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Your Life Doesn't Match Your Standards
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In Episode 6, Bryana and Yuri dive into the gap between what you say you want and what you actually do. This episode reframes “standards” as lived behavior, not wishes, and challenges listeners to build a life that reflects their true standards through daily discipline, honest self-assessment, and accountable action.
Welcome to the Don't Piss Me Off podcast. If you like black girl brilliance, unfiltered opinions, and real talk, you're in the right place. My name is Brianna.
SPEAKER_00And my name is Yuri. Last time we talked about being replaceable. Today, our episode is your life does not match your standards. Brianna?
SPEAKER_01That's a word. Because I think we as people desire certain things in life, but our habits are not a reflection of the things that we desire.
SPEAKER_00We are not looking in the mirror.
SPEAKER_01Totally. And it's empowering because I'm going through that right now and like kind of going through my own transformation. But I think, you know, it's going to definitely take real reflection. It's going to take changing habits in your daily activity. It's going to be hard because you're going to have to set real standards and hold yourself accountable to those standards. And also, you know, you have to make sure that the life that you want to build aligns with where you're at right now. There you go. Are you actually building a life that aligns or are you just talking about one? Right. Or you you fronting like you live in the life that's aligned and you really not. That's the one. That's the one. Fronting. Fronting. Literally. Speaking of fronting, I'm gonna put you on front street or pissed you off this week.
SPEAKER_00We we on brand. Literally, people that be complaining about something but don't want to do nothing about it. Like you you mad that you you gain a little weight, but you don't want to go to the gym. Right. Like your jeans don't fit, but you don't want to go on a diet. But you complain and everything's a problem, and you have to choose your hard. I feel like people have to choose your hard. Like you either you're gonna complain about it or you're gonna do something about it. You're gonna let it become an insecurity or you're gonna you're gonna do something to fix it. You know, I just uh please stop complaining if you ain't gonna do nothing about it. Then let it be. Please shut the fuck up. Shut it up.
SPEAKER_01Yeah.
SPEAKER_00I'm I'm quick to be like, just shut the fuck up.
SPEAKER_01You ain't finna do shit about it. Thank you.
SPEAKER_00Just shut the fuck up. Stop. Girl. Girl, don't piss me off.
SPEAKER_01What pissed you off this week, girl? You know what? I feel like when people have high standards and high expectations, but they're meeting it with low alignment and low vibration. Because make it make sense. You know, I think for you to put so much value on certain things, but then you're not doing the inner work of what it takes, it's weird. Yeah. It's almost like when you see people who are like superficial. Yes. You know, like designer this, designer that. Bitch, you can't spell the shit and you don't even know how to say it right. You know, you want to be materialistic with no materials. Everything make sense. Like you think you're cultured because of whatever designer you're wearing, whole time you can't read. Or whole time you ordering chicken fingers and french fries. You ordering chicken fingers and french fries. Like literally. That really annoys the friends. I'm a second that one on you. Yeah, that that's just week too. Yeah, it's just lame to me. It's lame. It's just like, you know, I'm not saying we have to take interest in the same things. What I put value on, maybe you don't. But how you out here wearing this and that, this and that, and can't say the designer's name. Correct. Or, like you said, you know, we go to a restaurant, you can't read the damn menu, let alone you steady hollering what you don't eat, and it shit you ain't even tried is on here. Like, you know, I that just really fucking annoys me. You want to wear designer, but you're not cultured. Like you want to wear a designer, but you're eating McDonald's. What was the point of getting your body done if you were gonna put the poison back in it? Listen, because you don't want to go to the gym to work out, you just want to anyway.
SPEAKER_00Yeah. And you can't buy that, right? But that goes aligned with like you you are preaching about what standard you are and how high class and high high maintenance and you know, high value you are, but there is no value. Yeah, there's there's no bones, there's no foundation. There's no substance.
SPEAKER_01Why is it substantial? You're lacking the substance. The foods you eat have no substance, or is it sustenance?
SPEAKER_00They gotta they gotta look it up on AI to see what it is. They don't know what the fuck it is.
