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Don't Piss Me Off Podcast
Peace Is The Prize
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We started with “Don’t Piss Me Off” — and we’re ending with why protecting your peace matters. In the Season 1 finale, Bryana and Yuri reflect on the growth, lessons, and boundaries that changed everything.
From triggers that don’t hit the same anymore to red flags they no longer debate, this episode is all about clarity. They talk non-negotiable boundaries, trusting intuition, letting go of urgency, and choosing yourself without apology.
Because peace doesn’t mean you don’t want love — it means you’re no longer entertaining chaos.
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I really have learned a lot about us, friendship, myself, and like just cherishing that and then just being open and understanding and hearing different perspectives. And I love that about you and us.
SPEAKER_02You and I have committed to making sure we listen and we do not judge. But but sometimes you be judging though. Yeah, but not each other.
SPEAKER_01No, not each other. Not each other. But not each other. It's okay.
SPEAKER_02I've never been one to put up with shit at all, but I think I'm overly understanding. Like I'm too fucking understanding. And I've said that before on the show where like I will give a motherfucker grace. Life happens. However, now I'll be like, actually, I've been through some shit and I figured it out. And I still showed up for people.
SPEAKER_01So I think people should be able to do that too. Same. I'm not wasting my time on those that are not putting me at the same regard that I would put them or giving them the same level of attention or priority at all. Like if you ain't choosing me fully, I ain't wasting my time. Yeah. That's the boundary. Pitty swinging, ass swinging, just in the house swinging. Solo.
SPEAKER_02Just out here. Don't give a fuck.
SPEAKER_00I came with you. Draws all in the ass. My CIA ain't nobody in this many parts.
SPEAKER_02That is peace.
SPEAKER_00That is peace. That's on your body five peace.
SPEAKER_02Welcome to Don't Piss Me Off podcast. If you love Black Girl Brilliance, unfiltered opinions, you are in the right place. My name is Brianna.
SPEAKER_01My name is Yuri. Welcome back. Last time we talked about he said, she said we had our guy Tone on the show. Today, guys, is the season finale. A little sad, you know, near and dear to our hearts. We've had a great time talking to you and getting to know you guys better. And also sharing our stories. Brianna, how do you feel about wrapping this up? It's so crazy. Girl, I am like super emotional.
SPEAKER_02Like we said what we was gonna do. We did what we said, because we always do what we said we gonna do. Exactly. You know, I'm very with your chest. Say it with your chess. I'm very proud of us. I feel like um we're on to a new chapter, a new beginning, a new everything. This is 2026.
SPEAKER_01And we see oh yes, and we've talked about you know what the ultimate goal is, just you know, in relationships, friends, family, romantic. Peace is the prize. Peace is the prize.
SPEAKER_02I'm at peace, I'm happy, I'm excited. Um, but more importantly, I just feel like I've learned so much about myself through this season. Oh, yeah. You know what I'm saying? Bitches woke up, a new person. Rose from the jad. Yeah. But really, I truly, I truly feel like I learned a lot about myself. So I'm gonna switch it up on you today. Ooh, you know, usually I would ask Yuri what pissed her off this week, but today I'm gonna ask you what's something that used to piss you off that doesn't piss you off anymore. Oh because you know, peace is the prize.
SPEAKER_01Yes, you know, it's accountability and reflection. I think a lot of my past choices weren't necessarily about confusion, but it was about comfort, right? Like you just stay in something, you know shit's bad. And that used to bother me and piss me off. But like I don't regret where I've been, but like I truly respect where I am now. So it's the growth. And the things that used to bother me because I was in cycles of comfort. I don't get mad at myself because they were learning experiences. So it's like it I used to frustrate myself being more hard on myself, but we're we're human and we make mistakes and you just improve and you get better.
SPEAKER_02Yes.
SPEAKER_01Yeah. What about you? We're growing and glowing. We growing and glowing. Did you see this makeup today?
SPEAKER_02Beats. Beats. Perfection. Um, what used to piss me off, and this is so ha ha burned the fuck out for this. I couldn't even lie. I absolutely hate a lot of fucking questions. I've always been like that. I don't know what it is. Please don't ask me a lot of questions. I fucking hate a lot of questions. I don't know what it is. I just have a short fuse for a lot of questions because what the fuck are you asking me for? Yeah. However, because I know, and I know this is so like, what do you mean you hate questions? But like now, I understand questions are necessary to be in communication. Correct. It's proper communication. You have to. I don't know why I just be getting so annoyed. I just hate a bunch of fucking questions. You're supposed to know. Yeah, like just I don't know. But I am so much better. Like, I just take a beat now. Got it. Like, you don't need to get all anxious and upset because somebody's asking you like a question that probably should be asked. Yeah. And I know, like, I know this should help, but I'll really be like, like, nigga, why? Like, it could be it can be anything. It could be work. It could be like my mama asking too many questions. I just hate a lot of fucking questions. Like, I feel infiltrated. Yeah. Like, I'm one of them people that can sit in the fucking house and shut the fuck up for like four days and not answer my phone and pick up. Like, I don't have to talk. I got you. I'm the same. Crazy enough, I'm on this motherfucker talking my ass off, but I don't have to say.
SPEAKER_00No, listen, we be sitting in the house just like shutting the fuck up. Shutting the fuck up.
SPEAKER_01Learn how to shut the fuck up. But I was like, you're more patient now.
SPEAKER_02Yes, yes. Yeah, that was something that also, once again, life humbled me, taught me patience. But I'm I'm grateful for it because it has brought peace. Because I was kind of making my own anxiety and shit. Like it didn't even take all that. So, like, peace is the prize.
