Episode 5-Road Trips

Join Joe and Dena Prainito as they share humorous and heartfelt stories about family trips, the challenges of travel, and the importance of making memories. This episode highlights the joys and mishaps of traveling with loved ones, emphasizing the value of patience, humor, and love in family adventures.

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Transcript

SPEAKER_00 0:06

Hello everybody, welcome back to I Still Do for the most part with Joe and Dina Prenito. Um, we're so happy to be back at it. It's actually been a couple weeks since we've uh we've done one of these. It's funny because we look at this corner about every day and just uh don't venture over to it to do anything with it. So, anyways, um at least I've been sitting here. I've been sitting here waiting to do a podcast, and I'm like, where's Dina?

SPEAKER_02 0:32

Where's Dina at?

SPEAKER_00 0:35

I don't know. I don't know where she's at. But today we are gonna be talking about uh road trips, and I guess I don't want to just say road trips, trips in general, right?

SPEAKER_02 0:45

Trips with your spouse.

SPEAKER_00 0:47

We're gonna talk about trips, slips, and falls.

SPEAKER_02 0:51

Because uh we have a lot of talk about it.

SPEAKER_00 0:54

That's true, because well trips, slip, and fall a lot. I have. I've broken my finger by tripping. No, by slipping. I've broken my foot by tripping, or was that a fall? I don't know. And uh I haven't fallen yet. I don't think I don't think I've fallen yet. So, anyways, uh I gotta wait about 20 years so that way I can hit my life alert a button. Say I've fallen and I can't get up.

SPEAKER_03 1:21

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 1:22

So 20 years, I'll fall. Actually, I have already fallen. I've fallen in love with you. I knew that was coming. I've already fallen in love with you. So and that one You fell hard. Yeah, that's been the most painful thing I've ever been going through my life. Like you fell real hard. Can I please fall off of a building?

SPEAKER_01 1:44

Anyways, I'm just kidding.

SPEAKER_00 1:46

I'm just kidding. It's mostly good. I love you for the most part. Um, but today we're gonna be talking about trips and and the fun and the challenges uh and learning experiences, right? Uh of trips that we take together.

SPEAKER_01 2:00

We're learning.

SPEAKER_00 2:01

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 2:01

We learn a lot on those trips.

SPEAKER_00 2:03

Yeah, we have. But before we do, we have to go through our I still do for the most part moment.

SPEAKER_02 2:09

I can't wait.

SPEAKER_00 2:10

Yeah, it's I mean, it's nothing big. I mean, here's the thing, you know, and and and and the reason why and the reason why we do this and for our new listeners um is uh because when we get married, we say I still we say I do, right? Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 2:24

But to everything.

SPEAKER_00 2:25

But let's face it, like there's a lot of stuff that you did not tell me about you. There's a lot of things I had no clue about until literally probably the like the day we got married.

SPEAKER_02 2:36

Because I didn't know that I pawed at popcorn. I didn't know that was the thing. Yeah, well, it's so there's a lot of things we don't know about ourselves.

SPEAKER_00 2:43

You didn't know that you pawed. Yeah, you didn't know that. That's so I mean there's a lot of things that you know you crinkled a chip bag as loud as you do? Yeah, I've been doing it my whole life. I like chips. It it's not a bit I mean, it's it's actually the chip bag's fault. But yeah, um but anyways, but no, but we say I do, and then it's like over time there's things we're just like I don't like that. I could do without that. Maybe you can stop talking that way. Maybe stop maybe you should stop talking, period. Yeah, maybe you should stop talking, period. Maybe you should stop having your period. That would help. You know, obviously. That would help a lot. Half of all of our problems would stop if you stopped having your period. But that's not what I'm talking about.

SPEAKER_02 3:25

That goes back to Adam and Eve, and that's still Adam's fault. But go ahead.

SPEAKER_00 3:28

Well, you need a hysterectomy then.

SPEAKER_02 3:32

I don't think it works that way.

