you want to download the app. I'll demo you 20 bucks. I don't give a shit. I want you to pay for the full subscription and I'll pay you the $20. I don't care.

SPEAKER_00 23:05

I'll tell you so $60 a month. No, this is a different app. Oh, okay, okay, fine.

SPEAKER_02 23:09

I don't think for that. I'm the rich one out, though, and tire a frame groups. I'm sorry. Because I'm responsible for my money.

SPEAKER_00 23:14

Anyway, so you said download the app. So they did. And they got profiles. Hopefully they were single people.

SPEAKER_02 23:21

Her phones literally were heated. Not even 24 hours. My first friend, this was like two years ago, her phone got lit up. 1,500 men. And it's still 1,500 plus. The overwhelming singleness in the Bay Area alone. I'm like, you know what? Go to the go to the filter and filter that shit out. And she did. And she got a thousand more the next day.

SPEAKER_00 23:51

No.

SPEAKER_02 23:52

And then my and then my my best friend, who unfortunately left for Virginia, I thought she's doing great.

SPEAKER_00 23:58

Okay, wait. So you're saying that there are more men out there that are single than women. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 24:05

And it's scary. And I understand now for women. And I understand we have to deal with bullshit out there.

SPEAKER_00 24:12

And all these But so then do you just wait for women to like you then?

SPEAKER_02 24:16

Yes.

SPEAKER_00 24:16

Instead of going and liking women, you just wait for them to like you.

SPEAKER_02 24:19

I like them anyway. And I s and on this app that I'm using, it's basically I send a little comment and I send it. And I like I send on the super like, that's it. And I also send a mop.

SPEAKER_00 24:29

What's a super like versus like?

SPEAKER_02 24:30

It's basically sends you the in the lane in the lane, but the thing is it still doesn't send in front of the lane to send you like 500 plus one of the ticket.

SPEAKER_00 24:39

Like so kind of like it's it's like a speed lane. It's like a speed line, like a speed line. It's like a flash line. So okay, so uh what's interesting is what about what I've heard a lot of things about the dating app is how accurate, because I've heard a lot of people lie on the dating app. So how accurate are the people's are those profiles compared to them in real life when you meet them?

SPEAKER_02 25:08

Well, I had some really good luck. I actually met these women in January, like they were like they were genuine like their profiles were honest with what they're honest. That's good. Yeah, I it's just my luck. And I've never had a catfish before. No, that's really good. You don't want that. What's really shitty is that most people just kill the conversation. They give one-word answers. For example, just kill the I had a prior after the date, my phone went up again. It was this very cute girl. She was she was like this cute Middle Eastern, like almost like Mediterranean. But she almost looked great. So she's actually like she's probably from She met she's yeah, Mediterranean. Mediterranean.

SPEAKER_00 25:46

Yeah. Like your mother.

SPEAKER_02 25:48

Yes. She had a really nice olive skin, super cute.

SPEAKER_00 25:51

Yes.

SPEAKER_02 25:51

She had a conversation. I can even show you after the podcast.

SPEAKER_00 25:54

Okay. And then what happened?

SPEAKER_02 25:55

She just asked me. It's and like she didn't send me any fucking question until it was like 10 o'clock. I waited a few days. I went, all right, cool. And then I didn't send her a follow-up email. I didn't send a follow-up, follow-up email for corporate. No, I'll pull up the text message. But I didn't do it. I'm like, it's her turn. Because I'm like, hey, I gave you the floor.

SPEAKER_00 26:12

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 26:13

Like You want what what other questions?

SPEAKER_00 26:15

Okay, wait, like, so like she asked you a question.

SPEAKER_02 26:17

Yeah. So actually, I can actually share okay. And we can actually read the text message here.

SPEAKER_00 26:25

Okay.

SPEAKER_02 26:25

So for her name is Kay.

SPEAKER_00 26:28

Uh oh, you changed your name. I changed the name. K. I'm like, don't say what her name is. Okay, okay, so how are we trying to protect all the innocent people here? Yeah? Okay. So her name was K. Her name was K. You didn't say A B C because we did A B last couple weeks ago. You could have just done C. We could use the whole alphabet.

SPEAKER_02 26:44

You want J. L.

SPEAKER_00 26:47

That's okay. Okay.

SPEAKER_02 26:48

Her name was letter K. Just letter K. Okay. And my favorite thing that I like to use is Hi, I'm currently being out removered by my nephews. How's your distracting toddler's game? I might need Bath App.

SPEAKER_00 27:04

Okay, that's cool.

SPEAKER_02 27:05

That's actually super cute. Yeah. And I get a lot of likes because of that. But most calls don't really want children, but again.

SPEAKER_00 27:11

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 27:12

And she said, I'm an expert actually. And I'm like, okay. And then after that, team. She uh she's like, I'm I'm really great to be here. Unfortunately, yeah, she just like two words. Now like, all right, one sentence, cool. She asked me the question.