SPEAKER_01Especially when I'm sure those questions weren't meant to, you know, rile you up. Yeah, yeah. It's just how you was receiving it. Like, oh, it's aggravating me. Yeah. Yeah. I don't know why I'm like that. I'm proud of you though. You're working on it. You better now. Um, what did this season teach you?
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SPEAKER_01I'm gonna say this season has been great. Like, just in general, getting to know you better, right? Because I think you and I are a lot alike in a lot of ways, but we're also different in unique ways, and we're in different stages. And and that's great. Like the perspective you've given me on how you see things and like sprinkling a little bit of that on me. And then like you just like being, you know, a good friend and listening to like even though you're not in the place I am, but just giving me quality advice about understanding where I am in like my life journey. But then also, like, we be all having a ball, like a fucking ball, bitch. You know, so I just was my birthday last time.
SPEAKER_02I don't know if you did. It was my birthday. It was. It really was.
SPEAKER_01Every day's your birthday. You feel me? You know, but I I really have learned a lot about us, friendship, myself, and like just cherishing that, and then just being open and understanding and hearing different perspectives. And I love that about you and us. Yes, yeah, too. What do you what do you think was your biggest takeaway, you know, over the season?
SPEAKER_02Oh, um, for me, my biggest takeaway was um vulnerability. Oh, it has been well, we know that when we feel safe and seen that we share. But I think you and I have committed to making sure we listen and we do not judge. But but sometimes we be judging though. Yeah, but not each other. No, not each other, not each other. But not each other. It's okay. They wrong, you right, but it's okay. We exactly. I think that um, you know, I think it's tried and true that when you feel safe and you feel seen and you feel heard, that uh a space is created where you can share and evolve and learn so and be vulnerable. And I think that's important, not just within each other, but also with our audience, that they are getting the real version of us. So it's been nice to show the various sides of me that people don't really get to see in my day-to-day.
SPEAKER_01Yes.
SPEAKER_02Yeah, I like that.
SPEAKER_01Did anything surprise you about it?
SPEAKER_02Um, I don't know that anything surprised me. I think that I'm living with expectation. And when God said do this, I knew it would be great. So finding the studio, the right team, yeah, you know, everything just coming together so seamlessly. I'm not surprised, but I am overly grateful.
SPEAKER_01Yes.
SPEAKER_00Yeah.
SPEAKER_01So I think also a lot in the season we've talked about relationships and the like, don't piss me off is literally like creating boundaries, healthy boundaries. For sure. You know, what boundary do you think looking back like changed your life? Like the the one where it was like hell to the no. Yeah, I'm not dealing with this no more, and is a non-negotiable.
SPEAKER_02Yeah, I think the boundary that changed my life was when I started loving myself more. Um, I've never been one to put up with shit at all, but I I think I'm overly understanding. Like I'm too fucking understanding. And I've said that before on the show where like I will give a motherfucker grace. Life happens. However, now I'll be like, actually, I done been through some shit and I figured it out. And I still showed up for people. So I think people should be able to do that too. Same. So I think that boundary of being like, if you can't show up for me the way that I show up for you, this ain't it. This is not, we are not equally yoked, we're not equally pouring in. And that's in friendships, that's with family, and that's in relationships. Oh, for sure. That boundary changed everything. And it once again, I found more peace in that. I found more peace when I stop overextending for people who ain't finna bend over backwards for a thousand percent.
SPEAKER_01From and like I am right there with you with that one. Like, I would say literally not investing in people that like don't choose me fully. Yeah. And that's not like just like romantic relationship, friends, whatever. Like, I'm even more so extremely intentional about who I choose to spend my time with to pour into those people that pour into me back. Like, if I'm not wasting my time on those that are not putting me at the same regard that I would put them or giving them the same level of attention or priority at all. Like if you ain't choosing my me full day, I ain't wasting my time. Yeah, that's a boundary.
SPEAKER_02Even in work, remember uh the other day I was telling you, like, oh yeah, I got fired from that place and it changed my fucking life. The next day, I was happy. Because I was starting to get anxiety going to work. And literally the day I got fired, I knew I was getting fired. Um, not because I'm not the best at what I do, it's because I'm not a yes man. I'm telling you this model doesn't work. And you hired me to be the expert in this role. Let me be the expert. Don't hype me up like, oh, this is you, you got this, whoopee whoop, whoop, whoop, everything you say, finna go. And then now I'm fighting through red tape against people who don't do what I do. Make it make sense. But I promise you, the day I got fired, the next day um catapulted me, excuse me, into the position I'm in now. Into divine intervention. Man, divine intervention. So had I not gotten fired, I wouldn't have found peace. I wouldn't have um transitioned and pivoted into a role that was gonna lead me into a leadership role full-time with a global brand.
SPEAKER_01Oh no, absolutely. I think that is amazing. And I I I was sharing with you the other day my own experience in that where I had a very terrible issue at a at a prior office, and it was very much for I was so uncomfortable, like I had to make a decision to leave. And at the time it was devastating. But if that had not happened, then I wouldn't have started my own business, and then I wouldn't ended up in a situation where I've met you and we were able to do things like this and like just open my eyes to not have being so narrow-minded about possibilities and now seeing so much. So, like I said, at the time it was like, oh my God, like what am I gonna do now? But had that not happened, then so many other things would have never been a possibility. But divine intervention, I'll say sometimes God makes things so uncomfortable for you. Yeah. Cause like you, you're not moving. Like you're not realizing like you run in place, baby. Exactly. Going nowhere fast. Correct. We need to shake the table. We need to shake the table. And yeah, now I don't really fight that feeling as much. Like I'm like, no, this don't feel right. Like it, you know, and whatever the next step is. Sometimes I don't know, but if it if it feels right, like this felt right. Yeah. If things don't feel right, the same for me.
