Ep. 2: Chinna "The Helpful Daredevil" Montoya | Family, Presence & Why Time Matters

What happens when everyone assumes someone else will step up?

In this episode, Chinna Montoya and I break down the idea of the “ghost of somebody”—that quiet assumption that someone else will take action… and how it can leave important things undone.

We talk about taking responsibility for your emotional well-being while still showing up for your children, and why creating meaningful memories matters more than we realize. Chinna shares how she intentionally focuses on creating special moments with her family, and how understanding how quickly life changes pushes her to stay present and make those moments count.

We also touch on ownership, parenting, and the impact of the choices we make every day.

Real, honest, and reflective—this is a conversation about showing up fully in your life and for the people who matter most.

Listen and connect with Chinna here: https://www.youtube.com/@UncommonCentsMoney

Trigger Warning:  This episode includes discussion around grief, loss, and life-changing transitions. 

Transcript

Sara Dorris 0:13

What's up, everybody! Welcome to BrighterDaze. This is a space where we get lost in gratitude instead of drowning in despair. I'm Sara, and here we talk to people. We celebrate their victories and we talk about resilience, gratitude, and daily life motivators. So, y'all, we are on episode two. We are still doing this thing. Um, today I've got a good friend on that we are going to talk to. Her name is Chinna Montoya, and I am really excited to have her today. And I just want to say thank you so much for being willing to talk to me. I really appreciate you making time to have this moment to talk about this stuff.

Chinna Montoya 0:50

Yeah, you're welcome. Thank you for having me.

Sara Dorris 0:53

Yeah, girl. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Okay. Um, so how are you doing today? How let's let's do a mental check-in.

Chinna Montoya 1:02

Uh yeah, I say I'm doing okay. It's nice to finally have a day where um my husband is not working and I'm also not working just to be able to decompress and whatnot. So better today than I was yesterday.

Sara Dorris 1:24

Well, thank God for breaks for moments of peace and just a moment to reconnect. That's always nice. So with life, with life sounding that busy, what period, what season of life do you feel like you're in right now? Because it sounds like it could be a bit chaotic.

Chinna Montoya 1:47

Yeah, definitely a chaotic season. Um yeah, just the beginning stages of having young children, um, just one right now. I can only imagine how crazier things get when you add multiple children. Um, and then just trying to figure out work and uh general life, you know. So it's it's definitely a crazy season, but um I try to remember that that's the key word, is it's a season, and it's not gonna be forever. Um, yeah, so just trying to build on the foundational things, you know, good friendships, good relationships with um my family and stuff, because one day uh my son's gonna be older, you know, and I want to be able to um enjoy having a relationship with him, or and when he's out of the house, have a good relationship with my husband, with my friends. Um yeah.

Sara Dorris 2:52

That's the goal. And I really appreciate how you said that it's a season because there are a lot of times where it feels like things just don't change. Like you're like, okay, God, like okay, I'm getting through it, I'm getting through it. Yeah, okay. Okay, oh, it's still raining. Okay, okay, oh, it's a tornado, oh, a hurricane, okay. And I think it's good to have that reset or that moment when you can check in and be like, okay, well, this is just a moment, and let me breathe and let me navigate it and do my best within the moment because there's so much more on the other side of this.

Chinna Montoya 3:29

Yeah. Um, you know, I definitely don't want to take this time for granted, but um, just in those tough moments, I know that there's a lot more uh to the timeline of life than this season.

Sara Dorris 3:47

I like that. I was thinking about how it sounded. Yeah, there's a lot more to this timeline of life in the season. Yeah, because like one bad season doesn't ruin everything. Sometimes you have to learn how to pivot. And not to say that your season is bad, it's just a busy season being a mom of what, how old is your child? Like one year old? Yeah, a little over one. Yeah. Yeah. So I mean that's like a that's a it's a beautiful time, it's a lot going on, but it's still a season and things grow and they change and you push through. So let's talk about you. When someone asks who you are, what do you hope that they see?

