Female (Crabs) Are So Complicated

In this episode, Lynwood Gray shares personal insights on aging, relationships, and everyday habits, blending humor with honesty. Discover how perspectives on getting older, health, and lifestyle evolve over time, with engaging anecdotes and candid reflections.

 keywords

aging, relationships, health, lifestyle, humor, personal growth, self-awareness



Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Episode Seven
02:53 Candle Review and Aromatic Experiences
05:21 Annoying Yet Cute Habits
13:22 Reflections on Aging and Growing Older
25:51 Evolving Perspectives on Care and Peace
26:26 Changes in Sleep Patterns with Age
28:51 The Balance of Caring Less and Responsibilities
31:11 Physical Changes and Aging
32:36 Struggles with Aging and Self-Perception
35:58 Desire to Maintain Youthful Spirit
39:13 Reflections on Parenthood and Aging
41:40 Current Events and Weather Reflections

 resources

Score One For the Graves Podcast - https://example.com/podcast
Bath and Body Works - Sweet Tea Lemonade Candle - https://bathandbodyworks.com
El Nino Weather Pattern - https://weather.com
Understanding Aging - Book - https://amazon.com/understanding-aging

Transcript

SPEAKER_00 0:00

Welcome to Score One for the Grays. Score One for the Grays, episode seven. Episode seven.

SPEAKER_02 0:08

Wow.

SPEAKER_00 0:10

Episode seven. That's that's a um seven's a good number.

SPEAKER_01 0:14

Yeah. It's a complete number of God, as a matter of fact. She said.

SPEAKER_00 0:21

But score one for the Grays, episode seven. Um, we're gonna start this thing off with what you're burning, Akiba, what you got burning?

SPEAKER_02 0:28

Okay, so first we have to talk about the one from our last podcast. Oh. The Amicras song. We did not give the final. The throw was amazing. The scent was um very strong, but very muted. It wasn't overpowering. So just like the wallflower, the candle is my f one of my favorites.

SPEAKER_00 0:52

I'm yet another one that didn't make it over here.

SPEAKER_01 0:58

What?

SPEAKER_00 0:59

Yeah, it ain't making it over here. I don't know what I don't know if it's where we is, I don't know if it's the placement, but then that speaks to the throw again. Like right now, I know that that um the candle that you're about to talk about, um, I smelt it because I passed by it, but from over here, I don't smell anything at all. But we'll see what's what it was was it like at the end of the episode. But what we burning today.

SPEAKER_02 1:27

Sweet tea lemonade from Bath and Body Works.

SPEAKER_00 1:30

Sweet tea lemonade. Sweet tea lemonade. I like the name. I'm digging the name for sure. Sweet tea line.

SPEAKER_02 1:35

Oh, when I took the top off of it, it was very aromatic. And I said, okay, well.

SPEAKER_00 1:43

Are you trying to get fancy with the with the candle words? No. I mean, you aromatic, you aromatic right now with the with and then with the previous one, you hit me with something, and I was like, oh, okay. All right, I'm just gonna nod my head. I'm gonna nod my head with it. But um you getting fancy with the words?

SPEAKER_02 2:04

Getting fancy, no, no, no, no.

SPEAKER_00 2:06

Aromatic. This one's very aromatic. What is aromatic? What is that?

SPEAKER_02 2:10

It's full of fragrance.

SPEAKER_00 2:13

Oh, it's playing off the root aroma, I assume. Yeah, aromatic aroma. Yeah, okay. All right. Well, it's very aromatic. But uh, we'll see what that throw is like because as of this moment, I don't smell a thing.

SPEAKER_02 2:31

I can agree. I don't smell any anything just yet, but it hasn't been burning long at all. I can say it's been burning about five minutes.

SPEAKER_00 2:42

About five minutes?

SPEAKER_02 2:43

About five minutes. Okay, 10.

SPEAKER_00 2:46

All right. We have to remember to review this at the end of the episode.

SPEAKER_02 2:49

Absolutely.

SPEAKER_00 2:50

For sure. All right, you know the drilly. Wife question, husband question, outside question, current events. What do we got for episode seven?

SPEAKER_02 3:02

So last episode I went first. Do you want to go first? Do you want me to continue to go first? Because I can go first. I don't care.

SPEAKER_00 3:08

You know, I'm I'm quite chivalrous.

SPEAKER_02 3:10

So you want me to go first? Okay. So okay. It's not gonna be a hard one.

SPEAKER_00 3:16

A hard one?

SPEAKER_02 3:17

Yeah. Hopefully it's a fun one. So what annoying habit of mine do you actually think is really cute?

SPEAKER_00 3:28

What annoying habit? What what? Okay, wait. So what habit do I find annoying but cute at the same time?

SPEAKER_02 3:39

But cute at the same time.

SPEAKER_00 3:43

Mmm, you like to hit me with the You think that's an easy one.

SPEAKER_02 3:50

I mean, I don't uh it's I'm not setting you up either.

SPEAKER_00 3:53

See, that's what I that's that's what I was um that's that's what I was alluding to is is the setup aspect because I'm not trying to set you up. Well, okay, it's been my experience doing this husband thing. Why are you looking at me like that?

SPEAKER_01 4:10

Because I I'm waiting for your answer.

SPEAKER_00 4:13

Okay. It's been my experience doing this husband thing. That if if if I was to preface a statement by saying, you know what I you know what I kind of find annoying, but cute at the same time? Like, whatever the cute part is, is about to be completely ignored.