SPEAKER_02Yeah. You know, like I think intuition and discernment plays a big role, even when you're just looking for peace. Yeah. Honestly. True. Truly. Um, but I I really believe that when you are connected with your most true self and where you're in tune with God, that discernment will pivot and put you out of places that's comfortable. It'll put you into the wilderness. Yeah, it will put you in a position to where you have no choice but to trust what happens next. Leap in the net will appear. Oh. You know what I'm saying? I agree. Um, what lesson do you feel like hit the hardest that you didn't expect? Like, damn, I didn't know it was gonna hit like that. Like, I was cool with what I needed to do in that moment, but fuck.
SPEAKER_01I get life, yeah. Oh man. Um for me, I don't even put that on like romantic relationships and stuff, but like family boundaries have been really interesting for me. Um and like sometimes people's families are just not perfect, right? And that don't mean like I'm talking like not about success and wealth as a family, but just dynamic, you know, and taking away that sometimes it's not healthy and realizing that that doesn't dictate who you will be and what kind of family you will have. Um, and then also not letting that break me, you know, like I don't have the best relationship with people in my family all the time. Like it'd be up and down. And some people obviously are very close with members of their family. I'm not always. And that could be very depressing if I were to let that dictate, you know, how I feel love and how I, you know, but I've I've learned to very much understand that I create my own environment and my own peace and my own love. And that could be irrespective of sometimes family, sometimes friends, sometimes the relationship you have, because people be toxic and be accepting things and learning like what my peace looks like and trying to create that no matter what environment I'm in. And it was a hard lesson to come to, but once I got there, ain't nobody could shake me out of it. You know what I mean? But it was that was not an easy process, especially like you know, maturing and getting older. When I was younger, that was very different to understand.
SPEAKER_00Yeah.
SPEAKER_01But once I got it, um other people might not understand it, but it works for me. And it keeps me balanced. Yeah. Versus, you know, responding to other people's behaviors, no matter who they are. Yeah. Yeah.
SPEAKER_02I think I mirrored that sentiment very closely. Um, me and my sister, my older sister. Um like she knows I don't fuck with our family. Like, she knows it. Like, bitch, I don't even know why she talked to them people. Like, and I really feel like when I see other dynamics of families and my friends, like I got a great girlfriend here, and her parents are always doing something at the house. They always invite me. Oh, we do the this annual whatever at the park every year come through. My dad's gonna have an RV, we're gonna do da-da-da. Oh, it's my parents' 40th, da-da-da. Like, I love to see it. Yes. Because I don't have that. And I'm okay with it now, but I always knew that I would create the family that I wanted. And I found that in friendship. Yes. I found that in friendship. And I think the hardest lesson for me was um the hurt you feel when you're disrespected by people you love.
SPEAKER_01Oh, yeah.
SPEAKER_02Um, and once again, you know, I I I'm straight lace, no chase. I'm cold turkey. I know. My favorite baby cousin I stopped fucking with, you're disrespectful. You didn't even disrespect me. You disrespected my home. You were disrespectful to a guest in my home in front of my mother. I'm sleep. I don't know this is happening. Then I catch a stray in the in the midst of you disrespecting somebody in my home in front of my mama. And I know it happened because my mama told me verbatim would happen. And then my best friend told me verbatim would happen. And you got too much pride to just be like, I'm sorry, because I was tweaked out, whatever. People cannot say sorry. People have a hard time atoning, accepting, and apologizing. Like true apology. True apology. And guess what? Then like self-correct. I don't have time for that. That's a boundary for me. I don't fuck with nobody who can't look in the mirror and be like, I was fucked up in that situation, gee. I'm sorry. Like I shouldn't have done that. I I will tell a motherfucker when I'm wrong because I feel convicted. Yeah, I can't live with that conviction on my chest, on my heart. Yeah. It's in the pit of my stomach. Yeah. I know when I was wrong. Even if I don't know in that moment, I wake up the next morning. I'm like, yeah. And I actually had to do that a couple weeks ago. I was having a conversation with a friend about a guy that she met on the apps or whatever who doesn't live here. And um, he had some things about him that I'm like, I don't think this is what God said for you. And I feel like she was a little defensive about it because she probably starting to like him more than she's leading on, which I didn't know. And I could tell by her defensiveness at the end of the night. So the next morning, I woke up and called her and I was like, hey Boo, I just want to say I'm sorry. I could tell that there was a shift in the conversation. And I didn't realize how much you are actually tapped in with this guy. Yeah. So I wasn't saying it to be nasty. I just want the best for you, and I know your heart and I know what you want. Yeah. So in the midst of you telling me some not so favorable things that are like the opposite of what I know your heart wants, correct? I might have been overstepping on how I was communicating that, and I'm sorry. Yeah. She was like, you know what? Thank you. Yeah. Because that's real friendship. Yeah. That's really considerate of you. And we moved on. We're not finna fall out over a nigga. We don't know. Nigga, don't even live here. Don't met on the apps. You know, I'm not finna, we're not finna fall out over that. But I was wrong. I could, I could see that there was a disposition and a change in your body language and in the way you were reacting to what I said. And I didn't sleep. And that was your intention. Yeah, and I didn't sleep well that night. And the next morning I called my friend. And we was like, girl, it ain't nothing. You know, she knows my heart. Yeah. And that's why I said when people know your heart, people that's closest to you, that's supposed to love you and take care of you and protect you don't. That's a boundary for me. Like, you're weird as fuck. Blood or not, get the fuck off.
