One Breakup Away From Cutting Bangs | The Breakup Episode

No names were used in this episode… but if you feel exposed, that’s between you and God.

This week we’re talking breakups—the heartbreak, the healing, and the absolutely unhinged things people do after it ends.

Why do we stay too long? Why do red flags start looking normal when we love someone? Why are we checking their socials while saying we’re “so at peace”?

We get into blocking, stalking, breakup playlists, journaling their worst traits, and pretending a haircut fixed everything.

Ash shares a deeply personal story about a proposal ending by text and how it changed the course of her future. Chess talks about being the one who has to walk away, even when love is still there, and finding closure without needing it from them.

We also unpack the truth that sometimes people don’t leave because they stopped loving you… they leave because they got tired of asking for what should’ve come naturally.

And yes, we end with a rapid-fire breakup game that tells you way too much about us.

If you’re healing, hurting, nosy, or one breakup away from cutting bangs… pull up a chair, because you always have a seat at our table. 

Love,

Ash & Chess

Transcript

SPEAKER_01 0:01

Hey everybody, welcome to Did She Just Say That. I'm Ashley. I'm Justin. And uh we are on all streaming platforms. Yes. Yes. Uh we are also on Facebook, TikTok, Instagram. Instagram. Oh my gosh, there's only just a couple of those. Yeah, I know. Yep. But I said did she just say that correctly? Yeah. Thanks. Small victories. So we have a great topic tonight. We do. We have talked about the dating and all the things, but we haven't talked about the breakups.

SPEAKER_00 0:42

Dun dun dun.

SPEAKER_01 0:43

I almost did the same thing. Of course you did. Yeah. So Chess, what do you what you got for us on on this topic and what's kind of the layout look like?

SPEAKER_00 0:53

Yeah, well, um, I think we're both gonna squirm a little. No names will be mentioned.

SPEAKER_01 1:01

No names, but you will know who you are. Yeah. If you feel sane, you probably are. And that's that says more about you than it does us.

SPEAKER_00 1:11

We're telling all. Oh, so have you ever stayed in something way longer than you should have and then acted absolutely unhinged when it ended?

SPEAKER_02 1:24

Same. Yeah. Yes.

SPEAKER_00 1:27

Uh-huh. So we're gonna Oh, we're gonna go into that. We're gonna talk about it a little bit. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 1:32

Okay.

SPEAKER_00 1:32

So what about um breakups that should have happened sooner.

SPEAKER_01 1:39

Yeah. D yeah, dated someone I won't say how long because that gives it away.

SPEAKER_00 1:46

Right, right, right.

SPEAKER_01 1:47

But dated someone and this one's tough because I knew early on that they deep down one of the family. Deep down. And we've mentioned many times before, I physically cannot have kids. So and I and I'm pretty sure they want to buy a lot of children. And I love that. And they should have that. But I think that sometimes they get blinded by but you know, I want to buy my person first, and I and I get that, but you should have all the things. Not just the person that you want to be with, but the person that could be the mother and the family build. So absolutely. And then I think that that in the end it was like an aha moment for me. But because I know that, you know, they're probably now looking for a partner. I may have already found a partner that can give them that. So absolutely.

SPEAKER_00 2:43

It's so hard on both sides because on their side it's like I don't want them to have resentment towards me. And then on your side Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 2:52

So many And trust me, I've said it many a time. If I could give him that, I would have done it in a heartbeat. But for me too. With the right person. Absolutely. Yeah. Absolutely. What about you?

SPEAKER_00 3:10

What part?

SPEAKER_03 3:12

Any of it. Well yeah.

SPEAKER_00 3:13

I mean, obviously if there was a breakup, shouldn't have happened, right? Yeah. I don't know. I feel like there were moments that I ignored that I shouldn't have that had I not ignored it, it would have happened sooner. Um maybe even excuses that I made for them and myself. Um but at the that it normally ends up pushing you at the end to actually do it. One there was something that I saw very early on that should have never I should have never pursu continued to pursue, but everything else was so good. Um, all the boxes were checked and I think sometimes when the families get involved, I mean like can just remove that person and still have the family, like yeah that's how and for both of us we don't have family here, so I mean your brother is but and so when you find that just perfect fit it can I mean for me I think I stayed too long for the family aspects of yeah.

