A-Latte Confessions

Confessions from reditt, some might be chill but others piping hot. Enjoy my hawties '.' 

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SPEAKER_04 0:08

Welcome. This is RTK coming to you very careful.

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Hi. Welcome back again.

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I'm back.

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This is R. This is Kay. How are my Hari Lattes doing?

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Hey Hari Lattes. I'm doing good. How about you?

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Um, you know, I'm surviving. I feel old as hell, but I'm surviving. That's good.

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Survive on, survive on.

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Right, right. And it's raining right now.

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It is. It's nice.

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I thought the thunderstorm was gonna actually like last a little bit. Yeah. So we could catch the vibes.

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Yeah, I thought it was gonna be worse, but kind of sad it wasn't.

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Yeah, I feel that.

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It was nice and windy. Oh my gosh. I love the way the wind blows before a storm.

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I love it. I know, I know. Excuse my child in the back again. But um, today we're gonna be doing confessions from Reddit. Um, and then we're gonna have like, you know, like a little mini discussion after each episode. So I guess we'll start with yours.

SPEAKER_04 1:21

All right. We're gonna start with a confession off of Reddit. Uh, I'm not gonna say the name, but it starts with I'm a shitty person. I'm a shitty guy. I am a bum and a weirdo. I'm a grown-ass man in my 30s, living in housing and a junkie. I had a traumatic livelihood. I should be in a hospital or jail. I've done very questionable things that maybe should have had me in hospital or jail. And I did go to jail for those things, and now I have a record. And kids. I have two kids by a woman I don't even love no more, and stay with because it's comfortable. We are trashy people and we have kids. I'm high right now writing this. I need help, some very serious help. I am not okay, and I freaking have kids. I've doomed them before their life could even start. I've ruined them. That's how shitty I am. I'm also a stalker. I've stalked all my exes and family. I am a creepy man. I am that. Watch out for your kids. I don't mean to be, but my life is shitty and now I'm a shitty person. I can't keep a job for more than an hour. I can't keep a job. I can't be responsible. I'm a grown-ass man and I need rides from my mama because I can't be mad enough to go to the DMV and get my driver's license. I'm that shitty. I'm pitiful and a loser. I'm literally shitty, and I don't think it's ever gonna change. My life choices brought me here to my life now. I did this to myself. I have an addiction to drugs and alcohol. I'm a fucking addict and I have kids. I have kids, I have kids. I never thought I'd be living like this in a bum. I know I need to change, but I can't. I'm a junkie and big and a big baby, a grown baby man. I am this, this is my life. Please don't ever end up like me. Please don't do drugs and always stand your ground. Oh, God help me. I'm so sorry.

SPEAKER_03 3:22

Damn, that sounds more of like an end-it-all confession than anything. Um, first and foremost, addiction is never easy. Overcoming addiction is never easy. Yeah, it's like you're gonna relapse, relapse, relapse until you don't, you know. Um, I'm glad that he has awareness and accountability.

SPEAKER_04 3:47

Self-aware.

SPEAKER_03 3:48

Um, but you know, like I feel like you can only have so much pity for yourself until something literally snaps in your brain.

SPEAKER_04 4:01

Right.

SPEAKER_03 4:01

You know, and it could be a person, place, or thing that helps you snap that thing, you know, like or makes your brain realize that you're worth more than you know, like your situation, right? You know, yeah, but um I feel like in the end, his mom being there for him, like taking him to you know, go places, things of that nature, yeah, that's amazing. Like that's something that a lot of people don't have, right? You know, and so I think that's uh that's great. Um, I cannot stress this enough. Like, if you're having concerns, like mentally, like just talk to somebody, talk to a professional. Most definitely, you know what I'm saying? And people always say, Oh, well, therapy is not for me, therapy is not for me, like I just don't like therapy, um, stuff like that. But it really takes a special therapist to like really help you, you know what I'm saying? Like, it's kind of like friendships, like, you're not just gonna be friends with anybody, so like, why be a patient just to anybody? Yeah, and so no, I get it, like there's different forms of therapy. So, like, if talk therapy does not work for you, like don't do talk therapy, like there's uh aromatherapy, there's uh what is it, color therapy, yeah, or the light therapy.

SPEAKER_04 5:36

There's even diary therapy, yeah. Yeah, and so that worked for me. Like, I have a my therapist, she offered like where you would write and she would just read it. Yeah, that works for me because me talking about my feelings it's a no-go.

SPEAKER_03 5:50

Yeah, but um, and I feel like males especially take like a hard like I don't know, like it's like impossible just for them to seek help. Yeah, and it shouldn't be like that, yeah, you know. But that that's that's crazy.

SPEAKER_04 6:12

Yeah, I was really crazy. This person is very self-aware, they know they're in a bad situation, they know their kids are in a bad situation, so that's like half the battle. The second half is just getting your ducks and priorities in a row. Okay, you're an addict, you have kids, you feel bad for your kids, you know your kids shouldn't be in that situation, so therefore, find a way to put your kids in a situation where they're not around you, right in their in your addiction.

