Weddings, Wisdom, and Childhood Memories

In this episode of Cultivated, Jeremiah and Savannah keep things real with a mix of humor, parenting chaos, and meaningful reflection. From a late-night scare at the front door to navigating life with young kids, they give an honest look at the current season they’re in. The conversation shifts into deeper territory as they reflect on attending a Christ-centered wedding, what marriage has taught them over the last six years, and the challenge of passing wisdom down to the next generation. They also dive into nostalgia—revisiting childhood memories and how those experiences shape who we become. The episode wraps with encouragement to invest intentionally in your marriage and a preview of the upcoming Together in the Trades event. 

Transcript

SPEAKER_02 0:00

What's going on everybody? Thank you so much for tuning in to the episode today here on Cultivated. This is your host Jeremiah Jennings, and I am pumped to come to you today with another fresh episode for your Monday. We're not gonna make it very far today. We're not because uh I'm joined with my beautiful coach Savannah and she is plagued with the hiccups currently.

SPEAKER_00 0:18

Unfortunately. No.

SPEAKER_02 0:20

Would you like to know why the hiccups? Would you like to tell everyone?

SPEAKER_00 0:23

Yeah, I was actually Because we were rolling. Oh, we were doing just fine.

SPEAKER_02 0:26

We were like minutes into a show. Yeah, we're doing just fine.

SPEAKER_00 0:29

We're rocking, we're rolling. And we just uh well, we are in the process of getting our son to bed, and sometimes like he gets up or whatever. So like we heard something and didn't think a ton of it. We heard knocking, I was like, Yeah, him knock on the wall or whatever, and it escalates so quickly from just like knocking on the door to full-on like bam, bam, bam, bam, bam, like beating. He wasn't like so loud, but it was like consistently. There's no stopping, you know, and we're like, what in the world? And it's not like uber late, but it's like late enough to where like no one should be knocking on your door, no one should be knocking on our door that we didn't know about, you know. And um, we could we go to check our ring camera, and this person is so close to the door that you can't see their face, and he's just banging on the door, and I got so scared in Jerry.

SPEAKER_02 1:22

Then he's yelling at me not to open the door.

SPEAKER_00 1:24

Seeing all these horrible things on social media about people that just like you spend too much time on TikTok. I really don't, but oh, they just waltz up to the door and just demand to be let in, and then obviously are not good people. Like, who's doing that? Um, no, it was it was not a criminal, it's not a murderer, it's just my friend or my friend's brother coming to get her some stuff, and I didn't know it.

SPEAKER_02 1:48

But it was unannounced and it's unannounced somewhat late.

SPEAKER_00 1:51

It's not that I it's literally not even that he showed up unannounced, it's the way he just walked up to the door and started banging on the door and didn't let up. Why why do you call me? Why did you text me?

SPEAKER_02 2:01

It's like we're in the age of we don't have phones, yeah. It's not that important.

SPEAKER_00 2:05

Oh my gosh, didn't ring the doorbell.

SPEAKER_02 2:07

So whatever too scared, usually you get so scared hiccups come like you get rid of hiccups. This is the opposite. You get so scared that they gave you. You can go to the cultivated YouTube channel on YouTube, uh Cultivated Podcast there, and come hang out and watch. You probably get a few monitor checks from the baby because that's just the season that we're in, you know.

SPEAKER_00 2:33

Yeah, yeah, sitting right here.

SPEAKER_02 2:35

Three-year-old and a one-year-old, and so it's like one's crying or one's up walking around, one's going to the bathroom, one needs water, you know, it never stops.

SPEAKER_00 2:43

So uh neither will these.

SPEAKER_02 2:46

Neither will these. You know how to get rid of them. Guys, I've saved your life right now. Anybody's listening, you have hiccups. You swallow you hold your breath and swallow three times.

SPEAKER_00 2:54

I've done the and they never worked for me.

SPEAKER_02 2:58

Hold your breath and swallow three times. Right now, they'll be gone the next time.

SPEAKER_00 3:00

Okay, we'll carry the show. I need to get one more hiccup in before I do it.

SPEAKER_02 3:03

Okay, yeah, you gotta get a good breath and just swallow. And if you've ever tried swallowing while holding your breath, too, by the way, it's like one of the hardest things you could ever do. This is a good visual, by the way. You should go watch this on YouTube. This should be our most watched show so far because Savannah's over here consciously having you have to do it one more time. Sometimes it takes two. Sometimes it takes two.

SPEAKER_00 3:24

It's a beautiful breath method, and it just sucks.

SPEAKER_02 3:27

Sometimes it takes two. Walk it back there, honey. Here we go. You gotta stay strong. You can do it. It works for me every time. It works for me every time. You can do it.

SPEAKER_00 3:42

Um I swallowed three times, and I'm gonna hick up any second now. Hold on. Did you just do that to make me look stupid?

SPEAKER_02 3:54

No, I promise I've done that and it works for me every time.

SPEAKER_00 3:56

I've never had that worked for me.

SPEAKER_02 3:58

Every single time. Well, we're coming off the hills of a really good week this week. Uh busy as always, you know. I feel like everyone is busy in this season.

SPEAKER_01 4:05

Right.

