I just had a miscarriage, here's what I'm doing about it (Part 2)

Miscarriage doesn’t just break your heart...it messes with your mind.

In this episode, Caitria talks about the mental spiral that can follow pregnancy loss: the isolation (whether people know or don’t), the urge to numb, the frantic need to “do something,” and the invisible beliefs that start running in the background.

She shares the inner work she’s doing in real time... auditing limiting stories, releasing guilt, refusing to let “what-ifs” take over, and finding a balance between aligned action and surrender. You’ll hear practical nervous system tools that are actually doable in early grief, including a simple daily check-in practice and her brain-dump journaling method for clearing mental clutter.

This is an honest, permission-giving episode for anyone who feels like miscarriage turned their brain into a battlefield... and wants a way back to safety inside their body.

In This Episode, You’ll Hear:

• Why miscarriage can feel isolating whether people know or not
• The difference between numbing pain vs. learning to sit with it
• How our brains jump to “fixing” (food, supplements, trackers) to avoid feeling
• Why belief work and nervous system safety matter for fertility and healing
• Two personal stories Caitria noticed after loss:
  • The “I’m older than I was last time” storyline, and how she reframed it
  • Feeling guilt for getting pregnant easily, and rewriting worthiness
• A powerful self-inquiry practice:
  • “What do I actually believe about my ability to get and stay pregnant?”
  • “What am I afraid might happen if I do? If I don’t?”
  • “And what else?” (layer by layer)
• Her stance on “what-if” thoughts... and why she refuses to let them run the show
• A simple visualization tool for intrusive thoughts (the balloon exercise)
• How she’s avoiding panic purchasing and frantic action
• The balance: do what you can, then practice letting go
• A daily nervous system question that keeps her grounded: “What do I need today?”
• The journaling method she’s using to stop thoughts from “living rent-free”:
  • 3–5 minute timer
  • pen and paper only
  • don’t lift the pen, don’t edit, just dump it out

Key Takeaways

• You can take supportive action without taking frantic action.
• “This isn’t your fault” can be true and you can still choose to heal intentionally.
• The goal isn’t controlling every variable... it’s building safety, nourishment, and resilience.
• Sometimes the most powerful practice is simple: check in daily, listen, and follow through.

Mentioned Tools & Practices

• Limiting-belief “audit” + reframes
• “And what else?” self-inquiry technique
• Balloon visualization for releasing intrusive thoughts
• Daily check-in: “What do I need today?”
• Brain-dump journaling (3–5 minutes, pen + paper, no editing)

Links & Resources

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