SPEAKER_01 4:45

Well, I mean I've got my brother and my sister-in-law who's my sister. My sister-in-law Melissa. Hey girl. Hey my sister-in-law, Melissa. Um, but also, and I mean, like you're my sister, right? Right. And then I have a couple of of girlfriends, but I've never liked to have a boyfriend that has sisters. Yes. I like found like community with that and like hey, you wanna go, let's go get our nails done and go grab some coffee. Like I had that like fun, and then the family's awesome and just so kind. And then that person even won my family over to the extent of like, hey, can we just keep him in like we love you, but we love him. And so it's just it was hard because of that. Yeah. Because they make connections. Yeah, you know, I've got how many aunts and uncles? Like 20 or something. And you know, when 18 of your 20 aunts and uncles like the guy, it's yeah, it's hard. Yes. Oh, well, because they're like, what happened?

SPEAKER_00 5:46

And you're like, Well, they bamboo it means bamboozled the family. Bamboozled. Bamboozled. We talked about that with your cousins the other day. Yeah, yes, we did. We did.

SPEAKER_02 5:58

Um There is I s my kids and I still see this person's um parents.

SPEAKER_00 6:11

Yeah, very intentional. I mean not as not a whole lot anymore. Um but yeah, we we they asked if we could still you know, have a relationship and I said with me, of course, but I'm gonna leave if the kids want it up to them, and they did too. And so yeah, we Yeah. Breakups are hard. Like it's not just it affects more than just you sometimes.

SPEAKER_01 6:40

And I think I told you this, it broke my heart because you know, my sister-in-law was like, Brian Quinn really liked so and so, and I'm like, You don't think about that. Like I didn't at the moment hit me after and I was like, Man. Because like they're they're looking for an uncle, you know, and it's you know, and they cling onto that and it's hard to it's hard, especially as a kid.

SPEAKER_00 7:12

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 7:13

So that's why I'm so cautious. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 7:18

Yeah, it's um definitely when when you know, and that's the thing, it's like, well should it have happened sooner?

SPEAKER_00 7:30

Or did it play out the way it was supposed I mean probably yeah, there's something that should have happened sooner, like let's just call it what it is, but Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 7:39

When when the times start you know, sometimes when things are bad you try to find the good. If the things are super overpowered and it's bad and it's causing anxiety and emotional distress and your whole s body, nervous system at a whack. Probably should have been a little earlier.

SPEAKER_00 7:58

Yeah. Oh, for sure.

SPEAKER_01 8:00

But if there's still some moments, that's sometimes what you hold on to, right? Yeah. Like, oh, there's that good. Right. Oh yeah. You're being a good boy. And it just can make keeps you holding on. I feel like there's a song that says that.

SPEAKER_00 8:16

Hold on. Hold hold on to me and that I don't know.

SPEAKER_01 8:20

I feel like we have a karaoke. We have a karaoke s w with one included, but we'll have to do that one of our next couple of things. I don't think so.

SPEAKER_00 8:29

I mean there's a karaoke machine right there.

SPEAKER_01 8:30

If you want if you want it, tell us we'll do it.

SPEAKER_00 8:33

No, we won't. You speak for yourself on that. No, we won't. I will cheer you on. I'll be the DJ or one of the the karaoke player. I don't know. But no, we this we will not be singing. Um all right, you ready for this one?

SPEAKER_01 8:52

I'm ready. Give it to me.

SPEAKER_00 8:53

How we act after we break up. Cause it ain't always cute.

SPEAKER_01 9:00

I want to think for a hot minute that I'm going. I'm gonna I am going to walk away and just it's fine. And then no, I don't think I ever have. I think I've Gosh, this is so hard. I want to tell you all that I open my Bible and I read Bible verses about breakups and heartache, but I do not. Proverbs 31 woman typically called chest in, and I'm like, let's go to Mr. G.

SPEAKER_00 9:37

Let's go have a drink. I don't think it happens though so much anymore. Actually, think about it. I mean, really haven't gone through breakups, but yeah.

SPEAKER_01 9:47

The breakup my relationships, I feel like there are little bitty breakups, but for the most part, the ones that hurt are the you know the marriage, the ex-has then, the long-term relationships. That I'm healed after three days air. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 10:05

Knowing that you're a hot mess.

SPEAKER_01 10:07

Red hot. I mean, I may have gone and just chopped my hair off after a breakup. I've done things. Uh have gone and Now listen, be careful. We got a game to play at the end. We did a game at the end. What have you done? You tell 'em you tell.

