Episode 5: "Chicken At Ruth's Chris"

00:45 – Rodeo chaos in Houston

05:06 – Great food spots in Houston

11:28 – Dak Prescott calls off his engagement

27:40 – Rihanna’s home gets shot up

38:44 – Ari Lennox expresses regret for her past dating choices

58:56 – Woman tells man he isn’t masculine enough for her

01:13:58 – Should women be allowed to show up late on a date?

01:26:06 – What does it mean when your ex still watches your IG story daily?

01:29:24 – Why do men think you have to pour into them to get access to a relationship?

01:34:29 – How do I find a woman that’s not money hungry?

01:43:06 – Is writing a letter to my ex a good idea?

Transcript

SPEAKER_07 0:00

Alright, we ready, brother. We'll do that again.

SPEAKER_09 0:04

Um da la la la la.

SPEAKER_07 0:09

No, but I didn't realize. Oh no. Did you know at two on Tuesdays, 5015 be having like, it was like$2 drinks or some shit? Something crazy.$2? It was like$2 lamb traps or something. She was like, she would just run down the list. I said, no. She's like, yeah, 50-15. I was like, shit.

SPEAKER_09 0:26

They got a game night on one of them days. They be playing spades and dominoes and all kind of stuff like that right now.

SPEAKER_07 0:31

Pull up, man. One time during the week.

SPEAKER_09 0:34

Yeah, man. I'm all for it, brother. Week? You know, we ain't we don't do it like we used to. Hell nah. Especially need some of this little crowd to clear out, man, for this little rodeo, brother. You been seeing all that shit? I'm chilling. I'm talking about everywhere packed, highways packed, uh, all the little low-key spots you used to try to go to, the little duck-off, you know, uh uh, uh tipsy, uh, whatchamacy lounges and all them, everything packed. Especially Bar 5015.

SPEAKER_07 1:05

Or it's going at the wrong time. That's the problem. See, you we live here. Right. So we it's been, we've been doing this for a minute. I've been coming to the rodeo since I was Yeh.

SPEAKER_08 1:17

Right.

SPEAKER_07 1:17

You know what I'm saying? We come out sometimes on the weekend or whatever. But if you're gonna do it right on the rodeo and you in town, you either gotta take off and come when it opens during the week, or if you're on the weekend, same thing, come early. If it's a Sunday and like you only off on Sunday or whatever it is, as soon as it opens, you need to be at the at the gate 10:30. Swear to God. So you enjoy yourself. You can get the, you know, and don't have to wait so long on rides. You ain't gotta wait so long on food. You ahead of the curve on the riff raft, all the young folks coming. No. Yeah. You come early, you bring your family, you can have a nice good time, and you out of them mug by three. And it still don't even be packed. Well, it's starting to get packed at three, so yeah, hell yeah.

SPEAKER_09 2:04

Got to get out of there before night falls. I mean, it's treacherous behavior going on when the night falls, man. They saying ass cheeks is out. You understand? Breastes is showing.

SPEAKER_07 2:18

We got kids up here, man. They say that they're doing too much, man. I think so. I think it'd be a little too much. And a lot of that was once at uh Black Rodeo Night. Right. They say it was out of pocket, man. Come on, man. Bunch of kids walking around. You're gonna tell him to cover his eyes.

SPEAKER_09 2:37

No. They say take your little take your kids to bed, eat them in the bed anyway. I say, damn. It's the weekend. They unapologetically.

SPEAKER_07 2:46

It's the weekend. The kids outside. I'm off. I'm out of town tomorrow. This is my only weekend free. It's pay weekend. I'm outside with the kids.

SPEAKER_09 2:55

She said this ass outside too. It ain't, you know, it ain't room for both of us. Somebody gotta go. Yeah, it's out of power. I think it's funny as hell on social media, everybody, like I guess, just starting to find out. I don't know why that Houston has attractive women here. I'm talking about they're going crazy. They tell me, man, I ain't never seen that many baddies in one city in one area at one time. That's crazy, bro. It's like, man, y'all gotta walk around with this every day. Every day.

SPEAKER_07 3:29

Every day. The only place you don't see that at is probably a baseball game. Right. You go to a football game, you go to a basketball game, you go to a concert, you know, especially like a Chris Brown or something, it's gonna be out. It's out of beat. Beyonce, Cardi, but Cardi B. Yeah, that's the school teacher. They was going crazy up there. Yeah. I'm just saying, that's that's that's that's regular daggler, baby.

SPEAKER_09 3:54

I try to tell them, man, but you know, boys don't be understanding. It's uh, but again, everybody that's out here for rodeo, man, y'all be safe out there. I know it's a lot going on, it's a lot of people going on. I'd be a little paranoid uh about being out there with my daughter. Um, but there's just so much going on, bro. You got people shoulder to shoulder, literally. People rushing, people drinking, you know what I mean? And it's it could it could just end very badly, you know. But so far, it ain't nothing drastic happened or tragic happened. So I'm all good for that. Everybody having good fun, everybody dressing up, doing their thing, you know what I mean? I'm I'm I'm here for that. I'm not one of them people that live in Houston saying, Y'all need to go home, y'all need to get out of here. I don't I don't really care, man. As long as y'all come out here, man, behave y'all selves and have a good time before y'all head on back, man. I'm I'm all for it. Because it ain't good to nothing but make the city bigger and make the city more of a spot, which is gonna bring more opportunities here and things of that nature. So uh for everybody on there complaining about Houston or complaining about uh or trying to gatekeep Houston, man, it's over, bro. Houston, the fourth biggest city in the country, bro. It ain't no gatekeeping and it ain't getting smaller. Buckle up.

SPEAKER_07 5:03

You know what I mean? Speaking of gatekeeping, really quick, since you said that. It's a we can we can be here, we can do this list all day. We can make three, four different lists. But if you are out of towner, if you are out of towner asking you, hey, I want a dope spot to eat. I don't necessarily want hookah. I just want a dope spot, some dope vibe, some dope music. Um they can have hookah, but that ain't my necessarily preference. That ain't what I'm looking for. I just I just want a good meal and just kind of just vibe out. Give me, give me like three spots that you would say people gotta experience.

SPEAKER_06 5:43

Hmm.

SPEAKER_09 5:44

Three spots. And it can be in any kind of food.

SPEAKER_07 5:48

Any kind of food. We can say five, we can say ten. But like if it's just a quick three, like, go check these out.

SPEAKER_09 5:58

I'm gonna say just right off the top of my head. I'm a Willie G's guy. Uh, you know, that steak, that seafood over there, nice ambiance, you know, but they're not tripping too hard on dress code. You can get it off. Uh stop through there, you know, they're gonna take care of you over there. Real good drinks, real good food. Um if I'm gonna go. I got a new spot. I just found Jonathan's the rub over there off Memorial for brunch. Oh, man. Okay. Okay. New spot certified. All right. I ain't gonna lie to you, brother. We're over there eating so good, man. I came home, went straight to sleep. Um Okay. Fool spots, man, locker room, of course. They got immaculate food from top to bottom, and the hookah and the vibes. You know what I mean? It's it's chill, it's low-key, and gotta dress up like you're going to church to get in there. You know, it's a nice vibe in there. Salute to my dog said. Um, man, it's so hard, bro, because there's so many restaurants. That's what I'm saying. Right, right, right. Daniel Lettis, if you want some Spanish food, you know, Mexican food over there is incredible. Um, you know, I'm still a, you know, I'm still a I'm still a lotus guy. Okay. You know what I mean? Okay. Some nice fish, some crab legs with a nice little, you know what I mean? You don't want to go full seafood spot like uh whatchamacallit, but you want some low-key, some chill, some still good. Lotus, uh there's another one.

SPEAKER_07 7:37

Something you ain't really gotta dig in your wallet. You know.

SPEAKER_09 7:40

Yeah. Nice little$30,$40. Get on out the way. Yeah, yeah, yeah. So yeah, just right off the top of my head, that's what I can think. But this is, man, so many, bro.

SPEAKER_07 7:48

I would say for sure, they gotta go to taste.

unknown 7:50

Right.

SPEAKER_07 7:50

Okay. Oh, they gotta go to taste. Right, right, right. You can't miss taste, but that's but breakfast, lunch, brunch, dinner. For sure. It don't matter. You're not gonna miss. Another one, it's a little bit out the way, but if you don't mind driving, spot called Quotes. Quotes fly fly as hell. Never heard of that one. It reminds me of Taste Bar, Taste Bar Vibes, but with hookah. So if you could think of it, imagine it ain't the because it's since it's so far out, you ain't got the views, like confessions, but like they got good hookah, they got drinks, they got food, they got so much food, bro. Like it's really good. Off 249. Oh, gotcha, gotta go out. Yeah, you gotta go out. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah, you gotta go way out there. We got that. But I mean, it's like 45 minutes. Yeah. No traffic.

SPEAKER_09 8:42

But you gotta stand foreign those 45 minutes, they're in a whole nother city. Yeah, that's true. That's true, that's true, that's true. But you know.

SPEAKER_07 8:48

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. And of course, Breakfast Club. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Gotta go Breakfast Club. There's certain staples that you just gotta hit if you get the opportunity. Some shit you just gotta hit. But one that's probably that's not on there. I don't know, man. I want to tell niggas about my spot.

SPEAKER_09 9:10

Let's be trying to gatekeep.

SPEAKER_07 9:12

I'm trying not to I ain't gonna gatekeep, though. Call this the gatekeeping. But if y'all like some snow crab lead, if y'all like crawfish, y'all like your shrimp bowl, happy crab.

SPEAKER_09 9:21

For sure. In Sugarland. For sure. Oh sure. We was over there eating good. Oh hell yeah. That shit fire, man. Well, yeah, man. Make sure y'all tap in. Houston, man. Well, y'all see it. We ain't gotta advertise it at this point. Houston is all over the timeline, every timeline.

SPEAKER_07 9:40

I can't believe niggas chose Houston for spring break. We ain't got no water. Normally, this place is with some water. People trying to be around the vibes, brother. Or Vegas. You know what I'm saying? Spring break in Vegas. Trying to be around the barbers. Of course coming to Houston.

SPEAKER_09 9:54

Because it's like, what, what are the only thing that those cities got that Houston don't is gambling. Everything else Houston got. What you want, rooftop vibes, what you want, well, I mean, it's not from Beach. I mean, of course. But you know, pool parties, you know, nightlife, day party, brunch, uh, museum district. You want to go get a little fancy, get a little bougie. Like, it's so much stuff to do out here, bro. Like, you like literally every day, there's something to do. That's true. You know what I mean? So whereas in those other cities, you gotta catch them on a Saturday, Sunday. You in Vegas on a Tuesday. Yeah. That's true. You're in Miami on a Wednesday.

SPEAKER_07 10:33

And I think what sets us to part too, which which is just unfair, is the fact that we got something that can service everybody.

SPEAKER_08 10:40

Right.

SPEAKER_07 10:41

Right. So if you are Hispanic and you like, I'm on some authentic man, we got a whole area for you, several. We got it. If you age from the Asian community, would have got something strictly for you. We got it. You know what I'm saying? Africans, like it's we got something for literally everybody. Caribbean. You know what I mean? We got it. Plenty of it. So if you want something that's that makes you feel like you at home, yeah, we got it for you, baby. I think that's what separates us from everybody else. Everybody else can get the vibes. Right. But we're like super included. I mean, inclusive. Like that's just our community in general, just super inclusive.

