Episode 7 - Alexander

In this episode i sit down with the lovely Alexander who is a rope bunny amongst other things and discuss his many kinks and fetishes and the journey he is taking in the kink world 

Transcript

SPEAKER_02 0:05

Today I sit down with Alexander. Now, Alexander you might know is a rope bunny off all his socials, but he's more than just that, he's got many a kink. So let's sit down and chat and see where this journey takes us. Okay, everyone, welcome back to Kinky Pokes Podcast. Today I am joined by the lovely Alexander. How are you? Good. So you may have seen Alexander on various socials, and he'll let you know where you can find him.

SPEAKER_00 0:31

Right now. Yeah, on Instagram I am his hands are in your hair. Uh, and you can find me on pretty much all the others Twitter, Blue Sky, X, um Fat Life as Floor Boy. Uh, because I'm always on the floor.

SPEAKER_02 0:49

And if you don't know anything about uh Alexander, then we're gonna obviously discuss his kink, his journey, and see where uh this takes him. And I know from his I've been following him a while now, and I think like this takes you all around the world, doesn't it?

SPEAKER_00 1:02

What you need? Most of Europe, uh it's a lot of money to get to get further, but yeah, I'm dying to get tied up by some uh rigors on the other side of the pond one day, maybe.

SPEAKER_02 1:13

So, how would you collect so you uh in your description you say you're a rope bunny?

SPEAKER_00 1:18

Yes.

SPEAKER_02 1:19

So for those that are listening or those that are watching that don't know what that is, could you explain what that is?

SPEAKER_00 1:24

Uh so a rope bunny is somebody that enjoys getting tired or what I would call getting rope stoned. Um I see rope as more of a practice. I probably uh compare it to yoga more than say spanking. Um I like being in rope because it's like a challenge, uh, and really it's just about connecting with the rigor and having a great experience and connect and some fun. And yeah, obviously getting tied up in rope. Uh that can be sexual, it can not be sexual, it can be intimate. Um it's usually intimate. Also, I've I've performed with it as well, so but there's lots of different sides of rope, really. And how long have you been how did this journey start? With the rope, uh I lockdown happened five plus years ago, and I've always been very much attracted to musical boys with uh long hair, like mustache. And um he was a stage rigger, he worked uh behind the scenes, and obviously, as I say, lockdown happened and he couldn't couldn't do his job anymore, so he started rigging people rather than um the stage. Yeah, that's fine. I thought it was just stop recording then for a second, but we'll cut that thing out anyway. Yeah, yeah. Uh so I started dating the stage rigger and he lockdown happened and he started tying me and practicing on me. I kind of I guess I kind of became his muse, his bunny. And that did that become a sexual relationship, or is that oh it was it's very much sexual from the get-go, yes. Uh yeah, it really opened the door for me uh it into rope and it just captivated me. And then with that, has that then developed into other kinks as well? Yeah, well, actually, um I was already very much into spanking way before, but I kind of hid it quite a lot. I had a lot of kink shame, it wasn't normal, so I hid it from my partners. Uh, this is way before I was polyamorous. Uh, used to go off in secret and do that sort of thing. Uh and then I think I moved up to Sheffield and met Miss Riga, and I just kind of found that I I I don't need to be ashamed of that anymore, and especially because with the rope, it's artistic and sexual, so it kind of became a lot more acceptable um in my in my in my brain, I guess. Yeah. And it just really went from there. We broke up after lockdown. Uh, he actually ended up uh dating uh my girlfriend, and then they're now married. Um yeah, so so small polyamorous world in Sheffield. And what I actually realized was it it was rope that I was in awe of, you know, it was more about the rope, but the relationship as a polyamorous thing that felt very intense because they both tied me, so a male and female, and I just realized actually it was it was more about the rope for me.

SPEAKER_01 4:49

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 4:49

Um the kinks, yeah, uh, I have lots. Uh I think most people, if they're really honest and explorative, we do we all do, you know.