SPEAKER_02 4:34

Okay.

SPEAKER_00 4:34

The cute is gonna be completely ignored, even if I preface it with the cute. I can even I can even preface it with a capital C on the cute. Nah, the only thing that's gonna be focused and hung in on is it is gonna you oh you find that annoying? Oh, oh, uh, oh, that's annoying too. Oh, oh, okay, okay.

SPEAKER_02 4:53

Okay, pinky, pinky. I I won't I won't get mad. Come on, Pinky. Pinky promise. There we go.

SPEAKER_00 5:00

Well, not just won't get mad, but that you'll hear the part that is annoying yet cute.

SPEAKER_02 5:04

Okay, all right.

SPEAKER_00 5:06

Now I gotta think of what it is. Uh what is what annoying habit do you have that oh no? Because I was just, I was just I I was just the other day, I had like those back-to-back emotions when um observing an action of yours. I said, Oh, there you go. And then at the same then it kind of immediately after, you know, I I I I kind of saw the cuteness.

SPEAKER_02 5:42

Okay.

SPEAKER_00 5:42

The cuteness of it.

SPEAKER_02 5:43

Do tell.

SPEAKER_00 5:45

You like, will you spit this answer out, please? Nah, okay. Is that and it's gonna be something you you you totally don't expect at all.

SPEAKER_01 5:55

Okay.

SPEAKER_00 5:57

Is that you seem to have an ability and get some enjoyment out of watching anything on TV.

SPEAKER_02 6:08

Okay, what do you mean?

SPEAKER_00 6:10

From like all different spectrums of all different genres, different um degrees of quality.

SPEAKER_01 6:24

Okay.

SPEAKER_00 6:25

I mean, you don't you'll watch okay, I've like sometimes I I I'll come home, you are you watching TV, I take a look, see what you got going on, and I'm like, what is that? What is that? I mean, that's like a okay, uh uh an orphan, uh the Asian. It sounds like a joke, really, an orphan, an Asian, and a black dude. It's like, what is going on here? What is it?

SPEAKER_02 6:49

An orphan, an Asian and a black dude.

SPEAKER_00 6:51

Okay, I just made that up.

SPEAKER_02 6:53

Oh, okay, because you know I was trying to figure out what series I was watching.

SPEAKER_00 6:58

No, I just made that up. But but but I I made that up as an example of of where it'd be so off-brand, you'd be like, what what is that what what is she watching? What is this? And it could be the worst thing Tyler Purry has ever done in his life.

SPEAKER_02 7:16

Ouch.

SPEAKER_00 7:17

Or it could be I mean, I mean, something that you like, okay, I didn't know she liked to be shows. You know, it could I mean it could be the worst thing, it could be the best thing, it could be a white show, it could be a black show, it could be a comedy, it could be a scurry movie, it could be a jail show, it could be a mystery, it could be So my my streaming habits are so eclectic. You have an eclectic taste when it comes to um TV watching, but it's like it's really uh sometimes it amazes me because like I said, I come in the room and it's something something else I never heard of in my life. Never seen one episode, never heard of it, but you super into it, super attentive. It's like it's the best thing, and you know, I bet not touch that remote. But it's like man, how in the world? I don't know.

SPEAKER_02 8:16

I just I don't know.

SPEAKER_00 8:17

But it is kind of cute. I mean, that's like thank you. It's like okay. She she has yeah, a very eclectic taste.

SPEAKER_02 8:25

Okay, so I know go ahead.

SPEAKER_00 8:29

It goes with your eclectic taste in music as well.

SPEAKER_02 8:31

Yes.

SPEAKER_00 8:32

Because you got a w a a wide taste. I do in um in music. You listen to a lot of things that uh most people in your demographic don't listen to.

SPEAKER_02 8:46

Okay. Yes. I mean, I I my parents did that.

SPEAKER_00 8:52

So now this is cute, but it ain't annoying. What's that? Your your your your locks right now, yeah. That style is cute. There's nothing annoying about it, but it's it's it's an accidental hairstyle.

SPEAKER_02 9:04

It's it's an accidental hairstyle.

SPEAKER_00 9:06

It looked like something from a magazine. Thank you.

SPEAKER_02 9:08

Accidental.

SPEAKER_00 9:09

Yeah, the locks is locks.

SPEAKER_02 9:10

Probably wouldn't be able to do recreate this again. I I don't know how I did it.

SPEAKER_00 9:14

That's my thing about locks too, is you can do that. You can, you know, somebody, you can just throw something and it looked like it was by accident. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 9:23

So but can I say this?

SPEAKER_00 9:26

Okay, go ahead. I'm sorry.

SPEAKER_02 9:27

Okay. So I know the question was for you.

SPEAKER_00 9:31

Oh. But Oh, you want to answer it?

SPEAKER_02 9:33

I want to do it. I do, I do, I do, I do.

SPEAKER_00 9:35

Okay. What annoying habit do I have that you actually find cute?

SPEAKER_02 9:44

You and your your music. You can remember words to a song. So the thing that I find so cute yet annoying is that the room could be totally quiet and here you go spitting off a rap verse, and I think you're talking to me. So I'd be like, huh? What you say? No, I was just rapping.

SPEAKER_01 10:12

So you think that's annoying? No, I'm kidding.

unknown 10:19

I'm kidding.

SPEAKER_02 10:20

Yeah, because I'd be like, what you say? I'm rapping. And you do it so often that I'm like, I should be aware that you do this. But it's cute because I just be like, oh Lord, here we go again. Huh? What you say? I'm rapping.

