Always Jump Before I Figure It All Out

There’s a pattern that keeps people where they are

Waiting to feel ready.
Waiting for your nervous system to calm down before you move.
Waiting for it to make sense.

And it is costing us everything.

the truth is
the risk that actually changes your life won’t make sense to anyone else…
and sometimes it won’t even make sense to you.

I’m sharing what it looked like for me to walk away from certainty, trust what I couldn’t see yet, and move anyway even when my body was saying no.

if you’ve been sitting on the sidelines, overthinking, or telling yourself you’ll go all in “when it feels right”… this is your moment.

You don’t need more time.
You don’t need more certainty.

You only need to move. 

Transcript

[00:00:00] Tonia: As an entrepreneur, one of the biggest things that I think is important is to take a risk. If you wanted the boring, less risky move, you would stay in corporate America. You'd stay in a job, that would be your only source of income, your only source of creativity, the way that you make moves.

[00:00:29] There's nothing wrong with it. I've loved the stock options. The profit sharing, the bonuses. The great salary. Two years ago I left all of that and I took a huge risk. I sold most of my belongings, packed up a U-Haul and came back to California.

[00:00:49] The state that most people were fleeing but it felt like home to me. More of a risk was to never go all in on my dreams again [00:01:00] of entrepreneurship.

[00:01:02] Risk is not the absence of fear. Risk is feeling it in your nervous system and doing it anyways. The same reason why I am went skydiving when I'm terrified of heights. I'm absolutely terrified of heights. If you put me on the, looking out of a window, or I'm standing on the ledge and it's somewhere tall, I get the butterflies in my stomach, the, uneasy feeling.

[00:01:34] I can stand on the outside of the plane with the door open and feeling as if this is the time to make a leap,

[00:01:47] and even thinking about jumping out of the plane again. I can feel it in my stomach and in my throat all over again.

[00:01:56] If I didn't jump out of the plane, I wouldn't have had that experience. I wouldn't have seen [00:02:00] the views. From the plane, I wouldn't have been able to see the ocean seeing down to Mexico, the mountains, seeing the way the ground changed as I was falling, seeing someone else that was skydiving next to me and watching them.

[00:02:15] All of the beautiful things and the beautiful experiences. After I take the leap, the, the courage doesn't come before. The courage comes after we do the thing. The courage to say, okay, I can do that. I know I can do that. Feeling the fear and doing it anyways.

[00:02:37] It's a lie in our culture right now where we say, you have to have this calm, nervous system. No, we don't. There are things that will cause us to feel uneasy and we get to make the moves anyway. How do we manage our stress? Can we use it to create more? Can we use it to [00:03:00] expand our life? Otherwise, in five years, 10 years, 15 years, it'll look exactly the same unless we're doing something different today. 

[00:03:12] The biggest risk that people take are the ones the people are not applauding. They're not going to. Applaud you for leaving a relationship that looked good to them on the outside. They're not going to applaud you for leaving a corporate job that seemed perfect or it was their dream job. They won't applaud you for selling all your belongings and moving across the country.

[00:03:49] I've done that.

[00:03:51] They're not going to applaud you for driving across the country after you've sold all of your belongings filled up your BMW [00:04:00] and driven from the west coast, southern California, all the way to Florida. We don't do it for the applause. You take the risk. Because it's more risky to stay where you're at.

[00:04:15] It's more of a risk to know in this lifetime, oh, I could have done that, or I should have done that Instead, we take the risk Now, even when our nervous system is screaming or feeling uneasy, our ego is designed for survival. There's something inside of us that says, play it safe. You might die if you take a risk.

[00:04:41] However, doesn't it feel more like death if I stay in the same place? To me, that feels more like death risk. That makes sense to everyone else is not a risk. That's a calculated [00:05:00] move.

[00:05:01] Real risk is the calling that only makes sense to you, and because it makes sense to you, it will work out. If there's a delay between taking the risk and you seeing the results of it, that's all it is. It's a delay. You get to trust that it's happening. You get to trust that it's still coming. Know with certainty that it's coming for you. 

[00:05:27] Number three. Your nervous system will always vote to keep you. Same same, as opposed to taking a risk, making more money, becoming wealthy. Your nervous system, your ego is designed to keep it the same. I tell clients in a group class too, when they're moving through a Pilates class muscle memory is boring.

[00:05:52] Muscle memory keeps our body the same. Keep our life looking exactly the same.

[00:05:58] So if your body is [00:06:00] telling you, or your nervous system is saying, this is too much, too big, let's go back to what's cozy and comfortable. Those things will happen, and we need to know that when those feelings start to come up in our body, now I've expanded. I've created more wealth than I ever have.

[00:06:18] I've created a relationship that I've desired. We get to expand and make sure that we're not contracting and we're not self imploding. Because the ego is going to wanna bring us back to what was cozy, and comfortable. The cozy, safe, comfortable, and familiar will keep you with the same results you've always had.

[00:06:43] And we want something different because we're still alive. We want something different because we're playing the entrepreneur game or playing the growth game. In the entrepreneur game, the game to [00:07:00] create money. To create wealth. You're doing it for time freedom, or you're doing it to travel or you're doing it to be generous with the people in your life, or you're doing it to be able to give to charities or buy the things that you want to buy, or to have ease without the stress, all the different ways.

[00:07:22] That we play the wealth game to watch our money multiply. Look at it. Why are you playing this game? When you're really clear on why you're playing the game,

[00:07:39] then it makes the risk worth it.