SPEAKER_01 5:00

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 5:01

Um I think there's still King Shane as well, isn't there? Very much. Yeah, I mean, I'm very much on the other side of that now, and that's why I'm so positive and open about anything like that with my friends and clients, and just socially, because I think, like anything, the more you talk about it and normalize it, the more it's just just gonna be more accepted. But at this point, I'm very, very much into um humiliation and pain. You know, uh that is part of the rope for sure, but I love um spanking, obviously, ball busting CBT, nipple play, you know, and just uh for me it's actually got to the point where I my humili kink changes all the time, and my humiliation kink is at the point of I I enjoy and get off on posting it uh online um on just the fans and showing the world how much of a little sub bitch I am, really. Uh yeah, that just feeds into it for me, and it's it's it's it's like next level humiliation. So who's to say it might not change? Yeah, but that's sort of where I'm at now, and that that's what I do, you know. And do you think a lot of the influence like on your kinks maybe comes from people that you meet as well?

SPEAKER_02 6:24

So like maybe you meet a rigger that does something completely different that somebody else has never done, and then that gives you something else to explore, or is there in the rigger world or in the rope world is it all kind of pretty much the same?

SPEAKER_00 6:37

So I think because my first rigor was very meticulous and particular, and we just tied over and over, and it had to be perfect. You know, the pictures are on the top of my Instagram uh grid, even now. And uh, so it kind of gave me I I've seeked out these rigors, you know. I've kind of been like, oh, that one, that one, that one. I think I'll vibe with this one. Obviously, some of them uh you reach out, it's not gonna match. That's fine, but I mean, the ones that have, I've had some incredible times. Last year I I got tied in the in the mountains by a guy in Switzerland. Uh in February, I was in Sweden in the snow. I love the nature and being outdoors, and the um the energy, you know, um with with being outdoors on rope is just just amazing. It's it's the best feeling uh being in the nature and being being tied up. Uh so no, I I think that I I know what I want and I'm seeking out for that. Even though I am I am strictly submissive, um, you know, uh I'm looking for these people and seeing where I can go on my next journey.

SPEAKER_02 7:46

And on that journey, do you find it hard to find that people?

SPEAKER_00 7:49

Or is it uh do you find the pink world quite easy to explore and then put yourself in front of these people and get in touch? Yeah, so I think you've just got to get out there and just just send the message, you know. I mean, the worst they're either not gonna see it or say no or you know, whatever, you know. Uh and just connect with people. I'm very I've always been very good at socializing and networking and keeping in touch anyway. Yeah. Um I've recently, you know, I tend to use Instagram for that sort of thing because it's a bit more arty and creative. This year I've been uh using Fet Life a lot more. Yeah. Uh on Saturday, actually, I'm going to my first mixed male-female uh event, which I am nervous about, but um I think because it is more about submission than me, for me, it's not really necessarily about um what's what body parts they have, it's it's about the submission. Uh yeah, FetLife isn't the best interface to use, but once you get used to it, you can find some really good events, uh queer gay events locally in your area. Uh, and that's really helped. So even now, you know, I'm still on the journey, I'm still developing it. I have been tied by females, but but sexually not so much. So that's something that I'm very much looking into. But obviously, I'm very experienced with men uh since coming out at 14 and developing uh various kinks. Um then talking, touching on the event side.

SPEAKER_02 9:20

Do you go to a lot of events?