SPEAKER_09 11:17

There's two things we like to do is party and eat. Facts. And Houston is top of the totem pole for both. So it is what it is, man. We're gonna stay in Texas with it, though. Uh some news broke, man. Dak Prescott, quarterback for the Cowboys, recently wrapped up his engagement on the night of the Bachelor and Bachelorette co-ed party. This happened a couple days ago. Now, the official reason is not out. But you have some people saying that, you know, a prenub was presented. Terms of the prenub wasn't necessarily agreed to. And since this was, you know, the Bachelorette batch the situation, it's like, hey, you know, we done been trying to get this going, get this thing finalized for a while. We ain't got no signature on it. What we gonna do? And apparently that discussion broke out during the party. So they came back uh single people. Now, she came out and responded, commenting under one of those stories, because of course the story go viral. It's on Shade Room, it's on Spiritual Word, it's on all of the major media sites, and she's under the you know posts in the comments saying the prenup was not the reason that we got uh that we wrapped the engagement up.

SPEAKER_07 12:29

That's what she said. And then you start seeing posts about Dak possibly stepping out.

SPEAKER_09 12:34

Right. So what's your thoughts on it? Which way you leaning, which story makes sense? I mean, we don't know for sure. We don't, but which story makes the most sense to you? Mind you, they got two kids. No marriage, they've been, you know, dating or whatever the case may be. I can't remember how hi how he met her. I think they were um she was a bartender or something like that. And then they they linked up, hooked up, she got pregnant, they rocked out, she got pregnant again, proposal happened, wedding about to come, engagement over.

SPEAKER_07 13:18

That's tough, man. That's super tough. Like the immediately when you when you hear the first, um the when you've seen the first post and stuff about them possibly breaking up and then the reason why. Me, I mean he thought about stack five. Right immediately. Right. And I'm like, well shit, at least he didn't make it to the wedding today. Right. Like I'm sure there's something he can salvage. Like, bro pulled up at the wedding, yeah. A couple hours from the wedding. This was, you know, they at least had some time, you know, away from it. But man, it's tough. I can I can if it's that reason, we're speaking on the for what we know if it's that reason. Like that's that's I think that's that's a tough situation to be in. As as much as I want to understand, they're like, I feel like that's a that's a real tough situation to be in because you won't you want to protect your assets, but again, I I do understand too, there are plenty of things that she could put in there to protect herself. Right. So it was something in that that she didn't agree with. Clearly. So I'm just I'm just curious and to know the real reason behind that, man.

SPEAKER_09 14:37

I think um, because of course that brought about the whole argument about a prenup, things of that nature. You got some people saying that um, you know, why do we need a prenup? Like if he put a prenup in my face, we would have wrapped it up to, you know, I'm not signing that. Then you got some dudes saying, Ain't no way I'm getting married at that level unless there's a prenup. Yep. Uh then you got the other side saying, Well, the dope part about a prenup is y'all get to create y'all own rules to it and things of that nature.

SPEAKER_07 15:03

So that part I agree with.

SPEAKER_09 15:04

Which side do you fall on from that perspective? Uh are you pro-prenup or are you like, well, we just gonna go with the vibes. It just kind of depends on the relationship or whatever. Are you pro-prenup, period? I'm talking about if you're at a level like that millionaire, meet a woman while you already got the money. What's your thoughts on that?

SPEAKER_07 15:23

I'm pro-prenup if I'm already up in that situation. Like if I'm clearly all the way up, it's it's prenup and that's just what it is. And I'm I'm actually probably leading with that early on in my dating, you know what I'm saying? When I'm dating whoever I'm I'm trying to get to know. Now, if we meet and I'm not on that level and I come into it, nah, ain't no prenup. Because I'm pretty sure more than likely we got married before I came up. But if we got married after I came up, yeah, ain't no prenup. Right. You've been here with me, you've been with me shooting in the gym, you've been losing sleep, you've been stressing as much as I've been stressing, you've been, you know, taking care of me, you've been picking up the slack where I've been lacking and stuff like that. So yeah, if I'm in that situation and you've been with me through a lot, absolutely. Absolutely. You can get almost whatever you want. But if I'm our in the league eight years already, you know what I'm saying? Something like that, and then we get together, no. Right. You can get a piece, you know. I'll take care of the kids. I'll make sure that they have roof over their head. I can give you, you know, what you need to satisfy you, but we're not being greedy. Like, mm-mm.

SPEAKER_09 16:38

Well, let's say this. Let's say, because that that right there is a pretty easy decision to come to, because just like you say, I'm eight years in the league. I've been a millionaire. It ain't nothing to talk about. But let's say that you meet a woman, and again, you're not in the league or nothing like that, but you you headed to make some legitimate money. Like you, you got a comfortable lifestyle for yourself, very nice apartment, very nice car, a lot of disposable income. You understand what I'm saying? Then you meet a woman at that level, maybe not millionaire, but let's say you got, you know, a strong 200,000 liquid. You understand? Little money and investments, things of that nature. You're not filthy rich, but it's like you know, you you decent, and then you meet her, and you know, she got she got a little motion going for herself too. Okay. You know what I mean? Maybe not as high as yours, but she got a little motion going for herself too. In that scenario, if you're advising somebody, would you be pro prenup in that scenario as well?

SPEAKER_07 17:41

How up am I over her?

SPEAKER_09 17:44

Let's say uh, I mean, let's say uh a couple hundred thousand in in net worth. Let's say you were four, she worked two.

SPEAKER_07 17:57

I'm leaning I'm leaning towards no prenup, but at the same time, again, even if we do sign a prenup, it can make sense. We can make it to where, hey, you getting 30, 35% of the business or 40% of the business, like whatever it is. I think there's a lot of ways that you can go into it to where she still benefits.

SPEAKER_08 18:21

Right.

SPEAKER_07 18:22

And try to get her to understand the bigger picture, not just I'm handing you a monthly allowance every month if we were to break up. Like I think if you have investments behind it, it makes more sense. And it's just not easily as you know, disposable. Right, right, right, right, right. Like, let's if if I'm gonna give you this money, cool, but do something with it. Whether it's, you know, we have money put to the side for the kids or the school fund or whatever it is, like, cool. You know, you've been with me. I was on my way up. You caught me in the middle of my ascension. Like you caught me right in the middle. And I do love you. And I do appreciate the time that we spent together. I appreciate, you know, what you've done for me. I appreciate you listening to me. I appreciate you, you know, listening to me talk about games or film or whatever it is. So yeah, I mean, I'm I think I would definitely try to um reward that person, you know, for their loyalty and and their time. I think you gotta give them, you know, you gotta give them something because it is a sacrifice.

SPEAKER_09 19:24

Something has a lot of gray area there. We gotta, we we gotta get to some uh specificity.

SPEAKER_07 19:31

I'm not trying to fund your whole lifestyle. Do I, yeah. At the end of the day, I'm not trying to fund your whole lifestyle. I give you some, give you some change, I make you feel comfortable, but also not to the point where you should feel like you just shouldn't be doing nothing. You should still be getting out there and try to get your own, get your own, secure your own stuff. Not just retiring off of me when you only been here a couple years. And put the time in. Fair. Now if it's time, you know, even and even after let's say I was already who I their situation right now, they lasted 10 more years, and then they got divorced. Absolutely. That would be a absolutely you got it. Whatever we gotta do, you've been here 12 plus years for my kids, absolutely. But it's something like under three, four, mmm, I don't know. You get a little, you get a couple of a couple of dollars, but no.

SPEAKER_09 20:37

Yeah. I don't know, yeah, yeah. I um knowing knowing what I know now, um, I think if I'm advising somebody with any emotion at all, I'm saying we're going into a prenup. If y'all didn't grow and grow up together, or y'all wasn't together when y'all was both broke, or you was broke, she might have been up, you was broke. If you meet her and you're up, even if she up, we still get in a prenup at this stage in life. Because again, knowing what I know now, I just want the back end of things to be clean, and I know that when we sign in this prenup, we both gonna have the best intentions for each other. But if we get to the end of that relationship and it ain't signed, the intentions are gonna be a little different. You understand? So I think it'd just be best to just iron out how this thing is gonna go, and like not even just for the money, but for the kids as well. Like you can put you can put all of that in there. You can have documentation, like, hey, if something happened, we go our separate ways, you get the kids these days, I get the kids those days, and this is the amount of money we agree to, and all of these things. Like, you can line all of that up beforehand. If I'm advising somebody, I would I would definitely say do that. You know what you know I mean. And like I say, I know that it's easier said than done and and whatever, whatever, because a lot of people are not just up, up like that to where that's that's even a thought. Like you meeting your person, y'all, y'all both just trying to make it. Average people just trying to make it. So it's like you're not even tripping on that. But I'm saying, like, if you got if you got some motion, man, if you get into a couple hundred thousand a year at least with potential to gain more, I would I would definitely recommend prenup. And I would recommend it both ways. Let's say if you're a woman and you a couple hundred thousand up, you meet a dude, he ain't really got motion like that. I would I would be pro prenup in that situation as well. Because it's like when you got because especially in this industry we in, right? Like you can be decent one day and then explode and be a millionaire the next month or a couple months later. That's just how volatile this industry is. And it's like just like you said, we've been dating six months, eight months, or whatever the case may be. Yeah, I ain't where I need to be yet, but I got but I got a little motion and I'm and I'm headed there, and then boom, six months into us messing with each other, I'm a millionaire. You don't deserve my money. You didn't put no work, you didn't do no editing, you didn't post no clips, you didn't go do these interviews, you didn't do none of that. So why would I owe you? You know what I mean? But if we got the print up in order, we ain't even got a thought. You understand? And again, I'm with you as well on the like, if you got a woman who've been down with you, who done actually provided some benefit, not just showed up, look good, and spent your money, like a lot of these women be doing. But if you got your woman who really giving valid input, she done been rocking with you for years, y'all got kids together, things of that nature, I'm all for putting in that prenup agreement, hey, yeah, nah, you know, take care of her, give her, you know, give her a couple hundred thousand, make sure she got a crib, make sure she got a car, whatever the case may be. You understand? After that, you're on your own. Because it's like you say, it's not my job to when you leave me, your lifestyle still is the same as mine, even though we not together. That ain't that ain't how that goes. But I'm not gonna, you know, you ain't gonna leave me and go back to poverty or or go to poverty, you know what I mean? So Especially if you have my kids, assume that you have custody. Right. Because I mean it's gonna be some joint custody. Yeah, yeah. So that's just how I see it. Um, but I also think it speaks volumes that, you know, it's certain women out there that where when the prenup conversation comes up, they feel insulted by it. I think that right there is a red flag. I think like if that was the case, if I'm talking to a woman and a prenup comes up and she's disgusted, it's over.

unknown 24:32

Yep.

SPEAKER_09 24:33

That's just how I see it. Because it's like if we can't have a grown conversation about something that's very important. I mean, let's just be honest, most relationships don't make it. It's the reality. I mean, of course, you go in with the with the best intentions and things of that nature, but we definitely gotta prepare for it to go left because it's a great possibility that it will. And if that man poses that conversation, I come to you on some, hey, look, man, you know, everything going great right now, but I just want to, you know, boom, what you think about a prenup? You know, this is my idea for it, whatever. Now you can look over it, add a couple things, or we can talk about something you want to change it, or whatever. If she responds in absolute disgust, that speaks volumes to me.

SPEAKER_07 25:14

I feel like the woman like that that won't sign a prenup in those situations be the same women that don't want to do a DNA test.

SPEAKER_08 25:24

Right.

SPEAKER_07 25:25

A little quick swab.

SPEAKER_08 25:26

Right.

SPEAKER_07 25:27

Because for what? What are you really in it for? Because if you was in it for me, then it's yeah, cool, let's do it. I ain't bet. This is this is all I'm asking for. Boom, and you cool with that. But no, you wanna you want to play the long game. You wanna be able to to take me for as much as you can. No, that's not you not you, you weren't really here for me. Because if you were, that wouldn't be high in your priority. Wouldn't even be a conversation. And if you ain't here nothing to hide, then you would get a DNA test. So listen, man. I'll put I put y'all in the same class.