SPEAKER_01Exactly. Please get the fuck off. It's unfortunate, but it's true. It's not an excuse, you know. Like, I've seen people that have those friendships and they talk about sisterhoods. But being in a sisterhood or having somebody you call your sister does not give you an excuse to treat them worse because they're going to forgive you anyway. I always believe that means you give them even more care because you don't want to hurt them and you want to make sure that you treat them with care so that it doesn't reach that level because they're your sister, not because, oh, she's gonna forgive me. Yeah.
SPEAKER_02I have to learn that the hard way. I I had a um, I'm I'm the baby in my family. And you know, you mirrored, you know, just like your big brother pick on you, on the little brother, the big sister is mean to the little sister. Me and my my blood sister had that dynamic. So when I gained my first friend that I saw as family, um, she's younger and she's the little sister and she does little sister shit. And I would be so annoyed by her, like, like just like how you annoyed with your little sister. It is. And I used to be so fucking mean to her. And I would never forget, like, I ended up apologizing for her years later, like after through maturing, like, but I used to have moments because it's like, bitch, you should know better. Like, you it's that annoyance that's like you should know better. Don't piss me off. Like, the fuck. Um, but once again, like life is about learning, loving, and growing. And I think it's the the work within yourself. So yeah, even having those friendships that stand the test of time, like, no, I wasn't a perfect big sister to her, just like my big sister wasn't perfect to me. I was only doing what I only knew, which was my sister being mean. So I was like mean, I was so mean to my baby. And that's really my I wasn't bullying her, but I would just be so annoyed with her. And she was really green. Yeah, she came from fucking Washington State to LA. Like, this is a whole different ball game, bitch. We're in the streets. Yeah. We live in Hollywood, literally right off the boulevard, bitch. Like, get with it. These these bitches is some trick ass hoes. They not your friends. Like, I would be like, you actually that kind of like, what the fuck? You know what I mean? Um, but like I said, I think it's the self-work and having true love for someone where it's, you know, reflective of being like, I need to be better. I really love this girl. You know, that's really my dog. Look at us. Learning, loving, growing. What boundary changed your life? Like, when did you, for real, for real, be like, oh shit, shit is in motion when I be doing that. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Let me put these boundaries up.
SPEAKER_01Cutting brothers off. Um, it's it's true. Like, you know, when you hit them with the firm no, like, I don't give much of a reaction. Like, I say what I said. So once it's over and they realize like I'm not really fucking with them, I'm not calling, no, I don't care. Even if I'm bored, I'm not hitting you with the what you're doing. I that boundary of like keeping those people out, and it's it's them people that don't choose me fully, right? Because if you if you whip me, then you whip me. It's it's those people on the outskirts when they realize where it's like, no, I don't care. Like the same attention because you want it from me, and I don't give it in the form of like I'm non-existent. That that response, when necessary, very much has garnered the reaction that I need because I need to cut you off just the same way. Because if you weren't porn, you would have been in the circle. You are not in the circle. Right. You on the island. You are not in the circle. You are not. You got kicked off the island a long time ago. Okay. Um, but for me, for me and how I operate, setting those boundaries where it's like, no, I'm not communicating and giving energy to it. That's also the Virgo in me though. But I just don't even invest in it. Like, I like to keep my space like clear and clean. Like, we're gonna declutter this motherfucker. Yeah. I like to declutter my shit. We're minimalists over here. Listen, what gotta go? What gotta go for donation this week? That kick it out. I Even want no extra take it to the salvation army, you know. Sofa and table, kitchen tech done.
SPEAKER_02You know what? That's what's wrong. Niggas ain't going to the army no more. That's that's what's wrong. They scare. Motherfuckers send these pack these niggas up and send them off to the army. That's what's wrong. They need a draft. Didn't wait, hold on. Didn't Trump say he's breaking that shit, but he would. He would say some crazy whoa. On that note. Don't even talk about that motherfucker. What does peace in your body feel like?
SPEAKER_01Calmness, um, quiet noise, right? Um, I am most definitely a born and bred overthinker. Um and it helps me in in the workspace, but literally just being calm and not having to think and not worrying, you know, that definitely is what it feels like to me, not having to second guess, because I will second guess quarterback, arithmetic, like all of it if I'm not sure. Or I'm like trying to like question what you're doing, which I don't want to do. Like, please, please make it be like I don't even have to guess. So that calmness in me and that ability to take some tension out my shoulders is something that I look forward to. We still, you know, I'm still trying to find it. But when I do have that and I'm not worried, and even that's even like even being single, when I'm not worried, it's very much like lack of tension, lack of like on edge. Like, you know, you come home, I still got my suit on. Like it's nice to be able to like take your hair down, take your bra off, whatever the case. You know what I mean?
SPEAKER_02Love taking my bra off, bitch. Take it off as soon as I hit the door.
SPEAKER_00It'd be like me taking my contacts out with my glasses on, bitch, my coke bottles or something.
SPEAKER_02Yeah. Once some glasses come on, I'll be like, oh, you're comfortable. Oh, I'm comfortable. Four eyes.
SPEAKER_01Yes, all four of them motherfuckers. Makeup off. When the makeup comes off, who is this bitch? Give me some sweatpants and a big t-shirt. What? Yeah, some shit that don't fit.
SPEAKER_02Yeah, but yes. I love that. I know like rummaging around in some big ass sweats. Listen, swinging, right? She's swinging. Teddy swinging, ass swinging, just in the house swinging. Solo, just out here. Don't give a fuck.
SPEAKER_00I came with you. Draws all in your ass. My CIA ain't nobody in this movie. It's all right. That is peace. That is peace. That's when your body finds peace. That's when your body files peace. Oh my God.
SPEAKER_01Well, okay, question for you. Where in life did you stop overexplaining something? That is so fucking good. And to who? Like, if there's a group where it was like, I don't need to explain this to y'all.
