Our BIGGEST Fears Giving Birth - Hi Baby Ep 11

Happy Wednesday! This week we talk about all things preparation! We discuss how ready we actually are and our predictions on the birth of baby!

Transcript

SPEAKER_01 0:00

I'm like trying not to freak out.

SPEAKER_00 0:01

Is it this stressful because we found out so late, or is it always like you feel like you're playing catch-up?

SPEAKER_01 0:06

There's no handbook. For the people that write handbooks, I'm sorry, but there's no handbook. I'm gonna physically have to go in there and pull them out because I'm gonna get so hangry.

SPEAKER_00 0:14

And then I stand up in my hand. I might just think repeat yourself. You've been doing that a lot. Hi, baby. Today you are 35 weeks old. And you are the size of a honeydew? No. Honeymoon?

SPEAKER_01 0:26

Well, honeydew, but also um a Swiss char.

SPEAKER_00 0:29

I don't know what that is.

SPEAKER_01 0:30

It's like long lettuce. Swiss char.

SPEAKER_00 0:32

You're long lettuce right now.

SPEAKER_01 0:34

Long lettuce.

SPEAKER_00 0:35

My boy, you are long lettuce.

SPEAKER_01 0:37

Um but 35 weeks is really close.

SPEAKER_00 0:42

Guys, we're one month. This is crunch time.

SPEAKER_01 0:44

Like literally a month and three days.

SPEAKER_00 0:45

Yeah, we were talking. I mean, we've been saying this the last few days. Like at this point on, it could really be any moment.

SPEAKER_01 0:51

Any day.

SPEAKER_00 0:52

Any day now, which makes me very excited.

SPEAKER_01 0:54

Which makes me think we should probably install the car seat. We have the car seat.

SPEAKER_00 0:58

We gotta install it. The car seat. Um no, I'm very excited, guys. Very, very excited, but also the closer it gets, the more like nervous I am.

SPEAKER_01 1:08

I'm nervous.

SPEAKER_00 1:09

Are you nervous?

SPEAKER_01 1:09

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 1:10

Well, we got it. I don't mean to like, you know, freak you out, but we got this.

SPEAKER_01 1:14

I'm like trying not to freak out because I think that'll be the best thing for my body is if I were to just stay as calm as I can.

SPEAKER_00 1:21

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 1:21

And just trust that like whatever happens is you know, my body knows what it's doing. I'm gonna listen to my body. And that brings me more calm, but it's hard not to freak out.

SPEAKER_00 1:33

Yeah, you gotta start doing all the um like the curb walking and the and the dates. You you you see a million things online that like dates, raspberry juice. Like, this let me have the baby in 30 seconds. Yeah, but like it's hard to really differentiate.

SPEAKER_01 1:47

It really just comes down to like 90% of it is genetics.

SPEAKER_00 1:50

Yeah, on the internet you see every like tip and trick about like eat dates every day or or curb walk or or all these different things. Um, and I'm sure there's some truth to those things.

SPEAKER_01 2:00

No, you know what's so funny is we know that probably half of them are like not wives' tales, but just like it might work for you, might not, but we still send them to each other regardless.

SPEAKER_00 2:10

True. I think just in case. I think it's kind of the point we sent so many to each other that we don't even watch them anymore because it's just I try. That's one of the hardest things I found with this um whole experience for me. Obviously, it's you know a lot hard more difficult for you having to actually carry well, not even comparable, but um, just as far as like the information, like obviously I want to do everything I can to make sure the baby's healthy and you're healthy and everything goes smooth, but it's so hard to like discern which stuff is just like someone trying to make you scared or trying to help and make money off you, or if it's like genuinely like they like this actually works. Cause there's so much stuff out there.

SPEAKER_01 2:47

Um the things that I I'll say this, the three not the three, but like a a couple things that I actually think I'm gonna do and that I have tried um is I have tried the the prennial massage, not with Crawford, but by myself.

SPEAKER_00 3:08

Who are you doing this with?

SPEAKER_01 3:09

No. I just I tried it myself, terrible, but I do think that it'll help the most because to in my mind it makes the most sense like of like how I view the prenal massage is like imagine if you were learning to do the splits.

SPEAKER_00 3:26

Okay.

SPEAKER_01 3:27

If you just try to do them right away, splits right away, right here, you're gonna pull a muscle.

SPEAKER_00 3:32

Honestly, that is valid.

SPEAKER_01 3:34

But if you work on it every day for like a month, listen, you're gonna be able to do the splits easy because you practiced.

SPEAKER_00 3:43

I'm not an expert or scientist, but it checks out to me. The logic checks out.

SPEAKER_01 3:47

Okay, thank you. That makes me feel better.

SPEAKER_00 3:48

The logic checks out to me. I again, you know, if someone is an expert, let us know, but I it checks out to me.

SPEAKER_01 3:54

So it's honestly. What about the dates? I've heard the dates is like a we the thing is is we have a box of dates and and you ain't been eating you haven't been eating them. No.

SPEAKER_00 4:01

I'm like, baby, you want to date? She's like, no. I'm like, you shouldn't.

SPEAKER_01 4:04

I want to date you. That was so bad to me.

SPEAKER_00 4:08

That was so bad. I want to date you too, baby. Love you. Um, I mean, yeah, but I just there, I had to do that. I think you've been doing a really good job, baby. And obviously.

SPEAKER_01 4:17

I also have the cherry tart, the tart cherry juice.

SPEAKER_00 4:19

You've been doing that, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 4:20

I don't know if I've been consistent at it, but we tried it. Um, and then walking for sure. Being keeping up the exercise.

SPEAKER_00 4:29

That's why we went to Coachella.

SPEAKER_01 4:31

That's exactly how I was.

SPEAKER_00 4:31

Trying to get the steps in.

SPEAKER_01 4:33

Um, but trying to be as active as possible. I feel like a lot of women I know that said that they had easier births said that they were as active as they possibly could till the very end. And so I will be starting the curb walking.

