بسمة داش: ما لا تعرفونه عن حياتي كأم عزباء… من التنمّر إلى ابر التنحيف!

في هذه الحلقة من بودكاست أنتي مع ليلى عقيل، تحل بسمة داش ضيفة وتشاركنا بصراحة تفاصيل من حياتها وتجربتها كـ أم عزباء وصانعة محتوى، وتحديات تربية طفلين والموازنة بين الأمومة والعمل.

تتحدث بسمة عن التنمر الذي تعرض له ابنها في الروضة، اضطراب تشوه صورة الجسم (Body Dysmorphia)، ورحلتها مع خسارة الوزن وابر النحافة وابر التنحيف وتجربتها مع ابر النحافة، بالإضافة إلى تجربة الإساءة أثناء الولادة.

حلقة صريحة عن الأمومة، تربية الأطفال، صناعة المحتوى، التنمر، تشوه صورة الجسم، خسارة الوزن وابر التنحيف.

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SPEAKER_01 0:53

Hello, Babi, Kana, El Anti Lom Ra Sir Hakullaha Fe Anti Wahda Anti El Om El Muthabira, El Mustachilla, Elli Yani, Diabali Kala Waledin, Hater Fuda Hing, Gadeshel Willaden, Dolly, Atajo, Etima Mulissa, Mehtajin Eti Mam, El Enti Mumaiza, Maya Lyom, Walegelbi Kamal, La Anno, El Anti Haget Nalyom Hia, Bes Madaj. Hi, hi Laila. Andam sutanikenti Mana Lion first. Al anti metaj no besma tji. Basma, Halina nibda alinas elimaterfic.

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Okay.

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Keep the anafsik mean he besma.

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Basma Saida and Senadelueti, siningiri, subhanahu shai. Sonat mahtawa, omultufleen. Very enthusiastic person, yeah mukbilal alhaya, samtabil haiya.

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Bus uh anti fencana to fulfhen ashti.

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Fel Imarot, Kula to ful tita revan, uh madrasti kulhagama ahli, wa gamaiti canat sharea, shharika, gama shareqa, uhsiotherapy, elash tobi wow sana, fenusher. Wa shad photobia by the kid uh to date social media can hassle but shwed haggit gawist to kidaf and to uh tin Muhammad Yusuf Yusuf Soyer Aui Satosha Sanu Haggik. Uh, Anamatazal na annuamla sitta banas to lata shab.

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Bas anat has a good dumpetania, yeah. Specialist and how almost a faster nah las menuara mama. Ma az zawajan hob ule ma az zawaj attak ledi.

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I think bus si anashayan, ma dodaj goz goestak lidi, ma'fani, ma maptozbu my and saying yan. Basana Baba Mumti mit Gausin goes toklidi, um Mushalab along the loti hagutin sana Akit they have issues, yangit fi hagetal um mis uh tofaf yimkinal goes a remedy tokli day haiya liptim she I don't know msharf butta lay mil in the fish way. Fil'ul the hibbilhub oh ni fil aul filbide uh mishma d yeah couples beam she may home l goes toklidi giddan fence. Let no tanya kitier awi awi oe ana bitay el and fisal bi yhasal you mean dolbi seb and nuani ehnabe ena arfin ufi exit, ubafima wear it kiti, awi awi list uhutoratov dalfa loka la shen um il bait u latfalu fa heafin fi exit. Yemkelam kunash harfinnu fi mahrug, za innez the men kun of dan of goazet.

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Bas yom fi kitiir ba na atlist maam arfin, and tigderi layani kilmat mfisal, munkin tkuna adiya, muma naha andu inti ani lahadi masebba yani ali abra abra agulu liom hatela anu kitira saal butijini ma'eni, ma'arif e the inti kaman, uhakir and ni anfasal, bashaifa, benal mushtema. Banodarikiloma kula tataur alinhna shino, ma kulal knowledge, kullal maarifa, alisarat moujuda be kep se zir tikderi tarifi, wuttakhi nafia ni ma'at hatoduri, tishteri il kitab and timunkin tishufil kitab alil alal iPad awal telephone. Lissa, bihawifil imbra, and nahatahuthutwa, abgaan fasal uhiyet kun bitita hadha filbatiani anabat kilam anal halat illijjid dan say yi abzza basmalhi darb tahdeed khiyana, kulilashaadi limkinal imbra at turda la nafsaha, in nahatuvdal.