SPEAKER_00 9:22

Do you see kind of specific events or what's your again? It is kind of hard to find, but once you start, you kind of start discovering more. Uh personally, I prefer uh I've not done London Fetish Week. Uh, I think I'm way more well taken and approachable by European folk. Um just because of my look. Uh people can be quite close-minded in the UK, unfortunately, but it is changing, and I am starting to go to events, yeah, just to sort of be like, hey, this is me. I I'm kind of neat, I'm here, I'm doing this and like it or lump it, you know. Um, and just networking there and and meeting new uh people. Uh I've been to Darklands, that was my first event, uh, like yourself. Which I think out of a lot of them. I I find Darkland one of the ones that it integrates all the Kingston packages, but it's not it's not there specifically to level. Well, yeah, I think it's the indoor event indoor room. Yeah. For me, keyword indoor, after two days, I am claustrophobic, I'm done. I am an outdoor boy. It just I never go to the party in the evening. Um I couldn't, you know, I I'm sober, uh, I like to dance for a few hours and then I'm just kind of done. It's about the rope. I go to chat to people and you know have have fun with that. And are there any events coming up that maybe some of the listeners might see you at? Yes, uh, I performed at uh on the streets uh at uh at Folsom in Europe. Uh I haven't made it to the San Francisco one yet, but one day on the two lists, yeah, maybe next year. Um so I'll be there this year. It's really great. Uh there's like a rope group there, and they always have a picnic in Tear Garden. Um, and it was so hot last year as well. It's like uh do you know what honestly? I think it got cancelled because on that day, yeah, the year it actually, yes, but it it rained. So the picnic got cancelled, which was a shame because it's always such a cute thing. Yeah, it's a really great community, it's quite small, it is getting bigger. Um I found Folsom very friendly, very, very friendly, and the whole vibe was amazing. Definitely, it really made me makes me feel very um like community, yeah. I think it that's great, and I feel very accepted in uh Berlin. Uh I really have I've got lots of uh quite a few uh close German rigger friends uh that I love to obviously connect with. It's not even just about the time, you know. I'm really close with them. Um I do have a bit of a thing with with Germany anyway. I do, I think it's just a great place. Everyone's just accepting, you know. I was getting tied in the park uh in April at Easter Berlin uh by quite a well-known queer uh punk rigger, and he um he was uh tying me in this beautiful avant-garde thing, you know, flowers, it's just stunning and uh lots of red rope, but just look great aesthetically. And then there were nudists out in the main park in April. I'm like, good God, are you not cold? But that would only happen there. It would just so burn it, and just so here for it, especially being a nudist myself, you know. Um yeah, I I love uh I love getting my body out, but for me it's it's more about just being naked in the nature, whereas a lot of people, especially uh running a Mr. B and B, you know, which is nudis clothing optional friendly here in this room. Um so this is something that's new that you've launched that is in your own home, that you're inviting people to come in and be in your social space on an Airbnb or Mr. B and B. Yes, very much. What I've found um is people tend to um for a lot of people it it feeds into exhibition and voyeurism. Yeah. And yes, for me it's more about exhibitionism publicly, if that's a thing, but I can just be naked at home on my own, you know. As soon as I get home, I just want to take my clothes off. I just feel more free. Yeah, uh, and if I'm in uh an area that's secluded and off-grid, I love being naked in nature. I think that's it's just a very freeing experience, just makes you feel more connected with the planet. And I know some uh you know, some people aren't into it, honestly. In my opinion, when people aren't into it, it's because in the UK we are just given so much integrated, like like body shame. We're told to like cover up, and then you go into Europe and everyone's just like you know, like just free and loose, and it's just I when somebody is prudish, again, in my opinion, it's because it's because they have been told to cover up or they're ashamed of themselves, or they're not confident, and that is really sad. Yeah, and and ironically, most of my partners are like this, they don't like getting naked, and that's fine, you know. It's not uh we're not all the same. Yeah, we're not all the same, and and that's totally fine. But I think a lot can be said for being comfortable in yourself, and and that's what it's about for me. You know, I was I was the geeky, nervous kid at school, you know, uh, and and now I'm totally on the other side, you know. I got bullied for being different. I actually read a book about coming out when I was 14. It's something that's always stuck to me. In this book, it had lots of stories about uh gay people. Obviously, most people we say queer these days, which is great. We kind of took that power back, but something in it said uh dare to be different, and that has always stuck with me. Yeah, uh, you know, in it because it does it, it does take balls to stand out, and um I'm okay with that. But it's it's really important to push yourself.

SPEAKER_02 15:29

And going into 2026, is there anything big and happening that we need to keep a lookout for?

