LIVE Podcast, catchup & this or that wedding edition

This week on The Aisle Diaries Podcast, we're running on caffeine, adrenaline, and very little sleep after our first-ever LIVE podcast recording at the incredible Swanley Wedding Fair!

From battling roller banners in gale force winds and surprise hailstorms to lost microphones, trapped fingers, period disasters, and a 14-hour day on our feet, we're sharing everything that happened behind the scenes of a live wedding fair that you'll never see on camera.

We chat about:
✨ Our first live podcast experience at Swanley
✨ Wedding fair chaos and lessons learned
✨ Why every wedding needs a Plan B
✨ How couples can handle unexpected wedding day challenges
✨ The reality of working in the wedding industry during peak season
✨ Wedding supplier life, burnout, and balancing busy schedules

Plus, we discuss the wedding that's taken over social media - the hugely talked-about Fury wedding – from the dress and cake to the media attention surrounding the young bride.

And of course, we're back with another round of Wedding Would You Rather, tackling some seriously difficult wedding planning dilemmas!

Whether you're planning your wedding, working in the wedding industry, or just love hearing the reality behind the aisle, this episode is packed with laughs, honesty, and plenty of wedding wisdom.

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Transcript

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Welcome to the IELT Diaries Podcast, the place where you find out what really happens behind the aisle and you fatty. Because someone's got to tell you the truth. And it's never boring. With tips for your big day, I'm Sophie. And I'm Joella. God, we both sound really tired. We looked tired as well. Guys, yesterday was amazing, but it was a lot. Um we're gonna apologize for like the next two episodes from here until yeah, the next two episodes. Oh, I go! Every single episode. Um, yeah, the next two episodes. My throat's really croaky as well. I feel like I'm like done in today. You look a bit hungover. That's how I feel. Thanks for the compliment. Oh, my eyes won't stop watering as well. Really cold. Just we're moaning, guys. We're not moaning because we're super grateful. Yeah, so yesterday the trees had better days. The trees had enough of this weekend. Let's put it back in. Um yesterday was a big day for us. Whoa, one second, guys. There you go. If you were watching that on YouTube, you would have just nearly seen me. Yeah, yesterday was massive. So if you're listening to this, it'll be out what two weeks after we've done it. Yep. So then the next two episodes are probably gonna be in a really, really good mood because it'll be peak season, and our attitude won't be matching. Yeah. And I will have felt revived after my holiday. Yeah. Uh I'm going on holiday next week, and my god, guys, I can't wait. Um, yeah, so yesterday was our first ever live podcast at Swanley. Insane. And it was such a good turnout. So good. But we did a 14-hour day, it was long, it was a lot. We were shattered, and this morning I realised we never finished a day in the life. Like we could have got lunch and it and everything, but by that point we were like. I tried to. Did you? Yeah, yeah. I did you get stuff. I got some stuff, I just didn't get the food. Okay. Um so yeah, we arrived at 9am. Um there was quite a lot to set up, so our own stands for Seraphina and Safe Brown makeup, and myself and Joella had arranged uh people to help. So Joella had Liv and I had my sister Rose. Um, so they were manning our stores whilst we did the podcast 12 till 3. Um, but in the meantime of the live podcast, if we didn't have one thing thrown at us, we had it all. Oh my god. It was nine times out of ten it was me. No, it's like I think we've definitely learnt from it. Like you probably wouldn't even realise, but you won't realise when you're watching it what was going on behind the scenes. No, but like we needed a couple of people to man the tech side because that was difficult, wasn't it? I don't think it was even that it was different. I I I just think we were trying to do too many things. We're trying to spend in a lot of plates. We've got to spin way too many plates. We're trying to spin um film a day in the life, we're trying to do all the tech stuff, we're trying to then also speak to suppliers. Then also because suppliers were there who were our friends, everyone was trying to have a catch-up with us, and we were like we'd been there from nine o'clock setting up, and we had like what four things to set up. Yeah. Um and we had to move like sofas, we had to do stage box, we we were