SPEAKER_00 10:42

No, it does happen often. It does happen often. But it ain't always rapping, um, sometimes.

SPEAKER_02 10:46

No, it's not. But that's the first thing that comes to my mind. So and so then didn't you say that you'll be at work and next thing you know, people start singing a song because here you go randomly rapping or singing something. Say you don't.

SPEAKER_01 11:02

That's true.

SPEAKER_02 11:02

Okay.

SPEAKER_01 11:03

That's true. You find that annoying.

SPEAKER_02 11:09

No, the annoying part is I think you're talking to me. So here I am looking silly because I'm like, huh, would you say no? I'm rapping.

SPEAKER_00 11:19

I get it. I get it. I get it. But sometimes uh I'm I'm um I'm singing like a bird.

SPEAKER_01 11:31

Okay.

SPEAKER_00 11:31

I can't imagine that you would not understand that I'm I'm off tune.

SPEAKER_02 11:39

Well, I mean, when it's just us and it's nothing going on and then blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Huh?

SPEAKER_00 11:48

Nah, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 11:49

Because I could be like, ignore you. You could say, well, didn't you hear me talking to you? Well, I didn't know if you were rapping or if you were actually engaging or talking to me. Like, have I not said that? I don't know. I I didn't know you were talking to me.

SPEAKER_00 12:03

You know, I had a couple of other ones in mind that I thought you might say, but like what? But I said, well, no, because they probably just annoying. They not cute.

SPEAKER_02 12:12

Like what?

SPEAKER_00 12:13

Like the tapping, you know, me being a percussionist, I tap a lot. You know, I'm I'm I'm doing a drum beat, whatever, but that may not be, that may not be cute at all.

SPEAKER_02 12:22

That but it's no, no, no, no, no, no, no. It's not annoying.

SPEAKER_00 12:25

Oh, it's not annoying.

SPEAKER_02 12:26

It's not annoying. It's not cute. It's just, I forget that you do it. What else did you think I was gonna say?

SPEAKER_00 12:33

Uh I'm I'm um I thought you might either say something about the tapping or um uh the what what just happened. The sneeze, though, when I sneeze is always a three count or more.

SPEAKER_02 12:49

I was.

SPEAKER_00 12:50

I never sneeze just once.

SPEAKER_02 12:52

You're right. That's unique. So it's not annoying. It is cute, but it's not annoying. I talk about you.

SPEAKER_00 13:00

When the second one comes out, they be like, okay, okay, one more, one more, one more. So that third one comes out. You talk about me what?

SPEAKER_02 13:06

I talk about it at work. I was like, he does not sneeze one time. It's three or more.

SPEAKER_00 13:12

You tell people that work then?

SPEAKER_02 13:13

I do.

SPEAKER_00 13:14

Okay. Okay.

SPEAKER_01 13:17

All right. So, um That was the wife question for the day. Are we ready for the husband question? I think so. I think so. Mm-hmm.

unknown 13:31

Okay.

SPEAKER_01 13:33

Husband question.

SPEAKER_00 13:34

I'm asking you. But it's it's it's it's a question that I have a relationship with myself. And um, but I'm gonna ask you, I'm I'm gonna ask you how you feel about it.

SPEAKER_02 13:48

Okay.

SPEAKER_00 13:51

So we're getting I'm not gonna spit out no numbers, but w we're getting older.

SPEAKER_02 13:57

Okay.

SPEAKER_00 13:57

Getting older. We got we got grands.

SPEAKER_02 14:00

Yes.

SPEAKER_00 14:01

Grandkids.

SPEAKER_02 14:03

Yes.

SPEAKER_00 14:04

Getting older. How do you feel about getting older? I know it sounds kind of simple, but it's not really I mean, if you really think about it, it's it's a lot that goes into it, especially being married, especially um having grandkids and whatnot.

SPEAKER_01 14:23

How do you feel about growing old? Older. Oh, yeah. How do you feel about it? How's it going? So they have this book out called What to Expect When Expecting.

SPEAKER_00 14:45

What to expect when expecting? Yes. Like a child when expecting a child? Yes. What to expect when expecting a child? Yes. Okay.

SPEAKER_02 14:54

I wish they had a book out what to expect when you get older.

SPEAKER_01 15:02

They probably do.

SPEAKER_02 15:03

No, they don't. So what happens? Your 20s, you know, you're free, you can move, whatever, you know, you can get up, whatever. But your 30s, it's like, wait a minute, I can't just jump up, but I still have the energy.

SPEAKER_00 15:28

Oh, maybe your 30s. I was I was getting in the 30s.

SPEAKER_02 15:31

I was like, Why does my knee hurt? When your 40s hit, you're just like, no, 45 hit, and you're just like, What in the world? Why do I hurt just to get up out the bed? Why do I hurt? Why does my big toe hurt? Why does my earlobe hurt? You, you, you see, and and you see these random things when I say big toe, your earlobe, because that's what it feels like. Just random stuff just starts to hurt.

SPEAKER_00 16:04

So so your relationship with older is pain?

SPEAKER_02 16:07

Yes. My relation to getting older is pain. My relation to getting older are the hot flashes that we discussed in a prior um podcast. Yes.

SPEAKER_00 16:20

So a w I it sounds like as you're talking, it it sounds like really a woman's answer to how she feels about getting older will probably be different from a man's answer.

SPEAKER_02 16:31

Absolutely.

