Make It Make Sense……But Also Give It To Me

If you’ve ever looked around and thought “make it make sense”… this one’s for you.

This week we’re diving headfirst into the social norms, trends, and unspoken rules that just aren’t adding up anymore. From over-the-top gender reveals and kids’ birthday parties, to fashion trends that might look good on your friend but absolutely not on you. 

We get into the exhausting “who texts who” dating games, why we should all just say what we want and want what we say, and how people out here are treating red flags like cute little personality traits 

Also on the list:

– Vague prayer requests (be specific… or admit you’re a little nosy like us)

– Posting every life update online

– Speakerphone in public… especially in the bathroom?? Jail. Immediately.

Then we switch it up and get honest about the things we want but don’t always say out loud, what our “type” really is, what a good date actually looks like, and the little differences between us (think: gray sweats & backwards hat vs wrangler jeans & boots).

It’s real, it’s fun, and it’s giving “we said what we said.”

Love, 

Ash & Chess

Transcript

SPEAKER_01 0:01

Hey guys. Welcome back to Did She Just Say That? I'm Jessin. And I'm Ashley. And we are in the month of Unhinged and Unfiltered, and we are going there today. You're welcome. We're going there. I want to give a little disclaimer. This is just our opinions. So don't get mad at us. And if you do, that's fine. Just keep it to yourself. Because this is just our opinions. And you may love some of this stuff, and that is fine. Don't send no hate mail. Oh, yeah, no.

unknown 0:35

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 0:36

You can probably message us though if you have an opinion. Oh, for sure. Yeah, we want to hear it. But yeah, these are all opinions.

SPEAKER_01 0:43

So today we are a little bit.

SPEAKER_00 0:47

A little spicy.

SPEAKER_01 0:48

We're going to talk about um tell me why this is a thing. What are these trends that everybody is doing that we are we're going to complain about them? Yeah. And this one. You're getting some insights. I know uh things that we want but we don't admit. I mean, we admit to each other. Oh, for sure. But y'all about to find out. Yeah. So if you're smart and you're interested, you're watching this. Take notes. Get your notebook and your pen out. That's great. So if you have not joined our little community, we are on Facebook, Instagram, and the Tiki Talk. And you can obviously stream on all of the podcasting platforms.

SPEAKER_00 1:40

And if you want to watch, sometimes we We do things where you can't you have to see it. Yeah, it's not gonna make sense. But you can catch us on YouTube. So yeah.

SPEAKER_01 1:51

That's it.

SPEAKER_00 1:52

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 1:52

Are we ready? We're ready. Let's jump. Is that all the things?

SPEAKER_00 1:55

Oh can we tippy toe? We can tippy toe. Okay. We can tiptoe. So I mean I'm starting this one, aren't I? You are. So we have this little topic called tell me why this is a thing. These are social norms, these are trends, these are things that are very common and popular right now. And society has made normal. And we're like, maybe, no, not for us. May but some of them they I might call myself out and say that they are for me. So Okay. Don't text them back too fast. You know, you're in those dating phase or you're whatever, whatever you call it, situationships.

SPEAKER_01 2:35

I don't understand that. If you have your phone and someone has texted you, respond. I'm horrified.

SPEAKER_00 2:41

But do you go like the awkward, should I text first? Should should I wait for them to text me? Oh, you know the answer to this. I I want they don't know the answer. I mean, I don't want to tell it. This is part of the podcast. Uh okay. No, I'm not gonna text you first.

unknown 2:58

Okay.

SPEAKER_00 2:59

And and that were and but I have this OCD-ness about I can't have my text build up. So my group chats and all, and I see like 30 some messages, I'm like, I have to read it. So I just respond back. It's not me going, sure, oh, I want to keep them waiting. But I do reply reply quick. I don't expect them to reply quick back though.

