Birds of the Internet

There are way too many birds on the internet and unfortunately K-pop has created the perfect environment for them to thrive.

In this episode I talk about pick-me women, parasocial relationships in K-pop, and how the whole “I’m not like other girls” thing somehow gets even worse when people are fighting for the imaginary approval of men who do not know they exist.

I also go on approximately one million tangents about feminism, relationships, my personal life, and whatever else entered my brain while recording this.

Basically: K-pop, internalized misogyny, parasocial delusion, feminism, and oversharing. Enjoy.

Transcript

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Hello everyone, welcome back to my podcast, Yapper Final Boss. I am so sorry about the long hiatus. I've had a crazy three to four months. Around three, four months ago. Four months ago, actually. It's almost half a year. Crazy how time flies. I was working in Thailand and then I lost my forefront teeth because of because of a seizure. Had to come back to fix my teeth, and then went back to Thailand to get my stuff to move back to Korea. And now I'm here. So I can finally restart my podcast. I'm super excited. I have my podcast mic. I have all my equipment. I have new ideas. I'm a lot more eloquent than I than I was when I started the podcast. So that's also very exciting as well. So yeah, I was debating because none of my nothing I ever film is scripted. I know that's like a really crazy idea to some, but I don't ever script anything. Everything I do is impromptu. Which is crazy, right? Like I'll pause the mic to think about what I'm gonna do, but for the most part, everything I do, whether it's my TikToks, social media, like okay, I'm not I don't really have a presence on Instagram, and that's mostly because my digital footprint isn't the most clean in a way. Like I have like a kind of not kind of, I have like my Missanders platform, and I don't want employers to see my face on well, especially people I have worked with or people that I'm going to work with on Instagram, which is why my Instagram account is private and it's not linked on my TikTok. So I don't I'm not active on Instagram publicly. I am active like with my close, like people I know in person, but I it used to be public, but then I was kind of like, I don't think I'm ever gonna post on Instagram anyways, just because my digital footprint isn't clean enough for all of like it's not like I'm like a cute influencer for like reviews makeup. I'm like I'm very controversial. Like, I know I'm not gonna act like I'm not a contr a somewhat controversial figure in the social media world. And then I have my podcast, which I upload on Apple and um Spotify, and then I have my TikTok account, which is blowing up, especially ever since my rating men's looks series. Oh my gosh, I did not think that series would pop off like that. And there is like an endless amount of men to rate. Like I have a backlog, guys. Like I have probably a backlog of like, okay, someone of the most random men, I have men from the Harry Potter series, men from the Vampire Diaries series, men from Supernatural, and then of course I have my my list of K-pop idols that I still have to do. Like so many. I was like, these groups exist, and I have like older groups that they want me to do. I have I have males from Korean dramas that they want me to rate. I have like football players, aka soccer from like I still have an I still have another Portuguese team yet. So I guys, I am on a full, and then my Thai best friend wants me to rate Thai men. So like I am on I have a full backlog of men I need to rate, which I did not think this series would pop off like this. I am so surprised. I don't know why this episode of my podcast became like a little life update, but here we are. I just I it's I have to explain why I've been gone for so long. So yeah, I mean obviously it's be mostly because of my teeth and like equipment issues and stuff like that, and then I was thinking about like what I want to do, and like my series on TikTok was like popping off. Like, I I'm still so shocked at how much love I'm receiving from that series. The amount of death threats I've also gotten from that series is crazy. Like, the amount of death threats I received about boy groups and Holland, actually. I said Holland looks like an inbred caveman, and people did not take that. Well, I'm like, guys, he's an influential rich athlete. Like, he does not give a shit whether I talk about how he looks like an inbred caveman, anyways. So I was debating like what topic I should do today because that's that whole raiding men's series is kind of like my uh inspiration for today's episode. I thought about doing an episode called Birds of the Internet because I've seen so much bird-like behavior, and actually one of my friends didn't know what a bird is. Like, obviously, she knows what a bird, like the animal is, and she's Aussie, so she knows what like bird is in like the Commonwealth English context, but she didn't know what bird meant internet slang wise because it's a it's very I feel like it's a fairly recent slang word, and I'm pretty sure it was made by the black American community on social media specifically. Please correct me if I'm wrong. So a bird is basically just a woman who is down bad for men. So it's like a it's like a really creative way to say pick me. And I learned recently from my best friend actually that it is called bird because their birds are always looking for crumbs, they're always looking for leftovers. So it's basically a woman who will do anything for men. I do think the birds are especially active in the K-pop community, and I think it has to do with the parasocial aspect that the K-pop