SPEAKER_00 3:34

It doesn't. So, but anyways, um, so my my I still do moment is is this. It's okay, we're getting ready to do something. Maybe we're getting ready to leave the house, or maybe we're getting ready to do a podcast, or maybe we're getting ready to sit down and watch a movie. And we're ready, and it's like, okay, honey, grab the popcorn, grab the drinks, grab everything that you need, and uh, and I'm like, okay, I'm sitting down, I'm ready to go, and you're like, hold on, I'll be right back. I need to go to the bathroom. Now, you go into that bathroom and you do not come out. I have to go fish you out. I I swear you'd either fallen in or or or just decided that you're going to live there. Well, like, this is my new home. I've got water. I can, you know, I'm pretty sure that I have seen the Martian. You probably saw the Martian, so you're like, I can use my poop to grow potatoes.

SPEAKER_02 4:28

I can't help my the timing of when I have to go to the bathroom.

SPEAKER_00 4:32

Oh my gosh. You stay in there forever. It's tonight. You're telling our kids, hurry up. We only have a little bit of time. We gotta play. We got we gotta go to the battery.

SPEAKER_02 4:42

And did they hurry? Did they hurry? No. And then guess what? I now I have to go to the bathroom.

SPEAKER_00 4:46

It's not that you have to go to the bathroom. You sit there.

SPEAKER_02 4:49

You think I didn't have to go to the bathroom?

SPEAKER_00 4:50

I think that you went and continue to sit there until No, I don't. You were waiting for dinner to pass. You just eaten dinner and you're like, I'm just gonna sit here until dinner passes.

SPEAKER_02 5:01

And you're listening here's the other part. It's peaceful in the bathroom when no one's in there with you.

SPEAKER_00 5:07

Well, that's true. Yeah. That is true. Uh sometimes I go in there and just shut the door and cry.

SPEAKER_02 5:12

Yeah. Well, see?

SPEAKER_00 5:17

Go in there and and you get stuck on a uh uh you're reading Facebook or you're you're looking up recipes or something like that. And you're just like, hold on, I'm looking at something. I need to look at something. Oh wait, I'm solving I'm solving problems.

SPEAKER_02 5:30

And it can be anything really. You are solving the world's problems.

SPEAKER_00 5:33

You're do you so do you look at your phone when you're on the toilet? Yes. Is that the pro is that the problem? If we made our bathroom a no-phone zone, I'd still go in there and be quiet. Yeah. You know what I used to read when I used to go to the bathroom? I don't know that I want to. The back of uh of shampoo bottles. Yeah. And you know what when I was younger, this is kind of funny. Um, but when I was younger, I would read, you know, put it, you know, wet your hair, put it in your hair, lather, rinse, rinse, repeat, and then I would read it again. Because it said to repeat. And I'd be like, how many times do I have to repeat this? Because I thought repeat meant that I needed to repeat reading it again. It should have said reread. Anyways. But that's my moment. It's an it's not a good thing.

SPEAKER_02 6:25

So many things are going in my brain right now after you said that.

SPEAKER_00 6:28

I just think that we could live so much life so much more life if you just got a colostomy bag.

SPEAKER_02 6:36

I mean, I think Well, I don't think so, because I think I would still go in the bathroom to empty it, and then I would find my peace there.

SPEAKER_00 6:44

No. I would empty Nope you're right. You would have to go empty it. Yeah. Because then we'd have a whole nother I still do for the most part moment, which is I gotta empty your colostomy bag. So, but honey, if I needed to, I would totally, if you had a colostomy bag, no joke, I would totally go out of my way to hire somebody to do that for you.

SPEAKER_03 7:06

Okay.

SPEAKER_00 7:06

Yep. Good. Because I love you. So, anyways, uh yeah. Alright. Um, well, moving on, moving along, and you're supposed to say, but I still do. Yes, I already said that. I did. Again, that's the next one is you don't know how to listen. For the most part. Okay, I still I did say that, no? I still do for the most part, but I still do. I still do love you. Even though we're late to everything.

SPEAKER_02 7:32

We are never late. We are right on time.

SPEAKER_00 7:34

For the most part.

SPEAKER_02 7:35

For the most part.