SPEAKER_01No, but seriously, it's like I feel like you know, it sounds good, but if you're not reflecting any of that, none of that, none of that is coming to you. It's it's really it's really whack. I hate it.
SPEAKER_00No, like you've talked about this before. We've talked about it. You wanting a disciplined partner, you want somebody that's making the money that is focused on themselves and successful, but are you disciplined? Right. You know, you want emotional maturity, but you're not, you're not talking to the lady. Right.
SPEAKER_01Oh, that's that's the perfect one for me because you know, we get a lot of feedback and comments when we start talking about, you know, money and you know, why wouldn't a successful person want to date other successful people? And there's especially when as it pertains to men, bitch, they be so fucking upset on the internet because we are in leadership roles and we desire someone who also is equally successful. Same mindset, you know, and and I don't I don't judge how nobody makes their money. It'll be different if I'm sitting up here on my ass, not doing shit for a fucking living, and then I'm demanding that a man gotta have money to fuck with me. What I'm saying is I maintain my own lifestyle. So what I desire is someone who maintains their own lifestyle.
SPEAKER_00Yeah, like we ain't the bottle girl asking for a billionaire.
SPEAKER_01Right. Because make it make sense, bitch. The billionaire not even up in that motherfucker. What you doing? He not go get his bottle. Yeah, bringing sparklers in this motherfucker. Like, seriously, though, and there's nothing wrong with being, you know, a person in the service industry. I come from the service industry and a very proud hospitality girl. But at the same time, you know, bitch, you're wearing next to nothing, but demanding a man who in a three-piece suit, six days out the goddamn week, but you want him to value you like you're on his level. Correct. That's fucking crazy. Yeah. And it's not about judging what you do, it's are you reflecting the thing that you want and that you want to attract? Make it make sense. So that's why you fucking with the D-boy. And ain't nothing wrong with that.
SPEAKER_00Correct.
SPEAKER_01You know, that's what you're attracting. That's who's in your environment.
SPEAKER_00Yeah. Yeah. And uh, I'm gonna say something about that. Because even the back end of it, like when the D-boy trying to talk to me, I'm like, you you see me in a suit Monday through Friday. He wants you to be his attorney, bitch. You want to be a client by all means. Call me from the jail.
SPEAKER_01Call me from the jail. I will send a report. I love when I call you and you like, hold on, girl, I'm walking into the jail. I'm gonna call you back.
SPEAKER_00Be right out. I'll be right back.
SPEAKER_01So ghetto and so cool.
SPEAKER_00Okay. Give me a couple minutes. Let me go get searched real quick. Um, but no, like it's like same thing, like that mirror. Y'all need to turn the mirror on yourselves too. Like, are you like, don't come, like we ain't on, we ain't the same. You know it. Listen.
SPEAKER_01You know, this ain't what you want. Yeah. You know this ain't what you won't. Don't come over here with that. Just say you admire me from afar. Exactly. I can appreciate that.
SPEAKER_00Like, even like a question, not for because we know this, but would your ideal partner choose you? That's what people need to be asking.
SPEAKER_01Listen, like, we know what you want, but would they choose you? And not choose. The woman you are right now. And if not, what are you doing to be the woman that deserves and attracts that? Absolutely. Absolutely.
SPEAKER_00And not big, we ain't talking about looks.
SPEAKER_01Yeah, that's the easy part. Looking good is easy. Bitches be broke looking good as shit because I know it. I used to be photo looking. Bitch, I don't never look like what I'm going through. I'll tell you that right now. I don't never look like what I'm going through. That's the fucking talent. However, I wasn't demanding shit when I didn't have shit. I was too busy trying to get my shit together. For sure. Seriously.
SPEAKER_00Listen.
SPEAKER_01But you wouldn't know it though. And I feel like, you know, the problem isn't necessarily the standard. It's it's what's been being built around it. You know, if this is given to you today, have you built a foundation that could withstand what you are asking for?
SPEAKER_00There you go. There you go. Like, are you creating that level of structure within yourself? Are you creating the habits, the routines to build what you're asking for?
SPEAKER_01Or are you gonna fumble?
SPEAKER_00Or are you gonna fumble the blessing? There's a lot fumble roosky.