industry loves to market. Because if you think about it, like all entertainment industries, right? Whether it's you're streaming Ariana Grande, you're consuming I'm trying to think. I I'm like I have a brain freeze right now. Whether you're consuming Anne Hathaway, Emma Stone, Taylor Swift, whatever artist, actress, actress, actor you consume. All these celebrities are objectified to a certain extent. Even men, even male celebrities are right. It's just the entertainment industry works on objectifying and using people as a source of consumption and objectification. Just any no matter where you consume your entertainment around the world, the States, Korea, Japan, India, whatever. But I think K-pop has really mastered the art of being parasocial with your faves because that's what they want, right? That's how they make their money. That's why you have pat platforms like Bubble, where like you can personally like send a message to your fave, and your fave will act like he's texting you back. And like with the live streams and their the personal YouTube channels where you can watch vlogs of these members or like little like reality TV shows that the that the companies have curated for the audience to consume, right? It's like K-pop, I will always give it that. It is a complete stealing of black culture and then turning black American culture specifically, and then turning it into something that's digestible for an East Asian and a more global and for an East Asian audience specifically, right? It's been catered to that, especially. I mean, I of course black American culture is consumed globally and it is the OG and it it will always be the best. I mean, this is you don't want to see a Korean boys and girls singing trot like or ballots, you know. The reason K-pop does well is because it does steal from black American culture. Let's not act like they don't do that, the industry, the whole industry. But I will say, I don't think the parasocial aspect of it comes from black American people. If I'm not, I could I could be completely wrong. I know the music, the dancing, and all the singing styles, all that comes from black American people. But the parasocial aspect of it specifically, I think that's something that Korea specifically has. I think they took inspe from Japan with the whole trainee culture and all that. That's that I know comes from Japan. But the art of mastering all so taking like little snippets from all over the world and then turning it into this like parasocial hub, that I think Korea mastered that art on its own by taking influence from other places. So yeah, I think you know, K-pop is has built this like parasocial empire, and so it's genius in a way in that no matter what their faves do, they're especially when it's men, right? Because men never get canceled, let's be honest. No matter what these no matter what heinous things these men do, they're never gonna get cancelled because these parasocial girls will be like, that's my oppa, that's my man. So you see the worst of the bird culture on the K-pop. I I almost want to call it it's like a fem cell fear. Like, you know how there's the manosphere? Like, I feel like there's like a chem k pop fem cell version of it. Cause I've rated men from like all different sectors, right? I've rated F1 drivers, I've rated like League of Legends players, I've rated like just football players, like everyone across the board. And the worst comments I received and the most death threats I received are specifically from K-pop boy group stands. And so as a content creator who makes content mostly on like sort of really radical feminist ideas and you know treating men the way women are treated in society. That's a big part of my platform. I know a lot of people just see me as a K-pop channel, which in a way is frustrating too because my page never started started off that way. I don't know how I got I think I started teaching Korean on my platform because I wanted to like see like I wanted to do different types of content, right? I wasn't trying to, you know, I I wanted to diversify my profile and try different things because I'm I have a lot of different interests, right? Obviously, Korean is a part of my heritage. I I live here, I speak fluent Korean. A lot of my personality is comes from my Korean heritage, right? Especially because I've lived here for a long time now. Like if I total the time I've lived here going back and forth and then just living here consistently, I've been here since 2018. So it's been almost 10 years since I've lived here, right? And so like as an adult, I never went to school here, but I did like do all of my like like the stepping stones of like like I call it adult teenagehood, which is basically in my 20s, right? I spent a majority of my 20s here, so of course, like Korea will always hold a special place in my heart, even though I've had so many ups and downs here. And so it's just crazy, right? Where was I going with this? I'm sorry, I'm losing my tra train of thought. Alright, diversifying my social media profile. And so one of the things I did was, you know, teaching Korean on my platform because that's I mean, like it also intertwines with like the 4B movement, which is also a movement that has piqued my interest in recent years, right? It's been like a big thing in the specifically in the feminist sphere since like 2021. And so I started this career teaching learn Korean with me on my platform. And I also did occasionally post K-pop content, but it wasn't my main source of entertainment. But of course, because K-pop is like K-pop people love to be on the internet, they're like chronically online, right? They're like some of the most chronically online people I've seen. And this is coming from someone who is chronically