Don't Piss Me Off Podcast
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Don't Piss Me Off Podcast
Side Hustle or Side Boo?
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Are you building your future—or accidentally neglecting the people living in it?
In Episode 9 of Don't Piss Me Off, Bryana and Yuri take an honest look at the hidden cost of ambition. This isn't an anti-hustle conversation. It's a reality check for high-achievers who are productive all day but emotionally unavailable at night.
From constant work mode and endless notifications to using career success as a shield from vulnerability, we unpack what happens when your grind starts taking up more space than your relationships.
Because being busy isn't the same as being present.
Welcome to the Don't Piss Me Off podcast. If you love black girl brilliance, unfiltered opinions, and real talk, you are in the right place. My name is Brianna.
SPEAKER_00And my name is Yuri. Today we are diving into side hustle or side boo when your career becomes your mood killer at home. This is an interesting one. It is. When you're bringing your baggage home. It's really when you're bringing your baggage home. When it's your your career is becoming your side chick because you're spending so much time on it.
SPEAKER_01Or you are spending so much time investing in a side hustle that you can't even get you a side boo if you wanted to.
SPEAKER_00Listen, that's it can go both ways. People are working very hard these days, and you are expending yourself professionally, but you are cutting yourself off personally and you don't even realize it.
SPEAKER_01Yeah. I mean, I've been there before. I've totally been there where I've been, you know, extremely focused on my work and pouring into my work when I look up and be like, when the last time I even went out on a day? When the last time I even got a little some, do I don't even have no sneaky lane? You know, you you kind of look up and be like, dang, it's gone. You like the there is no roster. I didn't let everybody wither away, child, because I've been over here grinding and pouring into you know myself and into this space and you know, getting my bag together. You know, it happened. Which is very important. Especially if somebody ain't coming along trying to take care of it. True, true. Like, I gotta go get me together then right.
SPEAKER_00Trains going full speed if you ain't making it stop. Hello. Okay. But let's start how we always do. What pissed you off this week, Brianna? Talk to me.
SPEAKER_01You know, it pisses me off when people glorify being busy like it's their personality. I feel like, you know, it is okay to have, you know, productive weeks and days and so on and so forth. But when people try to make it seem like there's just an air, like I'm just so busy. You're so it's more important because you're busy. Yeah, but really you're not on shit though. It sounds like you're not productive. It sounds like it's you not producing shit. Anybody can run in place. So it's treadmill. No marathon. No marathon. Like, so it really just don't matter. But um, you know, respectfully, I understand when people are truly producing and doing things, and you know, hey, my plate is full. However, you know, let's reconnect such and such, such and such. I think I could, you know, fit this window in. Yeah. But it's another thing when people just act like they are just like, oh, something isn't.
SPEAKER_00Because let's not get it twisted. The goal is to work smarter, not harder. Hello. So we we don't want to have to be so preoccupied. We want the free time and be more efficient with it. So yeah. Are you really busy though? Chad. Is it that important? The ghetto.
SPEAKER_01Give me a two off this week, girl.
SPEAKER_00Let's go work related. These fucking clients, man. Clients that don't listen. Okay, this attorney client paper, so I ain't gonna talk about the details, but you tell a client, you give them advice, you give them legal advice. Don't fuck with that bitch. Leave her the fuck alone. She's not good for you. I don't care how what kind of toxic love you have. You know what that results in? Yo ass in jail when you don't listen to me. Right. So now when you get back in the jail, because you're now locked up because you didn't listen to me. Now I gotta yell at you like you, my mom, like you the kid, and I'm the mama. Oh, sure. Terrible. And what's the point of paying me all the money? You ain't gonna fucking listen to me.
SPEAKER_01You better find a way to pay me from the jail. But like you done sat here and paid me all this money. I gave you legal advice and you decided not to take the advice. What was the point?
SPEAKER_00Well, now I feel like I'm big sis because now I'm talking to you like you, you have you really have to listen for your own good. Yeah. I'm gonna still do my job, but I can only help you, but so far. But it it pisses me off when they just don't listen to me. Sound like he was choosing the boo over the hustle chat. He really did. And she ain't choosing him back. So shit fucking happens. Anyway, let's get into this topic. Yeah. You know, it's it's interesting because I also very much have a job that is not only it could be time consuming, but it it's um very involved with other people's traumas. And um, it could be very stressful or the the work could be stress-related in many ways. To then come home, like, am I really disconnecting? Is a person with a high energy, highly involved job really disconnecting when they get home? Are they really disconnecting from that energy that they had there? You know, that's that could be difficult for me, you know, especially if someone doesn't understand it.