SPEAKER_00 10:23

I feel like I'm being so Well, like, I mean you go and look through the text and you overanalyze the that last text or that last conversation, which most of the time is not helpful. I will say, I mean, you know, obviously, everything that I have gone through or whatnot. Um, and I don't like to say like I don't date a lot, obviously. We've talked about that, but I don't know that I was good at the breakup thing. Because and I think it's because of who's good at breakups? I don't know. I don't know that we ever should be because that who wants to get that you date that much that you're good at breaking up, you know?

SPEAKER_01 11:11

Um at that point you're just kind of jaded and walls up.

SPEAKER_00 11:17

For sure. Yeah. Um but I would overanalyze and think back on things like could I have done this different, could I have done that different? Where where did I and some of that I think is healthy because if you truly go in there you can you learn. I mean, gosh, look at the what we have learned recently. Probably more than we have in a long time, quite honestly. Very intentional, very intentional. Yeah. Thanks to I think this podcast, quite honestly. Yeah. But um, I think some of that is good because uh you look back and you're like, why was I overlooking that? Like reading it, like if you read something and you're like, ooh, and then you see your response, and it was like, what was that?

SPEAKER_01 12:06

We don't talk about responses.

SPEAKER_00 12:08

Hmm.

SPEAKER_01 12:10

Blink, blink, blink. Are you sure you don't want to talk about that? I don't want to talk about that.

unknown 12:16

Okay.

SPEAKER_00 12:18

Um moving on.

SPEAKER_02 12:20

Do we stalk their social media? Yeah. Yeah? Yeah. Okay.

SPEAKER_01 12:28

I cared about 'em.

unknown 12:30

Okay.

SPEAKER_01 12:30

The the short-term stuff probably not, but like Oh. It's so hard to admit.

SPEAKER_00 12:38

I'm normally a quick deleter.

SPEAKER_01 12:40

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 12:40

You know me. But then sometimes I'm like, if you want to watch my life, watch.

SPEAKER_01 12:46

I unprinted. Mm-hmm. The best part is that they don't have social media. Oh yeah. Well that's a green flag. But it isn't. But they were terrible. Never mind. Maybe it's just the gate. Out of the gate. It's a green flag.

SPEAKER_00 13:03

Correct. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 13:04

Yeah. Yep. We gotta find we gotta find Wrangler. We're on a mission.

SPEAKER_00 13:10

And that one's from Jesus.

SPEAKER_01 13:12

It's a God wink. We need to put that one in there. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 13:24

Here we'll be. Oh gosh, if we exposed everything on here, we would be dirty. Sorry, that wasn't funny for you all. Anyway, moving on for real on that one.

SPEAKER_01 13:36

Oh my gosh, that was great. Perfect timing. Thanks for that little setup.

SPEAKER_00 13:40

You're welcome. I can't wait until we find Wrangler. And then we're able to talk about. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 13:47

I mean, that is yeah.

SPEAKER_00 13:49

It's gonna be good.

SPEAKER_01 13:50

I mean, it's just it's almost just like funny at this moment, but it's cute.

SPEAKER_00 13:56

I think it's cute. Do you have certain things that you know that you do after a breakup that you're like, oh, I'm not doing this anymore, or this is really good for me. I'm always gonna do this.

SPEAKER_01 14:14

I put that person's bad traits in my little journal. Yeah. I'm like, don't want that, don't want that, don't want that. I mean, it is something that I've I'm building up. It's terrible. Because there are not a lot of people to build up, by the way. Because there's not a ton of relationships, but there are things where I'm like, I'm seeing consistent things that I'm picking and I'm like, ooh or I'm attracting.

SPEAKER_02 14:44

That's huge.

SPEAKER_01 14:45

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 14:46

Um but that's a kind of hard question. It's really hard.

SPEAKER_00 14:56

Um I have I had to maybe look back and be like, hold on, how do I want to do this different or better? Um my biggest thing is actually set and feelings.

SPEAKER_02 15:13

That's hard.

SPEAKER_01 15:16

Um Is that part of our game? Who sets and feelings longer?

SPEAKER_02 15:24

I'm that.

SPEAKER_00 15:27

I think it's situational. It is situational.

SPEAKER_01 15:31

I'm probably well I love love. Right.

SPEAKER_02 15:35

So I'm probably gonna sit on it long. And I don't know. I don't know.

SPEAKER_01 15:46

Yeah, your situation.