SPEAKER_00 6:23

Mm busi yani anam and soda so haga wa shhawi haga haga yani yani dramatikeya, tragideya, say yea, nafsein, giddin. It's horrible. Yani, especially lam to a la lock of ya outful. Mm andti but hesi in no elhasal bad kid hesi no fish higher. So a lot of the walka, yani and muqtema mjani ala yanyi lana bachhufufu yanyi howala, yan muk tema blacksid dan besadal mutlaka yanyi. Bita be blacks, yan. Black ba truktama hina chinfi ha na chinfil imarat anabhesinula fi lafi fi dam.

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Shufi atta fil imarat matishbaha tanya. Ya induati blacks. Fe buldan il SF la Arabia, atakit fi kamiet Shufi ma aharif buldabt e shal esbab, al-munkin tweddi, rajul, inno jirtek eb jra and behakkal morqa, guddam awla da swi' nim kin hadel modu e keda morra fe fe' anti tarehtu la annu himmani aaref ara nisa reri. Yeni analemun akra'an ħadil ma'wadija u axufani fi amrar ywaf te kuha bil-vidjuat ażerib inni aruh ešb lixh mumkin ħade shahs rejul yi yemil ħaja giddikida dania u gid dikida beshja. Fa'fek kir mumkin hader ħadar rejul aashtufula se ji aash traumas fi ħajatu uhaletu yusa leh al-marhala hadi, yemani ahar fraqyek filmwa diya yani ishtehsi al aspa.

SPEAKER_00 8:11

Ya ny had tala asht to fulla seye ali dame mtitla zug. Tama ashtu fulla sayye e mmukatlala had sahbu, mukatlala, mudiruf shul, ta' ishmehana zuga. The nhobbi shuf zuga adafmin. Ya huma mina libitanni fudem fila, ma zuga u toflual haio. Fahoma funoma mish oddaf, ulium hi u I think this will change, yen. He'll fake a best b fill perception, ye anabas daimal mahad youul uh zugi koragam and shurla shambide um tasap mahoragam and shurl mazashall had to lilium shman at least why inuhea in san as I and a wordum shai's echoed moda dramatic oybus andufi gozum insane to set henan Moslum Bitchel, bitli o Marf binitchefal and Hamalu one stawab one is good one.

SPEAKER_01 9:11

Gultilia Haja Hellwa Gabushweya, scannat worrel camera, and no hadil ashia canat already mo juda. Oh Baselion, Sarnaman Shufa.

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Lady Mahadish Osaka Kelaman, Kalem does a man fit and hagg and negative kiti ha it taraf you zap and tell you, and procedure tamarit like the hirtaban at hand for badan la beafine zay sebu and lebit bit serrehi. Ambasat no okay anakutmejah's enfia gulakum ana abra, anamadri, bas mapsutan mutkelem an modula nuimkin mu kulan nisa aliom tarif, lazim terifin u liki hak be innik inti terify build up kef, hatim she, wila datatik, likil hakk an nikasarhila annu fi waja, mu mu sahil, fi waja, wata ma ebrat dahar fi dhart, aleqi wa jis mik al al khilfa may shay sahil bas y kifiji ubgil bihti taibusarhwa al alal hermawiya belhu abib a consume hua mishbisma hermohad ha bibib a khamasit sabah, halat filum fahuabinisba, this is his job, Yani da shogufa wai'a ni khallas fam l-fiqralizmi kunfi umfel il shari ketel corporsil kibira bib a fine, bitigi, tara f Mozafamil maddaht, moza faze um itamil ma' ma za mailufilamal. Alam shufinu burdu helu nibandina uh thewrot za edi litaketra, fil aksemil niseya, yalimu the ketraze tamlu ma'masan lausadda masal misrihu hadasit to hep tulit Yanize tam skills il social yani uhamla zay.

