Hi, friends. Welcome and welcome back to Head Case to Headspace. I don't know why I still just always laugh at that title. Um, all right. Head Case to Headspace. This is about doing the inner work, doing the shadow work, working on yourself, healing, and making it easy and down-to-earth, accessible, right? So as that is true, I'm recording this at 7:47 AM on Tuesday, and I promised myself I'd get these out every Tuesday morning by about 8:00 or 9:00. So here we are. All right. Um, so what we're gonna talk about today is looking for things outside of yourself, so looking for things externally. So whether that's joy, happiness, love, fulfillment, validation, right? Whatever that is, is we tend to a lot of times look for things outside of ourselves, right? This is just how it's designed. This is how we're pulled. This is what society pulls us to do. This is what is wanted for us to do because what happens when this is the case, it pulls us away from our own intuition. It pulls us away. It actually pulls us away from our connection from God, right? So when you look at it in the fact that you are a piece of God, right? You are a part of Source. God created you. You are part of Source. So to deny yourself and pull yourself away from your own intuition and know and think that anyone else knows better than you and anything outside of you can give you that, again, whatever it is, happiness, joy, fulfillment, validation. If, if you're thinking that anything outside of yourself can give you that, then you are saying that anything outside of God can give that to you. So you're looking elsewhere, right? If you're looking elsewhere other than yourself, then you're saying that anything else other than God can give you what you need. Right? And this can go down the slippery slope again of like, this is what they, quote unquote, want us to do because it's pulling us to things that benefit them, right? Looking externally, which would for fulfillment or happiness could be alcohol and drugs. It could be shopping and overconsumption, consumerism, right? It can be scrolling on your phone constantly and using that as your outlet, right? It could be, um, you know, porn or whatever else, whatever else that it is, okay? That's looking outside of yourself for fulfillment, looking outside of yourself for that filling yourself up for that joy, right? Is actually denying yourself. And this goes with a lot of the shadow work because this is why we do the shadow work because denying your shadow, not seeing your shadow, then it has control over you. Not seeing that it has control over you and when you're denying your shadow, when you're denying part of yourself, you're not whole. Similar to this, when you're looking and searching outside of yourself, you're saying you're not whole and saying that you're not whole, saying that you don't know, saying that you're not tapped into your intuition, saying that you don't have whatever it takes, you don't have everything within you is denying God, right? Is denying source. Okay, so think about the times that you have looked outside of yourself for something, for a need, right? You had a need for something, you felt this need, and you looked outside of, and you seeked outside of yourself to make some... to make yourself feel better, right? For what- whatever it was in, in a situation. Say you're, I don't know, having a hard time and you're bummed out, so you go online and shop, or you have this thing in your head where you think that you buy yourself a nice purse, and it will change your life, or you get something new, and you'll then automatically be a new person, or you don't feel fulfilled, or you feel anxious, and then you eat, or you overeat, right? Or you drink, so you can numb yourself out or do other things, right? Whatever it is. Even being in relationships, you can be in a relationship for the wrong reasons, right? P- 90% of people out there probably are doing this right now. You can talk to the wrong people, seek out the wrong type of guys, the wrong dates, right? Be actual... be in a relationship because you need to be fulfilled, right? Because you're seeking outside of yourself because you're thinking that something outside of you is actually going to fulfill you, and when does that actually work? It doesn't. Even if you're not seeing it that it doesn't work, right? Maybe you're not seeing that you're in the relationship for the wrong reasons, but you're afraid to leave. I mean, this could be a whole podcast on itself, so let's maybe do this next week. But using, using either the relationship as an example or using, say, the eating as an example, right? Or the buying something. So you have this need within you that you need to be fulfilled, you need to be... There's something that you are feeling like you're lacking, and you're needing something. So even if we go to back to the shopping example of you're in a bad place, you're bummed, "Oh, I'm gonna go online and buy myself some new things." Okay, does that make you feel better? Maybe for the moment when the packages arrive, that excitement, you get excited, you're tracking your package. If it's Amazon, it's there the next day. You are, you know, happy when you're opening it. It's fun, it's new. Ooh, okay, it's exciting. How long does that last? A day? A week? Right? Maybe if it's a bigger purchase, like a purse or a car or something like that, a