SPEAKER_02 15:48

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 15:48

Depends on how how deep the cut was. What is it? The first cut is the deepest. That song is Do you br do you bring out the the breakup playlist?

SPEAKER_00 16:00

I don't have one.

SPEAKER_01 16:01

Girl, there is on Spotify. There are breakup playlists, and I will jam to them. Are you serious? Oh yeah. Yeah. All the breakups, all the fun women breakup songs. Oh. It's like what's that song? Um Miss Independent. Like, seriously, all of 'em. Okay. Yeah, there's like the blank that I said. It don't mean with that.

SPEAKER_00 16:31

Anyway, there's a there's a breakup playlist. Hopefully we don't ever have to listen to it. Well, we don't have to list it.

SPEAKER_01 16:35

I mean I'm not listening right now, so there's no reg up to listen to. Yep, right for it to listen to, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 16:40

What was the song? Um we always went back and forth. Oh. No broke voice. No. That's our anthem though.

SPEAKER_01 16:50

Is it? Yeah.

unknown 16:51

Okay.

SPEAKER_00 16:52

Uh what about closure?

SPEAKER_02 16:54

Do you think that you actually need it? Yes, I do.

SPEAKER_01 17:01

I'm always looking for how do you get closure? Like, do you want to hear a wild story? Of course. Let's hear it. I think it's so old. It's like prior to my ex-husband. So um in college was engaged my sophomore year. That's when the whole I gave my volleyball scholarship up, all the things. This person so got engaged. We broke he mm, he broke up with me in a text message. Wait a minute, your engagement? My engagement. So we were engaged and we were to be married, this was like earlier in the year, like springtime. And getting married in September. Oh. Yeah. He joined the military. And so he was going to be stationed, I think like Connecticut or something. Had to go down to Florida for training, for military training. While he was down there, he met someone a waitress at a local I don't I don't want to give specifics there, because you know but and had texted me and said, We're breaking things off. I'm getting cold feet. And then got married three months after our scheduled wedding date to a said person. So I didn't have closure. And I think ever since ever since then, I have sought out closure.

SPEAKER_00 18:45

Understandable. Here I am, like, oh my gosh, a man sent a text. Did you know that about me? I knew you were engaged. I but I didn't know that but not that he ended it through text message.

SPEAKER_01 19:02

I had called his parents and said, hey, and they're like, Yeah, we how was that with lead at least did you get a phone call? Because like I didn't get a phone call. There was nothing after that. Nothing after that.

SPEAKER_02 19:13

You've not spoken to no.

SPEAKER_01 19:15

That was the last I had heard from that person.

SPEAKER_02 19:20

That's crazy. Yeah. Okay. Um I like closure.

SPEAKER_00 19:30

T-shirt that says eye light closure. I'm a closure kind of gal. Wow, Ashley. I mean I but don't you feel like you had you had to give yourself that closure. So the work that you probably put into yourself is much greater than any closure that you're gonna get from.

SPEAKER_01 19:54

I think what also upset me was the fact that I gave my scholarship away, my volleyball scholarship away. It was given away to someone else. So I went back for it and they were like, sorry girl.

SPEAKER_02 20:03

Too late.

SPEAKER_01 20:04

And uh understandably. Right. But yeah.

SPEAKER_02 20:11

So now you say you seek closure.

SPEAKER_03 20:16

Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_02 20:17

Do you feel like that helps you?

SPEAKER_03 20:21

Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_01 20:23

Yeah. It's almost as like, let's have this one last discussion and let's just But do you truly like okay, like I had that like call amends and everything's good. I mean Well, the next question of that is can you be friends after? And and I don't think you can really truly if you've been intimate with someone, it is hard to go, okay, I'm gonna cut that off and not so. So no, I don't yeah, I don't either. But also it it helps me to go I don't want to say you're good, and I'm good. Good as in whatever that is. But like peace be with you and also with yourself or whatever they say. You wouldn't give him a Jesus swing to Jesus swing. And we're like, we'll just what do you call that when you call it a wash? Like we've set we've left it on the table. I like leaving. I love that. I love it. I feel like sometimes it's not Needed. Need like Well, you know there have been re like, not say recent, but like within the last year. Yeah. Times were not needed. Correct that. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 21:40

But with said longer relationships. I feel like if you're just like talking and getting to know someone, maybe you haven't even gone on a date or you've only gone like a new text, like, hey, I'm just not feeling this fine. Absolutely. But if it is past that you should not be sending a text first.