SPEAKER_00 4:50

Let's go. What are we starting today?

SPEAKER_01 4:52

We could, technically. I'll do it with you. You're gonna walk the curb.

SPEAKER_00 4:55

I'm gonna walk the curb. Um, so I guess going into like, you know, a month away, we're we're right on the cus. Obviously, any day now we could have our beautiful baby boy, which you know we're both so excited about. We are. Uh, how prepared are we? Because we asked this question a few months ago. And honestly, a few months ago, we weren't inspired.

SPEAKER_01 5:11

We weren't prepared at all.

SPEAKER_00 5:12

And I don't I need to like answer some people in the chat who have had kids and gone through this. Is it this stressful because we found out so late, or is it always like you feel like you're playing catch up no matter what? Yeah. So I feel like we have not really had a moment to like like breathe as far as like there's been so many things we've had to like prep for and do and get ready ever since we found out. And um obviously a lot of it is really great things, and we're very excited, but it has been like non-stop.

SPEAKER_01 5:39

I think that we're like 80% prepared.

SPEAKER_00 5:43

80%.

SPEAKER_01 5:44

Well, obviously, we just talked about it. The car seat needs to be installed.

SPEAKER_00 5:47

Yeah, let's list it off. We have the car seat, gotta put we gotta install it. We should probably do that today. Uh, we have the bassinet. We have two bassinets. We have two bassinets. One's like a travel one, one's for the house. We have all the clothes. We technically have a stroller too.

SPEAKER_01 6:01

It just got lost in the mail. So we're trying to get the floor.

SPEAKER_00 6:04

It's on the way. Um, her mom has bought us enough clothes to last the baby the biggest. If the baby stayed the same size, the baby could be in a new outfit for three years.

SPEAKER_01 6:13

Like under 10 pounds for two years, we'd still have to be a little bit more.

SPEAKER_00 6:16

We love her for and we appreciate it, but we had to be like, um Finally, I would told her it's like if stop buying anything.

SPEAKER_01 6:23

Because it would get to the point where she would leave the house, and every time she left the house, she would come home with at least three like new things for the baby. And I was like, mom.

SPEAKER_00 6:33

Which we appreciate.

SPEAKER_01 6:34

Yeah, thank you so much.

SPEAKER_00 6:36

But let's talk about how I got kicked out of guys. We have one dresser. I started with like six drawers. So many clothes that I've been kicked out. I started with six drawers, now they had three. I'm down to two drawers, now they have zero, and the baby has what, seven? It's a nine-drawer dresser.

SPEAKER_01 6:50

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 6:50

Well, the baby's the baby's up.

SPEAKER_01 6:52

To be fair though, I did replace your drawers with bigger drawers.

SPEAKER_00 6:55

That's true, that's true. We got it, we got a different setup, but uh we got a different setup now. Um yeah, we're making it work. And uh, so we have the stroller on the way.

SPEAKER_01 7:03

We technically all of the clothes and like diaper changing and a lot of diapers with a diaper raffle at the baby shower.

SPEAKER_00 7:11

Ton of diapers, we love it. Thank you to everyone.

SPEAKER_01 7:14

Um, and we still receive diapers. We get packages at our door, and we're like, who sent this? And then we open it's like diapers. Yeah, we're like, oh, okay.

SPEAKER_00 7:23

Probably I don't even know who sent it at this point. Yeah, they never put the name. I wish they did. Which I'm not complaining about. I feel very, very grateful um for everybody who was nice enough to help us out with that. So very much appreciated.

SPEAKER_01 7:34

We have our hatch set up.

SPEAKER_00 7:35

We got the hatch.

SPEAKER_01 7:36

Um we also oh, we we the things that we need to set up is the owl eye.

SPEAKER_00 7:40

Well, the very important things, the most important things, I think, right now. Well, the most important things right now, because obviously with everything coming up, is you have your hospital bag ready and packed.

SPEAKER_01 7:48

Well, it's not completely ready. It's like I would say my hospital bag is 80% complete.

SPEAKER_00 7:52

Oh, what are we missing?

SPEAKER_01 7:53

I would say hospital bags, 75% ready.

SPEAKER_00 7:55

Oh, I still gotta pack. You haven't packed yours. Yeah, yeah. You packed two.

SPEAKER_01 7:58

I think like with my stuff, I'm like personally with like all of mama's stuff, like 80%. There are things that I want to get two of still. Like, um, I have my hospital gown. Someone from your chat was nice enough to send me one. That's amazing. Thank God. Um, shout out to them. I am using that one. And I have one pair of pajamas in there, but I was reading somebody that I should bring like two or three, so I might put another pair in. And then I actually need to put in, like, I guess when you leave the hospital, you can pack another outfit. So one that's still comfy. I could probably just wear the pajamas, honestly. But you know, some people like to feel special like when they take their yeah, baby home. So maybe I'll do like pajamas that are cuter. So we got we got most of the stuff that's like the important stuff, like my coochie pads, the ones that are supposed to soothe the cooch after labor. Those are all pr packed and ready. All of the creams, the pumps. I don't even I I don't know, like it's just you never know. I've been getting so many TikToks of like what I put in my hospital bag, and like I feel like you never know what you're gonna personally need until you're there, and so it's hard not to overpack because you know I've seen people be like, bring your pumps, and then I've seen other people be like, Oh, you don't need to bring your pumps like hospitals normally like have them where you won't need them, you'll always just like breastfeed. So I'm like, Oh, you never know.

SPEAKER_00 9:18

Yeah, I feel like for mine, I've been watching because I didn't even know up until a few weeks ago that I'm supposed to pack something too. Yeah, because this is what I've heard. Main things I've heard from dads, obviously, we have it a lot easier, but there's still a couple things. The bed they give us, apparently really uncomfortable, and the blanket. So they say bring a pillow and bring a blanket. Number one and two, portable charger or like a not portable, but like a pillow too for my back.