SPEAKER_03 6:41

Yeah.

SPEAKER_04 6:42

Once you get them settled, then you start working on yourself, you start knocking stuff out here and there, you start getting rid of that woman. You don't love her. That's causing even more unwarranted stress. She gotta go. Yeah. Like, or you gotta go. Like, have the hard conversation. Hey, sometimes you have to be uncomfortable to get to a point in your life where you're like comfortable. Like, yes, you're comfortable now, but there's like something better for you.

SPEAKER_03 7:10

Right.

SPEAKER_04 7:11

You just have to go through the hard part, you know? Yeah, and getting rid of her is next step. You gotta go, we gotta, we gotta raise these kids together, but that's it. I don't love you, no relationship. After that, start working on your addiction, start working on you. Go to they got group homes, and I know that sucks because nobody wants to be in a group home, you know.

SPEAKER_03 7:31

Right.

SPEAKER_04 7:31

But if they got group homes, they got shelters, they got rehabs, they got all kinds of also free, you know, uh organizations you can go through and get help, you know? Right. So I mean it's gonna be hard. That that's hard, and getting off the drugs is hard, but it's doable. Like you say, if that thing in your brain clicks and you wanna do it, you can do it.

SPEAKER_03 7:59

So wait, did it say in the story that he was still living with her? He's still living with her. Oh my god. Yeah, they still So I wonder if she's also an addict. Like, are they? He said we're shitty people.

SPEAKER_04 8:13

And you he also needs therapy really bad because he can't let his exes go. So he's living in the past somewhere. Like there's somewhere, something in the past that made him he was happy, but somehow it got messed up or whatever, and he ended up with this person. Might have been all good at one point, but you know, for whatever reason it is what it is now, but you know, it's it's a sad situation because there was a lot of people living like this. Yeah, and um it's sad, and he says, Don't do drugs and always stand your ground. So something happened also in his childhood that he's not able to cope with as well.

SPEAKER_03 8:53

Yeah, that's that's intense. Yeah, like I feel like I'll be able to do that.

SPEAKER_04 8:58

As a boy, like I'm not saying like he was, you know, M worded or R worded or whatever, but if that's that's usually the case, you know, if you're a boy and you have like your manhood taken away from you, like that's really hard. Yeah, it is. It definitely is. How do you stand your ground as a man if you've already been through that?

SPEAKER_03 9:22

Yeah, and it's no telling if he actually told somebody and they didn't do anything about it, you know?

SPEAKER_04 9:27

Right. Or if he could even have that outlet where he can't tell, but if he can't tell his mama because maybe she knows the person.

SPEAKER_03 9:34

Right. But definitely therapy.

SPEAKER_04 9:38

Get a therapist or somebody, a random person on the street. Like people, some people are very kind. I feel like you're kind. Where somebody can walk up to you and tell you their whole life story, you'd be like, you'd be like, uh-uh, no, you didn't mean it.

SPEAKER_03 9:54

Oh yeah, for sure. Parents girl, my patients do that to me all the time. Exactly. All the time. You are that person. And sometimes it's just like, oh my goodness, like I come out of that room, like, oh my god, like, no offense, but she talks or he talks or they talk so much. And other times it's like extremely enjoyable. Like, girl, I had a patient today like just dump on me for like 30 minutes. I was stuck in their room for 30 minutes. Not like stuck as in like in a bad way, but like, and all you have like sometimes all you have to do is just listen. Right.

SPEAKER_04 10:37

That's all they want is somebody that can listen to this.

SPEAKER_03 10:39

That's it. They don't, they're not asking for advice, they're not asking for any type of tricks, tips, anything like that. They just want a listening ear.

SPEAKER_06 10:48

Yep.

SPEAKER_03 10:48

And um, maybe you can throw in some re-cur encouraging words, you know. But yeah, definitely. Like, I'm I'm really down just to hear somebody's life story. Like, I I walk up to me and just start yapping.

SPEAKER_04 11:06

I love a yapp session and be like, oh, my life is in shampoos. Maybe hopefully she'll be like, You need to do this, you need to do that.

SPEAKER_03 11:16

Yeah. I know that's right.

SPEAKER_04 11:20

Yeah, you're that person.

SPEAKER_03 11:21

I stand up on my girls. Yep. Okay. All right. Well, read Joy is what you're saying. My title says, I got intimate with a young man and I'm freaking out. Crazy.

SPEAKER_04 11:37

How are you?

