Okay, welcome. This is going to be a quickie. I think we'll see. We'll see what happens. I do not plan anything ever. I have an idea kind of, what I wanna talk about or something that strikes me and then I just sit down and see what happens. 'cause that is the fun. Right. Okay. So something I've been thinking about lately is. The idea of not being, well, let's go back to this. So it really all goes back to people pleasing, and this is something that I've been analyzing within myself, within other people. I see it in other people I see a lot. It's very clear now, I should say, especially within the past year. It's very clear who is authentic and who is not. It's very clear to me now, and I think a lot of people within this past year especially, who is. Who's authentic and who's not, right? Who's being real and who's not. 'cause that is part of what this year brought out in us and in, in the collective right in the world, is seeing the truth in things. Seeing what's actually happening, seeing what is actually real. Even talking about AI and that coming into the picture, right? You really have to know. Within you using your own sovereign judgment. What is real? What is not real, right? What and that there are so many intricate pieces and analogies of this. We could do a whole thing on that. So maybe that's down the line. But this specific, what I was thinking, so this stems from the people pleasing, right? And the specific of this is you will never be fully loved. You can never be fully loved if you do not allow yourself to be fully seen. If you do not allow yourself to be fully seen, you cannot ever be fully loved because how can someone else fully, fully love you? And I'm talking about, I'm not talking about like your you to your children or that relationship, right? Parents to children like young children. That relationship aside, but I'm talking about as adults when you're going into relationships, whether that's friendship, relationships, family, like other di family dynamics, um, specific specifically, it really applies to specifically romantic relationships. If you're not allowing yourself to be fully seen, how do you expect that person to actually love you? And with the people pleasing. On top of that, if you are desperate for that person to love you, if you are desperate for that love, if you're desperate for that validation, if you're desperate for that, have to be in that relationship, right? For validation, for whatever. It's that the feeling that you get from it or whatever you're getting from it. If you're coming from that place of like, I have to be a certain way for them to like me, then they're not falling in love with you. They're not falling in love with you. They're falling in love with the act. They're falling in love with the show. They're falling in love with the mask. They're falling in love with the whatever you're putting on, right? They're falling in love with the trickery that you are projecting to the, that you're the trickery that you're giving to them because that's technically what it is. It is. Trickery, right? So, with the people pleasing going down that road and where that technically comes from. But, here's the thing, it's not. You are not doing it for them to please them and to make them happy and to give them everything that they want and to be the girlfriend that they want, or to be the wife that they want. Right? That's what it seems like you're doing. That's what your ego is going to tell you that you're doing. But in reality, you actually want something from them. You are the one who's actually selfish in that exchange. You are the one who wants and needs that love and validation from them. Because if you were actually wanting to have them fully love you, you'd allow yourself to be fully seen. You'd allow yourself to be authentic if you, truly loved them. Fully and unconditionally, you would want them to really see you because you wouldn't want them to be tricking them. And these are all crazy mind games that the ego plays. There's so many intricate steps of this that you can whittle down and figure out and see where this is happening and see where you're doing this and see where other people are doing this. It's so intricate and tricky because as. People pleasers as they, they want to think that. They're just doing good for other people. They want to think that they're, you know, saying yes to something because someone asked them to and doing something because someone asked them to and giving everything because someone asked them to. But they're not actually doing it for that reason. They're not doing it to serve somebody else because in order to serve somebody else and to be fully there for somebody else, you have to be fully there for yourself first. You have to be yourself first. Right? So. You can't be giving to someone else if you're being fake, if you're tricking them, if you're lying to them, if you are manipulating them because what you want from that, you want something back from them. You want something back from them and that's love or you know, just being liked or validation or them proving, you know, the validation of them proving to you that they're enough or that you're in a relationship or what, whatever it is, you want something back from them. You are not giving to them. You're actually wanting something from them, and that's the way that your ego plays the tricks on you. That's the way that your ego steps in and tricks you into that, oh, well, I'm doing everything for this person. They, you know, just because I, I love them, so I'm doing everything for them. Right? But you're also putting on an act. You are hiding, you are being manipulative, whether you think that you are or not. The people pleaser is a tricky thing. Right. The people pleasers ego is a tricky thing. There's a lot of these little intricate pieces of it that your mind will play a trick on you in telling you you're doing the right thing, trying to get people to like you, serving other people. When in reality you're doing the opposite. You are just wanting something back from them, so you're tricking them into liking you or you're tricking them into loving you. So how do you expect to be fully loved? How