I Don't Love Being a Mom 24/7. And I'm Not Sorry!

Babygirl, this one is in Spanglish ❤️

This one is for the mom who lowkey wants to build something. Lowkey has goals. Lowkey has dreams. And is hiding behind the title of mom because God forbid, she chooses herself.

I'm calling you in. Front and center. Spotlight is on you.

What we get into:

I'm talking about why I don't love being a mom 24/7 — (there I said it!) and why that's okay. Why the rulebook doesn't exist. Why choosing your ambition is not choosing against your kids. And why if you've been low key, it's time to be high key. All the way.

Also — I share out loud for the first time that I want to be the breadwinner. 

And I'm not sorry about it.

The thing I want you to walk away with:

Drop the noise. Drop the narratives. Drop the culture cycles, the social media bullshit, the shoulds and the shouldn'ts. Solo la que carga el moral sabe su contenido, only you know what you're carrying. So stop letting everybody else tell you how to carry it.

This episode is for you if: 

• You lowkey want to build but keep shrinking back 
• You feel guilty for wanting more than motherhood & outside of it
• You've been waiting for someone to tell you it's okay to go after it 
• You're ready to stop hiding and actually do the fkn thing

If this hit, share it. 

With your prima, your tía, your group chat, whoever needs to hear it. And leave a review so we can reach more Mujeres who are out here hiding when they were built for more.

DM me on Instagram. Tell me your dream. Let's get loud about it.