SPEAKER_00 27:26

What was the question?

SPEAKER_02 27:27

Uh she asked me, Oh, just like, and I asked, Hey, what what were your plans? This this was like last week. What were what was your plans for for the week? And she said, Oh, just working. I'm like, Okay. Okay.

SPEAKER_00 27:42

So and then I'd say she doesn't have leaves. She just works.

SPEAKER_02 27:45

She's like, How's your week going? I'm like, well, I'm working and studying. Adulting, am I right? And and then and then I'd say, like, she said, exactly, what are you studying for?

SPEAKER_00 27:53

And then she You told her.

SPEAKER_02 27:55

And I told her I was studying fashion merchandising. She gave me a heart. Apparently, on the women's side, she actually gave you a heart. She gave me two hearts and it gave me a couple of things. Okay.

SPEAKER_00 28:02

Then why did she ghost you? I don't know. So it was the last bit.

SPEAKER_02 28:06

Okay, so okay, I'm gonna go, I'm gonna, I'm gonna fast forward here. And she said, oh so it was insane. And I said it was insane. He wanted to impress a girl who lived next to us. He invited me along. So this is basically my roommate back at Oregon College.

SPEAKER_00 28:23

How did you get into that conversation though?

SPEAKER_02 28:25

I fast forward.

SPEAKER_00 28:26

Oh, okay.

SPEAKER_02 28:26

I fast forward to the ending.

SPEAKER_00 28:28

So you're like blue, blue, blue, blue, blue, and then okay, okay. Yeah, and then what did she say?

SPEAKER_02 28:31

I said that huh. You're you're a great friend for doing that because I was being a wingman for wasn't impressed a girl who was actually She liked you and she wasn't she didn't like that roommate.

SPEAKER_00 28:40

Yeah, everybody.

SPEAKER_02 28:42

She didn't like me. She just basically felt comfortable with me because she didn't really want to.

SPEAKER_00 28:45

Because you were everybody's guardian then.

SPEAKER_02 28:47

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 28:47

It's y'all need to catch that podcast. I was like three podcasts ago. Jeff talks about how she he was everybody's guardian.

SPEAKER_02 28:54

It was fucking bargained.

SPEAKER_00 28:55

It's okay. So then what happened?

SPEAKER_02 28:56

And then she said, I'm like, uh, great friend, have any crazy roommates? And she said, just one that made me go skydiving. And then because we actually dis we discussed about that previously, like pop on the text message. And I said, That's fair, laughing, smiling face. And that was February 25th. And now it's March. Yeah, it's 90 days, Mom. And she did not text me that. And she has not ghosted me. She she obviously ghosting Blessie did not delete our conversation.

SPEAKER_00 29:29

So then text her. Say hey. What do what do you want to say?

SPEAKER_02 29:32

I'm like, oh, thanks for ghosting me.

unknown 29:34

No.

SPEAKER_02 29:35

Hey, you still alive out there?

SPEAKER_00 29:37

Hey, you good? Everything all right?

SPEAKER_02 29:39

Hey, by the way, I might need a wingman myself for this.

SPEAKER_00 29:42

Did you not get hit by a bus crossing the street? No.

SPEAKER_02 29:46

She may have a bus. No, that's a bad one.

SPEAKER_00 29:49

No. I know. No, they do their best. No, no. What you do is you you text her something like, hey, just checking in, seeing how your week's going. I'm heading back to work on Friday. This is my, you know. I mean, I would I would just text check in with them, say, just uh checking in with you, see how your week's going. I enjoy the conversation. Done. And see if she replies. If she doesn't reply, then you're done.

SPEAKER_01 30:12

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 30:13

Give it a but I would not. I would give her, I would reply. I would text her one time and then see if she replies back. And then we can catch up next time about it. But we're almost out of time here. And which means that we have to probably continue this next week because I want to I have so many questions about these dating apps. Seriously. And maybe we can get Logan involved. Because I don't know if he used dating apps. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 30:38

But he has a fiance.

SPEAKER_00 30:41

But did he ever use dating apps?

SPEAKER_02 30:44

Look, Ben okay, first of all. Ben did. Ben did what? What? And he gave me so much shit for. And he then is any minutes white.

SPEAKER_00 30:52

We gotta cut it off because we're out of time. We're already at 35 minutes. Okay, so here's the thing. To be continued for next week, the next conversation that we're gonna pick up about the dating apps with Logan and Ben and Niss. And we're gonna follow up with what she does if she answers you both.

SPEAKER_02 31:10

Yes.

SPEAKER_00 31:11

Okay. All right. Well, thank you for joining us this week on Laughing Through the Uncomfortable with Julie.

SPEAKER_02 31:19

And Jeff. I'm just drinking mine right now.

SPEAKER_00 31:22

Yeah, we're drinking wine. Oh my God. Okay. Join us next week. And thank you so much for coming this week, and we'll talk to you next week.