SPEAKER_00 7:36

I like to be early. Um, but anyways, we get to talk uh a little bit about trips because you know, one of the things that I think families probably all at one time or another have to experience is a trip. It could be a road trip, it could be a train trip, it could be a plane trip, uh you know, all kinds of different trips. And we've been on a lot of them. We've been on a lot of different trips because we have family that lives far away. And one thing that we don't realize when we first get married is how each other is going to travel. Like, do you travel well? Um, however, you living in Iowa and me living in California and dating long distance, we did kind of get to see that. Like you you saw what I you know how I packed. I didn't bring you know 15 suitcases when I when I showed up, and you didn't do that either. Um we can make it to the airport on time. Um, you know, unless you're looking at your phone in the bathroom. Um uh we can make it make it on time. But we've learned we've learned a lot. What are some of your most memorable like like maybe difficult? I'm gonna say difficult. Let's start with difficult, because there's there's fun, there's difficult, there's funny. Like what's one of the more difficult ones that you might be able to find?

SPEAKER_02 8:49

I think the more difficult ones is staying in hotels that you choose.

SPEAKER_00 8:53

The ones that I choose. I choose good hotels. We've stayed in some nice hotels.

SPEAKER_02 8:58

No, no, no, no, no. We have very few nice places, but we've stayed in some nice places.

SPEAKER_00 9:05

We have.

SPEAKER_02 9:06

How about that one we stayed at in Georgia? Was it what what about that one? Well, that was Or what about the one that we had to stay in to be close to the Bucky's?

SPEAKER_00 9:14

Well, that's the one in Georgia, and and that was a great that was okay, so it wasn't the best hotel. I wanted to go to Bucky's. I I found a hotel.

SPEAKER_02 9:24

He was he was so excited to show these kids this Bucky's place.

SPEAKER_00 9:28

Well, I thought it was gonna be fantastic, and it is okay. Um it's like a Walmart with with lots of fuel pumps and and you know, and food. But was it worth this hotel? I mean, this hotel, yes, it smelled uh it didn't even have pictures on the walls, but it did have some smears smears on the walls and the water faucet was hanging off with loose caulk, like the tub faucet that it was silicone. It wasn't actually a caulk, it was silicone. Yeah, mm-hmm and uh and yeah, we we grab it and it was like whoops, I'm spilling my coffee. It was like all over the place. Um yeah, just moving all over the place. And uh yeah, that was a scary one. And and and and I just remember the quote from that night, I think from one of the kids, they said, they said, This is the time we're gonna remember that we stayed in a hotel so our dad could see a gas station. And uh true. That that actually does check out. So um, but I mean, and and then we went to Michigan and we stayed in another place that was that you chose. Oh my gosh, it smelled like marijuana the entire time.

SPEAKER_01 10:36

Yep.

SPEAKER_00 10:36

Yeah, it was. Yeah. It's a it's a good thing that we were on the bottom floor because we are high the whole time.

SPEAKER_02 10:41

And that was our s just kidding. That was our second hotel in Michigan. We actually rented or booked two hotels in the middle.

SPEAKER_00 10:51

Yeah, we booked two and the other one.

SPEAKER_02 10:52

The first one was bad, and then we moved to the second one, and then that was bad.

SPEAKER_00 10:56

Yeah, yeah, we've yeah, that was a that that trip in itself probably when it comes to hotels wasn't the best. Now, on the flip side, we've stayed in some incredible places. Uh, you know, the Super Eight is owned by Wyndham. Not a bad place to stay. You know, Wyndham's.

SPEAKER_02 11:12

See, that's the problem. That is where you start. You're like, you're like, honey, it's really nice. It's by Wyndham.

SPEAKER_00 11:17

Yeah. If it's by Wyndham, it's okay.

SPEAKER_02 11:19

Okay. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 11:20

I mean, it's trusted. Let's be honest.

SPEAKER_02 11:23

Did you know downtown Keukuk, Iowa, that Maymot hotel is owned by Wyndham.

SPEAKER_00 11:30

Yeah, I mean it's then it's good. And it's good. I've never stayed there, so why would I?

SPEAKER_02 11:34

Carmen did, though. You put Carmen up there once.

SPEAKER_00 11:36

Carmen is worthy of a Wyndham hotel. Yeah, he is.

SPEAKER_02 11:41

Rest in peace. Carmen.