SPEAKER_09 26:03

I say, man, it's real conversations that that that gotta be had because we we some of the first generation. Well, we are the first generation, us, and then the one behind us that's really getting to some paper in a major way. Like I'm talking about grew up one way, being adult living a completely different way. Like more of us are doing that than at any point in history in terms of generation. So it's like this is information that's very prevalent, and I know those type of conversations are taboo. Just like you said, the DNA test, that's taboo conversation. Prenup, that's taboo conversation. But these should be way more normal. You understand? Because it's like it's so many times people done got screwed in the past because boom, I'ma just go with love. I love you so much, and we're gonna be together forever, and then two years later, y'all not. And now you fighting in family court for the kids, and you gotta pay this and gotta pay that. You know what I mean? When all of that stuff could have been alleviated if you would have moved smarter. You know what I mean? Uh don't get me wrong. Love is an amazing thing, but love is not enough. Yep. And we be watching too many movies to where you get to thinking that boom, when these credits roll, it's happily ever after. It don't work like that, brother. You walk down that aisle, it ain't no credits rolling, and it ain't no happily ever after. It's a lot more life to live on the other side of that. That's when the movies start. Exactly. Exactly. So, like I say, it would behoove y'all to prepare yourselves accordingly. Um, we're gonna stay in the industry, man. This was just a wild story that I just want to hear your thoughts on, bro. Um Rihanna, popular, legendary singer. Um, recently there was a shooting at her house. Now there was a crazed woman who's been stalking her and stalking other women entertainers and things of that nature on social media forever, making all kinds of threatening posts. You know, one of them little pages you damn near think is a bot. They just talking crazy all the time. It's a bunch of negativity. I'm gonna do this, I'm gonna do that, blah, blah, blah. You don't pay no mind. They got 12 followers, whatever, whatever. Apparently, she wasn't a bot. Apparently, she's a real person. Found out where Rihanna lived and came to her house, pulled out a gun, and shot at the house. And Rihanna happened to be in there. Now nobody was hit, but yeah, she's, you know, definitely has some mental issues and things of that nature. And, you know, I think she's in custody at this point. But it's it it brings about the question, you know, we just got done talking about this industry that we in. And the thing is, is that as much as we may not feel like it, we are public faces. And with that comes a lot. So I ask you, in your opinion, is it worth what it comes with?

SPEAKER_07 29:08

At the end of the day, I'll say yeah. I mean, because you don't this don't happen too often. And we're beyond in her situation, like at least you would think she have a little more security than what she does.

SPEAKER_08 29:22

Right.

SPEAKER_07 29:22

But I I'm assuming because, you know, she ain't really been out there and putting herself out there, being on news as much, you know. That's probably something that she was taking care of that probably didn't scale back a little bit. Um But I think at some point, man, it just comes with the territory. Like if you want to be big, if you want to be super successful, if you're doing something that you love, like people hating come with it. Unfortunately. That's just what it is. You ain't gotta talk about nothing negative. Like what Rihanna talk about? Rihanna will be on no negative shit. You know what I mean? So it it it it goes to show like it don't matter what avenue you in, it's just some people that just don't care for you.

SPEAKER_09 30:05

And how do you protect yourself from that? How do you navigate that?

SPEAKER_07 30:10

That's crazy. You just I mean, get hiring protection. Iron protection. Move far as hell away, like some people do. Have acres and acres of land where you know, if somebody does come, like you got plenty of time to catch them. Because you're on acres of land, your house sitting way in the back. You in the middle of the woods or some shit like you just you you're not as accessible. Because a lot of times the the crime is gonna happen where it's easily accessible. So you know, unfortunately, you know, that's another bill you gotta account for is is security.

SPEAKER_09 30:47

Man, I think I think that's the scariest part about all of this for me. You know, um one, I'm an introvert regularly, so all this attention, I'm not really used to it. You know, I've always been popular, but this is a totally different level of that. And it's cool for the most part. You know, I ain't I ain't had no bad experiences or nothing. Thank God. Man, me knock on wood. Um but it's still scary. You know, you're walking in places and people are looking at you and whispering and pointing and you know, all of these things, and you still feel like a regular person. Despite the fact that, you know, you're not. Your face is in front of millions of people a month. You know what I mean? And it it just is what it is. So people sometimes like get real comfortable with you, feeling like they know you. They come up to you, say certain things, or you know, some people come to you and grab your arm, or you know, all type of stuff. And you just like, what the f like your instinct, because of where we come from, is on some like your your first thought is a meet is threat immediately. So you react like that and then you say, oh, okay, it ain't that, it's love. Okay, boom. Hey, nah, thank you. You know what I mean? But it's like one day it could be a threat. And you so used to get in love that you ain't gonna be ready for that. You know what I mean? If it might catch you off guard or something, you know, so it's just fame in general, you know. Again, now there are there are levels to it. I'm not nowhere near comparing myself to Rihanna or anything like that. There are there are levels to it, but I think just with notoriety, with popularity, with fame in itself, like it's a dangerous game. It just really is. And the irony is, is that the chase for it is what most people are addicted to. Most people want to be famous. Damn near born when they want to be rich. If I'm gonna be honest. And it's like, I don't think people know what they're signing up for. You know what I mean? Like, especially if you're not that much of a social butterfly type of person. If you're just a chill laid-back person who like to be, like, this shit is is interesting, man. Like, it is it is eye-opening, it's scary, is it's cool too. Now, don't get me wrong, I'm not gonna say it's all bad. Like, it's cool because you know, it's perks that come with it. Like, you getting taken care of in restaurants and skipping lines, and you know, they showing you love in the club. You might get a bottle for the love or you a couple drinks, or whatever. You know, it's a bunch of different perks to it, you know, but it's just the thought of people knowing who you are and you don't know them, and you don't know people's motives. And just like the Rihanna situation, she didn't do nothing to that woman. Like, she didn't cuss out woman. Whatever, whatever. She had no idea that this woman had a problem. And this woman had a serious enough problem to where I'm willing to find out where you live, go to your house, and fire gunshots at the house. Like, like, think about that, bro. And then I got to think about back in the day, like, that's how John Lennon got killed for the Beatles. He was, they people was waiting outside of his loft in New York. You know, he was going to the studio. They had a crowd of people out there, photographers and all kinds of stuff, fans and everything, cheering him on as, you know, he walked out, got in his whip, went to the studio, laid what he laid, came back, and a dude that was out there before was still out there. And he was just, hey man, I just wanted to get a picture with you. He's like, I don't know, how you doing? Boom, boom. Dude pulled out a pistol and shot him. This is a fan. But he had mental issues. So it's just like stuff like that, bro. It's just it makes you question it. It makes you quit, like, is this all worth it? I mean, don't get me wrong, like the money and the perks and all of that is great, but it's like the trade-off though. Gotta be careful. And then even when in the industry we in, it in my opinion, is worse. Because we in relationships. So people expect perfection because of what we talk about and because of what we do. Like, you don't have no room to make a mistake. You don't have no room to slip up. You don't have no room for your relationship to fail. No matter how much you may talk about it. No matter how much you talk about it. Despite all that advice you give in, and you out there, you can't even maintain a relationship. Like, that's how it is. Like, you have to be perfect in the industry we in. And that's why I never wanted to be famous. I always wanted the money. Right. Don't get me wrong. I always want the money. Nah. Like the quiet money. But the fame, I never wanted that, bro. Yet here we are. So I just thought that story was interesting, man. And for everybody listening, and for everybody that's trying to start podcasts, and everybody that's trying to be rappers and artists and actors and all of these things, be prepared for what's coming. It ain't gonna be a I'm gonna just get to this level and do my craft at a high level, man, and go to the house. It don't it no, it don't work like that.

SPEAKER_07 35:55

I think a lot of people be paranoid unless you like hit it big early and then kind of taper off. You know what I mean? Like let a you know year go by or something, whatever it is. Then you can kind of chill in the background. But as long as you're relevant, yeah, it's you're gonna be at the forefront all the time. Somebody's gonna see you.

SPEAKER_09 36:16

And it's like everything matters now. You can't just go outside bummy. The car you drive, it gotta be decent. How you fly, you know what I mean? You used to be able to sit in the back of the plane. Nah, you know what I mean? You can't really do that no more. You know what I mean? The phone gonna be out.

SPEAKER_07 36:34

On the 36th row. I think it's 38F. I'm up here. I'm up here sleeping behind first. Turn your ass all the way in the back.

SPEAKER_09 36:46

Nigga zoom in. All that stuff you be on millions of views here and roll 37. What's the middle of the B?

SPEAKER_07 36:58

Damn. Group five. Plane packed out already. You the nigga that gotta turn in your suitcase before you get to the room at the front, nigga.

SPEAKER_08 37:11

Nowhere.

SPEAKER_09 37:12

You walking back to the room. What is that? I mean, we let we joking, but it's it's stuff like that matters, man.

SPEAKER_07 37:24

All beds are closed. You will need to take your bag in for free, and we will get it to your destination.

SPEAKER_09 37:33

It's tough, man. We had to ride gym pot. We had to catch a little random flight one day. People there looking at you like you're crazy. Like, damn. I'm like, nah, it's out of control. But that's what I'm saying. Like, this is stuff you would have never had to think about or worry about ever.

SPEAKER_07 37:51

Right.

SPEAKER_09 37:51

You can just go about your business, bro. Like, nah. People watching everything you do. And then the worst part, in my opinion, is the vulnerability of your family. Now you become a face, your family becomes a face. Regardless of how much you try to protect them, keep them out of there. You know, people gonna see them. People know them. That's true. And you can't be with them all the time. That's true. They just regular people living life. And then now they got people coming up to them. Hey, uh. And you ain't there. Right. That's why I say, bruh, for everybody that's trying to get the attention and be prepared for what you're asking for. That's a fact. All right, man. We're gonna go ahead and get in the study hall. Uh, talk about viral. Ari Lennox, who is a legendary singer, uh, recently was signed to J. Cole's label Dreamville. They recently parted ways. And, you know, I think she got some new music coming because she's been she's been on the interview circuit, you know, making moves. And she was uh she was speaking about some regrets that she had when it comes to dating. I don't know if y'all, uh everybody who's watching this, man, if y'all been tapped into my Instagram. A couple days ago I posted a throwback uh clip from when I battled the sexes where I was talking about how a lot of men don't get an opportunity, a lot of good men don't get an opportunity with women until they've been ran through by the toxic ones.

unknown 39:25

Right?

SPEAKER_09 39:26

And you had people in the comments arguing with me and all type of stuff like that. So it's just ironic that this video came out shortly after in which you was speaking on the very thing that I spoke on in that video. I'm gonna play it, get your response to it, bro. I think I have a thing for Oh, wait. I think they're still separate. We're gonna have to start it over, man. I ain't even connected to the goddamn roadcaster, man. I'm in here slipping, y'all. Pardon me, pardon me, pardon me. I'm playing the video. That's it. Oh. But yeah, you know, I just before we even play it though, I just want to say, man, it feels good to be right again. You know what I mean? As much as people try to argue with me for that take, that was a legendary take because it was very true. Now we're gonna get to this video and see what she has to say about it, but I told y'all before we start. Told y'all.