Chinna Montoya 4:30

What do I hope they see, not just what do I respond? Um, I hope they see someone kind, uh patient. Uh I chuckle because that is something I struggle with. Um but I'm I'm trying. Doing a lot of prayer on that one. Um, lets see... someone. Yeah, caring. I don't know. I think that's that's kind of the the most of it. Like I would say uh maybe years ago, like, oh I hope they see someone ambitious and um I don't know, athletic whatnot, but I don't I not that those aren't valuable characteristics, but I just feel like um at the end of the day, at the end of my life, I I h hope that someone sees and remembers me as kind and caring and patient.

Sara Dorris 5:39

That is it's beautiful. Um, I think, I think, I think, I think, I think. That is a beautiful sentiment. It it is what life is all about, to be honest. Like, we're all put here to help one another and to build on one another. And I also share that sentiment about wanting people to be able to say, like, oh, like I also share that sentiment of wanting people to be or wanting people to say that, oh, Sara did this, Sara helped me with this. She was there to be kind to me in in a time of need. And I know for me that comes from being in a place where I felt as if people weren't giving me those things that I needed. Is that where yours come from, or where do you feel like that comes from for you?

Chinna Montoya 6:31

Not necessarily that um, yeah, that's not something that I have haven't been receiving. Um even when, you know, I I don't receive that, I just hope that I have the capacity to still give. Um now of course it comes with caveats, right? Like you can't pour from an empty cup and um sometimes you give people an inch and they take a mile. Um but when someone's you know in true need or uh ear um or just need their back watched to hope that um you know they can think of me and I can be there to to help. Um I learned years ago at a previous job when I used to work at my church about the ghost of somebody, and the concept is you see something on the floor, um, like some trash or something. Oh, somebody should pick that up. Oh, somebody should make sure the the flyers are straightened up. But it's like, okay, well, if it's a simple thing, you know, you can be that somebody. Um don't waste for the don't wait for the ghost of somebody to come and do that, because who knows when that person will be there.

Sara Dorris 8:01

That's a good point. I saw this lady who once said she teaches her children, if you see something wrong, fix it. Don't walk around waiting, or like if it's a problem, you can fix it, you can be the person to fix it. It reminds me of so many times in life where people don't do things because they always think someone else could do it. Uh, for example, like in an emergency, they tell you to point out one specific person and say, you call the police or call the ambulance because everyone's like, oh, someone will do it, someone will do it, and they don't.

Chinna Montoya 8:35

Exactly

Sara Dorris 8:36

So I feel like right, right, right, right, right. I feel like I would describe you as... I don't know, China the... I don't want to say the support, but like China the helper? The I don't know, the moral support. I don't know. I'm gonna try and think of something catchy. But um okay, so that's beautiful. What do you feel like is something about you that doesn't necessarily show up on paper?

Chinna Montoya 9:20

Something about me that doesn't necessarily show up on paper. I'm not really sure what shows up on paper.

Sara Dorris 9:29

Um like people like you know, like you know, people like look at your social media or like or you know how people uh make assumptions like what's something that maybe you just it's not obviously seen about you. If that makes sense.

Chinna Montoya 9:49

Yeah. Um maybe that I have just a a lot of different interests. Um uh I love learning and uh there's a ton of things in this life I I hope to get to learn. Um, like getting my pilot's license one day or learning to drift in cars. Um Yeah, so it it's it that's something that maybe doesn't show up on social media, which I don't really um get on social media much at all.

Sara Dorris 10:27

China the daredevil. There we go. You say you want to fly planes and drift cars, girl. You are intense. Um uh I have someone I can introduce you to that is a drone pilot that would totally be an encourager for you in that. So I'll work on that if you're interested.

Chinna Montoya 10:49

Um, yeah, definitely, because I was thinking about getting my drone pilot's license.