helping obviously Swanley as well, so we we had quite a lot to do, but I think we learned, like you say, a hell of a lot from that. Yeah, and that's what it's all about, isn't it? Yeah. Trial and error, and as much as there was happily do it again. Yeah, like we did it, yeah. Um so within all of that as well, it was absolutely amazing the setup because we had Jen Peony help us um with these amazing flower arrangements which you'll see. Um like the back just the tree did in terms of like the flower arrangement and each setup, it just looks stunning just. And the tree at Swanley is like the pinnacle of the venue. So we drew a lot of attention to the tree. Yeah. Because we were literally right in front of it. So for anyone that hasn't been to Swanley, it's got this. I think it's literally like 200 years old. It's incredible, this massive tree. It's where it's Swanley's logo, like it's where all the outdoor ceremonies happen, like it's insane. So we put stage box up, we then had the sofas on there, we had a flower arrangement, didn't you? Obviously, we tried to put our roller banners and attach it to the tree. Yeah, so that was the chaos, wasn't it? Yeah, and then the wind made them into like sail ships, uh the ships uh sails on a ship, sorry, like they literally just were wind trapped. You just were going. We have got some funny BTS from that. Like to the point where I we both were gripping on. Obviously, I'm super short, Joel is gorgeous at all. So it's like little and large, trying to wrestle with these roller banners, which bear bearing in mind they were brand new, completely ruined. Yeah, completely gone. Completely. I think one of them's okay. Um, yeah, because one minute the sun was shining, the next it was like torrential rain. But it'll and then it was the wind was so ice cold yesterday, but it would have been a completely different setup if it was inside, and I don't feel like it would have been as good. I don't, and I also think that it would have taken away from musicians, it would have done all of that as well. And like, yeah, I just think we were in the best place possible. So we just bit the bullet and just handled it. And this is just goes to show that if you have winter wedding on a gorgeous summer day, just exactly how to deal with it. Yeah. You will see in one of the videos, most likely. I ran out of shot to go and get some blur bollies out of my car, didn't I? Yeah, so we had a guest on and it literally just started hailing. It came out of nowhere. Yeah, like literally came out of nowhere. And we were all sat there talking, just literally like who's gonna say something. And I was like, I've got bollies in my car. So she lost and pegged it, and in the meantime, she lost the phone, so that was another thing. I dropped it on the floor because it fell out of my pocket. Then I lost the mic when I was having a way, so that's probably gone down the toilet, so it's listened to every single person have a way. I really hope that when we go back to seeing that last video that there's nothing on it. Because it was still connected to my phone. Another girl problem happy to talk about it. I came on my period. So which is why the mic got dropped down the toilet because Sophie had a coat on and had to strip. Honestly, like if something was gonna happen. So funny. So funny. Oh, there was a bit of an accident at the fair, yeah, which threw us all off. It was yeah, there was a lot going on. Do you know what though? And it just goes to show like exactly how you deal with things on your actual wedding. So, say, for example, if you the circumstances in that, if you have weather, you have a plan A and you have a plan B. Like our plan B was inside inside, but we were like, no, yeah, we had the brownies, we were fine. We do have the the stretch tan, yeah. Yeah, so like, and you can have an option for plan A and a plan B, but like it just goes to show like this May has been so wet, like it's usually absolutely gorgeous. You just can't predict the weather. I know I know and don't pick your venue based on the outside option, pick it based on because you love your venue, and that would be my strongest advice. And I think it's the UK, like you can pick July and still have rain, do you know what I mean? So yeah, we definitely uh smashed it, winged it, and just went with it, really. So obviously we finished it three, well the f the the first stint of the show the fair did. Yeah, so 12 to 3 was we were literally talking for the whole time, weren't we? Yeah, so then we packed up what we needed to. I had some commitments, dropped my sister back off at home, and then it got to four, and we literally headed