[00:07:41] Number four, the sidelines will feel safe until you realize you're watching your whole life being played out in front of you and you're standing there like a bystander. The risk comes when we're willing to play the game. Yes, we [00:08:00] can self-soothe for a moment. We go to the gym and come home, rest.

[00:08:06] We grow our muscles, our body, we rest. We don't go to the gym one time and take a year off self-soothing. It's the expansion and being able to say, I'm taking a risk and I'm willing to stay in the game.

[00:08:24] It's a lie that's being fed to culture right now we have to self-soothe. No. What we need to do is to be uncomfortable. We need to get comfortable with being uncomfortable. Take the risk that feels scary. Take the risk that scare the shit out of us. We need to take the risk that makes sense to no one else except for ourselves.

[00:08:50] That's when it becomes worth playing. You're not meant to live a boring life. That's why this video [00:09:00] found you,

[00:09:00] and it's even in the ai, I was speaking with one of them asking, what advice would you give someone who took a month off from going to the gym, what are people hearing in our culture right now?

[00:09:14] And the response was, get dressed, go to the gym, for 10 minutes. Four days, I wondered how much of that is being fed to our culture?

[00:09:26] How much of it is saying stay comfortable, cozy, would I have time to do a set of ab crunches and wonder why I don't have flat abs . Would I expect that my ass is gonna look like a dump truck now in 10 minutes?

[00:09:43] No, it's not going to happen . Instead, the advice. Would be go. Get uncomfortable. Stay . Do a full workout. You're already there. You already have your shoes on. You already walk through the door. Make it worth it. Work hard. [00:10:00] Sweat.

[00:10:02] Go to the gym, get that stoplight red face that I used to be so embarrassed about in junior high. People would always ask me, are you okay? I could feel how puffy my face was getting is it because my face is stoplight red?

[00:10:18] Yeah, it's, my body is changing. . In those moments, there are signs that I'm pushing limits. If we want something different in our life, we push the limits. We don't play a small game.

[00:10:33] It's time to push the limits. For me I had to get rid of,, is this going to be liked no, it's, I'm posting for the one that needs to hear in this moment, in this day that it's okay to take a risk and you want to chase the feelings that feel uneasy.

[00:10:54] You will live through it. It's not going to make sense to everyone else,[00:11:00] 

[00:11:02] and it even should not make sense to you to a degree. The leaps where we say, I don't know how this is going to work and I'll do it anyways. This may work or it might not work and I'll do it anyways. That's where the magic happens. That's where we build the thing. And they will come

[00:11:24] the ones meant for us will find us even if there's a delay between what you're offering, what you're creating, and the clients beating down their door every day to work with you. If there's a delay, you still hold it with certainty that I trust, even though I can't see it, or even though I don't see it now, I can see it in my imagination.

[00:11:45] I know that it's going to happen. Use your imagination for good, You get to control it. You can either use it as your gloom and doom generator and dream up the worst case [00:12:00] scenario, or use your imagination to picture exactly what you want. How would you feel? If you already had the thing you desired what moves would you make?

[00:12:10] How would you sit? How would you stand? What actions would you take? Act as if it's already happened. When we change our vibe, which is the energy, the frequency, sometimes it sounds too woo woo for people and if you can't wrap your head around that, it's the vibe that you feel , our frequency.

[00:12:29] When we change our frequency, what's meant for us will be attracted to us. We're tuning into that station the same way on Spotify. That you turn it to a particular station, it only plays country another one, plays jazz. Turn it to another one and it's house. Whatever your favorite type of music, you're tuning into that frequency.

[00:12:55] Tune into the frequency for the things that you desire, and it has to [00:13:00] come to you. One of the universal laws, it will come to you. Picture what you want. Feel as if it's already happened, and regardless of what circumstances are happening around us, we get to trust in the unseen. The way that when I was driving my U-Haul across several states, coming back to Southern California, I knew it was that moment of trusting in the unseen that I left a corporate job and.

[00:13:32] Did not have a corporate job lined up in San Diego. Wasn't even sure what I was going to do. However, what I was no longer willing to do was to abandon myself anymore. No longer willing to do was to put my dreams and desires on hold because I wasn't believing in myself. I decided to go all in on my dreams, desires, my business, my entrepreneurship skills that I've had since I was 12 years old and [00:14:00] younger, to go all in on me and trust in the unseen.

[00:14:06] It is time for you to trust in the unseen. Otherwise, we're gonna have the same shit in our lives. If we're not willing to do something different, and now more than ever, it's important for us to do something different.

[00:14:26] Remember, the courage is going to come after. It's not going to come when we're dreaming and scheming, when we're sitting on our couch making all the best plans in the world. It comes when we take the action and we're doing the thing. We're not reading a book about Brazilian jiujitsu. We get on the mat.

[00:14:47] We're not reading a book about how to drive a car. We get in the car, entrepreneurship, we start making the moves. Build the business [00:15:00] and it's one step at a time, trusting in the unseen. Know with certainty this is a game that you will win.

[00:15:10] Might not feel like it. Sometimes the messy middle, feels a little bit unsettling, and that's okay.

[00:15:21] Trust in God, trust in source. Trust in the unseen and let the magic happen.

[00:15:35] Speaker 2: Trust in yourself that the risk is going to give you the payoff, even if it's not the thing that we're hoping for in that particular moment. It might just be the lesson that we receive. 

[00:15:47] Speaker 3: Grateful that you shared part of your day with me wishing you incredible success today and always.