online, right? And so those videos obviously just blow up the most. I just I never wanted my content to just be based on that. So like for a while I didn't post anything about K-pop. I remember after the whole um so basically what happened was that I was posting like just like everything teaching Korean, man hating. Occasionally I'd post some like, you know, k-pop content. It was it was really, really rare. I posted k-pop content back in like 2021, 2022. And then one day someone comments. I sorry, I know this is like really I'm getting I'm going on a tangent. I always go on tangents. I'm so sorry. This is why this podcast is called Yapper Final Boss. I cannot stay on topic. So I'm sorry. Anyways, one day I post a Korean teaching video, and this K-pop stand posts on my page, specifically a new jeans stand, because this is the when I posted this video, it was like at the height of New Jeans's career, and it was also at the height of their legal battle with Hybe. And so someone posts a comment being like, Tell me what you think about the New Jean situation. And so I posted what I thought, like how entertainment works, like why I'm I'm not surprised. This is like a man's and again, this also intertwined with my man hating content, right? Because I was like, this the reason why New Jean's career is is like where it is right now and why they are in this unnecessary legal battle is because of a man's ego. If I was like this, this perfectly because I've always liked K-wop, right? I've liked K-pop since 2006, and obviously I don't avidly consume it like I did when I was like a teenager, but I liked K-pop before K-wop was big abroad. And so I'm not trying to be like I'm the first one, like I liked him first. Like that's not what I'm saying, but I've always like K-pop has always held a special place in my heart. And so this especially was an in a case that piqued my interest because it intertwined with like my ideals of like what I thought think about in a feminist manner, right? And why this is happening because a man cannot handle that a woman is overpowering him and overdoing and overperforming compared to him, right? And it's so obvious. To me, it was blatantly obvious that it was like male ego death. And so I remember like you know, I don't know why hype stands hate New Jean so much. I never understood this. Even Koreans in the motherland don't understand it. I I don't know why Hype has like stands of its like company. I don't understand it. And so I promise this all relates to my birds of the internet episode. And so I post that com I post that video, it does well. All my K-pop videos do well, unfortunately. Unfortunately, I'm I wish I know it's fortunate, but I wish my non-k pop videos did well too. I'm so glad my writing men's series is doing well because it's it is it's outside of that K-pop sphere. And so, anyway, so I post that video. It does it go, it makes its rounds on Twitter. People always upload my shit to Twitter and they never credit me, but that's another that's another tangent. I'm sorry, I won't go too much into that. I've already done videos on my TikTok about that. And so my new jeans videos flow up, and then one day I accidentally I I accidentally liked this comment, right? It said fat bang. I just the comment said fat bang, and I thought that was funny. I was half asleep when I liked that comment. I was in the peak of my depression. I was also chronic like this is when my screen time was like 910 hours, which is like crazy. My screen time is not that high anymore. But this is at the peak of my depression, my screen time, just like I was just not in a good head meant space mentally as well. And so it had to do with this girl group, which I'm not gonna name on my podcast because I just don't people are I mean, no, people already don't watch three-minute, four-minute videos, they're not listening. Most people are not gonna sit through like a one-hour podcast episode. And so basically, it it it talks about the comments talked about a member of this girl group that is affiliated with Hybe. And so I made this, I mean, I'll admit I went on a Coke rant because it was so frustrating that K-pop stands with their whole parasocial aspect could are were completely forgetting how enter the entertainment industry globally works. And so I went on this Coke rant, which I admit it was a Coke rant, but it was like a Coke rant, a Coke rant with like legitimacy to it, in that like I knew what the fuck I was talking about because after all that stuff about Hybes legal stuff came out on the news, the national news, everything I said was right. And so, and so of course they're still a thriving company because men never get cancelled, and so I'm not the littlest, littlest bit surprised. And but anyways, what was I saying? And so I ended up being right, anyways. Fuck you all. But but yeah, because K-pop stands are so parasocial, and I don't know why, but that at that time period, most of the death threats, because people made that the wild assumption that I said this girl group slept their way up to the top. I never said that. I said, I said specifically, I said anything is within the realm of possibility, but this is how entertainment has been running, is what I said. I never specifically named any name-dropped anyone. You guys, the people in the comment section who kept misconstruing my content, and I still two year more than two years later, guys, I still get clips of like stuff. Like, mind you, I did multiple three to four minute videos on this topic, and they took one 10-second clip and ran with it. It's like, you know, when people read the Bible and then they only take a snippet and they just like they're like, I believe in Jesus. That's it, it's giving that. I'm so sorry. I'm getting so passionate