Nos vemos en la próxima. 🔥

Transcript

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Hola, hola y bienvenido a otro episodio de Mujeres sin Culpa. y objetivos, como Lowkey quiere construir algo de su propia, ya sea un negocio, una marca, un intercambio, escribir un libro, lo que sea que pueda ser. Esto es para la mujer que Lowkey ha estado escondiendo el título de mamá. Ok, Dios forbid, ella se eleva a sí misma. Dios forbid, ella... Y se escucha feo que lo diga así, pero es cierto porque nos consumimos de tanta cosa que vemos en las redes sociales que... We get so lost in this fucking noise of like how motherhood is supposed to be like, how our bodies are supposed to look like, how we're supposed to feel, how we're supposed to act, how we're supposed to launch the business, how we're supposed to... All the shoulds and the shouldn'ts in the world we have literally at the tip of our fingers, right? That we get lost in one, we maybe start picking up shit that wasn't even ours in the first place. We start picking up unbelief, good and bad, that weren't even Hours to begin with. And that is how we get fucking fucked up. That is how we get fucking confused. So, for the mom who is low-key, all the things I mentioned earlier, but is ready or wants to discover what it would be like to be high-key ambitious and high-key wants to build a business and high-key wants to build her own opportunities and high-key wants to take up space and high-key wants to be fucking loud and about, this episode is for you, okay? Because I want to call you in take the stage front and center spotlight is on you right now forget about the kids forget about the husband forget about the dishes in the sink right now like i want you to think about yourself like what do you want who do you want to become in this lifetime i remember people used to tell me this all the time in the earlier years when i became a mom but you chose to be a mom but now you have kids tú decidiste ser mamá ahora tienes hijos y así es this is how it is this is how it's gonna be you know we're so expected to give up our life and die if we need to for them, you know? But why don't we fucking live for them? What if we would become our highest, best, most evolutionary version of ourselves? What happens then? I get so passionate and so excited when I see badass women building who are actual CEOs, not these fake CEOs we see on social media, literally leading big companies and making hella money and who are so unapologetic about I am not a mom 24-7. I'm a three-hour mom. I heard that term and I was, oh my goodness, I'm so glad that I'm hearing other mujeres, other women, being so unapologetic about living their life. It doesn't mean that they're neglecting their kids. It just means that they're following their purpose alongside motherhood. When I say that, it's like it's going to look different for all of us. Something that I haven't been unapologetic about, and this is why I'm so passionate, this is why I wanted to literally turn on the mic and talk to you because yo misma no he sido tan inapologética y deseo que lo fuera, ¿vale? Porque aquí está la cosa. Tengo que literalmente pausar y beber agua porque siento que este es mi chakra de la nariz que está siendo bloqueado ahora mismo, pero no me gusta ser una mamá, ¿sabes? Como que no es mi pasión número uno. No es mi número uno. Me encantan mis niños, por supuesto que me encantan mis niños, pero la madrehood en sí es difícil. La madrehood en sí sucede en A veces realmente lo hace, ¿sabes? Porque estamos constantemente necesitando de nosotros y de nosotros. Y eso es la madre. Pero aquí está la cosa. Si necesitas un paso de permiso para construir y crear la madre, como mejor te guste tu vida, váyase y haz eso. Y deje todo lo que veas en los medios sociales. Deje todo lo que viste creciendo. Deje ciclos de cultura. Deje todo lo que necesites de dejar para vivir una vida feliz y cumplida. Because here's the thing. We're constantly thinking, well, this is how I should do things. This is how I should mother. This is what I should do. This is what it's supposed to look like. There is no fucking rule book. There is... No hay reglas, no hay nada. Y solo tú sabes lo que necesitas, lo que necesitan tus bebés, y solo tú sabes lo que necesitas tú y tu familia. Y al final del día, no debería haber nadie que te diga cómo hacerlo. Hay una palabra en español, solo la que carga el moral sabe su contenido. Así que solo la que carga el bagaje sabe lo que está dentro del bagaje. Tú estás cargando el bagaje. Tú estás sacando ese bagaje. Solo tú sabes lo que estás cargando. Y aquí está la cosa. Cuando yo era pequeña, mamá Mi mamá solía ser, hasta el día de hoy, una chica limpia. Creo que no, es una mentira. Pero era su limpieza. Madre. Ella iba a ir a la pared. Y eso nos haría caminar en el agua durante el resto del día porque ella estaba limpiando y estaba obsesionada. Estábamos en su camino. Y ahora, en mi casa, no voy a estresarme sobre todo estar en su lugar. No voy a preocuparme si los niños están jugando con el agua en la cocina. Mi pequeña. Ella está volviendo tres. Este mes, en realidad, Dios mío. ¡Es loco! Pero ella ama jugar con agua en su pequeña cocina. Creo que voy a dejar que ella juegue con agua. Vamos a hacer burbujas dentro de la casa. Vamos a hacer el problema. Está bien. Y ¿sabes qué? También pido que me ayuden cuando se trata de limpiar. Porque somos un equipo, somos una familia. El punto de todo esto es que hagas lo que necesites hacer en tu hogar como madre en tu vida. That pleases you. This isn't me. You neglect everybody's needs. No, no, no. That's not what I'm trying to say here. You get to build whatever the fuck you want to build. However the fuck you want to build it. Okay? That is the whole purpose of this episode. That you walk away from this episode thinking like, fuck this shit. Who am I trying to impress? Who am I trying to like? ¿A quién estoy tratando de quedarle bien? Like, no. Fuck that. Fuck all the shoulds and the shouldn'ts. Like, it's your life, it's your household, it's your home, it's your dreams and desires. What are we going to do about it? Right? I always say how I outsource the dishes to the dishwasher. You know, and my mom's funny. She's like, ay no, esa máquina ni los lava bien. You know what? If it doesn't wash it right, you know what I'm going to do? I'm going to turn that shuttle in. Second round. You know what I mean? So it's like, I'm here to make my life easier and not over complicated. Like, I do not want to burn ¡Suscríbete! madre porque solo tú sabes lo difícil que ha sido o lo fácil que ha sido o lo que sea el caso. Solo tú sabes, ¿sabes? Durante las últimas semanas, la madre, como he mencionado en los