do you expect to ever be fully loved by that person if you're not showing them who you truly are? Right? If you're putting on an act, that person is falling in love with the act, and for one, you're gonna have to keep up with that act for the end of time or for however long you wanna be with that person. You are gonna have to keep up with that act or it's just they're falling in love with that act. They're not actually falling in love with you. And this is actual truth. The fact that authenticity is the highest vibration there is, authenticity is a higher vibration than love. And this is something that's actually been proven recently on the. I can't think of the name of that scale, but authenticity is a higher vibration, than love. And when you think about it, it has to be right because you have to be your authentic self to be loved. You have to be your authentic self to, to feel love within yourself. You have to be fully yourself and love yourself fully. In order to be seen and then loved by someone else. So that is why authenticity is at the top. That is why people are craving this right now. This is where our collective, this is where our world is moving. People want authentic. No one wants fake anymore. No one wants fake bullshit anymore. People want real. You know, real everything, not ai, real conversations in-person stuff, real food, right? They wanna know what's in their food. They wanna know what they're buying. They wanna know what's in their products. They wanna know what they're getting. You know, if you sold someone something that you didn't actually tell them, you didn't tell them what it was, and they didn't actually know what was in there, right? If you're selling yourself. In a relationship, right when you're starting to date or whatever the case in a relationship, when you're first meeting someone, you're basically selling yourself, right? You're presenting yourself. If someone finds out they're not getting what they paid for, they paid for their investment, their time, their investment, they open to themselves, up to you. Someone's gonna be pissed. I'm gonna be pissed if someone sells me something. And they didn't tell me what it was. They didn't tell me like something was missing, a part was missing or something was different than it was. They presented it differently just to get me to buy it. And that's the way that it is. People don't want that. People are gonna be pissed. People are going to be. Mad, right? They're gonna see it eventually. They're eventually going to see it once they get the actual product and they're not gonna be happy, right? Because they got tricked. They got tricked by this people pleasing person who manipulated them. You get what I'm saying? Right? I'm getting so into this. I am spitting out my tea. So anyway, um, let's loop this around. To kind of finish it off, 'cause I did said this would be a little bit quicker of a podcast here. So yeah, going back to the umbrella of people pleasing and then knowing that you won't get that love that you want. So if you are that. Looking for that and searching for that. You won't get that if you are tricking someone else or if you're people pleasing the other person if you're not allowing yourself to fully be seen. So we'll go back to that. You won't get that full true love from someone else, and you won't be loved by that other person. If you're not allowing yourself to be fully seen. Right. Okay. So hopefully that makes sense. Let's just cut the fucking fake, like people are over. I feel like that's like, so, I don't know, nineties or something. Yeah, maybe not nineties. Um, I think it probably came a little bit after that, but especially with the internet, social media. With social media because people became so concerned with what they looked like to other people. And not just the physical appearance, but that concern for looking good, that concern to oppress, impress that. Keeping up with the Joneses. Basically living your life for someone else. You're living your life so that you can post it on social media so that you can get validation for it, or you're so concerned with how things look to other people instead of how you actually feel and how you actually want to live your. Life. So a lot of that just within the past five years, 10 years, became even more extreme of people caring so much what they looked like to other people, trying to impress other people. Right. That concern for looking good and that comes from, that's being fake. You're, you are. Being fake. You are technically trying to people please by impressing other people because you want that validation. Again. Again, it comes back to you. It's not saying, you know, look at my life. You're doing it. You're not doing it for other people to be like, oh, I can inspire other people, or whatever the case that. Is a different thing. This, and the majority of what happens and what's been going on is doing something for that validation again, for you to say, Ooh, look at me. Look at what I created. Look at what my life looks like, even though it's being fake, right? Because we all know social media is. Fake. I mean, people can say that they're real on there, but it's still just a tiny piece of their life that they are showing and they're choosing to show certain parts and not other parts. So it's become so extreme in the past couple years and people are just over it. So let's just cut that out now. I wanna go back to that to say let's just be over that. Maybe not even, but. The past however many years, it's just been this fakeness this. People feeling like they have to be a certain way, like tippy toeing around other people not saying certain things. And we could go down a whole way with this road, but let's just cut it. Cut. The fake authenticity is the highest. Vibe. Authenticity is the highest vibration. So let's be that. This is what you are. This is what you are here for. You are just here. If you did nothing else in your life, but just be your full, authentic self, that would be enough. That's enough. That's all you have to do. All you have to do is show up as your full, authentic self. So let's go do that, right? You guys. Okay. Hope this landed and let's talk soon. All right. Bye.