SPEAKER_02Yeah. So that that just happened in recent years. Um, I'm a Libra, I'm a people pleaser. I am an empath. I can feel when something's off in the room. I want to make sure that person's okay. Like, I'm the friend that, like, if we're in a big group and everybody's kicking who hi and I feel like somebody is not present, like, I pick up on the lip side. So for me, being a um people pleaser, you tend to overexplain because you want people to know you're coming from a good place, you know, always. Um, but uh probably it was definitely when I moved to Chicago. I would say probably about four years ago, I got to a point where I was like, um, yeah, the answer is just no. No is the fucking answer. No is a complete sentence. You know? Um, and then I also stopped overly committing early. Um, because I'm the type of person now I gotta go because I gave my word and my word is all I got damn got. And now I don't even really want to go because I committed to this shit three weeks ago. You know? Um, but I stopped overexplaining probably like four years ago. I just got to a point where I was like, for fucking what? Yeah. Why am I explaining this to anybody? I get it. The answer is no, or the answer is yes, or the answer is whatever the fuck the answer is. But I'm not going on a rant just so you can feel good and have peace. So it makes me have peace when the answer is the answer.
SPEAKER_00Yeah.
SPEAKER_02I said what I said. I said what I said, and that's just that. I get it. I truly get it for sure. And it changed my life, I feel like. I felt like once again, because I don't even like a lot of questions. Why am I overly answering this shit? So, like once again, it ties back into like the question. I'm don't question. Yeah, yeah. For me, that that that was a big, big thing. That was a big thing. No over-explaining. Yeah, none. Um how do you feel urgency and the have to do it now, have to get it now affects peace and boundaries? Like, I feel like we live in such a state of urgency all the time, right? Everything gotta be now. Everything gotta be, you know, I gotta get to this, I gotta do this. Like, how do you feel like that has tied in to you finding peace? Or do you still live in a state of urgency?
SPEAKER_01Oof, well, you know, for me, I I don't personally choose to live in a state of urgency. However, God in science somehow believes that there's an imaginary clock behind me that is ticking, you know, for the things that I want in life. But I don't like the concept of approaching things with like haste and urgency. So I've had to like reconfigure that whole thing. Like I've thought about what does it look like if I have a baby without somebody that I'm in a relationship with? You know, like I don't want to force it, but I also know it's important to me and I know that it's gonna get increasingly difficult. And it's not easy having a baby at a later age and the the the onus it puts on the woman to get creative and you know, hormones and shoot your stomach up every day. Like it's it's it's hard. And it's wear and tear on women, you know, and I also want to be around to be like jumping around for the child that I have, right? Like I'm not trying to wait till 50, Janet Jackson. Oh my God. You know, and and and be like, you know, I'm in the wheelchair at the eighth grade graduation, you know. So it's important for me to embrace it while I'm ready to, even if it's not with the husband that I haven't found yet, right? And I've had to have that real life dialogue by myself because I don't want the urgency. Because there's there's things that make me inclined to be urgent, but that's also not the way to make a decision or a choice. And I don't want that pressure on me, the other person, or choosing the wrong motherfucker because of it. Yeah. You know, so I definitely, as with age and and being a woman, if I was a dude, I wouldn't give a fuck. Because you don't have to. You could have a baby at fucking 90 if you a dude. Didn't Jenny's crazy. Robert De Niro just had like a baby at like hell yeah, he did. 82, right? I'm like, okay, all right, Robert, I love you know your movies. Um so You don't like black. Yeah, listen, good fellas is my shit. Um, but I it's it's not urgency on my part, but you know, is I'm I can't ignore it if that's what I want. If I said I don't care about kids, then I would then go ahead. But I I'd be foolish to ignore the fact that if I want to have a baby naturally, that it's it's something I have to create a priority for. But I don't want to put anybody else in my urgency. Like I don't want to impose that on anyone. Yeah.
SPEAKER_02I'm not projecting it on anything.
SPEAKER_01Yeah, I'm not just letting y'all know that I plan on having this child with or without you within X amount of time. Yeah, and I don't even lead with it. Like, because most people don't even believe I'm as old as I am when they see me, but it's also very much like, no, that's real. And I might not say it, but in the midst of the conversation, I am most definitely listening and assessing, you know, what your priorities are right now. And if I hear something that is the opposite of mine, I'm like, no, pleasure to meet you. It's been great, but I know this is not for me. I'm not leading with like, you know, the big thing on my forehead, like, I need kids and I need a husband. Looking for my baby daddy. Correct. I don't do that. But if we're talking and I hear you, I'll be like, oh, yeah, really? Whoa. Mmm. Note it. Note it. Right on top of it, Rose. Right on top of it, Rose. That number is no longer in my phone. You know, like I just know I don't take this seriously. But it's it's it's in the back of my mind. Um, but I know like you're in a different place. Like, are there things where urgency has come in for you? Yeah. Or not.
SPEAKER_03Yeah.
SPEAKER_01Um in terms of peace, because that can mean different things.
SPEAKER_02I think for me, I I'm also like a perfectionist. So my urgency is like my day-to-day stuff. I think I still have things that I want done and I want them done now, but I also understand divine timing. That's why I'm just like, listen, I want it to be done right and I want it to be done right the first time. Like you said, not choosing the wrong partner. Yep. Not choosing something because this is, you know what I mean? So for me. Settling for less than what you deserve.
SPEAKER_01Yeah, absolutely. And happiness, right? Absolutely. I say being compatible. You know, like I'm not about to choose some, like I'm gonna have to be able to every day. That one dick you we talking about, that little, you know, all that's the whole time the whole time. You know, that husband's like, like it gotta be right. So, like, they nothing they'd be that gonna just pick. I I will literally be like, get out of here. Like, I'll like please beat it. Beat it. Beat it. So I love even about to choose the like I wanna make, you know, the right decision because I I too will be like, uh, get out of here.