SPEAKER_00 11:42

Yeah. And now he's no longer with us. So, anyways. Um, but yeah, uh yeah, it okay, so the hotels, the hotels can be a thing. Um, you know, flying. You know, I mean, flying or driving. No, you don't. That's one thing is is you're very scared. Mm-hmm. Yeah, yeah, yeah. You you grab onto me all the time and you're like, you forgot to pray for our flight to not crash. And uh yeah, so we gotta pray, you know, because midair was we're shaking all over. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. But um yeah, flying's not the not the greatest.

SPEAKER_02 12:18

Um Plus it's it it it's gotten worse flying. Yeah, yeah. Well, I mean it used to be easier.

SPEAKER_00 12:27

Yeah. Well doors are blowing off and planes are sliding off the runway and you know, wheels are not you know, retracting and you know, or or whatever. Um yeah, so there's a lot. There's uh cat hair flying around. That's the other thing. Don't bring your you gotta find some place to put your animals when you travel. That's another big challenge, is if you have animals just trying to find that. So um so anyways, okay, so so those are difficult moments, you know. Um what are funny moments? We could both come up with the same funny moment. I mean, we've had funny funny moments in planes, and we've had funny moments uh while driving. Um but yeah.

SPEAKER_02 13:09

Well we have the funniest moment was a couple years ago when we're road tripping to Florida.

SPEAKER_00 13:17

Yep.

SPEAKER_02 13:18

Yeah, we were on our way there. Yes, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 13:21

We were in Georgia.

SPEAKER_02 13:22

And uh Georgia has a lot of memories. Yeah. Um and well, this is another interesting thing that Joe likes to do. He likes to buy our kids Slurpees when we're on road trips.

SPEAKER_00 13:36

I'm fine.

SPEAKER_02 13:37

Not just a small slurpee, but a big, big gulp.

SPEAKER_00 13:41

They wanted the big one.

SPEAKER_02 13:42

They wanted the big one, but but we told them they couldn't go to the bathroom.

SPEAKER_00 13:45

Well, that's that's now that is their problem. You know, I mean, I will take care of this the drink.

SPEAKER_02 13:51

The joke was on you.

SPEAKER_00 13:52

Yeah, literally.

SPEAKER_02 13:53

It literally on you.

SPEAKER_00 13:54

Yeah. So so this is the moment when we're driving down the road, and uh and we we're only like 15 minutes away. We get in the car and I'm like, don't drink all your drinks. Of course I've given them drinks that are gonna melt. Don't drink all your drinks because we're not stopping for the bathroom for two hours.

SPEAKER_02 14:13

Large slurpees.

SPEAKER_00 14:15

I figured because there's substance in it, it would it wouldn't you absorb. Uh-huh. It's like drinking bread.

SPEAKER_02 14:21

Like drinking water. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 14:22

So, anyways, um, so yeah, 15 minutes into the trip, our son, uh, one of our sons says, Um, Dad, I gotta go to the bathroom. I'm like, Nope. We're not doing it. We're in a caravan. When you're in a caravan, you don't you you can't just tell everybody to stop. So we are going. He's like, I've really got to go to the bathroom. I've really got to go to the bathroom. I'm gonna pee my pants. I look at his drink and it's empty. It's just completely empty. He just sucked the thing down and and yeah, so so so you had the idea. Why don't it just pee in the bottle? Here, I got a bottle. I'll empty this water into the other water bottle, and and you you go ahead and pee in the bottle. So he says, Okay. He says, uh, I'll I'll do it. And he I don't know why, but he got up on his knee and uh and decided he was gonna pee in the bottle. And and he's about to start doing it, and he says, Dad, don't move. It's okay. I'm not gonna move. Like, what am I gonna do? Slam on the brakes? Like, I want pee everywhere. So I did not move. And then all of a sudden, a car was merging onto the freeway, and I thought, well, I'm gonna have to at least let off the gas. And that's all I did.

SPEAKER_02 15:33

Uh-uh.

SPEAKER_00 15:34

I let yes, it is. I was driving.

SPEAKER_02 15:36

I let the car went like this, guys.

SPEAKER_00 15:38

Yeah, that's because I let off the gas.

SPEAKER_02 15:40

So very slowly.

