Did She Just Say That?

We're Not Going To Keep Pretending

• Ashley and Chesson • Season 1 • Episode 9

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We're not doing it anymore......we're not pretending.

In this unhinged and unfiltered episode, we're saying the quiet parts out loud, the little white lies we tell ourselves to get through the day and the things women have been acting like we enjoy for far too long.

From "I'm fine" (when we're absolutely not) to the social norms we've all just accepted without question.....yeah, we're calling it ALL out.

This one is equal parts silly, painfully honest, and just uncomfortable enough to make you feel seen.

If you've ever smiled through something you hated, convinced yourself of something that wasn't true, or gone along with something just because "that's what we do", this episode is for you! 

If you've ever wanted to say this out loud but kept it to yourself because you're a sweet, respectful woman.....same

Pull up a chair. You always have a seat at our table!

Love, Ash & Chess


SPEAKER_03

Hey guys. Welcome to April. It's April. April, it's spring. It is spring. Weather. Oh. I'm here for it. Except for today it's a little chilly, but it is. It's okay.

SPEAKER_02

But it's not April yet, so we have matching shirts. We do. I did it.

SPEAKER_05

She got me in a matching shirt in like what less than two months.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah. Well, she said that you were like, oh, matching shirts, and you know me. So yeah, we're matching. I love it. It's so cool. Thank you.

SPEAKER_05

You can even if it's a law. Well, welcome to Did She Just Say That? And this month we it is unfiltered and unhinged.

SPEAKER_04

You don't know what's going to come out of our mouth.

SPEAKER_05

We don't know what's going to come out of our mouth. That's true. That's true. Uh yeah, we're excited for this one. We were just going to have some fun with it. Yeah. I'm here for it. Yeah. Um, you can catch us on all the things. All the things. All of them on social media. If you want to join, we have Facebook, Instagram, TikTok, and you can listen in on all of your streaming platforms now. Excited we finally got it all up and running. And if you want to watch, then head over to YouTube. Subscribe and all the good things. I'm Justin.

SPEAKER_03

And I'm Ashley. You ready to hop in?

SPEAKER_05

I mean, I'm not gonna be hopping anywhere on the Easter bunny.

SPEAKER_03

Good one. Good one. All right. So we have a little two-parter today. Okay. Um, we have confessions, the little white lies that we tell ourselves every day. And we have things that women pretend to enjoy. So we're gonna do a little game, like kind of game-like. You know, we'll talk through, you know, some of these if we've used them before, what's our go-to that we use, if any, because we don't do white laws. No, we can't tell all of our stuff. No, we can't tell all. We'll tell a little bit. Okay. And then uh we'll tell you the things that we pretend to enjoy or not, or I don't know. Absolutely. I'm here for that one. Yeah. So um why do why do we do it? Why do you think that we do the little white law thing?

SPEAKER_05

Like, what is well I think sometimes you don't even realize that you're doing it. Like, I'm on my way, but I haven't left yet. But I am on my way. I'm on my way out the door.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah. Oh yeah. Because you want to seem timely or you you know what you want to make like that's not one that I like. Yeah. Do I have that? What?

SPEAKER_05

This is probably Tito's. I love that. I think I have the same. It's not pink, but I'm pretty sure I have that same tumbler. Yeah.

SPEAKER_03

I'm trying not to take this one to work. Is it a good idea? Yeah. Because you know, it's on the pond. But yeah, this is that's hilarious. Piper loo. Okay. Sorry. No, you're good. Squirrel. Squirrel. Big squirrel. I just had a blizzard, so Ooh. What flavor?

SPEAKER_05

I mean Is there a bad flavor? No. Right. But the sugar, I think, is uh sorry about it. Yeah. I may squirrel on this one.

SPEAKER_03

I'm not mad about it.

SPEAKER_05

Okay, good. So while we do it, yeah. I don't know. I mean, sometimes you don't want to hurt someone's feelings or you're scared that they wouldn't be able to not understand, but maybe not accept what the truth is, or or you're a people pleaser. Or you're a people pleaser, and yeah, you're scared to make someone upset. Yeah.

SPEAKER_03

Who who does that? Um, and then just what like awkwardness. Sometimes it's awkward and you're just like, yeah, let's say what it sounds good right now. So please add me to that group text. Yeah, yeah. I love them. Oh, and then uh open mouth, insert foot. It happened. But yeah, avoiding discomfort, protecting feelings, um, protective laws. Uh they keep us from having to face difficult or discomfort, change, and vulnerability at times. So let's play a little game. Have you used this one? This is a good one. These are good, these are good. Okay, okay. Let's hear them. How are you today? I'm good. Oh, all the time. Yeah. I mean, I've seen memes where they're like they ask the question and people were like, Oh, I'm terrible. And then they go into this whole spiel and it's like, Well, you ask, how are you today? Yeah. Yeah. How do you use that one? Um, yeah. I mean, it's you know, like, hey, how are you? Good. Sometimes I'll say I'm hanging in there like a hair and a biscuit. Yeah. I'm like, that's legit. I mean, it's positive, but it's I use it.

