Our Thing Called Life

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Welcome back to another chaotic episode! The intention was a beautifully structured podcast, but unfortunately technological issues meant we had to re-record this episode, which, if you know us by now, naturally led to chaos.

This week, we spoke about sharing your significant other on social media, bullying on TikTok and people’s growing reliance on AI for everything - including companionship. We also spoke about preferences, where they come from and whether people actually interrogate them.

A very chaotic episode, but a very good one, if we do say so ourselves.

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SPEAKER_03

When you because like I remember when Fisayo posted her Fisayo longer, sorry, when she posted her boyfriend well, her husband now for the first time and her did they marry like um likes yeah now they're married, they've traditionally done a wedding. Oh okay. I thought they were never getting married. I have been bullying people on TikTok. Um and what I have to listen to this right.

SPEAKER_02

Oh, what's the colour of your underwear?

SPEAKER_04

Good. Are you wearing a tongue?

SPEAKER_02

Are you wearing a pants? Literally stall. It makes me sick. Can I see your bra?

SPEAKER_00

Hi, friends. Hi, family. I'm Winola. I'm Ayowande, your favorite cousin, navigating this thing called life, and welcome to our thing called life. Enjoy. See ya.

SPEAKER_03

Hello, girly pops again. Do you know why this is funny? This is funny because we have already recorded an episode and um we are having to re-record.

SPEAKER_02

I am delusional right now. Like, you know, we're just like, I can't believe I can't believe we're just Amazons, I'm so I don't know what to say, I have no words.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah, guys. Honestly, these are the perils of recording the podcast um internationally. Yeah. Um, but you know, all of that will be overseen by the special base of God.

SPEAKER_02

Yes. 2027. Or 2026, who knows?

SPEAKER_03

Guys, life is dynamic. Anyway, hello guys.

SPEAKER_02

You know what? We are back, baby. We are. We are so back. Oh my gosh. Period. I'm so excited for this episode that we just recorded. Oh guys, you're actually gonna get the worst of me. I promise you. You are going to get the worst of me.

SPEAKER_03

Bear with us. Okay. Do you want to tell the people that what you got up to this weekend?

SPEAKER_02

Girl, you gotta do the hi, how are you? Hey, how are you? How is that? I'm good. I am great. When I got on this call, guys, by the way, I saw in the last face, and I literally was like, is she wearing makeup? Because I wish you could see her skin, her face right now. It's like scary. I genuinely thought you had a layer of foundation on your face. Nothing. You're glowing. It's thank you. You're glowing like someone who's getting some. Huh? Oh gosh. I'm so guys, I apologize in advance. So one thing about me is like when it hits a certain time of the night, I have this thing called sleep brain, which like comes on. And sleep brain is just insanely crazy and delusional. So I will try and reel it in.

SPEAKER_05

Okay.

SPEAKER_02

And not go a bit too crazy. But yeah, sleep brain is on right now. So I apologize in advance.

SPEAKER_03

I think I'm only glowing because I just did my hair and I've got new glasses.

SPEAKER_04

Oh.

SPEAKER_03

You know, and like life is good.

SPEAKER_02

Um thing about you guys that live in the UK is like when it comes to May, man, it's like the tide turns. It's like everything changes for you guys. It's like it's like you're back in the world again. Maybe honestly.

SPEAKER_03

I was literally saying to my friend on, I think it was Saturday, I said, May is the best month of the year in the UK. Like, yeah, there is no greater month than May. Like, it's the perfect weather. Um it gets darker later. Like everyone, it's not like too hot. So everyone is still super friendly. Like everyone just wants to be outside. Like, you just feel so happy. And honestly, yeah, my only goal for my 30th year has been to just get like hotter and just like more beautiful. Um period. And so like the fact that you even said that to me genuinely like has just made me so happy, you know.

SPEAKER_02

No, you are definitely glowing.

SPEAKER_03

That's the that's the only goal. But also, I do think it's that's pretty good.

SPEAKER_02

You just did a what a sewing? I just did a sewing, I got a texture release. Um boo. It's it's great.

SPEAKER_03

I love it. Like, if I didn't get a texture release, this leave out that you're seeing it's not gonna look like this currently. Decolonize your mind. I want to do good nights.

SPEAKER_02

No, but she looks really nice. Um, I wish we could put a picture of her face in the show notes, but we haven't evolved that. Don't worry about it.

SPEAKER_03

Those that need pictures of me already have them.

SPEAKER_02

Um okay, before I get into how my weekend was, I want to really quickly touch on two things. Okay. Because in the last episode, you had recommended a couple of shows and I watched them. Okay. Um so the first one was you recommended um the show, Sam Levy show. Um Sam Levy. This is Sam Levy. I'm confused. Do you mean Dan Lee's? Dan Levy. Dan Levy. Big mistakes. Yeah. Big mistakes killed me. Yeah. I loved, I I can I consumed it so fast. Fantastic feast, honestly. Um, 10 out of 10. I think I'm just like obsessed with him.

SPEAKER_05

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02

I've been obsessed with him since like shitscreek, and I think he's fantastic, but I didn't even get that feeling. And so one thing you mentioned in the last episode was that like it kind of felt like he was acting or playing the same character. I said you might feel like you might feel like a similar character.

SPEAKER_03

I didn't feel that way, but I know a lot of people did.

SPEAKER_02

Didn't yeah. So I initially I was like, okay, I can see the similarities, but like so different, so funny, so like big mistakes. The writing is just really, really, really, really good. Yeah. Uh, it's not what you would expect as well. At all. And it just like the humor was just great. The her his co-star, whoever she is, fantastic. Fantastic. Um, yeah, that was actually like one of the best recommendations you've given me in a while. Paradise was not up there. I'm so sorry.

SPEAKER_03

Your opinion on paradise is wrong. And I think that your opinion on paradise is warped because you have a thing for Sterling K. Brown. Because, like, I if you no, genuinely, you do. Because if you remove your whatever weird thing you have with Sterling K. Brown, the writing, like, the writing on paradise alone sets it out as one of the things.

SPEAKER_02

About what is so great about the writing on paradise? Oilala, from season one, from like from season one to no, maybe towards the end of season one, we could already gauge what was gonna happen. Oh, yeah. Like you kind of already knew what was gonna happen. You could gauge. I could gauge from season, and the thing is, I still enjoyed it, the journey that they took us on. But genuinely, it's not that is not like one of the best shows. The way you were hyping it up.

SPEAKER_03

It's a terrible opinion that you're gonna do.