SPEAKER_01 22:00

Well, especially if you're the one breaking up, it's nice to know, like, full disclosure, here's where I'm at. I've repeated myself seven times. I'm not seeing any changes. You're not making efforts. I'm not making efforts anymore. I think now is time to split. Like I I like having those I don't want to say I like having those conversations, but they're needed for me. Okay.

SPEAKER_00 22:20

I get that. Um I found that taking my feelings out of it and just being very like that's very hard to do. But yes. But that has probably been the and I don't need the closure so much this is hard, uh honestly. Because there are parts that I want that closure. But I don't know that it ever truly gives me closure from them. Um, I have to go and I need to pray about it. I need to talk to Jesus, I need to journal, I need to write, like and that is where it comes in for me. And so if I am ending something, I try very hard to take my feelings out of it.

SPEAKER_01 23:14

Have you always been that way?

SPEAKER_03 23:16

No.

SPEAKER_01 23:17

Well I'm gonna say I've seen this firsthand. Like I've seen that firsthand, everything you just said. Yeah. To the extent of me going, wow, like that is a like that is like you did it you did it with grace. You do it and did it with grace.

SPEAKER_00 23:31

And I'm like, wow. To me, for me, if it's something that I know I'm having to walk away from because of hurt or something, yeah. They don't deserve to get to hear my feelings. They don't deserve me to give them peace. Because they disrupted mine. So you need to go find your own peace. It doesn't need to come through me. Yeah. Call it what you want.

SPEAKER_01 24:00

I mean, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 24:01

But and I have to do that on my own because yes, sometimes you need a conversation. Absolutely. And it needs to happen. Um, but then you gotta take that and go and Yeah. I think closure is different for every it depends on of course the situation. Depends on who's walking away. Depends on who's walking away. And it depends on the emotional maturity of the other person. Because if they don't have that they could be unhinged. Well, they're gonna yeah, and why waste your words? Yeah it ain't gonna go nowhere.

SPEAKER_01 24:35

Oh, you know, I was just thinking when I just said that to you, I said it depends who walks away. I feel like I'm the walk aware. And so I'm doing I'm sharing. Oh, what's that based for? I'm sharing the things because it's I'm I'm going I don't think I don't know if I'm doing it for them or for myself when I'm sharing with them as to why I am exiting stage right.

unknown 25:03

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 25:04

Do you notice I'm a walk I'm always the walkaway or no?

SPEAKER_00 25:07

I mean I I feel like we have some things in common.

SPEAKER_01 25:10

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 25:11

I feel like I'm getting halves over here. Do I have halves? I think you said getting ha. I was like, what's happening over there? Haves.

SPEAKER_01 25:17

Hives is uh you're a little splotchy. Splotchy, just splotched. Little splotched.

SPEAKER_00 25:23

It's normally cold down here.

SPEAKER_01 25:25

Yeah. And I am I will say this, I am not proud to say that.

SPEAKER_00 25:29

No.

SPEAKER_01 25:29

That to me is not up. They ain't w leaving if you know, leaving me, I'm leaving them. I I don't mean that at all.

SPEAKER_03 25:36

No.

SPEAKER_01 25:36

I have mentioned plenty of times in previous podcast episodes that the fear of abandonment is real. And so I'm sure that is a hundred percent I'm leaving that situation because that's all I've known. But I will say this, I will stay and I will stay and I will stay until I physically and emotionally or mentally cannot take anymore.

SPEAKER_00 26:00

I was just talking about that yesterday actually, about the difference in men and women. And a lot of times women will stay and they don't even the man doesn't even realize that they're still there physically. But they've already started their healing journey because they are so checked out. Because you go through different phase like you take the problem to them, you stay silent, you pray about it, you beg. Like there are all of these phases that as a woman you go through and the person I was talking to said, Well, we're men, we just need you to say exactly like he was giving me his a situation that he was in. And he's like, Well, if she would have just told me that the next step was divorce. I was like, But if she told you what she needed from you and she told you how she was feeling and you weren't willing to make the change, why I would it take her saying the next step is divorce for you to want to do it instead of just make sure that you're making it right.

SPEAKER_01 27:12

I'm clapping for that because that is you wanna wait till I'm at the very end of my rope. Like, why would you not want to because you care about someone, I hear you, I see you, and I'm going to men or women either way.

SPEAKER_00 27:24

Like Exactly.