SPEAKER_01I feel like when I have somebody I like, I'll always be excited to see them. I'm one of those persons that even if I don't have the energy, I'm excited about being in your space and presence. And it doesn't mean that I am being performative because we can just shut the fuck up and be in peace and quiet together. But I'm excited to be in your company. Oh, yeah. So like I don't feel like I carry the disconnect. While I do require a lot of alone time, when I am with someone, they typically could read that balance, right? When you're with someone who is paying attention, and as we said before, like they they know your routine, they pay attention to you, they know what you require in what moments. But just like a regular full day, I'm actually like, oh, I can't wait to get off to see this motherfucker.
SPEAKER_00Yeah. And that's choosing the right partner, right? Somebody that compliments it because I've definitely gone out on dates and like I've had a stressful court day, and then they want to be like, You want to talk about the trial that was on TV today? No, I don't. I don't. I don't pass me the drink. You want a shot? Let's talk about nothing. Yeah. Let me talk about your dad. How about that? Let's talk about this meal. Yeah. You know? Um, so having somebody that totally calms you down and sometimes it's listening, you know, like that is so important because you're right. Even in those busy days, you do look forward to that person, whether it be that friend you want to just be around because they bring so much joy in the midst of a hectic day, or that partner that really like compliments you and it's like nothing else matters in this moment because you need to turn off.
SPEAKER_01Yeah, like you know, I'm gonna come in. We're gonna turn on housewives while you rub on my booty. Like, great. We let booty rub gonna turn off right now. But but but that you know it's gonna keep us connected because we're not we're not trying to be disconnected over here. We're not trying to be disconnected over here. But I also think like, you know, a lot of times, and you hear this in um hyper successful people that you know, you built this life that you've always wanted, and then now you have no time to enjoy it. And, you know, you and I talk a lot about because of what you do for work, understanding the importance of not taking any day for granted, enjoying your life. You want to take that trip, take that trip. You want to go to that festival, go to that festival. You want to walk around in a string bikini, do it, you know? I do because you know, there is a lot of people who have, you know, poured so much into their hustles or their careers and they've made all the money, and then they have absolutely no capacity to enjoy it and no one to enjoy it with. Oh no. And I never want that for myself. I do want to be rich as fuck. I want to be wealthy. Um, I want to be able to have financial freedom and give without thinking and give freely and give with my heart. But I also want to be a person who understands the value of the work that I put in, but also enjoy my money, enjoy partnership, and have someone to share it with.
SPEAKER_00Oh no, absolutely. And that work-life balance is so important. And being an entrepreneur this last year and a half, it has opened my eyes to just different ways of working. Like I was traveling recently and I took my laptop out there, and my friends were like, put the laptop away. I was like, you know how fun it is to do work on the boat while the water is blowing through your hair and the the breeze. Like this, I felt the most creative, productive. Like it's just, I could have never thought about that before, but that's literally creating a balance where I'm able to do as much work as I have to do from a scenic place or whatever that means to me, so that I'm not burning out. Yeah. So I'm not um sacrificing personal connections and I'm keeping my cup full. Yeah.
SPEAKER_01You know, and you own your own firm. So it's not like you can just walk away and be like, I'm on vacation. None of this matters. No, you still have to be attentive. But I love that you have found a way to say, listen, I'm still gonna enjoy my life. I'm still gonna show up. Can I take 30 minutes, an hour out the day while I'm doing that to return emails, return calls, have court on, have court on a damn camera. If I have to, we'll do it, you know? So I think that's also the blessing in understanding entrepreneurship, but also understanding that while you are building the life that you want, that also means building the freedom that you want.
SPEAKER_00That's what is it? So what is that even? That's part of the well, too. Yeah. And I think you are so fortunate because you have a career that well, the the the workplace you're in now, because there's only up and up for you from here, but I don't know what I'm doing next. We don't know. But what you are fortunate to do now, and frankly, you you they're not typical or traditional hours, but I feel like you're constantly on in a way about because like one, this is your dance space, like you know this business to a T. You are a natural, you know, connoisseur of that world. So you spend so much time doing it. One, you enjoy it, but two, you're awesome at it. And it's like you've created and found a space where you make money, but also thrive in something that you truly enjoy from like it could be until five o'clock in the morning. You working, yeah. But you but I'm having a ball. You having a ball, you having a ball. So that's why having a ball is a ball having me. And it just makes you do your job better and you continue to build relationships personal and work-wise because you have curated a space in that career that is perfect for you.