SPEAKER_03 11:39

Girl. I'm 29 years old. I knew this dude from a course. He is only 20 years old. We were like friends when we were in the same class. Then when he went to college and I didn't see him for a year, he came back to see his family and texted me. We decided to meet and have some drinks together. It was super normal at the beginning. We were at my place since it's cheaper to drink at home. Then I got really drunk and he came closer and we kissed. We didn't have sex, but well, let's say we got very intimate. Everything was fine until the morning. Then he left and I went to bed. When I woke up, I was fully sober and feeling terrible. I mean, I know it's legal, but I still feel like he's barely an adult. I don't know. I've never had anything romantic or sexual with someone that young. My youngest partner was one year younger than me. I feel guilty. Girl, this this top comment says I'll read it. You got social, sort of you it says you got social media syndrome. In the real world, nobody gives a shit. You wanted it, he wanted it. You're both adults. That's about the only thing that matters. But I have to disagree. Yeah. With that top comment, I have to disagree. Yeah. Because you know that saying, um, what is it called? Um like when you're drunk and they're like drunk actions or drunk words, or sober things. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah, I don't think that's a hundred percent true. Like, like for instance, like when I get drunk, you know, like people come into like little horn dogs, you know what I'm saying? So, like, I understand from that aspect. Don't do your cut water. The cut water, I'll have you, yeah, yeah, yeah. So I understand in that aspect of like, you know, wanting to get do-da-do-do-do, but if y'all are both on the same cues, you know, like okay, cool, but the moment like you feel any type of off, cut that shit off. Because I feel like in the end you're just gonna regret it.

SPEAKER_06 13:52

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 13:53

Um, and in the world world, people do give a shit, actually. People do give a shit, yeah. Because that's like um a nine-year age gap, which for some people do not care about, right? But others, like my preference per se, is four years, four or five years. Yeah, that's as far as I'm going, and that's older than me. Younger than me, uh, it's only two years. I can only do two years younger than me. That's it. I'm not I'm not doing five at all. Yeah. And so I think it just kind of depends on like individuals, but people actually do give a shit about age gaps out there, yeah. And you know that one, uh, there's this one couple that's really famous. Um, she's like 63 and he's like in his 20s. Yeah, yeah. Yeah, it gives me the and then like some of her children are just like, no, like that's not my stepdad. Like, I don't secure a chick. He's not in the family, allegedly. That's not, yeah. Okay.

SPEAKER_02 15:14

Okay, if that's what BC, broker.

SPEAKER_03 15:17

But I feel like honestly, just communication, like for you know, the 29-year-old, like, if you're feeling guilty, just pick up the phone, have the conversation. It's gonna be awkward, right? We've all had those awkward after booty call, you know what I'm saying? Conversations, but I think it's just a conversation that needs to be had because if y'all were friends, cool. Maybe he just wanted to kind of like, you know, decompose and just relax and you know, have fun or whatever, you know? Yeah, and so um, I don't think anything in particular was wrong here, especially if you know you don't really care about the age gap thing. But yeah, I'm gonna just say talk to that person. I mean, it's not really that big of a deal.

SPEAKER_04 16:15

I would say as far as the age gap, a consenting adult is a consenting adult. Facts. Okay. Me personally, I don't like younger anything. I like all my men older. So there's no limit on older for me. If I was to meet a younger guy, if I met somebody in their 20s, I'd kind of be like, look me in my eyes.

SPEAKER_03 16:46

There's no age limit for older. No minute. You date an 80-year-old. It depends on the vibes. It depends on the vibes. Are you insane? What if he's an 80-year-old with good vibes? You mean a chick?

SPEAKER_04 17:03

Vibes. He has good vibes. Okay, okay, continue, continue. And like younger, like I like, you know, I'll see an attractive guy, and I'm like, ooh, cute. And then I'll be like, oh. And then they'll be like, 22. I'm like, ooh. I can't do it. 22. Yeah. But you know, also, once again, vibes. You might meet that younger guy, and he might be the most manliest man you ever met in your life. And I don't know, man.

SPEAKER_03 17:38

I don't know. Honestly, just the manliest man irritated me. Oh. I forgot.

SPEAKER_04 17:45

I'm sorry. He hates the male species.

SPEAKER_03 17:48

Hate is a strong word, but yes, indeed.

SPEAKER_04 17:52

I need a manly man. So he might be the manliest man in a manly life.

SPEAKER_03 17:56

I think that word just irritates my cool. Manly. Manly man. That whole little two-part phrase. Manly.

SPEAKER_04 18:05

Manliest man.

SPEAKER_03 18:06

Heck no.

SPEAKER_04 18:09

Manliest man. So it just depends. But like I said, my preference. I really ain't looking for nothing too young. But older, there's no limit. Sky's the limit.

SPEAKER_03 18:24

Okay. Okay. He can be in it. Oh my god. Sky's the limit. Uh-uh.

SPEAKER_04 18:33

He could be a pilot.

SPEAKER_03 18:34

No.

SPEAKER_04 18:35

The sky is the limit.

SPEAKER_02 18:38

Matter of fact, the sky is even a limit. We put the stars.

SPEAKER_03 18:44

Oh my god. He might be an astronaut.

SPEAKER_02 18:55

He might be an ass.

SPEAKER_04 18:59

Astronauts. But that's the limit. You know what I'm saying? I'm I'm you know, I'm open. But uh what else is this? Did she say? Fucking drunk, you know. You wanted to if you wanted to.

SPEAKER_03 19:15

Yeah.

SPEAKER_04 19:16

Like, yeah.