straight to the plough. And we food. I'm really gutted I didn't have the fish and chips. Yeah, I'm not gutted, but because I love the plough Sunday dinner, but like their fish and chips is a strong favourite of mine. Yeah, I think any wedding that I work, I have the fish and chips. Yeah, I yeah, I'm not a f a fan of batter, am I? I had the cheese and onion pie, which was it was just insane. Yeah. Their food's cool is good. But the thing is, because we were so tired and it was so gorgeous and warm, and the plough was booming because there were so many suppliers that were all literally on Hi, hi, hi, bye, bye. Because there's three wedding fairs on locally yesterday, wasn't there, in the in the area. We literally just sat there and we looked like we were about to just We actually didn't even talk to each other at one point. Like literally like this. Ethan came with us and he was like, I'm just gonna go. Yeah, he was like, I'm gonna leave you then. We were like bye. So in the meantime, I'd sit in there eating, we prepped for today, so two episodes. We cut a TikTok, we we did loads, really, yeah. We just didn't edit the episodes, which is what we wanted to do, but at the end of the day, the the signal's awful anyway. Yeah, when we were just so tired, and then so we finished that and headed straight back over to Swanley to do it all again. We literally both sat in the car at like seven o'clock and we were like, I'm really full. I could have just had a nap last night. I could just have had a nap. Oh my tummy was hurting bad. I don't know if it's because I had that much like, but also you had a lot of food like you were you were worried about me at one point because you're like, Doella, eat, drink, because I hadn't had anything. But that that's the thing, I don't do that on a wedding day, so I'm used to that. No, I just had a boiled egg and a brunch bar, but then I think I don't drink fizzy drinks and had a pint of Pepsi, about 400 coffees. Yeah, we were c we were wired to the point that Sophie actually had to have my coffee. Yeah, no, I didn't I didn't have my coffee. Did you not drink it in the end? Because like at that point, I was like, I don't even think I should be on the show. I think that's because I was the same and I think it was the coffee that was sat on last night. Ethan's like, You okay? I was like, no. It's the coffee and Pepsi, and you had like a massive pub comfort food. I know and I don't eat like I don't eat stuff like that. No, I'm the same. It was mu it was really lovely, but yeah. I was like, give me vegetables. I know, I know. Um so yeah, we had a great time, but a very 14 hours we did. 14 hours. I got into bed and Johnny was rolled over and went, night, and he went, Oh, okay, see you tomorrow. I was like, I'm really sorry, but I can't. I was like, I can't even talk to you, I just can't talk anymore. I got in and Ethan and went, I'm really proud of you. Aw, that's really cute. I was like, Thank you, can you rub my knee? It's got sore knee from running. We didn't talk about my finger. Oh my god, yeah. So as we've spoken about before, Joella either falls, trips, just yeah, just something happens, and something did happen, and that was she trapped her finger in a massive trend, massive tripod mic stand. Yeah. But we're all trying to have a stand. Me and Jenny were like Jelly was like, ah! I was I was like, nobody touch it. Because like you were screaming out, the first thing you try and do is like pull it apart, but when you were pulling it apart, it was stretching it up, so my hand was going up. I'm surprised it's not in the worst. No, it's fine, it's uh honestly, it's absolutely fine. It's ri it is sore underneath, but fine. But yeah, she had it was blue and a few. It was it was just dented, wasn't it? But yeah, it looked can't even see that it's even happened. Yeah, I did think you'd broken that though, and that was before we started, so there we go. Hope everybody else had a great weekend. I'd rather like that to me is like a different yesterday is like way different to what we usually do, like in the sense of our typical jobs. Yeah. Um Yeah, I was so nervous, which I've spoken about for weeks. And you can even tell at the beginning of that video, the first episode that we did, we were like, whoa, because we're not in these four walls, we're not just talking to each other. Yeah, we're like, it was amazing, but couples were stopping, looking at the tray, and then we're talking in front of it with a speaker and m microphone. I think if we were to do it again and next time we'd be on a different level, the first time it's so nerve-wracking doing anything, isn't it? Yeah, and