SPEAKER_02

It is not, oil, and I think you guys are actually too obsessed with Stalin Brown.

SPEAKER_03

But my love for the show actually has nothing to do with him. My love for the show has everything to do with Dan Fogelman, the creator. Like, I I just I love the way that he tells stories. Like, and that's and that's why I loved This Is Us as well. And this is us towards the end got very like jarring, right? But I love the way that he chooses to tell stories. I think that the way he just like writes, the way he um puts things together, um, it's very unique and it's it draws you in as a viewer. If Stanley K. Brown wasn't the actor, then it that that to be.

SPEAKER_02

I think maybe if he wasn't the actor, I could like see past the biggest thing to be the person and that guy. Like, calm down.

SPEAKER_03

Your problem is that he wasn't random him as Randall, and he is not Randall, he is Xavier.

SPEAKER_02

Please, please, please calm down. Okay, your wife is not the only woman in the world, right? That you need to go and save. Like, there are people who also experience loss just like you. Okay. Um, I think that I think that was what's so I loved I loved the storyline of um Shailen, is that her name? Her character. Shailen Whidley. Yeah, her name was Amy Show. Loved that storyline. Caught me, I'm in. But when we start doing Sterling's trying to go find his wife, yeah, and he's trying to go, we're gonna stop talking about paradise right now because I again Ayo Wande is biased when she's talking about this because she doesn't like him.

SPEAKER_03

Like it's like I like him as a person. I like him as a person. You don't like him as an actor, and the problem is you're seeing him as Randall in everything that he does. That is actually your focus.

SPEAKER_02

He's annoying, he's annoying, he's an annoying actor. He's annoying. That's it, it's okay. Okay? It's okay. Okay, second show. Um, I don't know if you recommended beef. Did you recommend beef? I did recommend beef. I don't think you recommended. Did you recommend beef? I think I did. Um, I think beef season two gives them awards, give them everything. Yeah, give them everything. My thing with beef season is one of the. I don't know how they were able to up this beef season one was like decent, like decent one.

SPEAKER_03

But I think my issue with beef season two, it's not really an issue, um, but it's very different tonally to beef season one. Yes, and I and that is why I love it so much. So different. But but because I wasn't expecting it, I went into it expecting the same type of tone. Oh, I read I read before I watched I read before I watched season two, but then obviously that gets solved very quickly within like the first two episodes. But I do think that it's it's really like fascinating. And I I do think it it poses a question about like do are do are people truly like 100% honest with their partners and hundred and like do you actually want like 100% honesty? And I think I I asked you this question when I was talking about the drama. The drama, yeah, where it's like do you feel like you can be yourself fully? Yeah, and would you be accepted for that? Because like it was it was fascinating watching them like something would irritate them and they wouldn't like acknowledge it, and but that's that's that's how relationships are. Yeah, which is so interesting because it's I was literally having literally this similar conversation today where someone was like, Oh, like if I did something to piss you off, would you tell me? And I was like, Oh, well, like I probably wouldn't tell you immediately. I'd probably like yeah, I'd probably like stew on it for a bit, and then I would tell you and I think I'm just I'm like that with a lot of things where I brush a lot of things under the rug because I just I don't want to like rock the boots, um but then as we saw in beef, you will literally just explode. Yeah, you will just explode.

SPEAKER_02

I think I could I can actually do a whole episode on beef. Obviously, we're not doing that on a TV show podcast, um but there's so many like it really provoked a lot of thought on different things, and when I finished it how I felt was like the only was there actually anyone who changed throughout um I mean I have I know my answer and I feel like it was only one person.

SPEAKER_03

I feel like only one person changed.

SPEAKER_02

Really dog inwards and and just like was like okay, cool. Um, which I found super interesting as to why they did it like that. Like, why didn't we have like all four kind of go-through? So there's that thought that came, and then can I answer that thought? Yeah, yeah, please.

SPEAKER_03

Because I don't think that's realistic. Like, I think that that makes it too perfect a story and too like need an ending. Yeah, yes, and that's not how like unfortunately, that's not how reality works, and people go through these like crazy things and still come out being exactly the same. Do you know what I mean? And also for some people, they don't see themselves as like they don't think that what they're doing is wrong, quote unquote, or they don't see a need for change because they're like I don't grab like that's just yeah who I am, which yeah is interesting.

SPEAKER_02

Yeah, and and again, it because the character was literally like one of the worst characters. I hated him. I hated him I don't even know who you're referring to. The what's her name? Lindsay's husband. I don't even know his name, that's how much I hated him.

SPEAKER_03

Oscar Isaac, I can't remember his name either.

SPEAKER_02

Yeah, um so that was interesting, and then also there was something the second thought that came to my mind was like about choices and decisions that you make. Um and how like go there's going with your gut, but then there's also the reality of the world that we live in, right? And it's like I know one of the characters had to kind of like make a decision towards the end, which was just like, should I pursue this thing that's clearly not for me? I'm not happy here, but I know that you know I will be important to somebody's life and comfortable, or do I kind of like throw it all away and like try to? And it was so interesting the choice he made. Yeah, I couldn't believe it. I could. So yeah, there's just something about I mean, I like I got it, and I love that they they showed that because he was clearly searching for like meaning, he wants to be meaningful to someone and purposefully, like this like a desire to be the center of someone's world, and it's like a moment that's gone, it's like you lose any kind of purpose, and it's so scary. Yeah, I bruh. Beef I swear, guys. If you've not watched it, please go and watch it in two. It will provoke so many thoughts in your mind, in your brain. It's really, really solid, and I swear that you need to get all the awards. That's all I have to say on that. Fantastic recommendation, baby.

SPEAKER_03

I always give fantastic recommendations, thank you.

SPEAKER_02

Well, let's say you're like two for three.

SPEAKER_03

No, because your opinion of paradise is wrong, but that's okay.

SPEAKER_02

Okay.

SPEAKER_03

But I always give. Also, sorry, I know what uh sorry guys, I know we're talking about TV, but did you finish in Perfect Women?

SPEAKER_02

No, okay. If you haven't finished it, yeah, because I wanted to no, I didn't, because I wanted to wait. I wanted to wait.

SPEAKER_03

So I got to Bruh, whoa, what a show. All I'm gonna say is you haven't finished it, but all I'm gonna say is for me personally, terrible finale. Terrible. Oh, terrible.

SPEAKER_01

Damn.

SPEAKER_03

Like the show was so good up until that final episode.

SPEAKER_02

Oh no. Yeah, okay, okay. I'll finish that this weekend, 100%. Yeah. 100%.

