Are You Building Everyone Else’s Dream While Yours Waits?

Are You Building Everyone Else’s Dream While Yours Waits?

Opening

Welcome to The Hope Midwife.

I’m your host, Necie Edwards.

Today’s cup of tea is for every woman who ends the day completely exhausted…

Not because she spent the day building the life she longs for…

But because she spent every ounce of energy building someone else’s.

She clocks in.
 She solves problems.
 She keeps the business moving.
 She pours into customers.
 She rescues coworkers.
 She makes deadlines.

Then she comes home…

And the dream God placed inside her gets whatever energy is left.

Usually…
 Almost none.

Quiet Sip

Take a slow sip of your tea.

Ask yourself:

“Am I tired from purpose…or am I tired from postponing it?”

There is a difference.

Midwife Reflection

Fatigue doesn’t always come from doing too much.

Sometimes it comes from doing too much that isn’t feeding your soul.

You can spend eight…

Ten…

Even twelve hours making someone else’s business thrive.

Helping them reach goals.

Helping them earn profits.

Helping them grow.

Meanwhile…

Your journal sits unopened.

Your website waits.

Your business idea stays in your notebook.

Your podcast episode goes unrecorded.

Your gifts stay on the shelf.

Not because you don’t care.

Because you’re empty.

There comes a point where your body isn’t just asking for sleep.

It’s asking for alignment.

Three Signs You May Be Spiritually Worn Out

1. You have ideas but no energy.

Not because you’re lazy.

Because you’ve already spent your best hours elsewhere.

2. You resent your own dreams.

Not because you don’t love them.

Because they now feel like another job.

3. You begin believing “someday.”

Someday I’ll launch.

Someday I’ll write the book.

Someday I’ll create the business.

Someday becomes years.

Hope Moment

Working a job isn’t failure.

Many dreams are financed by jobs.

Many ministries are funded by paychecks.

Many businesses begin after five o’clock.

The problem isn’t employment.

The problem is forgetting that your dream deserves some of your best energy too.

Even fifteen focused minutes each day says,

“I still believe in what God planted in me.”

Reflection Questions

Ask yourself…

• What dream have I placed on permanent hold?
• Where is all of my energy going?
• What can I release?
• What deserves my first fruits instead of my leftovers?
• What would change if I treated my calling like an appointment instead of a wish?

Tea Disclaimer

As always…

This tea is offered for comfort and reflection—not as medical advice. If you have health concerns or questions about herbs, consult your healthcare provider.

Midwife’s Prayer

Father,

Thank You for the work You’ve provided.

Thank You for every opportunity to serve.

But remind us that we were not created only to build someone else’s vision.

Help us to steward the gifts You placed within us.

Restore our strength.

Protect our peace.

Give us courage to make room for what You’ve called us to create.

Teach us that small, faithful steps are enough.

May we stop living on leftovers and begin investing in the life You’ve prepared for us.

In Jesus’ name,

Amen.

Sparkle Affirmation

I am more than the work I do for others. I will protect my energy, honor my calling, and take one faithful step toward the life I am building.

Closing

Friend…

Maybe today isn’t the day you finish your dream.

Maybe today is simply the day you stop abandoning it.

One paragraph.

One journal page.

One email.

One podcast.

One prayer.

One brushstroke.

Small acts of faith become beautiful lives over time.

Until next time…

Keep pouring into yourself, keep walking in hope, and remember…

Stay on Hope Avenue.

Transcript

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Hello, welcome to another episode of the Hope Midwife Podcast. I am your host, Nisi Edwards. Today's episode is about are you building everyone else's dream while yours waits? So today's cup of tea is for every woman who ends the day completely exhausted. But it's not because you spent the day building the life you long for, it's because you spent every ounce of energy building someone else's business or dream. For example, maybe you can relate to this. You clock in, you solve problems, you keep the business moving, you pour into the customers, you rescue your coworkers, you make deadlines, then you come home. And the dream God placed inside of you gets whatever energy is left. Usually almost none. So feel free to grab a hot cup of tea, whatever flavor is your preference, whatever variety is totally up to you. And what I want you to do is as you take a slow sip of it, ask yourself this question. Am I tired from purpose? Or am I tired from postponing it? There is a difference. Sometimes it comes from doing too much that isn't feeding your soul. You can spend eight, ten, even twelve hours making someone else's business thrive, helping them earn profits, helping them grow, and guess what? Meanwhile, you know what's happening? Your journal sits on opening. Your website waits. Your business idea, guess what? It's staying in your notebook or your idea book. Your podcast episode goes unrecorded and your gifts stay on the shelf. And it's not because you don't care, it's because you're empty. Hey, I'm speaking from experience. And let me tell you, there comes a point where your body isn't just asking for sleep, it's asking for alignment. Because there are signs you may be spiritually worn out. So let's talk about them. Number one, you have ideas, but you have no energy. Not because you're lazy, but because you've already spent your best hours somewhere else, somebody else's job. Number two, then you start resenting your own dreams. Not because you don't love your dreams. You know what it is? Because now it feels like another job. Reason why it feels like it's another job is because you are exerting so much time and energy that you spent building somebody else's business. And now trying to launch your own is like another job, and you just don't have the energy or the time. And then three, you begin believing, well, someday, someday I'll launch, someday I'll get to writing that book, someday I'll create the business. And guess what? Someday become years, years become decades, and on and on. So working a job, you know, it isn't failure because many dreams are financed by our jobs, many ministries are funded by paychecks, and many businesses do begin after 5 o'clock or whatever time your shift ends. The problem isn't employment. The problem is when you forget that your dream deserves some of your best energy too. You know what? I learned even 15 focused minutes each day. You know what that says? I still believe in what God planning in me. Sometimes for 15 focused minutes, even 20 or 25, I'm able to get some of the things done that I need to build my business. So ask yourself, what dreams have I placed on permanent hold? Where is all of my energy going? What can I release? And what deserves my first fruits instead of my leftovers? And what would you change if you treated your calling like an appointment instead of a wish? So let me rephrase that. What do you think would change if you treated your calling? You know, the calling that God blessed you with your purpose. What would change if you treated that God-given calling like an appointment instead of a wish? So give that some thought. And then, as always, the tea is offered for comfort and reflection, not as medical advice. So if you have any health concerns or questions, you know, about herbs, consult your health care provider as always. And I have a prayer today for us. Father God, in the name of Jesus, thank you for the work you've provided. Thank you for every opportunity to serve. But remind us that we were not created only to build someone else's vision. Help us to steward the gifts you've placed within us, restore our strength, protect our peace. Give us the courage to make room for what you've called us to create and teach us that small, faithful steps are enough. And may we stop living on leftovers and begin investing in the life you prepare for us. In Jesus' mighty name. Amen. And so I want to give you my sparkle affirmation that I want to leave you with today. I am more than the work I do for others. That's what I want you to say to yourself. Also, I will protect my energy, honor my calling, and take one faithful step towards the life I am building. And friend, in closing, I want to say to you, ladies, maybe today isn't the day you finish your dream. Maybe today is simply the day you stop abandoning. You know, one paragraph, one journal page, one email, one podcast, one prayer, one brushstroke. Because small acts of faith become beautiful lies over time. So until next time, keep pouring into yourself and keep walking in hope. And remember, stay on Hope Avenue. Be blessed.