the guests were amazing, really adaptable. Yeah. They went with the flow. Yeah. So yeah, can't wait to get those up and share what we spoke about. Um so I think talk of the weekend is a kind of job. Well, I think that all of socials is going mad about the um Fiori wedding. Oh yes, big time. What are we saying about that then? So I know that it's obviously their culture, I know that it's what they do and they get married at a young age and all of that kind of stuff. Understand that. But I we've obviously briefly just spoken about this just before the episode started, didn't we? And I I agree with what you said. I think at the age of 16, nobody should be put underneath the scrutiny scrutiny. I know, because it has gone like blown up, and I just think she's so young. From the public and paparazzi. Yeah. I mean the whole wedding has been, hasn't it? Like, but then that's what they're they're about. Like they're about the big weddings, they're about like the massive, like the cakes. Yeah, like I feel a bit sorry for her, but then I don't maybe she doesn't feel like that. No, because it's their culture. Yeah. But I'm like, oh my gosh, like you're being absolutely tear, well, it seems like tear to pieces about the dress, about the way she looked. So that's what you get when you're in the public eye. Like, because she wore sunglasses. I mean, the song for me was like you're in church. How has that been accepted? The the the aisle song. Uh what was the aisle song? Because I've not seen it. Yeah, but Which is full of bad language. So how has that been Do you know what I mean? Biggie biggie biggie. Can't you see? Yeah, but there's no mentions of God or religion in it. Yeah, but there's racist. Is there? Yeah. I know. How is that how has that been allowed? Any church wouldn't have allowed if it was if it was racist or if it was um if the if the word God is mentioned for a civil ceremony, you're not allowed it. If like if there's certain things like different churches abide by different different religions, Catholic, Church of England, whatever it may be, um civil ceremony, they all abide by different rules, but I know no, I don't agree with that. I don't understand how it was allowed, but yeah, I just feel a bit sorry for her, but maybe I've not seen too much of it in the video because I've not even had time to even scroll on my phone. Um I've seen the video that I sent you this morning. I've seen Molly Mae's posts on her Instagram. Yeah, so Molly May got absolutely scrutinised as well. Why? The umbrella sitch. What umbrella sitch? So Tommy Fiori didn't go. I don't know why. Like I said, I haven't had time to properly look into it either. So Molly went on her own with Bambi and she there was security and the rate the weather was really bad. So there's a video of her like this. She grabbed the bouncer's um umbrella and like snatched it down and like made sure the rain was like protecting her. But I just think, well, if the if the security guard's holding the umbrella in the wrong position, you would move it down. Yeah. But you know what the press are like. And also it might have not been like that, it might have been sped up, it might have been Do you know what I mean? I know, I know. But like it's pretty brave turning up to a huge wedding like that on your own and supporting your partner's family. Do you know what I mean? I feel like Molly May always gets like a rough time anyway. Oh, we had to so Paris is as for Tom being Paris revealed that he had to stay in Manchester for his boxing training camp. So that's why he couldn't go to the wedding. Yeah, so Molly went on her own with it. And Mabby looked so cute. She was like, she did look adorable. Did you see the cake? Yeah. Wow. Stunning, isn't it? Yeah. How tall was that? And then Peter Andre turned up. I know, I saw that, I was like, what the fuck? I would have been like, Don't get me wrong, I wouldn't have a blue cake, but like that is impressive, is what I mean. Like that is Jesus, it's huge. Yeah. I like the draping behind it though. Yeah, the little flower girls look so sweet. They did the the whole everything of it is very much um big. It's big, it's their culture, it's everything like that. It it it just yeah. But you know, I agree with you. I think Did you say the police turned up as well? Yeah, I think someone got arrested. What? Yeah, but they all they're just mental, aren't they? I'm gonna Google this now. Yeah. Who got arrested at this is what I mean? It's like massive talk, isn't it? About the weekend. Man arrested. Oh wow. Why why why did it say? Um probably fighting or something, I don't know. It could have been alcohol. Um, officers