SPEAKER_03 19:17

Like I feel like at your big 29-year-old age, you wouldn't you would have known when to be cut the fuck off.

SPEAKER_04 19:23

Exactly. Like you wanted to. Y'all might as well have it. Especially if you done did something real close to it. You might as well just do it.

SPEAKER_03 19:36

I mean shit. Yeah, that's valid. That's valid. Okay. Yeah. Well. Everybody R is on the lookout for anybody. Uh 40 and over. 30 and over. 40 and over. Might as well just go ahead and do like a age gap ther. Dang.

SPEAKER_04 20:07

So okay. That's fine. I'll take it. Especially if he's the man-made man.

SPEAKER_05 20:14

You're lying.

SPEAKER_02 20:16

I know you're lying.

SPEAKER_04 20:21

Alright. So it's my turn for another one? Yeah. Okay, this one's gonna be a wild one. The title is I saw my husband's brother naked and masturbating. What the hell? Wait, read that title one more time. I saw my husband's brother naked and masturbating.

SPEAKER_03 20:49

Ooh. Okay, let's get into it.

SPEAKER_04 21:00

And I'm gonna I'm gonna cut it down because it's long. So this past weekend, my husband and I went on a trip for a thing that included some other people, such as his brother and my brother. My brother and his brother are good friends, and that's actually how we met. Anywho, for this, we all had a hotel room. We were sharing. We all weren't always there at the same time and basically took shifts as the other were at camp. For context, we were there supporting my brother running a long race. So this happened later in the night. My husband was at camp and I was headed to the hotel to sleep. His brother was at the hotel but was supposed to be headed back, and I assumed I wouldn't see him. I get to the hotel and head upstairs, open the door, walking in a few steps and see his foot laying on the bed. I figured he had fallen asleep. I walk a few more steps, and that's when I see him fully naked, laying on the bed.

SPEAKER_06 21:55

Masturbating.

SPEAKER_04 22:00

It took him a split second to notice me. When he did, he jumped up and started apologizing profusely. I was stuck in shock and I couldn't look away like it was a car accident. He ran past me to the restroom. He came out a few minutes later, he he ran past me to the restroom. He came out a few minutes later, dressed and continued apologizing, and I told him it was okay. I was pretty confused. Uh okay. I thought it was giving not a big deal and he finally calmed down and we had a good laugh about it. The next day I told my husband about it and he was pissed. He seemed like he was more mad at me than his brother. I was pretty confused, and it felt like I didn't really do anything wrong, but it cost us to fight for the last couple of days. And the comments say, you know, it's kind of weird that your husband's mad at you. You didn't, you know, it's not your fault. Yeah. I basically agree. It wasn't her fault. Like they had a schedule, they should have stuck to it. I mean, and people share rooms. If you're sharing a room with somebody, why would you be doing that?

SPEAKER_03 23:07

Yeah. Like facts. My thing, the only thing that I could think of where she would be in the wrong is not telling her the night of. Oh, the husband. Yeah, yeah. Not telling him the night of. Maybe because he wasn't there, he was at the race. Yeah, but still, like she should have called him up and been like, hey, called him, texted him, say, hey, I really need to talk to you in person. It's about your brother. You know what I'm saying? Like just giving like the heads up. Yeah. Because that would have at least given the husband the opportunity to, if he was still at the race, confront the brother as he was going back. Yeah. Or, you know what I'm saying, call the wife up. You know what I'm saying? Yeah. That's the only thing that I could think of that she could have done a little bit better.

SPEAKER_04 23:57

The brother is definitely in the wrong. Yeah. For sure.

SPEAKER_03 24:00

For sure. He could have just went to the restroom in the first place. That part. That part. Or my thing is like, especially if they had a set schedule, like, what the fuck are you doing? Right. You know what I'm saying? Like, you had all this time to do that. Exactly. And then on top of that, you're masturbating on the same bed we're sleeping on. Are you insane? Disgusting. Nick, take your ass to the woods. Come and spray on them fucking pork or something. Because I I literally cannot. I literally cannot. Like that's disgusting. Sleeping in your brother's cub. Yeah. Basically. Maybe he has something on it. Girl. I mean, if he wasn't sticking to the schedule, do you think he's gonna be wearing naked though?

SPEAKER_04 24:55

You butt naked, so now you had nothing on it.

SPEAKER_03 24:58

Yeah.

SPEAKER_04 24:59

That's wild. I know. I would even be more mad at my husband for being mad at me because, like, bro, I'm traumatized.

SPEAKER_03 25:07

Girl. What you mad at me for? Girl. Yeah. We would he he he would have definitely got the silent treatment. There's there's nothing back from that.

SPEAKER_04 25:16

Yeah. And then I bet the whole entire trip after that was awkward.

SPEAKER_03 25:21

Oh yeah.

SPEAKER_04 25:23

I bet it was awkward.

SPEAKER_03 25:25

Oh yeah. For sure.

SPEAKER_02 25:28

And then you're the weirdo.