SPEAKER_05

I'm chugging along. Chugging along. Yeah. Okay. We're chugging over here.

SPEAKER_03

Don't worry about what we're chugging. Yeah, don't worry about that. Let me check my calendar. Okay, well, I use this one all the time. To be fair, Lori Abel can call me out on this. They were like, hey, we have a brunch coming up, and I said, Let me check my calendar. I said, But my paper calendar. Because I have I I have two. Yeah. I have my work calendar on my phone, and then I have a paper calendar. Yes. Are you a paper calendar girl? Yes. Yeah.

unknown

Yes.

SPEAKER_03

So when I say I I legit, like, I I do use that one. Do you?

SPEAKER_05

Sometimes.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah. Unless you're just like, no, I don't want to do it.

SPEAKER_05

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03

I say, like, even if I do or don't, I'm like, let me check my calendar. It kind of pushes it off for a minute. If I've ever said that to you, it's legit. I'm checking my calendar. Traffic was crazy.

SPEAKER_05

Oh, for sure. Yeah. Like, oh crap, I'm running late. Traffic was so bad. Just don't get on the ways app.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah, right. Don't don't check me. Don't fact check. Yeah, I I definitely. Except for I I live, you know, 1.7 miles away from work. So traffic was crazy.

SPEAKER_05

I have a friend that we always tell her th at least 30 minutes before what we're actually whatever time we're supposed to meet. We tell her 30 minutes prior. And she's still normally like I think I know you're talking about. That's great.

SPEAKER_03

I just saw that message. Shoot.

SPEAKER_05

I start out a lot. I I try, you know how horrible I am with text. Yeah. Like it is bad. I don't even know how many unread texts are on my phone. I can't. It gives me anxiety. If I open it and I can't respond right then, I forget about it. But I'm like, oh, what if they need something important?

unknown

Yeah.

SPEAKER_05

And I open, but I have gotten to a point now where I will tell people, I am a horrible texter.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah.

SPEAKER_05

It is not you.

SPEAKER_03

It's me.

SPEAKER_00

It's not you. It's me. You check them on your watch.

SPEAKER_03

They come through on your watch. And so if you read them, does that make them red? And you forget to respond to them?

SPEAKER_05

I have it set up to where it doesn't open up on my watch for that exact reason. I took that off. Yeah. Because I was like, no, I will um but yes. And there are times where I open it, but I and I forget. Yeah. Or oh gosh, I just saw that. So sorry. But now I just tell people. 90% of the time I'm a really bad texter.

unknown

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03

Well, here's here's the catch. For those that leap put their read receipts on. Sh you didn't just read that. No.

SPEAKER_05

I love it. There's a few people that have theirs on and don't realize I will never tell you if you have them on just so you know.

SPEAKER_03

I don't want to call that out so you start checking it out, but this tastes so good.

SPEAKER_05

I can't use that. It's all over my face.

SPEAKER_03

I mean, like, if something doesn't taste good, I'm gagging. Like granny's like best favorite recipe. You're like, you don't you don't you don't say it's good. I can't. I'm just like, hmm.

SPEAKER_05

I'll take just a little whi.

SPEAKER_03

I mean, I'm about to tell you I'm about to tell myself how to do it.

SPEAKER_04

So I won't be able to ever use this again. So your face is red right now. I've used this so much. Okay. So if you've ever heard me, I'm allergic. Yes. I'm allergic to shrimp. Not allergic to shrimp.

SPEAKER_03

I'm not. I don't like the texture. For me, it's texture. Cotton candy, shrimp, oysters, it's texture to me. And I have said I am allergic to seafood. Like to like oysters. Yeah.

SPEAKER_05

That just reminded me. Oh see. There are so many people that I hope never watched our podcast. Um, I forget. I was on the phone with a friend and they helped me actually come up with this. But I was going on a first date in the restaurant that he wanted to take me to. I didn't like it. Like, I didn't like it at all. Yeah. And I'm like, what do I say? And she was like, say you got food poisoning there not long ago. And I was like, oh, but that's so bad. And she was like, Yeah. We ended up going to like one of the that I used it. But we ended up going to like one of my van and I didn't choose the other one either. And it was such a better. We ended up going to River House.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah. Oh yeah. Uh much better than the first choice. Did they not know today? Like, did they not find ever find out? No. Okay. Well, you don't see this one. And that's so funny. I'm so sorry. I I know I've I have at least told seven people that I'm allergic to shrimp.

SPEAKER_05

I can't wait for you to try to say that again. I'm like, no, she's not. No, she ain't.

SPEAKER_03

She lied. But I don't I don't it's yeah, it's texture. Okay. Oh, it's the texture thing? Yeah. Cotton candy, shrimp, oyster. It's just all texture. Cotton candy dissolves. It's texture. It it it makes me it makes me I can't I can't oysters I get. Yeah. But cotton candy is just like it is the dissolvable thing. Like it's weird to me. See, I just say I don't like that. Like I don't like the pop rock candy. I don't like some of those things that do things in your mouth like that. I don't love it. Moving on.