Sara Dorris 10:54

Well, yeah. Okay. So I know that you say that you are in somewhat of a chaotic season right now. How do you manage within that? So how do you make sure that you're not drowning or pouring too much from your cup?

Chinna Montoya 11:24

I would say having good support, um, carving out time, being grateful for the time that I do get that are moments of peace and calm. Uh I was reading a book recently called M is for mama, and then there's a companion book called Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad. And um one of the things that I got from from the books was that you're not owed um this like separate "you time" when you step into a a season of motherhood um with young kids. So when you when you have it, take it, be grateful. Um use that to recharge. But then if you don't get that day, you know, say I don't wake up early one day. Um you know, I'm not gonna be um rude or whatnot to my son or my husband. So when I put my son down for a nap, I either take a moment and just breathe and relax. Um, or if it's one of those days where he doesn't nap, then we go for a walk. Um and he's taking in the beauty of the outside, and then I have a moment to um see that he's calm and he's contained, and I'm not having to wrangle him, but I also can give my mind a little bit of a rest.

Sara Dorris 13:02

So it sounds like to me, and the way that you create balance in your life is by leaning on your support system, but also finding moments of appreciation for the small things.

Chinna Montoya 13:18

Definitely.

Sara Dorris 13:22

Sometimes it feels kind of silly to sit down and think about the small things, but when I do, it's always like, oh man, I'll give you an example. I'll give you an example. I'm going off thoughts are happening. Um, so my example is this morning, I went for a bike ride, and I was like, okay, okay, okay, this is really nice. Like the wind is in my face, this feels so nice, the grass is so green, you know. And when you think about it, like the wind is nice and the grass is green. Okay. But it was a combination of just being outside and exerting that energy that allowed me to feel good, that made me feel like, you know, this is a really nice morning, like everything in this moment in life, everything is fine. Even if things aren't fine, like in this specific moment, everything is working out well, which is what I've been told a lot is how you manage life or how you should manage life.

Chinna Montoya 14:22

Yeah. Um, and I like the bike ride as well. So having those moments, like you said, when the grass is green, and we've had a lot of fickle weather here lately. So um taking those moments where the weather is nice, you can step outside, you don't have to be bundled up or with an umbrella um or afraid of any hurricane or anything. It's just nice to just to be and to take that time to to exist and and be with people that you love. Yeah, it's a good time.

Sara Dorris 14:57

Surely is, it surely is, it surely is. So since you're a new mom, newish, I guess like you know, you're still shaking off the dust. Not shaking off the dust, because there's no dust, but I don't know. I don't know, enjoying the new baby. I don't know. But what is something that surprised you the most about yourself while in this period of being a mom and a wife?

Chinna Montoya 15:28

I guess how much I can endure um and enjoy the little things um not to backtrack, but just with the previous question, even just uh allowing yourself the ability to laugh even in those moments of frustration and stuff. Um I wasn't sure if that would be something that I could do. Um like yesterday or the day before, I was feeding my son and he knocked his uh lunch bowl off the the the high chair. And I was like, okay, whew, I caught it. It didn't fall. But then I don't know how his foot reached to where my hand was, but then he judo-kicked it out of my hand and it went flying across the room. Um, and so I was like, oh my gosh, like, what is happening? I'm just trying to feed you. Um, but then as I was cleaning him up and I just l let him get out of the chair, he started doing this weird, I don't know, shaking his hips thing, trying to dance, and it made me laugh, and I was like, wow, you know, I was just really frustrated a few seconds ago, but um giving myself that moment and the ability to just laugh and enjoy a simple moment really diffused me. At least I'm sure he didn't have any cares in the world. Thus his dancing. But um Yeah, that's something that has surprised me. And then I think about um Yeah, how much I've I've endured just with the birthing process, birthing in labor, and um the healing afterwards, because I I had to have uh emergency C-section. Um Yeah, being able to just continue on and keep it pushing, keep it moving. That's that surprised me.