SPEAKER_00 25:34

He's like, you want to go get a slice of bread in the bag. Hey, hey, did you wash my hands? Whoa, whoa, you you pour them out. You pour the chips out. Don't stick your hand in there. Fine. We know what you do. Okay.

SPEAKER_03 25:55

Because what is really going on? Yeah, yeah. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 26:01

You the weirdo now, but yeah.

SPEAKER_03 26:04

All right, all right, all right. All right. So my next one is gonna be I made a life-altering decision to sneak out at 15, and now my dad's in prison. Ooh, girl, what happened? Girl. All right, let's get into it. This is one of those stories that sounds fake when I let it out loud. Oh, when I tell it out loud. But unfortunately, it's very real. When I was 15, I met this guy online who told me he was 17. I was going through a rough time mentally and honestly just wanted validation from literally anyone. He started picking me up at 3 or 5 in the morning while my parents were asleep. We'd drive around for hours, go to the beach sometimes, smoke, he'd buy me food. We'd hook up in the backseat like we were some shitty coming of the age movie. This went on for weeks. One night I got impatient and had him pick me up way earlier than usual, around 12:30. Important detail. My dad worked evenings and usually got home around 1 a.m. He never checked on me at night, like genuinely never. Last or that night, for some random reason, he decided he wanted to say goodnight to me and my room was empty. Meanwhile, I'm in this dude's back seat about to get undressed when my mom FaceTimes me. I panic, throw my clothes back on, jump out the car, and answer. I told her I couldn't sleep and went for a walk, which was a horrible excuse considering I'd literally been assaulted walking alone before. Apparently, my older brother had seen me sneaking out multiple nights before and finally told my mom what was going on. She immediately tells me to make him to make him bring me home. The guy starts speeding back. We're only five minutes away, thank God. I tell him just to drop me off at the stop sign near my street so my parents won't see his car. Too late. My parents are already running toward us before the car even fully starts.

SPEAKER_06 28:02

Wow.

SPEAKER_03 28:02

I get out and my mom grabs me and slaps me across the face. Oh wow. Then I took over and realized my dad's holding a gun. He smashes the guy's window and tries dragging him out. The guy floors it out of fear, and my dad starts shooting at the car immediately. I remember hearing the shots and genuinely thinking somebody was about to die because of me. My dad hit him in the arm and the guy crashed into a curb a little further down the road. He survived. My dad got arrested that same night and eventually sentenced to 10 years in prison. And the craziest part, a few minutes later, I found out the guy lied about his age the entire time. He wasn't 17, he was 19. So yeah, one stupid decision at 15 completely destroyed my family's life in less than 10 minutes.

SPEAKER_04 28:47

Wow. Take out because that's heavy. Take out the guy being 19. I guess that's a big part. Take that out, right? I understand parents want to protect their kids, but sometimes your kid is the problem. You know what I'm saying? Like your kid is the problem. In this situation, she was the problem. And she knew she shouldn't have been sneaking out. She knew she, you know, like you know what you are supposed to be doing, what you're not supposed to be doing. She she knew it and she manipulated the dad's schedule to do what she wanted to do. And she got this young man, mind you, yes, he did lie about his age, but let's say he was 17. We didn't know that yet. You got this young man shot where he almost could have he could have been killed. And now your dad, your emotional ass father, is in prison now. Because mind you, he didn't have to bring the gun. No. The daughter wasn't kidnapped. The daughter wasn't, she left on her own accord. Nobody dragged her out. I'm pretty sure when the sons probably told the parents about it, like, yeah, she's been sneaking out, la da da. That's her voluntarily leaving. Right. It wasn't this guy broke into our house and grabbed her and snuck. No, it wasn't none of that. She voluntarily leaves when she wants to. So the blame is with her, not with the guy.

SPEAKER_03 30:11

Yeah. I mean, honestly, that's probably why he got um ten years in prison.

SPEAKER_04 30:18

Yeah, most definitely. He was I I hate to say it, but that sentence is justified.

SPEAKER_03 30:23

Yeah.

SPEAKER_04 30:24

And um but the guy should have been sentenced too. Being with a minor.

SPEAKER_03 30:30

Oh fuck.

SPEAKER_04 30:31

Yeah, he should.

SPEAKER_03 30:31

I don't know if that's part of the story, but he definitely should have been sentenced. In different as well. In different states, it's different. Yeah. Um consenting ages, you know? Yeah.

SPEAKER_04 30:43

Yeah, I think in some states, like the consent is like 14. Like it's like that low. Which is insane to me.

SPEAKER_03 30:50

Um right. Like it's extremely insane. Like they are they're barely becoming people who can think on their own.

SPEAKER_04 31:01

Right shit.