SPEAKER_01I'm telling you. I'm telling you. But what I love about this episode, and we talk about this alignment, excuse me, and we talk about this a lot, which is alignment. You know, I feel like, you know, throughout the season, we always talk about dating, we always talk about ambition and healing, but all of that is a culmination of finally aligning with yourself and with the things that you want out of life, and also just curating the life around you. I think that's the best part about where I am now. You know, we always think about age and getting older and all this other stuff. And I'm like, actually, at 35, I have the people I want around me. I'm living in the place that I want to be living in, and great things are happening, and I am able to curate the world that I want to see and live in, regardless of what is actually happening beyond that, that I have no control of. But as far as what I can't control, I can control how I show up, I can control who I choose to be around, I can control what I do with my free will, I can control what I do in the workspace. And I think that is such a blessing. And I'm happy that I personally have made a decision to choose to show up like the person I want to be in the next two to three, four or five years versus who I was yesterday or last year.
SPEAKER_00Absolutely. And I like, and I because I know what you've done and the work you've put in to create that space, even like your even recent transitions and and changes that you're creating in your daily routine to like just move you towards your goals. And I'm so proud of you. Thank you. You know, because I see it and I and I know that it is working not only externally but internally for you in terms of just creating like this life you want to have, you know, and it shows, it's manifesting into different parts. Like when you, you know, make your diet cleaner and you create these regimens and these workouts, like you feel the difference in like mind, body, soul. I think people don't realize like sometimes it's not just about working out, sometimes it's about creating a routine for yourself where you are putting yourself as a priority, your health as a priority, um, how you look, how your your confidence and your self-esteem is based on like I'm gonna look as good as I feel. Yeah, absolutely.
SPEAKER_01No, it's it's bigger than that. Yes, and I truly, truly believe from the bottom of my heart. When you look good, you feel good, you do great. Like there's nothing better than walking in a room and knowing that my coochie smells good and it's free of any type of venereal disease, that I smell good, that my breath don't stink, that I'm well groomed every time, that I'm articulate, yes, and that I am showing up to add value and whatever comes of it or doesn't come of it, I'm okay with still being here and adding what I have to the fucking room.
SPEAKER_00And what I don't think people realize, and I'll I can speak with myself too, like that's our baseline, right? Like there's never gonna be a time where like we are not, you know, dressed, hair, nails, done, whatever it is. We both work out regularly, and that's like our baseline. That's we doing that for ourselves. Yes. Like, literally, the personality and the and the kicks you're gonna get when we start talking is is the icing on the cake. Like, like this is just part of who we are and us getting dressed for ourselves, yeah. You know, and making sure that we feel in our best selves, like regardless if somebody sees it or not, that's just the icing on the cake. By the time we show up, we just threw this on and we about to have a ball. Yeah, you know, you know what?
SPEAKER_01One of the lessons I learned, and I just started doing this two years ago. Now, don't get me wrong, I ain't never been a bonnet in the airport bitch. Oh, God, but I I never really got dressed. Like maybe jeans and t-shirt, whatever, or you know, sweats and some sneakers. Two years ago, I had an epiphany. You know when you're going. Yep, go. I had an epiphany, and I was like, there are millions of people in the airport at a time. Best place. I said, Lounge. You don't know who's gonna be on this plane. You don't, somebody's always watching. Always. I said, I'm gonna start getting dressed no matter how early my flight is. I will not put on sweats, I'm not throwing on leggings, I'm gonna start getting dressed when I travel through the airport. That that comfy cute be doing it too. It really does. And when I tell you ever since then, you always get a compliment. I always get a compliment. And it's not because I was fishing for one, it was because I want to be the kind of person that people see and say, I wonder what she does. She's put together or she's approachable. Hi, how are you? Your outfit is so cute, or you whatever. You know, I I had to change my mindset of thinking, like, oh, it's just the airport, I'm gonna sit on a flight, whatever. No, no, no, no.