about this because it's been like something that people have still been talking about for over two years, and I just it's a dead horse that does not mean to be beaten because no one is even watching the whole series. It it it's crazy. People will sit through like the first because I remember I saw the analytics for my videos about that girl group, and I would watch the anal I would see the analytics, because you get the analytics on your platform. It's like 0.5% have watched the whole video. No wonder why my arguments are getting misconstrued all over the fucking internet. And then K-pop stands are like the bottom of the barrel when it comes to intelligence. So, because had I posted that video about like an a Western pop star like Aryana Grande, most people would have agreed. Because Western stands don't get parasocial like that. Had I uploaded this video about Chapel Roan or some other like Fifth Harmony, any Western girl artist, a female artist, they would have agreed with me. It's just because it's K-pop. They can't accept the fact that like because you know, it uh this also intertwines with like East Asian like infantilization and orientalism, right? It's also like it's racism. A lot of K-pop, I would say most K-pop stands are racist, and not just the white ones, like they're all racist. And so you have this like racism mixed with infantilization, which all come together, right? And then people because they infantilize their their faves, there is this like, and then there's that parasocial aspect to it. They assume my fave could never, but I'm like, babe, they're still in entertainment. Whatever happens in entertainment will also apply to your fave. I'm so sorry. I mean, it's gotten better. The K-pop industry is less exploitative than it was 15, 20 years ago when I first got into K-pop, but doesn't mean that the industry has gotten any and so it has gotten less explo exploitative, but it doesn't mean it's still not a dirty industry. Entertainment is dirty everywhere. Hollywood is one of the dirtiest industries. Like, hello. I mean, Hayden Paneteer dying, which rests in peace legend, is not just like you don't it just exists. What is that what is that command quote? I don't remember, guys. It's coconut tree, but it's like you don't it just exists in a vacuum, right? Things happen, like things are intertwined. Like, but kids these days, like not to sound like a boomer, but they don't have any semblance of critical thinking. We these are we're watching iPad babies grow up now. So I mean, this is the result of throwing an iPad at your kid at like the age of five. So, anyways, with my with this, with with my recent series, right, with like raiding men and specific because I get a lot of requests to do K-pop male idols, and with K-pop stance being bottom of the barrel intelligence, most of them, and then obviously the parasocial aspect and the racism towards East Asians with the infetization and the infantilization. You're gonna get the worst of the worst birds. Thank you. Now we're back to the original topic at hand, and some of the comments I have received regarding these men is like, I'm like, how is this even possible? Which I understand my content of treating men the way women are treated will not resonate with everyone. Like, I understand that it's a very radical concept, it's not it's not a concept that the general public is willing to accept, which is why I don't post on Instagram. Uh because Instagram is very much like mainstream, like like everyday, like everyone is on Instagram, not everyone is on TikTok, like TikTok is a very like niche thing still. I don't know how it is in China with Doin, Doen, but in like specifically TikTok, like the Western version of TikTok is very, very like it's not mainstream, like even in Korea, like people don't like go on TikTok on a mainstream basis. It's like mostly for like a niche audience and like teenagers, like people my age, like anyone anywhere from like their ear like early 20s to like up, they're not on TikTok, but everyone is on Instagram, everyone and their mom is on Instagram globally. Thailand, Japan, Korea, uh, the states, Canada, Australia, people those countries, right? The specific countries that I've named, not everyone was on TikTok, but everyone was on Instagram. So that's why I don't post on Instagram. It's too, it's like Twitter. Twit I feel like TikTok and Twitter are kind of like in a say in a way they're like cousins, right? It's like not everyone is on Twitter, but people who are chronically online are on both platforms. I'm on both. I have gotten my screen time down to six hours to five hours a day. Very proud of myself, four or five hours a day. But my point is is that people who are chronically online and people a niche audience are on both TikTok and Twitter. Some people have both, some people only have one. My sister only uses Twitter, I only I use both, some people only use TikTok. So, anyways, back to what I'm saying. So, I because of this rare racism, parasocial aspect, and lack of intelligence from a lot of these K-pop stands, the comments I get from these boy group stands is crazy. And they would never defend women the way that they defend men on the internet. It's actually insane. Because had I made this series about like female idols, like rating the looks of female idols, it would never, I it wouldn't even be considered controversial. Perez Hilton Perez Hilton did it for fucking years. He made a whole career off of it. And so, um, sorry, what was I saying with this? And so I've gotten comments where it's like, oh, these K pop idols are people too. Which, okay. I mean, I guess. Like, I understand. Again, I know my content is not meant to be consumed by everyone. It's not gonna be everyone's cup of tea, right? Or