SPEAKER_01 11:53

Fa na we're on the tariwahat to kunwa defa to doctor uhker n hassi b doctor ya nihuwa fa him fukulishha. Bas indubid gulis dawahabt a doctorab nafsiya to come.

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Helwa, L Fikrahadi, inshalla, nshalla Timshi Yim Shufi, mut e kida inhu a kulhagadiya to drama tanti lobo city masan mitza nawa rahna kun nafinubainhagulajas niin uhuna or an kif sirna.

SPEAKER_01 12:41

Abu at killaman uh single mam alhihiya al um alitikon monfasela ortehdam be auladaha minal alif ilalia. Awal Hajjam abul ana fahura, fahura jidden in no uh al single moms aliba shooffahom saraham sahbati mra nasa libit abehum giddi ish biyamilumajhu jidden kabir la anul Maldur Maho Sahel.

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Uh, Maldur al single mom yeah, Wallah we see who uh uh Yanim al Hagetilanam Yan. Feel libtal bait, feel Ibtea il surful masulet and med day of planning and it for curif m fustabalule the kitholmadres e talemuri dot e kula hagat bartanik fil usra biba finis, but not the fate, masanunes but em fit of the mare bani adam we had filmonzuma di kulf, said the ini. Boba is almini lamismal ana de nine kem mini il oh surfaban bihtag budgeting ubiha nintibiani bordali u to tab you kida besal haganinti you tap your card uh asal hag asal hagelfilmzuma di culo, asab hagga and ninti talimi lamamasana tofli ul hagagolot de miktalimi sahai and spuriali and nikti bategeh de teretibil musta abelumen na hardo uhul e shrub e ba tana shall dirty work be edi but niktiplani musta abeltufli uh musta abelou fiki antibel haget woolmas uleya and l neha e aliki as well. When I take that very seriously, I think for being a single mom. Uh I love it. Otaban I take pride and um fakura and an old and analau bitum uh Taban Bishofu Bobo my kid um Basyani Fahura Humayusarulaiba I planned it. Bus anti once hardy film mokov Rabbena bidl owa, we dilikil uh sabru bi delikil il bisahiliktori, bimahiliktory, tool my intiquasa.

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A gul single mom sonnet muhtawa, aslan cave fandik worked. Al an inikinti tikuni sana at mahtawa, masha alla, masha allaiki and inti bit anelama shoofik bit nezili, wara ba atzili home, inti at ta mina nasalia tuni half is bima inni and hen and new mama. Tatini half is no la hatalo and dik uh baby you can do it, you can do it, but shit dana left.

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Alo.

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Inti cave betin shif and mama dia gulili abga ayre fla n shukranalal boost and anab shof nafsium kosera gidan f so happy ninti Murra Majullah. Busi, I think wa al qhatwal ula ninti chili kulhagat swayra liptekul minwatik. Ya masalan. Mindless scrolling, uhtibal khazana libi gia out of the blue kada. Shukra, elbal khazana al arduta di masan talat tm tvih. Besarashen ehna fiyan dina l' culture bita and we have to stay busykul minum nahaget malhashlazma awi. Fa hagalaba m alhadwati nabas hasub habaktip telet haget SSM to tamer and lism to tamer in the hot. Hello. Baktiphem metaleta, wadain baktip tahta ked you fot the nana, bada, a khala's kazakaza kazakazakas. Le aulad ja kulilbet. Ohtaban haian, butas hey bit le san il auled mayanin ilum kuludor hotil task diaritarih, stovitarik andardo ktevi tarih booker. Hide. Bigulo, ma man erifel uhir kef figderu isawero, huma andum aulad ah akid and uh musaidat, actor menwahda, by the way, muhum please, and an if sifik al musaad bisado to banta man bas in ikoti gadu al musayedat the task t tiny holeshbinsad kidam nirmihom, la beep arfin, akiluhum e, sakem, hi amilo akli e haila bisuhum eyerohut inti inti bordo yni mushrifa alakulida Mishba Elilman ficret isitelep Tamil da Luhadaol, heroes, a lagamb holjid ninjjid. Mumti can tohda men hum. Mama kaman hea robit urba at fall, lohda hols, hols, can uhboya, henan b she be staf shru, uh bitna luhada k m uh mudnea giddan. Bus Kamen El Musaida dul bi htegu ishrofsaida dul bihtegu ishrof, dehagabardo. Matal e lasn khlia. Hatel ofi musa, homa I zin mama. Homa misha I zin ya nanny, homa izin mama, lethargno, anda la fikra body u lady tamarin, andal bokrugma cool my friends who nestalha layarf. Uh munkan feel bit oh yeah ni what manabo sour bebu man is analame humbil, and al bamil hagetl hale ilfiha bonding, ilfiha tarobot uh fiatarobot. Um il ilum, and tibedri. Setad bihta gutasa awasha sat noom, mustaman ya. Please. Namustaman sa. Analiya telatashur munaimaima.