SPEAKER_00You can be comfortable and still be well groomed at the airport. Oh, a thousand percent. And I it's it depends on how I feel, but I I go I alternate between different versions of that, right? Like I definitely love like even coming out here like a comfy, cozy, but still cute, right? Like I thought about the outfit. You stay with a set. I do. You stay with a set. I do, a comfy set that's cute. But also, it looks like I tried and I put it together. The hair's still done. Yeah. Right? And my face is moisturized. But also times when I've to fly right after or before court, and I have like a suit on or like a cute suit. Like I have a nice, my one of my favorite ones is a yellow one. And it's other women. Like I've had flight attendants, like people don't dress up for the airport anymore. And like we love that. You know, like it's just a a lot of people are in this like sweat pant, you know, era. And I think, but it's it's keeping the same standard you want to attract. It's it's all part of it. It's it's like, no, I'm gonna put it on, I'm gonna be comfortable, I'm gonna be myself, but also I'm gonna like exude what and how I want to be, you know, shown back to me and received. People talk to you different. Yeah, they do.
SPEAKER_01People talk to you different. I want to be spoken to like the woman I'm gonna become in five years. So, what would she do? She would get the fuck dressed for the airport, she would not throw on no sweats.
SPEAKER_00This it's like when Tyra wanted to be a homeless person.
SPEAKER_01Bitch, I'll never forget Tyra.
SPEAKER_00They didn't treat her the same with her whole camera crew and still stunning. Beat. Right? You know, with her drawed on the bigger.
SPEAKER_01Even though the beat was beat up, she was still beating.
SPEAKER_00We got the point. We need to be.
SPEAKER_01Tyra, why did you go to Skidrow?
SPEAKER_00Like that shit was so fucking crazy. We we we we we know the point. We know the principle. We know what you were trying to do, okay?
SPEAKER_01Tyra said, uh, I'm gonna dress up like a homeless so I can see how they be getting treated. But you know how they be getting treated. You be stopping fucking wood where nobody knows where I am. Yeah. Right. Tyra, we totally knew it was you. You have the entire production team forehead out main street in skin robe. Like, we knew it was you.
SPEAKER_00Girl, stop me. I don't get the point. Listen, when you're not dressed the same, people gonna look at you differently.
SPEAKER_01I'm telling you. Listen, but you know, I think discipline without structure is just a recipe for fucking disaster. It's completely chaotic. And I feel like even in my own personal life, you know, having more structure for me, because you know me, girl, I'm a I'm a little free-spirited little bird child, and I really just like to fly by the fucking cuff. However, structure has made my life better, particularly in the last few weeks, because I'm prioritizing myself first before putting the job first, before putting, you know, something else first. It's like I'm taking care of me the first thing in the morning. And then after I'm good and I'm filled, now I can turn on, you know, my work brand. Now we can get into development of this project or that project or whatever else. But and you know this, I've been telling you the last couple of weeks, like, you know, I love you, I appreciate you, but bitch, I just have not had the capacity. My brain space is full right now. And when I can, I promise you I will.
SPEAKER_00It's top of it's first thing on my list when I can, you know, and um but I can understand that though, and I think that's where friendships need to be aligned, not the same person, but it's like, no, because I've been there too, so I get it, so I can fully understand what that means for you when you say it, and I'll give you time to do it, you know, versus somebody that ain't even in the same space, so don't they don't get it. No, like I get it.
SPEAKER_01Yeah, and communicating that versus just not hearing back, it's just like, no, no, I see you, I hear you. Yeah, we're sorry for the delay. However, this is what I've got going on, but I promise I'm getting to it, you know.
SPEAKER_00Um you know, and something else you said, like people be hiding behind like your your habits expose your standards. Oh, totally. I don't care what you be saying, it how you carry yourself and what you do. Sometimes it can be written over your forehead, you could talk or talk or whatever, but in actuality, you you see people for what they are because uh you're not paying any attention to your routine and how you carry and do and treat yourself, it it comes out in some way.
SPEAKER_01Yeah, you you will be exposed. Well, it's kind of like when they say you can't outwork a bad diet. It don't matter that you're in the gym three or four times a week if you if your nutrition is not met matching your level of output. For sure. For sure. It's it's you'll be exposed. Absolutely. What do you think about you know people wanting something, but feeling like, well, I don't need to do any of those things to get that. That's laziness or to receive that. That's laziness. Where does that come from though? That way of thinking, like, where would that come from?