SPEAKER_02 4:05

Especially if you have young kids. You know, we're right in the thick of it. If you have old kids, you're probably running sports or they're driving to sports and you're going different places.

SPEAKER_00 4:13

Yeah, I feel like spring is a busy sports season.

SPEAKER_02 4:15

We have dabbled into the sporting events this year. Jack's playing t-ball.

SPEAKER_00 4:19

And so it's our first little very low commitment level.

SPEAKER_02 4:23

One practice a week for about 30 minutes and then one game on Saturdays. So our commitment is not too strenuous yet. We're not we're not in a hurry. We are still in a line of unhurriness.

SPEAKER_00 4:34

Because honestly, he doesn't even want to do it half the time.

SPEAKER_02 4:37

Yeah, it just depends.

SPEAKER_00 4:38

Depends on the day.

SPEAKER_02 4:39

Depends on the day. Uh, but usually we can bribe him with going to Chick-fil-A after or something. So it's good though. He enjoys it.

SPEAKER_00 4:45

Um, he's learning.

SPEAKER_02 4:47

I think, man, what do you want to talk about? You know, so much stuff to talk about that we have gone over. We got to we got we just went to a wedding yesterday.

SPEAKER_00 4:56

Um I love going to weddings.

SPEAKER_02 4:57

I do love going to weddings. I love going to fun weddings where like everyone's happy to be there. And and I feel like most weddings are like extra.

SPEAKER_01 5:04

I was about to say, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 5:06

But there's a lot of weddings where things are like, or you guys like feels uptight. And like yesterday was not one of those. No. Yesterday was very free-flowing and like very beautiful. Like, it was very well run and organized. Yeah, it was a gorgeous like venue, but it was not like it didn't feel super rushed or anything. Like, it didn't feel rushed, it didn't feel super like do this, don't do that, you know, type of thing.

SPEAKER_00 5:28

Like it was just yeah, it flowed very well.

SPEAKER_02 5:30

The reception was great. Um, yeah. Unpopular opinion. Well, probably not unpopular, it's probably the popular opinion uh that not everyone does. But so at this wedding, at the ceremony, right? Bride and groom, they did bridal party some pictures afterwards. So the audience, what would you call it? The audience, the guests the attendees, the guests um went to the barn for the reception and drinks and all that were open, everybody everything was open. And usually a lot of what happens is while the bride party does all their stuff, they do all that, and everybody's just like standing around talking, and then they'll announce the bridal party and then they'll do food.

SPEAKER_00 6:10

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 6:11

Well, that takes like 45 minutes usually.

SPEAKER_00 6:13

And I will say, well, they also did it a little differently as far as they had their photos, and then they also had a private dinner, like the two of them. So they were gone a little longer than I feel like maybe like a standard.

SPEAKER_02 6:27

Yeah, yeah. Bridal party was in there probably 30 minutes after. But regardless, that's what usually happens. They did it a little bit different, and I was so happy, I was so pleased. Um, as a guest, I was like, great job. Uh they did they everybody went obviously. Guests went over, they did their stuff, and it's it was we we had probably been in there fift ten minutes. Yeah, food was pretty quick, maybe 15 minutes, and they had food open, food lines are open, just come as you please, serve yourself. Like it was great. Uh, every there was no lines, lines never really got backed up because yeah, what the hiccups?

SPEAKER_00 7:03

Yeah, so sorry. Really sound with like headphones in or something.

SPEAKER_02 7:07

That is true. You may have to exit. You may be this may be your way out tonight. Um Jan said, Well, don't tell me twice.

unknown 7:15

Tired.

SPEAKER_02 7:16

Oh yeah. Because that was the wedding was two and a half hours away. So that was uh that was a little bit of a drive, but it was good. It was in Auburn. Always if I get an excuse to go to Auburn, I'm not complaining. So it was uh it was a very good night, and everything flowed, and it was just it I love seeing weddings. I love seeing people that are really six like the start of a new life together is just really exciting, and we've come up on six years of marriage now, um this year, yeah, and so later this month, yeah, like three weeks. Yeah, crazy, yeah, crazy, six years.

SPEAKER_00 7:55

What I was saying.

SPEAKER_02 7:55

And these friends that we just got that just got married yesterday date started dating when we got married. They've dated this entire time. Yeah, they had just started right before we got married, and uh it's just you know it these were friends from high school, so it takes you down memory lane. They go back and seeing people from high school, chatting and seeing them forever, and um so weird, just talking about sports and everything that went into it.

SPEAKER_00 8:21

And and you just it's so crazy because we're still young enough that we feel like it was literally yesterday, which like it wasn't maybe we'll always feel that way to a degree.

SPEAKER_02 8:31

No, I don't think that. I think when you get 10 plus out, like you. Like for me.

SPEAKER_00 8:39

No, I just feel like you know, there are days and there are aspects of it that you think about it. Yeah, that you're like, oh, that's literally yesterday, and then you sit down and you have some conversations like we had last night, and you're like, oh no, no, that was definitely a long, long time ago.

SPEAKER_02 8:52

And you kind of forget it until you see and the funny thing is like people change, but they don't really but at the end of the day they don't really like they're all the same people, like there's people there that I had not seen in years, literal years.