SPEAKER_01 3:21

No, it's and when I say I don't text first. Once I'm comfortable and have the confidence that you should have, absolutely, I'll text you whenever I want. Um but I don't I'm like, oh, a text came in, I gotta wait 20 minutes or something. No, I don't do that. If I have my phone and I'm able to text, I will respond. And it's not like I get butthurt if I don't get an immediate response. No. But there is that whole, I don't get it, like you have to wait two days, you have to do this. Like, if I had a good time and will tell you. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 3:53

Had a great time, enjoyed myself. This is dating when you're older. This is the I'm just gonna do it. I'm not gonna do the game thing.

SPEAKER_01 4:01

Oh yeah.

SPEAKER_00 4:02

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 4:02

Well.

SPEAKER_00 4:06

With the right people.

SPEAKER_01 4:07

With the right people. Yeah. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 4:08

Right audience.

SPEAKER_01 4:09

Yes. What you got? Um gender reveal parties and over the top kids' birthday parties. What?

SPEAKER_00 4:20

Like Yeah, it's too much.

SPEAKER_01 4:23

I mean, it's cute. I guess, but I would rather spend that money on the nursery or the gifts for the kids. Yeah. Your balloon arch costs more than my delivery.

SPEAKER_00 4:37

Yeah. It's a lot. And for the ones that do it, power to you. Some people have their love language.

SPEAKER_01 4:47

Like that's doing the like hosting and all of that. That's their love language. And so it works for them. But for me, I'm like, you want a theme? What's the theme? I'll buy some streamers, those little poo-poo things.

unknown 4:59

Poo-poop.

SPEAKER_01 5:01

And then let's have fun. But yeah, it's so much. It's so much. And it just keeps getting bigger and bigger and bigger. Like, have you seen where they shoot off fireworks to the for the gender reveal and all of that? Oh, like the pink and blue. Yes. Have you seen the ones where they go south? Like they go those are great to push the poppers and it hits them instead of.

SPEAKER_00 5:23

Yes. Yeah. I find that more entertaining than finding out the same. But also that you're this is someone that doesn't have kids. This topic is not. But I go to these things.

SPEAKER_01 5:33

I have kids and I and it's still no.

SPEAKER_00 5:36

Yeah. Not for it. Yeah. If it didn't work out, it's called a situationship. Call it what it is. If you were in a relationship and it ended, your relationship ended. Well, it has to be a relationship.

SPEAKER_01 5:49

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 5:49

You have to get to that point. Yeah. But like if you're just like, I'm bitter and I'm just gonna be like a situationship. No, if it was something and you there were real feelings involved and you were in a relationship, it's okay to say the relationship ended. Yeah. Oh yeah. I don't know. I just feel like that's I hear that more these days. Situationship. What was it? Like anyway.

SPEAKER_01 6:13

I need descriptions on some of this stuff, I think.

SPEAKER_00 6:16

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 6:18

Not every hobby needs to become a side hustle.

SPEAKER_00 6:22

This is I mean, this is a hobby. We ain't trying to make money off of it. Like we're just trying to We're just having fun. Having fun.

SPEAKER_01 6:28

Yeah. And it's a awesome if your hobby can be stage, but not every single side hustle or hobby needs to be great. Side hustle.

SPEAKER_00 6:41

I don't know.

SPEAKER_01 6:41

It's sometimes overwhelming to see it.

SPEAKER_00 6:44

Yeah. The talking stage lasting way too long. You know, I think this again goes back to the being I'm I'm just in my 30s now dating and I'm like, we didn't this or not? Like there's a time and space for like conversations and that kind of thing, but just ask the question.

SPEAKER_01 7:03

Like like Well if you want a relationship, you have to get into it with someone that doesn't know what they want.