SPEAKER_01 9:41

Because sometimes the hospital pillows.

SPEAKER_00 9:43

Not not the pregnancy pillow, not the pregnancy pillow. I got beef. Oh, I'm gonna bring our bobby. They said to bring the bobby is really helpful. And then some snacks. They say bring some snacks. But I think I think we're like, you know, obviously we once we install the car seat and the showers are supposed to come in in the next week or two. I think we're uh we pretty much got it all ready to go. Yeah. Now my question is, are we ready?

SPEAKER_01 10:05

No, of course not. Okay, well. I don't think we'll we'll be ready at all. And I don't think we'll ever be prepared. I don't know if you ever can I don't think you can. You know, life is always changing, and once we've probably figured something out, he's gonna change the way that he does it, and we're gonna have to refigure it out again. And I feel like that's gonna be our lives for the next 18 years.

SPEAKER_00 10:25

Yeah. Which is crazy because they're gonna be.

SPEAKER_01 10:32

We're never, we're never gonna, there's no handbook. For the people that write handbooks, I'm sorry, but there's no handbook.

SPEAKER_00 10:39

Well, a lot of what you know I've been kind of picking up, I guess. I guess I'm talking to our friends that are parents, or um, you know, my own parents are seeing online is you know, there is only so much prep you can do, and exactly you just the biggest thing you can do is kind of learn to be adaptable and roll with the punches and be patient.

SPEAKER_01 10:58

Listen to your baby.

SPEAKER_00 10:58

Listen to your baby, listen to your gut, listen to your significant other.

SPEAKER_01 11:02

Yeah. Within reason. Always hear them out, at least.

SPEAKER_00 11:06

Well, that's what I meant. I didn't mean like, yeah, I didn't mean it the way you took it. I meant it like, you know, make sure you're listening to each other and uh we're a team. Looking out for each other, we're a team, not not the other way around.

SPEAKER_01 11:15

I know I brought up the handbook, but I just want to put this out there really quickly. Crawford has been very uh quote unquote funny lately, and someone gave him the bright idea that he should write a book of dad jokes.

SPEAKER_00 11:28

Let's go. It's coming out soon, guys. Just wait. I need I need a lot of things.

SPEAKER_01 11:32

I don't know if Crawford is serious about this because he's like, I I think he thinks it's a good idea, and I don't think it's a bad idea because the I'll tell you, they're dad jokes. I've been funny.

SPEAKER_00 11:41

I've been training my whole life for this.

SPEAKER_01 11:43

I don't know, but they are dad jokes.

SPEAKER_00 11:44

No, I I feel like I can't write that book until I've been a father for longer.

SPEAKER_01 11:48

I don't have the um He's gonna be starting to take notes.

SPEAKER_00 11:50

Dad jokes uh dad jokes for training.

SPEAKER_01 11:52

You'll put your dad notes in your notes. Yeah, or your dad jokes in your notes, and once you have enough, maybe you'll make I think I need a couple more years under my belt before I, you know, write the book. What if you call it first year of dad jokes?

SPEAKER_00 12:04

Well, here's the thing I'm telling the jokes to the baby and he don't even understand. Yeah, but you're just gonna be able to do it. Wasting all those hilarious jokes. I'm wasting all those hilarious jokes on a baby who doesn't even know what I'm saying.

SPEAKER_01 12:12

No, but you know who has to hear them? Me.

SPEAKER_00 12:14

That's true. Every every time. We'll do a rating system. Every time I tell one, you rate it out of 10. It's fine.

SPEAKER_01 12:19

And then the worse it is, the more you're gonna wear it.

SPEAKER_00 12:20

The worse it is, the more it goes in the book. Um because I think a good dad joke really stems from how many, um, how much disappointment you receive after telling it. Like that's the scale. Because you tell a dad joke, kind of knowing going into it, which I think I've told jokes like this on purpose my whole life. Half the time I tell a joke, I know it's not gonna land. I tell it because I know I'm gonna get a reaction of the people I'm saying it to, being like, bro, like you know, so and you know who else understands that? David. David, David loves to tell a joke he knows is gonna get a bad reaction.

SPEAKER_01 12:49

David reminds me of like, you know, when you go to watch like comedians who are working like on their sets, yeah, and then like they like try to do a new joke and it doesn't hit, and then it's like kind of just like awkward stuff. But there's a funnel that's more of what I get from David.

SPEAKER_00 13:03

But there's a funniness in that awkwardness.

SPEAKER_01 13:05

No, exactly. And people start laughing because they feel awkward because no, honestly, I I love that type of humor. Maybe David should try stand-up comedy.

SPEAKER_00 13:14

But I love that type of humor, and I think um, even me, a lot of time I tell a joke knowing that people are like, bro. I live I live for that moment of people's reaction of like, bro, what do you come on? 10 out of 10. But yeah, I think we're I think we're gonna do good, baby. And we're as prepared as uh once we get the car seat installed and finish up packing the bags, I think uh we're ready to go.

SPEAKER_01 13:35

It's just hard because it's like, you know, you work from home, but I even though I am like 50% remote, I work a nine to five. And it is so as most people know, like by the time you're done with your nine to five, there really feels like there's no time to do anything else, and you're so tired. And I really f thought that I was gonna have to like wait till my maternity leave started to get stuff done, but I'm honestly scared now that if I wait till my maternity leave, I'm not gonna make it on time. So I've been trying to do little increments every day, but it gets hard.

SPEAKER_00 14:14

You've been killing it, baby. Thanks. Thank you.

SPEAKER_01 14:16

I think uh I get out of breath now too. Just from talking.

SPEAKER_00 14:20

Oh yeah, if you guys have any uh uh recommendations on you know what to bring in the bag or something like that.

SPEAKER_01 14:25

What was the most helpful thing that you put in your hospital bag?