SPEAKER_00 9:03

Yeah, yeah, like that I had not spent consistent time with in probably almost 10 years.

SPEAKER_02 9:09

Yeah, and you talk to them in like a little bit of change, but at the end of the day, it's like same old, same old.

SPEAKER_00 9:15

Like I know.

SPEAKER_02 9:16

So that's always fun. But I do love it, like it's a Christ-centered wedding.

SPEAKER_00 9:21

Um really good. Yeah, it's very good.

SPEAKER_02 9:25

Ceremony, ceremony's great. Um made a big emphasis on putting Christ at the center and growing together towards him, uh, which is really important, right? That is it's an interesting, it's an interesting thing, like marriage with no Christ is I I don't fully comprehend it. I don't fully understand it. I don't know why necessarily. Like, I think it goes but it goes kind of goes back to like all morals. I've talked about this for a while, like why why do you have who who thinks where where do people think morals came from? Like they think like the the Greek gods came up with morals? Was it the Roman Empire? Like, who was it? Who was it out there that came up with good with good morals? Because everything is literally tied back to the Bible and uh in that on that front, and like that's what marriage is. You you leave your father and mother and you cleave together and you go start your own life. And I think that that is so exciting to see, especially young people when they do it. Uh, we were young when we did it. We were I was 20. Yeah, you were 22 at the time, right? Yeah, and so uh seeing that happen at a at a young age, and we're still young. I mean, I'm only 26 or 28, but uh seeing someone do it at 20 now, being this far removed from it, is like okay, this is great. I hope you know what you're getting. Yeah, that's what I do. Like, I do wish there was a way to why is there no way in today's world to like fully relay like what if we could just give them like one page, one page of notes on like the last six years of our marriage.

SPEAKER_00 11:10

Oh gosh.

SPEAKER_02 11:12

And it like fully translate and then fully comprehend it and accept it, and not to like learn it on their own.

SPEAKER_00 11:19

Well, if that were a thing, people would do that for any stage in any season.

SPEAKER_02 11:23

Exactly. Why can we not figure that out? How can we do that?

SPEAKER_00 11:27

That's a tough one. I don't think I think there's also beauty in learning though. Yeah. For yourself yourself.

SPEAKER_02 11:37

Yeah, you know. I just think about things that I wish we would have learned. Like that I wish we like should have caved us. Like what we talked about last week, essentially, like on the show.

SPEAKER_01 11:45

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 11:46

Just learning and like supporting your spouse, and like for us in the business front, uh, just building that trust and rapport. And you know, that's just that's an area that why if you could just believe what people tell you and not have to do it on your own, you would learn things so much quicker. It's like high school. Like, I that is really that's literally one of my missions like in life, is to be able to translate to our kids like that you don't know everything in the right way. Like, please, like, I I want to like I want to figure out how we can give them that message from like a very heartfelt tone and let them know like we truly are doing this for your best and like it's not to have control over you, yeah. It's to literally be like, Look, I have done this exact thing, and when I got out of high school six years later, I looked back and was like, why did why do we do that? Like, why why come on, why do we do that?

SPEAKER_00 12:47

Yeah, and it's just maturity, like there's so much that goes into play with the learning.

SPEAKER_02 12:56

I do think we have a leg up on that front because we will be fairly young. We'll be fairly young parents.

SPEAKER_00 13:01

Yeah, yeah. Um, I mean I'll be Oh, how old are you when he was born?

SPEAKER_02 13:09

Yeah, I'll be 42 when Jack graduates. No, no, no, I'll be less than that, I'll be 40.

SPEAKER_00 13:14

How old are you? Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 13:16

Yeah, I'll be 40 when Jack graduates. So it's like so wild. Like that's that's fairly young. That's a fairly young dad.

SPEAKER_00 13:23

You could literally be a gray dad at like 45.

SPEAKER_02 13:26

Yeah. That's the dream. That's the way to do it.

SPEAKER_00 13:30

That is crazy. I feel so young for that.

SPEAKER_02 13:34

Yeah, that's the way. So like I I won't be super far out. Like, I mean, literally, I'm only 20 years outside of high school at that point. 22, I guess, if we graduated 18. But more of the story is we're not that far away. So hopefully that we can hopefully it stays true, and hopefully we have these conversations too as kids grow up.

SPEAKER_01 13:55

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 13:56

And I will tell you this I wonder if the vid the documentation that we have of our high school that our parents didn't have will help that message translate. Like the videos of us being dumb and like just just all the things that we did in high school. Like, if we could just take that, show our kids and be like, look how just look how dumb we were. Like we were just stupid. Yeah, like just don't do these things.

SPEAKER_00 14:22

Yeah. But we didn't even really get into anything bad.

SPEAKER_02 14:25

No, no, I'm saying, yeah, we weren't doing like bad things. I'm saying like silly things, like things that were just like lame. Like, why did you do this? I guess, yeah. I just think I don't know. I think about that time. I think about times that I just goofed off like I if I just would have done something else. I don't know. You know, you don't want to live your You can't rob their childhood.

SPEAKER_00 14:45

Yeah, you don't want to rob a childhood, but the rest of their life to be serious and intentional and all of those things, you know?