SPEAKER_03

Anyway, this was not the plan. Um TV. Anyway, um, what did you get up to this weekend? Uh what did you get up to this weekend, yeah?

SPEAKER_02

Over the past two weeks, you mean, yeah. Weekend was good. It was my MCM's birthday on Thursday. Shout out to my MCM, baby. Um also just like major aside, like I would literally never ever, I think we say this on the podcast, like I would never post the person I'm dating on any of my socials ever. Like, I don't think I would post my husband. I'm never gonna do it. I'm never gonna do it. You guys do you don't need to know. If you see me outside, you see me outside. But to be fair, you didn't see me outside. I did.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah. Well that was when you went avid Instagram. Oh. Yeah, I was. I was. What do you mean? That's when you went avid Instagram poster, is what I'm saying. Did you say Instagram? Are you okay? I'm just asking. I said Instagram.

SPEAKER_02

Yeah, yeah, you know, the Eurobagir, they'll be getting caughts. Um, yeah, I actually did. That was really funny. But that was also my first relationship, so like I was like, oh, I want everyone to know. Um but I would lish, I would lit, I would never ever post a man.

SPEAKER_03

I just I don't in general, I don't like I just I don't my Instagram is mine, my social media is mine. I don't want to, and I think, sorry, I know I'm jumping around with my thoughts, but one, I don't want to put a man on any of my socials. Not because I feel like, oh, it's gonna end where I'm afraid of it ending and the embarrassment of it all. No, I don't care about that per se. But I think just more that like people are so nosy, and like I hate that when you because like I remember when Fisayo posted her Fisayo longer, sorry, when she posted her boyfriend, well her husband now for the first time. And her did they marry like um likes, yeah. Now they're married, they've traditionally done a wedding. Oh yeah, I thought they were never getting married.

SPEAKER_05

That was good.

SPEAKER_03

Anyway, go on. Anyway, she posted him, and she I remember her putting on her story that that that was her most liked post ever. And I just thought someone who's been grinding for years, right, as an influencer, as a blogger, as a business owner, and your most liked post is a picture of you and your boyfriend. Like, I just hate that. Like it's not yeah, and then people then feel obligated, especially if you have like a massive platform, but even if you don't, because I do it too, right? Oh my god, even just over the weekend. Oh, maybe I shouldn't say this. Yes, okay, maybe I shouldn't say this. Please go ahead. I won't say this because it's not common knowledge, so I won't say it. But like I do it too where I see people like I will now start looking at their Instagram and I'm like, oh, they've not posted this person in a while. Oh, are they still together? Oh, and I'm just like, no, no, no, no. Yeah, however, my close friends, and we'll I will put that shit in there. Yeah, absolutely.

SPEAKER_02

Yeah, maybe if I can't be bothered, I think first of all, mine stems from just like I don't care for social media that much. Like I like to browse, but I don't care to post. Um, so there's that, so there's a laziness angle, and then the second one is as a nosy queen myself, you know, we are nosy queens. Yeah, I think you know, you kind of see how like just travels. Yeah and like gist travels, just doesn't travel well, like gist gets lost in translation, yeah. People just get mixed up with pepper sauce, yeah. People love to add if someone says, Oh, it was three days ago, yeah, it was five years. Like, yeah, people love to just messian, yeah. And I think like I catch myself, like when I know how I'm hearing or collecting juice, I'm just like, damn, like like this is actually people's lives that we're talking about here. And I don't care someone's whole existence, a human being. And again, like I'm not trying to be some self-righteous person. Like, I I love juice. Like we love the juice now. For me personally, I do not be I just don't want my own business to be out there in that sense, or like for people to be having common. And I think that's and that's not even just like a man thing, that's also just a me thing. That's why I don't like post a lot in general. Again, it's because it's like I don't the people that need to know about what I'm doing with my life know. The people that I want to know about certain achievements and milestones and fun things, they know. Like they get sent the pictures, they get sent, you know, the information. They have my location. So That's all that matters to me. I don't particularly care. And I and again, the third thing is really like hating, like I hate when I post something and I see like random, random people that are in your following that maybe you knew you met on an exchange program five years ago. And I like it. I just it feels so bare and it feels so it just feels too much, right? And I remember like it would always spark like conversations with people. You know, if you post something, people are like, oh my god, why you're doing this? Oh my god, you like no, yeah. I don't need to speak. I also really I definitely am just an observer now. Like I enjoy it, I look look into what other people are doing. Q cu, oh happy for you. But I don't need my own, y'all don't need to know my own thing. Y'all don't think, so sorry, one last thing I was gonna say. Like, as a juice lover and a nosy queen, you know when people love juice too much, you have to be so scared of them. Like, you know, like we like juice, but there's still the people that are like hungry for juice. You can't if you dare open your mouth to go out and yarn, just know that it's you that they're going to use for food tomorrow. 100%. So you also have to be careful who you're telling. Like, I yeah, there are some people like I don't tell certain things to because I just know I know that this is you are collecting it, notes piling up, quite easy for conversational starter next next year. Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_03

Do you understand? As much as I love gist, I love gist in the confines of like my my you know core people. But I think my big thing is that I don't post things that I don't invite commentary on. And I think I saw Jackie Aina say this. And I'm not gonna post something that I don't I don't want your opinion on. Do you know what I mean? Like there are also certain things that like in general I don't want your opinion on it anyway, but like I don't want to know what anyone thinks about the guy I'm seeing. Like, I I don't want you to come to me as a woman. I like I don't I don't want any of that. I don't I don't care. And also I don't think it's I just I just also just don't think it's worth sharing. Like, why how does that make me any better or less than because you now know that I'm with someone, you know? So I don't know. I just I don't I'm just I'm just I'm really just not that way inclined. Like I just also if if I am ever gonna post a man, it'll be hidden in plain sights. Like you will actually just never know. You would never know.

SPEAKER_02

Yeah, I know. I agree, I agree. I think that's that's my style as well.

SPEAKER_03

I don't even know how we go on this subject, but oh, you're talking about your MCM and what you did for him.