Sara Dorris 17:40

I mean, I can't imagine giving birth to a child, so I feel like that along with everything else that you're going through that you've gone through is... it's a testament of being a woman and a testament to to your character as well, because you still manage to be level-headed while going through that stuff, which I guess women do. That's just what they do. Okay. What advice did you receive as a new mother that you feel like maybe wasn't as helpful as you thought it would have been?

Chinna Montoya 18:21

Sleep when the baby sleeps. Because then I've heard the counter-argument like, yeah, sure, I'll do dishes when the baby does dishes and laundry when he does dishes or does laundry. Um you can't always sleep when the baby sleeps. There's uh you know, things to be done so that we don't live in squalor. Um yeah, that that was unhelpful at that advice.

Sara Dorris 18:50

That is so funny because I would have never thought that. And knowing you and like the faces you make, I feel like I can see you being like, yeah, I'll wash dishes when the baby washes dishes too. Like, okay. Um so what advice would you give to someone in your situation? Or what advice do you give to yourself?

Chinna Montoya 19:23

Um... I guess the advice that I've heard is that although things may seem crazy and stressful and whatnot for from our perspective, from the parents' perspective, the the child will look back and be like, Wow, you I spent all day with my mom and she hugged me and and cuddled me and tickled me and whatnot, and they just... all the other stuff that typically stresses us out a as adults, you know, they they don't remember that. They just remember being cared for and loved and I don't know, I hate to sound morbid, but I do think about often like if I'm gone or when I I'm gone, I want my son to have fond memories of me. I don't know when I'll be gone. Um but I I hope that whatever memories he does have are fond. And I want to say fun, but you know, I can't always be fun. Uh somebody has to make sure he's not putting dirt in his mouth.

Sara Dorris 20:52

Yeah. That's a real statement about wanting to have those memories because you life is a is a gift for sure. And we never know when it's time to move on to the next phase. Lately I um I've been seeing not seeing things, but seeing um, I don't know, I saw something, I heard something somewhere, and the person said, What if, oh, it was yoga. I wasn't yoga, I don't know, whatever. I saw or I heard this thing somewhere, and somebody said, What if this is the only lifetime that we get to actually have these real life experiences? So sometimes I wonder about reincarnation and things like that. And I'm like, well, what if the next space is just another life in another dimension or something? So I'm like, okay, well, what if all we can experience here, like the things that we can touch, taste, see, enjoy, is only for this realm, and everything else is different in another realm. And I'm like, oh, well, I want to enjoy all of it. it and I want to create lasting memories for the people that are here to echo through generations.

Chinna Montoya 22:09

Yeah. Um all that's left at the end is memories and legacy. So trying to make it a a good one.

Sara Dorris 22:20

Yeah, for sure.

Chinna Montoya 22:21

I'm not really sure if that answered your question on uh uh helpful advice for for new moms. Yeah. I I don't know.

Sara Dorris 22:34

Life is short.

Chinna Montoya 22:39

Yeah. But we all know that. I mean it's maybe that is actually like the good advice because when you're in the throes of it and you're waking up at 4 a.m and 6 a.m and 8 a.m like you know every two hours and whatnot when the the baby's really small, it it's hard to think about being on the other side of that. And it's such a small blip in time. Um but those are foundational moments for your baby. You know, like that first uh few months of attachment and being cared for. So yeah life life is short and enjoy it. Enjoy every moment as much as you can, you know there's sunshine and rain but yeah don't if you're gonna stay down don't stay down too long.

Sara Dorris 23:41

I like that I like that a lot So on the days where you do fall down I hear you say when you when you fall down you don't stay down too long. How do you treat yourself on the days that you do fall short of your expectations for yourself?

Chinna Montoya 24:07

Um... well sometimes I mean everything can't be planned for but if I know that it's just gonna be a particularly tough day maybe because um I have to take care of the baby while working or I get to take care of the baby um while also getting to work because those are both privileges that not everybody gets to have. Um, I try to set the expectation of no expectation or low expectation and then like have simple tasks that yeah like you should do every day like make your bed or brush your teeth. And if that gets done I'm like you know what that that was accomplished. I I checked a few things off everything else is gravy at that point.