were seeing carrying an evidence bag of cash and a that's for my son. I don't believe anything that comes out of your mouth. Yeah. Peter Andre, someone. Do you know what I did see though was the confetti line. And do you know what really warmed me off as a wedding coordinator? Go on. Is the way that people threw that confetti. Yeah, but there would have been no coordination there. I But I don't know why not, because of how big it was. Yeah, well they do what they want, don't they? They literally do. Like she didn't have a makeup done. She did it herself. That's in that's such a big thing as well. Did she? She looked beautiful. But even a makeup for her doing it herself, that's a statement that that just shows that you want to feel comfortable in your own body. Fine, perfect. Yeah. Veil is absolutely impressive. Yeah. The train, yeah. Huge. She had massive um like sleeves, did you see, with drain and legs? Yes. They looked b they they did look beautiful. And her dress wasn't a typical gypsy dress, it was really fitted. It really is big, don't they? Yeah, it was really it was it was really lovely. Yeah. And yeah. Extra, obviously. Yes. Oh, well, there we go then. No, it was yeah. What um what have you got coming up this week? This weekend. Johnny's in Dublin. Yeah. So weddings and solo parenting. Wow. Um yeah, I'm just having a look at my calendar now, and I've got my friend's baby shower as well. Oh yeah, on Sunday. Yeah. Where are you at for that? Sale. Oh right, okay. Um and then it's bank holiday Sunday, isn't it? At Bank Holiday Monday. Yeah, it is. Um yeah, weddings this weekend, weddings the weekend after. Yeah. Weddings the weekend after that. Wedding's the weekend basically wedding after wedding after wedding. Yeah, um, venue visits. What did I oh I went and saw Sandhole on Friday. Yeah. Um so I went to see Sandhole Barn. Um for anyone that isn't local or listens to this and is in a different country. Sandhole Barn is a venue in Cheshire. Um, it is a gorgeous, gorgeous barn. It's in Congleton. I've worked there many, many times, but they've just changed the team. Yeah, yeah. The owners have just um they bought it at the end of last end of last year. Um they've changed up, they've now got in-house catering, in-house bar, um, the team's lovely, the team um also the people the same people that own Comber Mate Abbey and the old palace in Chester. Yeah, team's lovely. So I met with them um and yeah, just they were really, really lovely. And I've got a couple of weddings there. Um and it's only up the road from us. It's only up the road from the room. Yeah. Literally up the road. Literally up the road. I've had the world's busiest week. Like, my eyes feel like they're on the floor. Um I really wanted to go for a nap this afternoon, but I've got to pick Johnny up from work. It's cards like his MIT. A wedding at the plough on Friday, um, a wedding at Heaton House on Saturday. I had laser bridal trials, and then on Saturday, uh straight after the wedding, I had to go into Manchester from Friends 30th, so I did that sober because of the um setup on Sunday. I knew I would just couldn't do that. Whoop, whoop, um and then this week, I'm just looking at my diary now, mental again. I know I'm just looking at mine, I'm like, woo! Yeah. I've got one, two, three, four, five bridal trials on Friday. And a wedding on a Saturday, and then occasion makeup, and then Sunday occasion makeup. So absolutely wild. It's half term next week as well. And then then I'm on holiday! Woo-hoo! I actually can't wait. I know then when you get back, I've I've literally just got I've got site visits in fact literally my because my final details are 12 weeks prior, now is the time from like May and June is August time. So all of August weddings are like so I'm literally like back to back with final details meetings because I have one with them. Which are long. Which are long. I have one with obviously the couple and then I have one with the venue. Yeah. So yeah. All going on, all going on. Um wouldn't change it bother, wow. No, it is good. It's super busy. We've got mud on these ribbons and I have to clean them. I feel like there's mud, rain, you name it, but we just haven't had time to even literally went straight to bed, got in at what time did you get in? Ten to eleven. Yeah. Somewhat like that. Or I was in bed at ten to eleven. Yeah, straight to No, I didn't go straight to bed actually. I saw my dog 'cause I really missed him. And then didn't even go and say hello to the dogs. They were in bed. I was like, I'm just gonna go straight upstairs. He was crying, he could hear me. And then went to bed and woke up and now we're