SPEAKER_00 16:33

The getting older processes is a lot different.

SPEAKER_02 16:35

It is so very different. You know what?

SPEAKER_00 16:41

Y'all got a lot going on. That's why I don't like female crabs.

SPEAKER_02 16:45

What?

SPEAKER_00 16:45

That's why I don't like female crabs.

SPEAKER_02 16:47

Wait a minute, why?

SPEAKER_00 16:49

Cause it got all, because it got way more stuff in there that you really don't eat. Like it ain't just meat. You know, uh male crabs are very simple. Crack it open, you look in there, it's meat, and it's bones. Or shells, meat and shells, meat and shells. That's it. Maybe a little poop. With females, man, you got all. And that's why ovaries, you gotta get all that out before you even get to the meat.

SPEAKER_02 17:15

But you know what? But we're resilient though, because you're right. We do have, and y'all don't. That's why when you get an itty bitty paper cut, you need to go to the emergency room, cool, get some stitches. Oh, she ain't talking about me.

SPEAKER_00 17:31

I know she talked about me.

SPEAKER_02 17:33

It's the end of the world when you get an itty bitty paper cut. Or, or if you get a cold, it's like, oh my goodness, I can't move, I can't do this, blah, blah, blah. And it's like, oh my gosh. But here we go with a cold, with a fever, cooking dinner, taking care of the kids. Like, and then you say, that's why you don't eat female crabs because you got so much going on on the inside of you. Do you know how bad that comment was, Lynn?

SPEAKER_00 18:05

That comment was bad?

SPEAKER_02 18:06

Yes, that was a bad comment.

SPEAKER_00 18:08

Wait, wait.

SPEAKER_02 18:10

You don't eat female crabs because it's so much going on. That's why y'all females like that. That is so chauvinistic.

SPEAKER_00 18:19

Okay, okay, wait a minute. See, this is very similar to this is very similar to NBA versus WNBA.

SPEAKER_02 18:27

What you talking about?

SPEAKER_00 18:29

You know who don't watch the WNBA?

SPEAKER_02 18:31

Men.

SPEAKER_00 18:31

You know who else don't watch the WNBA?

SPEAKER_02 18:34

Who?

SPEAKER_00 18:34

Females. You know who, you know who prefers male crabs?

SPEAKER_01 18:40

Who?

SPEAKER_00 18:42

Females prefer male crabs. You know why? Because females know what's up in there in that female crab. And they know they ain't got time for none of that either. They ain't got time for none of that.

SPEAKER_02 18:53

No, it's because the meat is sweeter.

SPEAKER_00 18:58

The meat is sweeter, what? In the male crab?

SPEAKER_02 19:00

In the male crab.

SPEAKER_00 19:01

Yeah, because all that, all them other, all that other stuff is complicating the taste of the meat. All that other stuff is just. All the orange, all them ovaries, all of this and that, all that stuff is stuff that can just go wrong. That's all it is that can go wrong.

SPEAKER_02 19:23

Y'all chime in, please.

SPEAKER_00 19:25

It's utilized to procreate, but it don't taste good.

SPEAKER_02 19:30

Chime in, please.

SPEAKER_00 19:32

Please. It don't taste good. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 19:35

Your boy on something different today.

SPEAKER_00 19:38

He wants something called truth. He wants something called truth.

SPEAKER_02 19:41

Wow.

SPEAKER_00 19:42

Okay, let me ask you something.

SPEAKER_02 19:43

Wait, I would I did not see this conversation going this direction. Okay, go right ahead.

SPEAKER_00 19:49

When you go to the seafood place to get some crabs or the crab truck or whatever, right? We all the way, matter of fact, we all the way in South Carolina.

SPEAKER_01 19:58

Okay.

SPEAKER_00 20:01

Number one males.

SPEAKER_01 20:03

Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_00 20:04

Are they the same price as number one females?

SPEAKER_02 20:09

So you put me on the spot because I don't know.

SPEAKER_00 20:12

I can answer that for you. No. They're more expensive. You know why they're more expensive? It's simple supply and demand. There's more demand for male crabs than there is female crabs. There's more demand for it. So it's priced at a higher price point because there's more demand for it. You know why there's more demand for it? Because ain't nobody got time for all that other stuff. Ain't nobody got time for all that. We want to crack it open. We want to see the meat, observe the meat, plug it out, eat it, throw the rest of the stuff away. Got time to be picking through all the ovaries, get that on, you know, and get anything, you know, and the same thing. Y'all got all that going on. So as you advance in age, there's more stuff that can go wrong.

SPEAKER_02 20:51

Please uh chime in.

SPEAKER_00 20:54

They're gonna chime in in agreement.

SPEAKER_02 20:56

No.

SPEAKER_00 20:56

They're gonna touch and agree.

SPEAKER_02 20:58

No, no, no.

SPEAKER_00 20:59

They're gonna touch and agree. No, they're gonna agree.

SPEAKER_02 21:06

I don't know. I'm I'm I'm gonna let I'm gonna let you have this one. I wanna see the comments.

SPEAKER_00 21:14

Okay. You wanna get you wanna get okay. We got comments.

SPEAKER_02 21:18

You can start some more controversy.

SPEAKER_00 21:21

I'm just saying, we're talking about getting older. Talking about getting older. Okay. Okay, we're gonna go female box, we're gonna go male box. Okay, getting older. Okay. Because uh, because I got a little bit of experience in this now because I know so many, so many people. Look at that. Look, my goodness.