SPEAKER_02

Yeah, oh yeah, oh gosh, okay, yeah, forgot. Anyway, yeah, so we had it was his birthday on Thursday, happy birthday to him. Although you can you can make it snappy. Yeah, I'm gonna make it really fast. I was also just gonna like give a shout-out to all my May babies that are their birthdays. So happy birthday to Charles. Excuse me. Is this a video shoe? Happy birthday. I wanted to wrap it up. Wrap it up. Um but yeah, it was a lovely, lovely time celebrating the MTM. Um, we did a surprise that was a vibe until his friend ruined it. His friends ruined it. Yeah, they know themselves. Um, I'm not gonna give a shout-out to them because there's no need to shout out those people. But yeah, it was really nice and it was really fun, and it was a big 3-0. Um, and he had a lovely time. So, yeah. Oh, did you invite your brother by the way? That's why I invite my brother. I don't know, like a it's a family function, no? It's just crazy asking this question because like my mom asked me the exact same question. No, she did not. She did. And I'm just like, why would I invite my brother to do what? Come by eat small chops with me. Your mom asked you that. That's so funny. Exact same question she asked me. Yeah. And I had the exact same response. Like, why would I invite my brother? Like, does he know does he know the guy's friend?

SPEAKER_03

It's a family function. Mm-mm. Family.

SPEAKER_02

Like if I was saying a surprise party for my MCMU would be there. That's different. Like, I invited my girlfriends. Yeah. Or like my sister would be with him.

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A year.

SPEAKER_02

I mean, mm, my brother, it's an older brother, like we have a very different relationship in that regard. Fair enough, fair enough. I'm not inviting. I have no business inviting him there. Fair enough. You know, but I would expect maybe like a year, maybe in a year's time. When you know time has passed. Okay. And like people are closer, we would definitely be inviting each other to, you know, partners' birthdays.

SPEAKER_03

Fair enough. Interesting. Mm-hmm. Anyway.

SPEAKER_02

How about you? What did you get up to over the past couple of weeks?

SPEAKER_03

Oh, I'm fine. I've just been chilling. I've yeah, just been chilling.

SPEAKER_02

Um so boring. Boo. Wow, insult.

SPEAKER_03

I went to watch SNL and UK Live on Saturday. That was fun. Okay, flexing. I still want to quit my job, so how much of a flex is that? Um what was I going to say? Oh, something that I have been doing. I have been bullying people on TikTok. Um and I have to listen to this right again. I want you guys to hear me out because I think that we need to bring back bullying. And just hear me out because I don't mean this in a in a terrible way, like obviously not in a way that's going to affect someone's mental health. But I don't like how comfortable people feel saying really vicious things under the guise of like anonymity, I really don't like it. I don't like how comfortable people feel jumping into comment sections, saying the most vile things about other people that you just wouldn't say to their face. And so I've taken it upon myself, and I am encouraging others to join me that when you see such hateful comments or you see people spew, like or you see people spew like hateful rhetoric and then making these videos, please do comment and say hurtful things back to them. Um because I think it's important that like you fight fire with fire. Um, my favorite thing that I saw recently was one woman went to go and accost some man that said something horrible in her comment section. And I'm like, yes, like that is exactly what people need to start doing. That your words have actions. Your words have actions, their words have consequences. Like, you can't just say mean things to people and feel like that's okay.

SPEAKER_02

No, because you're behind a screen, it's fine.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah, so I've taken it upon myself to start bullying them back. Um, I've received a couple of insults, but um insults don't really bother me. Wait, they fight back. That's too funny. They fight back, but insults don't like you can't insult me if I don't want to know you or care about your opinion. So like it's not I don't I don't care what you have to say, you know? Yeah. Um I've received a couple of insults. I've also been blocked by a couple people, but that's okay.

SPEAKER_02

And then the second set of people that I have Oh my god, I wish you had like the insults ready because I would love to hear something.

SPEAKER_03

You know when they when people block you or when like the person who I'm fighting in their deletes the comments, yeah, I can't see it anymore.

SPEAKER_02

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03

Um the second set of people that I have resorted to bullying are also the parasocial people who have taken it upon themselves to I think just share with the world that they've lost their minds. Um one video that I saw recently was one babe basically saying it's just talking about the whole bag, the Stalin and Clay Thompson situation, which honestly I'm you can't be surprised by men these days. Like, okay, shout out to Clay Thompson. I have no idea six-year-old advice.

SPEAKER_02

Like, that's and then look at all the men rallying behind me.

SPEAKER_03

Before I even get into that video. You guys don't know who Clay is. I must talk about a TikTok that I saw, and I won't even give him I won't even give him a name. Oh my god, don't say his name.

SPEAKER_02

But don't say like when men start a video with ladies, this is why they deplatformed him, and I'm telling you, this is this is that should be cut out of this podcast.

SPEAKER_03

I'm not trying to be cancelled again. Ladies, um, I have some advice to tell you from a man immediately. From a man. Immediately, I don't want to hear a word you have to say. Immediately. Oh, and then he goes on to voice the craziest thing I've ever heard, which is when a man cheats on you, you just have to test it because the man will still go on to get bames, but then you, your your track record is out there. What?

SPEAKER_02

Yeah, I I'm so convinced he was looking for virality. So convinced. What? So convinced. Oh my gosh, no.

SPEAKER_03

What are you saying? Like he had the he had the audacity to say that Kay Thompson is still a millionaire, he will still get babes, and Meg is talian as well. She's poor. What are you saying? He he said, oh, look at Meg's track record. So that means that she's less than because men have cheated on her. What is the common denominator here? The men. The men. The men. I just anyway. I I don't even want to I don't even want to talk about him because he now came out and did one apology video. He did, he did. Who asked him to apologize?

SPEAKER_01

I think his girlfriend walked in.

SPEAKER_02

I think his girlfriend was like, hey. I know it's I know she's a weird exactly.

SPEAKER_03

But then what was killing me was the the way people were like, oh, people were coming for him. It was really funny. Duh. One babe was like, one babe stitched the video. Yeah. One babe stitched the video, said, Oh, this guy's a weirdo. He tried to get with me when I was in uni.

SPEAKER_02

Oh gosh. I don't even want to say too much because he's a nice guy.

SPEAKER_03

Um anyway, so one girl came on the internet to basically say that um she wishes that what happened to Megan happened to her. Um, that she's just so sad that Megan had to go through this that she wished that she could carry that pain. Do you know how crazy you sound? So I had I jumped into her comment section and I was like, hey girl, like just so you know, like this isn't okay. Um this is a bit weird. Um just putting it out there that you sound a bit off. And like personally, I would suggest you see a therapist as opposed to making more videos on TikTok. Another girl that I jumped in her comment, she blocks me with um immediate effect. Um, she wrote a whole substack about how Harry Stiles getting engaged to Zoe Krabbit just proves this theory that men only um men marry when they feel like they're ready, not men marry, what did she say? She said something like, Men only marry when they feel like they're ready. They don't actually get married for the love of their life. And then she goes on to discuss Harry's dictat life. And I said, um, this is a really strange thing to write about someone that you do not know. Harry Stiles has never like done an interview, done a sit-down on any of his relationships. So the only thing that you know about his relationships are paparazzi pictures, and you've taken it upon yourself to dissect his love life. Someone you don't know. Are you okay? Yeah. Are you okay?