here. I haven't even done like my hair is still the same as yesterday. I got I'm gonna confess something, I fell asleep with my makeup on as well. Like I was yeah, I was I was and I never do that ever. Always take it off. Even if I'm very, very drunk, I'm like makeup off. Yeah. I'm usually the same, but I literally got into bed and I couldn't even smoke. Our eyes are burning, weren't they? Oh, they're burning now. Big time. Well, thanks for the catch-up. No, thank you. Shall we finish it up here? Have you got anything else to say? Um we're gonna do Would You Rather? Should we do that first? Oh yeah, sorry. Yeah, I was about to say, I was like, that's only 15 minutes so we have got Would You Rather? I plan this up as well. No, I'm thinking I told you, I'm like, oh I'm thinking that's definitely not it. We're not just giving you guys. We do have, I think we'll probably do anyway the week that this comes. No, we'll do it before that. Obviously, there'll be an extra episode, a couple of uh extra episodes. But if you are listening to this on Spotify, the couple of extra episodes from Swanley will go up onto YouTube. Where are you going with this? Yeah, yeah, yeah. They'll go up onto YouTube. You want to watch the live podcast, will be YouTube. When we get round to it. No, they'll be up, but I'm gonna edit them this afternoon. Fabulous. Yeah. Right, so let's move on to Would You Rather before I Are we gonna do like quick quiet questions? Yes. I'm gonna I've written them down. I've looked at them. They're aimed at you. What? Yeah. So Would You Rather Wedding Edition. Okay. Okay, are we ready? You can join in, guys. Rain all day or missing photographer? You've got to be quick. Missing photographer. No speeches or no first dance. No first dance. No. Oh no. Yeah, no first dance. Okay. Should we go through why after? Yeah, can do. Okay. Um registry office and luxury honeymoon or huge wedding. This is but that's a personal one, really. Registry office and luxury honeymoon. Yeah. Taboo, taboo, taboo. I wrote these down as well. Love it. Ha ha. Invite children or allow random plus ones. Oh Savage! I don't want to spit by that question. Yeah, you can. Invite children or allow random plus ones. Invite children because you can have a say on who which children to invite. And you probably know them more than a well you do than a random plus one. Lose the rings or lose the wedding cake. Lose cake. Yeah, rings are for life, aren't they? Erm This is a weather-related one again. Rain or day or a heat wave? Heat wave. Really? Some people hate the heat though, don't they? Yeah, because you can have air con, you can have fans, you can do things, you can Yeah. Yeah, I'm definitely a heat wave anyway. Just because I'm always first choice. Rain just is a pain in the arse, innit? Like. Yeah. Especially if you've got a location like Swanley, just swamped. No, see, like it was to be fair, like rain there was lovely. Like it's still nice. I think because we were in the thick of it for the whole day, like it's different. But you've got to be that kind of couple. Yeah. See, whereas I am that kind of couple, I would rather have a marquee wedding. Yeah, I wouldn't. So I'd fully accept rain. I was I was moaning, I was freezing all day. Sophie Literally sat like this close to me. I was like, I'm like every five seconds, I was like, I'm freezing. It's a beautiful, beautiful venue, but you do have to be a certain couple. Like that has to be, you know, you shouldn't, you can't. And that's my cup of tea. Yeah, like you can't be our Swanaya. You're the one that got married in a hot country for the power cut during dinner or during the first dance. Power cut during dinner because you're eating, you're not gonna notice it. No. I disagree with that one. Really? Yeah, it's more of a like it's bigger during your meal if a c if the power went and all the lights went off, it's a bigger deal. Yeah, but during the daytime, so you're gonna have daylight. I just think the meal is a bigger, bigger deal than the first months. The thing is, the lights the lights aren't really on. Yeah, it's not just lights though, is it? It's heat. Yeah, but music, musicians. That's fine, I'll start singing. Do you know it's not just it's not just light? No, but I think from like your food's still gonna come out. What if you were only in first course meal for the first course? You'd literally just but if your speeches are afterwards, put your speeches in the middle. No, I mean to cook the rest of the food. You'd have no food. Okay, so I would it's not just light. No, I I I know it's not just like, but I'm trying to think of like it if you are, say, for example, middle