SPEAKER_03 31:02

You know what I'm saying? I don't I don't I don't agree with that age at all. I think the consenting age should be 19. I think so too. You know, but um, yeah, I honestly find it incredibly crazy that um I the whole story is just crazy to me. Now, one part that I did relate on is like seeking validation, yeah. Because like I feel like as a daughter, I feel like there are some things that like I wish my dad would have gave more to me emotionally, you know what I'm saying? Like, uh tell me that you know you love me. Just tell me, you know what I'm saying? Like, yeah, um, like your princess, or you know what I'm saying? Like, just those like words of affirmation you want to come from my dad, yeah, that are missing, it makes you seek validation in other people, you know, most definitely, and then especially if they are emotionally unavailable. If your parents are emotionally unavailable, of course you're gonna seek validation from other people. But and I know the girl, um, she included that she was going through mental concerns, you know, so there's no telling, you know, what she was going through, what leaded her to do these things, anything like that. But I feel like that's so real, especially for teenagers. Like your parents have to work, you have to literally go to school, which is like a job in a way, you know what I'm saying? And you're going through all these hormonal changes, and you have all these emotions that need to be understood. And I feel like whenever you're in that teenage years, it's just like I feel like there's no in between of like you wanting to be like low-key boy crazy and like your being content with who you are. Yeah, like it's either or, like, I feel like there's no literal in between at all. And so I I can relate to her on that part, I'm not gonna lie to you. Um also there's that brag factor of having a boyfriend, yeah.

SPEAKER_04 33:25

Like, oh, I got a boyfriend, yeah, my boyfriend's texting me, my boyfriend's calling me, I went and hung out with my boyfriend last night. You know, like there's that factor as well when you're like a teenager.

SPEAKER_03 33:38

Yeah. Staying up. Like, did he text me back yet? Yeah. Did he text me back yet?

SPEAKER_04 33:43

And then of course, you know, some of these men, these young boys, they learn the game real young and they know to manipulate, they know you're seeking validation, they know that you want to be told you're pretty, that you're a princess, that you're the only girl in the world for me. I just got irritated again.

SPEAKER_03 34:02

Yeah, they do that, yeah. The manipulation be real. But honestly, females do that too, too. I think I like to you. Yeah, it it is definitely real. Yeah.

SPEAKER_04 34:12

But they they prey on your weakness.

SPEAKER_03 34:14

Yeah. And I feel like the next section where she got impatient and she left around like midnight or whatever, um, and the dad just happened to check. I think that's parent intuition.

SPEAKER_04 34:30

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 34:31

Like, I feel like he knew something was off. Right. You know? So it's and it's so crazy. Like, I don't understand how kids get away with some of the shit they always get away with. And maybe it's just based off a connection. Right.

SPEAKER_04 34:50

You know, the parents don't care.

SPEAKER_03 34:53

They do not care at all. That's why we have.

SPEAKER_04 34:58

My mom, she overly cared. Yeah, she thought I was doing something. No, we ain't doing it.

SPEAKER_03 35:04

Maybe doing nothing. Yeah. But you know, parents aren't perfect. Like, I feel like you definitely was a sneak out kid. I actually wasn't. I was lying. Girl, I was scared of my parents. I I you ain't never sneaked out. Exactly. Rarely rarely.

SPEAKER_04 35:29

Not zero. It ain't rarely. It wasn't zero.

SPEAKER_06 35:34

Yeah.

SPEAKER_04 35:34

I know a sneaked out kid when I see one. I know you.

SPEAKER_03 35:41

But um, yeah, I thought that was like, what the um, but I feel like at the end of the day, like if they were both at a decent age, it it really does sound like a movie. I'm not gonna lie. Yeah.

SPEAKER_04 36:01

I feel sorry for the dad. Imagine I'm just trying to go to work, make money, provide for my family. I'll work overnight, and then here my kid is sneaking out with some boy. I'd kill her too. At what point don't you understand that you could have been kidnapped? Well, mama slapped five from her. Barely, not enough. But pookie.

SPEAKER_03 36:30

The dad, the dad just did too much. Like he, like I said, he didn't have to bring a gun.

SPEAKER_04 36:35

Like he just did too much.

SPEAKER_03 36:36

He did. Now you know. Oh, don't do it. You know, a a certain group is gonna go above and beyond for that baby.

SPEAKER_06 36:51

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 36:52

And not think that there's no crazy.

SPEAKER_04 36:54

I don't think he was going above and beyond for her. I think he was just putting on the mama, too. Nah. I believe because you know how the mama's ease. You ain't paying her no attention.

SPEAKER_02 37:03

That's why she out here with them boys.

SPEAKER_04 37:06

Not all moms are like that, though.

unknown 37:08

No.

SPEAKER_04 37:09

The way the mama came and snapped, slap five months, she definitely like that. See, I think she ran out here with them boys. But that could have been mama's baby. No, it couldn't have been. Because where you at mama at nighttime when that air worked oh five.

SPEAKER_03 37:24

That is true. Because where is the mama? Yep. And then the brother snitching. Exactly.

SPEAKER_04 37:37

Something is afoot here. The brother is snitching. The brother's a snitch. Remama been it. Like the brother ain't never did nothing in his life wrong. Exactly. How old was brother? Now it depends on age with the brother. Yeah, yeah, true. If he's younger, then he don't really know no better. If he's older, then why didn't you just step in on your own or you know?