episodios pasados, la madre ha sido jodidamente difícil. Pero ¿sabes qué? Hubo una semana que me tocó tanto que estaba en mis sentimientos y lo hice todo por mí misma. Pero después de esa semana, estaba bien. Y la vida va a vivir sin importar. Eso va a pasar, ¿verdad? ¿Cómo va a cambiar mi respuesta? ¿Verdad? Así que me Worked on that, of course. I talked to my fellow moms. You know what? Yeah, fuck this shit. Motherhood is fucking hard and it sucks sometimes. And it is what it is. And we figure it out on the way. So, with that being said, allow motherhood to be whatever it is that you need it to be. Drop all the bullshit. Drop all the noise. Drop all the fucking narratives. There's moms that literally are like Pinterest moms, right? There's moms who literally like bake every day. There's moms who like take their kids to the park every day. I feel like there's para todo hay todo. y si eso no eres tú, entonces eso no eres tú y eso es todo. Yo simplemente refiero a hacer cosas que me ponen en un estado miserable. No me equivoco, todavía estoy haciendo cosas, todavía estoy saliendo con mis niños, todavía estoy haciendo cosas que les gustan y viendo películas que les gustan y jugando con Legos y color. Todavía estamos haciendo lo que es lo que quieren hacer. No me equivoco, pero no voy a estar constantemente poniéndome en este estado miserable. No voy a hacer eso porque también counto. Mi persona ¡Suscríbete al canal! that I work from home, that I've been working from home for the past three years. Like, I pick and choose. Like, I don't do it all. So whenever you see women online that you think are doing it all, best believe they're not doing it all. They're not doing it all because we cannot be everywhere all the time. We cannot be at different places all the time. And here is the thing when nobody fucking talks about or I see it talked about once the women get to quote unquote the top or the top 1%. It's like, they're not doing it all. Hay muchas cosas que no están haciendo. Déjame darte una lista. He escuchado esto por... Ah, su nombre. Me olvidé. Emma algo. Ella dijo esto en una entrevista el otro día. O un par de semanas atrás. No sé, cuando sucedió. Déjame darte una lista de todo el mierda que no hago. ¿Qué tal eso? Déjame darte una lista. Hay noches que hay platos en el asiento. Porque prefiero agarrar mi libro y leerlo. Hay días en los que mi hija se vacía antes de ir a la cama. Hay días en los que va una semana sin ir a la cama. So here's the thing. I pick and choose my battles here. I'm not about to go World War II. tres en mí misma en mi casa porque eso me va a poner en un estado miserable, ¿sabes? ¿Cómo puedo hacer que sea más fácil para mí y para mí? ¿Sabes? Si sé que la limpieza me va a poner en un mal estado, ¿sabes qué? No voy a limpiar ahora mismo, lo dejaré para el próximo día. Y soy inapologética sobre eso. No voy a crear estas ciertas expectativas para mí misma que nadie pone en mí solo porque es como debería ser, si eso tiene sentido. Solo quiero que Take up the fucking space and like, be bold and unapologetic of whatever the fuck it is that you want. If you're low-key ambitious, be high-key ambitious. Please be high-key ambitious and take up all the space and scream your dreams and desires off the rooftop. Please do and tag me when you do. Or DM me. I want to know all the things. Honestly, I don't want to be a mom 24-7. I am a mom 24-7 because it's an automatic switch. Once we become moms, we're just moms all the time, right? But like, here's the thing. I don't want to be just a mom. I am my own woman. I am my own mujer. I have my own identidad. I have my own identity. I have my own dreams and desires and goals that I want to create for myself. And you know what? Once I fully step into that, well, I mean, I have, you know what I mean? But I am a happier woman. And my kids and my husband and everybody around me are gonna get my best version because I'm happy as fuck doing the shit I fucking love and pays me on top of that right so once again like this is your fucking permission slip to do the damn thing whatever like you want to create you want to become a content creator like please fucking do you know I feel like there is no ¡Suscríbete al canal! ¡Gracias! Sí, juzgamos, ¿sabes? Si quieres trabajar, ¿sabes? Trabajar para divertirte, ¿sabes? Esa es nuestra cosa. Y soñar y trabajar por el día que hacemos por su truco de sueño y todas estas cosas. Pero yo voy a ser el ganador de la carne. Soy la que tiene la visión y, honestamente, vine a paz con eso. Al principio, pensé, ¿por qué tengo que ser la que...? Estaba en este mindset de víctima durante como dos ¡Suscríbete al canal! this out loud. And it's funny because my sister invited me to go watch The Devil Wears Prada tomorrow and I'm so, so excited. The Devil Wears Prada is one of my favorite movies, like that one and like 27 Dresses, PS I Love You, and Bridesmaids, you know, for me they're like my classic, you know, chick movies. And I'm just so excited we're gonna go watch it, you know, because it's like, it's just this film of like boss babes in the fashion industry and it just puts me in this such high level state of mind that I'm like fuck even though it's a movie but like Anne Hathaway you know like she's a badass bitch right so it's like No puedo esperar hasta que salga. El punto es que creé un reel que dice, ¿cuál es su nombre? No me acuerdo su nombre. Miranda. Miranda dice, por favor, Sandra, ¿todos quieren esto? Y yo estaba como, sí, sí, sí, sí. Sabes, tenemos que ser más inapologéticos de nuestros deseos y de lo que realmente queremos en esta vida que tenemos. Solo tengo que venir aquí y compartir. Porque esto es lo que estoy aquí para hacer, ¿sabes? I just want us to be more unapologetic and take up the space and share our dreams out loud. And if you feel like you cannot, because, like, el mal ojo or whatever, like, okay, ponte el little bracelet, el little red bracelet and you're good. No, but all jokes aside, like, if you feel like you cannot share your dreams and desires with your closest people, you know, they're not here to understand, so don't worry about it. But, like, fully, like, embody that unapologetic version of yourself, you know, it's gonna take trial and error, it's gonna take fuck-ups, it's gonna take a lot of ¡Suscríbete! que podemos cambiar, ¿verdad? Podemos cambiar nuestro medio ambiente. Podemos cambiar nuestras oportunidades. Podemos crear nuestras propias oportunidades. Y mi marido me dice, oh, Dios mío, el gas es tan caro. Yo le digo, tenemos que usar gas, sin importar. O sea, no he pumpado gas en mucho tiempo, ¿sabes? Pero necesitamos gas, periodo. Vas a tener que pumpar gas, sin importar. Si es $10 por galón, imagínate. Necesitamos