SPEAKER_02 14:55

Yeah, I guess so. It's gonna be interesting to see. How much of your childhood do you remember? Do you remember like I think you remember longer than I do? I do not remember things.

SPEAKER_00 15:07

Like so odd to me.

SPEAKER_02 15:09

Or I remember them, I I don't have accurate times on them. I think that may be the other that may be.

SPEAKER_00 15:14

Yeah, I mean there's only so much that you can do accuracy-wise, like when you think about your as a child.

SPEAKER_02 15:20

Like I can tell you, I so my like my first example is like April 27th. That was 2011. So I would have been 11 at that point.

SPEAKER_00 15:32

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 15:33

Right?

SPEAKER_00 15:34

Yes. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 15:37

So yeah, I'd have been eleven. And I dis I do, I distinctly remember that. There's no part of me that doesn't remember that. So like I can remember to 11. And I I'm trying to like find things and and timestamp before that.

SPEAKER_01 15:49

What?

SPEAKER_02 15:50

That I yeah, I mean, no, I guess, okay. No, I I guess I do. No, I know I do, I do, I do. Because again, it comes back to time stamping them. Oh, good night. That was loud.

SPEAKER_00 16:01

I'm drying. Nobody's gonna listen to this show. All of my energy.

SPEAKER_02 16:05

I don't think you swallowed three times good. You didn't get good swallows. No, I do remember, okay, I remember playing football, and I remember playing baseball at the Moody Park. And I aged out of that at 11, I think. Ten or eleven. So I remember so I probably like seven to ten is when I played out there. Eight or I think I was probably I mean, like, I have so many. When was I 95 pounds? I was probably 95 pounds at eight years old, nine years old. That's when we that's when we played football with you were on weight. You're like, that's how they spit you up.

SPEAKER_00 16:46

Oh wow, I didn't know that.

SPEAKER_02 16:48

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 16:48

Okay.

SPEAKER_02 16:49

Like 95 pounds, 115 pounds, 150, 135. Um yeah, I guess I remember back to like six, six to ten range.

SPEAKER_00 17:01

Yeah, all six to ten is a big range. I remember like young, like like five.

SPEAKER_02 17:08

How much do you remember versus what you've watched on home video? I don't know.

SPEAKER_00 17:10

I'm thinking of memories that I have that are not on home video. I've never watched. I long story short, vividly remember I went to the preschool that our son now goes to, and it was my birthday, and I wanted to stay, like I never got to stay for the extended care. And for my birthday, like I wanted to stay at school all day. Wow, that's from foreshadowing right there. Um I love school. Um, I wanted to stay so that I could bring cupcakes, and uh we stayed. Mom let me stay all day, yeah, till three. Oh man, she broke out the big bucks. Yeah, and then they when they picked me up, they had picked up our puppy. Like our we were getting a new dog. And they picked me up and they had the puppy in the car, and I vividly remember like getting in the car with the puppy and the you never knew uh first raptors like this, but there used to be a playground up there. Um you know where we walk in to eat dinner, like where that parking lot is close closed now. Well, to the like if you went to the left down to the parking lot, like the parking lot is right there to the right where now is that big hill. That was a big playground.

SPEAKER_02 18:34

Well big hill. Gosh, where the volleyball is.

SPEAKER_00 18:37

No, no, no, no, no, like immediate, like where the where the grass is that Jack runs up and down.

SPEAKER_02 18:42

Oh yeah.

SPEAKER_00 18:43

That was level. That was a playground.

SPEAKER_02 18:45

So they've raised that and now they're bringing it back down.

SPEAKER_00 18:47

Yeah, yeah, essentially. Um, but yeah, I remember that. I remember being like little, little, little, little spending the night at my grandmother's house and doing um wait, when was that?

SPEAKER_02 18:58

So how old were you then?

SPEAKER_00 19:00

Uh I would have been like five.

SPEAKER_02 19:02

And you remember things before that?

SPEAKER_00 19:04

Uh some things.

SPEAKER_02 19:06

I think that's what I need. I need we need to sit down with my parents one day and literally be like, how old was I when this happened?

SPEAKER_00 19:12

Yeah. I've done that before because I'm like, I remember this. How old was I?

SPEAKER_02 19:15

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 19:16

I remember one there's two things I remember that I'll be be done.

SPEAKER_02 19:20

I remember the whole night.

SPEAKER_00 19:22

I really might be so sorry. Tea parties. I would have a grand grandma's house, like, and we would dress up and uh she would do PB and J's for the food. And it would be just me over there. And I had to be five or younger, like I was little. Um and I like her using her little like china and stuff for the tea parties. And I remember real China? Like her, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 19:45

Dang, it was brave. Um I was like, that is the difference in girl wife and boy life. If somebody had to if somebody I oh if somebody had to tell me you have to let Jack use China, but if it breaks, somebody you love dies, I'd I'd there's no amount of money that I think that you could pay me to let it happen.

SPEAKER_00 20:10

Oh gosh, no.

SPEAKER_02 20:12

There's that high of a chance of it getting broken. It will get broken. The difference between guys and girls. Boys and boys and girls.