SPEAKER_04

I'll call you later. You ever use that one, Jess? Yeah.

SPEAKER_02

Look, I mean I need tissues with some laughing. Oh man, I meant to bring him down here and totally forgot.

SPEAKER_03

Because it's not from allergies and crying, it's from laughing this time.

SPEAKER_05

Um, yeah, I've used that one. Phone dad. Yeah, phone dad. Sorry. Now the best part is I don't get good service at my house. So sometimes my phone doesn't ring when someone calls me. That's legit. It is very legit. Because I'll text you after. Yes. And I don't tell everybody. And it's not on purpose. You don't think about that. Right. And so people are like, I called you, and I'm like, oh well, my phone doesn't work at my house. Yeah. Most of the time. It doesn't ring.

SPEAKER_03

Great. But you tell the ones that you need to try to tell. Yeah. Yes. I'm going to give my eyes a rest. Look, my dad said that all the time. He wanted to take a nap. I'm going to give my eyes a rest. My mom went to, and I would walk over.

unknown

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03

Killer eye open. Lies. I've not used that one because I'm like. I'm going to take a nap. I'm taking a nap. I'm calling it what it is. Yeah. I'm on my way to talk about that one. Oh yeah. Still in your PJs. My alarm didn't go off. I don't think I'd use that one. I would the the what the weather. The well traffic will be crazy before my alarm didn't go off. You know? Yeah. Whatever we can, yeah. Let me think about it, or maybe. Oh my gosh, my mom and dad. My kids would attest to that. Yeah.

SPEAKER_05

Mom says maybe it's a dad.

SPEAKER_03

No one it's a no. But you're like, give them a little hope. That email must have gone to my spam. Oh yeah. Yep. Yep. That happens. Um I get that a lot from candidates, so I'm trying to get a hold of them. Well, you must not want a job. You know. That happens. It happen like it legit happens. It does legit happen, yeah. Well, but I check you got checked a spam. That one's a little awkward. I don't know. Um, I'll start on Monday. Eat good and start a workout. Like start on Monday. Yeah. Well then it has to start again tomorrow. And then it's gonna have to be the first of the month. Yeah. First of the year. First of the year or after you know, after the holidays. Yeah. We can't do that for Christmas. We gotta wait till after. Yeah. Yeah. Oh yeah. You look great in that. I mean, I'm not gonna embellish it.

SPEAKER_05

If I compliment you, I mean it. Yeah if you ask me if you look good in something now you, of course, I'd be like, nope, we're not walking out of the house. Yeah, that's a good Someone that I don't know very well. And they're like, oh my gosh, do you love this? Like maybe they got jewelry and it's just not my I'd be like, that's so pretty. Yeah. Cause they're because they're enjoying it. Right. They're asking me, but I'm not going to intentionally go and compliment someone if I don't that's so pretty, I'll never buy that in my life.

unknown

Right.

SPEAKER_03

But there are things where I'm like, that is so that person. Absolutely. Yeah. I really don't care what people think.

SPEAKER_04

Yeah. I probably say it more than I mean it.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah. Same. Yeah.

SPEAKER_05

Sometimes I don't care.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah. Fair. I try not to get it. I try I'm probably I'm getting a little bit better about it today, like as I'm getting older, but I used to say that all the time and I would always care. Oh yeah. Yeah.

SPEAKER_05

That's a defense mechanism, right? Yeah.

SPEAKER_03

I'm not feeling well tonight. Yeah. Yeah. And sometimes I'm like, well, why don't I just say like the real reason? Like I need a night to myself.

SPEAKER_05

I feel like we do now. Some of the stuff is like when I was younger, I did this.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah. I wish I could make it. Oh. For sure. Yeah. Dang. That falls on a night that I'm gonna have a plan already. I already know. That falls when I have my babies. I'm so sorry.

SPEAKER_05

Yeah, and sometimes I think we use that when we're not busy. Yeah. Um, just because what is the obsession with wanting everybody think your calendar is so packed? I don't know.

SPEAKER_03

I won't I'm almost embarrassed sometimes of how how back to back. I'm like, I'd like to be like, no, I really have a life. Right. Like I have space. Um Yeah, that's f that's true. I probably you make time for things you don't make make make time for. Say it again.

SPEAKER_05

You make time for the things you want to make time for. And the people that you want to. True. And if they ain't making time for you, fix it right out the middle of that stage.

SPEAKER_03

I love this gift. Oh my gosh, Christmas morning. I love it.

SPEAKER_05

I love giving gifts. I am not so good at getting them because I'd never want to be that person that's like, oh, thanks so much. Because I think gift giving is so sweet and like very thoughtful.

SPEAKER_03

Especially if they're intentional, right?

SPEAKER_05

Yes, though. Yeah. Yes. And when granny gets you that turtleneck that has the little holly leaves all over it that matches your cousins in your 20s, and you're like, Thanks, mama. Yeah. And then she wants you to wear it just for a picture.