SPEAKER_00 15:35

Yes, so uh the rope has always been my first love. Um but what I realised with the rope when I started posting it is everyone and every gay man and their dog are doing uh maybe not the dog. Let's enough that yeah, people anyway, um are doing um content, you know. We're all doing it, we're all putting ourselves online. I I am my own USP, I guess, you know. Uh I do live modelling, I've got some life modeling at work on on Sunday again, that's kind of came from rope. Um so I started filming with uh people, I think I'm I film with AJ who's interviewed as well. Uh and I basically have had so much content and interactions the last few years. I feel like I've got so much now I can just keep posting like every week. Uh so something that was just a hobby that I was enjoying is just naturally because it is hard work, people don't appreciate that. Like I say, because I have such such an amount now. Uh I've been doing it a couple of years, there's lots of rope on there, there's lots of me suffering. Do you find a lot of pressure in talking about the content creating? Do you find a lot of pressure in that world of you have to constantly promote constantly? Or is that something that you have to do? Yeah, totally. So I tried it a couple of years ago and I realized I sort of had this ADHD wall about it, which I'm sure a lot of us neuro spicy people can relate with. And because I was trying to do it for enjoyment and keep it at that, because obviously I do hairstyling, I've been in I run an Airbnb, a Mr. B, you know, I've got little pockets of things going on. I work in different areas of the country. You've got a life and it's like, but I do enjoy it, I do enjoy filming. Um, and there's so much more to it, like anything, but I actually now I've got so much, I am gonna give it a real good batch. I feel like this year could definitely be my year for that. Is there anyone out there that you've always thought I really want to do a collaboration or a content or a tie with? Is there anybody out there that you haven't done yet? Yeah, but there's always people might be watching. There's always people uh I'm looking for. There's a local guy here called Jack Hammer and his girlfriend Noktira. Um, we were messaging, hopefully doing some kinky outdoor van content stuff um with them. But sometimes you know, everyone has other jobs and other work, and uh the messages have kind of just stopped for now, but hopefully that will pick up. I'd love to work with those guys, they look really cool, and I am kind of chabby and hippie, and because I am bisexual, it does kind of step, I do sort of step into both worlds, so you know I guess that entails like more of the the swinging vibe and the the straight gay vibe, which is very popular now. But again, I guess for me it's like they're just labels, aren't they? They're just labels, and most people will try most things once, uh, and and I'm I'm into I'm into exploring that, and it would I think that would really work. I I have filmed with uh trans people, it's been great fun. Um so yeah, I'm just pushing all the boundaries really. And your book is kind of open for 2026, like seeing that. Yeah, very much. I've got I've got some in the pipeline, I've got some things, you know, but it's just sort of watch this space, and I'm quite organic about it. I think if you put too much pressure on it, you know, you stop comparing yourself to other people. I think that's where sometimes the whole side of the social media and the content world gets a bit sometimes on my personal thing, it gets a bit crazy because the pressure's there and yeah, the pressure to look a certain way, do a certain thing, yeah, and make certain content so quickly, and it's like, well, actually, everybody's gotta be different. You've got to definitely otherwise we're gonna go completely overwhelmed with all the things. Definitely, and I think I it's a silly comparison, but it's like when people start going to think events, uh, you know, some people they start and they they buy all the latex and all the rubber and all the leather, and that's that's great. But um, I'm I'm a slowburn, you know. I've been making content a few years, rope was my main focus, it was just a hobby, but I'm now sort of going into it more full-time. Uh, and what what happens is uh, you know, for me, I'd rather just buy objects of clothing like oh a new latex piece, and I'm exploring it very slowly and going to events as I can because there's other things you know I like to travel and not necessarily do clinical.

SPEAKER_02 20:29

Well, a lot of them go well with each other as well, and I think like it can get obviously you're into sportswear as well, and I think sportswear goes well with latex, sportswear goes well with that that's where people can find their way, can't they?

SPEAKER_00 20:42

They can wear a piece of something to also try it with a piece of rubber or a piece of and I'm really enjoying this again because I'm sort of kind of hippie, kind of chatby, uh spiritual yoga boy, you know, um, also very much in the system, you know, I'm on the cog, like working, chatting to normal people. Um, so what I find is uh I I just like to try it all and be a bit of everything. And there's nothing wrong with that. And I think we're told again we're so obsessed with boxes like the leather people. You've got the box of three, yeah, you've got to follow this, you've got to go to this and that. Yeah, and I do sometimes look get looked at like you know, the the younger kinker uh kinky uh people are like, you know, they'll see me the next day at an event and they'll be like, oh, oh, you've got lots of look. And I'm like, yes, honey, because yeah, we can all just we we you know you don't have to wear the fame to that's important for people that are finding their king or finding the younger people that are coming out, or even older people that are coming out that uh don't know where they're going yet or what king journey they're on.

SPEAKER_02 21:45

There is you don't have to say yes to one and not the others.