SPEAKER_00 20:17

Yeah. The other thing I remember is um this is kind of funny actually, because now it's like something I could totally see us doing. Was growing up in our neighborhood, we were on a house full of young families. So like my parents were friends with like all of the parents around us. And one night after bedtime, I guess they thought we were asleep and they left. Like they just like went out in the yard, or they went maybe they were either in the yard or they'd gone over to our neighbor's house and were like inside. And me and my brother were convinced, like, Stuart was convinced that they left us, like that they were never. He was sobbing, and I was holding him in the chair in our living room, and he's like, It's okay, Stuart. They're gonna come home. Like, we're okay. That mom and dad wouldn't do that. That's what I was saying. They wouldn't do that, they wouldn't leave us. I used to talk so so I was like, They wouldn't leave. They wouldn't leave us. I would I literally would talk like that. I said, they wouldn't ever do that. You're we're okay, they wouldn't ever do that. They're gonna come back. And I if I like if I called my dad right now, he would laugh and he would tell you about it because it really did happen. But there's no video. Like, I remember that.

SPEAKER_02 21:35

Did you go get them? Did they come back?

SPEAKER_00 21:37

They just came back. We sat there crying until they came back. I didn't cry, I knew they were coming back. Stuart was so upset. He was younger than me, obviously, but yeah. I said, I I remember saying something dumb like something dumb. I stayed strong. Like I knew that I like couldn't cry, I didn't get upset.

SPEAKER_02 22:00

I stayed strong for him, mom.

SPEAKER_00 22:02

Yeah, that would never say that. But yeah. Anyways, it's so funny to think about it.

SPEAKER_02 22:07

It is it is crazy. I challenge you this week to think back on your childhood.

SPEAKER_00 22:10

What's your earliest memory?

SPEAKER_02 22:12

Yeah, what's your earliest memory?

SPEAKER_00 22:14

Yeah. Like, because I do have memory. I I have air quote memories of us in the first house I ever lived in, but I can't con I attribute them only to like they're they're tied to a picture. Or like they're tied to a video.

SPEAKER_02 22:28

That's where I I have one of those in North Carolina with my grandmother. She bought this like plastic slide and put it on our stair, on our stairs going downstairs. And we would slide on that. And like that's exactly what I would say as well. Like I that has to, it has to be from a picture or a video. Like, yeah. That's the only way that I think I remember it.

SPEAKER_00 22:52

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 22:53

Because I mean I would have been. We moved here when I was four or five. Like, there's no way I would have remembered that.

SPEAKER_00 23:02

Yeah. No, that's how I feel about some things too. Like in the first house we lived in.

SPEAKER_02 23:06

I was like, okay, but then Adam was saying he remembered the cold bath the cold bath. And he said he was three.

SPEAKER_00 23:11

Hey, you remember things that happen to you. Yeah, that is that actually is terrifying to think that Jack could remember things.

SPEAKER_02 23:17

Hey, it changed him.

SPEAKER_00 23:19

Yeah. You know what? You find some of the works. That's right.

SPEAKER_02 23:23

You don't let up.

SPEAKER_00 23:24

So it's funny. Memories are fun. I love thinking back. I'm very, I'm a very nostalgic person though. So anything that feels nostalgic.

SPEAKER_02 23:32

I almost almost I almost cried at the wedding yesterday.

SPEAKER_00 23:34

You did? Yeah. In what part?

SPEAKER_02 23:36

When they were dancing. Weddings get me now.

SPEAKER_00 23:38

Oh, I I during the first dances now. I don't care about the first dance. I care about like the mother-son dance.

SPEAKER_02 23:45

That's what I'm that's what I mean. Not the not the bride and groom first dance. No, I was like, I mean, they're great. No, no, no. I'm talking about the father-son. I mean father. What? Father daughter, mother-son, whatever.

SPEAKER_00 23:54

Oh, the father-daughter always kissed me.

SPEAKER_02 23:56

And yesterday, oh so sweet. Because there was she she had her dad there and then her stepdad. And her stepdad. And it was like they both participated, and it was like so sweet. Everything was smooth and yeah. It was just like the the roles they've both contributed in her life have been so just important. Yeah. And being able to like put that on that stage. And then um it's just so it's so cool to see.

SPEAKER_00 24:21

Yeah. We've been to several weddings recently, I feel like.

SPEAKER_02 24:24

I think we went to four in the last year.

SPEAKER_00 24:27

I feel like we've been to four in the last quarter.

SPEAKER_02 24:29

No, we haven't had that many.

SPEAKER_00 24:31

It doesn't matter. We're not gonna go here and figure it out.

SPEAKER_02 24:33

But our wedding days are ending though. For the year. No, our wedding days in general, like they never fully end. They'll end for a season, though. Yeah, yeah. Until you get to be 45 again.

SPEAKER_00 24:45

Your friend, your friend's kids and stuff. Exactly. Yeah. No, we've got several more. I feel like we've got less than ten.

SPEAKER_02 24:53

We have less than ten in the next ten years.

SPEAKER_00 24:57

I'm not gonna sit here and count them out. Unless unless we both have a sibling that has not been married yet.

SPEAKER_02 25:03

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 25:04

Um, and we have a couple friends.

SPEAKER_02 25:06

Yeah. I would say 10-ish. 10-ish is what will happen.

SPEAKER_00 25:09

It's crazy though. This has been our like year of weddings, I feel like. It's been most of my floor. But yeah, I'd cry at all the dances. I cry.