SPEAKER_00 7:09

But I think communicating. Just communicating what you want. Oh yeah. At the gate. But not too fast. Yeah. Will you jump into it real fast? Have I? I said, will you? Like will you I mean um I'm probably a little more calmer now. If I used to jump, I'd be like, He's my man after four minutes. You know, like that's how it used to be. That's how I worked, that's how I rolled. Yeah. Not so much anymore, but you need I go off of feeling and vibe. I don't go off of just yeah. Say what you want. Right. Want what you say. Yeah. Yes. That's pretty good. And I like that. I like that. I like it.

SPEAKER_01 7:43

I don't know where it came from.

SPEAKER_00 7:45

Your brilliant mind.

SPEAKER_01 7:46

Uh yeah. Alright. This one we're gonna talk about for a minute. Okay. We're gonna talk about it. Why do we have to dress with all of these trends? Mom jeans come up to my neck and I look like I'm six months pregnant, and I'm not putting butterfly clips in my hair that I wore in sixth grade because they're back in. I am 43 years old. Also, the um chokers choker things that you and why can't I wear my tennis shoes with uh the no-show socks instead of having to wear socks halfway up my legs? I don't want to do that. Right. Does that mean I'm out of sale?

SPEAKER_00 8:25

The trends like, and here's the thing too. I I now buy, well, I mean I I buy old navy jeans sometimes, but like I buy Judy Blues and like I buy similar jeans. So I'm like, I hope these come back around. Cause I just dropped, you know, yes four or five pairs of these at 70 bucks a piece. So I'm not gonna like not wear them anymore. No, you know me.

SPEAKER_01 8:45

If I want to wear my skinny jeans, I'll wear my skinny jeans. If I want to wear my bell bottoms, yeah, I'm wearing my bell bottoms. I don't have to have those straight legs. High waisted high waisted pants are not for short people. It's just for me. And they look good on you. Thanks. But if they go out of style, you go keep wearing them.

SPEAKER_00 9:01

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 9:02

See, that's they should because it I mean it flatters your body and you feel good in them. Yeah. Doesn't have to be a trendy thing.

SPEAKER_00 9:12

Yeah. I mean, I'm at work and me and three or four mother coworkers, we laugh because we all are within like four months apart in age, and we all wear our high-waisted. We have the little side tuck, our little shirts are side tucked. And that's supposedly not in anymore. Yeah, but we do it good because we're like, we're all comfy in this.

SPEAKER_01 9:32

I think trends should be what you feel comfortable in. Yeah. And mom's sorry, I'm not trying to call you out. She's always like, these are this colors for this season, and I'm like, Well, those colors don't look good on me. I'm not wearing them because they're in. You have to find your colors.

SPEAKER_00 9:45

Yeah. White jeans year-round. Oh, yeah. No, see that's there's winter white and there's spring white. But that's like an off-white. Yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah. But I'm saying, like, I'm not going oh, it's not Labor Day weekend. Yeah, no, I'm not doing that anymore.

SPEAKER_01 10:04

There's just so much. And it changes. Yeah. I mean, I already have a closet and a whole storage room full of clothes. I can't Yeah. Right. And I don't want to wear some of this. I have tried so hard to pull off the jeans, tennis shoes, and like a cute sweater. I can't do it. I feel like my great-grandmother going out to walk them all. That's what she would wear.

SPEAKER_00 10:30

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 10:30

But then I see all of these women and they look so cute, and I'm like, that's adorable. But I put it on and I'm like, here we go to walk them all. Let's go, granny. Can't do it.

SPEAKER_00 10:43

That's great. But you pull it off. You always have the cutest tennis shoes, and I'm like, that's so cute. I have a Nike addiction of tennis shoes. There could be worse addictions. I'm okay with that. Yeah, having that one. Thank you. Yeah, for sure. Hmm. This one I feel so seen and called out. I don't know if it's good or bad. Treating red flags as a quirk. If I really like somebody, I'll be like, I will try to explain it to you like and be like, but it's a quirk. And over it, it's not. It's a red flag. But I'm also the person that's like, oh, red flags. I thought it was a carnival.