SPEAKER_00 21:48

You can try them all and you there's no fet route, is there? That that's definitely that's definitely not, and it's sort of the same with finding people to film content with, you know, you've just gotta put yourself out there in the If it works, it works, you know, some parts of what I'm into and my vibe might work with some content people, but not other people, you know. And I think because I have got lots of different little pockets, it's like I'm just I'm just unapologetically me trying to enjoy myself. But but so many people, you know, their content is uh just one specific thing, whereas it's I feel like it's took me a longer time to build up because I I am more free with it and more organic, and and I'm okay with that. But but now, you know, when I take breaks, I'll take the time to kind of go, hmm, I'm not into that. Let's have some headspace, let and then let's go back to it. And uh a bit the same, like like chastity, you know, I'm into that, but for me, it's more about flowing and how I'm feeling and just letting my balls like and myself like just be loose, literally, about it. And but I do like the enjoyment that chastity brings. Um, it makes me really whole. So that might be something that you might explore further down the line. Yeah, definitely. I do definitely go in and out of it, and it's very much there on my uh on my socials, but maybe full-time, you know, uh again, like anything, it's a journey. Yeah. So what would you say to somebody, say if there's somebody watching this or listening to this that hasn't ever tried rope play but wanted to try rope play, and well, how would you say they would go about doing that? Uh go see Naughty Otter in London, he's fabulous. Um yeah, uh, he does rope jams, which uh have been going for a year and they're going really well. Um, just get yourself in the community uh as well, get on Fet Life and you can find uh ropey people locally for you. But also, if not, as long as you kind of look at a very like basic health and safety safety first thing online, uh, you know, like just get a piece of damn rope and just give it a go. Just do some self-tying, you know. Yes, I'm predominantly a bottom, a bunny as far as it comes to rope. Um that's just because of my vibe and my my energy. Um, but I I do I do self-tie. Uh I always feel like because I've been tied by um quite a few uh quite well-known gay riggers in the um community, uh you know, they're all a lot older. So in my brain, I'm like, well, I'll learn to tie, I'll have my dominance days when I'm like in my 40s, 50s, 60s, you know, I've been tied by 60-year-olds. So you know what it feels like, how it looks at the best. Yeah, yeah, yeah. But I you know, I played with for me, it's very much about power dynamics. So I uh I used to date a Twink and uh for a very long time, um, and we did some rope because that worked, you know, whereas for me it's like it's gotta be I'm the sub, they're older, so they're the Dom. I I'm very visual, very, very theatrical about it, I guess. You know, that that works for me. So especially with the rope in a scene, I I actually prefer somebody that kind of looks and seems like older and a daddy vibe, you know, it kind of feeds into the role player, and that like sort of transcends then into um kink and then you get tied up. And yes, like I say, sometimes it will go into a scene and it will be sexual, and that is discussed beforehand what your boundaries uh are with that. Some things, you know, if it's a photo shoot or if it's a performance, it's very much pre-planned. And as some people I I I tie, you know, they tie me and it's not sexual. Um, or it's a journey and it can end up sexual over time. It's every person that ties me, you know, as soon as that rope touches me, it's very much um it's it's a relationship for me, you know, it opens that connection wide, it's a very intimate thing, you know, it's a conduit to connection, yeah. And uh, you know, that's that's gonna make things quite intense. So, you know, you're gonna get all the musical feels, it's gonna happen, and I enjoy and anticipate every moment of that and really enjoy it. And I think yes, it's only a piece of rope, but I I I feel like for so many people that really does bring it, bring out some kind of other level of deeper connection, you know. Um it's very spiritual, it can be, it doesn't have to be, but for me it is, yeah, yeah. Yeah, so it seems like 2026 is gonna be filled with lots of great content and great journeys and great stories and meets and jobs for you.

SPEAKER_02 26:46

Um, and I think all of us will be watching. Um, it's gonna be great. I think from this, a lot of people will start following you hopefully on the various different socials, and we can all watch that journey grow and see where at, and maybe we'll catch up again in a few months' time and see what's going on. Cool, so it's been amazing having you, and thank you for having me here. But obviously, all the links will be in the bio for your Mr. B at Airbnb. Um, yeah, come see me. Come see me. Come as the dog. Yes, thank you very much.

SPEAKER_00 27:14

Cheers, cheers.