SPEAKER_02

No, obviously not.

SPEAKER_03

So, you know, just putting it out there that if you are less busy and you're looking for something to do, I think we should bring back bullying. Um, don't worry if you're not into it. I have started the campaign um and I'm having a swell time doing it. And I just think in general, we must um let people know that the things that they're doing is just not okay.

SPEAKER_02

Oh my gosh, no, 100%. It reminds me of that woman that said that we need to bring back um beating up men and is it the one that started the business? Yeah, yeah, she said yeah, that's just we're gonna go and beat them up. And I already have like so many people on my list for her. Like, if she's ever in town, they definitely would love to hire her services because man, like people need to be people need to be humble. People need to be flogged, people need to be beaten, people need to be flogged. Hey, hey, so no. Sorry, just another thing. Thanks for fighting the good fight, by the way.

SPEAKER_03

Oh, don't worry, anytime. Since we're on the topic of TikTok, um, I saw a TikTok today. God, I saw a TikTok today about this woman who was asking Chat GPT to write her a prayer before she gets on a flight. And I just thought, oh, we are so cooked. We are so cooked. We are so cooked. I um I know in the last episode we spoke about like using like using AI and how it helps our jobs and whatever. And I'm genuinely afraid I'm yeah, I'm genuinely afraid at the rate in which people are adopting AI and using it for really minuscule things. Like asking an artificial intelligence like software to write a prayer for you is insane. People use it to oh, write me a birthday message, oh, how do I respond to this text? Oh, how do I respond to this email? Oh, how do I do and I'm just like if you are constantly like outsourcing like your thoughts and your thinking and your decision making, then like who you are like as a person, as an individual, is completely lost. And I watched an interview with Sam Altman, who is the um he's the CEO of OpenAI, which owns Chat GPT, and he basically said that they want AI to become like a basic necessity, like they want it to be like the same way that people need electricity and water and food, yeah, is the same way that people need to lean on AI. And he was like that, it's free for now, but that eventually people are gonna start needing to pay for it the way that they pay for your basic necessities. And my my big issue with that is that if you drive like the entire population to become like reliant on this thing, one, of course, people are gonna pay for it because they now feel like they can't use their own brains anymore, that they now need to use this software. But what does it what does it mean if one you um need a software that is a that is run and owned by a corporation, that is backed by billionaires, that is backed by government? Yeah, what do you think is the information they're going to be spewing out? Do you think that the information is is is not biased? Do you think that the information is true? Do you think that it's fair? Because people just take whatever Chat GPT says as gospel. And I'm like, have you fact-checked that? Have you checked that that is true? And that is how these people in government, the billionaires, can get away with whatever they want to get away with because they brainwashed an entire like generation of people to just believe anything. And I'm so scared at like the lack of critical thinking that is now being displayed. People are not reading books, like people are no longer just like using their brains to do anything. And I'm not saying that AI is bad, like I understand the need for AI in certain um industries, and I think that it is revolutionizing, is that a word? Yeah, um industries and it is helping people in certain ways, but I think the way that people are using it now is so piss poor. And like if you're using it to you're screenshotting your chats and putting it into chat GPT and saying, analyze this for me. What? We've lost a plot. We've lost a plot.

SPEAKER_02

It reminds me, it reminds me of that Black Mirror episode where they were talking about um I think like it was like a subscription, like an end-of-life subscription. I think this like a woman, she was dying, and she like needed this subscription service and stuff, and then it was free. Next thing you know, they had to pay. So they're like increasing the prices that they would like yeah. And that thing that you just said about him, you know, saying he wants it to be a basic necessity. Bro, guys, guys need to fear fear these tech people because we've already kind of seen the damage that like the Facebook wave has done to us all. And like we're now entering this like new um AI wave, which is gonna even, you know, the dam it's going to continue to do more damage to like how we grow as human beings and stuff like that. I mean, for example, you can even these days, like you see things online, you don't even know if it's real or fake, right? You don't know if it's like AI generated or not.

SPEAKER_03

And also people can't decide like people can't decipher. Like you may be able to like watch something and be like, oh, we can't, we don't know if it's real or fake, but like you can also like use your reasoning, critical thinking, your critical reasoning to decipher that uh okay, maybe this isn't this this sounds a bit off, but people can't do that.

SPEAKER_02

But I also think um Yeah, I I think you have to be responsible uh uh about how you use it and like again I I think the average I mean massive generalization, but like I think like the average person who is using AI for like these basic things, like to be very honest, like they've wanted to outsource all of this stuff on their life, like they don't want to have to think. Like it's never been something that they've enjoyed because again, we've grown up in a social media generation that has completely destroyed attention spans and has created people who like feed off of like um dopamine surges that they get from like a notification bubble that pops up on their phone and interactions with strangers online. Like you are talking about the generation of people that are not interested in doing tough things, like why do I just need a quick fix? Do you understand? So, like people don't want to have to think for themselves, and you've now made it much easier. But then obviously, it's like I don't even know if it's Pandora's box or the Trojan host that's the right like um similarity or metaphor here, but it's like it looks good, and again, I love AI, I use AI every day, I think it's fantastic. I can't even like believe there was a time we worked without it, and it's like there's a way you can responsibly use it, but you're gonna get to a point in time where you actually render yourself useless. And the reason why I brought up that Black Mirror episode was because if AI is down for five minutes, yeah, one hour, three hours, a lot of people, or not even let's do days. A lot of people will actually lose the will to live. Yeah. If we get to that point where you are outsourcing everything, you will lose the will to live because you will not even remember how to do the most basic things, like respond to a message. I have friends, and again, I'm not trying to put my friend on blast, but like when they're trying to put together a breakup message or like to respond to a breakup message, and like put the text into and it just the question I ask myself is like why and again the person is like, oh, because you know they don't want to make mistakes or they don't want to they don't want to forget something, don't want to sound silly. But I'm just like, but like that's the beauty of it all. Like there's nothing wrong with you making a typo here or or or your thoughts being raw. Like there's nothing wrong with that. Instead, you are you know you're outsourcing your wedding vows. And then you're making it seem like you are this poet that knows how to write? Are you joking? Like it's really can we all calm down? Like, please. So I I see your point. I get your point. And I can see it's like, even in myself, I have to stop myself and ask, like, girl, okay, what would you, how would you answer this first? What would I say? What would my response be? And then I just use my little claw to clean it up. You know, if I want to clean it up for the client, like clean it up. But it's my own thoughts. And again, it's just you have to exercise that muscle in your brain. Because, bro, it's only the people that are doing hard labor that will now become useful. Because again, everything is going to be outsourced. Your job is useless. They are going to start creating films, script writing, they're going to start creating content on it. They don't need it. They're going to start doing consultancy. When clients realize that they can just ask AI to help them to develop their strategy. When clients realize that they can just ask AI to do, like, they're not going to need you. So, what is the point? Like, what are we useful for? We're just going to be there filtering and verifying AI. Is that going to be our jobs? So, like, you have to, and I think it's a fantastic opportunity to now just again like hone in on your craft and really differentiate yourself. Because the thing about AI is it's like it's just learning. And it's also not better than the average human being. And like that's the thing.