SPEAKER_03

Let's get a picture and let's burn it. Yeah. That's funny. I have a headache, especially to your sick mouth. Around bedtime? Yeah. Oh. Got a headache. There's one that I can't even use anymore, and I'm kind of mad about it. Because I'm the girl time. Yeah. Oh, it's that time of the month.

SPEAKER_05

I know. No, that haven't.

SPEAKER_03

I don't have to worry about it. Yeah. Yeah. We just told ourselves. Did we just say that? We did. I'm going to bed early tonight. Scroll, scroll, scroll. Then you got the TV on, watching your favorite show. Yeah. That has happened. Yeah. I have intentions of going to bed early.

SPEAKER_05

But sometimes about the little white lab part. Like I'm like, I'm done with this conversation. Yeah. Or we've texts for two hours up over absolutely nothing. I'm like heading to bed. Have a good night.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah. I thought I just yawned. I might have been tired. I'm not hungry. And then you're immediately in the fridge and pantry. I did it for bo like if I'm boarded, I'll eat. Yeah. Yeah. I'm not hungry. Or like when you first start dating somebody, I don't care now, but like I used to be like, I eat three bites and be like, I'm so full.

SPEAKER_05

Oh, when I was and then you go home starving.

SPEAKER_03

Oh, starving, and you're like chicken nuggets and and and mozzarella cheese sticks. You just like eat whatever. I don't think uh I mean if I'm hungry, I'm gonna do that. That's very specific in it. You know, but but now I'm like, uh, that's my half and that's your half. Like, we're not gonna get into my half. Stay away from stay away from my half. Yeah. I eat good and work out all the time. I used to tell my doctor that. And then they were like, your cholesterol. And then I'm like, isn't it hereditary? And now I'm like, okay, legit. Monday through Friday, I'm decent. I'm decent. Out of those those days, oh, you got two good days out of me. Weekend, no. Nope.

SPEAKER_05

It's whatever. There were I mean, I was having coffee until noon. Mm-hmm. And then candy. Yeah. And that was, I mean That's your food. That's your life.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah, yeah. I'm relaxed. That's a good thing. It is. I'm so happy. We have our shirts on. Okay. What is that white lie that Sorry I didn't Oh very sorry. We don't edit, so we don't edit. As I yawn and you cough. What's that white lie that you say so often that it's basically part of your personality now? Any of those like registered where you're like, that's embedded in my day-to-day. I'm good. I'm good. And you notice when you say that, I'm like, are you really? Like I will ask. Because then I'm promise. Pinky promise. And you can't break those. But like, yeah. I I can see that. That's probably one that's in bed.

SPEAKER_05

I mean that's the only one that I feel like. Yeah. I've gotten pretty good about being like, I'm just not interested in this right now or we'll talk later. Yeah. Yeah. And I you know I'm good. If I don't want to talk or you're not close enough to know my business. Right. I'm good. I know when you're ready, you're you're okay, we're gonna talk about it.

SPEAKER_03

So what about you? What's yours? I mean all of them? No, I'm kidding. I'm kidding. I don't know. I am a people pleaser, so I will, you know, probably use quite a bit of these just just because I don't love the uncomfortableness or or what have you, but I don't know, probably um the traffic thing, like or I'll be like, I'm I'm literally leaving in five minutes. I won't be like leaving now and then wait. I'll be like, I'm leaving and then I really do try to bust it to get out the door. So probably that one though, like for whatever reason running late, running behind. What's the most common white lie people say that we all know it is not true? Probably the I'm good. Like when you're casually walking by people and hey, how you doing? Um, because people are going through life, probably, you know, they're not gonna be like, well, my son is sick, my daughter's talking back, my you know, that you don't just bring all that, unload all that.

SPEAKER_05

I mean, think about it where we're from.

SPEAKER_03

Well, yeah. Well, you got 20 minutes, you know, sit down and talk about it. But that's true. That's true. Yeah. But that's probably a big one. I know when I walk up by at work, I'm like, how are you? And they're like, I'm good, and I'm like, I know they ain't good, but it's okay. Like, we'll talk about, you know, I'll check on them. All right, here we go. Now we're transitioning things that women pretend to enjoy. Do we really enjoy these or are we pretending? All right, ready? Is this another game? Yeah, another game. Okay. It's game night. Y'all didn't know it's game night. I didn't know either, so surprise. Group photos that take 20 attempts. You know, the whole like Yes. Yeah. Like, if it's selfie or get together. Yes. Or I just start laughing. Yeah. And I'm like, you don't think what you get out of that one.

unknown

Right.

SPEAKER_03

Like it was like. Yeah. And they're gonna have to get over it. Let's do a girls' trip with ten people.

SPEAKER_05

See, that doesn't bother me.

SPEAKER_03

Really? No. I would prefer if I just had I I like more a little more intimate groups, like a smaller group setting.

SPEAKER_05

Well, absolutely. I mean for some, but yeah, a big girl's trip doesn't bother.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah.