house, right? Feeling like you can... if you buy a new house, if you, um- you know, have something different, then you'll be different, right? But how long does that actually last? It's not sustainable because it's not actually you. It's something actually external. It's not actually source. It's not actually God. It's something external because you looked externally outside of yourself, right? So the shopping or the eating or the relationships, right? It can feel good in the moment. It can be, you know, sustainable for a little bit, a little bit of time because you're fulfilling something. It's making you excited. It's something new or you're numbing out, right? It's taking that little piece of whatever you need fulfilled. So it's shortly, I'm trying to think of the right word, like putting a band-aid on it, right? So it's like putting a band-aid on something. It's for the short term, helping you out a little bit, giving you that little bit of whatever it is you're getting from it, dopamine hit, making yourself feel validated, right? You're in a relationship. So you think you're, you know, you've made it. You get the shopping, you get the packages. So you feel excited. You're eating, you're eating food. So you numb that anxiousness, that anxious feeling. And trust me, I know this with, especially with the food stuff, because I used to do that. Okay, so all of these things are temporary fix. It's, it's a temporary fix for our nee- feeling the need for something. So not feeling whole, which usually comes from not integrating your shadow, right? Because you're denying up whole pieces of yourself. So that's where that stems from. That's where that comes from. That's why the shadow work is so important, because not feeling whole starts from that not integrating your shadow. And then from there, you seek outside of yourself externally for something else to fulfill that, right? So how do we start to and begin to come from this place of being everything that we need, being everything that we need, and internally going back within, which again, is really going to source, going to God. That's where that's all coming from, obviously, right? That's where the everything is coming from and extending from. So how do we get back to that? Getting back to our own inner knowing, getting back to our own intuition, doing the shadow work, doing the work on ourselves so that we can begin to feel fully fulfilled within ourselves, and that's what's going to last. That's what's going to be sustainable, because nothing, no thing outside of yourself is ever going to be lasting to make you happy or to fulfill you So start going within. Start noticing these external things, these external needs, these external wants for something, this neediness for something outside of yourself. Start paying attention and noticing where this comes from. Notice when you have that need to, you know, do shopping or eating or take a look at, around you at your relationships and your need for things, your need for validation for certain things. Start, start there. Start with the awareness. Start with, um, noticing when you reach for things externally, when you reach, you know, physically, emotionally, spiritually reaching for something outside of yourself. Start to notice when that happens. Start to notice why that happens. Start to become aware of, you know, when, why, how you do it. It's just going back to that noticing, becoming aware of, and asking yourself the questions. And then see how you actually feel. Notice how it makes you feel. It does fulfill you in the moment. It does fulfill you for a few weeks, a few days, whatever it is, right? Notice how it's making you feel. And then how do you get back to that, creating that feeling, getting back to that feeling and inner knowing that that comes from you, that comes from Source, that comes from God. Going back to yourself, that inner knowing. You have it all within you. So notice that feeling and knowing that you can create it within yourself. You have access to that feeling all the time because it's the feeling that you're looking for. It's not the actual, you know, new clothes on Amazon, or it's not the actual, you know, um, food, the piece of chocolate cake, whatever it is. That's not actually what you want. It's that feeling, that fulfillment that you get from it. It's that fulfillment or that validation that you get from that relationship, right? You're in a relationship with someone that you are not meant to be in. It's that fulfillment that you're getting from it. It's that feeling that you're getting. It's not that actual person. It's not them. It's that feeling that you're getting, and you are able to create that feeling within yourself. So start to become aware of when you're doing these things, when you're reaching for something external. Even if you do it, even if you go for it, I'm not saying you don't have to do it, just notice. Notice what you're doing. Notice what you're doing. See that feeling, notice that feeling, see what you're getting from it, what feeling are you searching for, and then go back within and access it within you. That's how we start this work. That's how we do this work. Always going within. Right? The way out is in. The way out is within. All right, friends, you have it. You got it. Let's get after it on this gorgeous day. All right, thank you for listening, and let's check chat soon. Bye.