SPEAKER_00 14:29

Yeah, what was the most important item you put in that in the hospital bag?

SPEAKER_01 14:32

I will be getting a sushi boat, but what was the and also let me know what you're gonna do.

SPEAKER_00 14:35

We can't put that in the hospital bag.

SPEAKER_01 14:37

But what no, but I want to know the food that you ate right after labor because you know once your labor starts, you're not allowed to eat.

SPEAKER_00 14:44

Damn.

SPEAKER_01 14:44

That's why like pe like a lot of women get these huge meals after labor is not because like it's like a reward for going through eight months, nine months of pregnancy. It's because some labors are like two days and you really can't eat. That's crazy. I didn't know that until very recently that once your labor starts, you can't eat anything. You know, so you get imagine like doing all of that exercise from your body and like exuding all that energy, and you're just not allowed to like shout out to all the women who have gave birth because obviously that's it's incredible.

SPEAKER_00 15:17

It really is the miracle of life.

SPEAKER_01 15:19

No, I also our labor has to be like two hours, or I'm I'm gonna physically have to go in there and pull them out because I'm gonna get so hangry. I'm not kidding. Don't take me away from my food. Babe, you know how serious I am. It's not funny.

SPEAKER_00 15:37

No, I mean, no, it's not funny. It's not funny. I was gonna say something else after that, but that took me so off guard. I don't I don't know what I was gonna say. It couldn't have been that important. But I guess speaking of birth, obviously, um, it coming up quick. We we have a little game, right?

SPEAKER_01 15:52

Yeah, we're gonna we're gonna do little predictions. I know that we um talked about things that we thought would happen a long time ago, like maybe one of the first couple of episodes. But now that we're getting down to the nitty-gritty, we're gonna do some predictions on our labor. And then we'll see. We can look, we can watch back, listen back, and see how wrong how wrong we were. Exactly.

SPEAKER_00 16:13

We're gonna be very optimistic, and you know, hopefully that's the way it goes.

SPEAKER_01 16:17

So our lovely producer is gonna be feeding us the questions to these predictions, and then me and cre me and Crawford will give you our answers. But all these all three.

SPEAKER_00 16:26

Wait, this is the first time they'll hear Alyssa, right?

SPEAKER_01 16:28

Yeah, they've never heard of this before voice revealing.

SPEAKER_00 16:31

This is the voice from above. Who is that?

SPEAKER_01 16:34

It's a sexy call girl.

unknown 16:36

Yo.

SPEAKER_02 16:37

Uh no pressure, Alyssa. Okay, so the first one is first I want you to say when your due date is, and when do you think you'll actually give birth?

SPEAKER_01 16:47

Okay, you wanna go first or me?

SPEAKER_00 16:48

Well, I know you've been saying for a long time that you think the baby's gonna come early. Are you aga do you think he'll come late? I don't think listen, I uh M team whenever the baby's healthy. So, but when do I think? Like if I had to guess, due date's May 23rd. I'm gonna say uh May 20th.

SPEAKER_01 17:08

You're kinda close to me. So, like he said, the due date is May 23rd. I think that our baby will come. Okay, my maternity leave starts the 15th, so I'm hoping not any earlier than that. But it's hard because May is also a month that has, I feel like for both of us, so many like important birthdays. Like my dad's born in May, Brie's born in May, Corey's born in May. I mean, if it was So I'm also trying to stay away from certain people's birthdays because you know, obviously I don't want my my dad is like, have him be born on my birthday. And I'm like, really? You would want that?

SPEAKER_00 17:44

Yeah, I mean, if he was born on Corey's birthday, that would be pretty special. Um I don't know.

SPEAKER_01 17:49

But I told Brie if like I my water broke on her birthday, it would like cross my legs and be like, no.

SPEAKER_00 17:55

Yeah, I know Cory, I know Corey would be happy to share his birthday, so I don't think uh I was gonna ask you, do you think I think maybe he wouldn't?

SPEAKER_01 18:01

No, I was gonna say as Corey Corey, you're right. Would he ever share a birthday?

SPEAKER_00 18:05

Corey, would he share a birthday? He might not be happy. I don't know. It would be pretty crazy if he's born on the birthday.

SPEAKER_01 18:10

No, because that means that every year on our son's birthday, we wouldn't be able to do Corey's birthday. Like, or like we would have to separate them every year instead.

SPEAKER_00 18:19

That's true.

SPEAKER_01 18:20

So I'm like We do celebrate Cory's birthday around even if even if he was born around Corey's birthday, it would still be special.

SPEAKER_00 18:25

It would be cool. I don't know how Cory would feel about it, but I think it'd be really cool if he was born the same day as Corey. He might not find it as amusing, but I would find I would find it very amusing. And uh I feel like it would be feel very special, but whether he would or not, it's up for debate.

SPEAKER_01 18:39

If baby came on the if baby comes 11th to 13th, that would still feel very much like that was Corey.

SPEAKER_00 18:46

Well, I think the fact that we're having a baby boy in May already feels very like um.

SPEAKER_01 18:50

Yeah, that's what I was saying too. Just like a May baby boy. Like, what are the odds? Like we didn't even plan that.

SPEAKER_00 18:57

Does feel very, very, um, very special. And even the fact that the friend group is all having boys, you know, it in a way feels like uh, I don't know, I feel like he's involved in in some way, but you know up there, he's up there uh I don't know minimes, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 19:12

Or maybe little versions of him too. He's like, let me just bring back some a little bit of a little bit of spice. Um, I think I'll go like two days earlier than you. I'll say May 18th. 18th or 19th. I don't know, but we might get unlucky and it might be the 17th, which is my best friend's birthday.

SPEAKER_00 19:34

Yeah, she might not she might not like that. But yeah, we'll see, I guess.

SPEAKER_01 19:37

What if he's late? What if we're making these predictions and he's like June 16th?

