What Communicating with the Other Side Taught Me About Living

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People often ask me what it’s like to communicate with people who’ve died.

But after more than thirty years as a psychic medium, I’ve realised that the greatest gift this work has given me hasn’t been answers about death—it’s been perspective on life.

In this deeply personal episode, I’m sharing some of the biggest lessons I’ve quietly carried home from thousands of readings over the years. We explore why we spend so much of our lives waiting, why the smallest moments often become our most treasured memories, how guilt can keep us stuck, and why love almost always matters more than being right.

This isn’t an episode about fearing death.

It’s about learning how to live a little more fully while we’re here.

Whether you believe in mediumship or you’re simply looking for a fresh perspective on life, I hope this conversation leaves you feeling a little lighter, a little more present, and perhaps a little more grateful for the ordinary moments that so often become the extraordinary ones.

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Hello and welcome to the Psychic Whispers podcast. Hello and welcome back to Psychic Whispers. For those of you that might be new here, hi, my name is Messina. I have been working as a psychic medium for over 30 years now. I wanted this podcast to be a space where each week we explore the place where spirituality meets real life. Not through fear, fluff, or pretending that, you know, we've got all the answers, because I definitely don't do that, but through honest conversations that hopefully leave you feeling a little lighter, a little more grounded, and a little more connected to yourself. So grab a cup of tea, head out for your walk, or settle into the car and let's have a chat. Now, when people find out what I do, they usually ask me what it's like. You know, what's it like to communicate with people who've died? Fair question. And while that's a fascinating conversation in itself, I've realized over the years that it's almost the wrong question. Now, I'm gonna be real. The biggest thing this work has ever given me isn't actually answers about death. It's perspective on life. You know, this has come up recently because 30 years is a long time to do anything. Let's be honest. 30 years of sitting opposite people who have had their worlds falling apart, or watching families reunite through a reading. 30 years of laughter, tears, disbelief, relief, and countless conversations that have stayed with me long after the reading has done. You know, people imagine the extraordinary moments are the ones that I treasure the most. You know, the names, the validations, the moment where somebody gasps and says, How on earth could you have known that? And don't get me wrong, you know, I never stop appreciating those moments. They awe me too, let me be honest with you. I also get like, wow, really? Wow, you know, just kind of cool, right? But those aren't the things that have changed me. It really is the perspective. It's the reminders that keep appearing over and over again. The things that have really reshaped the way that I look at my own life and the way that I appreciate my own life. So today, I just wanted to share a few of those with you. You know, I don't think that I've got life all figured out. I'm still living and learning too. Even though I feel like I have had such a unique opportunity to learn so much. There's still so much that I get to learn every day. Still, so much that I'm still in awe about in this world. Let me be real. But these are the things that have genuinely changed me and the way that I see life. And so I thought, you know what? Let's do it. Let's talk about that in this episode. Let's share some of the little tidbits of wisdom that I've been bestowed in this unique perspective that I get to speak from. All right. So I'm gonna say something really bold now. And I don't want it to freak you out. But you know what I've learned? We all live like we've got more time than we probably do. Now, before anybody panics, this is not about fear. It's actually the opposite. This is about permission. You know, one thing this work has taught me is that we become really good at postponing our own lives. Oh, I'll do that when the kids are older. I'll travel when I've got more money. I'll start the business next year. I'll wear the clothes, you know, once I've lost that bit of weight. I'll tell them I love them tomorrow. We're always waiting for life to begin. But when I reflect on the conversations I've had through this work, I've never once had someone communicate from the other side because they desperately wanted to remind someone that they should have answered more emails. Not once. And nobody has ever popped through saying, Missina, could you just tell my husband, I really wish I'd spent more time reorganizing the garage? I mean, it sounds ridiculous when you say it out loud, but isn't that exactly how we live sometimes? We spend a lot of energy maintaining life that we often forget to actually live it. I have done this too. I, you know, guilty as charged at times. We get caught up. There's a to-do list. It's long, it's never ending. Laundry doesn't go away. I mean, we have things that we have to do that are very ordinary and mundane, and I get it, but we do get wrapped up sometimes a little too much and too deeply into those things. I mean, there have been days where I've left our studio. I've looked at my diary and my to-do list, and I thought once I get through this week, you know, then I'll slow down. I'll have a day off. Except, you know, then it's next week, and then it's next month, and then it's Christmas, and then next year. Ah, you know, life has this sneaky way of convincing us that it's just around the corner. You know, but it isn't. It's just, I don't know, Tuesday evening. It's laughing so hard over something completely stupid that your stomach hurts. It's, you know, taking the dogs out when you really couldn't be bothered, and then realizing that was actually the best part of your day. You know, it's making a cup of tea for someone without them asking. That's super nice. Those tiny moments, they're the ones that become the memories. Now here's another one. And this one's big. Love matters so much more than being right. This one's big for me because I have a lot of people that sit down in front of me with a lot of guilt over things that maybe revolve arguments or conflict with their loved ones who've crossed over. And what I have noticed when I do readings is that the communication from the other side rarely involves those arguments that people have been carrying. They've let them go. They have this recognition upon the transition that those things really are superfluous. They don't matter. But the person in front of me is, you know, saying, I wish I'd said this, or I should have apologized, or they never forgave me. Are they mad? Or maybe I never forgave them. You know, that's also a big one. And then communication begins. And it's not about keeping score. Instead, you know, they're saying things like, tell her I loved our Sunday dinners, tell him I still laugh about that holiday. Tell mom she was a brilliant mom. It's relationship, it's connection, and all those moments in between. Now, it doesn't mean that difficult things don't matter. Of course they do. Some relationships are incredibly painful. Some people absolutely need boundaries, and I've spoken about that before. But this work has definitely