SPEAKER_01Totally. And I love hospitality. I've been in this business since I was 15, and it started off as a side hustle. You know, when you're 15 years old, your first job is normally like a fast food place or whatever. And that was also me. Like I worked at the mall, I worked at Carl's Jr., then I worked at Cold Stone, then I went to college and got another hustle. Because it was, and that was the that was the thing though. In college, it was so flexible with my school schedule. You know, I've waitressed in strip clubs, I've waitressed at bakeries. You've always been fun. I'm telling you, um, and and also fast forward, you know, it has helped me in my career because I've worked in every sector of hospitality, sports bar, titty bar, strip club, fine dining, Michelin dining, family dining, um, gaming, you know, Dave and Buster. Like I have literally, you know, worked in every level and in almost every position in all of these different spaces to understand the build of hospitality and how, you know, relationship really helps bring brands to the forefront. So um, for me, I don't regret it, but I am in this space where I'm like, as I continue to build my life, am I gonna be choosing the hustle or am I gonna be choosing the boo?
SPEAKER_00Listen, I I'm picky about what the hustle is, you know. I'm picky about who the boo is. What the fuck? Listen, they they picky with me because they there. Okay. They they by by virtue of no options. Right. Listen, um, it's it's it's difficult, but I do think it's a conscious decision to make sure that that's bad, that balance is there because a lot of people lose sight of it. And I have to make sure for me that I'm making sure I give that energy to personal relationships as well. Because it has to be a choice because you could people get lost in the sauce with that one.
SPEAKER_01And that's perfect because this episode is about slowing down and being honest. And if I'm honest, I wish I was having a little more fun. Like I have fun in my day-to-day, like you said. I I've absolutely love my career. I love hospitality, I love beverage, I love being in sales and on-premise. And um, you know, it affords me a lifestyle where I get to do what I would be doing anyway. I'm just paid to do it, right? However, I'm like, wouldn't it be nice if I can go home to something cute, something fine, you know? Wouldn't it be nice? And even if it ain't serious, but it's just enough to take the edge off until I need it again.
SPEAKER_00No, I don't blame you. I look forward to that day. It ain't today, but I look forward to it. It ain't today. Today, you know, and I think you've also been on the receiving end, right? Of somebody that had a lifestyle where their emotions were very involved and their energy was very involved at work. And what was that like being on the other side of that? First of all, bitch, you better know my business.
SPEAKER_01Topic. You better know my motherfucking business. Share what you'd like to share. Um, that was actually hard, you know, especially when you're in the building stage. When you're dating someone and y'all are both young and you're in the building stage, at that time, I was still on the service side of hospitality. So for me, you know, I knew that I wasn't gonna grow a career, you know, in the restaurant space, in the hospitality space in that way. I always knew that I would pivot. I didn't know when, where, or what it would look like. Um, but I always knew I would pivot. So for to for me, it was more like this is what I do to make money. For my partner at that time, that was their fundamental building block into the career that they are now excelling at today, you know, years later. And it was hard because, you know, you don't start off making a hundred thousand, two hundred thousand. At the time, he wasn't making a lot of money. He was at an entry-level role. He was kind of like a runner, you know. Yeah. Um, however, um, there wasn't a lot of money to go out and do stuff. I had money to go out and do stuff, but for him, it he had other priorities, which was taking care of himself, most importantly, right? And at the time, um, I was happy for him, excited for him. Yeah, but it did start to wear on the relationship because even if it wasn't just the money conversation, it was the time conversation. Got it. We don't even have time to do these things. But at but simultaneously, he was intentional about the intentional about the moments that matter. The the the the paying attention to me when I got home. Absolutely. You know, the caring for me, the laboring for me, the serving me when I got home. And that, you know, superseded the lack thereof of time in a normal day-to-day of going out on dates and doing this and doing that, because it wasn't no money.
SPEAKER_00No, I know. And and we know, because I I admire him and love him dearly, that that was, as you said, a building block for him. So it wasn't intentional. That was literally like he only had but so much to give. Yeah, you know, and what he had, he gave it all. And yeah, and and I knew that and humbly um was honored to receive it. Absolutely, you know, and then I think that that is also a different circumstance from I think there are people that run to their work to hide expressing more because work has structure, relationships don't, you know, success has actual measured, you know, value. Love, it could be any fucking thing.