SPEAKER_00 19:41

Like I said, more more than anything, as long as he's healthy, I don't care what day. But you know, I'm just I just really want to.

SPEAKER_01 19:49

Baby, if he's a Gemini, we're gonna have a crazy baby.

SPEAKER_00 19:51

Sorry to all the Geminis out there.

SPEAKER_01 19:53

Sorry, I it's just what I've heard. The the stars have spoken. Okay, those are predictions.

SPEAKER_02 20:00

Okay, the next one will be the time of day. So, like, do you think middle of the night?

SPEAKER_00 20:05

Dang. I hope it's not the middle of the night. I feel like it's like more common for babies to be born at night, or maybe I just made that up completely. I probably did. Maybe because I was born at like 2 a.m.

SPEAKER_01 20:14

I also no, my mom's water broke at night, but sh and she had a whole like she didn't give birth to me until like the next morning. But it started like mid midday to night for her.

SPEAKER_00 20:25

Well, I'm gonna go 2 a.m. Just like me.

SPEAKER_01 20:29

2 a.m. Like your water will like the water will break or conceived. Oh no, she's also she's asking not a hundred percent sure to say. She's asking me, baby, when you think the baby will break.

SPEAKER_00 20:39

Oh when the water will break?

SPEAKER_01 20:41

Or like when the baby is no when the water will break when the water breaks.

SPEAKER_02 20:44

I mean you could do both, water break or give birth. Okay, when do you think the water will break and give birth?

SPEAKER_00 20:50

Because like hopefully not when we're doing something important. We're filming. Oh my god. We're filming the on the podcast. Think of the views. No, um think of how stressed I'm gonna be. Damn. Okay, the the water's gonna break at 12 30, baby born to quick, quick and easy.

SPEAKER_01 21:10

Okay, I like that. I hope it's that easy.

SPEAKER_00 21:12

And baby boy's coming right out. He's ready, he's ready to meet us.

SPEAKER_01 21:15

Um, this is actually so crazy, but I kind of want my water to break like midday when we're just like, let's say we're just sitting on the couch together. It's like 2, 3 p.m. I get up and I'm like, I'm gonna go get some food. And then I stand up in my own.

SPEAKER_00 21:28

Well, I'm just thinking peeve yourself. You've been doing that a lot. Like I'm like, baby, again.

SPEAKER_01 21:34

No, it'll be so much different than pee. Because it'll it won't just it won't just like you don't have to get graphic.

SPEAKER_00 21:40

You don't have to get graphic. It'll just like an explosion?

SPEAKER_01 21:48

What is that? Like, um, but it's like not like a P where it's like a sh like a stream.

SPEAKER_00 21:53

Uh okay.

SPEAKER_01 21:53

At least not at first. Like when your water breaks, it's like your water broke, and then some people just leave.

SPEAKER_00 22:01

Okay. Okay.

SPEAKER_01 22:02

Yeah. I saw w I saw this one girl who was smart when her water broke. We have to remember this in my water breaks. She put a trash bag down on the the car. So that way she's not just sitting on the leather in her water juices. This is getting so ambiotic fluid. Is that what breaks? Is that what breaks? Is the ambiotic fluid? I don't know. I don't know either.

SPEAKER_00 22:25

I still don't know how babies are made. I'm still trying to figure that out. I don't know how we got here. I'm still I'm just I'm confused.

SPEAKER_01 22:31

But yeah, I'll say my water will break 3 p.m. midday. And I'm hoping that my labor isn't longer. Hope it's not longer than 24 hours. So I'm hoping that maybe like 14, 14 hours, I feel like it's the average.

SPEAKER_00 22:48

Do we know the average? Because it's very rare. It's like really quick, right? Yeah. But it's also like the extreme is like 30 hours.

SPEAKER_01 22:54

Like some women have days.

SPEAKER_00 22:56

Days?

SPEAKER_01 22:57

I think Ayla was like two or three days.

SPEAKER_00 22:59

Is that what she said on the podcast?

SPEAKER_01 23:01

I think so.

SPEAKER_02 23:02

Definitely over a day for her. It says the average labor for a first-time parent generally is 12 to 24 hours. Okay, let's go with 12. Since that's it's a little bit more.

SPEAKER_00 23:12

I said an hour and a half. My glass is like, you know, we're there 12 30, 2 a.m. we're out of there. Um damn.

SPEAKER_02 23:18

But I think that also includes everything. So it says like active labor, like it doesn't start as intense. Yeah, like active labor of pushing is four to eight hours.

SPEAKER_00 23:27

That's not as as bad, but still longer than I thought.

SPEAKER_01 23:29

My body's gonna do what my body needs to do.

SPEAKER_00 23:32

You got it, baby.

SPEAKER_01 23:33

Um, okay. Well, uh, I'll go with 14. Okay. 12 to 14 hours. So whatever that puts me at the end. I'm sticking with my original answer. That puts me at like what, like the middle of the night, like or really early morning, I guess. I was a I was like a 6 a.m. baby, so that makes sense.

SPEAKER_02 23:49

Okay, let's just keep it at that. Will the baby arrive with a full head of hair or be bald?

SPEAKER_00 23:56

Well, we were both bald, right?

SPEAKER_01 23:57

You're bald? No, you weren't. You had hair.

SPEAKER_00 23:59

I had hair.

SPEAKER_01 24:00

I'm pretty sure your mom told me you had hair.

SPEAKER_00 24:02

Apparently I had hair. Um I was bald for sure. I think the baby is probably gonna be bald, if I had to guess. Just because you know, if you were bald, and I'm pretty sure it was.

SPEAKER_01 24:16

Oh. Like like Caillou.

SPEAKER_00 24:19

But if he's got hair, is it is it like um why is that? That why do some babies have a full head of hair and some I actually have no idea, but well, this is my thing, is I think he might have a full head of hair.