SPEAKER_05

Now, here's the thing. If I know that I clash with personalities or I will be like, you guys have a great time, I'm gonna set this one out. Um, because I'm not gonna go knowing that there's someone that like is gonna control the whole trip or get upset over every little thing and because I'm cool with like you Go do your thing, we'll go do our thing. This group's going there. I guess that does help.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah. You can kind of split just it off.

SPEAKER_05

Yeah. Just depends on who you're traveling with.

SPEAKER_03

All right. Do we really enjoy this or do we pretend? Small talk with other parents at events. Totally pretend. Okay. It's so awkward. But if you connect with somebody while you're there, like just natural conversation. You're like, all right, we're gonna navigate towards that a little bit. Yeah. Alright. Um I small talk with other parents. I don't mind it. You are not surprised by that at all. Not at all. So went to my nephew's game this past weekend and like you know, parents were there and they were like, like here's the question.

SPEAKER_01

Which one's yours? Oh you know, which one's yours?

SPEAKER_03

I'm like, well, my nephew's number one out there, and they're like, Oh nephew, who's their par you know, and so I d that's fine. And and those are like smaller groups and they travel together, so it's like I can't I can't make you know I can't be that really rude aunt that people are like, Oh great, their aunts here, you know. Yeah.

SPEAKER_05

No, at like at the ball games and stuff, yeah. But I'm also the parent that like doesn't sit in the stands and sits away because when they start acting crazy and like yelling, I get so embarrassed. One, yeah, because I'm like, why are you acting like that? It's our kids' sports. That's me. And two, when they start talking filthy to the coaches or the kids, then I get mad and I'm like, I'm gonna end up embarrassing myself and my kids because I'm not gonna sit there and listen to them cussing at the kids and stuff like that. So I tend to like not sit anywhere.

SPEAKER_03

Some almost got kicked out of a game this weekend. You did? Yeah, referee is kinda kinda was getting on the referee a little bit. And he said, ma'am, you're either gonna watch this game zip or you're gonna watch it from from home. And I didn't say anything else, but yeah, he he did. I got a little intense. It's AAU. This is no school ball. This is like legit. How old is he? He's 13.

SPEAKER_02

But you would be the parent this why or the aunt this is why I sat by myself. Yeah, because I'd be hey, it is like it's just calm down. It's not that nobody's getting paid out here. You paid to be here. So funny.

SPEAKER_03

So yeah, that was it. That happened. Oh, I love you so much. Networking events. I don't mind networking events.

unknown

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03

I think as long as like it it depends on how long ago. Oh yeah. How do I calm down after like I'm normally one of the first out. Yeah. Yeah. I'll hang around until I'm the last one left, then I'm like, oh, talking to myself. Pretending to enjoy watching sports with a partner. I love that. Yeah. I love that.

SPEAKER_05

I love sports. So And not all of it. Like I don't want to watch WWF.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah.

SPEAKER_05

And I'm not the one who pretends that I like it either.

SPEAKER_03

Right. But but you're like, okay, go ahead and watch that with the guys. Yeah, for sure. But like I watch sports.

SPEAKER_04

Yeah. Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah.

SPEAKER_04

Alright.

SPEAKER_03

No, I'm I'm the same way. I I will 100% watch sports. Yeah. So meeting a partner's coworker or significant other's co-workers.

SPEAKER_05

That doesn't bother me.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah. But also, like, you know, whenever you're like if someone says, you know, they talk about work and they come home and talk about it, and then you then you meet that person, you're like, badge, Jim. Yeah. Spot on. Yeah.

SPEAKER_05

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03

It matches. Yeah. I know. Oh, hangster. He's trying to make it. He wants to come, he wants to come hang out. Um bras. Underwire bras. I'm not a fan. No. No. We gotta we uh we gotta not have underwires. What are those what what are they what are they called? They're wireless. Wireless bras. Why could I not think of that? I don't know. I didn't even know where you were trying to go with that. I don't think I I don't think I own one a wire bra. No. What? I don't like it. It's so uncomfortable. I mean if I could wear a sports bra all day, every day I would, but that's not always appropriate for work or wherever I'm going, but I don't know. Are you shocked? Oh yeah.

SPEAKER_05

I know because they're not small and I have to No, it just like I don't the underwire doesn't bother me.

unknown

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03

It's gotta be the right I mean some of them do, but any of them. Well, you know what's poking you in the side. Right. I won't even I don't even I don't mess with those anymore. Yeah, good to know, huh? Yeah. I like talking about it. I'm glad we know that. Yeah. Should we talk about ponies while we're at it? No, I'm kidding. I'm kidding. Let's not. No shaving.

SPEAKER_02

Who pretends to like that?

SPEAKER_03

What woman pretends to like that? Look, uh there's somebody in my life. I'm not gonna call them out. They shave their legs every day. Every day. And I'm like, yeah, I got my razor. And I'm like, how and why? I mean every day. I shave my legs every day. I don't like it. You're not talking about me. I'm not talking about you, but you're the second person that's that does that I know does that every day. Actually, if I get cold chills every day, the hairs on my legs look like my eyebrows.

SPEAKER_04

You make dumb. Yeah.

unknown

I have to.