SPEAKER_01 21:39

Hey, look, but but but look, this, this, this, this, this, this the dilly. Gallbladder, removal. That's gonna go on the female.

SPEAKER_02 21:51

No, no, no. Are you talking about me and you? Are you talking about overall? No, no, no, no, no, no, no. I'm talking about generally speaking. Nah, that's that's unisex. Nope.

SPEAKER_00 22:01

I'm talking about I'm not saying I'm not saying that there aren't men who had their gallbladder removed. That's not what I'm saying. I'm saying I'm talking percentage. I'm talking percentage. It's gonna be, it's gonna it's gonna be over there.

SPEAKER_02 22:14

Did you did you use your Google to get these statistics?

SPEAKER_00 22:18

No, I use my head.

SPEAKER_02 22:19

Oh, okay.

SPEAKER_00 22:20

I use my head.

SPEAKER_02 22:20

Go ahead. Tell me what else.

SPEAKER_00 22:21

Um gallbladder females. Gallbladder females. Um what you call the, you know, um, what you call the things, the little things on the uterus the polyps, is that what they call it? What they call a little fibroids? Fibroids. We already know. We only have to debate that. We slide that to the female.

SPEAKER_01 22:41

Slide that over. Um, yeah, slide that over to the female.

SPEAKER_00 22:46

Then um, what's the other one that's uh you really don't need like that?

SPEAKER_02 22:52

Appendix.

SPEAKER_00 22:53

Appendix. Slide that over to the to the female like that. Yeah, like that.

SPEAKER_02 23:01

Brain, slide that over to the males. Meaning You don't need it. Cause you're sure not using your brain right now.

SPEAKER_01 23:11

Oh, it's not. I mean, are these not facts?

SPEAKER_02 23:15

Oh.

SPEAKER_00 23:16

They not?

SPEAKER_02 23:17

It's not facts.

SPEAKER_00 23:19

They're not medical facts?

SPEAKER_02 23:21

It is not medical facts that a woman will have her gallbladder appendix. The only thing that you got right was the fibroids.

SPEAKER_00 23:32

I don't know.

SPEAKER_02 23:33

We might have to um do a little research. Do it. I would have done the research before I opened my mouth and said that though.

SPEAKER_00 23:45

So, Akiba, how's growing older working out for you? You like if I don't if I say something else, I'm not gonna know what it's like to grow older for me. No, but what uh um, yeah. I I I was growing older for you.

SPEAKER_02 24:07

Growing older for me was great. You just threw me for a loop with all of that. No, it you you you go through things that are different. Yeah, it is a little bit more painful for me. I don't think everybody in my age are going through some of the things that I'm going through. It's out of my hand though.

SPEAKER_01 24:36

But I do wish that some of the things they warn you about or give little things that can help overcome some of the things.

SPEAKER_00 24:53

They don't I mean if you're talking, if you're talking physical, because you your your answer seems to be um totally and completely about the physical body.

SPEAKER_02 25:08

Yeah, you've yeah, your physical body goes through so much at each stage, at each tenure stage, your body goes through something that you're just like, okay, in the 30s, you're like, okay, it can't get no worse than this. You hit your 40s and you're like, oh my gosh, really?

SPEAKER_00 25:27

So, oh, oh, okay. So as it relates to the physical body, all right, cool. What about the is there anything, anything redeeming about getting older?

SPEAKER_02 25:35

I mean, is there anything positive about smarter, more wisdom? Like, more wisdom. You're more at peace when you get older because you get this mindset that it's not that serious.

SPEAKER_01 25:52

Now it's it gives me peace. It gives you peace? Mm-hmm. Okay.

SPEAKER_00 26:03

That's one of the things I do care more about. Peace. Is peace.

SPEAKER_02 26:08

Do you find that you're older? Do you find that your sleep is like compromised? You you struggle with your sleep, or your sleep habits are different?

SPEAKER_00 26:22

Yes. My sleep habits are definitely different. I don't, um, it's more difficult to sleep throughout the night without getting up and um, that is a physical trait, without getting up and going, going to the bathroom. Um, but I'm still able to get right back to sleep. I think what something that's changed that I'm surprised about actually is that as I've gotten older, I need less sleep.

SPEAKER_01 26:46

Oh.

SPEAKER_00 26:46

When I was in, I remember, I remember one night when I was in school, I remember one night I got me six hours. And in class, all day in class, I felt like I was gonna pass out. Now, if I get six hours of sleep, it's pretty good. I feel pretty good, pretty, pretty well, well rested. Um, so that's about to say I like it felt like I lead, I need less sleep than I did when I was when I was younger.

SPEAKER_02 27:17

Not me. Go feel I need, I need sleep, but my my sleeping habits have changed. It is harder. Like I could be tired all day and get off of work and just lay across the bed, but don't go to sleep, right? Well, guess what? I'm gonna struggle going to sleep, even though I did not go to sleep. Then it's like you're waking up in the middle of the night and you it's hard to go back to sleep because your mind starts racing and all these things just won't let you go to sleep.

SPEAKER_00 27:54

What are the things that won't let you go to sleep?

SPEAKER_02 27:56

Anything. Like you start thinking about work. You might start thinking about, oh, I have to pay this bill, things you have to do. Oh, I have to pick this up from the store, like your to-do list, your mental to-do list. Yeah, it's it's it's it's a trip.

SPEAKER_01 28:11

But you um well never mind.

SPEAKER_00 28:15

But what I was just gonna make reference to, but you care less.