SPEAKER_03 37:59

Yeah. Girl, I feel like he has to be younger. Yeah. He has to be younger. Yeah. Because he saw her sneaking out multiple times. So why not tell on the like the third try? Right. You know what I'm saying? Girl, knowing me, I just mind my business. You know, anytime my brothers did some fuck shit. Oh, now you're gonna tell on your brothers, but you ain't gonna tell on yourself. Go ahead. No, baby. Anytime they did some fuck shit, I minded my business. What fuck shit they did? Nah, I'm kidding. I was actually a snit bitch. Not on like the major stuff, but the minor stuff. Hell yeah, I shouldn't say. What's your snitch on? Girl, just know I was the snitch of the family. You know, in the classroom when they give you uh, you know, the teacher leave and they assign one person to uh, you know, take names if anybody did anything wrong. I was the snitch. Oh my gosh. Mm-hmm. Not every time. No. I mean, can they bribe you? Who? My brother? Yeah, could they bribe you? No.

SPEAKER_04 39:14

You a horrible snitch. At least be one week and bribe. I mean, there was nothing to bribe about. Money, snacks. You love snacks?

SPEAKER_03 39:26

Baby, we oh you think we had a bookle of snacks and and and a pantry? I don't know, they could have like if we snuck. Well, my family was the type to put markers like mark on the milk carton, mark on the milk. Why? Because motherfuckers was sneaking downstairs at two, three o'clock in the morning and waterfalling the the juice carton. But you're thirsty. Nah, baby. Kitchen closed. And I oh Kitchen was cloud when kitchen was closed. They meant that with they and Taj. Really? Yes. Yes.

SPEAKER_04 40:16

Yeah. I didn't have access.

SPEAKER_00 40:19

No. Refrigerator up the side. They put a bail.

SPEAKER_01 40:40

The refrigerator door. They put a bail on the door. Yes. They did. They did.

SPEAKER_05 40:50

The pairs that I what kind of what kind of eating was y'all doing? To make them go for the bell on the dough.

SPEAKER_04 41:12

Have you ever heard of somebody putting a bell on the dough? Yeah. On the refrigerator door.

SPEAKER_05 41:16

Yeah.

SPEAKER_04 41:16

They might as well put a train on that thing.

SPEAKER_05 41:20

They probably would have. Oh my gosh.

SPEAKER_04 41:22

They probably would have. So y'all couldn't eat and drink after a certain time.

SPEAKER_03 41:27

Mm-mm.

SPEAKER_04 41:28

No.

SPEAKER_03 41:29

Really? That is crazy to me. Yeah. Yeah. I forgot how we got on this topic. I forgot how we got on this topic. But I say all that to say sometimes, you know, Big Macho Man ain't doing it for the mama. They just doing it because, you know, of their ego, their pride. There was definitely ego mixed up. So it's not always, you know.

SPEAKER_04 42:03

Cause he broke the back window already. Or he he's back window. But yeah, yeah, like that's enough to scare them off. Like the fact that you actually like popped, like, no, like you can't do all that. Especially if he was already driving away. Yeah. Like you were just being extra.

SPEAKER_03 42:21

So what type of punishment would you give your child if they were in the same man, I'll tell you something.

SPEAKER_04 42:27

In my child, and me, I feel like I'll be the type of mom where I am an open book. Come to me, tell me anything, show me the boy. Kind of like how our cowork is for her daughter. Like show me the boy. You know, let's let's let's make sure he like if you met him online, let's make sure he is who he say he is. You know, he is how old he's supposed to be. Yeah. Whatever. And um, you know, don't don't don't do no weird behind my back sneaking around type stuff. But if you do, and I'm the one that paid the bills, baby. Ain't no Wi-Fi, ain't no cell phone, ain't no TV, you reading your Bible. Baby, obviously, you got me all the way arked up. Not the Bible. You reading your Bible. You need to you need to learn your place. Yeah. We're going back to the fundamentals. You you missed a couple of Sundays.

SPEAKER_03 43:25

I think I think mine would just be grounded. Like that's your mm-mm. I think they would just be grounded. Right if my child were to do that, of course, like all electronics would be taken away. But at that age, I plan on giving him like that bark phone where I I see what the fuck you doing. That's understanding. You know what I'm saying? Yeah. So I also feel like um

SPEAKER_04 44:00

But your child, we're talking about them going against everything that you've already set in place for them. And they actually do the deed of sneaking out, meeting up with for him, a girl or whoever. And I don't even care if it's a friend. I don't care if it's a homegirl. You tell me, you let me know. Hey, I'm gonna go hang out with my friend so-and-so. We're gonna go to this place, this place, maybe this place. Yeah. That way, if anything happens to you, when you're going from A to B or B to C or C to D and coming back to A, if anything happens to you, I need to know in my mind where you are so I can get to you.

SPEAKER_03 44:34

Yeah. I mean, so what would you do? Would you do like a a setup kidnapping event? For who?