they Go through depression too, blah blah blah. Which I'm not denying that you're you are in entertainment, your face, you're constantly being monitored, filmed, taking pictures of whatever. You're constantly under a microscope. It's an extremely stressful occupation. You can you have no sense of privacy or anything. I understand that. It's like even for the men, right? You know, this is the one time where I do where I do extend my sympathy to men. Um, it is in that way a stressful occupation where like everyone recognizes you. Sorry, I have to tie my hair. It's so hot. Everyone notices you, everyone knows what you're up to. There's always people trying to get into your life. Like, people celebrities have no privacy, especially the really famous ones. I feel like some of these boy groups, they're not that popular in Korea, so they can get away with like just going on to going outside with without any sort of like mask or bodyguard in Korea. But people like Arena Grande, like Taylor Swift, like Beyonce Gigi, like I feel like so. That's why I think to a certain extent, this I don't know if this is a hot take, but I feel like a lot of celebrities, like famous people, it doesn't even have to be just celebrities, like people like Obama, for example, like Trump, right? And again, I'm not saying that Trump and Obama are built the same. I'm just saying, like, people who are exposed to the public like that, right? Especially on like a global scale. I just feel like you have to have some sort of like sociopathic qualities to be able to deal with that. The average person cannot deal with that level of fame. I would never want I don't even like the fame sometimes. When I'm in Korea, people recognize me. They're like, oh much, aren't you on TikTok? I've I've experienced, I fucking hate it. I'm like, uh yeah, hi. And it's so awkward because I I didn't even post on the internet with the expectation to blow up. Because like I've never, I think I had one video when I was I made when I was like 16. And it's on it's still on YouTube because I can't get rid of that video. I've tried it for over a decade. I can't do it, so I just gave up. I look so different, anyways. Like, you probably wouldn't even recognize me, but it's a video uh be about me like going on a coke grant about why I was like 16, about why I hate being Korean, and it has over a hundred thousand views. I think I was meant to be on I think I was meant to be in content creation with the way I have these like crazy opinions. Oh, anyways, so that's my little that was the start of my like content creation, if you think about it. That was like the origin point. They call it she braked jung in Korean, actually. It's not like she bra the actual curse word, but like it's called like it's called she brak jung, which is like the origin point. So maybe that's where it all started. Maybe I had I've always had it in me. Maybe content creation was something that I I was supposed to do. Maybe it was a path I was supposed to go on. So, anyways, I'm so sorry. Where was I going with this? And so, yeah, so I just I'm so sorry. I lost my train of thought. This is what happens when you when you don't script anything. I'm sorry. So, anyways, uh yeah, so okay, back to what I was saying about my content not being for everyone. I think that's where I was at. And so I get comments like, oh, oh right, how celebrities go through things. I have AHD, so as you can tell. So obviously I have comments like, oh, like celebrities go through stuff too, like idols go through things, they have problems. Like, why are you commenting on his weight? Like, you're so fat phobic. Honestly, and I will die on this hill. I think fat phobia only applies to women. Like, I think, okay, I think weight is a very not with men. I don't give a fuck about men. With specifically with like women, right? I think weight is a very nuanced issue in that. Like, I understand why women go through the health issues they go through. I but I will stand on I will die on the hill that that obesity is not healthy. I'm so sorry. Like, I I don't know if that's like what I'm not gonna be rude to an obese woman, and I'm not gonna like, you know, act like obese women don't deserve to wear clothes or anything like that. But I'm not gonna act like obesity is healthy and it's a it's a lifestyle that we should all aspire to either, right? And I have the same energy for anyone who's too skinny, by the way. I have the same energy, and so I don't think fat phobia is applicable to men because men don't go through the same like uh scrutinization and the same mental health issues and the same hormonal issues that women's bodies go through. And so I'm like, as a man, you have no excuse to be fat. So I am fat phobic towards men, and so they're like, you're so fat phobic toward these men, blah blah blah, which a lot of these are comments I was expecting, right? Because people cannot like the this is everyone, not just K-pop stands. This is like general public stuff, dude, because I don't I actually touch grass on like K-pop stands. So I talk to everyone and in many different guys, I'm very well traveled. I've lived in like five countries. Sorry, I need a sip of water. I'm very well traveled, I speak a lot of languages, I travel a lot, and so I talk to people from all walks of life, and so my radical form of feminism, which some people may not even consider a feminism, I think is a form of feminism because I'm not rude to men on a day-to-day basis. Believe it or not, I don't go up to random man on the street and go fuck you. Like, like I'm actually very core cordial to all people I meet. And I so I talk to people from all walks of life, and of course, because I've worked in corporate, I know like I don't give off like corporate baddie