SPEAKER_00 15:41

So when I let off the gas, all I heard was, Oh my god. And and the next thing I know, I hear our daughter screaming behind me, and now a stream hits the back of my head, goes across my face, into my glasses.

SPEAKER_03 16:02

It's the steering wheel.

SPEAKER_00 16:03

It's the steering wheel, goes up over the the the uh uh the windshield, and then comes back down. I don't even think it got all the way over to you. And I'm just like, what is that?

SPEAKER_02 16:16

What is that?

SPEAKER_00 16:20

And it's warm. It's warm. And and I and I could not look back. I started laughing hysterically, and which is weird because you know, you it could be one of those moments where you just get so angry, right?

SPEAKER_02 16:34

Just like, I can't believe it. I feel like Juliet was angry enough for a moment.

SPEAKER_00 16:38

Oh my gosh, she was so pissed, literally. She she was she's I mean, but let's face it, it's it's on her, it's on her iPad, her breakfast. It's in her drink, it's on her book bag, it's on her blanket, it's in her food. It was in her chip bag. I mean, he literally peed all over her and then peed all over my head and my face. And so he's crying. This is funny. He's crying because he feels terrible because he just peed all over the place. You told her. Juliet's angry at him. You and I cannot stop laughing. There's a picture of it of just pee drumming over my face. And and then our youngest is in the back with headphones on. He has no idea what's happened.

SPEAKER_02 17:17

He he had no idea. We had to stop and clean up the whole car and change clothes and get rid of food and so here's what I learned. He he he had no clue.

SPEAKER_00 17:26

If somebody has to go to the bathroom, just you know what's quicker? Going to the bathroom because that took us an extra hour. Yep an unnecessary hour stop because we had to clean everything and disinfect everything and throw things away and change clothes, and yeah, it it just became it became a bigger mess than it needed to be.

SPEAKER_02 17:46

Clorox wipes were our friend.

SPEAKER_00 17:48

But we will never forget that. And I remember I remember that day as as our daughter was you know sixteen, she's angry. I said, This is a moment you will never forget.

SPEAKER_02 17:59

And you will laugh about and she does.

SPEAKER_00 18:01

Yeah, she laughs about it now.

SPEAKER_02 18:02

We all do.

SPEAKER_00 18:03

You will never forget the day that your brother peed all over all of us. And she and she smirks, she she smirks then, like, oh yeah, yeah, that's gonna be funny. Um, but then goes straight back to anger because her stuff's all wet. And of course, I I and I get that too, but um, but yeah, it definitely made it a memorable, memorable trip. So um, you know, I I I think that for the most part taking trips together is good bonding time for family. I I think, you know, I I've meet so many people who who have never taken trips, you know. They either can't take 'em because they can't afford them, so they just don't. They don't go. And and the truth is But they're not always easy either. Kids yelling and screaming and hiring and so let's go into that. Yeah. So what is that like? Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 18:50

Cloud.

SPEAKER_00 18:51

We just had that. We just had a five hour trip uh over this last weekend.

SPEAKER_02 18:55

Yesterday.

SPEAKER_00 18:55

Yeah, yesterday. And and honestly, we can all get a little bit on our nerves, right? We just a little bit in our just uh you know, your your chair's getting kicked on, and you know, this kid's picking on that kid, now this kid is picking on that kid, now all three kids are picking on each other. Um, you know, I'm telling you that you have to turn here, you go a different way, you're upset with me because I didn't give you the right way, and maybe I did, maybe I didn't, probably did, but you just didn't listen.

SPEAKER_02 19:24

I don't even think you were paying attention when I was didn't turn those corners.

SPEAKER_00 19:28

Uh no, I wasn't. Yeah. I wasn't.

SPEAKER_02 19:30

I know.

SPEAKER_00 19:30

Yeah, I had so much uh sleeping pill in me. I think I was just like, huh? Oh, yeah. Okay. I'm like, I'm pretty sure we're just there. That's okay. We could turn around. Yeah, it's okay. Um, but uh but yeah, there though those are difficult times. And flying with kids can be difficult. But you know, I do feel, you know, especially in families, it creates we've had some of our our favorite memories come from the good and the bad. Some of those terrible hotels we stayed in are things that we can laugh about now. They're things that we can look back on, and they'll just always be a memory. If everything's perfect, yeah, that's great. But it's those other things that you you don't laugh at the perfect moments. A lot of times you're laughing at the mishaps. You're laughing at the things, you know, those are the things that down the road, maybe one day at my funeral, my kids are gonna get up and say, This is where dad used to take us. And that's and and that's okay because that that's just one of those fun memories that I want those kids to have, which is why I choose to stay in some of the places that we stay.