SPEAKER_02 25:18

Which is part of why I like a wedding, right? Like it just brings out.

SPEAKER_00 25:22

It just brings out so like being a parent has made me way more sentimental when it comes to a wedding.

SPEAKER_02 25:27

The people we're sitting with have a daughter and a son. Yeah. And he was, and I was like, You ready for this? Because their daughter's six. I was like, You ready for this? And he said, And the son is three. He's like, Oh no, he can leave whenever. She's never leaving. She's never doing this. We're not, it's not happening.

SPEAKER_00 25:42

Sometimes I cry because I'm like, well, it was also precious because the the bride is like very, very, very close to her mom. And they did like she did a special little thing for her mom, like dedicated her bouquet to her and did us like a dance with her mom. And I thought that was so precious. And I like cried because I was like, I'm never gonna have that. Like, I'm never gonna have a daughter.

SPEAKER_02 26:06

We're gonna do it. The Lord will bless us. You should add to your prayer list, folks. Just stay to day that we have a girl.

SPEAKER_00 26:13

Yeah, one day, not not now. Not now.

SPEAKER_02 26:15

The announcement's coming next week. We'll just have to see.

SPEAKER_00 26:18

No, no, no, no, no. No, no. It is fun to just like see and it makes you reminisce on your own wedding too.

SPEAKER_02 26:25

Like, all the things I would have changed.

SPEAKER_00 26:27

No, I don't think about that. I just think about like, wow, like what was this like for us? Like, what you know, because it it like takes you back in time a little bit. Like six years ago, I feel like we we had a different life. Like we did. It's hard to meet, it's hard for me to like comprehend a world in which we didn't have our kids either. Like that they weren't even a thought in our minds. Like we didn't even know Jack. We didn't even know Tate. They're like there we lived with no regard for them.

SPEAKER_02 26:58

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 26:58

Like, how do how is that even 20 to 22 for me?

SPEAKER_02 27:02

Like, or us, the years, the age for me, and years, uh, is it's just crazy. Like, we we lived half of 2020, all of 21, and half of 20, a majority of 22. But yeah, with no kids, and I mean it's just like, what is that life like?

SPEAKER_00 27:19

I know that's so. What did I think about? Like, I mean, it's just so it's so crazy, like not having what I felt like was a care in the world, like yeah, or what I think now.

SPEAKER_02 27:29

I and again, don't get me wrong, that was like before we were even trying to have kids, right? I'm not talking about like I'm not we just didn't even we weren't thinking about having kids that we're gonna be.

SPEAKER_00 27:38

I'm yeah, I'm just thinking about like when we got married, like our wedding, like that weekend, like what that whole time was like, and yeah, it's just it's just fun. I don't know. It's very fun sometimes to think back and just like sit in the memories of it, you know.

SPEAKER_02 27:53

Yeah. Are you recovered from your race?

SPEAKER_00 27:55

Oh yeah. I'm ready to go.

SPEAKER_02 27:57

Ready to go? Yeah. I think we're gonna run a full marathon next year, right?

SPEAKER_00 28:03

A full?

SPEAKER_02 28:03

Is that what we're committing to? No. Are you sure?

SPEAKER_00 28:08

You're high as a kite.

SPEAKER_02 28:09

Hey, if we're doing this thing, we're doing it right.

SPEAKER_00 28:11

Um, I'm not running a full marathon.

SPEAKER_02 28:13

Santa wants to run a half in when the fall?

SPEAKER_00 28:17

Pull it back, pull it back, pull it back, pump the brakes. My friend asked me if I would be interested in running a half in December.

SPEAKER_02 28:27

Oh, that's gonna be cold. I can't run in the cold. I'm a baby.

SPEAKER_00 28:30

We live in Alabama, it might be 70 degrees.

SPEAKER_02 28:32

Or it could be 25.

SPEAKER_00 28:35

Well, I'd rather it be 25 than 95 and sunny.

SPEAKER_02 28:38

Absolutely not. Give me a hundred degrees all day long. Give me the heat.

SPEAKER_00 28:43

Yes. She died.

SPEAKER_02 28:45

That doesn't bother me at all. He doesn't bother me.

SPEAKER_00 28:48

Until you're running 13 miles.

SPEAKER_02 28:51

Give me some water. Give me some liquid IV or something.

SPEAKER_00 28:54

I cannot handle how much you think you know.

SPEAKER_02 28:56

I know it all. You know, that's how it goes.

SPEAKER_00 28:58

I need to wear my bed.

SPEAKER_02 29:00

I should wear my ref shirt, my mom got me.

SPEAKER_00 29:02

Yeah, you should. You should.

SPEAKER_02 29:04

My mom got me a ref high school basketball. My mom got me the shirt. No, no, no, that was a different shirt.

SPEAKER_00 29:09

No telling what it was.

SPEAKER_02 29:11

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 29:12

A coach shirt. I don't know, you coached.

SPEAKER_02 29:14

No, it was was it the ref shirt?

SPEAKER_00 29:17

I think it was. I don't know. No.

SPEAKER_02 29:21

Basically, you just as soon as it was a shirt that was like, there's no point in arguing when you I know I'm or I'm not arguing, I know I'm right, or something like that. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 29:28

This is very fitting. Very fitting.

