The Attuned Classroom Podcast™

Looking Away

Season 1 Episode 8

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In this episode, I explore a familiar classroom moment that invites us to look a little deeper: a student who appears disengaged simply because they’re looking away.  What if that behavior isn’t distraction at all, but a way of regulating, processing, or managing the intensity of stimuli? Through this lens, we reconsider how quickly we interpret student behavior and how shifting from assumption to curiosity can change the way we respond. This episode is a gentle reminder that what we see is only part of the story—and that expanding our perception can lead to more meaningful understanding and connection.

About Amy

Amy Morales, M.Ed., HWC, is an educational consultant, special education advocate, life coach, and pedagogical mentor dedicated to advancing meaningful, sustainable change across education and human development.

She holds a Master of Education, is a Georgetown University–certified Health and Wellness Life Coach, and earned Executive Leadership certification from Cornell University. Amy is also a Trauma-Sensitive HeartMath® Certified Practitioner.

As a career-long educator with more than three decades of experience, Amy’s work has spanned classrooms and systems alike, including leadership roles across independent and public K–12 schools, nonprofit organizations, universities, and state educational agencies. Her contributions have earned recognition at local and national levels through awards, policy development, and board service — reflecting a career shaped by both lived experience in classrooms and leadership across educational systems.

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Welcome to the Attuned Classroom Podcast. I'm your host, Amy Morales, an educational consultant, special education advocate, and life coach who spent more than three decades in classrooms, courtrooms, and at kitchen tables, helping students, educators, and families navigate the complexities of learning. This podcast is where neuroscience meets practice, where advocacy meets accessibility, and where we imagine classrooms that allow every learner and every educator to flourish. Together, we'll observe how learning unfolds and how nuance shapes human potential. Whether you're a parent, educator, caregiver, or professional walking alongside differently abled learners, this podcast is for you.

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Let's begin in the classroom.

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It's morning. The teacher is providing an overview of the lesson at the whiteboard. Most students are facing forward. But one student is looking away and out the window. The teacher pauses and says, Eyes up here. The student turns towards the whiteboard for a moment, then looks away again. The teacher continues instruction and says in a different way, make sure you're following along. The student nods, but his eyes are still not on the teacher or the whiteboard. She asks the class a specific question to check for understanding, and the student who has been looking away answers correctly, yet without looking up.

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Curious. Let's look more closely.

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Notice what we may be tempted to conclude here. That the student isn't listening and is tuned out. Maybe. That he is distracted by whatever is happening outside the window. Perhaps.

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That he is daydreaming. Possibly. Let's zoom out.

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Looking away can hold very different meanings. Eye contact is not neutral. For some students, it increases the intensity of the moment. And sometimes it's how a student remains focused. Perhaps the student is regulating. Reducing visual input to stay with what is being said, with what is being taught. Maybe the student is managing the intensity of being seen. Eye contact carries expectation. Looking away can lower that intensity, creating just enough space. Maybe the student is processing, turning inward to organize and process and concentrate on what is being taught.

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Not disengaging, but focusing in a different way.

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Or perhaps something more subtle. A shift, a recalibration, a way of taking in stimulus.

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And looking away creates just enough distance. The same behavior can have very different possibilities. Now, let's return to the classroom.

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The teacher pauses again. This time, she doesn't ask the student to look up. She continues instruction and allows the engagement to unfold while still asking the class questions to check for understanding.

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She asks another question, but not to him directly, just to the class.

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The student looks down, looks back out the window, and answers again accurately, without turning towards the teacher. This time the teacher acknowledges the engagement with praise and continues calling on other students.

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The student is still looking away.

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Later in the lesson, students shift into small groups. In one group, two students are discussing the assignment while he sits back slightly from the table, looking off to the side, not at the group, not engaging with the materials or the experiment.

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The teacher approaches, pauses, watches.

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Then she asks a question about the group plan, their hypothesis. The student who had been looking away responds quietly, but yet again, accurately.

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All without making eye contact with the teacher. What we see is only the surface of the learning moment.

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And beneath it, the body may be orienting, regulating, processing, or managing the intensity of the situation. When we begin to notice these distinctions, something shifts, not in the student, but in how we as educators see and how we respond. Because precision and perception precedes precision and instruction. And sometimes the most important shift in the classroom is not asking a student to look at us, but recognizing that a student is still listening, still following what's being taught, and tracking even without direct eye contact.

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I'm curious. What did you notice? What might you do differently now?

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Thank you for joining the Attuned Classroom. Every student, every classroom, has nuance. With curiosity, teaching evolves, and learners can flourish. Until next time.