The Attuned Classroom Podcast™

Hanging Back

Season 1 Episode 7

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In this episode, I invite you into a kindergarten classroom during morning arrival to observe a student who quietly lingers at the edge of activity.  She watches carefully, studies the rhythm of the room, and waits before joining her peers. From the outside, it might be easy to interpret this behavior as shyness, disinterest, or hesitation.  Yet when we look more closely, different possibilities emerge. 

About Amy

Amy Morales, M.Ed., HWC, is an educational consultant, special education advocate, life coach, and pedagogical mentor dedicated to advancing meaningful, sustainable change across education and human development.

She holds a Master of Education, is a Georgetown University–certified Health and Wellness Life Coach, and earned Executive Leadership certification from Cornell University. Amy is also a Trauma-Sensitive HeartMath® Certified Practitioner.

As a career-long educator with more than three decades of experience, Amy’s work has spanned classrooms and systems alike, including leadership roles across independent and public K–12 schools, nonprofit organizations, universities, and state educational agencies. Her contributions have earned recognition at local and national levels through awards, policy development, and board service — reflecting a career shaped by both lived experience in classrooms and leadership across educational systems.

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Welcome to the Attuned Classroom Podcast. I'm your host, Amy Morales, an educational consultant, special education advocate, and life coach who spent more than three decades in classrooms, courtrooms, and at kitchen tables, helping students, educators, and families navigate the complexities of learning. This podcast is where neuroscience meets practice, where advocacy meets accessibility, and where we imagine classrooms that allow every learner and every educator to flourish. Together, we'll observe how learning unfolds and how nuance shapes human potential. Whether you're a parent, educator, caregiver, or professional walking alongside differently abled learners, this podcast is for you.

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Let's begin in the classroom. It's morning arrival, kindergarten. Students are getting organized, parents linger near the doorway. One student stands close beside her mother, half hidden. The teacher kneels to greet her. Good morning. The student presses a little closer into her mother's side. The teacher smiles. I'm happy to see you. After a moment, the student steps forward. Her mother gives a small wave and leaves. She walks to the cubbies and hangs her backpack. She lingers there, adjusting the items inside for a long while. Morning announcements are over. Around her, other students are already moving through their morning stations. She stands just to the side of the activity table. Not upset, not distressed, just hanging out. The teacher signals a transition. All right, friends, let's find our spots on the rug. Most children move quickly. But she pauses and waits for the others. Once her classmates are all seated on the rug, she joins. The teacher begins the morning calendar routine. Several hands are eagerly raised, but the student's hands remain folded in her lap. Her eyes move carefully between the teacher and the other students. She's observing closely. A classmate shares an idea, the teacher nods. Students begin adding to the conversation. But she is on the edge of the circle. She pulls her knees in closer and hugs them tightly. Her eyes, again, move from classmate to classmate, still watching, still listening. A classmate beside her scoots in a little closer. She leans away just slightly, creating a bit more space.

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The teacher gestures towards the ongoing science experiment in the window. Several students jump up to standing all at once. Other students get excited to measure their plants.

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The room grows louder for a moment. The student lifts her hands briefly to her ears just for a moment. Then lowers them again. She begins tracing the edge of the rug with her finger, slowly back and forth. Her eyes return to the teacher. Watching, listening, taking in the rhythm of the room. Just hanging back. Let's look more closely. Notice what we may be tempted to conclude. The student is shy? Perhaps. She isn't interested. Maybe. She isn't feeling well. Possibly. In classrooms, it's easy to notice the loud signals, refusal, melting down, impulsivity, off-task behavior. Those moments demand attention. But some learning needs are not as obvious. Sometimes they appear as the student who is watching and waiting, the student who doesn't immediately enter the activity, the one who pauses before joining the group, the student who studies the room before raising her hand, not disengaged in the way we might assume. Some learning needs arrive quietly. Perhaps the student is still organizing the environment around her, the movement, the sound, the social navigation, the expectations, all at once. Maybe her nervous system is working to sort through that landscape before engaging. She is studying the rhythm of the conversation, learning where and how to use her voice.

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When a child struggles with navigating the dynamics of the classroom, behavior is often the first visible signal that something beneath the surface needs attention.

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These signals are information. Behavior is communication. And sometimes that communication is subtle. Perhaps what looks like hesitation is actually processing. Maybe what appears to be hanging back is a student gathering the information she needs to move forward more confidently. Possibly, maybe, the moment we are witnessing is not disengagement at all, but preparation. When educators learn to notice the quiet signals, the watching, the waiting, the subtle shifts, new possibilities of interpretation can emerge. And when the educator becomes aware, the pace of instruction can shift, and the doorway into participation can open a little wider. The student who once sat quietly at the edge of the circle might begin to step forward, to use her voice. Not rushed, not pushed, but when she's ready. Because sometimes a student needs more time to orient, to regulate, to process, and find the right moment. I'm curious. What did you notice? What can you implement now?

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Thank you for joining the Attuned Classroom. Every student, every classroom has nuance. With curiosity, teaching evolves and learners can flourish. Until next time.