SPEAKER_01You know, I hate when people run in and and use work as a crutch. You said it. You know, they use work to avoid, they use work to hide. And I just don't understand the concept of I'm gonna double down in this because if I give this all of my attention, then I don't have to show up here. And then I can use this as the basis of why I'm not pouring over here. And it's really just bullshit. It's what we always say it is. It's sabotage, it's self, it's selfishness, it's the unhealed version, and it's also the fearful version. Yeah. Like I just don't understand why everybody doesn't want to just love and be happy. Like, I don't get it. Like, like, like, okay, over this nigga, on to the next. Like in my mind, I'm like, okay, cool. I might be sad about it for a moment, and I'm gonna do what I need to do, depending on how deep it was, to make sure that I am good. But once I'm good, I'm I'm not gonna let another nigga get me down. Are you kidding me? But I'm too young and too mindful. I will never be this young, this beautiful again. You know what I mean? Like, yes, we will continue to age and grace and all those things, but I'm talking about this body, this coochie, this face, this neck. Because you know the neck is where it's starting. They start you see, you know what I'm saying? That jawline, you see the clavicles, the clavicles pop. You see the clavicles. Listen, but I'm saying we'll never be this young again. We'll never be this single again, we'll never be as beautiful. Once we meet our person, that is it. So why are we not going out there and enjoying the time and space and being present? Listen.
SPEAKER_00Whenever I see people that work to death and then, like, oh, like when I retire, you know how old you're gonna be when you retire these days? You know how long you're gonna be working there? A 70-year-old still working at TJ Maxx. You better get it together. You better figure that out now. That parlay ain't hidden. So it's not. It is not. That parlay ain't hidden. You know, there you have to create that balance earlier and not use work as a crutch as to why you haven't, because you're gonna be old and miserable and alone so long. That can't be only safe.
SPEAKER_01I will sell coochie on Instagram and OnlyFans before I it's it's hell, they the ones retiring. They the ones retiring. Millions. Yeah, 23 year olds retiring in a year, chat. One of the girls made 53 million in a year. Not doing a damn thing. Not doing a damn thing. So with that being said, honey, you know, I will I will sell this coochie online before I allow my career to dictate the way that I want to spend my life or or to keep me from freedom. For sure. What I think is freedom, because everyone's, you know, uh uh thoughts and you know, description of freedom is different. But from what I think looks like freedom for me. And that's all that matters. Hell yeah. Do you have difficulty difficulty turning off? Like, cause you are a overthinker, glorified, honey. Yeah. And then with your work, do you have difficulty turning off? Oh, fuck yes. What's somebody gotta do to turn you off?
SPEAKER_00Well, like we talk about icks, no, to turn to turn off my brain. Yeah. Um God. Some part of it just don't turn off, right? Like some of it you just have to accept. But I think that's like creating a safe space that is, you know, making sure that I'm in a space where I can relax, not planning a date that I gotta drive an hour and a half to get there. Um, but literally making the day easier for me. Like the minute that I don't have to think after I clock out, the minute I don't have to think after court's done, like you're gonna pick me up. Like you'll figure, like just give me a little break after the the drama. You know, that is extremely helpful for me because then I feel comfortable to not have the tension in my shoulders.
SPEAKER_01Yeah. Um right now, I said this must be how Yuri feels, bitch.
SPEAKER_00I do, and I'm so used to it, you know. Say this is how my girl be feels. But I I do love to turn off. It's just I'm so used to being on, but I also recognize that like if I meet somebody new and I still feel the tension in my shoulders. This ain't it. This ain't it. This is not it, you know.
SPEAKER_01Isn't that so amazing how smart your body is by how it responds to the people that you around? When you are really in tune with vibrational energy and how much your body responds to, like, ooh, did I just relax around this person?
SPEAKER_00Instantly, you know, it is a legit reaction. The minute where it's like, oh okay, this is this feels good. Yeah. Because like I like I literally I turn off. Like you get a happy hour drink, and I'm like, why does my suit still feel tight? Like I could feel the shoulder pads raised. I feel this shit itching. Listen, maybe when I take my jacket off, I still got this, the top button buttoned on this date because you ain't you ain't letting me relax at all. But um, I I do want to turn off, but then I also know that's like like when it when I'm off, like I know this is the this is the the right one. This is who I should be spending time with in that moment.
SPEAKER_01Hell yeah. Yes. Do you feel like ambition is always about growth or do you think it's about control?