Sara Dorris 25:48

I've heard that before where people say that you start your day with small tasks that way at the end of the day you've accomplished something and I think it's it sets a good um it sets a good ball in motion or movement in motion for you to start the day accomplishing things that way you can end the day doing the same

Sara Dorris 26:10

I hear you saying...oh go ahead go ahead. There's a book . No go ahead.

Chinna Montoya 26:13

There's there's a book um I read oh a few years ago is called um I think "If You Want to be Successful, Make Your Bed" and it's written by a Navy SEAL or former Navy SEAL um and the book was about like all this guy went through um during Navy SEAL training but like one task that he knew he could check off every day was making his bed and if training was extra tough that day and he didn't make it for the swim or whatnot like at least he made his bed. So I've tried to harbor that.

Sara Dorris 26:53

It sounds so simple but it it it truly is uh a good motivator it just feels nice to walk into the room especially like let's say you come home for the day and you're like oh the bed's made like the house is straightened up this is a I call this a win

Chinna Montoya 27:11

Yeah like it I don't know if you've ever come home from vacation like you just had to like throw all your stuff in a bag and then leave but then when you come home if your bed's not made and the house is a mess it's like you it's not as easy to wind down or decompress after your travels. You know you like come on a high being on vacation and then you're like oh the house is a mess but like you said if you come home at the end of the day your bed is at least made then it feels nicer.

Sara Dorris 27:46

That's the worst thing when you go on vacation and you come back home and the house is a mess because you left in a hurry. That's why I like afternoon flights because I feel like you have time to like get your little final stuff together and then enjoy yourself and then go to the airport and it's a lot more ease instead of waking up at 3 or 4 a.m to catch a 6 a.m flight and panicking and rushing out the house

Chinna Montoya 28:13

Oh my goodness, yeah

Sara Dorris 28:17

Yeah

Chinna Montoya 28:17

My stomach got tight just thinking about the early morning flights

Sara Dorris 28:23

right right right they are the worst but they're so nice when you get to where you're going and you can just enjoy the moment and be like oh yeah it's uh 10 o'clock and I'm in Mexico nice like I don't know...

Sara Dorris 28:37

But this podcast is also about gratitude so I want to make sure we touch a good bit on that. So I know you mentioned that you find gratitude in the small things in life. So would you say that gratitude is something that has typically come easy for you or do you feel like it's something that you've had to work at

Chinna Montoya 29:02

A little bit of both. Um I remember like one of the first times that I thought about gratitude um I realized that and this was after my my mother passed I was like about eight or nine and I was like wow I really took that time for granted um and so then after that I I just try to appreciate certain times. Like you know yeah I I I get down just like everybody else um and I have to take moments but I I give myself that time to to be sad or whatnot, disappointed whatever's going on. Um and then I just try to keep it moving. Come up with a plan. You can't stay down and um be grateful for the lessons that you learn along the way and and the people that you meet. Um what's that corny sitcom saying like the true lessons of the friends we made along the way or something like that.

Sara Dorris 30:21

I feel that. Um, I'm sorry to hear about the passing of your mother when you were younger but I can I can not but I can definitely be glad that you have learned how to kind of like not push through but just kinda because I feel like they okay so they say grief never goes away like so you're always thinking about this person but you have to manage through that and I can appreciate how you learned that when you're young you don't I don't think it's that you didn't take things for granted. I think you were a kid you know like children don't expect things like that to happen. I mean it's not the standard um it's not the way things typically go that way. So I think it's just like I can appreciate your outlook and saying that you've learned how to take things how to appreciate your moments with people and really lean in with your community more.

Chinna Montoya 31:30

Yeah yeah and just try and be grateful for the good times um because times aren't always good. Um it's like when you're sick and you're like oh I don't even remember what it was like to not have the sniffle or for my throat to not itch but it's like yeah that was just yesterday and how many months and years in between from the last time you were you were sick you know um so you gotta like think hard and and cherish those um moments when you can breathe out of both nostrils.