SPEAKER_03

Like it's also creating new content. It's created by people who already have their unconscious biases and they already have all these things. Like, I remember I can't remember if it was when I was in uni or something. I can't remember, but I remember reading something about Pinterest um trying to um introduce, like, you know, before when you would search on Pinterest, like, I don't know, like great, like fashion styles, the only thing that would come up would be like white people, or you'd you do like hairstyles, and the only hairstyles that would come up would be like blonde hair, all those kind of things. And there was basically a whole study about how um the people that created the Pinterest algorithm and the Pinterest software were white men. So of course they're just going to put in what they know. So when you're searching and you now have to put oh black hairstyles, that's when a black hairstyle will now come up. And it's like that's the same with all these systems. Like that is how they were all created by human beings. So which is why I'm like, if if you if you rely so heavily on AI that you're asking AI to pray for you before you fly, God is just looking at you like, are you good? It's not even coming, like this is not even coming from your heart. Like, you just asked a machine who has taken this prayer from lots of different sources from the internet and put together what you think, what it thinks is the most heartfelt prayer. But that's not even what your like what your heart's cry is or what you know you need to speak to the Lord about. Do you get what I mean? Like, I just yeah, that's even more concerning. That's even more concerning. Have you seen that?

SPEAKER_02

But you know some people they're gonna know themselves because they've trained it so well.

SPEAKER_03

You see, now for me, yeah, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_02

I But it's very normal.

SPEAKER_03

I understand. You see, the the woman that has the AI boyfriend, I get her because I used to be an avid catfish watcher. Walk with me, okay. I used to love catfish. Like I think I've watched every episode, every season, like I was locked in, okay? Yeah, the common thread in every single episode was loneliness. People are so lonely, like people are craving companionship, they are craving friendship, they are craving love, they are craving like desirability, they are craving all these things, and that is why they would ignore red flags and continue talking to a stranger on the internet whose pictures don't look so, you know, whose pictures are a bit too polished, or when they do video calls, the video is not on, or they're asking you for money. People would ignore all those things because it's like it's ticking this like fulfillment box that you that that that you need. Um, and it's giving you that like dopamine high. I think, is it I don't know if this is true, but I think I heard some something about like when you're in love or when you like someone that you're serotonin, is that the word? Like increases or something. And basically you just you're in a really good mood, you're very happy, right? Um, and so that's what I feel like is happening now with this woman and the AI boy, because she's also not the first. Yeah. Like I've seen quite a few people, right? And we are now in like like you were saying, we're in this social media digital age where people are just like in their homes all day. You can you you can stay at home for a week straight and not think about the fact that you haven't stepped out because you're thinking, oh, I've still like interacted with people, right? But you haven't actually left your home, you haven't been outside, you haven't actually interacted with human beings, but you've interacted with someone on your phone. And what I think that that is causing is even more loneliness. And then here comes this computer that you can tell it what you want, and it will just it will give you the thing that you're asking for, which is also a bit dangerous because like you can't human beings are not like perfect people, but you've now created this perfect boyfriend in this computer. And I think that if you then if I don't know, if you come back to your senses and then go back into the real world, you'll seriously struggle when you're dating a regular human being. Because you'll be like, well, why aren't you perfect? Like my AI computer, da-da-da-da. You can't. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02

Like you probably can't even, yeah. I don't think you probably can't even. You can't probably can't date a regular person. You can't date a human being, most definitely. But yeah, I just think it's like everyone just needs to be responsible. And I think we we need to we need to look at this thing with our eyes extremely wide open because we were off in the last one. And they used and have destroyed and have completely changed and altered the whole generation of people. And it's just like this is actually happening again. No, absolutely. So, like, embrace technology, don't like sit behind and be that person like, I don't know, like, I don't agree with that. I just think you need to be responsible about it and really understand like certain things that you're doing. Like, am I doing this to help my life and be productive, or am I doing this because I literally can't be bothered to like think about what the answer is or think about what like I want to do? And it's just it's just a shame, really. I think that's the only thing. Like, if you really feel you need to outsource all of these things, it's such a shame. Because we're gonna get to a point where you can't even certain people can't even have a normal conversation in person with others because they're going to have to like I need to just run it by chats. Like, how do I respond to this, right? And you're not you without your phone, without AI. AI needs to prompt you for everything you get. So I I really wish Blackmail Couple would come back and do a whole series on AI. I feel like it would be fantastic. But I think they've done like a couple already. Like um, but it's crazy how they just I don't know.

SPEAKER_03

This apt very, very, very, very, very, very, very cautious and just very mindful of how you use these things. Because obviously, we can say all this stuff, but like uh some people are not gonna listen, you know. But I think for those of you that do listen to this podcast, please just be mindful. I'm just really concerned, and I'm not saying that we shouldn't embrace the new technology. I like, of course, do it, but like just mindfully. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02

Um, I did want to tell you guys a very funny story. Do you have anything else that you wanted to rant about? She maybe we will. Because this is Winalas rant. I didn't want to tell you guys a funny story.

SPEAKER_03

This is what we're calling the episode's rant. Something that happened to me recently because I did want to go in people Dem's opinion. I was going to do my nails, I'm sat on the bus, and you know when you get on the bus, you're just doing your thing, you're not paying attention, you've got your airports in, whatever. Okay, all right. When you're in the United Kingdom, you get on the bus. All right. Um I wouldn't know, I don't get on the bus. And anyway, we we're driving for a couple minutes and we get to one business.

SPEAKER_02

I went on the bus and like I went on the bus.