SPEAKER_02 29:31

That has been an area that I've changed in dramatically in the last five years.

SPEAKER_00 29:35

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 29:36

Since high school. That's a that's another that's a perfect example, right? Perfect example. In high school, I act like I knew way too much. I was I was dumb and I just immature, right? So like why cannot I translate down to my kids, hey, don't do this. Just don't do it. Because I'd look back down and I'm like, I wish I wasn't this way.

SPEAKER_00 29:53

Like just took some life and some maturity.

SPEAKER_02 29:56

Yeah, so let's just avoid that for them. Let's get ahead of it.

SPEAKER_00 30:00

There are not these shortcuts to certain things. Yeah, to certain things. Growth takes hard and learning yourself.

SPEAKER_02 30:13

Sometimes growth takes hard and learning. End quote. Dash Savannah Jennings.

SPEAKER_00 30:17

Hey, hey, I'm I I'm about to get out of here.

SPEAKER_02 30:21

Your hiccups are gone though.

SPEAKER_00 30:22

Yeah, they are. I don't want to draw attention to that. Yeah. No.

SPEAKER_02 30:28

So we're gonna start training for a half in December.

SPEAKER_00 30:32

Yeah. Well, the half is in December. There's a 5K in October that we're gonna do.

SPEAKER_02 30:38

Oh, we are?

SPEAKER_00 30:39

Yeah. We already talked about it. It's on Halloween.

SPEAKER_02 30:42

Maybe we'll actually run the 5K at equipped it.

SPEAKER_00 30:45

I'm never gonna do that. You're never gonna get me to do it. I'm sorry. I'm just not. It was great.

SPEAKER_02 30:49

I'm sorry I'm not doing that. I'm sorry.

SPEAKER_00 30:50

It is always that, I'm sorry. What is why that it's a quote. I'm not doing that. I'm sorry. I'm just not doing that. I'm sorry, I'm not doing that. I'm just not doing that. It's a quote. I'll show you.

SPEAKER_02 31:03

It is extremely cold that morning. Yeah, I'm just gonna do it. It always is and it's dark.

SPEAKER_00 31:10

It's dark. It is frigid cold. You've you're exhausting. And you're on the bridge. You're on the bridge. I don't know. I've done it one time, and that was one time too many. I just don't think that I ever need it again.

SPEAKER_02 31:22

I've never with that being said, get your equip tickets today, folks, if you're going to a quip exposition. Uh but aside from that, we do need to, before we wrap up today, we need to talk about Together in the Trades. Uh Together and Trades is something that's near and dear to our hearts. We haven't talked about it much since we started this show. We got our plane tickets, but no, we have not.

SPEAKER_00 31:39

Holy cow.

SPEAKER_02 31:40

It's like two months from now.

SPEAKER_00 31:41

Oh my god. So uh well, I know what we're doing when we finish this.

SPEAKER_02 31:45

Yeah. We are going to Scottsdale, Arizona this year for Together in the Trade. It's gonna be extremely fun. We've rented an entire hotel. Um, and it's gonna be, man, the relationships we've built at this thing has been just fantastic. I think is this year six? Well, this is your six, right? Because it was the first it was year before Jack was born.

SPEAKER_00 32:06

One, we started in 2023.

SPEAKER_02 32:07

21, 22, 23, 24, 25. Yep. 26. Yep.

SPEAKER_00 32:11

Um crazy. They just continue to impress me that they move this thing around the way they do. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 32:17

So it is a marriage conference. It does not have to be, you don't have to be in business together to come.

SPEAKER_00 32:22

They're they're like just for own a business.

SPEAKER_02 32:25

Huh?

SPEAKER_00 32:25

Isn't it just for couples in business?

SPEAKER_02 32:27

That's what it's general, that's what it's generally for. But I there look, this the speakers that come in don't necessarily just cater towards owning a business together, right? There are great marriage principles, they're marriage marriage counselors, they're marriage professionals, they come in and talk. Um I I would I would encourage you to come to this thing, even if you don't own a business. Like if you just want to go and get a vacation and go on a and invest in your marriage, like I think it's a good trip. Yeah. Um, you won't regret it. No, you will take away something good from it. And there are these people, I mean I I still do think I think us and the Suttons are the only ones that have been there all six.

SPEAKER_00 33:05

Yeah, it's all it's been uh it's been just us since the cruise. We were the only two that made it past the cruise.

SPEAKER_02 33:11

Past the cruise, yeah. So uh so we're excited. But um the the last couple years, guys, it's gotten really, really like consistent. There's there's groups of people that come and they see each other once or twice a year. It is so funny. There, I know the woods like have other friends they've become friends with, and they went on a trip themselves, like outside of trades, and so it's like that's what it's about is building relationships like that. So you can go to TogetherandTrades.com and get your tickets there. Uh they are I I don't remember the dates. Uh forgive me for that.

SPEAKER_00 33:41

16th through 18th, 15th through 19th. Yeah, I can look it up really quick.

SPEAKER_02 33:45

Middle day end of July, somewhere in there. It's usually a Thursday to a Saturday. So it's gonna be great. You can fly into Phoenix, I believe.