SPEAKER_00Yeah, yeah, people wanting something and thinking that's enough.
SPEAKER_01Um it's like American Idol, like I want this so bad, so I should be the winner. But it's like, you are fucking terrible.
SPEAKER_00Well, but I think we've talked about, you know, how culture and society is very uh instant gratification. That's the word. I've been everybody dig that. Everybody want to win, don't want to put the work in.
SPEAKER_01Yeah.
SPEAKER_00You know, it's um when like a sport example being a fucking tomboy myself, but like them teams when UConn and and South Carolina be taking home championships and shit, you know, they didn't take it this year. It's okay. I love you, Dawn. But um, they be putting the work in. You know, that's that's them hours when you shoot in the gym when nobody's there. You know, it's people think that you could put a stamp on something and you could be this overnight. Plastic surgery helps. But when you really want the the muscle tone, when you want to be not breathing hard when you're walking up two flights of stairs, there's there's work you gotta put in to get there. When you, you know, you think, oh, I'm gonna go on Chat GBT to write this email, but then you come and you sit down for the interview and you don't know shit.
SPEAKER_01Yeah.
SPEAKER_00You know, there's you gotta put the work in. And that's what will separate you from the other person. Yeah. When there's no foundation. You know, that's like when you know when they do the remodeling the house and maybe, you know, putting that fucking plaster shit on it. You got asbestos.
SPEAKER_01How you pay whole toes and shit's gonna collapse, baby.
SPEAKER_00You got water damage.
SPEAKER_01It smells like mildew in this bitch. I literally know when I smell water damage. But your kitchen got a backsplash. Right. Oh my god, and it's gonna fucking fall apart, honey. You know, it's come on. You know what that makes me think of? And I kind of have an opposing thought to this. Just hear me out. Be devil's advocate. Let's go. So we went to go see the Michael movie. We did, and a lot of the information we were privy of, but I just had a different thought, right? And and when we think about the greats, like the actual greats, not popularity, not people who are. I'm talking about the actual greats. Um, the discipline behind them, whether it was their parents or their manager or them just wanting to change their lifestyle.
SPEAKER_00Yeah.
SPEAKER_01You know, Joe Jackson has always given me the ick. Even as a kid, I just thought he looked scary. Something about his eyebrows. The eyebrows. It's it's the eyebrows. I was always like, they like had a point to them. Yeah, like he just seemed like the Joker. Like, you know what I mean? He had like Joker eyebrows. Yeah. Um, but we cannot deny that Michael Jackson had a God-given talent. However, his father saw it and honed in on it so early and worked them kids to death. Do I agree morally with letting kids be kids and the way he had them in shows, you know, they fucking five years old at a grown-ass nightclub across the state and got literal school in the morning. No, no. No, and then had to come back home and still rehearse again before they went to bed. Yeah. And it's like 2 a.m., right? However, you cannot deny the effort that was put into that sharpened him and cultivated the work ethic, the work ethic, the creative, the skill it took to become still to this day the biggest superstar of our time. I mean, the man's talent is just undeniable and uncomparable.
SPEAKER_00It's it's true. We were like I we we had so many conversations after that movie, but just the genre of music that he created one, it wasn't limited to one thing. It was he was beyond pop music. Like it was so many things. There was there wasn't a genre to describe all the things he creates, you know, and or created it's you know. Know it just so one of a kind, so revolutionary of the time, and still there's nothing that has come across like it.
SPEAKER_01No, and even him, you know, going deciding when he went solo and what kind of management he wants, he like motherfucker. I want to be the biggest star in the fucking world. He did. Can you make that happen? Yeah, because I'm gonna do what the fuck I gotta do. Are you gonna do what you have to do to match my effort to achieve this goal? You know? And I think now in days when we are given these opportunities, we fumble the bag because we are so caught up on what it should look like that we are not even present enough to see that this thing that looks little right now has an opportunity to be amplified if I do the work.