SPEAKER_01 11:23

She's gonna ride all the rads.

SPEAKER_00 11:28

I have to watch that instead.

SPEAKER_01 11:29

If you have not like seen Queens of Comedy, do yourself a favor and have an item with your girlfriends and laugh. I have several things to watch with you.

SPEAKER_00 11:39

And still magnolias. Yeah. Haven't watched that yet. Shh shit.

unknown 11:46

Shh sh.

SPEAKER_00 11:47

That's so funny.

SPEAKER_01 11:48

Amy and Josh will get that. That's great. Oh, pumpkin.

SPEAKER_00 11:53

Yeah, red flags.

SPEAKER_01 11:54

Um, yeah, your red flag. You have said that a few times about I mean, I like red flags.

SPEAKER_00 12:00

I know they're red flags. Yeah. They're fun. There's so many red flags, but it looks fun until it's not. Um I think that's when they hurt the most.

SPEAKER_02 12:11

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 12:12

Because they have that potential.

SPEAKER_00 12:15

I can change those red flags. I can make them green. I can make them yellow. Oh. Orange.

SPEAKER_01 12:23

Orange. Okay. Um, this one's bad. And sorry. When people post, need prayer. Okay, what am I praying about? And the nosy part of me, I need some detail. And it's not like I really need to know, but but you wouldn't know what you're praying for. I like to be specific in my prayers.

SPEAKER_00 12:51

I like to be specific in my prayers.

SPEAKER_01 12:52

Yeah, but if we're being honest, it's because we want to be nice. Yeah. Like call myself out. Yeah. And it's yeah. Sorry for you guys that post that. Yeah. I do still pray, but I want to know.

SPEAKER_00 13:04

But my prayer is very broad.

SPEAKER_01 13:07

Jesus, I really wanted to know what this was, but I won't pray for it anyway.

SPEAKER_00 13:12

No, I'm kidding. Yes. I'm kidding. Uh checking in everywhere on social media. I'm at the grocery buying two oranges and lemons and limes. I'm now at the gym. Oh, but now I pulled a hammy. I pulled a hamstring. And now I'm in the line and getting my kids at their school, and I'm taking selfies. And my hair looks cute today. And just all the things of checking in all the time where they are. Mm-hmm. That's a lot. We get it, Karen. We get it. We know. We know your day we know your daily routine. We know you're very busy. You do all the things and you look great when you do it.

SPEAKER_01 13:51

Oh, that's what me smile. Yeah, that's a lot. Yeah. But it makes them happy. Yeah. I just do it. Yeah. But I don't want to laugh. But do it. Yeah.

unknown 14:03

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 14:04

Um there are at the apps on Facebook that people I don't even know what you do. Like you go to them, I guess, and you You download the app. Probably download the app, maybe. I don't know. But you put your picture in there and then it makes you look completely different in like different clothes, different hair, different outfit, different body.

SPEAKER_02 14:27

Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_01 14:27

And then we all go on there and comment how great the person looks when it's not them at all. Them at all.

SPEAKER_02 14:32

Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_00 14:33

But what? Yeah. What are we doing that for? You look beautiful. Looks nothing like them. But you look gorgeous. Like, and it's it's not a it's not.

SPEAKER_01 14:44

Those are hee hee ha ha ha.

SPEAKER_00 14:46

Like when you and I do the like those little things for social media for AI. I don't I fully do not expect people to be like, you guys look gorgeous. It is like a funny, fun thing.

SPEAKER_01 14:56

We make it known that it is not like right. King George messed up and gave us the wedding ring.

SPEAKER_00 15:03

He always makes us marry.

SPEAKER_01 15:04

One of us always we're not. And we tell him, and he's like, Oh my bad, King George is our chat GPT. We are not. It's so funny. Yeah, I don't get it. How about talking on speakerphone in public? Mm-mm. Full-blown conversation. Oh, in the bathroom.