SPEAKER_02 20:34

It's just gonna be Well, you've gotten that privilege taken away. So you think the kids have said dad no longer gets to choose hotels.

SPEAKER_00 20:42

Yeah. Well they're kids. They don't know any better. They're they're stupid. So really, you know, I mean, I'm the adult. Matter of fact, I'm the I'm the matriarch of the family. I'm older.

SPEAKER_02 20:57

Matriarch. Do you mean patriarch?

SPEAKER_00 21:00

No, no, no, no. That's uh Yeah, probably matriarch. What's a matriarch?

SPEAKER_02 21:06

Matriarch is the oldest woman. Patriarch would be the oldest man.

SPEAKER_00 21:14

Okay.

SPEAKER_02 21:14

But good call. Yeah. You can be the matriarch.

SPEAKER_00 21:17

No, no, no, no. You be the matriarch. I will be the patriarch. Um, so uh, so anyways, but yeah, I I would say that those are moments. But but here's the thing. It gives, you know, especially I'm gonna say this for for families who who want to exercise your patience. This is a good way to do it. Really, it gives us a great opportunity to uh to exercise all the fruits of the spirit, right? We get to learn kindness and gentleness and self control and self control and um yeah, and patience. Patience. And so I mean, we get this opportunity to allow the fruits of the spirit to manifest in us and within our vehicle, don't be yawning yawning. We are in the middle of a podcast. Am I boring you?

SPEAKER_02 22:02

You are.

SPEAKER_00 22:03

Do you need a piece of fruit and a pen so you can write on something? Geez, I'm going to give you an apple. Anyways, that's my next one. Is you yawn while I'm talking to you and fall asleep. Anyways, why don't we let you talk, yawny yawny pants?

SPEAKER_02 22:21

I'm listening to you.

SPEAKER_00 22:22

No, no, no. I'm done speaking. I'm done. That was a good one. Good episode. Come home earlier, and maybe you won't yawn so much. Okay. So, so I want to I do want to encourage everybody, take a road trip. If you can't afford it, get in the car and drive. Just get in the car and drive. If you can afford it, a tank of gas, drive to to drive to go get an expensive, you know, $30 hamburger. Put gas in your tank, go get a hamburger, and then just come back. Just to spend that time with your kids. Let them look around and create moments of chaos. You know? Roll down your windows as you go through the drive the drive-through uh a car wash.

SPEAKER_02 23:02

Don't do that. I don't suggest.

SPEAKER_00 23:04

Why not? You've done it, I know. I've done it. It's a great memory. Foam, suds hanging from the ceiling, everybody laughing, and then screaming as the hot wax pours in on you and you get whipped by those little tassels.

SPEAKER_02 23:19

Our cars are too expensive.

SPEAKER_00 23:21

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Find borrow a car from a friend and tell them you're gonna wash it. Yeah. And then go do that. So there you go. So, anyways, um, well, now's our time for our tails. And I I I have not pre-chosen one or even looked through them or any of that stuff. So uh yeah, that's the one right there. So now tails, these we we try to do these every episode, but this is a card um that we uh we got offline, and tails are conversation cards. So if you in your marriage ever find difficulty um just coming up with something to talk about, say on date night, you just sit around at uh you know, and you're just like, let's just talk about the kids, or let's just talk about like you know, the kids' grades, or let's talk about our bills, but maybe you want to learn a little bit about each other. This is a great way of of actually getting things started. Um, you know, just being able to find out a little bit more about your spouse and uh and maybe even finding out a little bit more about yourself. So, anyways, what you got there, honey? Um I've been trying to stall.

SPEAKER_02 24:32

Some of them are not something that you would want to share.