SPEAKER_01 27:26

I'm the kind of person like if I'm doing something that is not making you happy and you and like is it gonna be hard for me to hear? Absolutely. But also if I care about you, I'm going to do what I can to ensure that you get what you need. Well, yeah, it's a give or take. Yeah. And it's not always 50-50. Right.

SPEAKER_00 27:45

Don't even try to aim for that.

SPEAKER_01 27:47

I mean, yeah, it's can be, but and I'm not just uh don't don't take this as women are the only ones that, you know, are men are the only problem in the relationship and they don't like no but how often I mean I applaud a man that can say I that hurt my feelings or that upset me or you know, I love that because good, okay, I hear you, and now I'm going to why are you looking at me like that?

SPEAKER_02 28:24

Like I'm looking down on my notes now. I mean you just know I mean uh I don't know what you're talking about.

SPEAKER_00 28:30

No, I it when there's communication, but I just couldn't believe because it was like she has already checked out. But for me, I mean uh I don't know. It there's so many different scenarios that you ways that you can think and try to figure that out, but I was like, wow, that happens so often. But who wants to threaten divorce to get actions, you know?

SPEAKER_01 28:56

Right.

SPEAKER_00 28:57

So Okay. That's a b that's a big big word. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 29:02

I don't want to go through it again, so there's that.

SPEAKER_00 29:06

Alright, you ready for a little game?

SPEAKER_01 29:10

Right, you got pretty unhinged. Unhinge.

SPEAKER_00 29:15

Alright, rapid fire segment. Break of confessions. Dun dun dun.

SPEAKER_02 29:22

Who checked their socials? Oh, who me, I mean you We're talking about uh yeah, this is us.

SPEAKER_01 29:29

Who checks the socials?

SPEAKER_02 29:30

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 29:30

Both.

SPEAKER_02 29:32

Agreed. Who almost texts? Almost or does. Who almost texts?

SPEAKER_00 29:41

You who actually texts? Me. Do you agree with me? No. Who stalked the new girl? Both. Really?

SPEAKER_01 29:54

Me.

SPEAKER_00 29:54

I don't know.

SPEAKER_01 29:55

You stalked the new girl?

SPEAKER_00 29:56

I don't think I I don't even stalk the uh old girls.

SPEAKER_01 30:00

They found us. I mean, if I'm over that person, I won't, but Okay.

SPEAKER_00 30:06

Um who broke no contact?

unknown 30:11

Me.

SPEAKER_00 30:12

I have two. Okay. Um who deleted pictures immediately. I don't I keep pictures.

SPEAKER_01 30:21

Like I saw a Facebook picture. If you go back five or six, you can see all see all the things.

SPEAKER_00 30:26

Who ignored red flags the longest?

SPEAKER_01 30:30

That's you. Yeah. If you if you're not watching YouTube, you didn't know that I raised my hand, but I did.

SPEAKER_00 30:36

Yes. Who's they because of potential?

SPEAKER_01 30:38

Me. You both.

SPEAKER_02 30:40

Yeah. Um who changed their hair? Me. I haven't. Yeah. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 30:49

Who booked something impulsive?

unknown 30:52

I've definitely done that.

SPEAKER_01 30:53

You have?

SPEAKER_00 30:54

Oh yeah. A trip, a tattoo, a concert, just very impla. Well, let me know.

SPEAKER_01 30:59

I'll I'll go on the next one with you.

SPEAKER_00 31:01

We don't have to have breakups to do that though. No, we don't. Concert Friday. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 31:04

Tattoo soon.

SPEAKER_00 31:06

Um tattoo or matching tattoos. What uh we still need to do that. You ready? Oh, yeah, let's go.

SPEAKER_01 31:11

I have me and you and then I have like little questions in between.

SPEAKER_00 31:14

Okay.

SPEAKER_01 31:14

Who moves on faster?

SPEAKER_00 31:17

I don't think either one of us do, honestly. No.

SPEAKER_01 31:19

Especially depends the situation, but Right. Block, mute, or accidentally watch every story mute or block.

SPEAKER_02 31:31

Or just delete. Unfriend. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 31:34

Saying friends, real or delulu.

SPEAKER_00 31:37

Dululu.

SPEAKER_01 31:38

Dululu for sure. That's for you kids. First thing you do. After breakup. First thing. I'll call you. Hmm. Fair. Yeah. Yes.