gas, así que vamos a usarlo. Así que dejemos de complicarme sobre ello, ¿verdad? Y solo haga más dinero. No quiero que esto suene como si no tuviera miedo, porque lo hago, chicos. Some of my closest family members are immigrants. You know, like, I fucking hate this administration. And we've been treated so poorly, you know, that they just want to erase our culture, our language, our being, our humanity, and our Latina humanity. So it's in so many other different cultures that they're belittling and gaslighting. But we need to create our own opportunities. We can complain, we can cry, but okay, baby girl, put on some lipstick, put on your hoops, you know, put on, like, do We are here. We fucking got this. We got to get up and we got to do something about it. We have to create our own opportunities. We have to create more money because that's the reality. That is the fucking reality, okay? Don't get me wrong. You may think that, oh, el dinero no lo es todo. Like, money is evil or whatever. No, I don't think any of that. I believe that the more money we have, the more opportunities we do have. For example, if you have more money, you get to reunite your family more often. y No puedo ser yo, no puedo ser ella, yo en esos momentos. ¿Sí me explico? There's so much capacity that I have to create, you know, there's so much money mindset shit that needs to happen, you know, that I'm constantly working on a day to day because no, I was a born rich baby girl, right? So I have to work for this. So, and I'm not scared to work. I love working. I love what I do. I love being in proximity with such badass women who are constantly and already doing Big ass shit. Like having... $40,000 por mes, ¿sabes? ¿Quiénes son los ganadores de la carne en su casa, ¿verdad? ¿Quiénes han transformado su vida? Quiero continuar poniéndome en proximidad de esas mujeres. Y por mucho tiempo, por mucho tiempo, pensé que tenía que ir a todos estos eventos. Y, como, no me jodas, me encanta los eventos. Y me encanta los retreats. Y probablemente todavía me verán en los retreats y los eventos, ¿sabes? Porque mis clientes los hostan. Todo lo que ves en el espacio online que las mujeres hacen, no significa que tienes que hacer todo. Chau. There's a lot of things you do get to try to fuck around and find out. Because if you don't try the thing, you don't know. You know, you don't know. Period. You don't know if you're going to like it or not. I have pivoted my business so many times in the past where, like, I needed not pivoted. Oh, yeah, pivots. Because, you know, one thing has led me to another thing. But if I would have never tried, I wouldn't be here. I wouldn't have the podcast. I wouldn't have the merch, that collaboration I had with Mickey. I wouldn't be working with the baddest woman that I'm working with. So you have to fuck around and find out. y ponerte en espacios incómodos, situaciones cómodas, decisiones cómodas, y en el otro lado de toda esa mierda, hay una versión de ti misma que nunca has conocido. Y aquí está la cosa, lo escuché ayer tantas veces mientras estaba en las redes sociales, y estaba en mis llamadas de mastermind y todo, y esto empezó a aparecer, así que el viaje de la entretenimiento es literalmente desarrollo personal, como en crack, y eso es tan verdadero, eso podría para mí es más verdadero que verdadero porque es insano. Me siento como si yo solía decir esto, pero algunas mujeres van a la terapia, otras mujeres construyen negocios, ¿sabes? Porque la cantidad de desplazamiento que sucede a través del negocio y de tu desarrollo personal es insano, absolutamente insano. Si quieres saber sobre ti mismo, si quieres ser tu... quote unquote, highest, best, most authentic version of yourself. Like, go into fucking business. Try to launch your own business and see what happens because I guarantee you, I guarantee you that once you start, you won't be able to stop. And I say that in such a good way because I've been in business since 2021. At the end of 2021, that's when I launched Lizzy Creative. I got my first offer and service in January 2022. And since then, I have met so many different versions of myself that every single time I meet a new version of myself, I fall in love with myself even more to the point where I get scared of losing my current version because I get to love her so much, but also know that the next version that's coming of me like gonna be less watered down it's gonna be more unapologetic it's gonna be more loud it's gonna be more authentic more passionate I get to love myself in so many different ways at so many different levels that I'm like fuck yeah like I love life you know like I am becoming not only the best mujer not only the mujer of my own dreams but like I get to be the best mom I get to be the best wife at every single level I don't ever want you to think that you choosing to build a business or you choosing to go after your dreams and your desires and your goals makes you less of a mom or makes you love your kids even less if anything i truly believe with all my heart that our love is more pure more intentional more more present more less stress because here's another thing that i wanted to touch upon is the financial stress as stay-at-home mom when there's only one stream of income I don't give a fuck what people say. Like, I know the stress we carry, especially as a working class, especially at lower class. I don't even know what category this is. It doesn't matter. Point being that when it's a one... And here's the thing. We choose to be... es lo que nos toca hacer porque porque es lo más económico porque la otra opción no tiene sentido. La otra opción cuesta más, ¿verdad? Entonces, ¿qué hacemos? Nos quedamos en casa. behind the title mom I invite you I will hold your hand. Come to the other side. And aside from building the business, from me helping moms, you know, become virtual assistants, and I'll talk about that in another episode, but the woman we get to meet behind the title mom, the woman we get to meet outside of motherhood, that is what I would, that is what I invite you to tap into. To tap into the woman. La mujer que eres. Yo sé que eres chingona, yo sé que eres poderosa yo sé que eres fuerte yo sé que eres magnífica yo sé que tienes una mente poderosa sé que I know you have a lot of knowledge and a lot of experience and skills there's so much to you than just being a mom and once again I don't say that lightly but I mean it with all my heart as well like if you have the little voice in your head telling you like go to work like I prefer working than being home there is absolutely nothing wrong with that there's nothing fucking wrong with that and also Like, I invite you or I dare you.