SPEAKER_00 24:37

Well, you don't know. It might be, you know? I mean, do I like different colored socks? Yes. Do I like Argyle? Sometimes. All depends on the suit that I'm wearing. Um how do I like your hair? Uh down. How do I like my hair? Uh what you got?

SPEAKER_02 25:03

What do you think is my greatest accomplishment that I might not recognize?

SPEAKER_00 25:12

Your greatest accomplishment that you might not recognize um probably that you married one of the better men in the world. Um, I don't think you appreciate me.

SPEAKER_02 25:23

That's an accomplishment.

SPEAKER_00 25:24

I think you've accomplished quite a bit. I mean, really. Uh you've learned submission. Um yeah, yeah. When I say do it, you do, you know. You know, like cook or something. You know. Not do it. Not it. Not the it. However, yeah, I haven't I haven't got you trained there, there yet for sure. Um, okay, so your greatest accomplishment that you do not recognize.

SPEAKER_02 25:54

Um I think that's the tricky part.

SPEAKER_00 25:56

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 25:56

I can think of your greatest accomplishment, but one that you don't recognize.

SPEAKER_00 26:00

Yeah, I think that one is hard. I'd like to say that your greatest accomplishment has been not yawning. You just did it again.

SPEAKER_02 26:07

I'm really tired.

SPEAKER_00 26:08

Yeah, well, so okay. So greatest accomplishment. Uh you know what? Yeah. I hate to say that you don't recognize this, but but I'm gonna go ahead and say this. Um you you are a you are a phenomenal mother. You are a you are a really, really good mom. I and I don't I and I know that you try to be. I know that that's something you strive to be, but th I can actually stand back in moments and watch you, and I think I think out of all the degrees and all the stuff, I think that is probably the most important role that you've ever wanted. And and one of the roles that you really hope you're doing the best at.

SPEAKER_02 26:52

And and that's the hardest.

SPEAKER_00 26:54

And that's the hardest. And and I just see you flourishing in that. And as our kids get older, I see you, you know, just trying to grow with them and and encourage them um uh uh to be the best that they can be individually. Um I watch you laugh with them. You you're you're you're not afraid to look foolish in public with them. Like you just no, you you just want to have fun with them. You are you want to create memories with them, and you I think you do a really great job. So I think it's it's an accomplishment that you know you're striving at, but I don't think you realize that you do a you do a great job in accomplishing that every day.

SPEAKER_02 27:38

Thanks.

SPEAKER_00 27:38

Yes, yeah, you're welcome.

SPEAKER_02 27:40

I was gonna say the same thing.

SPEAKER_00 27:41

Oh, you're such a liar. No, no, I really was.

SPEAKER_02 27:44

Because it's like something that how do you I think you know you have a master's degree, you accomplish that. You got a job, you accomplish that. But like I think that parenting is there's no gauge on it. Yeah. Right? There's nothing telling you, oh, I'm doing a great job, or oh, I'm not doing a great job, or there's really nothing telling you that.

SPEAKER_03 28:08

Right.

SPEAKER_02 28:08

I mean, you can look around and are we have great kids, so you can kind of be like, mm, yeah, I'm doing good, or you know, I I don't know. But there's nothing like I think me personally, that is something I question all the time. Like, gosh, I hope I'm not traumatizing them.

unknown 28:24

Right.

SPEAKER_02 28:24

Gosh, I hope I'm not you know me too. All those things, because I'm clearly we do.

SPEAKER_00 28:28

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 28:29

And so but I would say the same thing for you would be parenting the the kids. Now, I've always said that you've had the patience of Jesus. I don't really think that anymore. But as they've gotten older, you've gotten less tolerant.

SPEAKER_00 28:49

Uh or maybe you've just gotten more picky.

SPEAKER_02 28:51

You've gotten older.

SPEAKER_00 28:53

I have gotten older, yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 28:55

But but but like here's what I was your parenting style and mine are very, very different, and that could totally be a podcast of its own. Um but like yesterday, those kids, I'm like in the shower and they come running into the bathroom to tell me with this super excited voice, Mom, guess what dad did? And you bought them a box of cards. Like it wasn't a big deal, but it was like to them, it was like the world, and I would never do that. That's just like you know, yeah, that's like the way that you reach them. That's the like you like to get them things by surprise and surprise them with stuff and and um gifts or whatever. And so that, but then just like just I think that they I think your presence to them is a big deal. And I think that that you don't really recognize. I think that's hard to recognize, but I also think that because you are very present, dad, like you're always with them, um I think that's where you're excelling more than you know.