of your main course, you can do things to help that a lot better than first dance. Because if it's first dance, it's pitch black. Well, I just remember that bridal spiral that we spoke about that came from a bride I met at a bridal party and her power went and she said everything was affected. Yes, I remember you saying about this. And I just think with it. Candles will be your best friend. If not, we'll just whack out barbecue and wherever it may be. And that's what happened at theirs. Um skip professional video or skip professional photography. Photography. Would ya? Yeah, video, you've you've got more to look back on. You can screenshot. Are we talking video with videographer or are we talking content creator? It says videographer. You can screenshot. Yeah, but the quality is not the same. Still got a photo though? No, I'll tell you what, I'd get I'd do videographer, have a photographer and I'll film a video on my phone for you. I just think you miss so much from a photo. Yeah, you wouldn't you miss the movement, and I do think a video is you need to have it at your wedding. That will never change. That would be one of my number one priorities. But it's worth the investment. I know it's hard, isn't it? It is hard. That one's a really tough one. It is. Would you rather your mum hate the dress or your partner hate the food? Mum hate my dress. Yeah. It's about you two, isn't it? Yeah, it's not about my mum. Sorry, mum. Yeah. Oh, for me this one's easy. Having a cringe first dance or a cringe speech. Cringe first dance. Absolutely. Yeah. Yeah. Mmm. Ooh, perfect No, easy. Perfect wedding day or the perfect first year of marriage. Perfect first year of marriage. It's about your marriage, not your wedding day. 100%. Spend more time with guests or more time alone as a couple on the day. More time alone because you hardly get any time alone. Mm-hmm. Erm Yeah, that's it. Because the the the the second one is duplicate. Okay, fine. Can't feel like a very quick fire round. Yeah, but some are quite hard. What would you do? All rain or missing photographer? Erm Come on, quick fire, quick, quick, quick. Rain or die. Would ya? Yeah. No first dance to the second one. Um, same as you. Registry office and luxury honeymoon over a huge wedding. Invite children or allow random plus one children. Lose the rings or lose the cake. I am a foodie, but I think the cake would have to go. Uh heat wave, obviously. Definitely. Um power cut during the first dance, I would say. Um I would skip a photographer. Yeah, I don't care if a mum would hate my dress. It is what it is. Cringe speech, absolutely is not okay. I would rather a cringe first dance. Yeah, we'll give a bit of swaying is nothing. Yeah, yeah. I'd even do a routine if it meant that my speech wasn't cringe. Yeah. Like a cringy routine. Um and then definitely a perfect first year of marriage. Yeah, it's not about it's not about the wedding day, it's about your marriage at the end of the day, and people forget that because they get sucked into this planning process of of everything, and you need to remember exactly what this day is about, and this day is about your marriage, not just the one day. Yeah. I mean, you are in a bubble anyway after your wedding. Yeah. It's so nice. I was speaking to a couple actually last night at the at Swanley, and um she was just saying to me that she's like um she loves the idea of obviously me being there and being able to help and everything like that. And um she was just saying that it just takes the stress off her because they can literally live in that engaged bubble for as long as they possibly can before going into the marriage bubble. And I was like, that's exactly what it's about. Yeah, it is. It is not about trying to think about the next thing, next thing, next thing when you're planning it. Yeah, it is hard to stick to that mindset though. It is. You will you will hit a few walls, yeah, and that's just natural. Yeah, but it's how you deal with it in your mindset, isn't it? Yeah, definitely. That was a nice quick episode, guys. Sorry it was only a little shorty 30-minute one. Um but where can everyone find us, Sophie? They can find us, or you can find us on obviously socials, Instagram, TikTok, and Facebook, um, at the IELDaries podcast, and we have the email which you should be submitting your bridal spirals to or asking us any questions. And it is the IELDiariespodcast at gmail.com. Whoop, whoop, cheek and I feel like so. The next episode, obviously, we are recording it on the same basis, but I feel like we've got some So, yes, thanks for listening, guys, and you will hear and see us in the next app. Bye bye.