SPEAKER_00 15:26

Please tell me why. You are sitting on the Yeah. Mom, we don't want to I don't want to hear when I'm sitting beside someone in a stall, I don't want to hear all the things that's happening anywhere. Honestly. Put the phone up to your ear against some of your butts. Yeah, and that's not sanitary, first of all. But anywhere. The fact that it's anywhere.

SPEAKER_01 15:47

No one wants to hear conversation. No. And I mean maybe somebody does, but not everybody.

unknown 15:53

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 15:54

It's a lot. I think it should be against the law. Mm-hmm. Against the law? Yeah. You're getting ticketed. You're not allowed to hold your phone in your car.

SPEAKER_00 16:01

You're getting ticketed for talking about public conversation. Public speaker phone conversation. A PSC.

SPEAKER_01 16:13

You and your ticket find. Oh.

SPEAKER_00 16:18

What else you got? That's all I have on that. Uh that's plenty. I feel like for me. What you got?

SPEAKER_01 16:27

People that drive slow in the fast lane, and then we all just go around them. No, honk the horn and tell them to get over. We should not have to go around them in the slow lane.

SPEAKER_00 16:34

I I just do it. I smile I I don't smile. I mean mug as I go by them.

SPEAKER_01 16:40

I'm sorry. I know you live in Indiana. Indiana's worse. We call them FIFO. It gets worse as you go up north. Yeah. Indiana's in Ohio.

SPEAKER_00 16:51

Yeah. Yeah, it gets real bad there. I have a really heavy foot.

SPEAKER_01 16:55

Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_00 16:56

We know that's right.

SPEAKER_01 16:57

I can't always hold it like back because it's legs start shaking. But I don't want to have to go around you in the slow lane because Granny's over there in the slow where we're supposed to be. Right. I don't want to bother her. She's doing great. She should have taken her driver's test again already, but they don't do that. So she's minding her business. I shouldn't have to go around you because you're on your phone, Linda. Mm-hmm. Yeah. It really bothers me. I feel like I can tell you like you're getting a little flushered right now. A little spicy. I'm not, but it does that's probably the only road rage that I get. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 17:30

What about same?

SPEAKER_01 17:31

What about road rage? What do you do when someone gets mad at you?

SPEAKER_00 17:35

Oh, I smile.

SPEAKER_01 17:36

I do too. I smile and wave.

SPEAKER_00 17:38

And I act so like I don't know what I'm doing.

SPEAKER_01 17:40

Over the top.

SPEAKER_00 17:41

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 17:41

They sometimes it makes them a little more angry though. I know.

SPEAKER_00 17:45

I'm like, oops, sorry. Yeah. I'm playing awesome like I'm a woman, I can't drive. Like, it's fine. Ma'am. We don't do that. I got it's true, ladies. We're not as good as drivers as men. Speak for yourself. I'll speak for myself. Yes, ma'am. I'll speak for myself. I know where I stand with my driving. I know. That's all I got. Alright. Topic what's our next episode? Like rapid fire. I know. Are y'all judging us? I know. Do you agree with everything we've said so far? Or do you agree with anything? Or anything. Nothing.

SPEAKER_01 18:22

I don't know. Things we want, but we won't admit. I don't really want to I'll set this one out. You can't do that.

SPEAKER_00 18:35

My nose just hit the microphone. Um Do you show me a start? I feel like we have very similar taste. Except for we don't. And guys. Oh. Till we don't prefer men somehow end up talking to guys, but Well, men. But like you know what I mean. I was kidding. Just certain things.

SPEAKER_01 18:57

Yeah, they have to be over six feet. Six feet. Plus. Some kind of facial hair. Mm-hmm. Tattoos are great. Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_00 19:07

But I like the chiseled face. Yeah. I don't care about the chiseled. Blonde hair and I'm like, nope. Yeah. Dark hair. Preferred dark haired, dark complexion, but because I'm fair skin and lighter. But um, you know. Dark complexion's nice. Italian man would be great. I'm gonna go to Italy one day and find my soulmate there. Probably.