SPEAKER_00 30:02

Yeah. Yeah, it's good. Uh I also think that you don't think you accomplished this, but you do accomplish being very, very sexy. Oh my god, stop. So it looks like it's getting late. And oh, okay. Not tonight. We're too tired.

SPEAKER_02 30:26

I've yawned.

SPEAKER_00 30:27

We've got stuff to do. Anyways, um, no, but but yeah, so so I do want to encourage, and I thank you for that, and I I do want to encourage people, like the reason why we're even doing this is because these cards just allow you to not to identify things in yourselves and each other, and and to think a little bit about what you can do better at times. I mean, those cards are actually pretty cool because you would have probably never told me that, and I might not have ever told you that that's an accomplishment. So so, anyways, here we are at the end of our episode. We need to get an ending music, you know, like I'm sorry, so sorry, or you know, like a sad, sad song. Like sad, like we're sad to go.

SPEAKER_02 31:13

Like we're sad to go.

SPEAKER_00 31:14

Sad to go. So sad to go, so sad to go, but here we go. I don't know.

SPEAKER_02 31:19

That's not very sad.

SPEAKER_00 31:20

That wasn't very sad. That was more showy, more showy. We we could do a musical together, really. You know, let's do that next episode. So, but before we go, we do want to encourage everybody. Hey, love each other. Like love your wives, love your husbands, wives, love your husbands. Um, uh spend time with one another, spend time with your kids, go on road trips, go make memories. Um, we've got a very, very short amount of time in this life to make an impact. And God has allowed us who have families to spend this time. I mean, this is very precious time that we get in each other's lives. We we won't get this night back again. It is what it is. So, what we've poured out is is what it's gonna be.

SPEAKER_02 32:00

And we're learning very quickly that it is a short time as one of our children is getting ready to graduate, leave the nest.

SPEAKER_00 32:08

So yeah, and it seems like just yesterday, you know.

SPEAKER_02 32:11

She was Hudson's age.

SPEAKER_00 32:13

Yeah, little little little little girl, not a little boy. So but, anyways, before we go, we we want to encourage you, and can we just go ahead and pray? We're just gonna go ahead and pray for all of you viewers and everybody's watching. And uh let's just go ahead and do that. God, we love you. Thank you so much, Lord, for your presence in our marriages, God. And I just pray, Lord, for the one that's listening right now. Lord, that if they're going through any struggles, God, that you would bring bring restoration to them, that you'd bring hope into their homes. Lord, I pray that your fill your presence would fill their homes, God. Lord, I pray that as as husband and wife, you would teach us to love each other the way that we need to be loved, God, and the way that you called us to love one another, but also teach us as parents to raise our kids in the way they should go, so when they grow old, they won't depart from it. So God, we just give our marriages to you and just pray, Lord, that you would just protect the sanctity sanctity of it, and uh, as we keep our eyes on you, Lord, that you would draw us closer together, God. And we ask all this in Jesus' name we pray. Amen.

SPEAKER_02 33:08

Amen.

SPEAKER_00 33:09

Amen. So, listen, everybody, subscribe, like, share, do all the things, right? All the things. All the things. That's the thing. Say all the things.

SPEAKER_01 33:19

Say all the things.

SPEAKER_00 33:20

Do all the things and uh and let somebody know that there is a podcast that they should be watching because they can be encouraged, laugh, and whatever else you want to say about us behind our back. We're not gonna listen anyway. Unless you want to comment, then we'll read it and we'll go ahead and read it aloud and tell everybody what bad things you have to say about us. But other than that, God bless you guys, be good people. We'll talk to you later. Bye-bye. I just said goodbye like it was a phone call.

SPEAKER_02 33:42

I still do.

SPEAKER_00 33:43

Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 33:44

For the most part.

SPEAKER_00 33:45

But I still do.

SPEAKER_02 33:47

For the most part. Alright, bye.