SPEAKER_02 31:52

I like that. I will also call you. That's probably it. Circle back. Are on the same X. I have. I have two.

SPEAKER_01 32:05

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 32:06

I'm not proud of it.

SPEAKER_01 32:07

Mm-mm.

SPEAKER_00 32:08

Not always, but I have.

SPEAKER_01 32:10

The pettiest thing you've ever done post breakup. Oh.

SPEAKER_02 32:14

Petty. I mean I try jealous. I've done that before.

SPEAKER_00 32:24

I don't know. That's catching me off guard. I don't I'd have to think about that. What have I done with the petty?

SPEAKER_02 32:35

I don't know. I normally go pretty pretty silent.

unknown 32:41

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 32:41

Go a little off the ground.

SPEAKER_01 32:43

A little loud. I will 100% flirt with someone new. Just piss them all. Hard breakups or soft launch breakups.

SPEAKER_00 32:53

What's a soft launch breakup?

SPEAKER_01 32:54

Like like we kinda kinda have to break up, but not really, but I kind of break up, but not really.

SPEAKER_00 32:59

Oh no. I'm I'm in I'm all or nothing.

SPEAKER_01 33:02

Cut it out. Yeah. Return things or burn things?

SPEAKER_03 33:10

That's a great question. That is so good. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 33:14

Um I wish I'd burn 'em, but I normally return. I try to like get it back to them beforehand, but then if I I'm like, if they want it, they'll let me know.

SPEAKER_01 33:26

I'm not reaching out like And if it's still sitting here X amount of time after Chigone. Yeah. Ashley or Chess, who believes in the right person at the wrong time?

SPEAKER_02 33:42

I don't believe in that. Do you?

unknown 33:44

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 33:47

You do believe in it?

SPEAKER_01 33:48

Sometimes yeah. Timing is important, I think. Because of where you are in your life.

SPEAKER_00 33:53

I think that if it's meant to be God works it out.

SPEAKER_01 33:58

Most likely to pretend to be over it if I near you.

SPEAKER_00 34:01

Probably me.

SPEAKER_01 34:03

I think we both would.

SPEAKER_00 34:04

We both have. Would you? I feel like you said in it a little better than I do.

SPEAKER_01 34:08

Yeah, I'm probably a little more emotional and cry and be like Not always, but who's most likely to post something just for them to see?

SPEAKER_02 34:21

I've I've done that before, but not like uh I mean not spiteful.

SPEAKER_01 34:29

I'll look and see who looks at my stories.

SPEAKER_03 34:34

Do you do that just Are you not gonna answer?

SPEAKER_01 34:46

Oh yeah. Remember that what? Remember that one? Remember that one?

SPEAKER_00 34:51

Remember that one song that was like, oh, is this story Tom? No, absolutely not.

SPEAKER_01 34:55

Favorite breakup play breakup song.

SPEAKER_00 34:59

Favorite break? Um probably acting up by Marina Lambert. Ooh, that's a good one. I like that one. That's a really good one. Yeah. Um, who are you after a breakup? Do you disappear and heal or do you spiral and suppress? I've done both. Yeah. I have two.

SPEAKER_01 35:22

But these days, probably more first one. What was it?

SPEAKER_02 35:28

Disappear and heal. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 35:30

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 35:32

Same. Was that all of yours?

SPEAKER_01 35:36

Was it all of yours?

SPEAKER_00 35:37

What's the what are we doing over here? What's the blinking for? Something really means something. Okay. No meaning. No meaning. Well, um we're seeing, I'm sorry, bitchy. We have been seeing. I cannot wait for especially Joey George, man. He calls us out. We see you, Joey.

SPEAKER_01 35:57

And I'm supposed to give a shout out to Chucky Montgomery. Who? Chucky. I went to high school with him. He's the one that was asking me. Remember he um Is that who called you out? Yes.

SPEAKER_00 36:09

I can't believe you just called him out. I called him out.

SPEAKER_01 36:13

He wanted a shout out. So you're shout out. You don't get any more though.

SPEAKER_00 36:20

Be nice on social media.

SPEAKER_01 36:21

I know. And Joey, you tell us after the fact or you don't interact, please. Thanks. Oh things.

SPEAKER_00 36:30

Okay.

SPEAKER_01 36:30

You getting called out. Well.

SPEAKER_00 36:33

On that note.

SPEAKER_03 36:39

We always have a seat at our table.

SPEAKER_00 36:42

Maybe not Chucky.