SPEAKER_02Totally. Kick rocks, totally. And I feel like when you release timelines and when you release urgency, it doesn't mean that you don't want love. It doesn't mean you don't want those things, but I do think that you don't need chaos to feel alive. You don't need urgency and chaos to feel alive. I feel like I have more joy now, like, you know, true joy in just knowing that everything will be fine and everything will happen when it's supposed to happen. Exactly. I agree.
SPEAKER_01Yeah. If it happens quicker, I'm not mad at it. Right.
SPEAKER_02Well, that's what we say, like, yeah, yeah. Because we both want the same things in life. I think we want them on different timelines. That's why I say we in a different place. Yeah. If I meet my husband when we walk out of here, I am ready. Oh, yeah. But I'm also okay with fucking around and finding out for another year. You know what I'm saying? Like, like I'm not in this urgent place to go get a man and I gotta, because listen, I think what people confuse when they see women who are single and that look like we do is that we can't get a man. No, niggas love us. We don't want them. We are choosing correctly. I could have had a boyfriend yesterday. I just don't last night. I had about four. I didn't what was going on in the place. I said, oh shit. I chose to remove myself. I chose.
unknownOkay.
SPEAKER_02But but you know what I mean? We're not urging to pick the wrong partner. No, you know, I rather be by myself and continue to achieve my goals and my ambition and knock stuff off. Because listen, once I get with someone, that's it. I'm no, I will be sharing my life for the rest of my life that I have left on this earth. So I truly I think that there's joy and gratitude and being okay and having solitude with yourself. So really, I tell you, I'll be having a ball. And this don't even have nothing to do with men or sleep around. This is just me being like, I'll be having so much fun. I don't have kids. I gotta go home to do shit. Look at my dog died a couple years ago, rest his soul. I gotta come and take his ass out. I be outside having the time of my life. It'd be like me and the homegirls just living, eating, drinking, martinis, bring us another one. Bring the steak with truffle butter, pre-sliced, medium. That double baked potato with the truffle on it. Slide baked with ricotta and truffle. Like, girl, be having a horseradish cream. You know, you know I gotta have a horseradish cream. I don't eat a steak without it. If Ben ain't got it, check please. Check, please. Listen, I I totally get it for sure. What does choosing yourself look like now?
SPEAKER_01Ooh, me first.
SPEAKER_02Uh who else was I talking to? No, listen.
SPEAKER_01I I do believe if it ain't for me, it's a distraction. So I'm always gonna put myself first and I'm always gonna be selfish to my own needs because the person for me, I'm investing time in. So if you're not that, it's a distraction from me and my goals and what I got going on. Like I got work, I have, I have other hobbies, I have family, I have things going on that I need to take care of. And if you're not contributing to that in a full, complete, you know, and reciprocal way, you're a distraction. And and that choosing me first is choosing me first, choosing my friends first, choosing my core, my circle first, choosing the people in my family first, then if that person comes and you you enter the circle. But everything else is a distraction. To me, it's a distraction. If it ain't that. Or we're having fun. Yeah. Yeah. But we're keeping you there, you know, but I'm choosing what's important to me first by all means. Because otherwise you're taking time away from shit that I should be invested in. Yeah. And that what that's what matters. And we ain't got a bunch of time out here.
SPEAKER_02Yeah. I feel like my last situationship, because secretly it broke my heart. But I will say, um, but not like fully broken, but like, oh, I really like you mostly. Disappointed. Yeah. A little yeah. But I say, you know what? Everybody else be doing what the fuck is best for them. When am I gonna start doing what's best for me? Why am I still trying to please people when they're hurting me? You know what I mean? Why am I still trying to bow gracefully? I hate being a graceful bitch sometimes. I ain't gonna even lie. I'm such a fucking class act. I really am. You are. Niggas love me because I'm a class. But you be wanting to flip the tape. Gosh, I told you, I I admire crash outs. I want to be a crash out so fucking bad, but I have so much pride. Yeah. I'll never let you know. Yeah, I wouldn't. I was about to say, you're never gonna see that. Yes, but I'd be, ooh. But like I told I I said this, you know, in the earlier episode, like that's my superpower too, because a motherfucker don't know what to think. Because I'm too, I'm too cool about it. It'd be like, did he even did she even like me? For real? No. What the fuck? This bitch was kissing me on the forehead when she was leaving in the morning.
SPEAKER_01I've told you that fucking Eddie Murphy and the sheets and boomerang.
SPEAKER_02Tell you. I I've lived the real life boomerang. I'm like Bill Bellamy, how to be a player, but not not whore ish. Well, except that part at the end where he gets caught because that's that don't really happen. But yeah, but not like the whore shit, but just like Yeah, no.
SPEAKER_01You know, somebody for everything. Devily Robin Gibbons in fucking boomerang.
SPEAKER_02Yeah, yeah.
SPEAKER_01Yeah. You thought this was something. Oh.
SPEAKER_02So sad. But I think I think living intentionally too plays a big part in choosing myself. Because at this point in my life, if it doesn't make me feel good, if it ain't fun, if it's not bringing me happiness, I like to laugh, bitch. You you see me, I be in my room cackling. You like, what happened? I'll be in the room like bitch, nothing. I'm over here fucking having a ball. Exactly. It's my dark and bowl. Eight o'clock in the morning, cackling. Sounding like smoky mama, bitch, every fucking morning. And I live alone, so I just be there. Like just screaming. Echoing in these. Echoing. Echoing. Um, what are you no longer available for, Miss Yuri? I feel like you be cutting shit. Not an unavailable DD. D. I should be loving it.