Chinna Montoya 32:10

For sure for sure for sure I feel like I say it a lot for sure for sure but yeah I so I think everything you're saying sound everything you're saying sounds like something I've heard in therapy pretty much you know making sure that you process the things that you're the emotions that you're feeling and then you pick up and like you give yourself that time to process and then you move to the next step of doing something else or taking small moments to appreciate things or just going outside or just taking...um ...not blaming people for not meeting unannounced or unspoken expectations like there's no way your child could be like oh I'm in a nap and I didn't know I was supposed to wake up in 30 minutes and not now but I'm here like that's not realistic but um you just sound so healthy. Which is good Thank you I mean it's taken a few years and I don't know if it's just in my my adulthood that I've really taken and learned these things because um they're not new concepts per se but you know when you're young just kind of think like oh okay well even though this is physics I can go against gravity and kind of just keep pushing through but um yeah you just have to accept like um like you said people meeting unannounced expectations yeah you can't really blame anybody from uh for for not doing what you you didn't say that you needed or that you wanted and like oh they should know okay like at a certain point you have to realize people aren't mind readers

Sara Dorris 34:14

They're not? You mean you didn't know that I want to leave in 15 minutes and not 30 but I rushed us to get ready and now now I'm bothered because I'm ready to go and you're not ready to go and it's the time to leave but we never said that??? um yeah not not a personal experience or anything um.

Chinna Montoya 34:40

I was gonna say maybe you've been watching the cameras over here because that that's happened.

Sara Dorris 34:45

That's funny okay so what does a good day look like what is a good day what does a good day mean to you now?

Chinna Montoya 35:00

Wow okay um when you first started that question I was thinking like okay with my ideal day slow wake up and whatnot but no now like um at the end of the day if I say it's a good day what is what does that mean? Everyone is safe, happy um like I'm a typically anxious person so I try not to think about okay if I had no stress that I because that's near impossible. Um but if like the things I stressed about are trivial you know um oh did we get the storybook hour on time Okay no. But we still made it to the library. We still got to enjoy what the community has brought us, you know. Um Yeah so I I'd say at the end of the day I would say it's a good day if everyone's safe and and happy um yeah just got to enjoy the day or life

Chinna Montoya 36:19

sorry that doesn't give you much to go off of

Sara Dorris 36:22

no it does it does I think that that's genuinely all most people could ask for is safety and security so having a comfortable home having their loved ones cared for having the emotional safety around you and just to feel loved by your community so I think that that is a beautiful good day to you right now and I would say that that's like a brighter day .

Sara Dorris 36:55

Like when things aren't right for me like I think about I think about family members being healthy, I think about you know things that are going wrong going right and I I do what I can to help that happen but I just pray and I and just have hope that things will get better.

Sara Dorris 37:25

So what does a brighter day look like for you? Like how do you manifest that if that makes sense or is that the same question just asked differently?

Chinna Montoya 37:35

Just flipped and reversed. How do I manifest a brighter day um yeah kind of going back to what we said um having that small task get checked off at the beginning of the day um taking small moments what it may not be like getting to ride my bike but just taking a walk outside going to look at the water or the fruit garden that we have growing um just taking a walk and enjoying and also putting your feet on the grass um I'm wasn't always an outdoor person I'm an indoor cat but um just putting your feet on the grass like I I don't know if it's like woo-woo or placebo but if it's placebo I don't know give it to me all day um because it works at least for me you know yeah that helps the brighter day.

Sara Dorris 38:42

It's funny you bring up the grass because uh a while back years ago I was listening to this podcast and one of the hosts was saying "oh you know there are psychological effects that impact people putting their feet in the grass, it's just it just makes you feel better" and they lived in New York so like she was saying oh well I I don't know if she was if she went to the park or if she had moved somewhere if she now had grass but I think she went to like the central park or something like that and would put her feet in the grass or something. I don't know how that works in New York but uh I know as a kid I enjoyed walking around in the grass because it just felt nice. It's like I'm grounded that's what it is like you're literally as close to the ground as you get and it just feels good.