SPEAKER_04 44:44

Your child. If they were to disobey me?

SPEAKER_03 44:47

Yeah.

SPEAKER_04 44:48

And go out for somebody? Yeah. Oh, I'm popping up.

SPEAKER_03 44:51

Oh. See, nah, baby. I I get a team together. See. If you went to the movies and I told you that you're next to go to the movies, I'm coming to the movies. This is why I like Jasmine, because sometimes she be with my crazy. Okay. If I tell her we need to set up a plan for all the males to come around and snatch this nigga up like it's a hostage situation, they're gonna do just that. But your child is the problem. He is, and he's gonna fuck around and find the fucking person's, not not that person. I know your child is the problem. I'm telling Jasmine to kidnap my child. Oh my god. I'm not gonna kidnap the other child. I'm kidnapping my child. Because you want to fuck around and find out at this point. Like you want to tell them what could happen if they okay. If you want to, especially if like they're continuously being a rebel, baby. What's that movie?

SPEAKER_02 45:51

In Malibu's most wanted. Especially if grounding is not working. Oh my god. You wouldn't jasm in like what's name of Malibu's most wanted. I gotta see the psyches on and everything.

SPEAKER_03 46:13

Y'all going to jail. We would not be going to jail because he fucked around and found out. Somebody's gonna see y'all.

SPEAKER_01 46:19

Try me, bitch.

SPEAKER_03 46:20

And they're gonna be like, this child just got kidnapped. And I'm gonna tell you, mind your fucking business. Shit. I feel like other people would do the same if they took this world seriously. Yeah.

SPEAKER_04 46:34

Cause maybe you could get a team together and get paid to do something like that. That'll be your dream job.

SPEAKER_03 46:39

Girl, gang got tell me twice.

SPEAKER_00 46:42

If y'all are looking for somebody to come and kidnap your child.

SPEAKER_04 46:47

Just for the to prove a point. Just to prove a point. But it can happen if they don't listen. Okay. Reach out to K. Listen. Not R. K.

SPEAKER_03 46:58

K only. I'll take it to even the extremes, okay? She is only taking inquiries. Not R. Listen. We gotta teach these children real world experiences. You know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_04 47:14

Oh, it's like that show, too, where they uh they meet up with somebody online and their mom's like in there and they're like, What are you doing?

SPEAKER_03 47:21

Yeah, why would you come? Yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And you know how many motherfuckers still ain't been arrested on this show? Too many.

SPEAKER_05 47:29

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 47:30

Way too many.

unknown 47:32

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 47:32

Terrible. But yeah, girl. I also feel like um I also feel like uh oh dang, I had a follow-up question. But I forgot. We was in the thick of it. In the thick of it. But um, yeah. I mean that's all. I think I learned a lot about you today.

SPEAKER_04 48:00

You know I'm crazy. I'm gonna put a bell on the refrigerator at work.

SPEAKER_02 48:08

You can feel like you at home. Traumatic.

SPEAKER_03 48:17

Girl, you you messed up for it. You messed up. Next thing you know, bell's gonna be ringing every hour. Was it a cowbell? These mean bells you get from like the doubt store or something. Okay, I got you. You know the ones that you can tie on to. Alright, got you. Bitch. I swear to God. Halloween. Maybe my prank. Let me write that in my reminders. Hey, scary remind me.

SPEAKER_01 48:52

Right now.

SPEAKER_03 48:56

Oh Lord. But alright, y'all. I think that's all for this confessional episode. Yep. I think I even added to the damn confessions at this point. It's not a confession unless you give a confession. Okay. But alright, Hotty Lattez. Y'all stay hot. Yay, stay piping hot. Also, if you want to send us an anonymous confession, tea time. Ooh, that'd be great. A segment to have it called tea time. We could do like a chai tea.

SPEAKER_04 49:30

Aw. And y'all just tell us, and y'all, if y'all want advice, we'll give you advice. Like I said, Kay is really good at advice.

SPEAKER_02 49:37

Aw, thanks.

SPEAKER_03 49:42

You're welcome. I'm psychotic, but yeah, I can be helpful sometimes. Very helpful. Okay. Love facial expressions and everything, to be honest. But um, yeah, y'all stay hot, stay kind. It's Pride Month, so happy Pride.

SPEAKER_02 50:11

I know that's right.

SPEAKER_03 50:14

Also, it is happy immigration month, too.

SPEAKER_04 50:19

Happy immigration, but I got a phone.

SPEAKER_03 50:20

I don't know. We'll have to Google that next time. Yeah.

SPEAKER_04 50:24

So happy immigration month.

SPEAKER_03 50:25

Yeah. Happy immigration. I know that's right. Where would we be without our immigrants? Okay. Nowhere. Basically, we all immigrants. I know that's right. I know that's right. Y'all keep fighting the fight. For real. Okay. All right, Hadala's. But y'all have a great night, day, evening, whatever time you're listening to this. And send us some fan mail or something.

SPEAKER_04 50:50

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unknown 51:03

Bye.