SPEAKER_01 19:33

I know.

SPEAKER_00 19:37

Unless you have a good sound. Just speak Italian to me. Um But yeah. That's yeah, now you all know my my type. You don't have to be this. That's just a preference. Right. Out of the gate.

SPEAKER_02 19:51

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 19:51

Because then like if your personality is blah, all that goes south. Gray sweatpants and a backwards hat can always help, but See, I'm not a gray sweatpants lover like you are.

SPEAKER_01 20:03

I am.

SPEAKER_00 20:05

I'm here for it. They'll never go out of south. That's a trend and I'll never go to south.

SPEAKER_01 20:09

Just have Wrangler jeans on and boots, and I'm good.

SPEAKER_00 20:12

Wranglers and boots. I love it.

SPEAKER_01 20:15

Alright.

SPEAKER_00 20:18

You good?

SPEAKER_01 20:18

Well and I'll start with um I want to go to the bathroom alone without anybody talking to me or yelling for me.

SPEAKER_00 20:26

Mom. Just violence. Mom. Or tank. Or your puppy. Or he's like, I'm gonna watch you in the mother.

SPEAKER_01 20:35

He'll get in the shower and just sit there and look. I'm like, can you privacy? None. Bro. Maybe in like six more years I'll get some. Yeah. Not right now. Figure I'd start out easy.

SPEAKER_00 20:48

You're working your way in. I guess. Um, being pursued. Blinking of eyelashes. That one maybe even slightly u obsessed. In a healthy way, right? In a healthy way.

unknown 21:02

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 21:02

Yeah. Like you can be obsessed with me. It's fine. Um and love loudly. You don't have to do it quietly. You can do it loudly. You can do it anyway, but that's okay to be loud about it. I mean, I did kind of got I got into the show U for a while.

SPEAKER_01 21:17

The what?

SPEAKER_00 21:17

The remember you? The show U? Okay. We need to add that to your list. But basically, um I forget his name, Pen Bagley. Um, he's like the main character of the guy. And um he gets he gets in these relationships and he gets obsessed with them and he ends up sometimes killing them. But um but not like that. No, it's it's the passion without the killing part. But yeah, it it's you have to watch it. It's a great show. It's good.

SPEAKER_02 21:48

Okay.

SPEAKER_00 21:48

It's good. But there are several seasons of it too. But that's not what she wants. No, I don't want the killing part. Don't be murdered.

SPEAKER_01 21:58

Okay, let's move on.

SPEAKER_00 22:04

Next. No editing. This is great. Go ahead.

SPEAKER_01 22:06

Um I wanna disappear for like three days with absolutely no responsibility. No one uh needs me.

SPEAKER_00 22:13

I just wanna Well just tell me in advance so I know. And I don't get I don't get concerned when I don't hear from you. You have my location. I do. I know. But if it's in a a random field somewhere, I'm gonna be like, she did. She gone. And shit three A's in a field. I I don't know. I mean I would do that. With a tent. Yeah.

unknown 22:36

That's so funny.

SPEAKER_00 22:37

I just tell me, please. Yeah, I got you. I don't think I can do that for a little bit, but yeah. Compliments for non-physical things. Like you have a big heart or your I don't know, kindness. Like things that are you love, love physical. Love, love. But things that are not physical. I mean good. I mean you can comment on physical, but that to me like come out of the gate with something that's a little more Well, of course, because that means they're paying attention. Right. They're learning about you. And I mean like when when but when you do ask, what's the first thing you notice? And if they say odds are small, I'm like, good answer. But if they're like that booty though, it's like mmm, like Yeah. Okay. Don't come out of the gate with that. You can tell me later that you like it, but don't come out of the gate with it.