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Teletashurmanem diabasma.

SPEAKER_00 19:34

Petikulita sasha sata, anda kois lomtilata sa. Bada motalato, ablika canobinamo my uh, uhtedanim isanedi.

SPEAKER_01 19:53

Kandik worked in total.

SPEAKER_00 19:55

Well I of karin mohttawa basically um it's it comes natural by now. Ya ni haiya uh autonomy yeah audience terabitrayer. Uh seeing the comments helps a lot. Um tali kataban, yes. Um, so short tali. Laura Hinfit Mwayan tanom more out, ever has a video that mbe ever. Okay. To survive. Binal Hambad, uh we pick each other, uh she helps me a lot. Um she's a great person, Sarah, a great friend and a great person. I'm so lucky to have her. I love you so much. And I can't wait. We should actually do that. She has her own brand. But we should, and we will, inshaAllah. Well I lately kemen ibtadit ehtam occur bnfsi u behua yeti u ergal enfsi tani or shufana bhabil ifa ba eight tulil wat uhmal auled y emma mrekizaal enfsi, ala inan atalim huaygdida amilhayegdida YouTube uhumi Hawa Huwaiti besbifa karib shul Ha YouTube Musahil.

SPEAKER_01 24:06

Mishsah l. Oh, inu Aslan Aslan tinjahe ala YouTube, kaman musahil, inisbale al qha edel limoju dahnik al qahad al jamahiriya hagat YouTube, Bnisbalia asab platforms al altaneen. Uh, uhimuki shofik geriben, nirjahala YouTube. Inshaalla. Wutsar khaleha, and nibuha. With hammisuha, in nahatirja, tasaur, ala YouTube Arsirula Hale Libesma, actor videohatlia tabuha, ala youtube ration t Hamas witnessil YouTube ration. Anaminan nas aliha heb in the arja ashu videoata wila liki videoatik the sira ala instah abbukash abh abrabasma ziad. Abra esmatak, ashufel harakatel helloa, krifil modu.

SPEAKER_00 24:53

Lalalalhua filmoa la beli akidun sha'la ha priority liga.

SPEAKER_01 24:58

Minel al muhtawa ali acter al an bashu faknezilihua al skinker alhtimambil basharum. Fi lafetni kada taliik, mukitir, bas la fetni kada taliik moj dandik uh no ahterna hasidik in nikadaba, kul shoya tutlailana, b creme jadrim shit mo arfi nehna.

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Yani is anti masalan and sit the products with hebium canik bulli la ultit nan products halloween yib anti uh deal fi uh el fikra inu il sou melien, il fotra li fatit itmala, bichakler rahib, giddan productshandu fikra andra products with uh tamili haob tahtilgil, tamili hase, family eczema. But a man at jerny hageshia gabel matso we rehaban A you toban taban at least two weeks. At least two weeks, every single product. Best ana diamond ba'ul inu ana mess ba hot products topicalo ana I'm very open to saying that. Ana bekul kways, bam kways, but morran, bamel microneedling filayad, bamel uh uh skin boosters, uh hatait fillers abli keda, botox kiti, it's a whole approach. Uh is good for hydration. Mishma, my skin is glassy kida just because of this cream. But you're right, I should have masalan on a monthly basis, yeah. Hello, hello. Top skincare, top hair care, top uh fashion brand, whatever it may be. But the account with a lot of things. Uh in one minute or in in few minutes, you can see what you're doing. It sounds like you're promoting a lot, but there is a lot of products for suit. I think can two weeks or occur video source, skincare. I am very brands are fine, and products ala social media, it'd product too too harsh.