SPEAKER_02 40:29

I think I have a thing for toxic energy. So I I think there's still some more healing that I need to do because when I look back on all of these energies, um it's a shame I I gave them so much time and there were sweet energies that I didn't. And so now I see those sweet energies getting married and starting families. I'm just like, dang, that probably could have been me if I recognized the security in those individuals at the time. And like now, I'm like, yeah, I'm I'm definitely feeling that now. I'm aware that there's something going on. There's something wrong. What what do you think it is that attracts you to like toxic energy? Um, I think they just seem really exciting at first. The chemistry is incredible. Um, and they don't even always be fine. It's not even that like they're sexy or something. I mean, well, they're sexy, but they don't be the finest things I've ever seen. Yeah. It's just an energy. Um, it's sometimes it's convenienced, uh, what we talk about. Um, a lot of those, the sweeter energies that I felt like weren't for me. I felt I I could see myself falling asleep a little bit on the phone. So I don't know if that's like if boring is good or not. Like I'm trying to figure out what that means. Like it's the thrill. Yeah. It's the thrill that means she said that the good guys are boring.

SPEAKER_09 41:51

She said so much so that she would fall asleep on the phone when they were talking. Something about that toxic guy, it's the energy, it's the excitement, it's the now she's having regrets, looking at a lot of those good guys that she passed up. They're in happy marriages now, kids, families, things of that nature, things that she aspires to. Yep. And the toxic guys are nowhere to be found. What's your thoughts on that cycle that a lot of women find themselves in?

SPEAKER_07 42:18

I told you before, man. I don't know. It's something about the thrill. They don't care about the boringness, the monotony, the consistency. They like to be thrown for a loop. They like roller coasters. Big roller coasters. They don't like the normal rides, the safe rides, the rides that you like, okay, yeah, if I do this one, I'm not getting hurt. If I go uh shoot basketball for 10 tokens, I'm cool. Like, no, they want the ones that's death-defying.

SPEAKER_09 43:01

It's crazy.

SPEAKER_07 43:03

Death defying is wild. But it's true. They're gonna wait the long ass line, three hours, then you'll go to the let's go over here. There's about about an hour. That one looks scary enough. Instead of just experiencing the ride, experiencing the park, everything you gotta offer. You wanna go to the most dangerous ride there is. And wait. Especially if you don't have a pass. But and wait just for a chance to experience it. Yes. A lot of women are like that. Why they are like that, I have no clue. I'm I'm still baffled by that. Um it's just it's just really amazing. And and like I've said before, in my previous experiences, like when I was out there dating and and and trying to figure it out, there were times where I was being the good guy. I was, you know, not being toxic. I was opening doors. I was getting flowers. I'm doing all the nice gestures. I'm, you know, really treating you special. And got left. But the moment I flipped that switch and I won't say talk to her crazy, but talk to her with uh in a less respectful manner, or uh said no, like 10 times out of 10, or really put my foot down, or just did what I wanted to do, how I wanted to do it, instead of taking you into consideration, those are the ones that stayed around. Those are the ones that tried to figure me out, those are the ones that tried to change me. Instead of a woman that, you know, I'm also interested in that's not taking that. You know, she also knows her worth. But some of these women you can just treat however, and they're gonna love you. And you're gonna wonder why they love you. Women are some toxic individuals. I love y'all. Y'all be just as toxic. And I also want to say too, to this, to the toxicity. You attract what you attract. You attract what you want to attract. So if you want toxicity, toxicity, it's gonna come to you. And if you turn it around, men that are good, that are stable, that are solid, that are consistent, if you're turning that type of man around, clearly that's not what you want. And clearly you're not meeting that energy level. No matter how good they are, no matter how good they look, no matter how good they could be for you. You want something totally different. So this roller coaster ride may look a certain way, but don't get mad when you get on it and it's not what you expect.

SPEAKER_09 45:58

That's what I got. Yeah, man, I don't I don't disagree with nothing you said. Um I think that a lot of women have, let me rephrase, I think a lot of younger women have an unrealistic view of what masculinity is. I think that there are a lot of younger women who feel like just because a man can have an emotional outburst, or because he's emotionally unstable or he's aggressive, that that means he's masculine. And I'm not sure where that tutelist comes from for real. I'm I because I like even when you're in the house with your parents, like they don't tell you, hey, this is what masculinity is, is being super tough and trying to fight everybody and trying to shoot this person and selling dope and do it. Like they don't teach you that. But it's like I guess, like society, I guess, kind of teaches you that. But there's a lot of younger women who feel like a man who's em who's emotionally unstable is masculine. And that's what they gravitate to. And I think the older they get, the more they realize that this person who's ready to crash out over any sign of disrespect, or this person who is trying to fight everybody, or this person who is infamous in the streets for shooting at people, or selling dope, or whatever, whatever it is that he's doing, that's not what masculinity is. True masculinity is a man that takes care of his family. True masculinity is a man that's going to work every day, that's sacrificing and showing up to them PTA meetings and showing up to that, to that uh uh ballerina practice or that football practice or you know, that that guy that's your support system when you feeling down at work or whatever the case may be. That man that's rubbing your feet, that man that's rubbing your back, that man that's pouring into you, that man that's making your life easier in a real way, not just providing you excitement. Like so many women get caught up on excitement that they sacrifice stability. And the vibes. And the vibes. You want the vibes. Like you sacrificing stability. Yeah, this man is calm and quiet and your lifestyle is stable. That's how it's supposed to be. That's healthy. But a lot of women perceive like a lot of women perceive calm and and steady and stable as boring. Yep. And now you alienating dudes who would actually make good fathers for your kids. You alienating dudes who are actually willing to to sacrifice whatever it is that that you know they have to to make sure that you're good or to make sure that the household is good. A man that actually prioritizes you. You sacrificing that because there's no excitement there. But your idea of excitement is unhealthy. Chasing. You know what I mean? They need, yeah. Like you're like what you deem as exciting is the problem. And I think a lot of women learn that late. They learn that after they've had two or three kids by this toxic man. They learn that after they done gained 200 pounds from stress and from having all of these kids by this dude and all of this, that, and the stuff. They learn that after the mental anguish and the mental sacrifice that they made, constantly, you know what I'm saying, trying to having to bend over backwards to try to please this man or try to, you know what I mean, man dragging her through the mud and she holding on for dear life. Like you gotta sacrifice all of that to learn that, hey, calm, quiet, and stable is actually the man I need.

SPEAKER_07 49:41

Yep. And I think a lot of times, that's also why a lot of men get away with what they do. Because so many women put up with all of that on a continuous basis. They're not gonna check me. They're not gonna tell me what to do. I'm gonna go out as much as I want to. You're gonna be calling, blowing up my phone. Why you not answering? Why you ain't check in? Why you ain't it like women need projects. And if she can't feel like she can fix you, it's almost like I have no purpose in this relationship because I can't try to fix you. I can't put my twist on you. So I don't know where to fit in because I'm used to changing and correcting and coaching, and that's what I'm used to doing. So if I can't do that, I'm really lost in this relationship because I'm coming into something that's unfamiliar. I'm coming into something that is complete already. I don't have to worry about bills, or I don't have to worry about you know him cussing me out. Like he's coming home when he's supposed to. He doesn't go out too much. Like he has a balanced life, essentially. And I don't know what to do with this.

SPEAKER_09 51:02

Poor preaching.

SPEAKER_07 51:03

That's crazy. That is crazy.

SPEAKER_09 51:08

But you're right, though, because it's like if that's the only way that you have ever had to show up in the past, you don't even know no other way to be there for a man that actually has it together. Right. Right. Like you got some women who run into a man where they don't have to work that hard, or run into a man that like gives them a soft life and things of that nature, you know, to where it's, you know, a bit easier. She may still be working or whatever, or it may not, but it's a very different life. Like, she doesn't have to sacrifice every single day. She doesn't have to, you know, uh-uh-uh uh uh prioritize or deprioritize herself in order for the relationship and things of that nature. She done ran into a dude who actually solid. And a lot of women in that position was self-sabotage. Because of what you're saying, this is unfamiliar. And I don't know how to navigate. If I ain't got nothing to work on or if I ain't got nothing to build in this relationship, I don't know how to navigate. I don't know how to just be. Calm is chaotic to me. Stable is chaotic to me because it's unfamiliar. Now, if you put me in the midst of some some chaos or some some just dysfunction, oh, I can navigate. I know what to do. I know I know where to go. But you put me in a situation that's calm and you actually communicate and you actually listen to me, and you're like, you know, whoa. Just like you said, like, where do I fit in here? And they're self-sabotage. There's a lot of dudes out there right now. I know it's my right off the top of my head, I ain't gonna put their situation out there.

SPEAKER_07 52:52

I just seen I seen a quick clip, quick clip earlier. Uh Ryan Davis was doing like a little stand-up on his stand-up. Shout out to Ryan Davis. And bro was talking about how women don't understand what peace is. Because peace is nothing. And he was like, when was the last time women had nothing going on in their head? It's not happening. So that he was like, if you gonna have peace, fellas, you gotta, you gotta bring your own peace and provide your own peace. Because women is not gonna know what that looks like. Women don't know how to clear their mind and just be. Like, that's very hard for a lot of women. They it's always something, they're thinking about something, thinking about the next move, thinking about a bill, or thinking about a trip, or thinking about friends. It's always something that they're thinking about or trying to do. But men know how to remove all that every now and then and just and just be.

SPEAKER_09 53:52

Bro, I ain't gonna lie, I was watching this clip the other day, man. They had like a group of uh people, it was men and it was women there, and the topic was uh something that men are great at, but women are terrible at. And at the start of the video, you know, they they they present the topic, and then everybody just they all kind of standing in a group. And they just put it out there in an abstract way and just peep how people react. You know, so they put the topic out there, something that men are good at, women are women are terrible at, whatever the case may be. Now, all the men just sat there quietly. They trying to figure out, okay, what's but the women they just yapping, yapping, yapping. Girl, what do they mean? Good at what? Like, what's the at the end of the video? They was like, that's the point. Being quiet. Just being still, just being present in the moment, just not saying nothing. We don't have to like all the men, it was funny as hell. Like all the men and like and like one woman was like quiet, like trying to think, like, what does that mean? The rest of them just talking, yeah. I mean, because I'm like, what if me and men ain't good at it was a bunch of just chaos, and it was just like, damn, y'all proving the point. But that but but that that that that goes back to what you're saying. Like, that's why you have women who would be in a a relationship and everything is going good, and then she goes through your phone. Or be in a relationship and everything going good, and she'll come in there and complain or yell at you about nothing. Like, why is this shirt on the floor? Like you some of them just have an urge to argue. Like, that's their way of showing love. That's their way of bonding. Us arguing, getting over it, and getting back to who we were, like it, like we went through something together. That's why I say a lot of women are living in their own TV show, like they living in their own rom-com. To whereas for men, if things is peaceful, we ain't rocking the boat. We just gonna, we good. We ain't gotta. But if things is too peaceful and it ain't nothing to overcome, or it ain't nothing to work on, or we need to fix, or women go into hyperdrive. Like they don't know how they go into just dysfunction. You know how like a computer mess up and lines go over the all over the place and start. That's how a woman's mind work in a place of just peace and calm. Now, mind you, this is younger women. Because older women, women who done been through some stuff, they appreciate the peace just as much as we do. That's a fact. Let's put that on the table. I want to make that differentiation. Yes. Um, because there's a lot of women out there who done, hey, I'm I'm looking for a dude who's solid words. Give me an age. What age do you feel like that kick in? About 35 and up. Okay, okay, okay. We here. 35 and up. We here. We done, we done lived some life. You done been through a couple relationships, you done dealt with the toxic, you done dealt with the calm. You know you. You know what you want. You got your routine and things of that nature. I don't want a man who even remotely brings instability around here. I'm this is peace and quiet over here. This is a smooth running machine over here. If you coming in here and you ain't making this motherfucker run even smoother than it's already running, it's over with. I ain't got no time for you. When you're 35 and up, like the women that's 35 and up, they already get it. They already understand. It's a hey, it's it's grown folk shit happening over here. Do you understand? Anything that ain't that, keep that away from them. But the young ones, she. Let it not be some chaos. Let it not be some drama. They'll find some. Create something. So I just want all the all the fellas listening, man, just don't feed into that, bro. I don't want y'all to feed into that. If you run into a woman who like that, the way you providing peace, you providing everything, and she's still looking for something or still finding something, run. Get as far away from her as you can. I don't give a damn how much you love her, I don't give a damn how much you like her. Get away from her. Yes, sir. Because any woman who can't understand what peaceful is and add to the peace, not get in the way of it. Shit. I ain't got a chance, my name. Uh, all right, we're gonna get to the next one. My bad. I thought about my bad.

unknown 58:14

Go ahead.