SPEAKER_01 23:32

I mean, you have to have a booty. Thanks. You're welcome. Um Reassurance. Yes, you can say it again.

SPEAKER_00 23:39

Yeah. I love that. Like Yeah. It's almost as if the the things that we read it's almost like because the guys always say good guys finish last and they do these things. It's like, no, you can you can do these things. We're not gonna chase the bad boy thing, you know. I mean some people do like that. The chase, the chase, the chase.

SPEAKER_01 24:02

Yeah, but you'll walk away when you realize.

SPEAKER_00 24:04

Yeah. Most definitely. But someone noticed the little things, the details about me. Like you if you know that I've had a bad day and I come home and you have my favorite like snack and you know, wallaby licorice things. If you that's that's my snack, just so you know. And putting that out there. Putting it out there. Um or you know, my favorite my favorite coffee or things that just in general, the small things, like just knowing.

SPEAKER_01 24:37

That is important because like I don't need a big fancy dinner for you to post me all over social media. Show up with my favorite candy and let's watch a movie and just chill. Rub my feet.

SPEAKER_00 24:48

Yeah. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 24:51

Um I want someone to plan the whole date. I just want to show up.

SPEAKER_00 24:59

Just show up? Yeah. Yeah. That's fantastic.

SPEAKER_01 25:02

Yeah. That would be beautiful.

SPEAKER_00 25:07

The whole date. The whole thing. I love surprises. I I hate that you didn't know that about me. I was completely shocked. I love that though. It does seem to tend that I like to plan and like yeah, and I have a planner and I write things down. But for someone else to do something that's spontaneous and fun, like it feels good. Pack your bags, not Tony where we're going. I'm not sure. These are the kind of clothes that you need. Yeah, yeah. I'm all in. I love it. Yeah. Love surprises.

SPEAKER_01 25:45

Um, I feel like I've admitted this. We both have, I think, but just for real, like, I won't say this when like, yeah, but like, oh, I want good communication. Like, very clear. Like, hey, this is where I'm at, or this is what I've got going on. And just to be able to like truly talk and be yourself. Just make it clear. Like, yeah. And I feel like sometimes we won't say this, like, oh, we're walking on eggshells, or we're tippy toeing around this. Like, what are we doing? Like, why? Yeah. In consistency. Be so consistent that it's almost boring with a little bit of chaos in there. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 26:28

I think as I'm getting older, simplistic is the way to go. I find myself, I think I've said this in a previous episode, looking at tiny houses and doing wanting to do more experiences with people and smaller friend groups and just a living a little more simple. Yeah. Sounds amazing to me. I now appreciate when I drive down to the country and I hit the back roads and my top is off my Jeep and I'm like breathing in the cow manure. Like I used to think, oh my god, I can't stand the smell. And I'm like, home. Yeah. Like that's the smell. Well, my last one.

SPEAKER_01 27:08

Yeah. Where are what we went? Small town living. Everyone knows everyone.

SPEAKER_00 27:13

You can let the kids like that is everybody knows everybody. Tell me about it. Everybody calls your friend. We just broke out a song on the side. I'm glad it was you this time and not me. That is a great song. It is. And that I hear you on that. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 27:29

I want that small town. I want my kids like I want wish my kids were growing up in that small town. And yeah. Did you ever watch um oh now I'm not gonna be able to remember the name of the show. Well, I guess I could go Gilmore Girls.

unknown 27:43

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 27:44

Isn't the first one I was thinking of, but oh my gosh.

SPEAKER_00 27:47

What sign me up?

SPEAKER_01 27:48

Yes.

SPEAKER_00 27:49

Check, check, check. Yep. But when you asked me that long time ago, I wanted to be in the city. In the No, never did. Never.

SPEAKER_01 27:57

No. Twenty years.

SPEAKER_00 27:59

Woohoo. And I'm like, I want to see the stars. I want to get in the back of a pickup truck and you know, go to a field and look at the stars.