SPEAKER_03

Um, but stops for like longer than he should. Some really like good-looking chap gets onto the bus, right? Dressed to the ninth, you know, gets onto the bus. And um, I noticed that like he's discussing with the driver. So I'm just a bit like, what could they possibly be discussing? Like, you just need to tap your oyster and get on, bro. Um, but we haven't moved. So I pause my music. Yeah. I'm trying to like figure out what's going on. Basically, the guy didn't want to pay for the bus. He said that there was no money on his oyster card. And the bus driver, he said, There's no money on my oyster card. I need to get to the station to put money on my oyster card. And the driver is like, um, you don't have a contactless card? And he's like, No. And the driver is like, so how are you gonna pay for your how are you gonna put money on your oyster when you got to the station? And he just goes, Oh, just allow it, just allow it. Um, they're having a back and forth, and then the guy walks into the bus. Yeah. And the driver is like, come back, yeah. Cool. Anyway, we start going. Where I'm sat, there's like an empty seat beside me, and then um there's two empty seats on the other side of the bus. So initially, he sits on those two empty seats, on one of those seats. And then we've been driving for maybe a minute. He just comes up and sits besides me. Besides me? Beside me. And I'm like, oh God, here we go. And he's like, hey, like, I saw you like as soon as I stepped onto the bus. Like you're just so beautiful, like you really caught my eye. I was like, oh yeah, thank you so much. He goes, Oh, what's your name? I said, Oh, I don't give my name out to strangers. And he goes, Oh, like, you know, I'm trying to not be a stranger, like I wanna just saw this yance. Um, and he goes, Okay, but I would really love to take you out sometime. And I don't know when it came out of my mouth, but I was like, you that you didn't pay for the bus, take me out to where? Take me to where? Do you know how much of an iche it is to watch someone fight over paying for the bus? £1.75. Now, obviously, at this point, people on the bus are laughing because it's a funny situation. Yeah. Um, and then he's saying all this stuff like, oh, why'd you have to bring that up? Like, why can't you just da da da? Like, this isn't like some people just go through bad days, like da-da-da-da-da-da. And he's saying all this stuff. And I was just like, uh I don't have anything to say. At this point, I'm not responding, I don't have anything more to say. Like, I've said what I need to say. He gets off the bus, and then I get off the bus. Um I tell a couple people, and those people have the audacity to say to me that I'm a snob. Like, they said to me that, like, why are you judging him by the fact that like he didn't pay for the bus? And I'm like, Well, one, it's not that he didn't just pay for the bus. It was that like he argued with the driver about it and went in the bus anyway. Is that not a legal? Is that not a is that not not an offense? Like, that's an offense, right? £1.75. That's how much the bus is. Yeah. Yeah. And you know, we have London. £1.75. Meaning within the hour, if you still pay that single. £.75. And I just thought to myself, and then someone else, when I told someone else to say, they were like, if you didn't, where you go for that next box. Would you have still entertained the conversation? Um, and I was like, no, like, no, but then it also got me thinking about what is the funniest way that someone has tried to like chat you up. Um, because that to me was really funny. Because how audacious of you, how audacious of you, the confidence of you to not pay for the bus.

SPEAKER_02

That's really funny.

SPEAKER_03

Bro, and then to still feel the confidence, so confident trying to talk to someone in my hand. It's really funny to me.

SPEAKER_02

Um, yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. You know, Shame used to run away from those kind of people. Shame cannot even attach himself to that person. That was crazy. You know, there were some people that are like that, they literally don't care. Um, but I don't know.

SPEAKER_03

When I remember the go to your friends' unique house. Oh gosh, I'm gonna have to come back to that next episode. I'll think about it. And I remember I went to Birmingham for a party, and we're in the middle of the club, we're dancing, da-da-da. And then I think I was walking to the bathroom, and some guy like grabbed my arm and goes, Jaddy, Jaddy. And I was like, No. I was like, oh no, no, no. He goes, Oh, so then sorry, what's your name? And I go, Oh, ow inala. And he goes, Oh, I and obviously at this point I'm still a bit like dazed because I'm like, is he looking for a jaddy? So I'm now looking around, like, is there a jaddy around? And he he then had to explain to me, like, oh, I was trying to like I was trying to chat you off. Like, yeah, I was I was trying to get you to tell me your name, and I go, Oh, I didn't, I didn't notice it. It's like I was like, oh, so sorry, I didn't get it.

SPEAKER_01

However, for the fact that you have community, it's gone, it's gone a hundred percent.

SPEAKER_03

I think I would I would be so tickled by it, yeah.

SPEAKER_02

Would it? I would be so tickled by if you do something, yeah. That's the thing. That's I that's the word. Uh if you just do something that makes me feel like, oh, look at you. However, the worst way uh just while we're on the table.

SPEAKER_03

Because it's happened to me in the world.

SPEAKER_02

Yeah, that's actually very cute. I like that one.

SPEAKER_03

Random guy slid into my DMs and sent me that uh gunner burner boy, Wagatafuka. His what? Wogatafu. And I just thought to myself, you've got to be kidding. Oh gosh. Like he didn't he didn't send me the what the link to the song that I should click on the link. So here I am clicking on the link, like in do yo. And then I see the song pop up on Spotify, because it was a Spotify link, and I thought I swear, why the hell would you click on the link? Wogata. Not you, not you. No.

SPEAKER_05

Of course.

SPEAKER_02

So gross. Oh, I don't like when men are like so funny. Yes, especially from jump. Yeah, that's really gross. Like, why are you so sexual from the beginning? Like it's weird.

SPEAKER_03

So it's just like Yeah.

SPEAKER_02

Yeah. Yeah, exactly. I saw this babe post a video about like um conversation as a form of foreplay. Um, and like initially when I saw this video, I was like, oh, what's she talking about? But then I watched it and I was like, oh yeah, I agree. And she was just basically saying, like, more men need to up their like conversation game because you don't realize that good chats, yeah, your what's it called, short rates, yeah, will probably go to the roof. You'll probably go 10 for 10 because just be a good conversationalist, like get Lee into a very good, fun conversation. Like, you don't even have to be funny, just be curious, inquisitive, like be quick, you know, here and there, throw in some things, and it's just like you don't even need to do too much. You don't even the moments I'm already like if I'm beaming, like smiling from air to air, I'm like, yeah, it's game over. It's definitely game over. So more men or more people need to actually like put more emphasis on the conversation, like having a good chance. Oh, go away instead of just oh, what's the color of your underway?

SPEAKER_00

Go away.