SPEAKER_01 24:28

That's my prediction. Because I have the most intense heartburn ever. And that's like a and the wives tale is the more heartburn you have, it's because of how much hair your baby has.

SPEAKER_00 24:39

So he's coming out with like this locks. Locks. Whipping his hair back and forth.

SPEAKER_01 24:43

I think that our baby's gonna have a 40-inch bust down.

SPEAKER_00 24:46

Damn. That's a good prediction.

SPEAKER_01 24:48

That's how much heartburn I have.

SPEAKER_00 24:49

Let's go. Alright, I'm changing my answer to some hair. Like, not little cool head of hair.

SPEAKER_01 25:00

What is just some hair?

SPEAKER_00 25:02

Like light, like not completely bald, but like some light, some light hair.

SPEAKER_01 25:06

Okay.

SPEAKER_02 25:09

Alright, Alyssa. I'm just I don't know what I'm saying.

SPEAKER_00 25:12

I have no idea.

SPEAKER_02 25:13

On a scale of one to ten, one being super chill and ten being really chaotic. How do you think the baby's energy level will work?

SPEAKER_00 25:21

Well, I'm really chill. The baby's energy level?

SPEAKER_01 25:24

So he's gonna be chaotic.

SPEAKER_00 25:27

You can tell he's kicking in there. Do you ever feel like um like you can communicate with the baby?

SPEAKER_01 25:33

Yeah. Because you guys are really sharing like I feel like sometimes he can hear my thoughts.

SPEAKER_00 25:37

That's crazy.

SPEAKER_01 25:38

Like, I know it sounds like it sounds crazy.

SPEAKER_00 25:41

I listen.

SPEAKER_01 25:42

But I swear sometimes I talk to him and I just think talk to him. Like I'm like in my head, and I'm like, he knows. And I'm thinking, and I just feel like I know he he knows my thoughts and it resonates, or at least he can feel the feeling that I'm trying to give him.

SPEAKER_00 25:56

I will say it's um not like I don't want to use the word difficult, but it is interesting being a father because as much as I obviously can feel the baby and like feel when he kicks, and obviously I know our son is in there, I don't think I have the same like like it's hard for me to connect to the baby because I'm not literally connected to the baby, you know?

SPEAKER_01 26:15

Yeah, that comes for you, but I don't know.

SPEAKER_00 26:17

So so I think I'm talking to most dads, and I don't know if moms feel this the same way because you carry the baby for literally nine months. Yeah, but talking to most dads, like you really feel like the most connection, obviously, once you you hold the baby. But I'm interested, not that I don't obviously um feel like connected to our son, but I feel like there's like a whole nother level once I'm actually like you feel that I I think what you're trying to say is I feel more connected than you feel right now. I don't want to assume that, but I I'm asking. Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 26:43

And I I agree with you because I think that like you are missing the more touch connection. Like, how how much more touch can you get instead like you're already inside of me.

SPEAKER_00 26:56

Well, so I'm saying you guys are connected, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 26:58

Like that's all we're physically connected through our umbilical cord right now. Yeah, so like this is this is the closest we'll technically ever be to each other. Once he comes out of me, we'll never be as close physically.

SPEAKER_00 27:09

Which I think for dads, I feel like it's again. I haven't you know helped my son, I can't wait. But from talking to other dads, I feel like they feel like once you have the skin, like once you hold the baby, you you get that feeling.

SPEAKER_01 27:20

Are you gonna do the like um some dads take off their shirts when they hold their baby for the first time?

SPEAKER_00 27:24

Our is really healthy, so yeah. Yeah. Why not?

SPEAKER_01 27:26

I'm just shirtless and that's that's the real reason why Cropper's been getting jacked.

SPEAKER_00 27:30

Just for that photo? Just so his baby.

SPEAKER_01 27:33

No, so that way when you hold our baby, our baby's like, what's that rock? And it's just your muscles.

SPEAKER_00 27:39

I I honestly genuinely cannot wait for that moment. I think, you know, I that's you know, I don't really have many like obviously we're gonna have a smooth knock on wood, smooth um delivery and everything. But once, you know, we're holding that baby, I know no matter what, um, I'm gonna do what I need to do, and I cannot wait to make sure that baby has the best possible life.

SPEAKER_01 28:02

I know I'll be like so out of it, or I don't know, like not out of it, but my adrenaline will probably be so high from just pushing on a whole child. So I don't I I'm curious to see how I I'll feel once you hold the baby too, because I get to see that and witness that, but I'll also just be so like I don't know, I feel like it's like a mix of being out of it, but also your adrenaline's rushing and you're like trying to enjoy the moment and you're so happy, and but you're also like so exhausted. Like I can only imagine what like and I will know soon enough.

SPEAKER_00 28:34

Yeah, so feeling like sitting here talking about it, and even just talking to parents, they're always like, Man, like you just don't know. You don't, yeah. So we're just we're just yapping.

SPEAKER_01 28:46

And I think that that's why we're so antsy.

SPEAKER_00 28:49

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 28:49

Is because like we're about to answer all of our own questions.

SPEAKER_00 28:52

Because we have all these questions, like both of us, like we we're playing out scenarios that we obviously feel like it's gonna be like.

SPEAKER_01 28:59

And it's hard to because people even ask, even at when people ask us about our birth plan, it's hard for us to give answers because it's like we're still so back and forth with certain things. So I don't know, but I guess our prediction is no hair. That's where that came from, right?

SPEAKER_00 29:16

Yeah, so yeah, just I don't know where we went with that.

SPEAKER_01 29:19

Yeah, I don't know where we went with that, but no hair.

SPEAKER_00 29:20

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 29:21

Oh no, no, no, no, sorry. Our prediction is a full head of hair. At least mine is Crawford's is some some hair.

SPEAKER_00 29:30

I don't know how that got there from the hair, but this one's interesting.

SPEAKER_02 29:34

I don't know if you are gonna be playing like music, but what song, if you were to play music, what song do you think the baby would be born to?