SPEAKER_09 58:15

Nah, what's you gonna say? I gotta hear it now.

SPEAKER_07 58:18

You said no chance. I just thought about Triple H.

SPEAKER_06 58:22

No chance.

SPEAKER_09 58:27

Hey, hey, that's real. I think I was on when I was on Instagram. They like, man, I didn't know you watch wrestling. I say, look, I'm uh I'm I'm an attitude era guy. That's my thing. Everything after that, I don't know. But I'm an attitude era guy. Like, so for sure. So come on now. Yeah, niggas, I mean, you had to be outside to know what was going on around then. But we're gonna get into this next clip, man. It was a uh woman that was on Pop the Balloon. Basically accused a man of not being masculine enough. She told that man, you don't even look masculine enough for me. I'm gonna play it, get your take on it.

SPEAKER_10 59:11

I just feel like I don't want to walk all over a man. Okay. That's not the type of energy I want to have in my relationship. Okay. And you feel like you would do that with him? I feel like, yeah. Okay. If you don't have a more bold, like, you know, energy style with me or whatever, like you can't keep me in my place. I feel like you're not benefiting me in my life. Just a little bit. Okay. Because I need somebody to challenge me. I need to be challenged a lot. Okay.

SPEAKER_09 59:39

I need somebody to challenge me. I need to be challenged a lot, bro. What did we just talk about?

SPEAKER_05 59:46

Come on, man.

SPEAKER_07 59:47

Ladies. This is not all of y'all. Look, what my camera. What my camera. Ladies, this is not all of y'all. But this is speaking for quite a bit of y'all. Ari said it. She said it in a different way. Because some of y'all was probably thinking that in the first clip. And this is what we be talking about. Why a man gotta look a certain way or why his energy gotta be a certain way. For you to respect him. All we ask you to be is a woman, a lady. That's it. A man gotta be a certain height, he gotta be a, he gotta make sure he's in the gym. He gotta have some tattoos. He gotta been to jail. He gotta shot a couple guns before, been shot at, have some money in the bank. Like, he gotta have all that stuff just for you to respect him and just for you to be able to be put in your place, quote unquote. That's not cool, man. And that's and that's the disconnect between men and women. Women have too many superficial standards, and a lot of those women, they don't know what they want. And it's the reason why a lot of y'all be single. Because y'all don't focus on the right stuff. I think some of y'all need to take some time and really kick it with some women who have a man or who knows how to date. Because it's cool to be single. I understand, like everybody's not gonna be for you. I understand that. But there are some people who still know how to date and just haven't met that right person. But some of y'all just be going for stuff that's not gonna serve you. And is it possible that everything that you're looking for can be in somebody? It is. But it's gonna be few and far in between. You're gonna have to date a whole bunch of men to figure it out. So what do you really want at the end of the day? Is what you have to ask yourself. Are you really putting all that away just to find a man that's gonna put you in your place? Because you can have a nigga that put you in your place and don't take care of the bills. But he's attractive to you. But he can put you in your place. So I don't know, like just be careful. That's all I can say. Be careful and and really I think evaluate what it is that you're looking for in a relationship because a man doesn't have to look away to still be able to put you in your place. I know plenty of men who may look square, but they're gonna tell your ass no, and this is how we're gonna do things because this is how I know six this is how, this is the path I know success can lead us to. And that's just how we're gonna rock.

SPEAKER_09 1:02:32

I agree. I think any woman that I gotta put in her place ain't for me. Your place ain't next to me. Facts. Because a grown-ass woman already know what her place is. So if I'm putting you in your place, I'm spending time, energy, and effort putting you in your place. That's time taken away from us elevating, that's time taken away from us progressing and building what it is that we're supposed to be building. Because I gotta teach you how to do your damn job. Teach you how to be an adult. I gotta teach you how to be a woman. And I'm a man. That is a problem. So again, all these people, I need a man that can handle me. If you gotta be handled, that is the problem. You are not a piece of furniture. You are not a pet poodle. You gotta be handled.

SPEAKER_07 1:03:19

It must be like being put in the headlock. That's why.

SPEAKER_09 1:03:25

Why gotta handle you? You are an adult. You are grown. You should know how to handle yourself. And this woman right here is a perfect example of that. She needs a man to handle her. She looked at bro and thought, just because it's like you say, he ain't got tattoos, he ain't, you know, walking around with his pants to his knees or whatever the case may be, because he had glasses that he ain't about that light. Let me explain something to you about these niggas that got tattoos and these niggas that be lifting all these weights, and these niggas that be talking like they this and talking like they that. I done seen a lot of these niggas turn to track stars when things get real. I done seen a lot of these niggas fold. I done seen a lot of these niggas get robbed and ain't do nothing about the nigga that robbed them walking around right now with their stuff on. Ain't been shot at, ain't been pressed, ain't been none of that. So a lot of niggas that y'all be thinking is tough or thinking to do this or thinking to do that won't. But you got dudes who don't look nowhere near tough. When situations arise, they stand tall in them. Especially when it comes to their woman or come to their family or protecting their kid or somebody like that. But they be thinking a nigga tough just because he got tattoos or because he got a grill in his mouth or because he got this or because he got that. A lot of these niggas with all of that will leave you high and dry when shit get real. That's the reality of it, bro. Like tattoos don't pay bills. Tattoos don't raise kids. Being tough, that don't that that don't pay a mortgage. That don't pay an electric bill. Like you don't get a check for that. You got dudes out here who busting their ass like they ain't got no one tattoo on them, but they family don't go hungry. They kids don't want for nothing. Like real stand-up motto citizens. Like they ain't locked up for four, five, six years of their kid's life. And that's what I mean. Like they got an unrealistic view of what masculinity is. Masculinity is being there and taking care of your damn family. Not being tough out here in the street to niggas who don't care nothing about you or niggas ain't gonna put a dollar on your books when you locked up. I was looking at the the uh what's the the the uh dirt case. Dirk locked up right now. You know who coming to his court dates now? Yeah, like two niggas come or something like that. Everybody he fed. Hundreds of thousands of dollars. He's buying guns for the block, he's doing everything, he's taking care of the whole block. They left him high and dry. Only ones there is his mama, his girl, and his daddy.

SPEAKER_07 1:06:00

I've seen a boy from Powerhead went one time.

SPEAKER_09 1:06:03

Yeah. Shout out my boy Chris Laughlin, man. Stand up guy, man. My boy. But yeah, you know what I mean? So it's like all that's all that's like we put value on things that at the end of the day, it don't matter. It boils down to family. It boils down to who's showing up for you, who's gonna hold you down, who can you call when you're in a bond that's gonna pull up, drop everything, make sure you're good. That's the people you need to be pouring into. And masculinity is not about how many niggas you shot. It's not about how much drugs you sold. It ain't about how tough you are. It's about, are you gonna be there day for day to raise that kid that y'all had together? Are you gonna be there day for day to make sure that that woman needs and and and you know what I mean? Like needs for nothing. Make sure that everything is taken care of, making sure that you let her support her. That's what masculinity is. That's what being a grown man is, is taking care of my family.

SPEAKER_07 1:06:51

Facts.

SPEAKER_09 1:06:52

It ain't about what I'm doing in the street. Because when I get locked up for the shit I'm doing in the street, now my family is high and dry. Out there trying to figure it out. How masculine am I if I can't help?

SPEAKER_07 1:07:05

And even when he's with his other family, how do the family look at him? Is he the person taking care of things? And he's the person everybody asking suggestions for, like, shit, you got some young niggas like us, like in your family coming to you to ask you questions. Come on now. You know, the the the grandparents don't, they're getting older. Come on. So who next in line? Are they gonna be looking at you or are they gonna look at somebody else?

SPEAKER_09 1:07:32

You niggas can't give you no advice, but uh, but how but how to how to load a glot. But that's masculinity, though. Hit the hit. It's like, bruh, like grown man is the and it's messed up because when we was younger, man, we came under the mistake of the same thing, bro. Thinking that this type of person was the role model. This person you look up to, this person. Whole time you overlooking that man who's been going to work every day for 35 years, done put his kids through college, done all of that. He ain't had a fly's car. He ain't had a fly's cold, but his family was taken care of, though. Never went without. Never went hungry. Lights never went off. He never had to go away for five, six, seven, ten years, fifteen years away from his family. He was there every day, at every football game, at every PTA meeting. That's what grown man is. That's what masculinity is. But when you're young, your mind be a little warped as to that. And it's like when you get older, it becomes real clear. Because it's easy to pull out a pistol and shoot somebody. It's very easy to do that. But it ain't easy to wake up and go to work for goddamn every day, 30 years of your life. It ain't easy to pay your kids college tuition. You know what I mean? It ain't easy to like pay these bit, like do things that grown men do. Like, that ain't easy.

SPEAKER_07 1:08:54

Yep.

SPEAKER_09 1:08:55

Shooting somebody is easy.

SPEAKER_07 1:08:56

Yep.

SPEAKER_09 1:08:59

But you know, who am I?

SPEAKER_07 1:09:01

I was always told when I was younger, man, as a little kid, like, are you willing to do what's right at the end of the day? With nobody looking. Are you? Because like, bro, it's it's easy to it's easy to do wrong. So easy. And on on top of that, I was also told, too, like, when you go to jail, who in jail? None but men. So do you want to be out here in the free world, waking up when you want to, cooking breakfast when you want to, going out to eat? Like, you can do whatever you want to under your own will. But when you go to prison, you go to jail, you gotta wake up when they tell you to. You gotta be fed when they tell you to. You can't even have sometimes go to the restroom when you want to. Like, no, I'm good. And when I when I heard that when I was young, I said, yeah, I'm cool. I might do some stuff that's that's wild, you know what I mean? But I'm not doing nothing that's gonna put me in a position where I gotta be over here, where I can't see my family, and just at drop of it down. I just call whoever I want to call. No. I'm I'm never being in that position where I'm limited in what I can do for myself. Never. Never. Man, bro. And that's what's kept me out of trouble.

SPEAKER_09 1:10:15

Which is which is beautiful, because it's the same for me. Like I say, sitting in on them court dates, watching my cousin get jail time and watching out, watching, you know, people be watching movies, you know, a lot of these gangster movies and stuff, right? When everything's going great. It's like paid them for, right? When they buying the cars, when they're in the club, throwing the money and all of these things. But they they it seemed like they turn the TV off before the other part come. People start getting locked up. People start, you know, losing houses, losing cars. People start, kids start going into foster homes. Like, it seemed like they cut the movie off before it gets there. People start getting killed. People start getting, like, the the the consequences of what got us here start actually taking effect. And when you get to see that, it's like you said, but that ain't that ain't that ain't for me. That ain't for me. I can't I can't do my family no good being locked up for 20 years. I can't. But the irony is about our culture, and this is what I hate. Hate. You'll have a dude who will graduate from college. And you'll have a dude who just got out of jail from doing some dumb shit. And a dude that gets out of jail get more praise and more celebration than the dude who just did four years in college and graduated with his degree. I seen it happen with my own eyes. And it's just like, damn, man. Like, why do we praise that type of shit so much in our culture, man?