SPEAKER_02 28:28

Just because I care less, I still need sleep.

SPEAKER_00 28:31

No, that's not what I'm saying.

SPEAKER_02 28:34

What are you saying, Mr. Gray?

SPEAKER_00 28:36

I'm saying the things that's keeping you from sleep, your mind start racing, different things start popping in your head, different work things, different. But I'm saying as you're getting older, if you're caring less, then why is things stopping you from sleeping if you're caring less?

SPEAKER_02 28:53

So I'll give you an example of what I mean, something that I could care less about. Somebody cuts me off in traffic. Okay, you cut me off. I would have cared about that. I would have been really hot that somebody cut me off. And now I'm just like, okay, well, whatever, go down the road.

SPEAKER_01 29:14

Okay.

SPEAKER_02 29:15

Okay. That, as far as, okay, we need to to a bill or we need to go to the store and get some coffee. No, it's not that I couldn't care less. It's we we need that. That is something that I have to do. That's something that has to be taken care of. So I can't not care less about that.

SPEAKER_01 29:39

Just again, somebody cut you off in traffic. Just let it go. Yeah. I got you. I got you.

unknown 29:50

I think.

SPEAKER_02 29:51

But you know, you you you like to start stuff. What you mean? With with with this question. You took this down a rabbit hole. What did I do? You are going to get it comment.

SPEAKER_00 30:06

What did I what did I do? What did what did I do?

SPEAKER_02 30:08

Exactly what you did.

SPEAKER_00 30:10

You're talking about the one earlier, or you're talking about something right now.

SPEAKER_02 30:13

No, earlier.

SPEAKER_00 30:14

Oh, you're talking about the the crab and all that.

SPEAKER_02 30:17

Yep.

SPEAKER_00 30:18

I mean, that's biology. I don't know much about well, I do. I know a little bit about history.

SPEAKER_02 30:23

I know a little bit about social media too. They're gonna eat you up.

SPEAKER_00 30:29

I don't think I don't think it's gonna work out the way you think it is, Akiba. I don't think it's gonna work out the way you think it is. I think, I think it's gonna be, matter of fact, I think it's gonna be some females on my side.

SPEAKER_01 30:41

Yeah, okay. All right. Be some wives on my side. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 30:48

Okay, but wait, wait, wait. So you don't agree with me when I say you hurt a little bit more as you get older?

SPEAKER_00 30:56

No, no, no, no, no, no, no. Oh, okay. No, there are definitely some aches and some pains that that come along with getting older for sure. Some aches and pains.

SPEAKER_02 31:03

Because you made it seem like, oh, all you do is hurt.

SPEAKER_00 31:08

I made it seem like all you do is hurt.

SPEAKER_02 31:11

In this conversation, yes. You say something. I would venture to say you made it seem like all you do is hurt. That was your answer. But you said, okay, so basically, all you do is hurt. But I just circled back to say, so you made that comment. So in in you getting older, you don't hurt.

SPEAKER_00 31:29

No, no, no. What I said was you only associate getting older with pain.

SPEAKER_01 31:37

Pain.

SPEAKER_00 31:39

That's all. And then I followed up with that by saying, you got anything redeeming about getting old, any positive things about getting older? But that was just based on your answer. Yes.

SPEAKER_02 31:53

Okay. Yes. You answer it.

SPEAKER_00 31:56

Yes. Oh, me answer it?

SPEAKER_02 31:57

Yeah, you answer. Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_01 32:00

Oh, we oh. Okay.

SPEAKER_00 32:04

Um, what I feel about getting older is actually a struggle for me. It really is. I remember back when, when once again, when I was in school, I remember when a teacher of mine turned 30, right? And me and my homies, me and three homies, when they turned, when this teacher turned 30, we was on him. We was like, man, you old and I'm when you turn 30, man, you oh, oh. You oh oh. So I was always kind of cognizant of like, man, what's it gonna be like when I hit 30?

SPEAKER_02 32:41

Okay.

SPEAKER_00 32:41

So we were just clowning him, you know, what's that gonna feel like with him? And so it's always been a struggle for me. When I hit 30, I was like, I'm really not in my 30s. I just turned 30. I'm not really in my 30s. I just turned 30. Then when I hit 31, it was like, well, you're not really good into your 30s.

unknown 33:00

You, you, you, you, you know.

SPEAKER_02 33:02

So you were in denial.

SPEAKER_00 33:03

I was in denial. Yeah, I didn't I probably wouldn't consider myself in my 30s. I had to go ahead and say, okay, you there 35 was when I said, okay, I'm in my 30s. And then I had to do the same thing all over again when I got to 40. And then I actually been the same 40 age that I am right now for, I'm not gonna say how long I've been there, but I'm 46 right now.

SPEAKER_02 33:26

What?

SPEAKER_00 33:26

46.

SPEAKER_02 33:28

You say you're not gonna say how long you've been where? What?

SPEAKER_00 33:31

How long I've been 46. I've been 46 for a minute. I'm not gonna say how long I've been 46, but I've been 46 for a minute. And and it's a struggle. It is. I don't I don't like um I don't like the physical part of getting older, like the aches and pains for sure, but then also the looking old, the having old people taste.

SPEAKER_02 33:52

What is what is old people taste?