SPEAKER_00 29:42

Start from the bottom now we hear. I knew you were in a situation. I just I knew I just knew no, I don't know. Thanks.

SPEAKER_01 29:50

Me and Crawford have decided that like we're not gonna do um, we're not gonna succumb to the nursery rhymes.

SPEAKER_00 29:55

We're gonna try not to.

SPEAKER_01 29:56

We're gonna try not to. I don't know. I don't know.

SPEAKER_00 29:58

We were in the car.

SPEAKER_01 29:59

I don't need itsy bitsy spider to be my most played song on my like Apple Music, Spotify rap.

SPEAKER_00 30:04

There's gotta be a better option. There's gotta be a better option.

SPEAKER_01 30:06

Um, Disney music, potentially. Like, I I grew up listening to a lot of Disney music. Also, like I think there are a lot of clean versions. Like, what's the question?

SPEAKER_00 30:15

What's the what music like they're gonna be listening to when we we give birth or just in general?

SPEAKER_01 30:20

When you give birth, but maybe the vibe of the room. Uh oh yeah, yeah, some Drake. I need to be pop.

SPEAKER_00 30:25

Is that a thing? Like uh people bring speaker and play music? Any you can bring anything. DJ DJ Crawford's coming back for one final mix. I'm in here. I didn't know. I'm putting together the playlist. I'm bringing my my DJ board, I'm bringing my mixer. I'm gonna set it up, bring the speakers. Oh I'm gonna play the craziest labor mix you've ever heard, and I'm gonna drop it. Labor mix dropping uh very soon, guys. Get ready for that.

SPEAKER_01 30:51

If you did that, I think that would. I don't even know if I would I don't even know what would be like I'm already overstimulated, but I'm not gonna in there.

SPEAKER_00 30:59

You're just in there pushing, they're like push, and I'm like, You got it, babe. I got the you got it.

SPEAKER_01 31:05

And it's like doo doo doo doo baby go baby. You know the you know the horns? The doo doo doo doo.

SPEAKER_00 31:10

Yeah, I'll play go baby the whole time. Go, baby. I got you. Uh that's coming soon. Um, but I don't know. That's a good question. I've never even thought about that. I didn't even know that was a thing.

SPEAKER_01 31:20

Yeah, but well, they like you know, they they don't I don't think they'll let you bring in a DJ booth. You are allowed to play like if you want to like calm or like you know, it might be like calming to me.

SPEAKER_00 31:31

But imagine I bring out a couple guest singers, like it's a whole it's just our friends, it's like Corbin Neza. People pull up, sing, sing a song and dip. We'll live stream the whole thing. Baby cella. We are not having oh my god, we're having baby cella, guys. Baby cella tickets coming soon. It's gonna be insane. It's gonna be sick.

SPEAKER_01 31:50

We're just gonna live stream it.

SPEAKER_00 31:51

Yeah, it's gonna be sick.

SPEAKER_01 31:52

That's not happening.

SPEAKER_00 31:53

That's my answer. I don't know if that was an answer, but that's that's all I got.

SPEAKER_01 31:56

Okay, well, that's Crawford's answer. My prediction, I don't know. Like, I don't see myself giving birth to music. Sorry, bib.

SPEAKER_00 32:05

Um guys, anyone uh we'll be giving refunds out for baby cello. I know you guys already bought tickets.

SPEAKER_01 32:12

Sadly, conditions wouldn't allow it, so um, I just this is my thing is I wouldn't mind it being played. But my thing is, is I feel like I'm gonna be so focused on my breathing and saying certain like mantras in my head to like soothe myself already, that I'll probably be blocking out anything that's not the nurses and doctors and myself. So like you could probably have a song playing and then ask me, like, oh, what song was playing while you're giving birth? I probably wouldn't even be able to tell you.

SPEAKER_00 32:42

Well, so you don't get a song plan?

SPEAKER_01 32:43

Um, there's no plan, no. Okay, but I'm not opposed to it.

SPEAKER_00 32:47

Alright. Well, I guess we'll see in the moment.

SPEAKER_01 32:49

You can't be surprised if I tell you that I didn't he like wasn't paying attention. It's okay, baby.

SPEAKER_00 32:54

There's a lot going on. That's valid. That's very valid.

SPEAKER_01 32:56

So I think maybe for birth, no music. But growing like with him in the car, I think we'll do a lot of Disney and then maybe Crawford's baby cella playlists. Let's go. And then obviously Drake. It's just almost like your culture.

SPEAKER_00 33:15

It's like it's my culture, the Canadian culture. Yeah, we'll see. Uh, I'm not the thing is I don't know if I will be able to handle nursery violence playing 247. No, I can't.

SPEAKER_01 33:25

If if there's another option, we're gonna try to find out Disney music, like from like Disney movies, Disney originals.

SPEAKER_00 33:31

Well, really, it's not up to us. It's what calms the baby.

SPEAKER_01 33:33

That's true. Maybe, maybe it's a big one. We might succumb to the Itsy Bitsy Spider might be better than I'm gonna be.

SPEAKER_00 33:39

We might succumb to the pressure when it's between, you know, itsy bitsy spider and screaming. We're probably gonna play itsy bitsy spider.

SPEAKER_01 33:45

Oh god. Well, those are predictions.

SPEAKER_02 33:48

The last one will be eye color and hair cut color that they'll settle on.

SPEAKER_01 33:53

So, like, not what they can like um with not what they're born with a change into. I think I have my answer. Do you have yours?

SPEAKER_00 33:59

You can go first.

SPEAKER_01 33:59

I think the baby will be born blonde, but we'll turn brunette because I was bleach blonde. Because Crawford was bleach blonde, and apparently hair is a very dominant feature coming from the father. Um, so I think that our baby will have brown hair for sure, and I don't think it'll get as dark as mine. I think it'll have closer to your brown rather than my like brown almost black hair. Also, because on my dad's side, everyone's like your brunette color. Like only me and my mom really have this dark hair. So I wouldn't be surprised if like that was the dominant trait. And I think hazel eyes.