SPEAKER_07 1:11:46

Well, some of that I think still just stems from slavery and stuff. Because you look at that person like, who you think, oh, educated Negro. Like that type of shit, like, oh, for real, for real. You think you better than us because you went to school? No. Nigga, just applied itself. I chose to. And then too, the crazy part, it ain't like a lot of people, some people do, of course, but like it ain't like a lot of people just school, school, school, school, school. Like, that's it. Like people going to school, people are having a life. They go to some parties, have a good time. They may join a fraternity, join a club. Like, you still have a life while you're going to school. Like, people make it seem like you just super nerdy and super geeky. And no, I just I just stayed the course for four or five years and I got a certificate for it. I got a, you know what I'm saying? So that's it. That shows that I completed it, that I was diligent enough and made good enough grades to graduate. That's it, that's all.

SPEAKER_09 1:12:52

That you was a grown fucking man. That you can maintain discipline, just like you say, discipline, which is the key in terms of being a grown man. That's probably number one on the list of growth. If we had to define what being a grown man is, discipline is number one on the list. And that's all that showed you. But it's like you go back to your environment and they they they they they treat you like you did something wrong. Nigga get out of jail doing 15 years for a robbery or from sell a dope. Like when you think about it and put it in respect, it's just like.

SPEAKER_07 1:13:26

Would you go to school for five years? You left us. You changed, man. You ain't the same.

SPEAKER_09 1:13:32

Like, like these hands don't work the same.

SPEAKER_07 1:13:38

A different because you went to school. It don't work. It's like you lost powers. That's how they treated. It's out of control, man.

SPEAKER_09 1:13:48

You lost powers because you went to school, dog. Jesus Christ, man. Uh all right, we're gonna get to the next one. Man, this is a video, man, my boy O sent me, man. I was flabbergasted when I first seen it. It was speaking to whether or not women should be allowed to show up late on a date. Now we're gonna play this clip, and I want O to explain himself for sending me this video.

SPEAKER_00 1:14:15

So the current man in a date and reached out to me and was like, um, he needed to talk to me about something that's been bothering. So he said that he enjoyed it. But he does not enjoy. Let's go. Indeed, I'm gonna do better with my time management skills, y'all. Um I'm gonna come even later, nah. Just because you complain.

SPEAKER_09 1:15:38

Woman should be allowed to walk in late. Because as a man, you need to be able to see me make my entrance. You need to be waiting on me. You need to be clearing the clearing the space for me to be the woman that I am. Me being late shouldn't bother you as a man. If anything, it should encourage you. It should uplift you because it's me and the aura that I'm bringing, even though it's late. It's gonna be an asset to your life. What's your thoughts on that, ho? A woman should be allowed to be late to a date.

SPEAKER_07 1:16:12

You being disrespectful. You disrespecting my time. If I say, hey baby, I got a date planned for us at this nice restaurant and reservations at 7.30, I expect you to be there for 7.30. Especially when I gave you plenty of time to get ready. You knew about the date a week ago. You could have ordered your dress a week ago, did your hair, make whatever you need to do, get ready, get set. You have plenty of time to do it. And some restaurants, they are super strict. 100%. And if we had a nice restaurant that's packed, now we didn't miss our no reservation. So now you're gonna look at me to want me to be creative and come with another restaurant that's just as dope or or that looks just as nice when you were the one that was late. 15-minute grace period. Now, a couple things I do wanna say, because she said this dude that she's dating. So clearly they've been on several dates because he came to her and said, Hey, pretty much I don't like what you've been doing. But two, so they've been on several dates. At some point though, I'm on her side and I'm like, when you gonna pick me up? Why you ain't picked her up? Why you ain't send a car for? You know what I mean? So from that aspect, I and I get because if I pick you up, you're not gonna be late. Don't be looking at me like that, B. We not gonna be late for this time. However, if she doing all the driving and you late, I'm on your ass. I'm on your ass. I'm gonna say something eventually. I wanna know how many dates, also, because she said every date.

SPEAKER_09 1:18:01

Anything more than one speaks volumes to this confidence level. And I think that's that's the part that's missing from this story, and that's the part that I think we gotta address. Women move like this with niggas that's goofy, man. Entitlement. With niggas that's gonna allow that type of behavior. It ain't no man who's a real grown man about himself is gonna allow that type of behavior to happen repeatedly. Now, again, things happen. Somebody could be late to a date. You know what I mean? Maybe two. But when you get to talking about multiple, this is a habit. This is how I see you. Like, I don't prioritize you enough. Every day. She literally said every. She's been late to every date. I think that speaks volumes to the type of man that she's dating. It's just real. Because as a man, just like you said, that is insulting to me. One time, I get it. Things happen, you know, I'm gonna run with a little traffic, whatever. Two, three, four, five times you've been late every time. I think that's a you making a statement with that. And like I need you. Right. Like, like, like you're the prize here. And a man that's worth his weight and salt is not going for that. Ain't no you the prize. We the prize. I'm not folding to to I just like sometimes question, man.

SPEAKER_07 1:19:37

Trying to shoot as a bell.

SPEAKER_09 1:19:39

And and and and don't get me wrong, like, she's an attractive woman, right? And I think that as men, we let attractive women get away with too much, brother. At some point, you gotta be a man. At some point you gotta stand on your square. At some point you gotta be like, bruh, stop playing with me, bro.

SPEAKER_07 1:20:01

I think that's what he was doing in the situation. He ain't. After, after five, let's say it was, let's say this was the fifth day. And he was like, all right, man.

SPEAKER_09 1:20:09

It took five days for you to have that conversation, gang. That's conversation you need to be had after day two. The second time you laid, it's like, hey, hey, hey, hey, yo, yo, yo. You stop playing with me, bro. Like, cause I don't have to be here. It's like you're talking about, oh, you want to just see me walk in and even if the vibes are right.

SPEAKER_07 1:20:30

Vibes are right every single time. She was just late.

SPEAKER_09 1:20:33

You being late speaks by used to how you see me, Kane. It just does, bro. Cause it's just like you. And I and I don't even want to use that that example, man, but it's, you know, it's so prevalent. It's just like when you mean because she used the the job interview example. But like, when you dealing with black folks and you black, it's a lot of like motherfucker might show up to that bitch unprofessional. Nigga might show up with a, you know what I mean? You ain't putting your best foot forward. Now, if it's an interview with some white folks, a big wig company, Apple, whatever, whatever, you gonna have suit and tie on, you're gonna be there 30 minutes early, you gonna be prepared, you got all your paperwork together, all of that. And that's what I mean. Like, you're not incapable of showing up on time. You just don't respect me enough to do it. And and and that's what it boils down to. So as a man, I think that's why it's important to like state your boundaries. Like, hey, first time this happened, or whatever, like I just chalked it to maybe something happened. This happened twice. Let me explain something to you about me. Like, that shit rubs me the wrong way. Okay. That shit can't happen again.

SPEAKER_07 1:21:56

Alright, so here we go. You're on the first date, she late. Second date, she late. On the third date, she showed up on time, but you also let her know, hey, the first two dates, you know what I'm saying? We had a good time, but you was a little late and I, you know, I felt a way about that.

SPEAKER_09 1:22:14

Okay. That conversation ain't waiting to the third date to happen.

SPEAKER_07 1:22:19

Okay. Alright.

SPEAKER_09 1:22:20

That conversation happened. On the second. During the second date. And if that's enough to ruin the vibe, that's enough to wrap us up, then we just not meant to be together. You know, but again, I think at the end of the day, you know, it's certain niggas that got motion of their own. Certain niggas that just, it's like she said, like, yeah, I'm walking in. I gotta make my appearance. It's certain niggas that make an appearance when we walk in. It's certain niggas that walk in a room and women stop what they're doing and gasp and and and they and they head goes with them. It's certain niggas that have that type of cachet, and and that's what I'm saying. Like those type of niggas not going for that. So I just want men to move, even if you're not in that position, move like that anyway. Because if you start bending, because that right there is gonna open up Pandora's box. Okay, I'm gonna let her be in late to date slide. We get in a relationship, she ain't cooking, I'm gonna let that slide. We get in relationships, I'm not getting as much sex as I want, I'm gonna let that slide. We get in a relationship, she's not taking accountability, I'm gonna let that slide. Like it just starts a snowball of things that you letting slide, and you're training her not to respect you. And it's some women, just like you said, man, if I pick her up, she won't be late. It's some women you will show up to their crib to pick her up and she'll still be fucking late. Gotta drive off. You told her 8 o'clock a week and a half ago. You get there and she ain't got makeup done. She ain't took a shower, she ain't dressed, none of that. And it's motherfucking 7:30.

SPEAKER_07 1:23:57

I'm heated. It's gonna be 45 minimum for that makeup. And you still got a shower and get dressed? Come on, man. I'm heated.

SPEAKER_09 1:24:08

Come on, man. I'm driving off. And then telling you, hey, can you call them to see if they can push the reservation? This reservation been in effect for a week and a half, two weeks. You don't respect me enough. So, yeah, nah. Nah, bro, I'm not going for that. It ain't no woman that fine, and that's what I be telling niggas, bro. You be you be thinking that this woman looks incredible, this woman is that, bro. It's a million women that look just as good as her, if not better. Move on to one that actually cares about your time and that actually respects you. Because I guarantee you, if we did it, you already know. Come on, gang. And she could be like her damn self. We show up 20 minutes after she does, she got a whole attitude. Come on.

SPEAKER_07 1:25:00

I do one better. You could be putting your shoes on when she just finished get dressed.

SPEAKER_09 1:25:13

Come on, man.

SPEAKER_07 1:25:14

That's all you got is your shoes. Come on, man. Bitch, I'm ready to go. I gotta go throw these shoes out.

SPEAKER_09 1:25:18

So, nah, man. I just want dudes to goddamn, yeah. I mean, just goddamn respect themselves a little bit more, man. And on that note, we're gonna go ahead and get in the Q ⁇ A, man. Oh, what you got for me today, man? Man, man, man. That shit pissed me off. I gotta make an appearance.

SPEAKER_07 1:25:38

Talking to me like I ain't me. You gotta watch her walk in. She gotta float when she walks in. Okay, man. You gotta be in awe when she walks in. Your ass better be dressed too. The attention's on her. You come in some half-ass.

SPEAKER_09 1:25:55

If you don't get that motherfucking sheen dress in here and sit your ass down and eat this little steak.

SPEAKER_07 1:26:01

All right, man. For the QA. All right, first question. What does it mean when an ex that left you still watches your story every day?

SPEAKER_09 1:26:17

It means that they tried to find better and failed. And that's what be happening. People be leaving good people, letting go of good people, thinking that they can get better. You got you somebody solid, you got you somebody that's that's that's that's hitting most of the requirements that you want, and you don't feel like it's good enough. You feel like you can find somebody that can hit all the requirements because the people you're talking to on the outside of it, they hitting the two requirements that they ain't hitting. Then you try to go be with them and realize that the other six that the other person was hitting, they don't, they don't hit half of those. So now you're worse off with the new person than you was with the last person. So now I gotta watch your story to, you know, see if you still available and make sure that you ain't found nobody better than me because I know that my chances of getting back with you are gonna goddamn fizzle out to zero if you done actually found somebody. Because I fumbled. And that's what be happening. Because let me explain something to you by somebody who done moved on and happy. That left you. She said they left you. Mm-hmm. They left you. Let me explain something about somebody that done left you and they happy in their new situation. I don't give a damn what you got going on. I don't care.

SPEAKER_07 1:27:34

Well if they watch it just to see your downfall. That's a diabolical. You left me. I'm trying to see how far you fall.