vibes, but guys, I've been working in corporate since 2018. So I have a lot of job experience on like on my plate, like my resume is like stacked. I know it's unbelievable because like my online persona is so like unhinged, but I do have a lot of like work experience on my belt, and so, anyways, where were they going? Right, so the general public's perception of treating men the way women have treated is a very radical concept, and so I think people's in people's heads they cannot fathom that we even treat women this way to begin with because it's been so normalized that attitude, right? Like objectifying women, scrutinizing women's bodies and the what how they act, and just the way women are sexualized from a young age. I mean, that woman on TikTok, I don't know if you saw the video, guys, that she posted a video about like how men, how boy, I'm sorry, not men, I'm so sorry, how boys' clothes are manufactured at the same age. It was like six months to a year or something like that. And how well baby baby girls' clothes are are made from six months to a year, and the baby girls' clothes, even though they're just they're the same size, because because boys don't really grow until like puberty, right? And they don't really they don't really outdo women in like boys don't outdo girls in height until like they reach like what the age of like 14, 15. So they're usually are until that age around the same size, and so six six month-old, of course, boys are always going to be a little bit bigger just because like testosterone and genetic makeup in general. But my point is is that uh at that six month year age, boys are not much bigger from girls. I I my best friend has a kid, so I know. Like obviously he's big, but that he is big because of his like his dad, his grandpa's big and his mom is tall. Not because he's a boy, if if you know what I mean. Like at that age, he's he's two, and so there's not much of a uh uh sorry, there's not much of a difference in like height and weight between baby girls and baby boys until the age of like 13, basically. And so the boy so the girls' clothes are manufactured to be so much shorter and more like tight than the boys' clothes, right? So and then when with girls' clothes, like young girls' clothes specifically, like they have like a lot of like sensitive sensitory, sense what is it called, where you can touch and you can feel something, like the the sequins and stuff like that, like interact clothes that are inter you can interact with, like like touching-wise. I can't remember the name. I'm sorry guys, like there's like olfactory and like auditory, I can't remember the touch one, and so they put it like on the chest area. So the sexualization of young girls starts so early, and then you have those magazines I grew up reading, right? I'm old, so I grew up reading like cosmopolitan and like vogue, teen vogue, and stuff like that, right? And and there's like articles on like how to impress the man, how to impress the man during sex, and then another content creator, because I follow a lot of feminist content creation on TikTok, and so that's that's why I love TikTok because I like to use it for like I know people use it for different things. I love TikTok for feminist content, that's why I'm on it. And so there's there's another content creator who posted like men's was it cosmopolitan versus the woman's version of cosmopolitan, like the magazine, and for the woman's side, it was like, oh, how to impress them during sex, what to wear on your first date, blah blah. But none the men's stuff was none of it was that it was like enhance your confidence, like uh nothing to do with looks, and so it's just like man's stuff. Like, sorry, there's a fly in my room, and so yeah, it's just so different the way it starts from when we're born, and then it just continues on. And then even now on social media, right? I see so many videos because Instagram and TikTok not TikTok, TikTok is where I only get feminist content on TikTok. I and I make sure my algorithm is curated that way. I don't consume anything k-pop related on TikTok, and I plan to keep it that way despite being a quote unquote K-pop content creator. I don't consider myself that, but people do, so we'll just go with it. And so, um, yeah, so um what are they going with this? So on Instagram and Twitter, I get a lot of K-pop content. So um, I'm so sorry, I'm I I always lose my train of thought. And so on specifically on those social media platforms, right? I see so many videos, not just of K-pop idols, but of all female celebrities, where it's like how their face has changed from 2012 to now, or how her weight has changed, how her blah blah blah has changed. I never see, and I don't know if it's because I don't because I I follow everything on Instagram and and Twitter. And my twit my Instagram is not curated for any sort of like feminist content or anything too woke. It's very much like GP curated. The the Instagram algorithm is not as good as a TikTok algorithm, I'd argue, but that's a different topic. So, anyways, sorry, I have a message on LinkedIn. Let me just check what that is. Uh I think someone oh, someone messaged me. Give me just a sec, guys. Sorry, I had to respond to a message I received on LinkedIn. Very important message, anyways. So back to what I was talking about. I don't remember what I was talking about. So sorry, fuck. Alright, so women's bodies are women's bodies and faces. I I'm losing my like hood, my like like whole flow. And so I constantly see women's bodies, faces being scrutinized on social media, but men, again, maybe it's because I don't follow men. I highly doubt it though. I never see it. I n I almost unless it's a really radical transformation. And I've asked friends who are who are in a lot