Chinna Montoya 39:31

Yeah um and I like sitting in the sun especially on a colder day oh that feels amazing

Sara Dorris 39:42

Florida babies! For sure. okay um so what would you like listeners to take with them after listening to this episode with you on?

Chinna Montoya 39:54

Yeah be grateful for the the little moments the big moments um the moments to come um there's a parable I'm not sure if anyone has uh heard or not, it's kind of popular but there was a a guy who his son fell off a horse or something and

Sara Dorris 40:25

Yeah girl the parable of the farmer

Chinna Montoya 40:28

yeah and the neighbor was like oh that's unlucky and the the guy says oh we'll see but then like things keep happening and the neighbor's like oh wow that was great you your horse healed up oh we'll see and oh my my son was lost we'll see oh but there was a draft so y the son didn't get drafted. Oh that was great oh we'll see you know like so yeah there's there's good and bad and everything and and there's um reasons that that things happen so just try to look for the good um even in the tough moments you know.

Sara Dorris 41:13

Yeah that's ... that's the whole point of of this is just trying to look for the good in bad moments you know um because there's so much crazy stuff always happening like I think I'm almost kind of over social media right now because every time I look at something it's like oh this crazy thing is happening this person did this this is happening and just like okay like I care and I'll do what I can but I I'm not about to sit up here and be stressed over this stuff. So I'm gonna take the good and I'm gonna make note of the bad and as as Chinna would say keep pushing but yeah

Chinna Montoya 42:09

Yeah and once you realize it social media is designed to get you to to feel something anything you know like. It doesn't feel good to have your emotions be manipulated by by anyone or anything. Um so being able to direct your own path and um draw your your energy and your positivity from your your creator from your beliefs from your your community that's way better I think

Sara Dorris 42:53

Mmmhh don't play with China and don't play with me that's a good point though you don't necessarily notice it but you're totally being manipulated into doing things believing things and doing well yeah doing things and believing things um so take a step back.

Sara Dorris 43:17

oh I have one last question for you because I want to end on a hopeful note so what are you hopeful about right now?

Chinna Montoya 43:25

Hopeful .... Um hopeful for I don't know more activities. Um even though I'm an indoor kat I like to be out and about like have a set activity and then come promptly home. Um so having those those set activities um sprinkled throughout the week um and whatnot, we just got passes for Busch Gardens. So hopeful to uh have more time to take the baby over there. Um more bike rides. Yeah, enjoying the weather before it gets too hot.

Sara Dorris 44:16

The mornings are nice. Um I love that.

Sara Dorris 44:24

I love that your hope is pretty much in alignment with everything you've been saying. So you're hoping for those moments with your family and to kinda be active and to keep pushing, literally on a bike. Thank you so much for coming on to BrighterDaze. I appreciate your time and I really just thank you for coming on and being open and having a nice conversation with me.

Chinna Montoya 44:50

Yeah, thank you. It's always a pleasure to speak with you.

Sara Dorris 44:54

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Sara Dorris 44:55

Oh yeah before we go. Chinna also has a YouTube Channel called Uncommon Cents Money. The cents is as in dollars and cents and it's actually a personal finance channel about better financial judgement. It's a new project and from what I know about Chinna it's gonna be on point, it's gonna be informative and it's gonna actually be helpful because that's something she strives to do. So I recommend you all follow the link in the description and check it out. Tell her how you feel about it. I'm sure it'll be a great impact on your life for the good! Thank you so much for listening, everyone, and I will see you next week. You can also find me on Instagram, BrighterDazePodcast, I have an email, ask the number four brighterdaze days at gmail.com. And yeah, I'll be around and I hope you will be too. Good day.