SPEAKER_09 1:27:44

Diabolical, nigga. But I gotta, but I but but I gotta respect the craft. That motherfucker gotta hey, uh, but I I gotta respect the craft on that. But that's that's diabolical though. Uh I might be diabolical. Makes sense. That's the old I know.

SPEAKER_07 1:28:03

No hard feelings at all. Bitch, I want you living in a I just want to see how far the fall is. That's it.

SPEAKER_09 1:28:12

And that'd be the funny part because it's like that that right there is the dope part about being solid, though. Mm-hmm. It's because you know when they leave you, they're going backwards. It's just a matter of time. Like they may think that they finding somebody better, but when you solid for real and you know you were solid and you was doing everything that you were supposed to be doing, and they back out of that situation thinking that they can find better. Nine times out of ten, they going backwards. Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 1:28:37

And it's a beautiful fucking sight to watch. Every time. Bro, that happened so many times, bro. That's crazy. And I'll be like, all right, hey, man. Hey. Then you see who they're dating, and you be like, all right, it's just a matter of time. They'll end up pregnant. And we marry. They could be married for a year, get divorced right away. Or it just be a short situation. And then another short situation. And then you're like, man, man. Just can't find nothing, huh? Thought you could replace me. The common theme in this motherfucker.

SPEAKER_09 1:29:15

Thought you could replace me, didn't you?

SPEAKER_07 1:29:18

Sorry to hear that. Sorry, baby. Alright, so next question. Why do men think that you have to pour into them in order to get them to agree on a relationship?

SPEAKER_09 1:29:35

Yeah, I mean.

SPEAKER_07 1:29:37

Why do men think you have to pour into them in order to get them to agree to a relationship?

SPEAKER_09 1:29:43

Um, I think because men control access to a relationship and women control access to sex. I think it's a tale as old as time. I think um any woman coming into a situation feeling like you don't have to pour into the man and you can still get in a relationship, you're dating a goofy. Or you're dating somebody that has no confidence in themselves because, like I say, anybody worth their weight and salt is gonna make sure that this is a mutually beneficial situation. I'm not going into something that's lopsided. I'm not going into something that I'm pouring into and I'm giving everything and I'm paying for everything and I'm having taking the initiative and everything revolves on what I do. You ain't doing nothing but sitting back and looking pretty. Ain't no man with real motion is going into no situation like that. That's just not gonna happen. So if you want that man to be in a relationship, it's gonna have to be some goddamn mutual benefit. You're gonna have to roll your sleeves up, figure out what that man likes, learn him, and master what it is that that makes him feel whole so you can give it to him the same way that he's doing for you. And that'd be the problem. A lot of women come into the relationship with a bunch of entitlement and a bunch of expectations, but not a bunch of plans to learn that man and figure out what he likes so they can provide it. So even if he does get in that relationship under those circumstances, eventually he's gonna get tired of that. He's gonna get tired of not receiving. If he's just giving, giving, giving, giving, giving. And he's gonna go receive elsewhere. That's the reality. What's your thoughts on it though? Like, why would like why do men feel like women have to pour into them in order for them to agree to be in the relationship?

SPEAKER_07 1:31:26

I mean, I think it's a it's the investment. I think it's a it's a yin and yang, it's a give and take. You know what I mean? Like, I can't be in this relationship giving my all while you just receive. I I need something in return. Something. And I'm not telling you to to go all out like I do. I'm not telling you to give as much effort as I am, even though that would be nice, but there needs to be some type of reciprocity in this situation for it to be worth it. Like what makes you worth it at the end of the day? Because I'm showing you what I'm worth and I'm bringing my value to this situation. So, what about you is making me want to take the next step, make me want to be married. It almost like you got to convince me. Like, that's just what it is. Through your actions, through how you talk to me, through what you pour into me, like all that stuff. All that you you have to do.

SPEAKER_09 1:32:25

What's give me two things that you would need to see in order for you to even entertain a relationship with a woman. Two things that you need to see. Like, if this ain't there, it's over. I don't give a damn how gorgeous you are. I don't give a damn how many men want you. If I don't see these two things, you have no chance of me entering into a relationship with you.

SPEAKER_08 1:32:51

Jeez.

SPEAKER_07 1:32:52

One, I would say I got I gotta see a go-getter. I gotta know what you're capable of. Not saying that you have to currently be there in your life, but I gotta know because at the end of the day, if I were to fall, I need to know are you even capable of going out there and making up for what I lack? Right. If I happen to fall off.

SPEAKER_08 1:33:10

Right.

SPEAKER_07 1:33:11

Um and then two. I don't know, I I would say somebody that's that can hold themselves accountable. And that's that's a big thing because I know I'm not gonna always get it right. So when you're not getting it right, can I come to you with with your mistakes, can I come with you with my grievances, and cannot say, hey, I'm not happy when in this situation. I need this fixed, I need this corrected, or I'm not comfortable when we do these certain things. And somebody that can really sit with themselves and be like, okay, I love this person. Let me try to figure out a different way to do this, versus just flipping it and then putting the blame on them. Like, this is why I'm doing it. Right, right, right. I'm doing this because you did it. No. It shouldn't be like that. If you care about me, you should receive what I'm saying and then try to adjust and adapt. Ask questions if you don't know. Right. Like ask more questions, but don't get defensive and don't try to automatically flip it on me. I think those would be the two.

SPEAKER_09 1:34:17

That's fair. That's fair. That's fair.

SPEAKER_07 1:34:19

Good answer, Steve. Good answer. Appreciate you, big dog. All right, question number three, man. How do I find a woman that don't want me to send them money the first week of knowing her?

SPEAKER_09 1:34:39

You gotta stop finding women in the club. I think that's the first things first, man. You don't want to find a woman that has nothing to do with the club. If she's you meet her in the club, if she's a bartender at the club, if she's a waitress at the club, you need to stay far away from these type of women because their mindset is on a game type of thing. Like I'm like, it's an opportunist mindset. Whatever's the most beneficial situation, that's what I'm gonna embark upon. You understand? You need to start meeting women in the grocery store.

SPEAKER_07 1:35:16

And they could be missing out. They feel like they're missing out, quote unquote. You know what I mean? So that's why they want some money. Because if you're gonna give me some money, if we're gonna hang out, I need to make up for what I'm losing. That's crazy.

SPEAKER_09 1:35:30

That's crazy. Could could you imagine if if men thought like that? It could be dated.

SPEAKER_07 1:35:40

You know how much we gotta sacrifice? I gotta leave money and spend money. So I'm double, I'm doubling down.

SPEAKER_09 1:35:49

Could you imagine? If we judge women based on that. But you're right, because women in that space operate like that. So I think that like, you know, it's it's a it's a certain type of woman that have the requirements. I also think it maybe how you carrying yourself. Because there's certain men who lead with money because they don't necessarily have a personality to wow her or to intrigue her. So I'm gonna lead with my money. I'm a I'm a I'm a I'm gonna lead with what kind of car I got. I'm gonna lead with what I do for a living. I'm gonna lead with the the clout I got because my personality is not good enough on its own to interest her or to intrigue her. So I think it may be a situation where you gotta look in the mirror and see, okay, how am I coming? Like, how am I showing up to this shit? Like, am I like being overly, you know what I mean? Am I, you know what I mean, we're spending too much on designer and making sure that I'm driving this when she's around, or when we out, I'm buying extra bottles and that like am I am I moving like that? Because I think women, one thing about women are very intuitive. I think that women can get around certain men and figure out okay, this man is going for this, and this man is not. It's certain men that women would never ask for no money at all. And they know he has it. Just based on how he moves, how he carries himself. But it's certain men who they may not even know he got no money or not, but I'm gonna still ask. Because of how he carries yourself and because of how he's moving. So I think as men, like, we gotta look in that mirror and be like, what am I presenting? Like, what am I giving off? And the answer may be you. It may be you just you you just moving while and you gotta tighten up. So that's just that's just how I think about that. What about you, oh? Like, why would a woman, like, where would you meet a woman that ain't asking for money within a week of talking to somebody?

SPEAKER_07 1:37:54

I mean, just your day-to-day spots, man. That's what I'm saying. People gotta be, people gotta get out more. Because if you meet people in the club or in that type of setting, that's just always gonna be the type of woman that you run into. Like you were saying, you gotta go to H E B. You gotta be just just your day-to-day spots. You had getting some lunch from Chick-fil-A or something like that. You see, you know, somebody nice and in line and they work uniform or something like that, and you approach them and you talk to them. That's that's the type of to the people that you're gonna really be able to connect with. Right. You know what I'm saying? Like maybe the mall or you know, something like that. It's like just your your normal day-to-day spots. You know what I mean? Like at the gym. That's that's one of the most I would say organic spots that you can meet somebody at. Because everybody's in there doing their own thing. Everybody's focused, everybody has their own goals, everybody's just trying to, you know, be healthy and keep it pushing. So I think somewhere like that, like I don't, honestly, I don't see a woman asking for money if you want to be happy.

SPEAKER_09 1:39:03

In the gym at all.

SPEAKER_07 1:39:05

And if anything, that woman's gonna be like, all right, let's let's go, shit, go for a run. Right. Let's, you know what I'm saying, go get a smoothie after this. Like, that's the type of woman that, you know, that you want to be around. You're not gonna want to be around somebody that, well, if you want to see with me uh or you wanna hang out with me, it's a minimum$500. No. No, baby, especially when you don't match that lifestyle. Baby, you walking, you riding around a 2009 civic. 220 on the dash.

SPEAKER_08 1:39:35

Ain't no way.

SPEAKER_07 1:39:36

220 is insane. Ain't no way. That's insane. 220 Civic, bro. 220,000. 220 on the dash is broken. Probably more. I don't know. That's wild. No. I don't know, man. A lot of them be reaching for the stars just because one or two did it here and there. You know, you just happen to catch a nigga around tax season or something. He got a couple kids, got it. No, just because you you did that a couple times don't mean that's your lifestyle, baby. What do you do on a regular basis? You're not going to Willie G's, you're not going to Mastros, you're not going to Steak 48, you're not going to bungalow. That's not what you do. You do that one, maybe two times a year. Don't be putting pressure on this nigga to do that every other weekend. No. That's not fair.

SPEAKER_09 1:40:31

Bitch, you in that Chipotle. And you ain't talking about mask. No. And state 48. No.

SPEAKER_07 1:40:39

You're demanding that from this man. Facts. Because I know what? I'm not even going to get into it, but I know a few women that used to go to Ruth Chris. And if you got money, you understand Ruth Chris is Ruth Chris. With all respect. And bitches ordered a chicken at Ruth Chris. So I don't want to hear nothing that some of y'all gotta say. Just order nothing. Oh my chicken at$30. I get double protein from Chipotle in here at$30.

SPEAKER_01 1:41:26

I'm trying to tell you baked chicken at the stinking ticket with my own eyes. Don't play with me.

SPEAKER_07 1:41:46

Or they order one drink in the dynamite shrimp. Don't think I don't see you. Don't think I don't see you. The little black and shrimp. You fool.

SPEAKER_09 1:42:05

I just want more fours, man. I just want more fours as a people. Um, yeah. Hey, man. We we said it last part, man. It's it was wise women that said you gotta stick to the rivers and the lakes that you used to, man. A lot of people be out of pocket. They be out of bounds. So look, everything, bro, said I'm in 100% agreement with, man. That's just real. We got time for one more?

SPEAKER_07 1:42:35

Yeah, let's do it. One more. All right, all right, one more. All right.

SPEAKER_09 1:42:39

Niggas say chicken at roof chris's crazy.

SPEAKER_07 1:42:41

That's crazy. Let me know all I need to know.

SPEAKER_09 1:42:48

It's got a leg corner. Dad ass? Dead ass. It's got a grilled leg corner.