SPEAKER_00Ooh. Not all the time, but maybe yeah, not all the time. Sometimes, but like we talked about, there are people that are focused on ambition for a specific goal from themselves and it's an achievement that they've worked hard for. There's some people that they have no control anywhere else. So their only place where they control stuff and have that safe space is at work. Because when they step out that office space, they are lost cause and nobody knows who they are, nobody knows what they're doing.
SPEAKER_01Loser. You know what I like to say that is uh I like to say that someone who is like that, you ever you ever be around a person, doesn't mean you're friends with them or acquaintance, whatever, but you ever be in a space with someone and all they talk about is their work because it's their identity. They actually have no personality, they don't know what they like, they don't know who they are. Yeah. So they always either talk about work or if you're in a group setting, they pivot the conversation, which is totally fucking unrelated, back into some work shit because that's where their confidence lies because they know nothing else. Yeah, that that does happen.
SPEAKER_00I also have like a back end to that too, though. Like, I completely agree with what you just said. I also like have been out on a date with somebody, like brand new, like I I don't know where the fuck I met them, but like, you know, like what do you do? And it was like I was asking up like for hieroglyphics as an answer. Like, not hieroglyphics. I'm like, okay, you don't like what I do is not all that I do, but just like, what do you spend like 99% of your week doing? Like it was as though, like, people ask that. It's such a and I'm like, no, like I'm just curious, like what makes you tick and you know, like it was like so off, like the complete opposite. I was like, if you're also scared to tell me what you do, or it's like some shit like construction and you serial killer, I'm telling you. It's it's giving you don't have a job. It's giving you a job. I'm worried about the bank accounts. I'm telling you, people be serial killers. I've said this before. Correct. Or you don't have something that interests you. I love a person with a passion. You ain't gotta be rich, but like you have something that gets you going every day. Something. Something that you enjoy discussing that you could teach me.
SPEAKER_01Please teach me something new.
SPEAKER_00Teach me something.
SPEAKER_01Because y'all pissing me off. Speaking of something new, you know your girl is a natural at golf, and I know you be golfing, so you know I cannot wait for us to get on the teas.
SPEAKER_00It's the season now. We ready now. Spilling tea on the tease. Oh, God, it's gonna be a good one.
SPEAKER_01Next week. You know what it is. I'm ready. But anyways, though, you know. I digress. Um, so would you date you the way that you currently show up? Oh, fuck yes.
SPEAKER_00You that bitch. Yeah, no. First of all, it's a good time. It's a good time. You that bitch, and you're gonna have a ball. Listen, I don't that that's a hell yeah. And you don't tap out. I don't. You don't. My old legs don't tap out.
SPEAKER_01I let it get moving. You know, I knew I loved you from the day that I met you, but when we really started kicking it, I said, this is my crawl. One more. Like, oh, she can hang with the best, aka me. No, I know. I'm like, but for real, you don't agree. You can really feel real, baby. You know how to have a good motherfucking time. I don't even know why I asked you that. I just wanted you to answer it for the people.
SPEAKER_00I'm gonna answer it for you because I I told you, honestly, like I'll be watching how people respond to you. Like your energy is contagious. And I know it's the real deal because you know, you're my girl, but well, I felt it for day one, number one connection. And uh after that, I just really think watching you in your environments, I'll be like, people be loving you for you. Like them hugs be authentic. The love that they show you is all authentic in the people that truly fuck with you. So I I would date you. I was like, shit. If we can have the baby tomorrow, then I wouldn't be fighting through this. I would be fighting for this soft life. You're the best date I ever had. Who the daddy, Yuri. Literally, seriously. I'm telling you, I cannot. Ooh, but um, let's let's play our little game. Let's get into it. I love a game, bitch. Scenario number one.
SPEAKER_01Bitch, you know, I think I'm Shantae Smith.
SPEAKER_00Love a good game. Let's go. You're constantly checking emails, messages during quality time, necessary or disrespectful?
SPEAKER_01That depends on your career.
SPEAKER_00I was gonna say depends too.
SPEAKER_01It depends on your career. If you clocked out at five o'clock, the courts ain't open after yeah. If you clocked out at five o'clock, is disrespectful. If you are an entrepreneur or you have an untraditional job like myself, it is necessary, it is necessary.
SPEAKER_00Yeah, and I'm sure there's days where it's probably more prevalent than others. You're not doing it every single time we're sitting down on the couch. There's a balance to that too. Correct. And I think your partner, whoever that will be, is understanding of that, you know?