SPEAKER_02

Even when I lay I do it for me. When I lay down at night to go to bed, I do not want to feel those hairs and that friction.

SPEAKER_05

I want to sleep good.

SPEAKER_03

All right, who's not crazy and is with me on this one? Every day, I don't like ladies. I'll comment in the comment section. Do you shave your legs every day? Who doesn't shave their legs every day? I I can't every day.

SPEAKER_05

I can't. Your hairs probably don't grow like mine. I mean, I have four black hairs out of every follicle. Well, on my body.

SPEAKER_03

I'm blonde until like I get up my cat. I wouldn't shave every day either, probably. Okay. High heels. I love them. I get moved up because I say heel and heel the same way. H-I-L-L and H-E-E-L. Yeah. Same. High heels. Um, you love them?

unknown

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03

I I like them occasionally. I don't wear them all the time. It makes me it makes me feel powerful and hot and sexy. Yeah. Yeah. Do you feel sexy in heels? Yeah, I guess so.

unknown

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah. You put a little lip color on and some heels, girl.

SPEAKER_05

You know, I have not, I want to there's these women that wear jeans and heels and they look so good. Cute. Mm-hmm. It has to be the right jean. Maybe because I have tried it on like multiple times and I'm like, Yeah. Like this is not it. Not it. Yeah. But I want to be able to pull that off so bad. Yeah. We're going to have to experiment. Let's do that. Have you ever worn jeans and heels?

SPEAKER_03

Yeah. I bet you could. I think more so um, I feel probably whenever straight legs were in, it was a little different. Like like the Wait a minute, they're not in it anymore? Like jegging. Like jeggings.

SPEAKER_05

Jeggings.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah. Jean leggings.

SPEAKER_05

Yeah, never knew.

SPEAKER_03

We don't know about those. We don't know about those. Oh. Well, my brother calls them spray on 2000s. He'd be like, girl, you're I'm like, they're jig they're jeggings.

SPEAKER_04

Uh Scotty called them spray on 2000s.

SPEAKER_03

We're Googling those after. We are. I need to see them. Okay. Waxing. Oh. Who pretends to like that? Nobody. It's painful.

SPEAKER_05

It hurts. I have a lot of thoughts about that one. Okay. Do you want to share any other one? I think that a man should have some waxing done before they ever ask a woman to wax.

SPEAKER_00

Hmm.

SPEAKER_05

Fair. I had a girlfriend that her boyfriend was adamant about. And I was like, tell him to go. Like he wants you to do it. What's the movie where Ah Kelly Clark said?

SPEAKER_03

Do you not talk to help? Yeah.

SPEAKER_05

See? What was it?

SPEAKER_00

40-year version. Yes.

SPEAKER_05

Yes. Have you seen the one where the videos where they're doing the men's nose? Oh my gosh. I was like, hmm.

SPEAKER_03

Well, yuck, first of all. But yeah, that's Yeah.

SPEAKER_05

Yeah, I don't know anybody that pretends to be.

SPEAKER_03

And their ears. Oh. Oh, went there. Okay. Getting ready for events for two hours.

SPEAKER_05

I d I don't like that. That's too long. I guess if we were all getting ready together, I'm okay with it. But that's excessive.

SPEAKER_03

Trying on jeans in dressing rooms. That's horrible. It's the worst. And here's here's my secret. If I go and find a jean that I like and I try it on one time, I'm gonna get that same jean and that same size and different colors.

SPEAKER_05

Yeah.

unknown

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03

That's just wearing them and like trying it on.

SPEAKER_05

I don't like trying on clothes in any dressing room. Yeah. One, because it's I feel like it's always when I have sandals or something on, and I don't want to take my shoes off in the nasty dressing room. So there's one. And two, I don't know why it is in my head, but I feel like they're hidden cameras. Nobody needs to see all of that. And so I can't stand.

SPEAKER_03

Do you just sit there and you're like changing while you're like covering yourself?

SPEAKER_05

I mean, I No. You don't have to tell me if you do or no. No, I don't. I just try not to I'll bring it home and try it on and take it back. But if it's something I have to have like that day, then I'll the whole time I'm in there, I'm like, oh I hate this. It's the worst.

SPEAKER_03

Especially how many like car uh articles of clothing that you have. It's like it's like, okay, I can handle two. That's six things. Right. Um blow drying your hair. That's why I don't wash my hair but twice a week. Yeah. Well, also you have really thick long hair. Um I don't I don't like it but I do have this really cool brush. Oh yeah. It was so yeah. I like it better now because I know I'm gonna have a little more volume. Right. But I don't like it.

SPEAKER_05

No, I don't like blow drama.

SPEAKER_03

Well, I mean Yeah.

SPEAKER_05

No, I don't know. What you about to say? There are just some things on here that I'm like, I want to know the women that enjoy doing this stuff.

SPEAKER_03

Um, hosting holidays. I love that. I knew you would. And and and I was look, I was a go I was about to go on like just start reading them off, and then I'm like, no, I'm gonna have let you have your moment to Sean here hosting holidays. You are because you're a good hoster or hostess.