SPEAKER_07 1:43:01

That's crazy. Okay, let me see. I think number five is better. I was thinking about writing a letter to my ex. Right. Is that a good move?

SPEAKER_09 1:43:11

Depending on what you did. Depending on what you did. But um, I think just generally in like a broad sense, I say, yeah. I think that writing letters need to come back, man. I I honestly do. I think that that's gonna go a long way rather than sending a cool text or you know, a paragraph or maybe a voice note or whatever. But that handwritten, like that right there, let you, hey, baby, I took some time for this. Like, I don't even write for real. I'm but I'm doing this to let you know how serious I am about the changes I made. I think also, too, don't reach out if you ain't necessarily ready to make the changes that they was asking for when it went left. A lot of people be like, boom, this relationship ended this way. She was asking for this. I didn't give her that, it ended. I'm gonna wait some time and I'm gonna come back around, even though I'm not willing to give her what it was that she asked for in the last relationship. You can't do that, bro. If the changes ain't been made, if the growth ain't been had, if the progress ain't there, you need to stay away from that woman. Now again, I'm not saying that, you know, that it's a lost cause because sometimes life happens. She better try to get in a new situation, it didn't go how she thought it was gonna go, whatever the case may be. You on you done, you know, being on your own, you doing that work, you progressing, you getting therapy, you reading books, you're doing all of these things. So now when you try to spin the block back again, it's actual change that done been made. So you're gonna be more likely to be able to enter into that situation. But I'm saying don't spin back just to waste that woman's time, bro. Oh, was it? No, I don't know. I'm just asking you. Oh, okay. I mean it it I mean it sounds like something. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Okay, okay. Yeah, it sounded like something. I felt let me double check.

SPEAKER_07 1:45:03

But is that a good move? Yeah, I would say just depending on the intent behind it. Like, are you writing them just to apologize? Are you writing them to get them back? Like, what are you writing them for? I think I could better answer it if I got that. However, I'ma just go off the assumption that you're trying to get this person back. I would say it's worth a shot. I mean, you gotta pull up all the stops.

SPEAKER_09 1:45:38

For sure.

SPEAKER_07 1:45:39

Especially if you really care about them and you trying to change or whatever it is. Now, if you did something egregious, come on now. Just save your paper in the pen, paper. Come on, my nigga. Just save it. But if y'all broke up on just some mutual stuff or just bad timing, or y'all were just really young and now you're trying to, you know, see, you know, if something is still there, yeah. I say go for it. For the record, bro, there's a man. Bro there. Okay, okay. So yeah.

SPEAKER_09 1:46:07

But yeah. I mean spray a little cologne. You got to. Come on, hey, man. That boy knows something. That boy knows something, man. That boy's a veteran. That's a veteran move right there. A little tough something. But yeah, I I mean, bruh, like I'm I'm all for trying to spin the block. Because in my opinion, I think most people end up with the person that they was with originally anyway. I think they'd be in a situation, they go left, you go out, experience a little bit more life, realize, damn, this person had everything that I wanted, or most of what I wanted, and I got damn fumbled it, thinking it was more out there, and it ain't. So let me go try to make that work again. So I'm not necessarily against that, but I'm but I'm against trying to spin the block when ain't no progress being made. You trying to spin the block and empty, I'm I mean, and enter the building the same way you used to enter the building. It's like, no, it ain't no pickup where we left off if we spin the block. It gotta be a new starting point. Like that old relationship has to die in order for this new one to have a chance. That's genuinely how I feel. But I feel like most people when they try to spin the block, it ain't been no change made, it ain't been no progress made, it's just been time passed. And I'm thinking just because this time has passed, you done try to enter into situations that didn't work, I done try to enter into situations that didn't work, just nostalgia and familiarity alone is gonna open the door for me to just walk back into it. And that's the mistake I feel like a lot of people make. So it's like if you ain't ready to make them changes or if you ain't really putting that work in, leave that woman alone, bro. Now, if you really on your on your job, you really elevating, really progressing, and you're gonna be a different dude this time around, I say go for it. But only you know the real answer to that.

SPEAKER_07 1:47:51

That's just how I see it. And you gotta be patient because if you do come around, it don't mean that she's gonna be good with you coming back around. That's true too. So you just gotta be prepared. You can spin a block or try to correct, course correct, whatever you want to do. You can try all of that. But, you know, sometimes it just fizzled out. For sure. And if she ain't ready and she don't want to, you know, entertain that, you know, don't hold that against her. Because timing passed, feelings is have moved on, and you know, if anything, you'll be putting yourself in a deficit, and you don't want that coming into a relationship. Because she's gonna be talking to you crazy. She's not gonna really value you like you you would want to. So yeah. Just keep that in mind.

SPEAKER_09 1:48:35

That's it right there, man. On that note, man, it'd been a hell of a pod again. I don't know, man. I think we're getting, you know, I think we uh uh uh finding our footing in this thing. We done we done warmed up a little bit now in this thing. You know what I mean? Salute to everybody that they've been supporting, man. We've been reading all of the messages, all of the DMs, man. People was was on our ass. They saying the last part came out too late. They need it out a little early, so we're gonna try to get this one out a little bit earlier than the last one. Uh was aggressive in the comments. It's all good, brother. It's coming. It's coming. Um but yeah, man, we appreciate everybody, everybody listening on all of the streaming platforms. We everywhere, bro. It's Spotify, it's uh iHeartMedia, it's Apple, it's anything that's streaming the podcast. Go to uh Trill Academy Podcast featuring Trill A C and OT, man. And this is episode uh five, is it? Mm-hmm. It's five. It is five. We gotta start announcing the episode early, man. We just be podding, man. We we have for the for the love of the game. Facts. Facts. But it is episode five. And uh again, we appreciate everybody for being tuned in, people for following. Uh Patreon is jumping, man. Salute to everybody that done subscribed to the Patreon. Uh, for those who wonder where the videos at, man. Patreon.com backslash trail academy. Um, make sure that y'all tap in. Um I think that's everything.

SPEAKER_07 1:50:03

No, that's everything. I just appreciate the support, man. Keep sharing, keep liking, commenting, give us your feedback. You know what I mean? If if you have a question, remember, go to the tier. You can ask any question you want. Um, but yeah, man, I appreciate the support, man. It's I know what it is, man. We're gonna we're gonna bring it to y'all nonstop. We're gonna continue giving y'all um energy, whether we at work or not. You know what I mean? This it's our second home. Uh we like being here, so we're gonna find a way to give y'all a great part regardless. You know what I mean? So, um, man, yeah, man. Again, we'll we'll appreciate y'all. I appreciate y'all for supporting Trill Academy, the the pivot that we've done, you know what I'm saying, with with the rebrand and stuff like that. So much love to all of y'all.

SPEAKER_09 1:50:52

It'll be a lot of love in them comments too, man. Um, and that right there does not go unnoticed. I definitely definitely appreciate it, man. And um, like I say, man, we're working hard and we try to get y'all the best content possible, the best aesthetic possible, the best topics, the best questions, things of that nature, man. So we appreciate everybody for staying locked in, the way that y'all stay locked in, man.

SPEAKER_07 1:51:15

Um I do have one thing really quick that I want to clear up. I know this ain't gonna make Instagram post, but for y'all, that's the Patreon people. On episode two, episode two. Episode two, I was speaking on marriage. They must have got on his ass.

SPEAKER_09 1:51:33

Not commitment. Oh, yeah, yeah. Go ahead, go ahead, go ahead. I was speaking on marriage.

SPEAKER_07 1:51:37

Two years should be plenty of time to know if you want to marry someone. That's all I was saying. I wasn't saying two years of commitment. Right. Now I know clearly that's entirely too long. I would never agree with that. If I had a daughter, a little cousin, sister, whoever, I would never say, wait two years for a man to commit to you. Right. I was speaking specifically on marriage. And it was on his ass. You commit however long, whatever it is, two weeks, six months up in there, somewhere up in there, you commit, make it official, start dating, and by year two, you should know if you want to marry that woman.

SPEAKER_08 1:52:12

Right.

SPEAKER_07 1:52:12

For clarification that y'all didn't he who finds a good one.

SPEAKER_09 1:52:18

They was on your ass, boy. And I and that's the wild part. Like, I feel bad because I'm like, they miss completely what bro was saying. But reviews. All engagement engagement, man. We appreciate y'all tapping in and arguing in the comments where y'all was arguing and all of that, man. We love it. Keep the engagement going. Uh, you know, it's only gonna make this thing bigger and goddamn better. Um, again, that has been episode five. We appreciate everybody tapping in. We're gonna get out of here with a record, man. It's a new record, Bory and Huncho. It's called Prime on Peach Tree. If you've never been to Atlanta, you should be able to identify, man, Prime on Peach Tree. And on that note, we're gone.

SPEAKER_04 1:53:23

Is it too late for repeat? I was out on prime on peace tree. I was always there when you need me. And then when you find you don't need me. I sent out the soldiers, told them re-tree. I was out at prime on peace tree. I was out at prime on peace tree.

SPEAKER_03 1:53:41

Yeah. J, I did the way I'm checking on you. Need to see, I did the way I'm checking on your baby. Yeah. Hey, Shorty got that pressure on her.

SPEAKER_04 1:53:52

Shorty out there dancing with a broken heart. I'm sorry that I broke your heart. I had to learn a hallway. Shady out there, cheetah with a friends. I know she cheat up to the match. She been sticking that revenge on me all day. Uh yeah. Hey, she knows it's all good, it ain't no pressure. I'ma guard in my hood, I'm the neighborhood star stack. Too much on my mind, nigga, it's tossing. I go look in them moving below my false team. Chicken finesse and niggas with a false name. Tell me that pussy mind, but it's a false clean. Somebody must be lying. Cause my ex told me that same thing. Niggas out here tweaking them on the same thing. How the fuck he turn a bust down to a plane drain? I'm the type of nigga that give you perks before a wedding ring. You say it's yours, I close my mouth and never said a thing. Out with your nigga, you too busy pickin' fights with me. You ain't too fine, it's called the climb. I tell them shots on me. I ain't even there, pick up the phone and I still call JV.

SPEAKER_01 1:54:40

Baby, baby, baby.

SPEAKER_04 1:54:42

Is it too late for a repeat? I was out on prime on peace tree. I was always there when you need me. Anyway, you feel like you don't need me. I send out the soldiers, told them retreat. I was out at prime on P tree, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 1:54:57

I was out at Prime on P tree. Yeah, boy, we can go out. They play us in the row out. Yeah, it's how we fuck out. You die like a robot. We been making love for all you don't know about it. Time to be seen on the blocks. We just so private. When we fight in me, my little co-pod. The test of drive itself on eat no drive. Let them put you on the bitch. That's just so five. That's shit so far. Sorry, Mr. Textil's it pride on P3. Curry stick around. Now my love ain't easy. I've been in my head, baby call and me. We still don't just like rock and rear. It's easy to stay, then it's hard to leave. No this shit gets better over time.

unknown 1:55:39

Only if we need it, yo.

SPEAKER_04 1:55:41

Is it too late for a repeat? I was out on prime on P3. I was always there when you need me. Anyway, you are like you don't need me. I sent out the soldiers, told them retreat. I was out at prime on P tree, yo. I was out at prime on PT. Sorry, I miss your call. I was on Prime on P tree. Stand up in the back room, away from the world. It feels like everybody needs me. Time has a funny way of showing how they treat me. Mama always told me they gon' treat me how they meet me. She don't got a dime until her name, acting like Riri. I probably keep that hoe around cause she got Fiji. You know where to meet me. I be out on Prime on the street.

SPEAKER_03 1:56:20

J, I D the way I'm checking on you. Need to see I D the way I'm checking on you, baby. Yeah. Hey, Shorty got that pressure on her. Had to hit JV to get the extras on your baby.