SPEAKER_01Um, you cancel plans because of work regularly, responsible, or imbalance?
SPEAKER_00Imbalanced, absolutely not. I'm sorry. You could be the busiest person in the world. Most of the world operates on a schedule. So I just think it's extremely inconsiderate to consistently cancel plans. Things pop up. There are emergencies, but there are very busy people that make time for what they want to make time for. Heard. Like, listen. So I don't, I really don't want to hear it. That's extremely like very inconsiderate. So I don't, I don't care.
SPEAKER_01I always want to give examples. Let me just the most financially free men that I have dated have always been the most responsive when they could have used the excuse of busyness. Oh, for sure. So, and and I'm not saying like, oh, I only date ranch national friends. I'm saying I've I've been in different spaces and different places in my life. Um, and I find it interesting that the the man that could have given me the excuse and I probably would have accepted it, never did. No. Not one of them.
SPEAKER_00And I on my busiest day, like I could have a 7, a 9, 11:30, a 1:30, a 3:30, and then like a night meeting for the right person, I will try to fit in that lunch from the show from four to six, and I'd be like fiending to make that time. Yeah. So it it it I could have a trial and I'd be fiending to see the person to let me turn off for that, you know, couple hours, even though I know I gotta turn right the fuck back on to prep for the next day. So if they want to, they will. Hello. Every time. You ain't wrong.
SPEAKER_01So when they don't, you ain't gotta tell me twice. Exactly. I just want to expound on that because I feel like we talk about that often and I never say, and it's always on the edge of my tongue. And not, and it's because I don't want to make it a conversation, but it is really a thing. Like, nigga, you work in tech, you punch in at Microsoft, like you don't own it, you're not even a partner.
SPEAKER_00That that that response to me be the instant, like, you even gotta like it's okay. It's like heard you because if you wanted to, you would. Hello. So I'm not reminding you to do shit. They gotta remind you on your phone, they gotta app for that. You ain't wrong. Okay, I'll do the next one anyway. You feel drained after work and don't engage. Understandable or avoidant?
SPEAKER_01I'm gonna say avoidant. And the key word was don't engage. You could literally say, hey, I'm drained after work. Let's connect tomorrow. Fair. Completely not engaging and not communicating your avoidant. Yeah, absolutely. I think it's very simple to say, thank you so much for thinking of me. I'm actually completely drained from the day.
SPEAKER_00Yep.
SPEAKER_01Can I tap back in with you tomorrow when I've got a bit more energy? There you go.
SPEAKER_00Super simple, super easy communication to let the other person know it's not because of them. You just need to be, you know, you need to recharge your battery a little bit to be a better partner and a better engager. Absolutely. Ciao.
SPEAKER_01Mm-hmm. You prioritize career milestones over relationship milestones, strategic or one-sided?
SPEAKER_00I definitely think that's one-sided. Um, I love a good career milestone because we work hard around here. But I do think that for somebody to prioritize one over the other is completely inconsiderate to the very significant things that you and your partner are building together, and it minimizes it. And I think that's just a terrible tone to set at home. Yeah. Especially if you want your partner to be supportive. You know, like how are you gonna get there and be there every day and come home and be able to turn off and that person's with you dealing with your shit when you're in a bad mood, and then not celebrate like what you have, like the journey y'all have taken? Absolutely not. It gives asshole. Everything's all about you. It gives asshole.
SPEAKER_01I look good, we we fuck good, we have a beautiful family and kids, we present well, and that's all you care about. So we only celebrate you. Exactly. That's bullshit.
SPEAKER_00Anyway, you know, I feel like we could always go on and just talk forever on these things. We're gonna leave here and keep talking, y'all. We gotta take these people home with that. We do. We gotta go live at the bar and dinner that the dinners you'd be having after these. That that'd be that'd be the right there. That'd be the bullshit. Um but I really think we've expressed that presence is a skill, you know. You have to be intentional, and people will be intentional back if they want it, you know, if they actually care.
SPEAKER_01Yeah. And balance isn't always automatic, it's intentional. You know, me, good old Libra, honey. I'm all about balance. You know, lady of justice. A lady of a real, a real justice. Hello? But but it it truly, I think when you um care enough, and that's the problem, a lot of people just don't give a fuck. Um, when you care enough, even if you're not good at it, so it's not an automatic thing, you're intentional about it. And people can tell when you are being intentional about it and doing your best.
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