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I dare you.

SPEAKER_00 25:40

Gracias por ver el video. Hasta el sol brilla más bonito. ¿Ok? So, anyways. Eso te invito. I just invite you to fuck around and find out. Please do. We only have this life. And there's a price to pay. Yes. There is a price to pay. Because we cannot be everywhere at once. Because we cannot do it all at once. You know what? There Sí. At least for me, it just makes motherhood so much easier. Because when you're building a business or working on your self-development or personal development, it just overflows. It overflows and you start having different perspectives. You have mindset work that starts to happen. I've been referencing a lot back to that image where it's like the white guy and all these different equations around his head. That is exactly what starts happening. You just start leveling up in so many different ways. que es, es simplemente hermoso, es hermoso, así que te invito, si eres ambiciosa en lo bajo, ser ambiciosa en lo alto, por favor, si tienes sueños y deseos en lo bajo, ¿sabes? como, ser fuerte y sobre, por favor, tomar espacio, por favor, y si no tienes nadie con quien hablar sobre estas cosas, envíame un mensaje en Instagram, por favor, o envíame un correo electrónico, lo que sea que necesites hacer, quiero escuchar todas las cosas, y también quiero ayudarte a traerlas a la vida, no solo hablar sobre ellas, pero ser sobre ellas, traerlas a la vida, ok, bebé, chica, ¿Qué vamos a hacer? ¿Cuál es el próximo paso? ¿Qué va a costar? Y también reconocer el precio que necesita ser pagado. Porque hay un precio que necesita ser pagado. Y ese va a ser un episodio totalmente diferente. Porque vamos a estar aquí por 30 minutos hablando. Y quería hacer esto corto, breve, para el punto. Porque normalmente tengo mucho que decir. Y yo llamo demasiado. Pero estaba tan apagada que necesité venir aquí y compartirlo con ustedes. Y ser, como, ser ambiciosos altos, por favor. La vida va a seguir pasando. Y prefiero que la vida pase. ¡Gracias por ver este video! ¡Suscríbete al canal! Where do I sign? Anyways, I love you all so much. Thank you for listening to the podcast continuously. If this resonated, please leave a review for me. Share it with somebody else. Share it with your fellow moms. Share it with your cousin, your tía, whatever it is. All support is welcome here because the more we share, the more you guys leave reviews, the further we get to reach other women, other mujeres that need to hear this message. So, thank you so much. I hope that this, my little rant, my little yapping moment was helpful. And lesbians un apologetic alright let's fucking go I love you and nos vemos en la proxima bye