SPEAKER_02

It makes me can I see your brake, so you are scary. I am frightened.

SPEAKER_03

Oh yeah, jump scary. Anyway, I don't want to ask a question, but I think maybe I'll save this for next. Actually, I'm gonna ask anyway. But just about like we have spoken so much on this episode. Um I did want to ask a question about like preferences.

SPEAKER_02

It's rats.

SPEAKER_03

You don't we don't really have to answer this now, but I'm I maybe I will end the podcast with this, but just like the preferences that you think the preferences that you have or that like you want in like a partner, right? Where all of that comes from and how that changes when you're then in a relationship with someone or you're talking to someone that maybe doesn't match the idea that you had in your head, but still doesn't match the idea you had in your head, but like stimulates you and is like still like gives everything that you makes you I don't know, makes you happy, fanny flutters, all that kind of stuff, but like the idea of the person that you had in your head is just not matching that person. And I guess my question is where where do those preferences stem from? And so are are some people some people are so strict where they're like I'm not deviating from this thing, this image that I have in my mind, whereas some people are are willing to be a bit more open-minded. Um bend yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_02

I I stray obviously as you know, stray on the open-minded side. Yeah, I'm on the very open-minded side. Like obviously, I mean I just there's the base level, like you want to like the person that you you like when you look at them, you want to feel like, oh okay, okay, yeah. But like, and it's also something that I've been telling myself, like, there's always gonna be better. And that's crazy, because like vice versa. I'm sure the partner, your partner as well knows that. Like, there's always going to be I think there's always going to be better. Like, and if you continue, if you keep if you're that person that just like, oh, I just need to go and look and keep searching and keep searching, like. You'll never be satisfied, which is why I am more on the to answer your question. I'm more on the like open side, right? That's the first answer to the question. And just like seeing where and how like seeing where things go. Um with people that don't necessarily fit what my is it a preference? I don't know, like what my I idea of good is. Um and just like yeah, allowing myself and trusting my guts. Uh, I think I trust my guts a lot, and I allow myself to be like led by that sense um until I can no longer like deal with it. And then in terms of just like where the preferences come from. Hmm. Yeah, obviously, I think it's like what you see at home, you know, for some people, if you've seen good examples, you might think, oh yeah, I would love to have that. Oh, I would love to have this. I think obviously to some extent people are very influenced by what they see online. Um, and maybe more so than anything else, um, because you feel like that is what good is. Um, that is what that is like the la the standard, as everybody says. You're influenced by what you see, your friends have as well, you know, the things they show you in the relationship because you will never see the full extent of someone's relationship. Um and like just like daydreams, not daydreams, but like dreams. You know, you watch the movies, you watch the shows, and you're like, that would be nice, it would be nice to her, but honestly, the beauty of falling in love or getting to know someone or building is just like you choose the person, you really just choose them because even that person that like takes all your that person's gonna fart one day, and you're just gonna be like, you are nasty. That person is gonna take a massive. I wish you guys could see my face, right? And you're gonna be like, oh my goodness, or they're gonna say something to you that you do not like. Do you understand? And like, no, but it's just the reality, right? So you have to, yeah, you know, I think you just have to choose, like, okay, I'm satisfied. I'm happy here, I am being loved here, I am being seen, I'm being appreciated, I am being respected, valued. Like, go for that, right? As opposed to like, oh, this is oh my god, this person isn't like doesn't look like X, Y, and Z. Or this person can't fly me out five times a year. Like, bruh, okay. They can fly you out three times a year. Are you satisfied with that? You know what I mean? Um, so yeah, I think more and more people just need to like lean with that. Like, lean the basics, lean into that, embrace that, and the rest will sort itself out. I promise you, like if that the foundation is there, everything else should sort itself out. Um, and if those those things are there, and if those things are there and you're not satisfied, then yeah, like go and find your better, go and look for your your next. But don't just give up because you know somebody is getting my kids. I think you know, every other, every other quarter of the year, you yeah, you're just getting falling in like or falling in love with someone.

SPEAKER_03

It's like literally, you know, you may not be what you imagine. And I think the reason I asked that is because like Exactly I was examining like why I had the preferences that I had uh this afternoon, and I was just like, I don't even know what that is rooted in. Like there I had some really crazy preferences, and I'm like, I don't why why do I want that? Um and so I just I wonder if people are even wondering why they want the things that they want, um and if they give much thought to that.

SPEAKER_02

Um no, I don't I don't no, I don't think they do. I don't think they do. That's the short answer. Um but like yeah, that's just it's just yeah, there's no formula to it. There's really no rule book. There's no I I mean I was at my you know Laulu's house. It's not Lalu's house, I was with Laulu earlier, and just like looking at her and seeing everything and just being so ecstatic, overjoyed for her. Um, and you can find parts of yourself, you know, asking that question of like, oh, would be nice to oh if only mine was you always have that, but you have to silence the noise, right? Because you've made that choice, and you're like again, you need to like you need to be at peace with the choice that you've made. And that's oh 100%. You need to know that okay, like I'm I'm happy and satisfied, it's not no one is perfect, there's no ideal, but like this is good for me. I'm growing, I'm being and becoming a better person. There's so many factors, right? Um so yeah, that's all I would say. I don't really if you look at my dating history, you'll laugh because none of them look the same, act the same. The only thing they have in common is they're all losers.

SPEAKER_03

I'm so glad you said it and not me. I've broken the chain.

SPEAKER_01

The chains have been broken. Thank you, Jesus. Although you said your boyfriend doesn't listen to this so anymore. So you better. I'm gonna hold him at gunpoint. Okay, that's such a guy's don't take it.

SPEAKER_03

Anyway, we are gonna end this podcast now. Um, yes, sir. Thank you guys so much for listening to this extremely chaotic episode where I feel like I'm gonna be able to do it.

SPEAKER_02

I loved this episode. Oh my god, such a good episode. But anyway, I love when I don't see too much. Fantastic. Oh, yeah. What a great episode, guys. Stay tuned for my rants next week. Oh, yeah, this is fantastic. Thank you.

SPEAKER_03

We've got to go. Um, we hope you enjoy. Please follow us on socials, um, interact with us, comment. I don't actually know where you can comment because apparently they've removed comments on Spotify. But comment on Instagram, comment in our DMs. Um, we want to hear from you, and I've got to go. But love you all. Thank you for listening. Bye, guys. Yeah, I love every single one of our listeners.

SPEAKER_02

I love all of you guys too. Thank you for listening.

SPEAKER_03

Thank you guys so much, and we will see you in episode seven. Bye.