SPEAKER_01Not even, I don't even, it's not even a block. Like, I like out of sight, out of mind. I literally, you don't exist. Like it'd be on some. What number is this? Um, I'm good for a DD. I'm good for uh the people that are gonna call and get through are the ones that are supposed to call and get through. Everybody else, what you call my phone for. I don't I don't know why you're calling. Like text me first. Um But I yeah, I just I just don't make myself available for the bullshit. The fuck boys. I just don't I don't entertain like you bullshitting me. Like, you know, I think a lot of dudes be on some bullshit, like you playing in my face. And I'm not even saying like on a serious relationship tip, but I'm like, you know you ain't serious, you know you full of shit. Like you know you probably got a girl at home, you know, like you just trying to fuck. Like whatever it is, it's like, bro, I like I'm a criminal defense attorney. Like I I read people for a living. Literally. Like, so like I'm like, you you you think you're doing a great job at this, but you're full of shit. Yeah. But like have a nice day though. Like somebody's gonna think that this is really, you know, like you top notch. And I'm like, no, you ain't fooling nobody. So I just I see a lot of that, and I just don't make myself available for it. We cut those conversations short. Yeah. Moving right along. Yeah. Moving right along.
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SPEAKER_01Respectfully. What are some red flags that you no longer debate? Like when they pop up, you like I feel like you'd be like, way.
SPEAKER_02You be like, let me say carnival.
SPEAKER_00Exactly.
SPEAKER_02You'd be like, it's like a Trinidad plan, bitch. You know, yeah. Take me. I absolutely will not debate a stingy man. I love the generous man. It makes me uncomfortable. Like, I know I bring this up a lot, but it's such a big part of my world. I think bitches be like, oh, I'm a foodie. No, bitch, you just greedy. I'm like, Mitch, you're just fucking greedy. Hot wings don't make you a foodie, bitch. What could you talk about? Mozzarella sticks. Um, triple dipper ass bitch. I'm such a foodie. You like pasta, Olive Garden ass bitch. That should do be no, no, I'm never there's nothing. There's two places I'm never too good for. Miss them southwest egg rolls at Ryan. Never too good for. Red lobster, never too good for. Check a baby biscuit ass. And I gonna lie, the Nashville Hot Mozzarella stick. Never too good for. No, is my stomach gonna be fucked up? Yes, but I'm taking the digestive enzyme as soon as I go in because I'm sitting at the booth. Yes, I'm at the booth, bitch. I need space.
SPEAKER_00I won't take the car and say you fucking happy birthday in that motherfucker.
SPEAKER_02I'm like, oh, Brianna here. Having a fucking 40. Her fucking birthday is fucking. Wait, I wouldn't be the person to turn chilies out. I'm not because all they take is for somebody to hit my mind like when you got they get chilies off the bottom.
SPEAKER_00Class this shit up.
SPEAKER_01Ultimate margaritas in this motherfucker with patron.
SPEAKER_02They come in that like bowl-like margarita. It's not even real glass, it's acrylic, so it's all scratching your ear because they didn't put it through the water. Have chilies cracking and what? Fucking 2 p.m. on a Sunday. Like, where the fuck is this bitch? Of course. Leave it to me. Looking up telling him not to let people do that.
SPEAKER_00Where's the door man? You want to be out there? Let me see your ID. So that bitch goes outside, waiting live. Waiting live. Zero degrees. Who forgot ropes on the fucking?
SPEAKER_02All right, I'm fucking I'm done with you. Oh crying now. Velvet rope chilies the fuck out. Red carpet. Thank you. All right. Oh my god. But the red flag is stinginess. You know, I'm really big on food and beverage. And I can tell when a nigga's cheap at dinner. I can tell when there's some hesitation for me to get another drink. Bitch, I'll buy it. Put my shit on another chat. Matter of fact, I'm out of here. No. Like I can tell. I can tell when someone is cheap. I do not like a stingy man because that means you don't live a life of abundance. You live in scarcity, motherfucker. And uh I don't, so bye.
SPEAKER_01Well, that I think that's what also because if if me and my homegirl will go out on a Tuesday and order, you know, appetizer, entree, multiple sides. Like, because we're we enjoy food and we enjoy life and we are. You see me eating caviar and drinking champagne, nigga. Correct. Don't take me nowhere, stupid. So if if we spoil ourselves and we have that experience with ourselves, why on earth would we incorporate another person to drag that down?
SPEAKER_02Listen, the only way, listen, the only way that I'm okay with some other shit. For example, I'm not from Chicago. If I meet a nigga from the South Side and he like, yo, not our first date. We've already been kicking. We establish something. Oh, yeah. Oh no. You gotta go to Boothie. That's a chicken wing spot right now. And they gotta be getting crack. Like, don't get a twist on that. This ain't about me being a little good for a mom and pop. This ain't that. What I'm saying is that that first date, stingy, weird shit. I'm not talking about you seeing a dude and he's showing you around the way and y'all go up to the store. No, no, that's not it. Pick up the joint and get a certain kind of soda, because that's like what they oh, this is a hood classic. Like, you know, put me on.
SPEAKER_01Like, I want to know that. Put me on. What's her name? Rihanna was just in the the freaking seafood spot and hard on that. Everybody go to when the night over and you pick out your seafood and they seen that put that cases. He's like, as you, Rihanna and Aceap Rocky, like ASAP was like, let me show you. Let me take you to the spot. You posted up on the side, like it, like, you know, they got the bulletproof glass. Yes. But please take me there. I want to go tomorrow because seafood be cracking. Yeah. You know, but that's but we're not talking about.