SPEAKER_00 33:55

You know, taste in things, like, like, you know, whether it's fashion, whether it's music, whether it's food, whether it's um uh room decor, like I feel like I I have a young spirit, and I don't like I don't want to end up having an old people's spirit or old people's like taste, you know, like tasting things. Like in other words, I don't want to wear slacks and a and a kango with a button up and some bass shoes and walk around twirling my keys and whatnot. I don't want to I don't that's not nah. I'm probably the one that people be like when they in their 70s, like, man, he thinks he's still he in his 30s or something, man. Yeah, you mean you need to sit down somewhere and act like you 70? That's probably me. That's probably me. I'm this is a struggle for me. I don't like being I I mean, you married to me. You know, I don't like I like doing young people's stuff. Now I don't like doing stuff like I don't like, you know, when I say young people stuff, I don't I don't mean making bad decisions like young people too or being out and you know partying and whatnot and all that. That's not what I mean. I'm not a party guy. I retired from that early 20s. Um But you know, I don't want to feel I don't want to feel old. I don't want to look old.

SPEAKER_01 35:38

I don't wanna um but I got to, because otherwise you die. Young. I want to die old. I wish I could die old, but still look 35. And and and dress, you know.

SPEAKER_00 36:02

I don't want to dress like um Malcolm X and Spike Lee in the opening scene of um of X.

SPEAKER_02 36:11

You said what?

SPEAKER_00 36:13

I don't want to dress like Malcolm X and Spike Lee in that opening scene of X when they I don't want to look like that.

SPEAKER_01 36:20

Okay. All right.

SPEAKER_00 36:23

That's like the stop, that's like the stopping point for men's fashion is like they end up dating.

SPEAKER_02 36:28

But they were young. But they weren't even old in that.

SPEAKER_00 36:32

You're correct. What I'm saying is, what is that? The 30s, the 20s, whatever they did.

SPEAKER_02 36:36

But that was a young style, that was the style back in the day.

SPEAKER_00 36:39

You're correct. What I'm trying to tell you is whatever, whatever decade that was, the 20s, whatever, that has now become the stopping point for old people's fashion. Whatever they was doing in the 20s, now that's the stopping point for old people's fashion.

SPEAKER_02 36:56

It's like uh Lynn, you are on it today, baby.

SPEAKER_00 37:02

I'm just saying that's oh my God. It's just true. It's it's like it's like they picked they picked a they picked a um a decade to say, okay, this would be gonna eventually this would everybody gonna revert back to. It's like gospel.

SPEAKER_02 37:20

Um but you know that they are wearing that today, right? Not even the older generation, the younger generation, they're wearing certain aspects of that fashion.

SPEAKER_00 37:31

I know fashion comes and goes as far as different particulars. You know, they you know, it comes in and it go back out and it go in and come back out. I'm just talking about the I'm just talking about the overall just look of certain things. And I'm not I'm not saying I missed the fashion, um, that I got it all cranked up as far as the fashion. I just know it's just it's it's kind of an old fashion spirit that I don't want to really ever get to.

SPEAKER_01 37:56

Okay. Yeah. You know. I know. No, I'm not gonna say that. Um why not?

SPEAKER_02 38:13

Uh been unhinged already.

SPEAKER_00 38:16

Unhinged?

SPEAKER_02 38:17

You think I've been unhinged? That's not that's not fair. That that that's not the word I'm looking for.

SPEAKER_00 38:24

Okay.

SPEAKER_02 38:24

Unfiltered today.

SPEAKER_00 38:25

Oh, unfiltered. Unfiltered. Well, that's good. That's a good thing. I try not to be too filtered.

SPEAKER_02 38:31

Oh, I mean, you you uh like I say, you were only one today.

SPEAKER_00 38:37

Outside question.

SPEAKER_02 38:38

Outside question.

SPEAKER_00 38:41

Um I gotta go to my notes for what the outside question was.

SPEAKER_01 38:47

Oh, you know what, it was in my phone. Oh. Outside question. Okay. If you physically could um into your 50s, would you have more children? No. You say no. Want me to elaborate? Sure, you you elaborate.

SPEAKER_02 39:21

So me taking care of myself right now, to get about the bed, I gotta prepare myself to get about this bed. Baby, I can't just prepare that baby I got to be able to get go, right? But then I also want to be a round when they get older.

SPEAKER_01 39:44

So when they're 50, I'm a hundred. When they are graduating high school, I'm sixty-eight.

SPEAKER_02 39:59

Now, granted, people these days are living longer and looking way better in their their age.

SPEAKER_00 40:09

Are they?

SPEAKER_02 40:10

Yes, they are.

SPEAKER_00 40:11

Okay.

SPEAKER_02 40:11

Yeah, they are. Yes. Absolutely.

SPEAKER_00 40:13

Yeah, I'm I'm totally unfamiliar.

SPEAKER_02 40:15

So I want to be able to, you know. I just I cannot I cannot give you the care that you would need. I just I physically can't do it. And selfishly, I don't want to.

SPEAKER_01 40:31

Just don't. I see. What about you?

SPEAKER_00 40:40

There's there's pros and cons on both sides. I'd say there's probably more pros to not to not having more.

SPEAKER_02 40:50

Pros to not?

SPEAKER_00 40:52

In other words, I'd agree with you. Overall, I'd agree with you that no, I don't think I would, I don't think I would have more into the 50s for a lot of what you said, but then also I'd add um that uh we do a lot of um we like do a lot of moving and shaking and traveling and whatnot.

SPEAKER_02 41:14

Spontaneous.