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Ta yebima ennum nitkeleman anal atfal, alyom inti uh om little flan, ula den. Ishel ishia a saba fiterbi yat al wuled.

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Ah, kashabeb Dimas Uleik vira giddan ham rabi gil iligey ba regalem shagbina regel mogudinati. Let him drabi regal. Our responsibility in nahna na robbi ba el gil iligaida. Ana behodil moda serious giddan yani. Giddan, ya nauledi del wati talat sinin u Hamasini. Arthin, khalik. Menuhomasana tinta dabitun filmadresa mainfashi drabuha. Okay. Mainfashi drabuha. Ya ni fee protocol and then kidafit, laubint darabit had the minu lady, darabitu yani. Ya mele. Y bayadab Idu, okay, you zo I have Idu a kwamen, ha? You so I have Idu kidha, we're you reported le Mudarisa, uh yeah seem na read, and reza, and read shit him. And we make it very clear for beat and well it may be drop shall bin. May I make it a bit, bitter drop, whatever the case may be. Yani stress a little more.

SPEAKER_01 32:35

And I'm interrupted kill me, I'm a good shell me fiha, besmal uh social media and dikfi omhad katir mun can east a feed um uh saya and a bash lil asofyani bashu fala or the walk, a katir om mahat, la man de homoshke, d'abattaka dropha saruledraba drabu.

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I you a basiani had fickra a jabutni messlow lesimando hoof oh les mi kunando le dafill bintisbakbir Azarminnak, a daf minnak, misha tetherin heani dorbita here dorbitok. Pental isn'tarim kouwit Haben Humayberu kun Yani fe Tokir Kabir Mara Oheti Uladia Fien andu Anna Badil Owl, Yani Annahl Belady Anna Ladil Oul Ah, Lamei Gi Akle, Mama Lesn't Tigil Aul Baden Necultari Muni Fil Bit L Anna Sur T Sit Awlana. Mazam Set, Lauledia Kul Aulana Kulbay Laufia Hagel Beta Hana Binakulha Adin, Binakulha, Afini Nolo Fodal Hatasura had it is boy had um. Taban, Taban, Di Haget Muhammad, Yani Demules and No Hum Delwati, uh Fiba, Haget Kir, Dem Yani, Basana, Modo Daven is very muhem, muhemidan yani, uh, the sharehumayamuhega, hasanamak soufan home amaluha yani um dihaget muhem has mumma hai rufu hekbarul madrasa w mukta m kuni shofu had yulula tamish kenat of worshmith simp musalhatal.

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Fellow will assess kawi uhumal ayamju aula de girl like an homtaro de tanamur or else the mamma ready fit.

SPEAKER_00 35:04

Tanamur Oh hasn't murral edamo fadona uh ma can shoot anomur a we best can have kiss of my shiza uld was up to haggis can be kiss of hagamwa yana gidden can be can be kiss if you tlubha gidden. I took it seriously, Yani Deham Hagga and Bij Dabia Hata Modabij Daya or Fan adapted kiss of e totlob hagg's e kidabus Idi Otlubha or Madrasar of to home and how beat kissif awimal moda film maybe a mech kidabus uh kiddo ladal yanyadal hoof minal moda can it fed a sab of sarah was it number alefia? Can it was such pressure?

SPEAKER_01 36:00

Okay, but I'm ultimately animal om Mahat al Atval Massine.

SPEAKER_00 36:07

Can orbas any mudarisa can it keepsadu action a lotulu moduada show modal mof had uh al hagemayana ube kulal ouled be stanul al oulat gideshimse kulhaja ma ifamo mjid al umagulu al om madrasa ma ifamu tof hayaful aula d'unhadeshalat galet lahum andashai galat.

SPEAKER_01 37:08

Sur Ana Mukana anda actor ka inata ilkural ordia ashra, anda hatam and afteka fil banat fil madresa, lilomaleha.