SPEAKER_05

I love playing games and having everybody here.

SPEAKER_03

We had one of those girls' night? It was fun. Except for we played games and then we What's the next one? Being the one who remembers birthdays, gifts, and schedules.

SPEAKER_05

Oh, I want to be her. I'm never gonna be her.

SPEAKER_03

My paper calendar is full of important birthdays and and if I know a birthday so if I'm okay, this is so nerdy. But like it's Sunday, I'm going to my calend my paper calendar and I'm carrying over the days and the going down like through each day and like oh, here's a day. And so and so's birthday's on Thursday. So on Monday I'm reminding myself to get a gift. That's good. But um schedules, I mean I'm I'm good about that stuff. You really are. Yeah. I'll because I'll text my social and be like, hey, what are Quinn's games? What are Kai's plays? And they're on my calendar. And I and I stick to it. And I I it was a running joke in my family because mom and dad were like, pencil me in for your birthday. And I'd be like, Hold up, let me check.

unknown

Right.

SPEAKER_03

We gotta we gotta start doing that in like March or April. You're gonna have to go back to the weekend before. Yeah. You don't get to the weekend. Smiling through uncomfortable conversations.

SPEAKER_01

Wait, pretend I don't know.

SPEAKER_03

I don't now I'm lost to the question. What women pretend to like. Do we pretend to smile through uncomfortable conversations? I don't know. Like what is that like like smiling while you're talking? Kind of like the way I've been smiling. This whole conversation. Salads that are not actually filling. Well, don't get it. Well, add some protein. Shrimp. Shrimp. Don't do it. It's a bad texture. You're allergic. I'm allergic. Sparkling water is a treat. That just sounds bougie. Are you bougie people out there? You like sparkling water?

SPEAKER_05

I love it.

unknown

Of course.

SPEAKER_03

I'm kidding.

SPEAKER_05

I was kidding.

SPEAKER_03

What's that f what's that brand? Per Peroni or what's that? Peroni? It's a beer. Oh. What's the sparkling water that's fancy? Sparkles the pea. How would I know a fancy water? You like sparkling water. I don't know the fancy ones. Sharing fries when you actually want your own. No one pret I'll smack a hand.

SPEAKER_04

I will smack.

SPEAKER_03

Get back. Reach for my fries. Now if you ask for one, you will get the smallest one I have in the box. Depends on where the fries are from, if I'm sharing or not. If there's honey good honey mustard, it's not happening. Who has the best honey mustard? Drake's. Drake's. Oh yeah. I used to I would dip their French fries in honey mustard 100%. Did you teach that to me? I did.

unknown

Yeah. Okay.

SPEAKER_03

Thank you for that. You're welcome. Brunch lines that are an hour long. Not doing it. No. Trying to relax while everyone asks you questions. I don't pretend to like that. I know. I know you don't. I love that you don't.

SPEAKER_04

Um Chasin's like, shut up. I'm trying to relax.

SPEAKER_03

Online returns. Those are easy. I'm okay with it. Actually, my purchases will dictate, like, or their return will dictate if I purchase sometimes. If it's easy. Oh, like that's why Amazon, I'm like, Coles is 0.5 miles from my house. I have a Coles to return and it's easy. Yeah. Group checks with 37 unread messages. I'm having anxiety thinking about that. Chess and I can't look at her phone. Clothes that are cute but uncomfortable. No. It's the worst. I'm too old for that now.

SPEAKER_05

I tried to wear a top and I don't know, it wasn't that long ago. And it was cute. And I I honestly didn't know that it was uncomfortable when I first left the house. And I'm like, two hours in, it was like, I wanted to go home. Yeah. And I'm like, what you're wearing? Yes. Uh I was like, I need a sweatshirt. Because this is not working.

SPEAKER_03

Bring a backup plan. Saying yes to plans when you wanted to stay home. I mean I just don't do it. I'll use the excuse the light lie before I pretend to like that.

SPEAKER_05

Tell you one of them white lies.

SPEAKER_03

I'm gonna just pop off a couple of things. Aging doesn't bother me.

SPEAKER_05

It's weird. The mind part I love. The body part bothers me. Yeah. You know, just things look, you know, the gray hairs, the things right above front and center. But the way that I as far as like knowing myself grounded, what I will accept, not accept, um, that kind of stuff, I'm like, this leveling up stuff is yeah.

SPEAKER_03

I'm I'm digging. Yeah. I I will say that aging doesn't bother me, but then I go and get Botox. So it's like I it obviously does.

SPEAKER_05

It's b uh there are But does that mean it bothers you or does that mean that you just wanna it bothers me enough because I went and did it. But when you colour your hair if you change your hair color, that doesn't mean that I mean, there's nothing wrong with that, I don't think. You wanna you take care of your body. Sure. Because you wanna like yeah, I don't think that makes it a problem.