of like different spheres on social media if they see any sort of content hyper-analyzing men's faces, men's bodies, what have you. Never, never, and so almost never. And so I'm right, like you know, so I decided to start this series not because I want to dive deeper into the K-pop realm. No, that was never my intention. It's just unfortunately my K-pop videos just to do too well. And so I was like, I want to do a rating men's series. I didn't even specifically mention K-pop idols, but again, blew up. People are eating the shit up because it's people think it's radical, of course, but it's the first time on social media that I've seen where a men are being treated like women. Like I'm actually like, I go into their bodies, the way their bodies look, their faces, what they need to fix on their faces, and stuff like that. Like stuff that men in the manosphere say about women. And so I was like, I'm I'm going full on out in this whole treating men the way women are treated in society. And you see it right with like the the sexualization of the objectification of women starts early. And then you see how women are treated in society from a non-sexualization and objectification perspective, and the way how women are are treated, right? How we are taken seriously in society, how pay raises how there's gate pay gaps for the same roles with men and women, and just how men can't take no from and from a woman, and how if a woman says no, unless a man is with her, the man doesn't take her seriously, right? And it's it's the it's every like it's everyday interactions women's women face, and a lot of women in like especially more conservative countries or who are of an older age, like I tell my my mother this, for example, or like I have this this lady I used to work with from the Philippines who I would tell this, and she like just didn't believe in in how misogyny could be a concept, and I also think it's because she's Catholic. I think the religious, and I'm not specifically singling out Catholicism, I think all religion is toxic, except for like Buddhism, but Buddhism isn't really a religion to me to a certain extent, because it's more like a lifestyle choice, right? A lot of the times. And but anyway, so where I was going with this is that women, I think if women accepted that we are treated like shit in society, I think what most women would spiral. Because when I took my first women's studies class, right? I I was told that like, you know, women of color face more oppression than white women, but women across the board face oppression, and that's why intersectionality is so important in the feminist sphere. And I remember at the age of 19 when I first discovered this, because like once you learn about it, it's like you can't close your eye because it's everywhere. And so once I opened my once my eye was opened, thank you, woman studies professor. I can't remember her name. I wish I could like shout her out. But you have turned me into the radical feminist I am today. Uh, for better or for worse. Uh sometimes I wish I was dumb about this kind of stuff, but unfortunately, I am not. And so my third eye just opened. And so ever since I discovered that, and I actually helped open the eye of my best one of my best friends too. And so once I opened my eye to that how women are treated in society, I just could never close it. It just like once you realize it, it just it changes you. It makes you cry. I I crashed out about this for months. And when I first discovered it, because I was like, it's just like everything you learned about from a societal standpoint just crumbles. Like your whole foundation crumbles. It's like when I had to deconstruct religion. It was like that same, but it's like I wasn't like deep in the religious like whole. Like no one in my family is like super religious. Like my family is religious, but my family doesn't participate in any sort of radical form of Christianity or anything like that. Like my my parents, my my sister isn't really. I would say my sister's like practically atheist, but she doesn't want to admit it. But my parents still like they only like listen to church sermons online, so they're not like deep down the religious rabbit hole, but they're still like religious, right? Their foundation is still it's still a little bit religious. And so I remember it was like the feeling of it to me was deconstructing religion, but way, way, way more extreme because religion doesn't affect me. I'm not religious anymore. So I just think religion sounds like a load of bullshit. But feminine feminism, right? And just like being a woman in this world, in this patriarchal world, and having to come to terms with that was so like I remember I made my friend crash out about it too, and she's like 29. I think I made her crash out about it at the age of like 27, 28, but I was discovering this shit at 19 before my frontal lobe was even fucking developed. And I remember it was just like boom, like, and then ever since then I've always been like a super outspoken radical feminist. So here I am 10 more than 10 years later to tell my story. And so yeah, once you a lot of women like to live in ignorance. A lot of because ignorance is nice, ignorance is bliss. There's a reason why that quote exists. It's like once you discover these things, it's like you're just you ha you can't just live life peacefully anymore. Because you're like, oh, it's like I ha let me hop on the spectrum for a minute, as they say on screen queens. But everything, every interaction in life turns into some sort of like feminist discussion, some sort of dissection of society. Like, I I think it's because I'm like, I'm pretty sure I have some sort of form of autism too. I know I have ADHD for sure, but I probably have some sort