SPEAKER_00 37:28

Karma fil madresa, karma swear to godsil moky kuntu kitu. Yeah gidden breani andamarov shlikant, tofla toflayani, umaken shommer had fall, fume shore feaf, a tufla dive, a tough lil wit kissiv U yet anke de ana binasbedi munkana shakse to lady read a doff.

SPEAKER_01 38:33

Mahagul ana milal minanasali ali alli ra marragein, bas ana bintashtahiltala sabieti, washtahhiltala nafeti, washtahil tala inno mashari wahasisi, agder inni afakirfihom u ariformashan, agder awaj, el mushkila, eligudami, a fakker fihulul, gabilma aruh, blawatov alatul. Fa lasharulul machal leftaha, atala fi akida wagul Yawelwe lul li fakkiriit nam marale ki haru akasir il madrasa alarasahom fa minusbraim kin ano ano abuha gadin kida sahranin filbet, fa fatahna, al modra gadin binit kellam, gutulu eda fi hasar kida maha eda. Fahuwa la shu gali haruhali kibnani gali khal lehada isterji erribla. Fanata let kida gutulu tahal manim zahfil Modrahada, ta'al nitkellam fhibu jadia, ehnemaha nigdder nikun aggressive buttarigahadi, la annu idahiya sha fatna, nehna rahahim binachut haggana biyeddana, albint mukintisir sharrania. U anama brahat kun sharrania. Faga ad wultelukutul lazim Ida Jana ei Haja Jataanat minnaha awl haja ngod ano inta ma'bad, alashan neerf kefhan hellal Mawdur, la Nuimkin ana a khudhabihaniya zjadha, ho wai kun ya khudhabi agil. Falazim gelbi it kellem ma'glu matalan aw Gelbuit kellam ma'agl I love that. Bas msaheb Einashan also linu Hadal Karar la u Khatem nabnu salam na Alabad.

SPEAKER_00 40:08

Had fet shamansa the innu inti filhasadilam hadbi orabli ebnik, inti mishbut kuni uhilli il mushkela actually, which is so bad. It be eyzet an tukimi linaf sika t um la u inti mukani ba hassan maaiki mwak finti softih diha ekfu athaha. Feb uh il modua gay min past traumas u bizi akter maybe feed.

SPEAKER_01 40:43

Mjidhila kama abra ansahana eyombita be anawla kuntu taifu mahat bianu, minal mawadi a hadi mauladahom au habbin in nakum into, tinsahu hom, er silula home al podcast hada, la annu anaarfa mu sehl l-terbiya zsiddan jiddan saaba besbinifselwak zjidden mumtia, mumkin nichalia, ziddan mumtea, uhellwa u leziza, la alnu zajma kant bidgulbasmaf Hadoli ażijal ali nahnam ir rabium, uhadol il-mustekbel sajma nahna al-an al-mustekbal hag ahlena, homma al-mustekbal, hagana nehnam akter morra yani bakoki auladik. Hasseti atkurini morra kida. Halas, haseti, maniarfesh amil abkaru hegati manaf sik bikiti.

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Busi ana anit alashen ergat morran teni. Anit, anit, yani canfi harbedahia bin you been nafsya shambus ekut kotanana enzel strik fijim u enzil. Okay, Fekenelhoma matawdin and mumy alot will fill beat. Fab tadit mummy wa atinzil, kulyum, eyes attenzel to sateen, bural beat, whatodur. Okay. Fa can be a fulya baby odioa yoto. Kunta henan uh filbabucholos at holim cutruash. Uh decanit octa fotro sawab sarahaya. Um ba uliumba kumuta my namo hizenzal sho'byus hobil. Antiven, antiven uh sekuni ba on a ba elapsta gaz of how to make up, uh bit oh acta haggad gibba boo. Um asharfa can it fee a m butzilli soap fell no bordul a line full bit tabulum my home f uh say belu let be a youtube border my home kidabil as well. How do I home fa okay huma be home for what she home leaves? Um it comes to me naturally. Yani Anna Diamond Busta a we naam land. If you have a lot of people who are not a good thing, you can't get a little bit more.