SPEAKER_01 28:07

I want to be able to let my kids play outside at night and the neighbor, you know, not be like, be quiet.

SPEAKER_00 28:12

Mm-hmm. Yeah. Yeah. Go catch lightning bug bugs. And pinch the little lightning and then put them in the mason jar.

SPEAKER_01 28:20

Did you ever put them underneath your fingernails for your fingernails to light up?

SPEAKER_00 28:23

No. No, put them in mason jars though. And they probably got under my nails just, you know, accidentally. Yeah. No. I haven't lived. The last thing that I have is being defended when I'm not in the room. Like you never have to be able to do it. Knowing knowing that who has my back will see and should be. And say like that's not okay or you know. Yeah. Mm-hmm. That's that's what I have. Have a little confession. Oh god. What's your confession?

SPEAKER_01 29:00

So I've been getting a lot of slack about something that I said. What would you say? No, it's funny, like people picking at me about it. Um need or like good morning texts on our so maybe I like 'em.

unknown 29:20

That's great.

SPEAKER_00 29:22

Well, like surprises, and I'm very happy that you said this.

SPEAKER_01 29:25

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 29:26

Mm-hmm. They're nice, aren't they?

SPEAKER_01 29:28

I mean they're nice. They're not I still don't feel like I have to have a but it definitely brings a smell at my face.

SPEAKER_00 29:35

Like, oh to me, it's saying they're not saying good morning. They're saying you're my first thought today. Yeah. Or a friend. Or it doesn't even have to be a a guy, but like a whoever. Right. You're I'm thinking about you. Yeah. Enough to s to m message you. Or goodnight. You're my last thought going to sleep. Yeah. Good night text, I think, has always been important. But just want to calm myself out. Here you have it, everybody.

SPEAKER_01 30:02

Anyway, what I was missing out on, I guess.

SPEAKER_00 30:04

So that is added to your did you add that to your list? That's on your list. The things that you don't admit, but you are.

SPEAKER_01 30:09

And so I said I had a confession.

SPEAKER_00 30:12

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 30:13

Had to write my wrong.

SPEAKER_00 30:15

These are my confessions. It's like an Usher version.

SPEAKER_01 30:18

What is it when you go to a confession? I've never never done it. Did we just do that? What? A little more unhappy.

SPEAKER_00 30:25

Well, I was I was doing, yeah, I was doing like Usher Confessions, like, you know, the confessions album. But what you just talked about is um in the Catholic faith, when you go to a confession, you go to a confession and you share your sins. Mm-hmm. Oh, that's a sin? Well no, no, no. You share your sins. Your confessions to clear your sins. And then you then you get um I've never been to confession. Well, it's been a many years since I've been. Oh my Catholics. So yeah. I practice Christianity now, but yes, I used to go to Cat I used to go to Cat Um Confession. My feet are really cold. Are they? You you don't have anything. Your toes look fantastic right now. Thanks. I did you see that I have this leg out of the camera because my feet are white. It's fine. I just forgot to do it. It's almost time to get sun. So goodness. Uh-huh. Might have to get a spray tan. I got my nails done. Just don't look like an oompa loompa. Don't come back orange. I know. I know. That spot it matters where you go. If you this podcast, it matters where you get your spray tans. Ladies and gentlemen. Alright. What do you think? I mean. Do you feel sane? I feel like everyone. You feel exposed. I feel exposed if like everyone in public, everyone in the world knows my secrets. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 31:46

I hope you guys got some good laughs.

SPEAKER_00 31:48

Yeah. But also, you're welcome because now you have the secret to all the things that of all our in internal things that we want. Oh man. Uh what I didn't Oh, you didn't oh that we're just PG level.

SPEAKER_01 32:07

All right. All right.

SPEAKER_00 32:08

As always, you have the seat table. We're getting better. Boom.