SPEAKER_00 33:53

I think it's this well, I feel like if it's a Friday, Saturday, it'll be the 17th and 18th of July. That sound right.

SPEAKER_02 34:01

That sounds somewhat right. Let's just see here.

SPEAKER_00 34:03

Let's just go something is wrong with my calendar that's not pulling all of our stuff. So we have a Google calendar, it's not cooperating.

SPEAKER_02 34:14

We ready? Everybody's waiting. July 16th to the 19th, Williams, Arizona. Tickets on sale now. 58 days, two hours, five minutes, and 10 seconds. So you don't want to miss it, guys. Less than two months. I didn't realize hey, we are there. Okay. Well, uh, I'm sitting here actually looking at it, and Brian and Liz Flirton, Ken Bernie Alman, they co-host this thing. Uh Marty Grunder and his wife are gonna be speaking this year. They have been married for a long time. Uh, built rate uh raised kids. He has a great business, um, a large community that he leads. Casey Maston, Casey Caston, uh, he's the founder and CEO of Marriage 365. He's gonna be there. So uh I'm really pumped and excited. It's gonna be great. We've actually had an engagement at one of these before. Um that was Nashville's 20 years. Nashville two three.

SPEAKER_00 35:12

Oh, I thought I was pregnant there. I think it was Nashville.

SPEAKER_02 35:17

No.

unknown 35:17

Oh.

SPEAKER_02 35:18

Was Nashville year two?

SPEAKER_00 35:20

Yeah, I was pregnant there.

SPEAKER_02 35:21

Was it? Okay, yeah, I guess so.

SPEAKER_00 35:23

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 35:23

Year three year one was so it was and these are where the and it travels every year, guys.

SPEAKER_00 35:28

And year three was big sky.

SPEAKER_02 35:30

This is where we're, yeah. Year one was Waco, which was great. Year two was Nashville, pretty fun. Yes, year three, big sky, unbeaten, hands down. I don't know that we'll ever beat it. Uh year four was where was the fourth year? Cruise. Yeah. Year four was cruise, year five was Savannah, Georgia.

SPEAKER_00 35:52

Savannah. I was like, where's your five is going to be just the cruise was really fun?

SPEAKER_02 35:55

I want to do the cruise again.

SPEAKER_00 35:56

Uh honestly, I feel like they've all been so good in their own way. They have. They really have. We have nothing's been duplicated yet. Yeah, I loved Savannah. I thought that was very fun, very different. The cruise, so fun.

SPEAKER_02 36:10

The cruise was so fun. So fun. I know people didn't come. Because if you weren't there, if you're listening to this and you weren't there, like you won't, you just don't understand you just don't get it. Like you just don't.

SPEAKER_00 36:20

I don't know. Hold on. I just had a stroke. It's kind of like the joke wasn't like it had you had to be there, type of thing. Not in a like exclusive way, but I just feel like you just don't understand.

SPEAKER_02 36:32

Is it what? Is it that's how it is?

SPEAKER_00 36:34

Yes, do you not agree?

SPEAKER_02 36:36

Oh, I know, I agree.

SPEAKER_00 36:37

It kind of had to be there to understand why I was good.

SPEAKER_02 36:40

There's a lot of people that don't like the water though, so they didn't come.

SPEAKER_00 36:43

Yeah, totally valid. You know, you pick what works.

SPEAKER_02 36:46

Yeah, whatever. It's your own, it's your own lost folks. But I mean you can get on a plane or you can drive all the way out to Arizona.

SPEAKER_00 36:53

People do drive to these things.

SPEAKER_02 36:55

People drive, they've driven the country before. Far. Long ways. And I don't think and I guess I don't know that anybody's walked away and be like, that wasn't worth it. Like last year, people were coming to the conference and were their marriage was on the ropes and they left, like reunited. Like, that's really the the beauty in it. Uh, so it really is gonna be super fun. Together.com, get your tickets there, and uh, we'll see you in Arizona. So we're going into a great week this week. Hope you guys have a great week out there. Um, think about your earliest memory. What is that for you? Reminisce on your childhood a little bit. If you hopefully have a good childhood, if you have a traumatic childhood, maybe you don't reminisce on that. But uh I I do think that there is beauty in going like to weddings like we did and learning and just seeing the the the power of the new and the fresh, just like excite excitement in a marriage, right? And excitement in that relationship. So if you've been married for a long time, try to rejuvenate that, get that spark back in your marriage, uh just build that relationship. And again, no better way to do it than doing the trades. So thank you for watching or listening this week, guys. We appreciate it. Head over to YouTube, Cultivate Podcast, if you want to see this show, all podcast platforms, share it, download it, like it, subscribe, do all the things, follow, leave us a rating or interview, those help. Let's grow this thing. We really want to we want to build this community, guys. There's lots of people out there who are building businesses, building families that are young, that you're just figuring out parenthood, like like we are right here. So if we can help you at all with that or um anything day to day, just reach out and let us know. But I am thankful for each and every one of you. Thankful for your time that you give us. Time is the most valuable asset that you have, and the fact that you chose to spend some with us means the world to me. So we couldn't do without you. Thank you again. Without any further ado, guys, let's wrap this one up and we'll catch you here on the next one.