of mild form of autism. I don't I I'm definitely on the spectrum, guys, like for sure. Cause and I think all of my friends are on the spectrum. Like all of my friends have some some of some form of mental illness. And so, anyways, where's it going with this? And so, for me, everyday interactions, things I just see online become like a feminist dissertation. Like, for example, there's a new frozen movie coming out, right? And people were and Olaf's love interest is a woman, which I why is Olaf not gay? I feel like this is a sign of the rise of fascism and right-wing values. Because why is Olaf's love interest a woman? And why does Olaf have a love interest to begin with? Like, why does the why is a snowman finding love before me? What the fuck? Anyways, and so I remember seeing tweets online of people belittling Olaf's female, uh, Olaf's woman love interest hair. They're like, her hair looks a mess. Her hair looks nappy. And I was like, why do I feel like this is a form of misogyny? Because no one's saying anything about Olaf's hair. Olaf's hair looks a mess. Maybe but my best friend did tell me that they did originally say Olaf looks a mess in the when the first movie came out, so I miss that form. I missed that page of the social media. But um, I don't remember being like thinking, like, oh my gosh, why are they belittling this this woman's looks like this looks like this? But I'm telling you, when you are a radical feminist like me, everything, every sort of minute interaction becomes a feminist dissertation, and it's so exhausting. Sometimes I'm just like, I wish I was like a brain dead bird. I sometimes I sometimes do. I know these women deep inside aren't more happy, but imagine living in a world where you think men are actually good people. Wow, I I sometimes I want it, sometimes I do, like sometimes sometimes I just want to be like a normie and just like live life peacefully, but unfortunately that's just not the case. And so, with my whole rating men's looks right, I'm just treating the way society has treated women. But a lot of women will be in denial about this because they're like, oh, we don't treat men like this. We we have baby, we've been doing this since the crack of dawn. You guys just don't pay attention. But people just it's so normalized. Okay, I'm not gonna say you guys don't pay attention, that's rude. I'm just kidding. But it's like it's it's so normalized, you don't notice it. It's like it's like how four in four women have been raped, but I would say that's actually underreported because I talk to so many women. Again, I talk to people of all walks of life, and I would say that statistic comes closer to 38%. For in of course, I'm not saying my experience is everything, but I think the one in four women is heavily underreported. I would say it's higher because like people's definition of rape is different, right? Everyone's I think any form of coercion is rape, but people, but I feel like a lot of a lot of men coerce women into having sex, but a lot of women would not label that as rape. We're getting into deep shit, and so and so I think that statistic is severely heavily underreported. And so, yeah, this is and so when you're treating men the way women have been treated, people are gonna take it a certain way. People are gonna think it's like such a you're so mean. And yeah, and so that's why I see all these comments, and I think a lot of these birds just also don't know how women have been treated in society. I don't think I don't think they'll ever know because some of them are real stupid. Some of them some of them like I I understand the comments like oh, like they're people too, like they have they can suffer from depression, like whatever. Those kind of comments I was expecting. Death threats. People have been sending me death threats over men. Are we okay? Over men, you don't even know. That's where I was like, we've lost the plot. And then people, the people that really get me are the ones who this these this the frequency of these comments has decreased over time. But the women in my comment sections who are like, oh my gosh, like who are you to rate people's looks? Look at yourself. You're so ugly, you're so fat, you're so I'm like, oh my god, you guys are literally literally perpetuating the misogyny women have experienced for decades for millennia, forever. In my comment section. People just don't understand the whole point of the series, which is also unfortunate. And yeah, I've I get death threats every day, guys. I mean, I don't care because they're from like stupid, a lot of them are also from stupid teenagers, but a lot of them are from dumb women who are my age. And so, yeah, I need to conclude this episode because I feel like it's just me yapping about fuck all for 43 minutes. Holy shit, I had a lot, I had a lot to talk about. And so the conclusion of this episode is is people as a content creator, especially when you're in this radical feminist sphere, people are always, especially in this media literacy crisis we're in, and just literary crisis in general, people are always going to misconstrue your content, people are never going to understand your content fully, people are gonna take everything you say out of context, blah blah blah, etc. You just have to accept it and move on, and just know that there are not birds of a feather, but birds of the internet, and they will constantly do this. They will, I still have the same birds leave the same comments in all of my comment section. And so, yeah, just just you know, just uh keep treating men the way women are treated. Women in male fields. I always advocate for women to be in male fields, and with that, I will conclude this episode. Thank you so much for listening, guys. See you in the next one.