SPEAKER_00 41:15

Yeah, that you that you can't really just get up and go with with um young young kids. Um and so yeah, you you got that part. Then you got um I remember yeah, how your life really centers around the whole school practice, ban, activity, trip. Um, yeah, so yeah, jumping back in that game.

SPEAKER_02 41:49

It's tough. It's hard, especially when you've been out of the game for what, over 12 years? Whoo! It is very hard to go back through that.

SPEAKER_00 42:02

Yeah, I agree.

SPEAKER_02 42:04

That's a good question, though. But I do know, not personally, I'm seeing a lot more women are waiting until they're older to have kids or having more kids in their 50s. Yep. 40s and 50s, which was odd because they want to be more established.

SPEAKER_01 42:27

Okay.

SPEAKER_00 42:27

With them, them little inner workings in the crab, um, hopefully they still working when when they in their 50s and all that.

SPEAKER_02 42:37

Cause you are on a woman bashing.

SPEAKER_00 42:43

It's not bashing. It's not bashing women. It's not bashing. Stop it. That's not bashing.

SPEAKER_01 42:49

Just saying I hope it worked. That's all. Anyway. Just saying I hope it worked. That's all.

SPEAKER_02 42:57

What do you think about this candle?

SPEAKER_00 42:59

Um, I don't know if I can I don't I don't know if maybe if if if I'm can give a fair assessment based on placement and and me not having any kind of manute. Like this whole deal with it sitting where it's sitting and me staying right here, maybe it's an unfair assessment. And with me not moving around, not going around the room. Um, maybe it's permeating in ways that I can't tell from this angle. But if I'm being honest, I can't smell nothing.

SPEAKER_02 43:34

Okay.

SPEAKER_00 43:34

I can't smell nothing.

SPEAKER_02 43:35

So we can pause it, right? And we could come back. So you can smell it. Do we need to do that?

SPEAKER_01 43:43

Well, so I can get up and okay.

SPEAKER_00 43:48

That candle's amazing. Not for his throw. I'm not gonna say for his throw, even though the throw may be good. It may be good. I don't know. It may be a situation of where I'm sitting. Aroma wise, aroma-wise, that maybe Might be the first candle I've smelled that when it's a combo, I smell the distinct flavors of the combo, and I smell what it would smell like together. So that is a what? That's a a sweet sea lemonade. Do you know what that smells like to me?

SPEAKER_02 44:20

Arnold Palmer?

SPEAKER_00 44:20

Arnold Palmer. It smells like an Arnold Palmer to me, which means that they did a good job with the aroma. Now, again, the throw, I gotta see. I gotta get around, see what's going on in the room. But aroma-wise, sweet tea and lemonade is a winner. Aroma-wise. Yeah, I mean sweet tea and lemonade is a winner.

SPEAKER_02 44:45

I did not let you smell when I took the top off. But when I took that top off, it was so, like I said, it was very strong. It was very aromatic at that time. Just taking the lid off. No fire to it, never been burnt, nothing. And it it was.

SPEAKER_00 45:03

You skipped over my current event.

SPEAKER_02 45:06

I'm sorry. I I was so in a hurry to get to the candle. Yeah, because we missed it last week.

SPEAKER_00 45:12

We missed it last week. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 45:13

I'm sorry.

SPEAKER_00 45:18

It's more so kind of what we're going through right now, weather-wise, is crazy.

SPEAKER_02 45:24

Oh my goodness.

SPEAKER_00 45:25

Like these temps, we temps is been. Are we on record low status? I don't know.

SPEAKER_02 45:35

I don't know. I know that it's a that we had a record high when we were in the 80s back early in mid-April. But that ain't last long. Record low, I don't know.

SPEAKER_00 45:50

That ain't last long. I'm not sure. I know. It's been super like long sleeves. Long sleeves been a must. And that ain't typical for this time in uh the upstate of South Carolina.

SPEAKER_02 46:05

No.

SPEAKER_00 46:05

For this time right here. But yeah, it's been it's been interesting. Them them our flowers ain't um well, I'm not gonna say not, they're not going as fast as I thought they would go. Because of the weather. Because of the weather. Yeah. Yeah, this weather's been doing something interesting. And I wonder, you know, um what's that gonna mean for the weather moving forward towards the summer? Because um I'm sure though, I'm sure we'll get the the the 90-degree temps in the summer, but I wonder what that means as far as severe weather and you know that kind of thing when they when they when it gets to the summer, we we're gonna be out on that ocean again this year.

SPEAKER_02 46:43

Didn't they say it was El Nino?

SPEAKER_00 46:47

I can't remember if it was Nino or N. And you know what?

SPEAKER_02 46:50

I really don't know what one what it is.

SPEAKER_00 46:54

Uh whatever, whichever ya or yo it is, I think it's the one that's supposed to be the dr the wet season. The wet one. One of them is wetter than the other.

SPEAKER_02 47:06

Okay.

SPEAKER_00 47:06

So I think we supposed to, the summer's supposed to be the wet one. Right now is is is leaning towards the center. But by the time we get to the summer, it's supposed to be El Nine, something that's supposed to be wetter. That was your weather man take. Okay. All right. Uh right there. But yeah, so that that that would conclude the number seven.

SPEAKER_02 47:40

Episode seven.

SPEAKER_01 47:41

Wow.

SPEAKER_02 47:42

Okay. Every time I say it, it just just feels weird to say episode seven.

SPEAKER_00 47:48

My wife thinks that's the one that's gonna get me in trouble, but I ain't scared. Episode seven of school one for the grays. For the grays.