SPEAKER_03

That you're like I think it's a I don't think it's a problem. But if I notice something, like I'll I prolonged it for a while because I was like, I don't want to start Botox before I'm 40. And then I saw I kept seeing my 11s get worse, and I was like, I don't know, just go do it. Why don't I why am I putting an age on it? Why am I saying what to your 40? Right. Like pop that up in there, fix it. Yeah, get that needle. The dating phase. No one likes it. And don't you pretend that you like dating whenever you're dating right now, and I'm looking at you.

SPEAKER_00

Whoever is whoever's there and telling Mala.

SPEAKER_05

Nobody likes the dating phase. The first I mean first dates. Ugh. They're just capacity to know each other. Yeah. I feel like if you're just like texting, it's gonna be awkward. Yeah. If you are intentionally dating and like you talk on the phone or you do FaceTimes and all that, your first date's not as awkward. Yeah.

unknown

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03

But what what's your favorite colour? Like, I don't know. Can we just skip? Right. That's cute and like you get to learn people, but the dating thing now is so fast, fast, fast, and it's just like then and I don't know how some people keep up with five and six people. I don't get it. I'm like, hold up, did I ask you did I ask you that question already? There's a couple people we could ask, they could let us know. Well we ain't gonna do that. No dang working out. I mean I think when you reframe your like it it used to be, oh, I don't want to work out, and now I'm like, I get to work out. I think it's a reframe.

SPEAKER_05

It is.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah.

SPEAKER_05

And it's so good for you, like your mental yeah. I think once you get in the groove of it, it's like I don't want to go today without. Listen. I mean, I'm taking up to two Epson salt baths a day.

SPEAKER_03

A day.

SPEAKER_05

Right now. That's is no joke.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah. It's sore. So the soreness is real.

unknown

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03

You need an ice bath. I can't do it.

unknown

I don't like it. I don't like it.

SPEAKER_03

You don't you don't go numbfast? People that go numb fast are like, yeah, I love it. Cold plunge, all that stuff. I go numb fast. I don't mind them. I did them in college quite a bit, but no. Yeah. Stalking people online. I love to be an FBI agent. Yes, you're my FBI agent. You find things that I'm like, oh didn't know that. You've helped me with a couple.

SPEAKER_05

I had to do some uh last week for a friend and I was like, hold on, let I know this one thing. If I can find that, then I got you. And it was I mean, it was wasn't like a guy or anything like that. It was something that needed and I'm at two hours in and I'm like, here's mom owns this store, daughter owns here's our social yeah.

SPEAKER_04

Yes. I love you all the way down that rabbit hole.

SPEAKER_03

I love you for that. Romantic fairy tale expectations. I feel like that's like it's cute to you when you're younger and we're good, we're taught that stuff growing up. But now I'm like to have, yeah. Like life is like expect like expectations. Like that's not that's not an everyday thing. You can have moments of those little glimpses. For sure. Yeah. No. Yeah, no, no no fairy tales. No. Cinderella can keep her slipper. Yeah, she can get bad. Um yeah, comment year alls, I don't know, like things that you we pretend to enjoy. We did not we were behaved. Ow. Very I'm proud of us because that could have went so many different ways. There's so many things running through my head. When you first hear the topic, things that women pretend to enjoy.

SPEAKER_05

Oh yeah. I mean, everybody's mind went to the exact same spot.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah. So I don't know. But I would love to hear you all's this this month is a lot lighter. This is a fun month. We are just hitting different topics and episode three is. Oh. I'm looking forward to that one. Yeah. Or the third one of the month. Yeah, the third one of the month. Third or fourth.

SPEAKER_05

I don't know.

SPEAKER_03

I'm looking forward to all of them. Me too, but there's one that I'm really excited about. It's gonna be good. So we got some funnies already. Yeah, we do. Um, but yeah, I fun month. It's April. Um, we got the begin the becoming phase. This is uh lighter, I know, I know. I I have do you feel sometimes like January and February, March from all the stuff that we were digging into? I was like, man, that was a year. What a year. What a year that was. February was a year for a month. It was a year a whole year. Yeah. And so yeah, we're we're having a good time with April. Yes. And so yeah. But yeah, tune in. We're always, you know, would love to hear your stories. Any of these register with you. Share your stories. You want to t tell on yourself because we did. I'm not allergic to shrimp.

SPEAKER_05

Cannot wait.

SPEAKER_03

And now I'm so mad because I can't even use it anymore.

SPEAKER_05

You'll try.

SPEAKER_03

You'll forget. I trusted so much. Not no more. Because everybody was like, oh shrimp, and I'm like, I can't.

SPEAKER_05

You probably like stop people from getting good appetizers that they wanted because Yeah.

SPEAKER_03

Because you laugh. They can get it. They can get it. I'm not gonna touch it. If you want something on your own and that you know I won't touch, it's perfect. Split look at it that way. Look at that way. Yeah, split the meal. Now that was your shrimp. You're paying for that one. Well, I hope you all enjoyed this as much as we have. But as always, you have a seated art table. Catch you next time. Give me fast, Sissy.

SPEAKER_02

I love our magic shirts.

SPEAKER_03

I'm sleeping in it.

SPEAKER_02

Oh.

SPEAKER_03

It's comfortable.