SPEAKER_02I'm not taking you to the Roscoe's in Hollywood, nigga. We're going to the Roscoe's on the brain. Listen.
SPEAKER_01Oh, we're going everywhere. You're going to take me out, bro.
SPEAKER_02I want all the foods when I go out there. You got to show me all the foods. We're going to Herald and Bell's. Like we get some soul food. We're going to Eminem's. Like, we're going, I gotta take you to Ramona's. Ramona's best burrito, authentic Mexican in the city. I love it. I heard y'all. Like y'all have the best. Ramona's is a hood classic. Ramona's is su Saturday after dance class. Go get your hair done. And then moms pick up a burrito. So by the time you get out the chair, because now your sister got to get in the chair. Listen. Beef and green chili burrito. I like beef and red chili, but yeah. We're gonna try both. Shout out to Ramona's on Western. I'm excited. So, Yuri? Yes. I have to ask you, my love. What is your biggest takeaway from our first season of Don't Piss Me Off podcast?
SPEAKER_01Oh, um, biggest takeaway, and you you touched on it, just like openness and vulnerability and sharing and realizing that we are not the only ones that have the same experiences and discussions. And you could hear, you know, the same story a bunch of ways from one person, and then sometimes it just clicks the way somebody else says it. I think the way that we've been able to share our stories in the way that we share our stories and how it's been received by people has been truly a blessing. And um, I'm grateful for that because, you know, sometimes when I entered into this, I'm like, because as a lawyer, you know, I have to be very much one way, you know, most times in court. But it means you'd be talking shit, right? So it's it's it's it's been a great experience talking shit with my friend and other women and men talking shit out there, like, yo, we'd be saying the same fucking shit, you know. And I just that has been a great takeaway for me and just like allowing me to be myself in different ways. Because I'm in myself and like I'm different per people, you know, depending on where I am, it's all of me. But letting this side of me have a platform with my great, great friend, and it's just been the world seeing us talk shit like we be on the couch. Yeah. I love that for us. That's my takeaway. It's been I'm grateful for that. What about you?
SPEAKER_02Uh, I think season one takeaway, and it's something I've always known, but I think putting yourself out there is hard. You know, there's all these questions about what if no one likes it, what if this, what is that, what if that. Um, but like I said, I live a life of abundance, so I'm not worried about that. This season has taught me I am exactly who I think I am. And more. And more. I'm exactly who I think I am. I am becoming her, I see her, and I'm just so grateful to God for allowing me to have the space and the audacity to go after everything I fucking want. I get everything I want. I really do. Every time. I get everything I want in life. Every time. It might come differently, it might come at a different time, but I always get what I want. And it's because I work for what I want. I I set my mind on things. And I knew I wanted something in 2026. I didn't know that God was gonna bring me you you. I didn't know that we were just gonna hit it off and just be like, oh my God, I love you. Right. And here I am again, getting what I want. I got a new friend. Yes. Like a lifer. You know what I'm saying? I got a new business partner out of it. Absolutely. That I did not expect, you know. So this season taught me I'm exactly who I think I am.
SPEAKER_01There you go. Never second guess it. And I I love that we are both growing and adapting, right? Like I think it was, I also didn't know that I would meet you, but it was like, oh, now that we did, this is what we're doing. Yeah. You know, and and growing in that friendship and union together, I think has been a learning experience, but also just growth, like we'll you said we only going up. Yeah, you know, and I love that for us.
SPEAKER_02What is something that you think women should stop tolerating so that they can find peace and find the prize in peace?
SPEAKER_01Oh it's I I don't I think it's more so being inward, like look inward, right? Like I think your first responsibility is to yourself and growth in yourself and comfort with yourself. So I don't even put like tolerance on other people. Like, I like to be so self-accountable, reliant, you know, that be so sure of yourself and your decisions and the happiness and your choices that it don't matter what other motherfuckers are saying. Yeah. You know, like if you like are so comfortable in how you feel and why you did it, by all means, and this I'm not saying be like me, be like yourself, then it will be nothing to tolerate because your skin won't even be able to tolerate that change if it doesn't align with who you are, you know. So I just think self-focus and not like selfishness, but just like making sure you good first. Making sure you good first, all that other shit will come.
SPEAKER_03Yeah.
SPEAKER_01Because then it won't matter. You'll you'll create your own piece. Yeah. You know, and then the the tolerance level will just immediately get lower.
SPEAKER_02A hundred percent. I like that. I think that was the closing note. My girls leaving the girls with wisdom.
SPEAKER_01Listen, okay. Self-love. Self-love. And no matter, I would say too, like, no matter what stage of life you're in, it's the same responsibility for yourself and for others, right? Like we still being accountable at 20, you being accountable in your 30s, you're being accountable at 40. When I'm an old bitch in my 60s, you're still growing just different ways and keeping that same responsibility yourself to keep that peace for yourself.
SPEAKER_02I love that. Yes. Well, you guys, peace is always going to be the prize. We are so grateful for you tuning in to the entire season of Don't Piss Me Off podcast. Today is our finale, and we cannot wait to see you all again next season. My name is Brianna.
SPEAKER_01My name is Yuri. It has been such a great season with you guys. As you should know, same thing every time. Follow us on Instagram, TikTok, YouTube. We have that Spotify out there. Email us because we're gonna keep active all through while we're preparing for the next season. Info at don'tpissmeoff pod.com. It has been the utmost pleasure. We can't wait to see you next season. And until next season, Brianna tell them. Well, first, I think we need to toast.
SPEAKER_02Come on. With our Bombay spritz. Oh, delicious. Absolutely. Until next time, you guys, please don't piss me off. Cheers.
SPEAKER_03Cheers.