SPEAKER_00 34:42

Okay.

SPEAKER_01 34:43

Because eyes are also dominant from the dad. And you're already rare for your family because you're the only one with hazel. Everyone else has like colors.

SPEAKER_00 34:53

My dads are slightly hazel.

SPEAKER_01 34:55

My dads are hazel too. My dads are so light, like super, super light traits. Yeah. So they can be born with one color and then you know, grow into more of a they could be they could start out really light and turn darker. Usually they get darker and not lighter. That's the thing.

SPEAKER_00 35:12

Okay, my guess is probably closer to my hair color, maybe slightly darker. I feel like our answer is the same though. And I'd say hazel eyes probably. There is blue and green in my in my family. Um my dad is hazel eyes, my mom's are blue, our brothers are green, my sisters are.

SPEAKER_01 35:28

I just think because I'm brown, they'll lean more towards brown, which is why I say hazel. But you never know.

SPEAKER_00 35:35

No matter what, baby will be perfect.

SPEAKER_01 35:36

Yeah, baby will be beautiful and perfect just the way he is.

SPEAKER_00 35:39

I can't wait to meet him.

SPEAKER_01 35:40

Yeah, and you think blonde too, like as a b like from from birth or?

SPEAKER_00 35:44

I said no hair, remember?

SPEAKER_01 35:44

Oh yeah, you said no hair, but like when it starts to grow.

SPEAKER_00 35:47

Blonde, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 35:47

You mean blonde, yeah. Crawford was so bleached blonde.

SPEAKER_00 35:51

Yeah, I thought my parents dyed it that color, but when I was like, no, it was that blonde. I was like, I guess it makes sense you don't dye baby's hair, but I don't know. Because they have this funny photo of me next to the bleach bottle with my hair because my hair was that bleached, so part of me maybe thought they actually bleached it.

unknown 36:04

No.

SPEAKER_00 36:05

But looking back, that probably would not be.

SPEAKER_01 36:06

I don't think your parents would actually be able to do that.

SPEAKER_00 36:08

I don't think that would be uh allowed.

SPEAKER_01 36:11

No, especially not with your parents.

SPEAKER_00 36:13

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 36:14

Those are predictions. And I don't know how I feel about giving birth to blonde, like a baby. I feel like baby's not gonna look like me. I think baby will look more like Crawford.

SPEAKER_00 36:23

Well, we'll see. We have no idea.

SPEAKER_01 36:24

At least at first, I think baby will look more like you, which I'm like, ugh, I can't believe I'm carrying you for for nine months and you don't get one trait from me. But also, it makes me really happy to know that like our baby looks like the person I love, you know? That's very good. Well, he's gonna our baby's gonna look like a person I love regardless because I love our baby, but like yourself.

SPEAKER_00 36:45

And no, okay. I'm joking.

SPEAKER_01 36:48

But uh and my and I do love myself. That's important, knowing that it looks like you, it'll be like staring at a reminder of the person I love the most.

SPEAKER_00 36:55

I love that. Yeah. Well, I hope the baby looks more like you, baby.

SPEAKER_01 36:58

Oh, thanks. But it probably won't.

SPEAKER_00 37:00

We'll see.

SPEAKER_01 37:01

We'll see. I guess that's what these are. These are predictions.

SPEAKER_00 37:04

Well, it's also been interesting to see, you know, with so many people we know having babies, how the babies at some moments can look more like one person, then they can kind of start to look more like the other parents.

SPEAKER_01 37:13

So that's exactly what happened with um Coast and Ro. I feel like to me, now Ro looks more like JC and he used to look like Chelsea. And with Coast, he completely looked like a mini version of Kean. And now, like, I'm starting to just see Ayla. Like they have the same eyes now. Oh my gosh.

SPEAKER_00 37:32

So you just never know.

SPEAKER_01 37:33

You just never know.

SPEAKER_00 37:34

We don't know until we know.

SPEAKER_01 37:35

We're gonna know soon.

SPEAKER_00 37:36

Very soon.

SPEAKER_01 37:37

And then we will confirm or deny our predictions. But thank you, Alyssa, for hosting that predictions game.

SPEAKER_00 37:44

I can we get a W Alyssa and chat you, Alyssa and chat in the comments. In the chat comments. Um, because yeah, Alyssa's always behind the camera helping us with the podcast producing it. So we finally had her had her on from the sky. So hi Alyssa. She's up there somewhere. We don't know. I've never actually met her. She's just up there. The voice just comes out of nowhere. But well, guys, basically what we learned from this episode is we obviously have a lot of assumptions, but we are not gonna know until we know. It's kind of you know what I've gotten from this conversation.

SPEAKER_01 38:16

Is that like I think you guys should let us know when you think baby is coming.

SPEAKER_00 38:20

True.

SPEAKER_01 38:20

You now know that our due date is technically the 23rd, but do you have a feeling that he's coming earlier, later?

SPEAKER_00 38:26

Let us know that.

SPEAKER_01 38:27

Is he gonna come on his due date?

SPEAKER_00 38:28

Yeah, I feel like it's so natural, you know, not to get too deep into what uh we'll finish up with this, but so I feel like it's so natural as a parent to want to know everything going into this. But you know, I also think there's a beauty in in that we're gonna get to find all those things out and experience them. And they might not be the way we thought they were gonna be, but they're gonna be great either way. Agreed. So uh thank you guys for watching. We'll see you guys on the next episode every single Wednesday.

SPEAKER_01 38:51

Bye, baby.

SPEAKER_00 38:51

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SPEAKER_01 38:58

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SPEAKER_00 39:02

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SPEAKER_01 39:08

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SPEAKER_00 39:09

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