SPEAKER_00This to do the work. That's like people like avoiding hard truths, avoiding accountability, like looking in the mirror, like what is it gonna take to get there? Well, then you don't want it that bad then. Who do I have to become? Correct.
SPEAKER_01Like, even even now, I'm like, oh, I know what I want the top of next year to look like. So right now, who do I have to become for me to see the result of what I would like the the the next year to look like?
SPEAKER_00Yeah. Not you, because I know I know you putting the work in, but like, what are these people avoiding? What are you avoiding for this change? Like, is is it something you're avoiding? I think so. I think I think no one wants to give up anything. Yeah.
SPEAKER_01I mean, even to me, I don't want to give up shit. Come from. I don't ever want to give up nothing. I won't, I want it all. Brand new socks and draws. Like, I don't want to give up anything. However, that is not the way the world works. What I have to sacrifice something to receive something else. So, what has to die so that I can receive something else.
SPEAKER_00Especially when you're preaching that's your standard. Yeah. Especially you're preaching this is what you want. It can't be everybody else's fault. It cannot be everybody else's fault.
SPEAKER_01What are you doing? At what point do you say, you know what? I fumbled that opportunity. Maybe 10 of them. Yeah. What am I doing today to rebuild or to build a new X, Y, and Z to reach that goal? To reach that goal. You are in charge of your own destiny.
SPEAKER_00Are you aligned or just aspirational? We daydreamers? Yeah. Are we are we actually putting the work in to reach the dream? You know, I there's a bunch of daydreamers out here. You know, you wish you shoulda, coulda, woulda. Stay asleep.
SPEAKER_01Ain't got nothing to do with me. Stay fucking sleep, bitches.
SPEAKER_00You know, sleep on me if you want to. And it's crazy because, like you've talked about it, little habits you could do. Like, what in your life can you change immediately? Yeah. To like create this new, I'm gonna start doing this today.
SPEAKER_01Yeah. Like, what do I have control of that today? Correct. I'm saying I'm putting this down or I'm sacrificing this, or you know, screen time, I'm on my phone too much. Okay, let me start with just being on it 30 minutes less a day. We're not saying throw that shit in the toilet. No. But you know, start gradually, you know, maybe occupy 30 minutes of your time reading a book, 30 minutes, whatever it is that gets you closer to your goal. Do 30 minutes a day. So, you know what? I never work out, but this is the body that I want. And I don't have a lot of time. But you know what? I can find 30 minutes. So, what can I do for 30 minutes that will help me achieve that?
SPEAKER_00I legit, girl, I got a library card the other day. I like deciding for myself. I read a lot for work, so it's very hard for me to like read other things, and I still like nonfiction, but like I just wanted to like read more. I love I'm a sociology junkie. And I went and got myself a library card and now it's fancy. You can fucking download like audiobooks and um on the car? It's digital. Yeah. Listen, every like there's obviously there's books you have to go in and get, but you can literally like download an audiobook for two weeks or uh like an ebook, like a Kindle kind of interesting. So just like, you know, like let me, I want I've been wanting to read this. Let me read a couple chapters when I have like an extra moment on a Sunday morning. And I'm just you know, like it's it's something that I decide I want to do this more, you know, just to like, you know, get my brain going sometimes because it's world like conversation surely ain't stimulating sometimes. So right.
SPEAKER_01I don't even know the last time I went to the library, I just ordered my books on Amazon. Well, that too, but I love books. I like holding them in like I like the way the pages smell. Like, I don't know, it's just a weird thing. Like I like the physical piece of but it just it's just it was convenient.
SPEAKER_00And I didn't even realize I was like, libraries have you know, progress, girl. Well, the digital shit is amazing because you ain't even got to return that motherfucker. Listen, listen, access after two weeks. But no, like, and especially some books where I was like, oh, I saw this. Let me just like read a couple chapters, see if it's worth buying the you know, the paper copy. But just something, you know, for your what are you doing for self-improvement? Absolutely, you know. Question for you You want a high value partner, but lack consistency. Would you consider that misalignment?