softened something in me. You know, these days I catch myself asking, do I really need to win this conversation? Or do I just want the relationship to stay intact? And those are different. And I'm not saying that we should all let go of big stuff. Okay, if you are having conflict with someone and it really isn't okay to just let everything go and say, you know what, forget it, it doesn't matter. Because if it matters, it matters. But we need to decide what actually matters. That's the essence of what I think I'm trying to say. There's so much opportunity when we create it, especially, to resolve conflict or just communicate the basic things that I feel we should while we're here. You don't know what tomorrow's gonna bring. And there's so many people that I've seen, you know, feel like they've missed a window of opportunity or they just didn't take things, you know, in their own way and find a middle ground. And they carry that. And it's not easy to live with that. And this leads me to my next lesson that I've learned. We carry guilt far longer than love ever does. You know, I've sat with so many people with a lot of guilt. They say things like, I worked too much, I shouted, you know, I missed something, I wasn't perfect. And then that communication begins. We do the reading. And the person that they're wanting to connect with, the person communicating, they want to talk about family holidays, or, you know, fish and chips, or the terrible dancing in the kitchen, or the time that, you know, mom accidentally burnt Christmas inner. They're remembering love, not keeping a spreadsheet of every mistake someone ever made. And you know, that one always hits me. Because I think we're all carrying something. You know, sometimes we wish we'd done things differently. We replay things, you know, at three in the morning in our mind. But if this work has taught me anything, it's that love has an extraordinary way of being bigger than our mistakes. And let me tell you something. Guilt in that way, in that moment when I have people sitting in front of me, it is my job to remind them that that guilt is another outlet for their love. They're feeling guilty because they love that person to a place, to an extent. They wanted a good experience. They wanted to leave on a good experience on a high note. They didn't want to look back with regret. Nobody wants to look back with regret. We want it to work. We want it to be good. And I think that every one of us can reflect and think, did I express my love in the way that I should have done or wanted to? And that's what the guilt is. And guys, honestly, think about some of the things that you do treasure, the memories, the moments. Those things are present. Don't let those other factors, those I wish I had done conversations in your mind overshadow the good stuff that you did share. Now, here's the other thing. Nobody becomes perfect. And I love this one. It makes my job as a medium so fun, actually. Because I think we imagine that once somebody passes away, you know, they instantly become this wise, flawless, enlightened being. Now, let me tell you, I do hear from them that the perspective has changed. They realize what really matters. There's a lot of learning when we transition. I can attest to that based on the conversations that I've had. But, you know, it's not been my experience to really see them as perfect beings. Personalities don't disappear. You know, cheeky granddad, he is still cheeky. Sarcastic sister is still sarcastic. And the mom who always fussed, well, she still fusses. The dad who never stopped telling bad jokes is still telling bad jokes. I love the bad jokes. Please, bad joke, dads, keep going. I love it. It makes me smile. I love that so much because it reminds me that who we are matters. Not the polished version, not the version that we're trying to present online, the real one. The one who laughs too loudly, gets emotional during adverts, sings in the car, burns toast. That's the person that people love. Our little idiosyncrasies, they really matter. They they make a memory, they make an attachment, endearment. Some of our flaws that we sometimes wish we could change. Well, they're the things that people can tend to love about us. And that leads me on to the little moments become the big moments. And this is, again, I've said this in a different way earlier in this episode, but I'm going to say it more directly here. We think the important moments are the weddings, the birthdays, the big promotions, maybe even the dream holidays. Yeah, sure. Those things are amazing. They're wonderful. But when people look back, both the people sitting in front of me and the people that I'm communicating with on the other side, the things that get brought up are usually much smaller. You know, it's walking the dog together, making tea, watching rubbish television under a blanket, Saturday mornings, Sunday dinners, hearing someone's laugh from another room. We never realize that we're living the moments that we'll one day miss. And I think that's why I've become so much more intentional. I mean, I still get stressed and overwhelmed. I still have days where I think everyone can just leave me alone for 24 hours. Please leave me. I'm human, but I also catch myself more often stopping and thinking, this is life. Not tomorrow, not next year. This right here, right now. This is life. The most extraordinary moments in readings for me are the ones where peace is found. You know, their loved ones have connected and just want to say, let that go. I'm okay. I am at peace with being here. And just let me in on that. These things that you're thinking about, they're not important. Here's the important stuff. Here's the stuff I've taken with me. And actually, it inspired a tattoo that I have on my forearm. And it says, In the end, there is only love. You know, I've learned that is the only thing that we take with us when we die. You know, our love of things, music, art, passions, and most of all, our people. The people that we got to share our time with. I suppose if I had to sum up what these years of communicating with the other side has taught me, it would be this. Death has never made me appreciate death. It has made me appreciate life. It's reminded me that none of us are here forever, and not in a frightening way, in an incredibly freeing way. It reminds me to tell people I love them, to laugh more, to stop waiting until I feel ready, to make peace where I can, to be kinder to myself, to put the phone down sometimes. You know, to stop believing that life starts after the next milestone. Because it doesn't. It's already happening. Right now, even as you're listening to this, while you walk the dog or drive to work or fold the laundry, life isn't waiting for you. You're already in it. I think that's the greatest gift this work has ever given me. Not certainty about what happens after we die, but gratitude for the time that we have before we do. So while you're here, learn to live fully. You won't regret that. Thank you so much for spending a little bit of your day with me. If this episode resonated with you, I would love to hear your thoughts. You can connect with me through my website, psychic-wispers.com. And if you'd like to become part of the Psychic Whispers community, you'll find exclusive bonus episodes, weekly energy readings, deeper conversations, and live events over at psychicwisperspodcast.com. However, you found me today, thank you for being here. And until next time, trust your path, honor your truth, and always keep listening.