SPEAKER_01Absolutely. Someone, someone who is, quote, high value, male or female, probably has some type of consistent routine. They are probably consistent in the way they show up, they are probably consistent in the way they deliver, um, they are probably consistent, maybe not in every aspect of their life, but probably most aspects, because that's how you get there. Oh, yeah. You know, and and sometimes, you know, and and we hear this a lot, especially in homes where the father is um extremely successful. Maybe sometimes because they are so consistent in other things, they fall flat maybe with the family life or the showing up to certain things. So I don't want to say consistency and being a high-valued person means that you're perfect in all areas. But what I am saying, you cannot be someone who lacks consistency and expect to be in a relationship that reflects consistency. I think you gotta, you gotta figure out, okay, what could I be better in in my life? Where could I be more consistent so that when I meet the person who I consider high value, sees that in me, and not necessarily it makes them want me, but it shows them that, oh, we are aligned in this way because I I show up the same way too.
SPEAKER_00Consistency is like, I think that's just an important trait for any friendship or relationship. It's it's reliability. I you're consistent, so I can rely on you, I can count on you, I can trust you.
SPEAKER_01Yeah, there, I think you hit it on the nose. Consistency is like a very big important part of any relationship, or any work relationship, partnerships, um, romantic relationship, friendships. Um, I need to know that you are someone who I can lean into in any space, way, shape, or form, even when it's honestly. Are you gonna be consistently honest, honest with me about some of the things that maybe I'm falling short on?
SPEAKER_00Because I love that. And like that's like a glaring like green flag for me in all my relationship is consistency, you know. Well, I like this one. I'm gonna do another one. I'm gonna go back to back with you. You want discipline, but rely on motivation. Is that sustainable?
SPEAKER_01No, because listen, when I'm not vote motivated, I'm disciplined. I don't be motivated to work out the way I'm working out. Boom. But bitch, I'm fucking disciplined and I'm paying this motherfucker quite some change. So I'm finna show the fuck up.
SPEAKER_00And some of that struggle ain't easy. Like the point where you know when the water weight kicks in the beginning, like there's the point where you gain weight before you lose weight. That's what I'm saying.
SPEAKER_01You gotta you gotta go past the motivation. I put my my money where my mouth is. If believe, best believe, if I don't do shit else, if I ain't motivated, if I paid for some shit, I'm showing up. Correct. I'm showing up to anything I gave a dollar to.
SPEAKER_00I promise you that. We go tired, you know, hung over, you still go into the gym. Yeah. Whatever it is. You want to work anyway. Yeah. Gotta get it done anyway. For sure.
SPEAKER_01Well, sis, I feel like, you know, we gotta be serious about our alignment. I know you and I are looking forward to so many great things, you know, continuing to build our amazing audience with don't piss me off, merchandise, and so much more that we have coming. Oh, yeah. And, you know, I'm just happy that you are someone who I'm aligned with, who is equally choosing themselves and choosing to be their best self so that we can get to where we're going. I think that's important in partnership, and we don't talk about it enough being on the same page. It's not just about the business, it's about our proximity and the reflection of one another's life.
SPEAKER_00Oh, for sure. And I I appreciate you and love you right back because we've we've had this conversation, and if we weren't aligned, none of this would have manifested the way it has. And it it it took the simplicity of us understanding ourselves and what we wanted for ourselves and each other and seeing the potential and executing it. Heard. Right? You know, and we got it done. We got it done. We did, you know, and we talked about standards requires structure. And I think we both know what it takes and what you need to do that. And we we put the work in. We put in the work. And we still putting the work in.
SPEAKER_01We're gonna continue putting in the work every day, period. You guys, thank you so much for joining us on the Don't Piss Me Off podcast. My name is Brianna.
SPEAKER_00And my name is Yuri. Uh, please, we want you to follow us. We want you to keep up with what's going on. Tell us what's going on with you. Check us out on Don't Piss Me Off Pod on Instagram. We've got Spotify, we have YouTube, we have Apple Podcasts. Listen to us, watch us everywhere. Okay. Next time we're gonna talk about submission without security. So, all that independent woman 50 50 illusion that people be talking, we're gonna break that all down next time. All right. So please don't piss us off at all.
SPEAKER_01Cheers, especially with that 50 50.